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Assalamu alaikum This is Yasmin Mujahid and you're listening to serenity streaming live on one legacy radio. We are getting closer and closer to the end of this blessing gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala the month of Ramadan. And we have entered when will hamdulillah into the last 10 days. And we are Subhan Allah This is one of the you know, on top of the gift that Allah has given us of Ramadan is he has given us the last 10 days. And this is an opportunity for all of us to be forgiven in sha Allah Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim, WA Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Juan and he was on the edge main. Now, I want to talk just a little bit about the significance of the last 10 days of Ramadan,

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the profits of ice and then when he spoke about the last, you know, he we were told that that in this within this period of time, in the last portion, the last 10 days of Ramadan, the last 10 nights specifically, there is one night that is greater than 1000 months height on an alpha shot. And if you calculate the you know what 1000 months actually equals, you'll find that it's more rather 1000 months is is about 83 years. So Allah subhanaw taala has told us that there is one night that is greater than 83 point, I think it's something like 83.3 years. So what what we're being told actually is that in this one night, we have the opportunity to receive more reward than a lifetime

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because when you look at the lifetime of a human being, it's almost exactly the average lifespan is almost exactly around this, this, you know this number, and yet this one single night is greater than an entire lifetime. This is part of the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala is that he gives us that opportunity. And we are also told that whoever prays on that night and and seeking, you know, sincerely for Allah subhanaw taala and seeking his reward, will, will have all of their previous sins forgiven. It's important for us to understand the part of this Hadith, which mentions the intention being for Allah subhanaw taala alone. A lot of times, there's so much ritual associated

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with what we do in Ramadan, we have large camps, which you know, and hamdulillah The idea behind it is good to bring people to the masjid to bring people to you know, to pray PM, but sometimes, you know, it can potentially be a little bit more of a social gathering. So it's important to just stay focused and to end to realize why it is that what what you really want to get out of it. And so this the the the pm itself standing and praying on Laila to God is something that if we do it with the right focus and the right state of mind and heart, it's, it's something that can give us back a clean sheet Allah subhanaw taala Can, can take that book that has all of our sins written on it and

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and in exchange for it, give us something that's blank Allah Subhana data having forgiven all of our sins, and you'll and you know, this is actually I did a webinar about about the the topic of making the most of the last 10 days and I spoke about a an activity that that we used to do, and it's, I think it's, uh, it kind of just really brings this point home of being forgiven in these last 10 days. And that is, you know, the participants are first asked to take a sheet of paper and try to just bring to mind to remember their sins from the last week, and then write them down. Of course, this is you know, being done privately. And then to try to bring it to mind our sins from the last

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two weeks and then the last month, and then eventually from the last year and just writing them down. As soon as this you know, they've had some time to write it down. Then the organizers you know, kind of make, you know, tell tell the other organizers Okay, you can go ahead and collect the papers now. And you can imagine at that point

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happens, that's when, you know, the panic sets in. Because everybody's so mortified and they're so, you know, it's extremely scary to think that someone's going to collect this. So people will do different things at that point in their panic, you know, people start ripping their paper, you know, just somehow trying to just get rid of it. And the point of the exercise actually is that, of course, the papers do not get collected, but it was, it's, it's, it's to show it's to make a point. And that is that we are very, very worried about other people seeing that paper seeing our sins, but we don't always bring to mind and realize that all of those sins were done in front of Allah subhana

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wa, tada, that Allah saw that, you know, while it was happening, and, you know, sometimes we are, unfortunately, more worried about what what people see than we are about what Allah subhanaw taala sees. And that just that we have this shyness, which we should, of course, about our sins in front of people, but we don't have enough shyness about our sins in front of Allah subhanaw taala, who obviously sees all of it, and then beyond that, is that you now have an opportunity to have that sheet of paper that's covered with a sins and you know, of course, it's not just one piece of paper, but it's a book full of sins, that you have the opportunity in, you know, in this blessed time to,

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to have that taken away, and then hand it a clean sheet. We know that when we wronged a human being, uh, usually, even if the person you know, you know, they forgive us or, or you know, they're gonna be really gracious and forgive us. It's like, it can't be erased, you know, it can't be forgotten. Whereas with Allah subhana wa tada it's a different Allah can completely erase the sin as if it didn't happen. And even beyond that, Allah says he can try he can exchange or he can turn those bad deeds into good deeds. So imagine like not just erasing the sin but actually transforming the sin into good deeds. This is the mercy of Allah subhana wa Tada. And that's what we're, that's what we

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seek in this month is we seek We ask Allah subhanaw taala by His mercy to forgive us. And this is what I Isha, or the lion who was told by the prophet sallallahu Sallam when she asked him, if we see if we know that this is a little harder the night of power, what should we say and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, a lahoma in NACA for one to hibou laughs What far for Allah, Allah you are the most oft pardoning You are the oft pardoning you love to pardon, so pardon us.

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And so we ask Allah subhanaw taala by this attribute, Allah tells us to ask by this attribute, that Allah would would pardon us and Allah loves to pardon. But one thing that I want to bring up and that is how, what is the one of the fastest ways to attain that pardon of Allah subhanaw taala. And when you look, some have Allah throughout the quarter end and you look throughout the the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and a Hadith, you find a sort of an overall trend and you learn a lesson about the forgiveness of Allah and the mercy of Allah. And it's a very powerful lesson. And that lesson is that if we want to be forgiven by Allah subhanho wa Taala, we need to forgive others.

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And there's this very strong and intimate link between attaining the forgiveness and mercy of Allah subhanaw taala. And, and giving that forgiveness and mercy towards the creation, it's upon Allah because Allah is so merciful to his creation, and he's made this this deal on their behalf, right? That if you forgive my servants, if you are merciful to my servants, then I will be merciful to you. It's, it's it's amazing on every level, because on the one hand, Allah is so generous, that you give him something or you you pay you know, something finite forgiveness, letting something go, not holding a grudge, you know, turning away from a mistake that was happened that that happened against

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me and you and you turn away from it, just that Act, which is of course very is a finite act right. So limited in in because of that in exchange for that Allah is giving us something infinite. So some for something finite, we we buy, in a sense, something infinite. And of course, it is not a fair trade. We are giving something so small and Ally's responding by giving us something infinite, which is His forgiveness and his mercy. And Allah says that the one

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Who is not merciful to the creation, then then Allah subhanaw taala won't be merciful to them, if we want to love to forgive us if we want on this, you know to be to leave Ramadan to, to enter and then leave these last 10 blessed nights forgiven by Allah subhanaw taala we need to make the the conscious decision

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and ended, you know, be determined that we are going to forgive those who have wronged us. And we will do it in sha Allah with that intention. You don't do things, you know, sometimes people say, but they don't deserve to be forgiven or, you know, they but they didn't apologize or they didn't do X, Y and Z to make them deserving. And to that I want to ask, Do any of us deserve the forgiveness of Allah? Have any of us really, you know, paid for it in full or something like that, have any of us actually done? What makes us able to stand up and say, now I deserve to be forgiven? And and now I deserve Jenna. There's no such thing because as we know, even the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu

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wasallam said that he does not enter Jenna, by his deeds, he enters Jenna, by the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala. You know, this is something that amazed even the you know, the companions, peace be upon them all, they said, you know, they said, even you owed us will allow, you know, when he said that no one enters Jenna by their deeds. And they said even you own a salon? He said, yes, even me, except that it would be by the mercy of a life of lies merciful to me. So if the profits of I send them

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doesn't by Jenna or deserve Jenna with his deeds, what are we, so we have to really realize this, we when we when we deal with the creation, we have to deal with the creation in a way that we want the creator to deal with us. That's, I think, a very important take home message. You know, again, I hope that every time we begin a conversation, that there's at least some take home messages and and if there's any take home message in this conversation, I hope it is that, that that deal with people and treat people in the way that you want a lot to treat you on the Day of Judgment. And I think when we when we start to do that, then you'll find that a lot of the problems that we have socially

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and in our communities would would disappear, that if we instead of, you know, if you imagine if Allah subhanaw taala were to treat us in the way that we treat others. That would be very scary. You know, if somebody wrongs us, and we hold on to it, and we refuse to let it go, even sometimes when they apologize. And then and then we think that you know what would happen to us? If we if Allah held us accountable for even just one of our sins, if Allah subhanaw taala was not merciful to us and overlooked a llama in NACA from one to hibbeler 451 How do we, you know, look at Allah, how do we face Allah subhanaw taala and ask him for his if asked him for his pardon at the sea and at the

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same time refuse to pardon others. It's It's, it's, it's not sincere, how can we how can we even do that, that we have to be,

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you know, realize that there isn't, you know, we can't have this double standard that we want a lot to treat us in a certain way. And yet we treat others in a very, very different way. We ask Allah subhanaw taala that he would treat us with mercy and pardon, and if we really want that we need to treat others with mercy and pardon. So inshallah I'm going to take a short break, and when we return, I'm going to be opening up the lines for the first time and the number is 714-988-8182. Again, the number is 714-988-8182. inshallah, when we return, we will be opening the lines for you to call in

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Assalamu alaikum This is Yasmin Mujahid and you're listening to serenity streaming live on one legacy radio. We are discussing today how to make the most of the last 10 nights of Ramadan and we are opening up the lines for you to call in live. The number again is 714

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49888182 you can go ahead and call, you know, share with us a couple of things you can call share with us, you know, maybe some advice or something that you're doing in these last 10 nights that are that have been very beneficial and something maybe you can share. Or you know, if you have a question about something maybe you are struggling with and and what was the ending, what's the best way of dealing with it, we have talked,

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you know, until now about this, this this different angle at seeking Allah subhanaw taala as forgiveness and it's I think it's an angle that a lot of times has been forgotten in the past, in in how we are treating other people law has linked the to the mercy that we show to the creation and the mercy that Allah subhanaw taala shows to us. If we hold everyone accountable, and refuse to let go for every every wrong that they have done, then we should expect that we will be treated the same way on the Day of Judgment. And if we are treated that way on the Day of Judgment, then we would be destroyed because if we are actually held accountable for what we've done, we would not be able to

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enter agenda as we are told by the prophets and like I said them, we are in need of the mercy of Allah if we want to enter Jannah but we have to be willing to give that mercy to others. So inshallah if you if you want to, you can write your questions in the chat box, you can also call in as we're waiting for calls to come in. I'll share inshallah a couple more. You know a lot about the importance of forgiveness, when Allah subhanaw taala describes the the the those who have to one or the Mycenaean those who who are who act with SN and sn as we know is the highest level of Amen. The moistening are those, you know, you have the Muslim and the Muslims. And then you have the mote

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meaning the believers which is a higher level than just a Muslim. And then at the very highest level is a moccasin, the one who now we're not just talking about Islam, or Amen, but we're talking about Yes, and the most beautiful way of doing anything the most beautiful faith, the most beautiful manners the most beautiful trust in Allah subhanaw taala just, it's it's this beautiful beautification of the way in which we are and the way in which we believe and the more than one of the descriptions that Allah subhanaw taala gives us are those people who forgive and Allah when he says about that with a layman, a shaitana regime was Sadie Oh, Mr. filata mineral become a Jeanette

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and Otto has somewhere to a lot of debt. Lynn Martin, and levena Jung Hoon, FSR, rah, rah, he will carry me and alive while I've been on in ness, Allah is describing those people first he tells us to race towards the the forgiveness of Allah subhanaw taala. And the agenda which expands its width is like the heavens and the earth, it's been saved for them a tepee and those who have Taqwa, the righteous ones. The next idea goes on to describe them. Those who spend in difficulty and an ease when you have, you know, when you have the means to set to spend, when you have the money when you have the time you spend, but even when you when you don't as well, when it's difficult to find the

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time when it's difficult to find the money. And you also spend at that time, like having you know life, those who suppress their anger will often and ns, those who pardon others, and you'll notice in this area, this word, the same word that we're calling a law, using, it's that same word we call upon Allah subhanaw taala. With

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that word, if pardon, pardoning that will feed on in us the ones who pardon people. And you know, Subhanallah, this is exactly the the attribute, of course, Allah subhanaw taala is the the source and perfection of that attribute. But it's that same, that same concept that we are told to call a law with, on, you know, a little harder, this was the advice of the Prophet silibinin send them that if you if you know, it's a little harder, you ask Aloma in you say Aloma in nikka phone to have Buddha 451. And this is the same attribute, of course, at a human level that we are told, is a characteristic of those people who will who will be who are the most lucky and who are the the

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righteous. Someone asks the question when we forgive someone, do we have to be friends with them to I mean, someone really wronged me and now they want to invite me to their house. Is it wrong if I decline? And of course there is. It's not a black and white issue in terms of what how is it that we then have to interact once we've forgiven but but let's just begin

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At the start, and that is that forgiveness is an act of the heart forgiveness is something inside of you, that you are no longer holding on to anger or rage or grudges inside. So to forgive. First and foremost, it's a letting go internally of your anger, letting go internally of the need to hold that person accountable, letting go internally of the need to to seek justice, or revenge or whatever it is that you're holding on to. And in that letting go, you're actually not liberating that person, you're liberating your own self, you are the one who ends up being imprisoned by your anger, you know, there's a saying that you are not punished for your anger, you are punished by your anger.

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Anger in and of itself is a punishment for the one who harbors it. It's, it's like us, it's a prison for the one who who holds on to it. And and, and so when you're holding on to anger, you're really imprisoning your own self. And ironically, you're giving that person

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too much power over you. Because you're you, the more that you hold on to anger, you're actually sort of enslaving yourself to that person that you're angry at. And that person has the control over you to actually occupy your mind to occupy your thoughts. For someone for you to give someone the power or the,

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to the power to occupy your thoughts during your prayers. I mean, that's just, that's too much, you know, that's, you're, you're, you're losing something priceless. For the sake of this person, which you're actually very angry at. It's, it's, it's a, it's, it's actually you yourself, are, you're harming yourself, and you're giving that person too much,

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you know, too much power over you. So letting go inside, that is the key. And then once you let go inside, the behavior follows more easily, right now, when you're holding on still to that anger. Or you are, you know, you're not able to let go, it becomes a lot harder to even imagine how you would act. But I'll tell you that once you let go inside, it becomes a lot easier to in your behavior outside and how you act with that person. But but just to kind of quickly answer, it doesn't mean that that person has to be your best friend. It just means that you still keep ties you don't completely cut them off. At least we know that we're not supposed to ever cut off our families

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completely. And even our you know, our own brother and sister in Islam, we're not supposed to go more than three days, you know, cutting off or not speaking in the sense of because you're angry. So keeping the ties it doesn't mean that you have to be the best of friends, but ultimately letting go inside it will bring about ease in your relationship outside inshallah we have Ayesha online right now. I just said I'm on a calm

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on how are you? How are you doing? I'm good.

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I have actually two questions. Is that okay? Sure. Yes, go ahead. You are a first caller. So you're special.

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Okay. Well, first question is, is there a different way to ask for forgiveness for known sins rather than unknown sins? I mean, for speaking in regards to laters. And other I mean, we have that

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what we're supposed to say about my nickel funds, sort of philosophizing.

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We have that, but is there anything else that we should be saying we should say for known sins?

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And second question is, how do we attain that level of focus? And, you know, tune in to that level of grief that we should have about our sins when we're asking for forgiveness?

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Okay, beautiful questions. First, is there. So the general da that were told Aloma in neckarsulm went to Hezbollah for FAFSA? And that's Yes, that Yeah, as you as you mentioned, this is sort of a general deny that we should all say, however, it is actually necessary and extremely important to also seek forgiveness for the known sins, as you said, those specific sins that you know, about, and you, you know, you you've committed those sins. And this is the process of Toba. No, scholars say that the the, for repentance to be accepted by Allah subhanaw taala. There are certain characteristics or certain requirements, if you will, in order for that to be a sincere repentance.

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And one of them is that you do have that sense of remorse, that you have that sense of that you actually really regret and you feel pain, about doing the sin. You can't, even with a human being, you know, when you're apologizing to a human being and you have absolutely no remorse, that human being is much less likely to forgive

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Have you if you have no remorse, and you're just kind of just, it's just lip service, I'm sorry. Okay, I'm really sorry. It's, it's, you know, it's not very, very

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convincing even for a human being. And so with Allah subhanaw taala, we need to have that remorse inside of ourselves is default, asking for forgiveness is not an act of the tongue, as you know, it's an act of the heart. So feeling that sense of remorse, and then stopping the sin. You know, we were asking for forgiveness for a specific known sin, we need to stop doing the sin and then finally, intending sincerely not to return to that sin. That does not mean that if we end up, you know, falling into that sin, that that necessarily means that, you know, it didn't count, but rather, Allah knows the heart and what was our what was really our intention? Are we saying stuff

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for the last talk really, you know, kind of going to confession? I'm planning on doing it again next next week? Allah knows. So making really the sincere intention. And I think there's the second part of your question was about that remorse? Correct? Correct. Yes. bringing about that remorse.

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I think, you know, one, one exercise is similar to what I spoke about at the beginning of the show, and if you imagine writing down that sin, that you're or, or that group of sins that you need to seek forgiveness for, if you imagine writing it down somewhere, and then it getting published in the newspaper or something with your name on it, or, or being put on Facebook, you know, in public forum, and everybody's seeing it or even a picture, you know, of you engaging in the Senate, for everybody to see. And you think about how that would make you feel. And I think that that's one way to very, you know, across the board, I think it would, it brings about this feeling of shame, and

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brings about this feeling of embarrassment, at the idea of of people seeing the sin. So I think that's the first step if if we're having trouble sort of feeling that shame or feeling that remorse, imagine what you would feel if it was publicized, to the, to the creation, if it was publicized to the world, and then realizing that it is publicized to Allah subhanaw taala Allah sees it. And that same shame that we have should actually be more, but I think that that's a very practical way to, to bring about that feeling of embarrassment. Because we think, you know, what would happen if the people saw you know, and just just just thinking about it in that way, another way to bring about I

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think that the sense of remorse is you think about what happens if

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you know with a human being Okay, so we'll use that example a human being who your entire life, they supported you financially, they gave you they took care of you, they protected you this person maybe took you in when you are on the street suppose they're you know, your you are homeless, you you didn't have a family and this person took you into their home, you know, took care of you spent money on you protected you and then one day you come and you you know you burn down their house or, or you vandalized their car. And, and and just thinking about, you know, even if you had no remorse over burning down this person's house, just bringing to mind all that this person did for you, that

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when you were out on the street, they took you in no one else would would take you in and and they fed you and they protected you and they took care of you. And I think that there's when you bring to mind all that someone has done to you and then you think about the wrong you've done to them, you can't help but feel this sense of guilt and remorse. As you know, just just as a heart that's that's awake will feel that that but but but if I don't realize all that this person did to me, then it would be a lot harder to bring it you know might be harder to bring brings, you know that that feeling of remorse. But when I remember that this person did all this for me if you feel no matter

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who you are, you're going to feel a sense of shame. And so of course Allah subhanaw taala is the above any analogy and Allah is the one who took us in, when we were desperate, you know, when we had nothing, we you know, there's this beautiful Hadith that says that all of you are, are hungry except who Allah feeds. And all of you are thirsty except who Allah gives drink and all of you are naked, except those who will look close, we have nothing except what Allah subhanaw taala has given us and we would all be, you know destitute on the street if it had not been for our last panel data and his and his mercy on us. And, and and the greatest gift that Allah has given us is the gift of Islam.

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Just think about where we would be if we did not have that gift, and just bring about that, that sense of gratitude. When you look at all that Allah has given us and then we look at what we, you know, Allah sends down blessings, we send up sins. And you know, when we look at that transaction that we have with a less penalty that we can't help but feel great deep sense of shame.

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Thank you so much but that actually helps a lot I I've been writing down everything you

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thank you so much that really helped me especially in Milan when I know I can work on myself a lot better than I can't. I couldn't other time. So thank you so much. Where yakko wakko salaam aleikum? Wa.

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So, you know, spawn a lime I'm, I'm happy. I'm so glad that that question was asked. I think it's something that we we oftentimes we talk a lot about Toba and seeking Allah subhanaw taala is forgiveness. But too much of it is, it's again, it's a ritual, we maybe we say stuff for a certain number of times. So for a lot of stuff for the stock for Allah. But Subhana Allah, you know, Toba and his dickwad, it really is not an act of your tongue, it's an act of the heart, the heart needs to look, look at the two things look at what Allah has given you. And look at what what we give a law. And it's it's embarrassing, it's it's it's very, it's, it's you, you can't help it feel very

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embarrassed by the by what we provide what we give a lot of thought in exchange for all that He gives us. So inshallah I hope that that, that that's beneficial. And I, you know, again, please do call in, we have open the lines, the number again is 714-988-8182. That number again, is 714-988-8182, we will go ahead and take another short break. And we will continue to open the lines when we return

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Assalamu alaikum, this is your sandwich I head and you're listening to serenity streaming live on one legacy, radio, and Hamdulillah, we have opened our lines today and we are discussing how to make the most of the last 10 nights of Ramadan and how to seek Allah Subhana dadas forgiveness. And one of the ways that we that we are sharing is that we forgive others, one of the fastest ways to to attain the forgiveness of the Creator is to forgive the creation. And one of the fastest ways to attain the mercy of the Creator is to be merciful to the creation. And, you know, we have some questions here at the chat box. And we also have our lines open, our number is 714-988-8182. Someone

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asks, What if someone wrongs you and you forgive that person, after a while that person gives a gift, but you decline and refuse to accept? Is that wrong? And I would actually say yes, it is wrong, to refuse the gift for a number of reasons. One, if you really did forgive, you wouldn't be refusing the gift.

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Unless there's some other reason that we don't know about that you need to refuse the gift. But if it's just simply because, you know, you just don't want to take a gift from this person. That's an indication that you haven't really forgiven and you haven't really let go. And so it's important that we look at that as an indicator of whether we really have forgiven. And secondly, it's an Islamic principle, actually not to refuse gifts. It's an epistemic principle. For example, when you're invited for dinner or for a wedding or, or something of that sort you one of the rights that a believer has upon you is that you accept and that you go if it's at all possible, refusing gifts,

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breaks, relationships, refusing invitations, breaks relationships, and this so this is one of the things we're taught in our Deen as part of the mom and the manners of how to treat each other and the rights that our brother has a sister has upon another in Islam is that you accept these invitations and you accept these gifts that it brings together the hearts and and so I would say yes, you should accept the gift. And and it's it's it is also an perhaps an indication that you haven't really forgiven and May Allah subhanaw taala make it easy on all of us to truly let go of those grudges. And to be like the that man who the prophets I sent him described as one of the

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people of Jenna and it was one simple thing that he was doing is that he was cleaning his heart every night before he stopped from any grudges that he has against another believer. And hamdulillah we have a rush on the line Santa Monica.

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How are you hamdulillah How are you?

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Have an amazing show. And I'm really inspired by your talk. I just want to say I'm going to share a thought like Ramadan is going to end. And for the first time, I'm feeling like something we are going to miss.

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We are like, trying to purify our souls trying to do good deeds. And slowly bit by bit, we are eating that Venus, like our stems if we can hope that Allah and Allah will forgive ourselves. But it's only because of Allah as mercy that we start in prayer wanting

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it is mercy. And I just got asked, How can we continue? Right? How can we be in that state? Always after?

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Okay, very good question. This, this is a couple of things that this question brings up, how do we continue this momentum. And this state, you ask? One thing to keep in mind,

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that's very important to realize, is that no state is constant, completely constant. So one thing that makes us oftentimes fall into despair, and to give up perhaps, is that we want our state to be constant and something that isn't a characteristic of this life. So our state will always be slightly changing up and down. This is something that the prophets lie Selim even told to ever walk, the line that had had their state remained constant had their state been the same when they are in his presence versus when they are in their family's presence, than the angels would have shook hands with them in the streets in one Howdy. So this hadith is telling us that if we were constantly at

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this peak of, of Eman And this peak state, then we would be angels, we wouldn't be you know, human beings. So that's one thing really to keep in mind and to not set ourselves up for despair and disappointment. Because sometimes when we have unrealistic expectations, we are more likely to give up once those expectations are not met. So that's one thing to keep in mind that, you know, in sha Allah we will be in so it's even possible to get to get to a higher state one isn't saying that this is the best you're ever going to be. And it's all downhill from here that that's not the the the the point, we can always improve inshallah, but it's just important to realize that that constancy is

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not a characteristic of this life. This life is constantly changing, in fact, and it's only a law that's constant. So we will go up and down, but not to lose hope, if we go down, and inshallah we can also go up. However, some things that we can do in order to maintain as much as we can of this, of this heightened state of newness to the last panel, Donna, and that is, look at the actions that we're doing in Ramadan. There are there are a number of a Baghdad of acts of worship, that are consistent and this is key, the key word in this whole statement is consistency. So if you were looking at this sentence, in you know, in front of you, you would put, you know, like underline this

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scent, this word, you would put it in bold, maybe in caps consistent. We are consistently waking up in the last third of the night. We are consistently fasting, we are consistently reading what and and reflecting on it. We are consistently praying extra prayers, we are consistently asking for forgiveness, you see the things that we're doing every single day, consistently. Yes, and so it is no wonder that there's that heightened state.

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And for me, like for a person like me, I can never, even if I try so hard to get up for the normal days, it's not possible but during these last two panels, I can toggle us on how he enables one to get up.

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And the same one who can enable you and Ramadan can enable you outside of Ramadan so that the key here is to put your hope in Allah and, and to strive for that. And and to ask Allah subhanaw taala This is something we don't do enough of By the way, we rely too much on our own selves in our data. We think that, you know, the worship is is because it's for Allah, we it doesn't cross our mind that we should be asking Allah to help us it's kind of like when you're giving someone you know you're doing something for someone. Suppose you think you're doing someone a favor, right? human relationship, you think you're doing someone a favor, you're not going to ask them to help you with

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the favor you're doing for them. You know what I'm saying? It's like it's not something we think about. But this is the wrong concept of how our a betta is with a law. First of all I betta to Allah is not a favor on Allah is not a gift to Allah. It's the other way around. It's a favor on us. It's a It's a gift for us. And so we ask actually a lot to help us. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us the ability to worship Him because it's it's a gift for me. It's my gift. It's for me. It's not for him.

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In the sense that he is not benefiting from it, I'm benefiting from it. So asking ALLAH, you know in certain Fatiha, which we say, at least 17 times a day yakka Naboo, where he can assign the two go together, that you alone do we worship and You alone? Do we seek help from it, we cannot worship a lot without the help of Allah. So seeking the help of allies key that if you want to wake up prophetic, I mean, 4pm you want to be consistent in these things? ask Allah to make it easy for you the same way he's made it easy for you in this month, inshallah.

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There's no way you can send away Yeah, come

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walaikum salam o De La Hoya barchetta.

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And so at Hamdulillah, we have we have questions coming in, you can go ahead and call the lines are open, the number is 714-988-8182. We have some questions also in the chat box. And one of the questions says,

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okay, sister, yes, mean, I had a question. What if you are the one asking for forgiveness from a person, but they don't forgive you? And what they and what they do they don't forget what you did and not give you a chance?

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not give you a chance to show them you are trustworthy? How do you show someone you are trustworthy? And you won't do anything? So when you are the one who's wronged someone else, you know, and how do you seek that forgiveness. It is upon us to do everything in our power to try to rectify the wrongs that we've done to people. And sometimes that's possible, and sometimes it isn't. But Allah sees your sincerity unless sees your efforts. And you try you first you ask Allah subhanaw taala, to forgive you for what you did wrong. You ask Allah Subhana Allah to forgive the person who you have wronged. And then you ask the person to forgive you. Sometimes, it may not be possible to directly

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ask the person to forgive you, for example, asking the person to forgive, you may create more problems than not doing so. Depending on the situation. You know, in those cases, you do everything in your power, to ask Allah to forgive that person, and to also ask Allah Subhana Allah to forgive you. But if you are able to ask that person's forgiveness, you do it it with with all sincerity. Now, one principle in Islam, again, that we need to understand, and we need to unlearn this concept of attachment to results. One one principle in Islam is that we are we are going to be held accountable for doing our part as much as possible. We can't have control over the results because

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the results are not in our hands necessarily. For example, I you know, you get this question, children who are very concerned about their parents not being pleased with them. But if the child has done everything in their power and is keeping the, you know, you know, sometimes a child might do everything that they can, you know, they're not wronging their parents in any way they're, they're trying to be the best, you know, very respectful and very, and doing everything that would be pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala but, but the parent is still not pleased. And and so they feel well how will I ever, you know, succeed, you know, how will I be, you know, pleasing to Allah, if I

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can't please my parents and sometimes it's just, if you've done everything in your power, sometimes the result is not in your hands. And so we ask Allah subhanaw taala to, to forgive us into and to forgive that person. But but but you just have to be truthful with a law that you have done everything that you can and you have sincerely really tried whatever you can to seek that person's forgiveness.

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If someone is still in the process of wrongdoing, you though they said they are sorry, am I to forgive this person though I don't believe in their apology and see them continued to sin against me.

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You know, there's there's a difference between forgiving someone and continuing to put yourself in a situation where you will be harmed or wronged

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forgiveness doesn't mean being passive or allowing someone to abuse you. This is very important. It's islamically you know, you you're supposed to be

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keeping it protecting your own self from being wronged protecting yourself from injustice or from harm or from abuse, you can still forgive and at the same time, keep yourself and protect yourself from from further abuse or further harm. The two are not mutually you know, that they don't have to go together. That forgiveness means I continue to let you harm me rather, those two are not connected. So what you do on the one hand is you protect yourself and and your family and those around you from being harmed. And on the other hand,

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You can still forgive. Again, forgiveness is an act of the heart, it's internal, and forgive the person. But that does not mean that you allow the person to continue to wrong you, as if somebody is in the process of continuing to wrong you that's not something you should put yourself in a situation to, you know, to continue to be wronged. However, you remove yourself from that situation, you'll protect yourself and your family. But you can still forgive. Forgiveness is letting go internally of the grudge and of the anger.

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So we are getting questions in the chat box. Let's see.

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Someone has wronged me over and over again, I'm scared, if I forgive, I will be hurt again, by this person. What do I do with the situation? It seems to me that that again, there's this misunderstanding of what forgiving means. I forgive inside of me, does that mean for example, I had a relationship with someone and this person is hurting me? Does forgiveness mean that I have to keep having that relationship with that person? No, that's not what forgiveness necessarily means. I could forgive a person and still remove myself from the situation, the two again are not necessarily connected, I can remove myself from a situation of abuse or of harm. And at the same time, forgive

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forgiveness does not mean and I want to just emphasize this point. Forgiveness does not mean that I have to continue to put myself in the situation in which I am being harmed. This, this is not the definition of forgiveness. Forgiveness means that I'm not going to hold this person, maybe I'm not going to punish the person for it, I may let it go, I may forget, I may, you know turn away from it. I let go internally of the grudge and the anger. But I will not continue to put myself in a situation where I will be harmed again or I will be wronged again, please understand the two are not connected and and they're two separate issues. islamically again, you know, the Prophet sallallahu

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Sallam said, when you see something wrong, you have to try to you should try to change it with your hand. And if you cannot, then you try to speak out against it, you tried to change it with your tongue. And if you cannot, then hate it in your heart. And this is the weakest of EMA and the weakest of faith. As believers we are supposed to be standing up for what's right and never just accepting oppression or accepting abuse, whether it's happening to those around us whether it's happening overseas, in Syria or warmer or anywhere, or whether it's happening to me to under my roof in my house, or to my children or or to my family or those near to me. So it's it's extremely

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important that we do not misunderstand these concepts of sub patience and the concepts of forgiveness. And as as being passive to abuse or or continuing to put ourselves in situations where we will be harmed or wronged or those around us will be harmed and wronged so I hope inshallah, that that's clear, that's clear that forgiveness does not mean that that you put yourself in that situation again, but it doesn't mean letting go of the anger.

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synonyms history is mean Ramadan greetings from South America. I have just discovered your lectures and writings have stumbled on and it's contributing to me having a more meaningful Ramadan and having dinner thank you so much for your work. And hamdulillah May Allah bless all of your Ramadan's and and Chela, please keep me in my family in your eyes. I don't know, if you have. I did mention this last last week, but come to LA my book was just launched this weekend and hamdulillah it's it is available on my website. It's called reclaim your heart. And it's available at Yes Men which I had.com that's ysminmoghd.com and this is a book I hope inshallah we'll be something beneficial in

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terms of really just freeing the heart from all of these types of including, you know, it's a panel of the topic we're talking about today, freeing the heart of the anger, freeing the heart of, of the resentment and and holding on to, you know, any anytime we go through a hardship or we lose something, being able to not be enslaved to those things, and to those people who have who have heard us. This is a big part of freeing ourselves inshallah.

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So, inshallah, I'm going to take one last question. And

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there's an interesting discussion in the chat box. Okay. So someone asks, What if they deleted you off Facebook as friends and in real life, it's awkward. I don't exactly. I don't know exactly what I did wrong. And I don't know how to that and I don't want to judge that. I can't help a judge that she might not like me.

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Again, you know, you do your part. If you don't, if you don't know

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That you've done something wrong, and someone is, you know, randomly seeming to cut you off. The important thing is that you just continue to do your part and continue to treat the person well. If you if, if you find out, you know what it is that, that that's hurting the person or something that you apologize and, you know, again, keep in mind that every action that we do, ultimately, it's not a transaction with the person, it's a transaction with a law and the way in which we treat people, what we need to do is see Allah in the way we treat people you see a lot in people, this is the way to, to treat people with with accent with in the most beautiful manner is we see a lot and we see,

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okay, how would I want to treat me in this situation? Or how would I want to treat me on the Day of Judgment, that's how I'm going to treat this person. And, you know how, and and just, again, any any goodness that you show to that person, realize it's not for the sake of that person, it's, it's not because you need that person as your friend or not, but it's just it's for a less powerful data sake. And that's the way to really, you know, have reached that level of Sn. Everything you know, that you do is knowing that Allah is watching you. And this is actually the definition that the prophet SAW I sent him gave us for sn it's worshiping Allah, as if you can see him and until

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treating people as if you can see a law in that situation. And if you can't see him know that he sees you a huning Holy habba was stuck for a while he would come in number four Rahim subhanak alaba ham darkness shadow en la ilaha illa and istockphoto corner to Lake was salam o Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh