Yasir Qadhi – Rewards For Being Good To Family And Relatives

Yasir Qadhi
AI: Summary © The Arabic language is discussed, including its historical and cultural significance. The speakers emphasize the importance of strong family ties and sharing the message of Islam, particularly in times of stress or anxiety. They also advise parents to chart out their own family trees and discover their own origins to fulfill their interests and interests of their children. The importance of finding one's own family history and finding one's own family history to connect with others is emphasized, as well as avoiding negative behavior and not giving personal information.
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In Al Hamdulillah

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yeah Johan NASA hora de como la de hakomi nuptse wahida wahala caminhadas oh jaha Weber salmon Houma de Jalan Cassie Romani Sir, what taco la Khaled eat as an owner v one or ham in the law, her con la cumbre theva ama bar. And we always begin our chutzpah with this ayah from Surah Nisa, and it is something that is from the Sunnah of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he would typically begin his sermons with this hope but that hajer that is called and included in it is the first verse of suta Nisa and this verse goes as follows yeah yohannes Oh yeah, you already know Amen. Oh you believe it to LA how to potty fear Allah subhana wa Tada. it a lot. Fear Allah azza wa jal who

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created you from a single soul, and from that soul created its mate. And what Allah hi lady Tessa, una de Waal or ham. Fear Allah. So it's repeated twice in the verse. Fear Allah, in whose name you ask each other for what you want. And also have Taqwa of Allah ham. What Allah hi lady Tessa, Luna v one or ham. Now this ayah has caused our scholars to try to interpret what does it mean that Allah is saying fear the or ham? What are ham? What does it mean to have Taqwa of our ham and what is our ham? Our ham is the plural of Rahim. And Rahim translates as quite literally the womb. You call the womb of a woman you call it a Rahim. But of course, there is a deeper connotation, and that is the

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connotation of family. The connotation of family. The Arabic word for family, and for kinship is a Rahim from the word for room, because obviously, all members of a family, they go back to one person or one couple, every tribe, every group of cousins and second cousins, and third cousins, eventually they all go back to one womb. And so the concept of family in Arabic comes from the word womb or Rahim, Allah says in the Quran, have Taqwa of Allah, in whose names you ask things for and have Taqwa of our ham. What does it mean to have Taqwa of our ham? Our scholars have said this verse can be understood in one of two ways. Number one, Allah is saying,

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have Taqwa of Allah,

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in whose name you ask people to give you things, meaning what you say I asked you by Allah helped me, by Allah, I asked you to help me. And in the name of the family, you ask people to help you. So this means you will go to your brother, your cousin, you will say for the sake of family, we are brother, we are cousin, I need your help. So Allah is reminding that the family unit takes care of each other. Another interpretation is be conscious of the rights of a law and be conscious of the rights of the family, have Taqwa of Allah, and have Taqwa of the rights of the family. And both of these interpretations are valid in the Koran. And what they imply is that the family has a high

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privilege second to Allah subhanho wa Taala. We all know in the Quran that a lot puts the rights of the parents after a lot this is true. But the reality is that the rights of the family come after the rights of a law and within the family. The parents have the most right. So in the Quran, you will find verses that it's a lot and then the parents, but you will also find verses that it's a lot and then the family and there's no contradiction, because who deserves the most amongst the family. It is the parents, for example, in Surat Al Baqarah, Allah subhana wa tada says, What is the HUD Allahu mitaka Bani Israel he remember when a lot took the covenant with the children of Israel. He

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What was this covenant? What was this covenant? That they worship Allah subhanho wa Taala and they'd be good to their parents would be the Cordoba and their family, Walia, Tama and the orphans while masakan and the poor and certainly sad the exact same thing, where I go to LA to shoot a movie and what did why did any sun and would be the quarterback? Well your timer will Misaki Annie well Jerry the horrible job he was a Belgium the same essential commandment that Allah has commanded you to worship Him alone. And don't associate partners with him. That should be good to your parents and to the relatives, and the orphans and the poor, and the close neighbors and the foreign neighbors and

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the companions and the traveler and the verse goes on and on. Notice, Allah mentions family, before even mentioning orphans. Allah mentions family before even mentioning the full color and Misaki in worship Allah be good to parents and fulfill the ties of the family and be good to the orphans and be good. So notice where this family come after Allah and the parents comes the family. And as we said, the family includes the parents. And in fact, we learn from the CEO of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, that in reality, this is of the very earliest commandments. I'm a diviner Ibis that came from Yemen to Mecca. And he was searching for the truth. And it's a long story we mentioned in

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the syrup. This is before the Prophet system began preaching publicly. And he heard that there's somebody hiding in Mecca or hiding means he's not public not hiding that he doesn't. The people don't see him that he is not public in his message that is preaching a separate message. And so I'm gonna have nabasa he found out who the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was, and he went up to him and he said, What are you meant? So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, nlb, I am an IB. So he said, One man, that'd be what is an IB? He's never heard of an IB. So the President said out of salah and Illa, Allah has sent me Allah has sent me and the prophet and I would have never said,

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what has Allah sent you with? What has Allah sent you with? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, out of Salah Neela, who Allah has sent me With what? Number one, that we worship Him alone, and we destroy idols. And number two, that we fulfill the ties of kinship with bid and Sn. This was the only commandment at this point in time, there's no other commandment, there is no sila, and Zakah there is no edge. What has Allah sent me with? Number one that he be worshipped alone and no idols? And number two, that we'd be good to see that to our ham, that we'd be good with those of our kinship and our ties of real relationship. And if you see how clear this understanding was, when

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you look at other incidents of this era, when the Muslims migrate to Abyssinia, and the negus, calls, jaffery nebuta. And he says, What is your message? What has the process have told you? And once again, we find the same paragraph He has sent sent us to worship one God, and to avoid false gods, and to be good to our family, and to speak the truth and it goes on and on. But the second commandment was thriller, or ham.

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The same goes in front of the emperor of Rome, the Roman Emperor, when he hears of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And he calls Abu sufian. And he says, What does he teach you? What is the prophets message, and that was to fear that the time was not even a Muslim. But he knew what the message of Islam was. He said, he is teaching us to worship one God, and to be good to our family.

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Look at how the message of Islam was perceived by the early converts, and even by the early rejecters, both Jaffa and Abu sufian Jaffa is the early convert of Luciana at the time as an enemy, but both of them summarized Islam with the same paragraph. Worship one God and be good to the sailor to our ham, and Scylla total ham as we as we said, it means to be good to the entire family, not just parents, siblings, cousins, uncles and aunts and the extended relatives. And the In fact, the concept of fulfilling the ties of kinship is so strong that Allah commands the early Muslims to guard the relatives more than to guard the relationship with the Mahajan, and unsought which is the

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highest status of the Sahaba. Allah explicitly says that the family ties are even stronger than the ties of the more hydrogen and the unsought and your love for them. Imagine that the family unit and the family ties are stronger than that.

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Love we should feel for the more hi Joan and the answer and Allah mentions this in multiple verses in the Koran of them.

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That Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions and bu Ola mininum and footsy him was one of you Omaha to him. Well Oh no, our hammy bow go home. The bow then feed fee kitabi la mina Mina will Mahajan,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is closer to the believers. He cares more about the believers than they care about themselves. In other words, the Prophet says Adam cares more about you than you care about yourself. And his wives or their mothers was why'd you Omaha to him? Well, oh no, our ham bow to whom Allah be bow family members. They have to have stronger ties with one another than even the meaning and the Mahajan should have ties with them. Now, the context of the verse is primarily about inheritance primarily. But the wording is very clear. The family unit is supposed to have very strong ties. And I already mentioned that in Arabic, the word for family comes

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from the word for Ruth womb, and that is a Rahim. But all of you also know when you hear the word Rahim that another thing comes to mind and that is the concept of mercy or AHIMA. Ar Rahman it is from the same root. And this is not a coincidence, in a hadith in Sahih al Bukhari in an editor's body. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, When Allah created the creation and he finished creating the creation, or Rahim stood up. Now how could the womb stand up? How could the family stand up this is from in Malay, we do not know the family the concept of families stood up, or Raheem stood up. And here we translate Abraham has the concept of family, families stood up and

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family said to Allah subhana wa Tada. This is the time now to seek refuge in You and to get the status that I deserve, what is the status I have? So when a lot created the creation, everything has been created. Family stands up, however we don't understand how. And family the concept asks a lot. Now that I've been created, I want to know my macom What is my macom in your eyes? And Allah subhana wa tada says, orange shoe content that I shall associate with those who associate with you assume and was lucky the Arabic is very powerful. Whoever associates with one's family, I shall associate with them.

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And acquirement kotaki whoever breaks away from their family, I shall break away from that person. Aren't you happy? Aren't you content, that I shall be associating with those who associate with you. Whoever fulfills the ties of family, I shall be with that person.

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And whoever breaks off the ties of family I shall break off from that person. This Hadith Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim the most authentic book of Hadith, what a powerful Hadith and what a dangerous warning to those who cut off the ties of the family in a similar version slightly different in Santa Ana Timothy and others. The Hadeeth goes as follows that the Allah subhana wa tada says to the prostitute says that Allah says, Allah Allahu Allah right man, I am a law and I am a rock man. And I created the rock him and what I know right man holla to him, so there's a clear usage of the term of rock man and I am a rock man. And I created the family. And I derived My name

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from the Rahim shockula Essman ministry. So from the concept of family, Allah is saying, I derive My name or ramen. In other words, the name of a man and the concept of family are linked together not just linguistically, intentionally by Allah subhana wa Tada, the word for family and the most powerful name of allah after Allah is the name of man.

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And Allah says, My name is man and from a right man I created a Rahim and from a Rahim I extracted my name in other words, the two are linked together. Family and man are linked together. And that is why in the same Hadith, Allah subhana wa tada says that whoever connects with a Rahim has connected with me all right, man, and whoever cuts off on the right has cut off from me. Alright, man. So if you want the right formula, man, you have to be connected to the right team. And if you don't want the right amount

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All right man, then cut off from the raw him. This is what the editors saying. If you want a loss of a hammer, you have to be connected to the sinner to our ham, the concept of connecting with your kinship. And in fact, cutting off from one's family is one of the very few acts in the Koran that brings about a loss Ladner Allah Islam is the most severe punishment, it is worse than a loss add up. Not everybody who suffers either is under a loss. Lana, hear me carefully. Not everybody who suffers Azov is under a loss Laettner because there will be many who will undergo either but then be forgiven after that. There will be many who will be punished in jahannam and that is Allah adapt,

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but then they will be forgiven and they will enter agenda. But there is a category that is worse than Allah Adam and that is Allah and Alice Lana is the ultimate punishment.

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Who will be given to what the Quran mentions around a dozen or so just two dozen and one of them. One of the categories upon whom Allah Lana is given is the one who cuts off the Rahim Allah says in the Quran, we'll leave it when levena young una de la de Missa t y yakata una Allah Allahu be unused Allah, what you see doing a film out of Allah ecola Hama, Lana to Allah home Sudan, the ones who break off on less covenant. So to commit the major sins our scholars have said, and the ones who cut the ties that Allah has commanded them to fulfill, while Yokota una amatola, who be unusable and this is the family. So the one who cuts off the ties of the family and the one who spreads facade in

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the world, he spreads evil in the world, he's genocide and evil in the world. These are the three people Allah says with the economic ladder, they have a last line and they shall have the worst abode in the hereafter. So of the people whom Allah has cursed in the Quran, is the one who cuts off from the family. Now the question arises, what does it mean to fulfill the ties of kinship? What does sila to our ham mean? the Quranic term and the Hadith term is similar to our ham. And by the way, I gave a quote but he recently what is the very first holdover that our Prophet sallallahu Sallam gave when he entered Medina I gave a whole book about that that the Prophet system said that

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our people spread the set up and feed the hungry will see our ham and be connected to your relatives and feed and pray when everybody's asleep usually antigen in solemn notice of the earliest commandments even in Medina. We'll see Luke or ham Silla toto him. What does it mean? sudo Rahim Silla and wasaga means to connect what sort of means to connect. And r Rahim as we said, means the family. So see that means to remain connected with your extended family in a manner that is acceptable and according to the culture of one's time. So what this means is that you are in touch with your family. It means that you're showing them love, you're showing them kindness, you're

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showing them concern, it means that you're aware of what's going on of the one of our scholars of the past said that giving Salaam to your relatives is of the acts of Silla, Tottenham, simply giving set up. And of course, in those days, there was no phone to get skipping, sometimes you have to visit them. So visiting your relatives is of the highest acts of solitude. Simply going out of your way to visit your relatives is an act of Senator Rahim. And of course, in our times, we haven't hamdulillah the phones and the WhatsApp and the messages and Facebook. Being connected with one's relatives is a sign of a man and it is a part and parcel of what all of us are commanded to do. Now

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the question also arises to what level is selected or ham necessary and mandatory and the response comes at the Shetty I did not come with the specific coding guidelines, the shediac came with general rules. And this varies from culture to culture and time to time and place to place. Obviously, our connections to our brothers and sisters, our blood brothers and sisters should be much stronger than our connection with our first cousins. And our connection with our first cousins is stronger than our connection with our second cousins. And it is human nature that after a while you lose track of your third and fourth cousins. This is all something that is understandable. But

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definitely our actual siblings, brothers and sisters. They have the most right over us after our parents and their children. And our first cousins and generally every one of us is aware of our first cousins we know all of our first cousins no matter how many we have, generally we're aware of them. There should be a contact, there should be the occasional phone call, there should be the invitation over to happy occasions which is what

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Culturally is accepted and the norm and many of us are aware of a good quantity of second cousins as well. And again, the second cousin is not like the first cousin. But the point is that as the strength of the relationship is stronger, so to the Silla Torah him should be stronger as well. And of the greatest acts of Soto Rahim is to take care of financially of our family and extended family, those that are in need. If you have anyone in your extended family, your cousins, your second cousins, your third cousins, if you have anybody who is deserving of charity, then find them and give them money over anybody else. In a hadith our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that

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giving to the poor is sadaqa. But giving to the relatives is both sada and Silla Torah and reported in society giving to the poor sadhaka that's good give to the poor, but giving to own corba the family this is both sadhaka and being good to your family. And

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Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions of the Quran and with this verse will always conclude the hood but what is the last verse everybody says around the world in the La Jolla Maru with with what Bill adly was a Sani was number three, what eata is a little Korba giving money to the relatives, Allah is commanding you to give money to your relatives who need money. So especially when it comes to South Africa, even when it comes to Zakat, and you don't have to tell your cousin your second cousin you're giving Zakat and it is not just permissible it is must to have to give your extended family your is a cat and your sofa. Now you cannot give the cat to your mother and father but you can give

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the cup to your your siblings and your cousins and your aunts and uncles. Just the general rule is you can give Zakat to them but not to your mother and father and not to your son and daughter. But other than this, yes, you may give Zakat and of course you can give sadaqa to everyone. So Scylla to our ham means to show love to show kindness, to show compassion, to be in touch with them to invite them for what needs to be invited to visit them whenever possible. And to help them financially. How far back does Rahim go? While there is no limit, in the end of the day, every one of us is connected with everybody else. And I want everybody to let that point sink and even though we know it, but

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every person you meet in this whole world, even your worst enemy, and your best friend and your acquaintance and your colleague, at some point in time, the two of you shared the same room. At some point in time, there was one person in the womb of a mother in the womb of a woman and the both of you are linked to that person at some point in time, every one of us is linked to one another. So there is no technical term that after the third cousin it is cut off. In fact in a very powerful headed a very strong, a beautiful Heidi our Prophet system predicted to the Muslims in netcom sedef di una missile, you are going to conquer missile you're going to conquer Egypt, this conquering took

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place 10 years after the process of died. But he predicted it in a concert after hoonah muscle, you're going to conquer muscle. And the idea goes on until he said when you concrete for us, you know either be good to the people whom you conquer for inilah home the mutton will see that

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because they have them status, they have protection status, and they have family status with you. Now what has the Egyptian family status got to do with the auto ship and the Arab family status hundreds of generations ago who is the mother of the kurush it is harder, and where is harder from her Judas from Egypt. But this is 1000s of years ago, like literally thought we don't even know the number of ancestors. And yet our prophecies that have said they are related to you their blood through your blood. Think about that. The Arab race at the time of the process of them. And the Egyptian rays have a different language, different civilization, different religion, everything is

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there, they don't even look the same. Nothing is the same 1000s of years have gone by from harder. But what are their process that I'm saying? Remember, they are in the end of the day your extended family. So there is no limit to when it comes to extended family. But obviously the point being that the closer people are then the better and the stronger those ties should be. And a practical advice brothers and sisters and I speak from my own experience here and it is a very, very healthy and a very interesting and a very Islamic project that it is I advise all of you to chart out your own relatives and your own family background to chart out your own family tree and to discover who your

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ancestors were and how you are linked with your extended family. This is a project that will increase your own appreciation of your heritage and it will bring family together. You will be amazed you will caught up a third cousin you never knew existed. And as soon as you tell him oh I am so and so the son of so and so the grandson of so and so we're linked like this

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All of a sudden barriers or our you know, broken doors are opened up, and you connect with family and you feel a part of family. And I speak from my own experience having done this for the last six or seven years. And it is a project that has brought me closer together with my extended family. And every one of us should do this. In fact, this is what the Sahaba advised, Bob said to them, and sabbia can learn your genealogies, learn your family trees, so that will help you to fulfill the ties of kinship and amongst the Arabs at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam it was considered to be a very noble science to know family history and genealogy and abubaker. So the

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rhodiola one was respected amongst the Muslims and non Muslims of his time, because he knew the genealogy of all the Arabs, you could ask him of any two Arabs and he would be able to connect them no matter how many generations back it went. And it is amazing that to this day, especially the tribe of garage, you know exactly how any two quarter issues are linked together. When you go back to the books of Sierra any kurachi with another quarter sheet, they have preserved their lineage and their history. But in our times, of course, all of this is now becoming a lost science. Nonetheless, we should keep it alive, especially brothers and sisters. We have broken away from our extended

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families back home and we're starting new families over here in America who don't even know maybe even your first cousins your children have no idea who they are. So it is your responsibility to pass that knowledge down and to keep it preserved. And this is of the ways we will come closer to Allah subhana wa Tada. Brothers and sisters Allah says in the Quran for RT the horrible haka, who will Myskina webinars Sabine, give the rights due to your family and give the rights due to the miskeen and to the wayfair that deca hi rU lilla Dino De Luna, watch how long it that is the best thing to do if you want the pleasure of Allah. And those are the true winners, may Allah subhana wa

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Tada, makers of those winners, Berta COVID will control and all the wonderful anyway, the massive action ridiculous Hakeem akula matters marone was tough for a lot of the money what what they said was, you know, call them in for sell food or water or food or Rahim

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hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah. He had a summit la de la mia did what am mula wollam, yaku, Khufu and I had two brothers and sisters, every one of us without exception, has certain members of our family who are problematic to deal with and this is the reality of human existence. Sometimes we feel Oh, only I have that weird uncle, that harsh cousin or that demeaning on No, every human being is tested with family members that are problematic to our sanity, our calmness, this is the reality and Allah says in the Quran, we have made groups of you to be tests to others watch your bow documentary about the internet and hospital and we made groups of you to be test and difficulties to others to see who

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amongst you will be patient. And no doubt brothers and sisters, that in dealing with such difficult family members, our Eman will be tested. One of the biggest tests of this life is to deal with difficult family members because we are battling between our egos and submission to Allah. Really, that's as simple as that. It is our ego. My uncle said this I'm not going to forgive him. My cousin did this at the wedding. I'm never going to stay say Salaam to him again. This is my ego speaking. And we know the commandment of Allah subhana wa tada when it comes to family. And it's very difficult to battle one's ego when it comes to the family issues. But this is where Eman is

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demonstrated. Now, no doubt caveat here, no doubt if a family member is physically harmful to you. We're not asking you know anybody to get physical harm. And no doubt some family members are psychologically so traumatic, that it will affect your amount or you feel you will not be able to control your temper. So in those cases, when it's psychological, it's no doubt that you need to act wisely and perhaps not expose yourself to a situation where you will fail. But even if you decide that there's a psychological trauma, you don't want to be with this family member, then make sure that that is a temporary intention. You are not allowed to boycott for more than three days and

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boycotting is set up and in your heart make it your desire that insha Allah will heal this over time, some practical advice what to do with difficult family members, five simple pieces of advice number one, number one,

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think long and hard about the source of the problem. And remind the source of that one meeting your egos and trying to say not to the actual incident that happened because always these incidents happen and remind yourself that the test is not

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To prove yourself in his or her eyes, the test is to prove yourself in the eyes of Allah. The test is not to come out looking the winner or the loser when it comes to your relative. The test is to come out the winner when it comes to a law on Judgement Day. remind yourself of the verses of the Quran of Silla Toad or ham of the Hadith of the Prophet system about the concept of family and ask yourself, don't you want to come out the winner on judgment day? Number two, give any problem some time. Time heals all wounds, Time heals all wounds. This is the facts of life, no matter how bitter and angry or with your cousin today, inshallah one year from now it won't be that bad. Two years

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from now will be even better. So give it some time, and is of the greatest it is of the greatest ironies of life for some bizarre reason, that at times of weddings when everybody should be happy, family strife comes up, and perhaps the worst arguments take place. And it is the greatest irony, the ironies of life, that at the time of death, families are mended together and wounds are healed. This is of the Sonata live, you helped me But why should we wait for death? And what if the person you're angry with dies, don't wait for a janazah to healed wounds with members of a family number three, number three, make dua to Allah subhana wa tada to soften your heart and the family member

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whom you're having a problem with. Ask yourself this. If you cannot even make dua to Allah to wound the hearts, then you really don't want so little or harm. Really, it's that simple. If you cannot raise your hands to Allah and say, Oh Allah, soften my heart and soften his heart so that we come brothers again, cousins again, uncle and nephew again, if you cannot even raise your hands to Allah and nobody's hearing you, this isn't the privacy of your house and you say Oh Allah, cleanse my heart and his have any animosity, any jealousy. Let us be friends as we used to be, let us be friendly as we used to be. If you cannot even make dua to Allah then will love you do not want

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silicone or ham. So don't kid yourself and don't fool yourself that somehow he is the worst of the two, even if he is what do you lose by raising your hands up to a lot and saying Oh Allah guide him and guide me to be close again. What do you lose? And remember what Allah says in the Quran, regarding the pagans of Makkah, and the Muslims when they embraced Islam, the pagans of Makkah and the Quran, when they embraced Islam, what does Allah say? You could never have imagined that you will be friendly with those people. Low unfucked Mr. Phil out of the Jimmy on my left have been approved by him when I came to La alphabay know, if you spend the entire money in this world, you

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wouldn't have brought those hearts together. But along was the one who brought those hearts together. So of the names of Allah, Yama, elephant lube, all who brings the hearts together. So make dua to Allah with the name Jamar elephant guru, and that Allah joins those hearts number four in the number five, we're done. Number four, try to begin with a positive gesture. Try to begin with a gift with something good and beat the better of the two and remember what our Prophet sallallahu Sallam said he doesn't say body. The true wall says the true one who connects with his relatives is not the one who treats the relative the way the relative treats him. If your relatives current your current

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if your relatives mean your mean, no, the true was it wasn't selected on him. The true connector is not the one who treats the same, but rather the one who connects when the other has broken off. This had a distance I body. The true connector was the one who does similar to that ham is not the one who treats the same. No, that's not what said, but the one who when your relative cuts off, you try to mend and you try to connect that is the truth. So the total ham and last but not least brothers and sisters, if all else fails, then be selfish and do silage or ham for your own benefit. And this is completely halal and permissible. What do I mean by this? The last Hadith will mention our

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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whoever wishes that Allah gives him a longer life, and that Allah increases his money and risk and that Allah saves him from an evil death. Now who amongst us does not want to live longer and live richer and die a peaceful death? Think about that. The three greatest worldly incentives that are possible to imagine

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whoever wishes that Allah gives him a longer life, and more money and a good death. folio Scylla rahima, who let him be good to his family? This is authentic integrity, and the process and why is he telling us this? Because sometimes all else fails. And we just do it because we want more money. We want more risk. We want more life and you know what is headed why is it that because we know that we're doing it for a line Allah will bless it will bless us with risk in the end of this

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It is linked to Allah and it is Allah. So if all else fails, be selfish for yourself. In this case, it's Helen. And you say, Oh Allah, I'm doing this because I trust you and I trust your soul. So the law is that if I have a man, that if I am the better person, and I fulfill the ties of kinship, that you will give me a better life and you will raise my financial status and you will let me die a peaceful death. This is a man isn't it? Right? Because you're doing it because the process of them said so. So it's all Helen and therefore brothers and sisters, it is permissible to use this as an incentive to connect with those who have cut off from you. And we conclude this hadith with a stern

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you're able to look into the Quran or the court of law the ultimate wish Guru usa.com one of the global HR expert welcome is Sarah

Shaykh Dr. Yasir Qadhi acquaints us with the blessings and virtues of being good to family & relatives. He also provides us with practical tips to deal with difficult family members.  

The concept of the term ‘family’, its composition and the stature of a family is illustrated explicitly in this video.

Of the people whom Allah has cursed in the Qur’an is cutting off from one’s family is one of the things that invites Allah Lanah which is worse than His Adhaab. It is the worst punishment of Allah.

What is the meaning of fulfilling the ties of kinship? It means to remain connected with your extended family in such a way that is acceptable and in the conforms of the tradition and culture of your society. It is also Mustahab to give Zakah to your extended family. We should also show love and compassion as one deems fit to our family as it has been validated in the Shariah.


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