The Islamic Concept of Futuwwa Imam Nadim Imam Salah Shaykh Arsalan Mufti WK
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could be mashallah or salami Allah. So how do I bless chefs? Allah Allah preserve him. So inshallah today's topic and discussion is known as Al fatawa. Does anyone know what Al fatawa means?
Chivalry. Chivalry is. Its chivalry is defined in many different ways by many of the Sahaba of the Allah one whom everyone had their own definition, but it really applies to what is manliness? What is the height and the extent of manliness and when you say the life of the prophet said Allah wa t he was settled on what he was as a man when he was 25 years old and how responsible he was how he was able to be an upright man how he was able to conduct his affairs, some of the Sahaba Rhodiola on him such as
We're gonna hop off said that how you deal with despicable matters shows how much chivalry you have. Some said that chivalry is in reference to one's bravery. So chivalry is mostly connected and associated with men. However, today Inshallah, in this brief panel, we're not going to be only discussing chivalry and what constitutes as chivalry. But we're going to also discuss some other important things that are very relevant in our society that can impact chivalry that can perhaps compromise chivalry. So that is today Inshallah, we will be discussing. And I do want to mention that for those of you who may not know exactly what Mecca is, so this is not the Mecca like in Saudi
Arabia, this is Mecca, M E CCA. This is an acronym which stands for mentorship and education by the Collin County Imam. So prior to COVID, for those of you who don't know, just want to quickly go into a brief history.
Prior to COVID, the Collin County emails we got together and we discussed and we thought that perhaps it would be effective and it will be beneficial. If we came together on a monthly basis. And whoever can come of course, people have busy schedules, imams, of course, you know, have very busy schedules, so whoever can come together, inshallah will choose one budget in the Collin County area, we will pick one topic that is very relevant to our Muslim community, and we'll discuss it at large. So, of course, because of COVID everything came to a halt. And it was a this was a situation for around two, two and a half years and 100 Recently, we again came together, and we decided that we
need to restart this process and Hamdulillah this is our now fourth session since we have restarted we had one session IECC we had our next session after that at Frisco Majid the third session was Israel Foundation which was last month and then now this is the fourth session and we inshallah intend to have on a monthly basis a program at every other Collin County Masjid what is the next one?
Next week so next month inshallah December we're going to be doing in McKinney and we always try to find once again topics that are very relevant so last month, because it was a while we all talked about the the Syrah the person we all talked about the personality of the Prophet sallallahu it was setting up because next month is December so inshallah we have decided to talk about reciting a sound from the Islamic lens that what does the Quran say about Saudi Islam? What is the Sunnah say about reciting Islam were some wrong or some misconceptions that people may have about a Saudi some inshallah we'll talk about that. So having said that, we'll go ahead and begin.
So inshallah I will go ahead and begin with Sheikh Salah if you are okay with that inshallah. Actually, mostly what seemed fine was supposed to come so we will we will penalize him during inshallah.
So, Sheikh Salah will go with you inshallah.
So the question is that many of our youth and not only that, but especially when it comes to nowadays men and women working in the workforce, the question is the what is our deen teaches us about gender interaction? So even when we talk about on a Muslim level on an Islamic community level when we have to work with each other, so what does our deen teach us about that? And what is our deen advise us to do in those kinds of situations?
Salatu salam ala Rasulillah
Salam aleikum. Wa Alaikum regard to
the trio sir ma'am Nadeem, thank you so much for having us for hosting us. It's always wonderful to be with the epic community this is like a second home for myself. The first call by giving this machine was 2016 2016 when the first time And subhanAllah I see the difference here when Allah subhanaw taala bless you guys may Allah subhanaw taala mashallah have wonderful scholars in here wonderful team and hamdulillah everyone you know, looks up at this community hamdulillah So may Allah continues blessings upon you Allah whom I mean and just a disclaimer something I want I mentioned the beginning I remember Jim we agreed that we're gonna play tennis table Charla there is
I'm still waiting for you to tell me what day inshallah we'll come here and the committee can watch about the sha Allah but one thing I let me tell you about Sheikh Salah shakes a lot. If you have been following him on Facebook or Instagram. He takes a lot of pride in beating down people in table tennis. Okay. So he and chicks shift I when you beat adults, I can understand but you can't be children. You got to pick on someone your own size. Oh yeah, that's definitely so I'm focusing on the Imams Imam ERPs done hamdulillah my mother should be large done. Okay, I'm next I'm waiting for you in sha Allah.
I don't mind you play table tennis with me. But then the week after that. Let's go diving with sharks. Oh, okay.
All right all right I'm gonna circle lucky okay so let's say masala and my bad Wonderful question and it's very important topic the interaction with opposite gender All right how can we interact can we actually interact with the opposite gender or not whenever this topic is brought up you know I go directly to know swatch endorser RG but just beautiful surah the fact that Allah subhanaw taala started spirit to know with the word disorder so similar to not just like the rest of the Quran, right and Bukhari Surah
Surah but what with ALLAH SubhanA wa Tala star surah and more with the word disorder and what does the word disorder mean? And what what is the root word of surah? So apt one is from the word soul, which means something of high status or high structure. Okay, in Arabic we see so around the bite, so how well by it, it's like a fence. Okay, a fence around the house. i Why do we build fences around the houses to protect the house right? To make sure that nobody comes inside the house. So Allah subhanho wa Taala from the get go in surah. To know, he tells us the you know what, I am giving you the surah this fence, I'm building this fence for you as a community as a society so you
can protect the morality of the society and everything that comes after that speaks about the morality of the society and how can we protect that how we can protect ourselves so Ratan Angela Wofford na Wenzel Nephi timber unit and Allah subhanaw taala said, We revealed such clear a act and signs and evidences Let come to the Quran. So you might be mindful, clear evidences when it comes to the interaction with the opposite gender, ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala wanted to make sure that everything is clear, okay. He does not leave a room for you know, he said she said, but this opinion that opinion, everything is clear. And immediately after that, Allah subhanaw taala said, Zania, towards
Danny, and he tells us He gives us some guidelines on how to protect the morality of the society, as a community as well as the individual. So there are two types of fence offenses that all of us should build. Okay, number one, as a community and the society, in our case, as parents, you build the external fence around the family to make sure that your kids are protected from morality and decency in the society. Okay. And at the same time, we build our internal offense, which is the Taqwa of Allah subhanho wa taala. Because now we live in the US, right? We live in America. So that society, the Hakim, and as we know, yeah, and I don't want to go talk about politics, I mean,
politics and want to go to that route. But it's pretty much secular country, right? So nobody's going to talk about the morality and all of these things. Okay. So I would say it, it's hard to protect our morality and our higher. So what is left for us is our internal fence, which is the Taqwa of Allah subhanho wa, taala. To be mindful of Allah subhanho wa, taala. But to the to the same, the topic of the gender, I mean, interacting with the opposite gender Subhanallah you'll find two extremes, right? Always one extreme, you know, group of people Muslim, they say you are not allowed to interact. Oh, all right. You're not allowed to talk to the sister, you're not allowed to
look at the face of the sister, you always should look on the floor. You know, you should not even interact. Okay, no, shake hands. None of that. And I'll leave this doctor essentially he deals with these things.
Okay. You know, extreme, right? Completely extreme right? So you're not allowed to do anything. And there is a problem here and of course, because because they said that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says that the fitna the biggest factor for a man is the woman and the opposite, right? There is whenever there is a man who there is a woman, there is shaitan Shaitan is the third. Okay, that's what the Masilela Selim tells us. So now that's one of the extremes that you're not allowed to interact, you're not allowed to be in the society and Subhanallah there is a problematic here because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the process Salam interacted with the female Sahaba
yet and the male sahabi, sahab Sahabas have they interacted with the female Sahaba as well okay. So there is no such thing that you cannot interact, we live in this age and when we have to interact our kids in school, in the workplace, you have to interact in the way of the other okay? Now, and the opposite of the other extreme is mashallah everything's halal. Everything is halal talk, do whatever he wants, everything is halal on your own. Okay. And that's also wrong. We're not allowed to do that. Okay, we have boundaries that Allah subhanaw taala set for us. So because I know the time is very short and your mind may shift and so Allah, the time is very short. We need to focus on
the guidelines, should we interact or should not interact?
Okay, what if we are deciding to interact? What are the guidelines that we should follow to make sure that we maintain the morality and the decency and the maintain the boundaries of Allah subhanaw taala Tilka follow the law he fell at Aqaba? These are the boundaries of Allah subhanaw taala do not overstep the boundaries of Allah subhanho wa Taala some of the things that one you that we should do, we should always, always always lower our gaze. When we look at each other. We should be looking at each other respectfully. Okay. Don't focus on details don't have dirty looks. All right. Lower your gaze as much as possible. Allah subhanaw taala says Columbo meaning I have hooked women another
sorry him many in many in say to the believing men believe in men it didn't say the Muslims. It said that believe him and the doorman other saw him Why follow through Jehovah because gala home lower your gaze This is better for you that this is better for you than it has in Allah hobby room be Marius now on Allah subhana wa Taala is aware of what they do. And that's the beauty of the surah hobby when I'm alone, with my father and Allah subhanaw taala is aware, he knows what is in your mind brothers and sisters, we cannot fool Allah subhana wa Taala in Allah habia DON'T BE MY is known, we're calling it your nominal slogan. And the same thing goes for for the for the woman as
well. So lower your gaze as much as you can, obviously, you're not gonna be looking at the ground all the time, right? You're not but even when you interact, try to be mothered in every single thing that you do. So that's the first thing. The other thing is when we talk to each other brothers and sisters, this is very sensitive. Okay, when you talk to each other, we have to, to be professional, to be professional and SubhanAllah. When you when you talk about certain things, that they're useless, you know, you know, it's getting to your heart, you know, the shaitan comes to your heart, you know that for sure. Okay, but if we're, you know, we're just friends, we're talking, we're co
workers and this and that, you know, I trust her and she trusts me. I mean, I trust both of you, but doesn't trust shaitan
that's the problem. That's the reality. Shaitan is there. Okay. Shaitan is there so the we're trying to fool ourselves and that's, that's a problematic Allah subhanaw taala sent down the aid and the evidence for us so we can follow them. Okay, so when when we talk to each other respectfully, when anything beyond how are you I mean, salaam alaikum. I mean, even this if you don't have Salam Alaikum how are you? How is your day and all starts from there? All starts from there, okay. But sometimes we have to interact in school, there is a group project, we cannot avoid that the professor said you have to work together. Okay. So there is a physics project. All right, it's okay,
you can do it together as long as you maintain the boundaries, right? But he should not go physical. Right? Otherwise it's gonna be haram. So there is the you know, a thin line between what is halal and what is haram in this case, and you need to use your own judgment in this case. Okay. So when we talk to each other, we talk the opposite gender we have to be respectful to one another we have to be professional just stick to stick to the you know, to the Get to the point don't try to ask about how was her life How was your life this and that. It's not it's not going anywhere. Matter of fact is going to lead to haram Allah, Allah. Okay, and the third guideline that we should follow one
avoid Hola, hola. To be somewhere in private, with a female that I would the opposite gender, there's something try to avoid as much as possible because as we said, my sister
in law can assure you Tohno little homage will be the third and as I said, just few seconds ago that I trust both of you but wouldn't trust Shaitan in this case, okay. Illa Itano telephone there was one comic that I read the other day one sister was seeing I just I'm just wondering where's the shaitan they used to be with me and my my now husband Yanni when we weren't engaged there were certain has been always with us when we're engaged by now after marriage this shaitan is nowhere
right? He's doing somewhere else he's doing something somewhere else Subhanallah This is reality. So we try to avoid holy war for young people for the brothers and sisters of Lloyd Hello as much as possible. All right. Now, Jim and I will do this inshallah. But I mean, remember Jim said, All right, what about group chats and all of these things? These are things that unfortunately we cannot avoid nowadays. It for the masjid for the for the volunteers. You need a group for the brothers and for the sisters sometimes together for the Committee's, but a lot of times what I personally do, if I do not have to add the brothers and the sister the same group, I avoid this completely. Right I
avoid that and the
You know that the least he can talk to the sisters in private even in chat because this also followed, okay, the better. The better focus on the group you want to say something, say it in the group. But if you have to talk privately then maintain the boundaries and the Hadith of Allah subhanho wa Taala when Allah subhanaw taala created us and He knows what's best for us. If he says stay away from something. He knows that this is the higher for us in dunya and the hereafter, a cola cola was stopped for Allah, do you want to zap Maharaja salah?
Or someone who might be thinking that, you know, this is a question that I shucks a lot what does it have to do with chivalry? The A good example of this is a story of Musashi Saddam was adding his son when he went to Medina. And this story is a very great example of a man's chivalry, where he saw two women and he went and he, how he helped them, how he assisted them how he aided them, and then he's not interact too much with them. He only simply asked, Where is your father, or where are the men of your family. And then he went and he's he sought refuge somewhere. This is a very good example of what chivalry is how he interacted, he did interact by shifts, the law said there are guidelines to
interact. And he applied those guidelines. That is a very key story that talks about a man's chivalry. So if you always want to go back, read the story of Musashi, Assam, there are so many good lessons to be learned from that. Now, as I said earlier, that we're not going to be discussing only sugary, but things that can compromise one's chivalry. So today we have a very big issue, of course in our community.
And I want to ask him, Arslan Huck to shed some light on this question that now that we go out, and you know, people who belong to, for example, the the LBGT, community and so forth, and we find those kinds of people, and they're everywhere around us as Muslims living in America. How do we interact with these kinds of people, when a lot of times they try to come and interact with us, they see themselves as a minority. They see us as a minority. And then not only that, but our children, our youth, they come across many people like this. How are we supposed to protect ourselves and how do we navigate these are dangerous waters, and these murky waters?
Subhan Allah Salam Alikum Allah.
Allah, Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam, ala Rasulillah wa ala early he was a human who Allah?
You know, this question is very difficult to answer. And I'll tell you why. For several reasons. One, because this is not one question. There are many questions embedded in this question. Even the word LGBTQ i A plus.
We cannot have the same answer about L and G, and B, and Q and T and I and a.
These are different people.
An asexual person is not the same as a gay person. an intersex person is not the same as a bisexual person. So my attitude towards these different letters is going to be different. So that's one complexity here that makes it different. To give a general answer about can we be friends with LGBTQI community? Well, it depends which letter are we talking about? And I only have 10 minutes and I cannot go through each one of these. So I am forced to give a general answer. And that's what makes it a difficult question to answer number one.
Number two,
who's asking the question? Is it somebody who is in high school? It is somebody who is in college. Is it somebody who is a working professional? Is it somebody whose Eman and Taqwa are very strong? Or is it somebody who is on the borderline? Because that also makes a difference.
The general rule your brothers and sisters that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam gave us when it comes to having a close relationship with someone having a close friendship with someone is to observe caution.
Because he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Maru Allah Dini Holly Lee, for young Varaha DuCommun New Holland
that people are going to follow the ways of their clothes.
Rennes a Helene is not the same as a Sadiq Sadiq is just a friend and acquaintance. Helene is someone that's a close friend, right? Rasulullah Salallahu Salam said if I was to take anybody as a Helene, I would have taken Abu Bakr as My Khalil, but my Helene is Allah subhanaw taala.
So he said, Sal, Allahu Allah Salam, that people are going to follow the ways of their close friends for young Laura haidakhan, Manuel Holland. So be careful who you take as a close friend. In another text, the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, I will move to LA you ha, La Mina? Oh Kumbhakarna Allah He salatu salam that a believer does not take as a close friend, except somebody who's a believer. Right? So when we're talking about a very close relationship, you know, somebody's like, Who do you call when you're facing a crisis in life? Who do you call when you get into a fight with your spouse? Who do you call when you get into an argument with your parents? That's your close friend.
And your close friends have to be picked very carefully to your brothers and sisters. So are we talking about what level of relationship are we talking about here? If we're talking about taking somebody as just taking somebody as a Helene, then I have to be very picky. But if we're talking about taking somebody just says a friend just as a as a casual friend, then the question is Who is asking the question? What is your level of Taqwa? What is your level of iman? Because, you know, the more time you spend with somebody, they are going to have an influence on you. And then the other aspect here that makes this question difficult to answer is that the gay person or the lesbian
person, for example, the homosexual person, let's, let's take that as an example, the homosexual person that we're talking about, are we talking about a Muslim? Are we talking about a non Muslim? And if we are talking about a Muslim, for example, are we talking about a Muslim? Who simply is is facing same sex attraction? Or are we talking about somebody who engages in homosexual behavior, because the two are not the same? Somebody who is simply struggling with same sex attraction, we call that person also homosexual, because they have homosexual feelings and homosexual tendencies. But that's not the same as a person who actively engages in homosexual behavior, the two are not the
same. And then even if we're talking about somebody who engages in homosexual behavior, a Muslim who's engaging in homosexual behavior, then the question is, Is this somebody who engages in this behavior privately? Or is this somebody who engages in this behavior publicly, meaning that he validates it and he defends homosexuality? Again, the two are not the same, because to to to engage in this sinful behavior privately
is between this person and Allah subhanaw taala. But somebody who engages in it publicly validates it defends it, that person is doing something that is tantamount to Kufa. Well, you are the biller. Right. So this is why it makes it difficult to answer this question, you know, what kind of a relationship how close of a relationship can I have with LGBTQ people? Who are we talking about here? Right.
And so in the five minutes that I have remaining, right, to answer this question, or whatever, four minutes that I have remaining, I'll say this,
that if we are especially talking about being friends, or having a relationship with people who are homosexuals,
people who are homosexuals, who engage in homosexual behavior, who engage in homosexual behavior, if we're talking about Muslims, and we're talking about people who are doing this privately,
then we have to understand that we need to have compassion towards these people, that these people need our compassion. They need our support.
They need our prayers.
Because can is it possible is it possible that somebody engages in homosexual behavior privately? They feel bad about it.
That's why they don't publicize it. They know that they're doing something wrong, but they do it. Is it possible that they still love Allah and His messenger? The answer is yes. Like that Sahabi at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, who would be brought out and punished for drinking alcohol. And it was done multiple times, until some of the Sahaba got irritated. And they said, How many times is he going to do that? And the prophets of Allah Islam said, don't speak badly about this person. This is a person that is being given the HUD punishment for drinking in public, drinking alcohol because he's addicted to alcohol, right? And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, I
know for a fact that he loves Allah and His messenger.
So now, if a person loves Allah and His Messenger, and he's struggling with something privately,
how can I not be a friend of his, actually, I need to be his friend, especially if I want to do that to help him. And especially because I'm his friend, because of those qualities that he has, that Allah and His Messenger love.
But if it's a person, on the other hand, who validates homosexual behavior, and who defends homosexual behavior, then I should be very careful, I should be very careful. And then when it comes to non Muslims, and I'll close with this in sha Allah, non Muslim, homosexual person, for example, right? A non Muslim homosexual person,
if I am spiritually mature enough to live a life of a die.
And that's really something that should be all of our goal, that we want to live the life of a die, we are living a life in which we want everybody to come closer to Allah subhanaw taala. That's what we want. And that's what we're working towards. If that's the mission of my life, then yes, I deal with this person with this attitude that I want to help this person, this non Muslim coworker, friend, colleague, classmate of mine, I want to help him come closer to Allah subhanaw taala Yes, he has a problem here, he has other problems, but he might have no have some good in him that I want to utilize to bring him closer to Allah and inshallah he'll overcome these other challenges that he
has, right, he may not completely overcome the attraction aspect, but he may be able to overcome the behavioral aspect of it. But if I am not at that level, if I'm not at the level, where I am living the life of a die, I myself am struggling with my own Iman, I myself am struggling with my own practice of Islam, then for me to spend extended periods of time with a person like this is very dangerous. And I need to be very careful, I need to be real with myself. That because if I whenever you put yourself in an environment, either you will change your environment or your environment will change you. And if you are not strong enough to have a positive influence over your environment,
then the other way is what's happening and you need to be real with yourself and at the end of the day, we need to protect ourselves before we protect others who and full circle. Polycom Nara, Allah Allah Allah Allah. wa Salam wa salam because
he's talking about Russia herstellen I understand that this is a very loaded question. And, and I think, masha Allah, may Allah subhanaw taala bless you immensely for answering this question the most general way.
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first of all, is that we have to assume you need to make a step 510 times first, okay, for coming late. Okay.
And it's not like, you know, he felt he felt bad. He, you know, one is like, you know, when you get late to the class so we can get late to a program. You just come from the side, you know, he's like, you know, I came late. You can walk right in the middle of
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He's harsh with the students when they're late. But when he becomes the sheriff, he becomes late himself. So 100
Okay, so we'll see. We'll see him, can you. The question I have for you is that can you shed light on this? I have the Quran a tabula Nasseri building with Amazon.
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continue this conversation that I asked Chuck our salon. So mostly we're seeing the question I have for you. And the reason why once again, if you talk about you talk about these issues, the shift Arsalan was addressing, at the same time from the concept of or from the perspective of chivalry. One of the things that is affecting our young men from being true men and will lie today resulted fudge I talked about this for those of you who are here, I talked about this and I've talked about this extensively in the past that one of the things that I've seen is that our young men are no longer reachable. They're not men, you know, what do you call men? Like the way I'm gonna Hello will
define a man the way Alia will have you thought it would define a man today, we lack that. And the reason why we like that is because there's so many factors playing to this in our society. So getting back to the discussion here. The question I have for Matthias team is that
how do you deal with someone and because you're someone who deals with the youth a lot, you are considered as a community leader.
That what if someone does come to you, and they have this issue, where they are going through this challenge of maintaining their faith, and they basically, they don't identify perhaps they come in they disclose to you that they do not belong to any particular gender? Or they are someone of the opposite gender, then Allah subhanaw taala crave them, and they bring this issue to you and so forth. What from a sonic perspective, what will be the best way to handle what kind of advice would you give to someone who's struggling with this? With this matter?
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all of the challenges, I think that we're facing in our time can be summarized into two words
Shubho hot, and shallot,
doubts and desires.
With that being said, there is this interesting habit that Allah subhanahu wa tharla executes at times. And they're referred to as ring composition. We see it at times in the Quran. So the use of AYATUL kursi. These are great examples of bring compositions, where the beginning and the end, they kind of like link with each other.
Allah subhanahu wa tharla captures and expresses to us the earliest conversation
between shaitan and him
and in their shaitan makes very daring and bold threats to Allah subhanho wa taala.
One of them is Leila uronema, Allah Allah,
that they will alter what Allah has created. And people over the years have really talked and speculated on what is the exact definition of this.
And
when we see that in the end of times,
there's a concept of the gel that we know about antigen and budget is just obscurity, confusion, hysteria, you don't know what's going on.
And we know the Moldavia had been at least seven out of enough so who out of ba ba who the person who can understand themselves can truly find their Allah subhanho wa taala. If you don't know who you are, how can you find your hola
digesting all of this? What it seems, is that prior to the coming of the job there is mass confusion and Dojo is Jana, Johanna, Johanna, Ms. Jana.
people viewing themselves and not knowing where they stand on something that it was considered rudimentary for all of history and time gender was considered rudimentary, wasn't a concept of doubt and confusion.
modernists will argue and say that society suppressed them and therefore, we did not know about it. But the reality was that suppose society existed the way it existed for 1000s of years. Now society encourages it and provokes it and shuns those who don't acknowledge it. Billions are poured into this. These are minorities we've seen plethora of minorities exist in this country before and across the West.
and generally they're received with abuse and they're received with being ostracized and persecuted. But in the last decade, two decades,
more so in the last decade or so, we see this increase of giving people this concept and this idea that do whatever you want.
Otherwise, throughout history, the most elite people were the ones who
accepted and projected discipline. They accepted it for themselves, and they showcased it with everyone else. As you start getting higher in European civilization again, the discipline the fork for this and the Victorian ethics and so on and so forth. Same thing in higher society was always referred to the more discipline someone has, they're considered to be a person who has elite ethics if I come to
a dinner or a wedding and by the way, that's why I'm late.
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how I went to a Hyderabadi wedding one time in Hyderabad.
Wala was scared.
The person there was like a whole line of people sitting down Sherwani and Bunton really good, right? I'm all excited had that about the wedding finally getting in touch with my roots, or at least half of them.
And the guy comes with the current pulls it and literally like 200 300 people storm it. And they're running and they're grabbing the food and I have never seen people even at hazard estimate like this
and the worst part was the groom was part of
it.
And more than that, my uncle was pushing me as a general jelly jelly, you have to go otherwise you're not gonna get food. And I was just like after that guy's hand when in the curry I'm okay.
And you realize a person has discipline doesn't go there, the considered more ethical everywhere discipline is key. You can't become Elon Musk, or you can become successful in the dunya audit without discipline.
And the idea is projected the pursuit of happiness to do whatever you want and disregard discipline.
So people, I haven't personally experienced any of our youth, I'm sure that they exist. I've I've dealt with youth who had homosexual tendencies, inclinations, all different types of problems. I haven't come across on Hamdulillah, at least in our community, or outside with a young Muslim addressing me and saying that I have this issue. But yes, I have had tons that come and told me that their friends are people in school, and it's not normalized like everyone does it. If you shun it, you're ostracized in school, you're bullied in school. So you have to give that level of support. And I don't want to get political. But we do have to down our ideological and political lines, we do
have to understand that where we are drawing our lines also reflects on the values that we are supporting. And we are showcasing to our community. We can't constantly in the name of having some level of security and safety and some platform always support
platforms, that project and that promote ideologies that vastly strip people of the essence of Iman and deen and Islam and that identity.
Anyhow, to summarize,
I tell people who come to me with this problem with their friends and
I tell them that in my understanding is that we are at a time where this person is suffering some people suffer from Shabbat doubt some suffer from desires Shabbat some with a mix of both but this is some deep
Shewhart hot and confusion where you are no longer seeing what you are seeing and you're saying I am not this
this is not what I am and Islam is very big on having your insight and your outside being unity your private life and your public life and unity here your public life is in contrast
with what you're saying like it's Islam is a very straightforward religion when it comes to these things. It wants you to be very genuine honest, you cannot
You cannot take your adopted parents name, and you cannot take it as your own name. Islam is very big on being genuine, you cannot lie about your dreams be genuine. But these individuals have a level of Shabbat and a level of Chabot hots, and the reality is giving younger children and people that opportunity to decide for these things is very dangerous.
I would take a step back and ask people that
not even scientifically, do we have enough studies and research on the consequences of giving those massive decisions? To under age, we know for anyone, it's a big problem. But starting with just the children.
Some of our kids were telling us today that are to be and I was telling him I was like, in my school when I was studying, there was like one kid, maybe, you know? And that was it. Like, no, in our school, the teachers and the teachers teaching us a class on how to do. It's like, literally, it's literally pushed down.
So I believe we have to have a strong stance, like there has to be a level where we have to draw the line and say, no, no, this is well against us. And by us
ignoring and accepting this concept. It puts our own children or our communities, our own families and our own values at risk.
In the preface, our sentence time, there was a concept of something called hidden fat.
And it's till now, people who are born biologically with multiple genders, or multiple private parts.
And the books of 50 debated, they talk about it, right? They'll tell you that, okay. What they will do at
the most that they'll try to do with any individual who has both private organs, is to classify them under agender.
So they have rulings, whether it's regarding the usage, whether it's regarding
the drawings in detail, though, I don't think it's needed to mention them, but they will push them in some gender, you're either male or female, even with that in the Halacha document.
And then you have like something called the hunter Mushkin. It's actually a concept called difficult. Click that. And that is where they they tick off all the conditions. You can't tell whether they're male or female, both organs work equally and everything, there's no way you can cite them. They have their own exclusive rules to them. And this is a biological test from ALLAH SubhanA they'll pray between the men and the women. So it's a it's a difficult scenario, and it's very rare that a curse
and we have rules for those but we cannot take those rules and apply them generally for someone who identifies as any other gender. However, from a fiddly perspective, if a person was to go gender reassignment surgery, though it is brought off they would be classified with the gender that they have had the origin of so if they do the assignment that would though it is put them in wrong, that's what they would be treated as there's perhaps difference of opinions in there, but that is the opinion of the law photographer is a good idea. Anyway. So in summary, I think that in so the use of Allah subhanaw taala mentioned towards the end I know you all are her father, I'm not where
Allah subhanaw taala says that you cannot get majority of the belief majority of the people on earth to become believers, Willow Huddleston, right even if, even if no matter how hard you tried, you can't change everyone. You can't fix everyone. And you can't get everyone to agree with you. And we have to be able to stand up proudly for our values, and not be ashamed of it.
Not be embarrassed by it and be bold about it does look a lot better. I think I'm over my time. So we're gonna Columbia I'm gonna slow down. Sorry. I was you know, for the last of the, the mic is all the way there. And I remember last time when I was at Sr.
I was talking and I went perhaps one minute above my time hand. No, not 10 It was probably two minutes, five. And the recorded. One thing was he was pulling the mic out of my hand. He's putting the entire wire so I don't have the wire. But shucks, I just looked at me. He says should we pull the wire? I'm like, I think we need to start pulling the wire. But right before that, he began to realize So lastly, Inshallah, I will ask Chef Yasa quality. And, you know, this is a question that is, you know, we'd like to always give our own chef he has a quality the most difficult questions, you know, so I do have a
Question for you shake is that in our society in the community that we live in? If I can just say something about anything? Sorry, would you like to interject or anyone want to add to that? Because like I said, I haven't met anyone, if anyone wants to
say anything.
We'll just, hmm. So. So the question is that for a chef? Yes, it is that in our community, in our society, there is something called masculinity, there's something called femininity. So but is there any idea or concept within our deen as such as Islamic masculinity or Islamic femininity and so forth?
Is there anything that we find the Quran and the Sunnah about something of this concept? Can you please shed some light on this matter? That allows salatu salam ala Rasulillah? Who are the early he will be he won't know what I'm about masculinity and femininity SubhanAllah? Where does one begin?
Without getting too controversial. Just to give you an idea of how sensitive this topic is, most of us are aware recently a very famous celebrity online online converted to Islam. And the amount of social media drama that took place around this person's conversion
was something unprecedented. I have never seen it in my life, about somebody's conversion. And I'm not going to get into the details of that maybe one day, but not for today. What I would do want to point out the level of sensitivity and anger and frustration, that, frankly, was divided by the genders within our own community.
The vast majority of young men felt one way. And the vast majority of our sisters felt another way. And what I found extremely troubling, was this toxic divide, that does not bode well for us as an Oma.
And we have to be very frank about this tension, there is no point in avoiding this tension. And I don't care about the controversy. What I care about is the symptoms, the dynamics, the reality of what it demonstrated, for us, there is a lot of frustration, anger, misunderstanding,
that each of the two genders in our own community, in our own Muslim Ummah, in the Western world. And perhaps in the eastern as well, I'm not familiar with that, as much is feeling against the other gender. And well law, he this is not healthy, we're not supposed to be setting each other up as the enemies, which is what is happening. We're having a gender divide, and a potential gender war,
and the types of language and whatnot and this individual, this personality became a pawn in a bigger battle. It's not about the person and whatnot. It's about how brothers felt and the expressions they used, and the happiness and the promotion, and how sisters felt betrayed, and hurt and whatnot, we need to be brave enough to confront this very awkward reality. And all of it centers around what it means to be masculine and feminine. That's the whole purpose of the anger that happened. Because this person embodies a version of masculinity. That's really what it is that a lot of our brothers, specially the younger ones are attracted to. And they want this version and they
think that it is Islamic. And that version of masculinity, again, I'm not talking about the person drama, with the concept around him the idea was viewed by the majority of our sisters to be not Islamic, toxic, even evil. And when they saw our brothers and masing, who's right on right now, I'm gonna go to this, when they saw our brothers embrace that ideal of masculinity. They felt betrayed, and hurt. Why would you do this? Why would you take this person who is not embodying masculinity, and put him on a pedestal and be so happy make dua for him? Yeah, but why put him up in this manner? And on the flip side, a lot of our brothers became defensive, even if he's made one mistake and one
incorrect, he's made nine correct, for example, right? Even if this issue is wrong, overall, he is talking about masculinity. And in my humble opinion, of course, time is limited as usual. In my humble opinion, what it is, is that when we live in this politically correct environment, where nobody can speak the truth,
then extremism thrives. This is what is the reality. When you cannot preach the moderate truth, then those who go to the fringes become the popular figures. Well,
Allah He the exact same reasons why a person like Donald Trump and like after bringing that politics is popular amongst the far right, right? Because he says what is uncomfortable to say he speaks the truth in the minds of those who believe in Him? Not I'm not saying the truth in the minds of those who look up to him, those politically inconvenient that racist, you know, the Islamophobic, the anti Mexican, anti Muslim, anti, they can't say it in this political environment, right. So when this person comes along and expresses it, he gets this hardcore loyal fan base.
And the opposite as well, in the far left, when you have people who again, it's a two way street here. So bottom line,
it's because we refuse to talk about masculinity and femininity, that these types of people thrive, and this entire tension arises, five minutes left, is there something called masculinity? Of course there is.
That's the whole point. This society we live in is saying, gender is a choice. It is saying gender roles are a social construct. And if you dare say something to the contrary, you're labeled a bigot. You're labeled Emma Sanders, you're labeled the misogyny you labeled this and that you shall be fired from your job, you will not be promoted socially. I thank Allah I don't have to worry about jobs outside of Masjid place because honestly, had I been employed by any other place. Even to say there are two genders can get you fired these days. So obviously, when you can't speak basic biological truths, then you have a macho figure coming along from whatever it striper tracks. And he
says 80% Maybe you know, something that is real and 20% Maybe that's not that is overlooked, because at least somebody is standing up to that walk crowd to that extremist left crowd. So both sides need to put themselves in the other shoes for a little while understand why is there something called masculinity? Yes, of course, the Quran says well, he said that Gurukul owns. The Quran says the male is not like the female will lie. This is so simple. You would think why is in the Quran? Well, because right now people are being told the male and the female are the same. And Allah told us the male does not like the female, if the male does not like the female who what are the Halacha
commands that could anyone say Who created you from a man and a woman, right? And Allah says, which I mean, has Oh, Jaha from the one the spouse was created, each of the two comes from each of the two, every man comes from a man and woman, every woman comes from the man and woman, there is wisdom in this. And by the way, even to this day, you can pretend you're something else. Still, a child has to be born from a biological man and a biological woman. You can change this biological fact. And even if you try to construct, it's not going to change the reality. So if there are two genders, as we believe, then this automatically implies the two genders are not the same. If they're not the
same, this automatically implies there are masculine characteristics and there are feminine characteristics. This is something all of humanity accepted and agreed, not just Muslims, up until the modern wokers leftist culture has come and presented an alternative version of reality. There is something called Guru joola. And there is something called Gusa. Now we're talking today about fatawa. For to what is
$1 Since masculinity, it's a young man. It's basically the beginnings of arugula. For to work is basically the beginnings of arugula when you are starting up and whatnot. And of course, the aspects of voodoo are maintained along with you throughout this. What does the Quran tell us about the characteristics of a man? Well, let me mention you some verses and you will see what a man is and it is not any internet personality. It is not somebody who is talking the way that certain people are about women. How does the Quran describe men? Look at what the Quran says. Mina Mina, Reja alone, saw the Puma hula Ali. Amongst the believers are men that each child, Allah's uses it literally the
way we say, be a man that's what a man does. This is how the Quran uses the term. Amongst the believers is a category of people. Allah calls them real men, and he doesn't mean biological men. He means a group of people. This verse was revealed for those who are the bravest in the battle, and some of them lost their lives defending Islam. Allah says these are your men. This is what you call masculinity. When push comes to shove, when courage needs to be shown, when you need to sacrifice for the sake of the greater good men will be at the forefront, sacrificing their lives for their families, for their societies for their peoples for the OMA that's masculine
At what is masculinity? Allah says in the Quran in surah Toba regarding regarding Masjid Koba, right, let us do the salah TacoMan Oh William Murphy fee Hedy John on your hipbone and your Tata Hello, Regina. There are men that frequent Masjid Koba and Allah is praising them because they are regularly praying in the masjid, after having done will do and go there small things like this. And this is more exclusivity the same concept more expressly mentioned in Surah Noor fi boo tin Aldine Allah Who until the fall where youth kerevi has small in the houses of Allah, Allah allows you to raise your voice and to recite the Quran. And there are those who are coming to these who are they
that IJA don't once again men notice this is true jeweler men who are these men largely empty Jarrah and whether they are on on decree, ly who are masala Toyota is Erica, neither their businesses nor their transactions, prevent them from constantly coming to the masjid worshipping Allah subhana wa Tada thinking of life and death, return on largely empty jar to worry about and declare it as aka your half moon or yo woman, that acculevel Fear Paulo wall of sorrow. These are men who are scared not of the dunya of the Kiama their fear does not come from this world. Their fear does not come from anything of this dunya what are they Maha? What is the hope coming from? They have to answer to
Allah on the Day of Judgment. This is what it means to be a man. So oh youngsters, just because you find somebody saying there's two genders. And then he says bad things about women and puts women down and makes fun of women. That's not masculinity. Wallahi that's not masculinity. Real masculinity is not demonstrated by machonis against the women. And for most of human history, women were called the weaker sex. It's politically incorrect to say that they were called the weaker sex not to make fun of them. But to make men in their place. Don't take advantage of them physically. They're weaker, physically, they're weaker. So then you have a responsibility to treat them with
more dignity than you treat men. And that's why even in this culture before this woke ism, and leftism came, even in this culture, it was inculcated in the men and the gentleman, when they see a lady, they're supposed to take their hat off out of respect for her. When they see a lady, they opened the door for her. When there's an emergency women and children first, we're going to stay here and die, you're going to be saved. That is chivalry. That is what Islam is teaching what men are that you sacrifice for the sake of the women in the Battle of the name of the but I forgot when the process was coming back.
But I'm wondering what the process was coming back, right. And Angelica is rushing forward because he's wanting to get to Medina, and issues on the camel, and he's rushing forward. The Prophet system says, oh, Angelica, that if one Bill Cody is gentle, you have fragile crystal vessels on you. This is what it means to be a man. The Prophet system is thinking of the comfort of the women. That's what it means to be a man. You sacrifice and you're conscious of the realities of your women folk, you take on the burden, rather than they take on the burden. That is masculinity. As for macho speech, putting women down mocking them, making them feel bad? Where did you learn this masculinity
from? Where in the Quran and Sunnah were in this era of the Prophet system? Did you learn this to be masculinity? So if any convert embraces Islam, we welcome them and hamdulillah but if we want to put them on a pedestal and platform, they had better get their act together. They had better learn to speak properly about the deen if we want to promote them otherwise, if anybody converts, we're happy for their conversion, no problem hamdulillah and those that were not happy, they need to think that's also a major problem right under the doubt. Anyway, back to this issue. Because we don't have time. I'm not going to go there. But there is masculinity this automatically means there must also
be femininity, that's the whole point. And the Quran and Sunnah also has this concept as well. But today's talk is about fotoweb and masculinity. So to conclude, what is masculinity in the Quran? First and foremost, what we find in the Quran, a level of courage and sacrifice. Secondly, masculinity, put your priorities in order your priorities, your schedule, Salah rabada Masjid taharah no business no wealth will distract you from what is your priorities. Thirdly, masculinity, me
means you're not scared of the dunya you're scared of Allah subhanho wa Taala that is ultimate masculinity and then from the Sierra and the sooner we learn and from the Quran as well or reach out to our Munna other Nisa, men original, how am I the nisa hawan. They are responsible for women. It's not a superiority, it is a responsibility you are responsible to take care of to protect to defend. That's what being a man is. If your woman doesn't feel safe with you, you're not a man. If your woman doesn't know she can trust you take care of her financially protect her, then you haven't been a man to her. I reach out to our moon other Nisa that is the reality of masculinity. So yes, there's
something called masculinity, and we'll love it, we should not be ashamed to reclaim it. Final point. If all of us collectively as men spoke like men and acting like men, perhaps our youngsters would not be aggrandizing weirdos and other people perhaps. But because we live in this climate where everybody is cowering and silent and whatnot, well, then this gives the opportunity of extremism to take place, we have to be the middle nation, we have to be on within Washington, may Allah subhana wa Tada granting greatest alto feeling a clause which is optimal, okay.
So, Inshallah, we're gonna go ahead and conclude, I know is starting to get late. So Inshallah, we'll go ahead and conclude, I do understand that some of you may have questions, I would request that if you do have questions, Inshallah, you can come and ask each person here individually. There's just one question that was actually left out. From all this.
I would request if someone here on this panel can just quickly address that it was going back to shift or salons question that I had asked him. And that is that in a time that we live in here, when it comes to supporting certain types of people, certain groups of people.
And you know, in, in a, whether you want to call it a parade or a protest, and things of that type, what is the extent of support that we can offer to certain people in the community, if anyone here can quickly just address that
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When I come to ICs, like so you can put me on the spot.
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So one thing I will say is that I, this is a question that was
that was asked much before and I will say this to this point that
when it comes to our deen, as Sheikh Hassan said, making sure that who we associate ourselves with and so forth. And if we are supporting something, that Allah and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam have forbidden,
then to stand with people of that type, and to celebrate that notion, that concept, that ideology, that also if the act in itself is haram, to support the Act, is also haram, which also means that to be part of a movement also is haram, which also means that to be part of their overall gatherings and to celebrate this idea that Allah and His Prophet saw some despise, also becomes haram. And the one thing that Chef Yasser mentioned, that we need to we are living in a time where he forgot to mention the word, which was canceled culture. This is the time that we're living in. We're living in an era where if you speak what is the HAC, you will be canceled.
If you speak up for what is in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW Salem. See, it is easy, then be very frank here.
I may be stepping on some toes here. It's very easy for people to talk about common knowledge he things talking about. We often talk about FIP. We talked about Sita, we talk about Hadith. We talk about so many different aspects of our deen. Why is it that today these are the things that today even many Allah ma they stay away from? Because it's the fear of being cancelled. It's the fear of what people will say. Look at Bollinger it always comes down to that. So the key thing is, if something is haram, to support it in any capacity is all
also haram and to be part of the celebration of it or to acknowledge it is also haram. So inshallah I'll leave it at that. I ask Allah subhana wa Tada to protect us may Allah subhanahu protect our upcoming generations and may Allah subhanho wa Taala keep us all the deen is on the inner Huck Middleboro anime zakat Mala I want to say thank all the shield who came
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