Wishing for Death – Suicide Prevention Month

Yassir Fazaga


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AI: Summary © The Prophet sallavi alayhi wa sallam is the only one who can stop the evil influence of death. The Prophet's guidance is that death is the best option, and the importance of gratitude and happiness in life is discussed. The speaker discusses the negative impact of addiction and mental health on people's lives, and the difficulties of people who leave behind others and support their struggles. The importance of optimism and pessimism is also emphasized.
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the Most Merciful All praises due to Allah. We bear witness that no one is worthy of worship but Allah And we bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is indeed his final messenger. The best of speech is the book of Allah. The best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. May Allah Subhana Allah make us amongst those who listen to the best of speech, the book of Allah and follow its commandments. May Allah Subhana Allah make us amongst those who come to know the best of ways, the way of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and make us amongst his followers. Allahumma Amin Allahumma Amin Allahumma Amin. We'll know how you roll Hedy had you

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Mohamed Salah Hollywood,

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the best of guidance, the best of ways is the way of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam, undoubtedly, we're in Nicoletta de la serata Mustafi. Allah tells us in the Quran, the Prophet peace be upon him. Through his teachings. He indeed guides people to the straight path.

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Mahalia Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam upon and unasyn Radi Allahu Anhu call Allah Allah Yattaman Nana had

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the Encana Allah would differ LM Allah He Noma dimethyl, higher to Hiram Lana. What our fauna Madame Atilla to higher Alana, part of the guidance of the Prophet peace upon him is related to us by Anna Siboney Malik, who said that the Prophet peace be upon him taught us and he said to the believers to speak into the believers, he said, Let none of you wish for death upon them. Don't wish for death

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libo green, nessa only during Maccabi because of the difficulty, because of a calamity because of unease that they're going through, be fell upon him or her for Encana vulnerable.

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But if he has no alternative, meaning that things are just absolutely difficult for this individual, then let that individual say Allah Who mahine mirdamad will hire to hire li let that individual pray and say, Oh Allah extend in my life so long that living is good for me. I don't know. Allah knows what our funny, mirdamad will fight to hire only Allah take my life so long that death is what is best for me.

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Very important that we address this issue. Because this is the month of September, and the month of September is Suicide Prevention Month.

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This is an issue.

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And the tendency is that sometimes whenever we bring up these topics, you know, oh, this is really doom and gloom. This is really boring. Why do we have to talk about this especially on on a hot button and what have you but but listen to this 2020 45,000 Americans took away their own lives.

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That's about 123 people every single day. They take away their own lives.

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Suicide is the 12 leading cause of death in this country.

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Suicide is the 11th leading cause of death around the world.

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1.2 million people in 2020 attempted to take their own life away.

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That is about one every 14 minutes somebody takes away their own life

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or is serious man. That is serious. And I apologize. You know if

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Since this common chances are maybe some of us have had an experience with a loved one that either attempted or maybe even taken away their own lives. Apologize that in our this may be emotive, provokes emotions in people. Well, we can just ignore these issues.

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And I can tell you that Subhanallah no month no week goes by, without a Muslim community member reaching out, you know, from all over, asking, What do I do? Just found out that you know, a loved one did this. a loved one has attempted a loved one has been talking, loved one has been talking about it. I love the prayers of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam because on the one hand, the Prophet of Allah acknowledged that sometimes people feel so much burden that they don't even want to live.

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They don't want to live, what for?

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Nothing to look forward to can't really enjoy the presence. Why would I? So the Prophet of Allah said, lie a termination. How do Komal Mota leader rainwork Avi do not wish for death, because of a difficulty calamity that just happened to you?

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Meaning that some types of calamities happen to people, where some people truly genuinely believe that death is best for them? So the Prophet of Allah said, See, we don't know.

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We don't know. But if you must, if you you can't really wish for death, then what do you do say that submit to Allah subhanaw taala say Allah, I You are in charge of this Allah as long as living is good for me yet Allah extent in my life.

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Life if death is what is best for me, then you decide that for me, I am not going to do this for myself.

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Here's the other thing.

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80% of the people who took away their own life did so because of an either undiagnosed or an untreated mental disorder.

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Why would it go undiagnosed? Because the tendency is that we dismiss these things, all he or she just wants to get attention. Or he or she's just always been a loser. Common man turfed out, so we see things. We recognize things, but we dismiss them

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or seeking attention, or they're just too weak, or it's a phase that they're going through, and we become dismissive of people's pain. That is not prophetic. That is not the guidance of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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That is not what he did. And he didn't say, How dare you wish death upon you. Because sometimes some people go through some difficulties in their lives.

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And the most common, untreated or undiagnosed mental disorder is depression.

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And as a result, please remember that there are two types of depression. There is depression that is natural, that is just part of being human. Ask somebody that is just being diagnosed with a serious illness, that depressed, maybe a loved one has been diagnosed with a serious illness. Ask somebody that just lost a child. Ask somebody who has gone through divorce, ask somebody that just lost their job. Ask somebody that just got fired. Ask somebody who did not go to the school that they wanted to go to ask somebody that failed an exam. So naturally, when we go through these things, you know, people become depressed.

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And that is fine. That is just part of being human. We don't guilt people for that. We don't make people feel weak or bad for that. We don't make people feel less than Muslims because of that. Because remember this sometimes what helps in the spread of this is misconceptions, myths that people just repeat, good Muslims don't get depressed. That's not true.

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You can be a very good Muslim, a very practicing Muslim man woman, and yet be depressed. Because it's very common that people can be tender in their heart, yet troubled in their mind.

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That's a possibility.

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And the idea of you are depressed because you're not a good Muslim that is just blamed the victim theology and we do not subscribe to this.

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But what people are finding concerning nowadays is

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people who are depressed despite the fact that their lives are God.

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Their lives are good.

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On the outside, this individual should not

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I'd be depressed.

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Parents would be concerned. My son, my daughter told me that they're depressed.

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They're not working. They live good. We don't mistreat them. They're healthy. We don't have any difficulties. Wife and I husband and I get along very well. I just don't understand. Why is my child depressed?

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brother who's got a good job? Very successful in what they do. Beautiful family, feeling depressed? Why? Sister? Married? Well, not married, well, single or married. Life is doing well. It's got a good family, good social support system, good career, feeling depressed? And the question is, why are people who otherwise their lives are doing so great. They are feeling depressed.

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They say that this is what's mind boggling at this point. natural causes, leading people to feel depressed, that's understandable, young death, some kind of a loss, some kind of failure, that is natural. But the question is, Why are these people who otherwise are doing well? Why are they feeling the way that they do?

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Some people say we shouldn't really call this depression. Maybe a better word would be desolation. It is a mixture of many things. Some people refer to it as the empty success syndrome. You're doing very well. People see that you're doing well. People are even so envious. They admire what you have achieved. But people are going through the empty success syndrome. People can see my success, but I can't see my own success.

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And some people say, sometimes that is problematic because we have lost the ability of all the Habana

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is God and Nam la mia which anemone Shaqiri.

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So sometimes, what happens is, if we were to speak about this, theologically, and not clinically say that sometimes we have really forgotten the ability to remember how blessed we are.

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We have forgotten the ability to remember how blessed we are.

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Remember, if you're feeling depressed, and maybe you are this person who's your life, you know otherwise is doing beautiful Wallahi The point is not to make you feel guilty.

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Because part of feeling depressed. One of the symptoms of depression is people feeling guilty. So this is not to make people feel guilty. But this is just a reminder, we have lost the ability to remember how blessed we are.

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And the more we remember of these blessings, especially the little once say that Subhan Allah life becomes enjoyable when people are constantly in the state of gratitude. Believe I've shared this with you before. In psychology, we are taught that the shortest distance between any human being and happiness is gratitude.

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When I score for in AMA, yes, Coralina FSI and whosoever is grateful they do so for their own good. Allah tells us and those who are grateful, you know, sometimes you see people who enjoy little things in life. And it's beautiful, man. It's beautiful. See this people you know, they take a sip of coffee and diversity.

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out sweet, good coffee. And you know, we look at them say that is silly. But you know, the reality of it is, this is very prophetic. This is very prophetic. People who take a bite.

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This good, this is really good. You look at them and say, what is the silliness? That is actually very prophetic. You're calling wo sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in nulla. lair. The annual Abdi is the actual act letter. I will share the best share the better. And the murderer who alayhi salam ala Rasulillah. So the Prophet of Allah said, Indeed, Allah is pleased with a servant. When he or she a take a bite. They take a sip, and they're grateful for that.

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It becomes a way to live when you hug

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Not the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would go to bed and just the way that he would celebrate His blessings Alhamdulillah the AMA now was on our one All Praise be to Allah for the one who has given us food for the one who has given us something to drink for the one who has given us a bit. What are you doing, celebrating these things in life, remembering it, expressing gratitude for it, because the more gratitude we express Wallahi the more satisfying life becomes.

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The more we remember how blessed we are, the more satisfying pleasurable life becomes your calling wo Salalah Hollywood, Shiva Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam on min Marathi, a tower of Allah Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and yet in the beasts Allahu alayhi wa sallam say that one way of learning about the Prophet of Allah is listening to what is it that the Prophet of Allah has prayed for? Because he sometimes what we pray for, say so much about us.

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You know, what we pray for? says Allah about us. So in one of these places, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would say, Allah Muhammad Ali Hyah, does he attend Luna fee? khalifate

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which led motera Hatton Lenna. Milk militia, yeah, Allah make life, my life that is prone to the doing of all kinds of goods,

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of all kinds of goods. What do you mean? See, again, in psychology, remember when we say that the the, the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, for for us Muslims are enough. So when I say in psychology, I'm not attempting to validate what the Prophet of Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam says, that is not that is not the point. So what is it say that psychology they teach, if you want to feel better, if you want to feel happy to make somebody else feel better, or make somebody else be happy, that will increase your own sense of joy and your own sense of happiness. Not only have we forgotten how blessed we are, but also this ethics of sharing with those who are less

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fortunate than we are, he's also not there as much.

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When finally, there is this idea of people losing or not having a sense of purpose or direction,

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decent decently, Labor Day weekend, during one of the conferences, a young Muslim boy, 13 years old, took away his own life, by means of jumping

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during the conference during the Islamic Conference,

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and he left a note written by a 13 year old kid, indicating that he doesn't even know why he is living

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at 13. Now, this is the time that people are supposed to be having fun, this is the time that people are supposed to be enjoying life and say, as young as this age, people are sensing that, you know, my life is empty, there is nothing going on in it for me.

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Because now we have this notion again, that's just part of the myth. Now what poor people do it you know what uneducated people do it people who are not successful dude, and then the more you read, why would the CEO of Bed Bath and Beyond? Why would he commit suicide as a big company that has a lot of success? Why would somebody in his position, why would they do that?

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Somebody is very famous, successful, rich, why? Because again, we have this misconception that you know,

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people from certain religious background people who are practicing people who are poor, it does not it does not work this way. Please remember the following.

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Suicide is a

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permanent solution for a temporary problem.

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It is a permanent solution for a temporary problem.

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And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, don't wish for death, but rather as long as you living make your life prone to the doing of all kinds of, of good deeds. Please remember in our deen suicide is haram. We Muslims, we are not allowed to take away our own lives. That is not befitting to a Muslim. Number three

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Part of the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that a believer by virtue of being a believer or follower Muhammad of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam you've got to be an optimist. That is just part of our deen. Optimism is part of the deen the whole interview. sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, alpha professional Hello, worship Musou will hold. The Prophet of Allah said that being an optimist is good character.

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People who are optimists, they're pleasant people. They're nice to be around. They can always see the silver lining. They're always able to speak positive. It's not because they're too blind to see the difficulties, but it's all about where do you wish to focus? So part of our deen is this idea of being an optimist. So the Prophet Allah said, being an optimist is good character. Being a pessimist is bad character. Well show. So we'll hold

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people who do that. Now, again, the point is not to be blind or pretend to be blind to the difficulties. No.

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It's not about preventing us from feeling faint. No, feel the pain, do not just be paralyzed.

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So great to be depressed, it's okay to go into despair. It's okay to feel pain, but not to the point that you're paralyzed and you're functioning is not is not happening.

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Last point as to why we are doing this finds out that again, 80% of the people who take or attempt to take away their own life, 80% of them, that's eight out of every 10 they usually reach out to somebody to almost say I want somebody to talk me out of this. And that's why I'm acknowledging this, talking about it, chances are and may never happen to us Europa alameen and maybe you do receive that phone call, maybe you do have that conversation, maybe this happens. Now you know what we inshallah are better prepared to at least engage in this in this conversation. Important part is when people do reach out to us or this, please validate the difficulty that these people are going

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through, please do not make them feel guilty. The idea is not to put pressure on them. But to be supportive of the protective factors that are pointed out is people who belong to healthy families who belong to a community is that works as a protective factor. May Allah Subhana Allah protect our children. May Allah Subhana Allah protect our families or build a pool of holy hard or soft Allah Hello, welcome First of all in the whole of writing.

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hamdu Lillahi wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Mustafa, Allah and the authority hooked up not to be the bearer of bad news, but I think it makes sense. With our visiting guests here today. We have Dr. Ahmed visiting us from Mercy without borders. A an institute that helps orphans in places like Yemen, and Syria. Just before I came here, I was reading about how difficult it has gotten to some of these people that they attempt from the shores of Africa to cross the Mediterranean and make it to Europe. And today, just before I came here, 73 of these migrants they drowned to death, a big number of them are Syrians who could no longer live in that part of the world. You know, when life

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is so difficult that people are willing to take that type of a risk, even if it means that they die at that is some difficulty that they must have been going through the last hunt Allah bless their souls Europa Alameen melas pantalla ease their difficulty sharpell Alamy so insha Allah please on your way out, do stop by learn about what they do. And their mission is to sponsor as many orphans as possible. If any of us or our loved ones are going through difficult times may Allah subhanaw taala ease our pain. If any of us or our loved ones are not feeling well may Allah Subhana Allah grant us a speedy and full recovery. If any of our other loved ones have lost the way may Allah

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