Accept People As They Are

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Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Ashraf al Anbiya it will occur in more saline Shaffir and Mosley vino Habib Euro bill al Amin, Muhammad and Salawat Robbie was Allahu Allahu Allah al he also had been hit by up in a bar hearing in Al Hamdulillah Muhammad who wanna start you know who want to start if you're gonna study we're not only we love him into rotary unforseen I will say, Dr. Molina, Maria de la HuFa la medulla LA. Mama yodeling Fela ha de Allahu Allah ilaha illallah hula hula hula Shadi, Carla. One no Mohammed and sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Abdullah who are also a MOBA for in the US. doccle Hadith Akita Ebola wa Hiral Howdy, how do you Mohamed Salah Allahu alayhi

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wa sallam.

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In the Name of Allah, the Compassionate, the Most Merciful All praise is due to Allah. We bear witness that no one is worthy of worship but Allah And we bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is indeed his final messenger. The best of speech is a book of Allah. The best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. May Allah subhanaw taala make us amongst those who listen to the best of speech, the book of Allah and follow its commandments. And may Allah Subhana Allah make us amongst those who come to know the best of ways the way of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and make us amongst his followers. Allah whom I mean Allahumma Amin

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Allahumma mean, Ababa Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam ala Ali build a Yom Tov see Luna and Jazz at a moto wala HTML Rafi had keffi Runa oh sorry, him. In few days, the opportunity is going to lend itself because of the holidays, that many people are going to come together with their families. May Allah subhanaw taala keep our families together Europa aalameen And may that every time we come we come to enjoy the company of one another era per alanine

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However also because the fact that we social beings and too much interaction can also lead to friction and friction can also potentially lead to tension.

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Hotel insomnia, Jenna, have you thought? Your article Quran bcls Mahabharat welcome Nadia Hyatt Marriott Kunal of Morocco.

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And therefore the Quran gives us three social skills that if we were to apply, it would make our social lives much better.

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Karla Rabona Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam woman call people in Omata Minghella in Abuja, Hassan Allahu alayhi wa sallam

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who was in alpha, what more will Rofi will anugerah healing

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these three skills that the Quran wants us to imbibe was a command that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam received and through the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speaks to us Allah speaks to us. So Allah says initially holding Alpha

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accept what comes from people naturally

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command that which is good we're I ninja Healy and avoid or turn away from foolishness. God wholesale

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so the Quran begins by this commandment said that what would make your life easy? Who awful, awful.

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Awful quarter, warhead insane after we get a collaborator can love. It said there are two ways of translating this.

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Accept that which comes from people naturally.

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Meaning what do not force people to fake something that they are not in order to accommodate you.

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It is beautiful. When Allah addresses the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam do not burden people that around you, they have to put an act that they have to put a facade in order to satisfy you, in order to keep you quiet in order to avoid problems with you in order to avoid tension from you. Is it no no no, no. Hold the left will

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accept people as they are what comes naturally from them. accommodate what is forthcoming from man's nature.

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do that.

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Get him into

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Allah Allah Allah, Allah. Allah Allah me. You know what was said one of the DUA one of the prayers that we make is oh Allah do not make me a source of pain to anyone Europa, Allah mean, we don't want to be a source of pain to people. And sometimes unbeknownst to us, we end up becoming a source of pain

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in LME, ahead in insane moose lick,

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sir Mr. Halleck, you become a person that dealing with you just becomes taxing, it becomes a burden. People literally have to act in your presence. So Allah said, Hold the Laffel Do not be a source of pain to people to give.

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You can insert an LM letterhead on oversized cathedral, there are many ways that we can become exhausting. And there are many ways that we can become a source of pain to others.

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constant criticism always because it isn't your God always pointing this out and pointing that out. Eventually what happens is people will not like our company. People will not believe that our company is a source, you know, we're not we're not pleasant. So Allah Subhana Allah said, holding

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you know, Subhan Allah, they say this idea of accept people as they are meaning that accept the fact that people are different from you. They have the right to have their own beliefs, their own thoughts, their own uniqueness, they behave in their own way. Jose Laffel. A prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was commanded be the type of person where around you people are at absolute ease, you know when we don't have to fake it in the presence of others, or that just makes that company a pleasant company. I don't need to put an act. So even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam will not require special accommodations because he is Mohamed Salah Ali who is one time they say that the

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Prophet of Allah and his companions without an A germy fellow Maria Mr Adel on him and Ali as a pusher Carla Anna ala ESL Hola. Hola yo top Hola. Allah and Allah Taksim, Allah him for Colin W's Allahu alayhi wa sallam. He modeled how top. So the Prophet of Allah one time going with his companions and it was time to eat. There was a, you know, a journey outside of Medina outside of the city. So somebody volunteers and says, I will slaughter the animal. Somebody said I will skin it. Somebody said I'll cut the meat. Somebody said I will cook somebody said I will clean. And then to the surprise of everybody. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I will go and I will pick the

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wood to make the fire.

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I will pick the word to make the fire I might have given this example before. In whenever we eat food, we praise the person who cooked it. We praise the portion we praise it was cut the right way. But nobody ever complements us and says you have a nice oven. Nobody says that. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam picked the idea of I shall bring the wood, something that nobody else would remember. Or other people say he chose the most difficult thing you're out in the desert. You're not trying to find wood to burn that is a task in issue. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not mind. He saw himself as one of the people and people did not need to put an act in

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their presence.

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military coup Mohamed, you know better one would come to Medina and he would come inside the masjid and he would look around and he would address the people and say, which one of us Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because I cannot distinguish him from his people what happened? How they laugh, who they laugh, be that person. That is not what we call high maintenance individual, where people are constantly afraid of offending you. People are constantly trying to avoid you. People are constantly trying to keep a distance from you. Rather, Allah said, if you want to socially succeed, if you want your social interactions to be a source of pleasantness to those

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around you, what do you do, wholesale? Who will

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accept that which comes from people, naturally, people feel at ease in your presence. But see, not every behavior that is around us isn't necessarily an acceptable behavior. It may not be a good behavior, especially if it comes from loved ones people that we cared for spouses, children, family

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Members, you just don't say, you know, accept people unconditionally accept everything that people do accept it. No, no. So the Quran says, All that is what you do, as long as what people are doing is not a violation. Hold the level, put people at ease.

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But then you also need to do something else. We're more willing

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and command that which is God. Allah will who were called Lotus of roofing, let me highly fish. The Cabella will not lie knifes or marble off.

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At that point, Allah Subhana Allah commands the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and through him, Allah commands us, what do you do? What more will

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What do you do said, command that which is that which is my roof, or this is what we call, you know, universal accepted morality, something that is not against the Sharia. Something that is accepted by the intelligence and something that also is appealing to our hearts command of that.

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Don't just be silent for the sake of oh, I accept people as they are, that is foolishness. Absolute acceptance of people as they are, that is foolishness. Not only foolishness, but that is also a betrayal for those who are around us, because we have a duty with our friends, without family members. We want to accept people as they are, it doesn't mean that we don't expect growth. It doesn't mean that we don't accept appropriate behavior. So what do you do? What more we'll see. But see, even when the Quran makes the appeal, the Quran is very tender. The Quran is very soft. The Quran is very nice command of this, so that people would actually listen to what you have to say.

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See, it's almost like you really have to do the first one. If you want people to listen to you in the second one, holding the F word. You know, my father is a man of few words. My mother is a woman of few words, my husband, my wife. So what happens and the people a few words, they speak nicely? And seldomly. Do they want to correct or do they want to be critical of others? What happens? Most of the time they're practicing, how they laugh, accommodate people accept what naturally comes off an individual so that they are themselves, but every now and then we need to be corrected. So what do you do? What more will

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want to hear IG ma Lima Gary mill.

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They say that this verse in the Quran is the most comprehensive verse, when it comes to this idea of noble traits or noble characters. This is what Believers do. Because they remember that there are three things into us this idea of of character, there is our reputation. And our reputation is what people think of us. And then there is our personality. And that is what we pretend to be. And then there is our character. And this is who we really are. And that's why they say people's character is revealed in what they do, or not where they sit in the masjid on Fridays.

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That's really, really beautiful. people's character is revealed in their actions and what they do not in where they sit in the masjid, on Fridays, that is only one event that is not reflective of our character, but our character is what else do we do besides where we sit in the masjid on Fridays. So what happens now it says, One more will,

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then that when you speak, you speak in such a way that people really want to listen to and I say this, especially if we are about to command somebody that is religious, you cannot be rude in the way that we invite people to Allah subhanho wa Taala we cannot be rude in the way that we invite people to become like Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you can't do that. So, what happens is what more we will have command of that which is good.

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But then people may not respond to this.

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People may not respond to this. So what do you do? What how did the INFJ healing and perhaps chances are, you shall be tested by foolishness. So what does Allah Subhana Allah say, says avoid? Stay away? Keep away from it.

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Those who are foolish. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would wake up in the morning and when he is about to leave his house, because remember that every time we leave our house, that is an intention that we are going to deal with humanity. And he would make four different prayers. And one of the prayers that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam would make is that he would say, what are all the beacons in an edge Hala are huge Allah, Allah, or Allah, I seek refuge in you, that I be of those who act foolishly, or I have people act foolishly towards towards me. And sometimes Allah will test us by this foolishness and sha Allah. We're not that foolishness Europa island. So what do you

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do? Stay away from it. Man Tara FML Yoruba, as the Kabbalah handle, Mr. Windermere telephone filmhub Him are all eligible as a rock. Never call Anna. And

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then they have these stories a bit childish, but there is some moral element to be taught in it. Say that in the jungle, the tiger and the and the donkey had a disagreement. The donkey points out to the grass and said beautiful blue grass. So the tiger said the grass is not blue. The grass is green, and the donkey insisted that the grass is blue. And the tiger insisted that the grass is green Telephone Telephone Gala. Shala Illa Malika Baba and the disagreement they said, you know, we need to go to the king to settle this between us. They both come to the lion, the king of the jungle and they present their case. Now oral acid Elon rush will call us as rock.

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The lion looked at the grass, and he confirmed what the donkey said he said the grass is blue.

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And as a punishment, hook him I'll never know just

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as a punishment that tiger said the Lion said that the tiger must be quiet for the next three days. So the donkey girl Hey, Mr. Raja Kamala is a habit Illa your posts where you want me and ask me a number and ask me in a number. Don't leave the scene, dancing and singing that I am smarter than the Tiger. Tiger now has free time was the lion and he said Your Majesty, he said, you know it. I note the grass is green. Yet I am the one being punished. And the tiger looked at him or the lion looked at him and said, I am not punishing you for saying that the grass is green. I am punishing you because you chose to get into a disagreement with a dunk so that's what you're being punished for.

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That is the punishment that you chose to disagree with a jackass said what are you thinking? What are you thinking? With a donkey? Say Allah Subhana Allah said

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you've got to practice this idea are added and in generally, stay away from foolishness. Jafra saw the Claudia Lucha Underground, a hulu.com. Batali said maintain your status. Maintain who you are. Maintain the caliber of a person that you are. Maintain your dignity maintain your honor, by overlooking because sometimes when you engage like this, that you make a fool of yourself. So what does Allah say?

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journaling. H Jahad in Arabi does not necessarily mean that somebody who's completely does not know these people, you know, you give them you, you are kind to them. All Elijah Hill, who Wallasey yet also craft DeFay life in Ireland. It says truly foolishness is when people behave contrary to what they know. They know that these are people who choose to be deaf and blind towards moral values so that they don't know it. They know it, but that's what they choose to do. So what do you do?

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What do you do? You don't engage? What do you do smart thing would be, stay away, stay away. And at that point, and you are on your way to be a socially intelligent individual, what happened? applying the principles of the Quran, holding alpha, accept people as they are and people find it easy to be in your presence, like they were with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam I didn't hurt him authority is an extremely important individual who decides to visit Medina and he is coming and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is meeting this delegation in the outskirts of Medina. And as they are walking

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Again, he says that this young girl, comes, grabs the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam in the midst of delegation, grabs him by the hand pulls him to the side, holding his hands and she's talking, and the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam is nodding. And the girl is talking and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is not in the bin Hatem is looking at this. Does she not know how important this delegation is? Does she not know who I am and what I represent and what this can mean to Islam, and to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but see that girl know Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam well enough that the Prophet of Allah is okay with this.

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He would be okay with this. And that's why she just said, I need to talk to you. And she pulls him away. What happened? She's been used to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam practicing wholesale and wholesale alpha. The more we do this, my brothers and sisters, the more pleasant we become. People enjoy our company. I don't need to fake it. I don't need to put a facade I don't need to put an act because I know more I can lift the other insert ah, coffee. Later you can live Hooni mela la Yeah. And he put the in the

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behind happy but we're in South Bay to shadow him okay. Well, who is a Merola Muroc Illa Tucker Lofa for that who I like to Kerala hit so far. He said that if people are constantly disappointed by Imam Shafi, if people are constantly putting an act for your sake is that this is not a friendship that is worth keeping. May Allah Subhana Allah increases in understanding may Allah Subhana Allah make all of our relationships successful, happy relationships are built. Alameen Apolo only hide our stuff for Allah Allah we're looking first of all in the whole of Orion.

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Hamdu lillahi Wa Kafa wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Mustafa Allah and then be early October, our doula mountain zealot held the hill Nabil salah, ha alayhi wa sallam Luigi BReel Maha Gibreel they say that in some of the generations when these verses were revealed to the Prophet of Allah, the Prophet of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked Gibreel Alayhis Salam, what is this? And Jibreel Ali Salam said la Harlem had. He said, I don't know I need to ask. Allah bow asked inquired of his Lord, and he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he said, and DAF were among salah, MK one Pasila Minh autofac And then he said that one

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he mentioned three things. He said on Patiala, Mankato arc, to reconnect with those who choose to sever to sever ties with you. One that for a min Vala mug, and that you forgive those who have wronged you. And then

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apologies have got the last one. But what happens is here, Allah Subhana Allah is telling us about this idea, the way that we behave with people is not a target for attack. It is not about they do this to me, therefore I do do to them. That is not a socially intelligent individual. This is not the type of social intelligence that the Quran invites us to do. But rather what the Quran invites us to do is that we take the higher moral road, and that we be good if those even when people are not good to us. We declined if people even are rude to us, not because we're weak, not because we're doormat, not because we're not assertive enough, not because we lack confidence, not because we're

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not aggressive enough, not because none of that it doesn't take much effort to be rude. It's so easy to be rude. It takes a lot more effort, self control, self restraint, self confidence, to actually be able to overlook something like this. We pray and we hope that we employ these three Puranic skills commandments, who they are for more Wilma Rofi will read an integer Haley May Allah Subhana Allah guide us to do so. Dr. Pillai let me know if any of us or our loved ones are not feeling well may Allah

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Hunter Allah grant us all a full and speedy recovery. If any of us or our loved ones are going through difficult times and Allah Subhana Allah ease our pain. If any of us or our loved ones have lost the way melas hunt Allah bring us back to his way. If any of our loved ones have passed away May Allah Subhana Allah bless their souls Allahumma indica and Korean to HIPAA law for for ANA Allahumma HiLine as lubaina was stolen Are you gonna say you know what often I'm abroad Robina Artina dunya has another waffle Farah has anything machina either not about Allah in Allah motivate actually. So anyway, Cordoba when Han Sasha will make it all better. you're ever going to look into

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