What does it mean to be Together

Yassir Fazaga


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AI: Summary © The video discusses the concept of "by the way" in the Bible and its connection to emotions and relationships. The importance of hstery in family relationships is emphasized, along with the negative impact of hstery on family members. The speaker also touches on the importance of sharing success in one's family and creating joyful moments.
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closing below him in a shaytani R rajim Bismillah Al Rahman Al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Ashraf al Anbiya. It will authorial mursaleen Shaffir al Muthanna. Vino Habib Europol al Amin, Muhammad in Salawat Robbie Allahu Allah early he upper up in October hearin Walla Manitoba home, Western Illa Yomi Dean

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and my bad finance Doctor Hadith Vicky tabula. Well Hiral howdy. How do you Mohammed in sallallahu alayhi wa salam, in the name of Allah, the question of the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah. We bear witness that no one is worthy of worship but Allah And we bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is indeed his final messenger.

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Best of speech is a book of Allah. The best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. May Allah Subhana Allah make us amongst those who listen to the best of speech, the book of Allah and follow its commandments. May Allah Subhana Allah make us amongst those who come to know the best of ways, the way of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam and make us amongst his followers Allahumma Amin Allahumma Amin Allahumma Amin

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who Allah Jalla wa Ala what is a husband AMITA Kobani is ra Illa Allah taboo lamella or Bill Wiley Dania son and was your orba will your time I will Misaki.

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In this verse, Allah subhanho wa Taala reminds us of a covenant that Allah has taken with the Israelites, the followers of Musa alayhis salam or Beloved Prophet Moses.

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And in it Allah said that we have taken this covenant with the Israelites that they worship none but Allah. And then immediately Allah Subhana Allah says afterwards, that they be dutiful to their parents, that they take care of their kinship, that they become socially responsible by talking about the orphans, and those who are in need. And then Allah Subhana Allah speaks about the common Salah and then dies, then Allah speaks about the importance of establishing regular prayers. This nice if you pay attention to the to the progress that is made in the verse, Allah said, our first duty and responsibility is that we ascertain the Oneness of Allah subhanaw taala, worship none but

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Allah. And then immediately the verses speaks about family ties, be good to your parents, pay attention to your relatives, extended closed ones. And then the Quran says speak on behalf of those who are orphans and do something for those who are less fortunate than than you are.

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In sociology, you know, we're talking about Thanksgiving here, we're talking about Thanksgiving as an event. We're not discussing the halal and haram and that's not what we're discussing. But in sociology, they say that sometimes sociologists, they study a certain event or celebration in order to understand what is important to the culture.

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And there is something unique about Thanksgiving. And again, please remember, we're not talking about the history we're not, that's not what we're talking about, we're talking about specifically the event and the social impact of that event.

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This is the event when and where most families get together

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and you know, that we humans are absolutely social beings. In fact, in psychology, It is theorized that we are it is innately built in us that we are social beings, we cannot be on on our own.

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Not only that, but they say that in these celebrations. What is really implied is this. Your existence is important to me. And I value our relationships. You know, people come together, parents and children, they come together and they eat together. Listen, our children could have eaten on their own, meaning the older ones, our parents are able to take care of their own. But there is something about this idea of we coming together and then enjoying a meal together. There is something about togetherness. And that is why in the Quran when Allah subhanaw taala speaks about paradise. The Quran speaks about the joy of paradise and please remember we said that the most

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common the most repeated description of paradise in the Quran is

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The state of emotional soundness psychological well being la hoffen, Allahu Allah homea has unknown people in paradise shall experience no fear and they shall experience no regret, you really get to enjoy the moment because in this life we are either too sad about what went wrong yesterday, we are too worried about what might go wrong tomorrow, we become either prisoners of our memories or we become captives of our imaginations, and we miss out to live today. So Allah said, first thing, that experience in paradise, that you are going to be in this state of emotional, psychological, well being may we all and our loved ones taste this Yara, Pillai lemon.

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And then the Quran speaks about something else that makes paradise beautiful.

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And that is actually presented in a form of a do our prayers that the angels make. Allah Subhana Allah tells us that angels actually pray for good people. And part of the prayers that the angels extend to good people is Robina what really whom Jana can add Nene Lottie we're at the home and our Lord we pray and we beg of you that you admit these righteous servants of Yours into the gardens of Blessed which you have promised. Robbing our generosity Adnani let the home garden woman Saleh Amin Abba you him was word you him was already Yatim Allahu Allah.

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They pray and they say Allah admit these righteous believers into the gardens of bliss that you have promised them and along with them, or Allah admit their parents admit their spouses, and admit their offsprings.

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What makes paradise beautiful,

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is that a family reunion takes place. May Allah reunite us with our loved ones in paradise Europa Island mean, like, just think about this, like part of what makes paradise beautiful, is that we get to enjoy the company of our family members in the hereafter as well. That makes paradise a special place. But see, the Quran is telling us like what is important to us. And that is we want to be in the company of the people that we supposedly care for, and love and want to be and want to be with. So Allah subhanaw taala said, part of the reward that you get in the hereafter is that you will enjoy their company, you will enjoy their company as well.

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There was a research that was conducted. Why are some people happy, and others are not happy. And they look into this research. And they're studying this aspect and this aspect and these factors and maybe this environment. But then they came back and they said there was something common amongst all the people who said that they experienced happiness. They say that the single most important predictor of happiness is

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good relationships.

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They said, the most important predictor of happiness is not the profit that you're in, not the money that you make, not how high you are on your brand. Is it the most important predictor, whether people are going to be happy or not? is are they going through? Do they have good, healthy social relationships?

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And I know that too many of us don't, we may not be celebrating Thanksgiving.

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But people take advantage of the fact that people are there is no school, most people are not working. So what is it? Do? We want to have a family gathering? We want to be together. Today inshallah I'm just going to discuss, what does it mean to be together? What is that mean? Is it about just sharing the same physical building that's together? That is part of togetherness, but many times people can be physically together, but they live separate lives. That's not the kind of togetherness that we're talking about. Physical togetherness is only the beginning, potentially from Iran, something good may happen. So what are we what are we looking for? Say that there is going to

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be and these are just prophetic tips of what would make our togetherness, a good togetherness. You know, it's not the type of togetherness people are just waiting for it to be over so they can just go

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back. That's not togetherness, man, that's just misery forced upon us. So they say that the most important part of togetherness is

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emotion, togetherness,

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people being attuned to how different family members are feeling, and how they are doing emotional togetherness. You may not say it, but I feel it. You know, when parents come and say, Jeff, I need to talk to you about my son, I bought my child, but my husband about my, my wife, my daughter's what's going on said, I am sensing something going on with them.

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That will lie that brings joy to my heart.

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Not that I am celebrating whatever it is, but the idea that there is somebody paying attention, and they are in tune to what and how other family members are feeling. Somebody comes and says, I know something is going on. And I'm just trying to see what would be the best way to approach this. My wife, my husband, they haven't been the same lately. My child has not been the same lately. I'm just wondering, how do i That's nice, man. When people are emotionally attune to what is going on. It pains people to say, I've been going through so much. And none of my family members care. Nobody asks, I can be dying. I'm going through this and that and just people don't care. And people don't

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ask, what is the use of me being in a family when people don't even care? You know, wonder Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was once talking to Asia. And he said his wife and he said, you know, he said, I can tell how you're feeling about me. It's like, you know that, you know, a wife would say you actually pay attention to these things. You know, that said yell said I can tell

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Mohammed will either continue,

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Brahim, I can tell, he said, whenever you talk him, and you want to bring up the name of the Lord and you want to, you know, you want to swear by the name of Allah Subhana. Allah, what do you say you say, by the Lord of Muhammad, you use my name. But when you're when you're not feeling me, and you speak and you say, what a bit of Rahim by the Lord of Ibrahim alayhis salam. And at that point, she does not deny, what does she do? She starts laughing at ya rasool Allah in

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a hydra is smack said prophet of Allah, it is only your name that I drop. But it does not go. It does not go beyond that. But do you see the beauty in this? That somebody is actually attuned? They know how other people are. They know how other people are feeling. But as Hala some of the most beautiful, important questions that we can ask of our family members is how are you doing?

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Please do not undermine the importance of these questions. So one is what we call the physical togetherness, then the emotional

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togetherness. And then there is also togetherness that is created to make the family gathering a joyful moment. Why did they ask 25,000 kids? You know, the beautiful study that was done. They asked the kids and they said, if there is one thing that your parents could have done,

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and things would have been better? What would it be? They asked the same questions to the parents and they asked the parents, what do you think your kids are going to say? So the parents being very confident of ourselves. Most responded by saying I know, my kids would have said that they wish that we had spent more time with them.

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That's not the answer that the kids gave.

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The kids came back and they said, We wish that when our parents were with us,

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were less anxious. And they were less tired.

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That we that when our parents were

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we wish that they were less anxious, and they were less tired. See when you're anxious when you're feeling stressed. Number one, you are not pleasant to be around.

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You have very little tolerance for arrogance. Because something else is in your mind. You are not a good listener. When you are in that state. You're just mentally occupied. You're very short. You're not patient. You're not pleasant to be around but also you are not ready to be

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be communicative, can't really talk to you. And the same thing happens when you're tired. You just your attention span is just I'm exhausted. I am just like, I'm not feeling it right now. Can we do this some other time. So these kids, they came back and they said, We wish that our parents were less anxious, and that they were less tired. One mother beautifully said. She said, a good mother is the one that has sticky floors.

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Kitchen that's not tidy

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piles of laundry,

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and lots of laughter at home.

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Men she follows and she said, there will be enough time for cleaning. See, if you're just as stressed all the time about this is a mess. And this needs to be tidy and this needs to be cleaned. And this needs to be look you can get that but the question is, at what expense?

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at what expense are we doing this? So they say that part of togetherness is actually to make sure that this time of togetherness, there is joy. In this togetherness. There is joy in the togetherness.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us now this incident people say that Prophet peace be upon him was part of a caravan. And then he tells the people to the caravan just to move on. They need to chill with my wife here a bit. And what does he do? So Allahu alayhi wa sallam says, Let's race pulses jilbab let's raise you serious? Yeah, I'm gonna race with my wife. We'll go this is the prophet of Allah said, Let's race. Let the people go. We're just, we're just going to be racing back here. And they start racing. It didn't happen once but they say that it actually happened more than once. In one time. He said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam did outrun his wife and the

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other time he said that his wife outran him and in this there is this type of togetherness that is taking place. And that is this notion of this notion of joy. See the deen of Allah Subhana Allah is so beautiful. And you love how the Quran speaks to parents. They take care of your kids, especially in the society that we're in. In the time of light of the time that we are living in our we need to pay a lot of attention to our kids Melis Had Allah protect them all European Parliament, may Allah protect our children Yarbro Allah mean, so I say be dutiful to your pet to your kids.

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But then also the Quran speaks to the kids, and says, be dutiful, to your parents. All society Unfortunately, nowadays, doesn't really have much respect for the parents. We really don't. Rarely do we speak about the rights of the parents man. Best respected, out worked, underpaid, exhausted, mothers and fathers. And they tell him that I just do not feel appreciated. No matter what I do to my kids, there is just no appreciation. I am always coming short. I'm always accused this and accused of dad. And I'm always reminded that I have failed as a parent. Because they're always on my case, talking about how unfair how unprepared how he that's not good, man.

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That's not good. Well, are you happy to see my younger brothers and sisters here. Part of being a good Muslim is to be good to your parents.

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Even in the way that we speak to our parents.

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Sometimes you just witness a conversation that takes place between a child and you can even tell who the parent is and who the child is. Because of the way that this has taken place. And the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked about like, the most serious of sins. And then he said, a shield could be law. associate others with Allah subhanho wa taala. And then he said, Well, validate

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and not to honor your parents, immediately after be dutiful to Allah is Be good to your parents. Then immediately after associating others with Allah is being disrespectful to your parents.

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So now what happens is as parents, we do our job

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as guests, we also have a responsibility. The end result is hopefully insha Allah Allah, Allah mean happy families. May Allah keep our families happy. May Allah keep us strong melas hunt Allah keep us together. Have you heard about stuff here? Allah Allah Allah confessor, Pharaoh who in the whole of

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All right.

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hamdu Lillahi wa

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Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Hill Mustafa

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wylam and the earth are Hepta

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say that the most important building block of any society is the family. In every culture, what determines how good a society is, is how good the family is and how much importance we give into building, building our families. Please remember, for us parents, that the most important job that we have

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is what we do.

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When we go home,

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that is the most important job that we have. appreciate all the hard work that the parents are doing well Allahu

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Masha Allah Who Tabarrok Allah, father's work hard. Mothers who work hard melas hunt Allah bless your efforts. It's a lot of work that is required of us and may all your efforts be fruitful, Europa, alanine, you also want to appreciate the challenges that our kids are facing. Melis hunt Allah ease it for them, Europa aalameen. Again, it's a lot of pressure that they're going through, but together, we have a better chance.

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And in that togetherness, we want to make sure that we're not only physically together, where

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together we have joyful togetherness as well. There are intellectual growth, togetherness, there is social growth, togetherness, people volunteering together and doing different activities together. And inshallah this is what we hope to be doing here. In, in the in the masjid, speaking of which Inshallah, please tomorrow we do play soccer, join us with your family come and take a walk, you know, just get to know different members of the of the community. And they say that Subhan Allah families who actually do well, they say that one another predictor is a family that is a part of a larger community tends to be happier, more stable, and also tend to be together more than more than

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If you have received family members who flew or drove from out of town, and this is their first time here in our masjid, we welcome you to our masjid. And we hope to see you again and again. And when you fly back or you drive back, may Allah subhanaw taala grant your safe trip Europa, Al Amin, and in the Hadith the Prophet peace be upon him taught us that those who visit one another for his sake, those who spend on one another for his sake, Allah subhanaw taala said that it is incumbent upon him that he loves them. May we all be loved by Allah? May we all be of those who love Allah? If any of us or our loved ones are not doing well? May Allah grant us a speedy recovery. If any of us or our

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loved ones are going through difficult times may Allah subhanaw taala ease our pain. If any of our loved ones have passed away May Allah Subhana Allah bless their souls Robina attina for dunya Hasina. Well Phil Herati has no work cleaner either but not about Allah in the lahat mobile annual accelerator it will CORBA when handling fascia it will make it all better you're ever looking to the karoun first kulula has got commercial Ruhollah and I'm here as it come whether they can Allahu Akbar, Allahu Allah Mamata SmartOne immediately after the Salah, we do have a brother who will be taking the Shahada. So please do stay around for just a minute or so. Inshallah afterwards we

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welcome him to our community. Welcome solid