70 Major Sins #13 – Sin 19 Drinking Alcohol, Sin 20- Gambling, Sin 21- Slandering Chaste Women
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The speakers discuss the history and potential consequences of alcoholism, including negative mental health and social anxiety. They also touch on the use of drugs in court, including negative mental health and social anxiety. The speakers emphasize the importance of factors like privacy and privacy for men, particularly in music, and the need for people to be regretted for breaking COVID-19 rules. They also discuss the negative impact of certain conversations and rumors on people's mood and well-being.AI Generated Transcript ©
Now Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah the sisters salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
And welcome to
another class of the 17 major sins based on Kitab. Al Qaeda, everybody, Mama, baby.
I know what all the men are doing in your houses if you're in UK
or they're getting ready to do.
Can you guess what it is?
First of the major. No, that's not. That's not why I was thinking of
something. Something's happening tonight. In the UK.
Something big.
Yeah.
Exactly.
Exactly. England, England.
Who thinks England's gonna win against Italy?
The first time they've been in the final right, but ages.
Some traitors.
We've got some traitors. Here today. Team Italy all the way.
Anyway.
I know everyone in my house is looking forward to watching that one.
Where did we get up to last time?
perjury, so. Yeah, so it was about lying
as a witness, right? bearing false witness bearing false witness. So
actually, we're just going to finish that off, because we've got a couple of things to mention about that. And that is the reason why
bearing false witness is so bad. It's so evil, right?
Is that even bowls? Lots of sins in one, right? So person lies? The person is wronging another person
they usually try to acquire something unlawfully right? Like making a false claim or something. Or they or somebody is bribed them, for example, right? Somebody might have bribed them to lie in court.
Or they're making
lawful what Allah made unlawful so that if they're trying to if they're lying about something, based on wealth, that doesn't belong to them, then, you know, they're making lawful what Allah made unlawful so that there's multiple things and that's the thing about lying in general, right?
You know, lying leads to more lying, and then that leads to more lying, and that leads to more like, and believe me, if you make up your mind, even to tell the truth, sometimes in really painfully difficult situations, you're just going to apologize and tap, like, if you made a mistake, you apologize, and you just say what happened, what really happened
most of the time, that is the best way to deal with it, you know, just to own your mistakes, and to tell the truth, and people are mostly very gracious about it.
But when you lie, what happens is then leads to another lie to cover up that lie. And that leads to another lie. So it's ongoing.
And to repent from false witness, a person basically has to repent to Allah.
And if they've taken somebody else's right they have to restore that right.
Okay.
And to fix the situation basically right? to right the wrong
that's how you repent from
bearing false witness. So you see some of the sins the repentance is just talking is repenting to Allah and
stopping that sin and intending not to go back to etc.
Some of them you have to also take the step of fixing the thing that you
did wrong, you know, because it takes because it affects the rights of somebody else. Okay, so the 19th major sin
literally, it's drinking alcohol, but we know that what it means is
intoxicants in general, right
intoxicants in general, anything
that
clouds your brain, right? To the extent where you're not conscious that could do that.
In other words makes you intoxicated in large quantities is also Haram in small quantities, right?
Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran
that oh you have believed, indeed, Homer and literally from remains something that covers right. We call it he just like what we were on our heads, EMR, right. So intoxicants because they cover your brain right?
gambling,
sacrificing on stone alters to other than Allah and divining arrows. So I believe that's a typo of like, trying to tell the future right?
type of was, what's the word for it?
Yes, it's like a type of superstition, right where you're trying to tell the future through certain means are bought defilement, from the work of shavon they are dirty, they're disgusting, rich, from the work of shaytaan. So avoid them so that you may be successful.
And then Allah says shaytaan only wants to cause
enmity between you and hatred through intoxicants and gambling and to avert you from the remembrance of Allah and from Salah. So will you not? desist for her gentleman behind you? And Won't you stop? Right?
That's amazing. Because what Allah saying there is exactly what we see today, isn't it? If you go to any a&e,
accident emergency
department of any hospital in London,
on any night, pretty much, but I think particularly on certain nights, maybe Saturday night, I think
you will find people who are injured, or who were fired, found on the side of the street,
or got into a fight
due to alcohol due to alcohol.
And one of my friends who's a doctor in a&e, she said, you know, most of the stuff that they see
in her a&e department is due to alcohol. You know, people fighting people hitting each other. Somebody smashes somebody's head with a bottle, you know, or just road accidents, or,
you know, people can't control their anger, they lose their sense of self because they're not they're not themselves. They're literally not themselves, right, they literally can't think straight.
And can you imagine the amount of money that is spent by governments and by, you know, the hospitals, etc. The NHS here in Britain, the National Health Service,
just because of alcohol, you know, because people misuse alcohol and, and they do this right? They go they lose that ability to control themselves. And yes, it causes hatred. And it causes animosity between people.
Domestic Violence, right, so much of domestic violence is due to alcohol.
Again, one of my friends, she's a her parent, her father was an alcoholic.
And
she grew up as a non Muslim and non Muslim family. And she said that,
you know,
it's a really horrible way to live as a child, when you know that your father or one of your parents or even both of your parents are going to be drunk on certain nights. You literally as a child,
just,
you know, realize that your parents can't look after you.
And you realize that at any moment, something bad could happen.
Right? Like your father could lose his temper.
Or he could lash out or etc, etc. Right? You can you can you get the picture right.
So, so Pamela
has an immense effect on society. And it's basically a drug isn't alcohol. So drug that's been legalized in most western countries.
But actually, you know, even certain people who are trying to make drugs, legal say it's actually worse than some of the drugs are illegal, right?
So animal, and you know, in America, they tried, didn't they to prohibit alcohol
but didn't really work.
And in the end, they just
let go, because in a way, they didn't have any kind of theological underpinning for that, right. Like in the Quran, it says, alcohol is forbidden, but
for Christians or for Americans, like it was not based on
the Bible, right? It wasn't based on any kind of
aspect of law, that or that kind of divine book or something like that. So it wasn't really taken that seriously To be honest, by by people, right.
But the very fact that they tried shows you that even in Western societies, people know that it's not good people know that it causes a lot of harm.
But, you know, I would argue that alcohol is one of those things, you know, that is a convenient thing to allow people to do so that they're kept busy, you know, bread and circuses, right? Keep the people busy, give them a bit of alcohol, let them let them you know, to appease them, drown their sorrows. And then, you know, we can do whatever we want, right establishment can be whatever they want. So I think it's really a way to kind of appease the masses.
The profits are low I was Sallam said, no one who commits Zina. So that's
extra martial sex is a believer at the moment when he is committing Zina. And no one who drinks wine is a believer at the moment when he is drinking wine. And no fief is a believer at the moment when he is stealing. And no robber is a believer at the moment when he is robbing and the people are looking on
panela. So you see,
in those moments, when we're doing those sins,
we lose our sense of the effect that is going to have and the fact that I was watching, right.
So I'm a lot. So
I think that you know, a lot of Muslims take it very lightly as well. So I met this new Muslim, and he was saying that
he, the Muslims that he knows, they will say things like, you know, they drink alcohol, for example. And they'll say, Well, you know, I'm a Muslim, I'm believer.
I believe in Allah. I don't, I don't do sherek. So I'm going to, eventually I'll go to heaven. Right? So Pamela, like, That's such a terrible attitude out, right? Eventually, I'll go to Jenna. So in other words, you're so arrogant, right? That you think that you can endure the fire. And you're so short sighted that you're willing to do something that you know is going to lead you to hell fire? Because you can't resist?
A few years, which is what our lives are, yeah. of staying away from that sin, staying away from alcohol.
So Pamela,
it shows you that even in Muslim societies, people sometimes have these terrible attitudes to since
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also said that Allah has cursed alcohol. Farmer, the one who drinks it, the one who pours it, the one who sells it, the one who buys it, the one who squeezes it, meaning makes it with the grapes, you know, or whatever it's made of the one who, with a wonderful whom it is squeezed.
So whoever the boss is, even if he doesn't literally do it himself,
or whoever's drinking it, right, the one who carries it, and the one to whom it is carried Subhan Allah, the One who carries it, can you imagine? So in other words, all the facilitators of alcohol are cursed.
And that really shows you how careful we have to be right. It's not just you know, sometimes you you hear about people who work in places
Where alcohol is served?
And you know, they might think, Well, I'm not drinking it. Or I'm pouring it for somebody else. No, that's not allowed.
Pouring alcohol for somebody else, regardless of whether you're drinking it or not, it's not allowed.
There might be some details you could go into, like somebody might say, Yeah, but what if? I don't know, I work for a supermarket? And, you know, I have to, like, carry boxes with alcohol. Yeah, well, I'm I have been asked about that. And you have to look into that in more detail. But if the if you can avoid it, that's, that should be the default, right? That you avoid the types of work where you have to carry or facilitate the selling, or the drinking of alcohol.
So I want to ask you, right? How do you think what do you think are some of the means?
First of all, can you tell me like, do you know Muslims who drink alcohol? I just want to know how widespread it is? Because I don't?
Yeah, I've heard of Muslims who drink alcohol? Who are cut? I guess I know them. Yeah. But
it's not really that common at all right?
Or is it?
You tell me.
They don't drink openly? Yeah. Okay.
You know, alcohol is one of those things. A lot of Muslims don't drink alcohol either. And they just, they, they just don't like the taste and know the negative effects that it has.
And also, it's very high in sugar, right? So people who are health conscious, they're usually very kind of, they realize it's like damaging to the liver and all that stuff as well. Right?
How do you think we can promote
the staying away from alcohol in our Muslim community?
And staying away from intoxicants in general?
I would say that one of the key ways. Okay, so let's, let's just talk about young people, for example,
is to have good company, you know?
So sometimes you hear about Muslim kids, right? Muslim youth who are involved in drugs involved in alcohol. And you think, well, how did they How did that happen in the first place, you know, their parents are religious, or their parents don't, are not into any of that stuff. And it always usually starts with the company that they keep right, the company that they keep. So I think it's really important for us to be always kind of aware
of
who our children's friends are.
and facilitate for them, to have good friends, facilitate for them to have good company, and you are 100% within your right, as a parent,
when your children are living under your roof to have knowledge of what they're doing, and who their friends are. And I'm not saying be obsessive. And I'm not saying like spy on them. But you have a right to read that to look at their phone.
Tell them that you will, you know, I'm not saying do it secretly tell them you will.
But because it's your job to protect them while they're with you, right. So I think one of the main things is the company they keep. And so create the kinds of environments take them to the sorts of people and the sorts of friends
where they will learn a positive way of being, you know, and the more they use that the more a person is used to purity, the more they will
gravitate towards that right. I must say even myself, like my parents, they were a bit
chilled when it came to like me as a young person visiting my friends going to their houses, and stuff like that non Muslim friends. And
actually remember there were times when like, there would be like a party or something. Or just like a get together.
And my friends and they were about 15 friends from school. They would
for a joke, if it was hilarious. Try to spike my drink. Right? So I'd be drinking Coke or something. And they would say I'll put some, I don't know vodka thing right into a drink.
And you know, just like, wouldn't it be hilarious if Fatima drank some alcohol? Right? So Pamela, I'm just remembering that that even happened to me. Right? And I would always figure it out, like, for some reason, like, they couldn't keep it that secret, or I could smell it was something right. So Pamela, you know, it could happen to any of us, especially when we're living in Western societies, right.
And they might have thought it was funny. But of course, not funny to me at all right.
And I remember another incident that happened. And the reason I'm sharing this, because I'm thinking, you know, it's really easy for it to happen.
So we were on a exchange trip in Germany,
a students, and
all the girls said, well, so we were living with German students and their houses, girls, right.
And then they came and lived with us in our family's houses. So when we were there, they took us on a trip, I let her go out.
And I was following them. I'm just like, I don't know how old it was as a teenager. And they all went into a pub. Okay.
I didn't really know it, whether it was a pub or not. It wasn't like obvious, but it was a place where there was alcohol. And I remember can imagine like, I'm in a little hijabi girl, right? I must have looked absolutely ridiculous. But I was in there. And I could see everyone's drinking out. But I've never been in a place like that before. But you see, as a young person, sometimes you can just be you didn't intend something, you're just hanging around with certain types of people. And you just end up somewhere, right? And we ended up in there. And I was so uncomfortable. Right? I didn't know what to do. And I just turned to my exchange partner. And I said to her, do you like it here?
And she said, not really. I said, Can we just leave. And she said, Yes. And then we both left with the only to your left. And handle, I found out that my exchange partner, she wasn't she hated alcohol, and she wasn't into that kind of life either, right.
But I remember afterwards, feeling like really, like, it's kind of like that could have gone so badly. Like, if I didn't have the guts to leave, you know. And it's really hard to resist peer pressure, right? If everyone's doing something, you don't want to be the odd one out, so better,
to either
inculcate in our children the strength and self confidence to be able to do that.
Or
to encourage them to keep good company, you know,
the path of least resistance.
Um, so, typically, if a person doesn't start to drink alcohol, they probably won't miss it. And I think that's where we want to. That's what we would rather focus on right prevention
and be more
gambling.
So the same idea, the same idea that we mentioned earlier. Right,
which is about
alcohol also mentions gambling, right, that a lot forbids gambling. And they are from the works of Chopin.
And they cause animosity and hatred.
And they prevent a person from the remembrance of Allah, and prayer.
So what exactly do we mean by gambling?
gambling is basically you know, like, you put money forward for something,
not knowing what the outcome is going to be. But you might win, you might not, right, it's like buying a lottery ticket. You buy a ticket, and you say, Okay, so I'm putting this money in
by buying a lottery ticket, and I might win more money, or I might not win anything, right? Or it's other types of gambling nowadays is like betting online and all of that, right. Like there's so many ways to gamble slot machines.
Back in the day, people would have to put a lot of effort into going out to gamble right now. They just have it on their phones right? And which is making it even more addictive and even more difficult to resist.
The gambling commission
which is an industry regulator for England, Scotland, Wales, says there are about 300,000 people in the UK who are problem gamblers.
So in other words, they gamble in a way that is
disruptive or damaging to their own lives. So panela right, if you don't gamble, you might not be able to,
like, empathize with that.
But actually, I think it's a little bit.
Okay? It's not exactly but it's a little bit like shopping, you know,
you know, when you when you buy something, Amazon, right? Amazon have made it so easy to buy something. Don't you feel this little high? When you buy something, right? You get this dopamine hit.
So similarly, I believe that you get this kind of high from gambling, right? When you put some money, yeah, it's exciting. Am I gonna win? Am I not? And then you win a little bit. You feel that high. And then you sort of get addicted to needing that height. And that sense of, maybe I'll win maybe I you know, and so there's a, there's an addiction to it.
Um, and people, people start lying to their families, they start using money that they don't really can't really afford. It's upon like, you can watch documentaries, and even like, talk shows where wives for example, say that, like their husbands? put their whole house is at risk. Because they were addicted to gambling, right?
panela like, it sort of grips people's brains, right?
It can be very obsessive, and it can affect a person's mental health. They can become angry, depressed, in all sorts of things. It there's an increased rate of unemployment, and people who gamble.
You know, if you've ever seen one of these gambling shops, I'm sorry, they looked so seedy and horrible, right. And, of course, like, there's a level of glamorizing that goes on, right. So Hollywood, etc, you know, casinos, and there's this kind of glamorizing of that, of gambling, that has taken place
also causes bankruptcy, and all sorts of financial problems. People who gamble are more likely to commit fraud and to forge checks and things like that, right? Because obviously, they just have to feed the money needs to keep being there right in order for you to
to be able to continue that habit.
Sometimes it causes forced home sales is an increased alcohol and drug abuse amongst gamblers poor mental and physical health of individuals and families.
high risk of losing their jobs. And this is all from
gamble awareness charities, right?
There's actually recovery clinics that help people to get over gambling, right. So this recovery recovery clinic in the USA. On their website, they say approximately 10 million people in the United States live with a gambling addiction problem. A gambling addiction occurs when a person continues to gamble despite negative effects that may impact their finances, relationships or well being. gambling addiction involves compulsions to seek out gambling, betting and wagering. I don't know what we're doing is okay, maybe somebody can look it up quickly and just tell us in the chat, and the end result can be devastating for the gambler as well as his or her family because, you know,
they have to end up lying and spending money that sometimes the spouse is money, right.
Okay.
So what about games of dice? Okay, because
the scholars, when they talk about gambling, they talk about games of dice, because a lot of the time when gambling was taking place, dice were involved. Right?
Well, there's a difference of opinion. So I'm talking about like, even snakes and ladders, right. And Ludo, and games like that, that we might think are kind of harmless.
And there's actually a difference of opinion about them even right. So the scope scholars of Islam, they agree
that if the game of dice
has an element of money being exchanged, right, betting, gambling, then it's not allowed, right.
But some scholars said, you know, with all without,
with or without money, it's gambling. Right?
And so the others said, but if there's an element of skill in it,
then it might be a lot so you know, some of these games that have
their to do with questions and answers, maybe like Trivial Pursuit.
Okay, you could say there's a difference of opinion that so there's that element of it, that's dice, an element of it is skill.
So for that, the scholar said there's a difference. But those that are completely to do with chance, you know, the strongest opinion or the majority opinion is
that they're not allowed.
Okay. I know that sometimes, you know, our kids can get into these things, because they
seems harmless. Right? But, you know, let's, let's try and draw them, encourage them towards games that are to do with skill. Because if you think about it, like, actually, I've thought about this, I used to love playing Snakes and Ladders when I was a kid, because
I don't know, nobody really said anything to me about it. I didn't think twice about it.
But it was such an annoying game, right? If you really think about it, saying some ladders is such an annoying game, because
it's so frustrating, there's absolutely nothing you can do. Right to increase your chances of doing better at it.
It's literally a game of chance. And it might seem fun, and might seem harmless. But just think about that. Like, what, what's the point of that? And what does it teach kids? Right, better to give them games that
have skill in them? Right? In a way you teach them about life? That, you know, increase your level of skill, increase your knowledge, and that will get you further right, or whatever other skill that you can use in a game.
And what about chess? Because some of the scholars actually mentioned chess explicitly when they talk about gambling. And I guess this must be because
historically,
there was an element of money involved in chess games, some kind of betting cetera.
But anyway, again, there's a bit of a difference of opinion here as well. Okay.
The scores are agreed that chess
with betting and money involved is not allowed. Okay?
If it makes you miss prayers,
if it makes you heedless, and it's not allowed. So, I'm guessing like in the past, like people used to have like, I don't know, marathon chess games, which, you know, people get obsessed with these things, right? It's a bit like gaming today, right? The person like gaming in and of itself is not her arm, right? But if it's getting so if you're getting so drawn into it, but
you're missing prayers,
delaying prayers, missing prayers, etc.
Or it's causing any other kind of harm, right, then obviously, it's not good for you, right?
But with chess in particular, because it's mentioned by scholars.
They said if it makes you heedless of prayers, if it causes fights, okay?
I don't know it must have caused fights in the past
then it's
okay. But there's a difference of opinion.
Some scholar said look, if you have free time,
and you're doing it without betting
and it's not distracting you from obligations then here in Malmo, Norway For example, He said
that if it makes a person Miss pray Miss praying on time or he plays for money that it's Haram. Otherwise, it is mcru disliked, according to a Shafi and haram according to others panela right. So even like the lightest opinion about it was that it was macro according to your mama noi. And you know, that's because generally speaking,
anything that's that is like wasting time
is not considered a good thing, right?
Even hazard hate me, he said in his book, he says he reports that even had a scholar and he said, Sorry, I'm having difficulty pronouncing his name that about the prohibition of chess, okay. Not a single tradition has been transmitted through an authentic or sound transmission, about the prohibition of chess basically. And he says In addition, a number of Senior Companions apparently and successes, some of the successes played it, from among them who played it was the great scholar, save even Dubai. May Allah be pleased with him.
So you know,
I found this quote from one of the fatawa from one of the scholars. And so I guess, the middle way to look at it is that if it, if it makes you heedless, you know yourself, you know, if it causes you to be distracted and obsessed, then then don't play it. Especially if there's money involved, don't play it. But if it's something that you do in your in when you have extra time, and you know, to be honest, like, I would like to look into this more, because I've got a feeling that chess in the past was not the same as chess today, you know, today, the way we look at chess is actually a game of skill is actually quite a game of strategy and skill rather than having any kind of element of
chance in it.
So, you know, so kinda, I think, you know, although we should be cautious.
I think that in our times, as long as it's not causing somebody to go away from any the obligations, etc,
then it should be something that is MOBA, you know, just permissible
and not harmful in sha Allah.
And that's not just me saying it, by the way, you know, obviously this is from from other scholars.
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slandering chaste women and slandering in general. Actually, one question I'd like to ask one of the scholars which I will try to do, let me write it down, is
whenever in the books they talk about pub, which is slandering,
slang slandering, meaning accusing them of Zina, right?
It always says women, right? I wonder.
I wonder why. You know, maybe it's just because that's how it was mentioned. But it's actually obviously for both right.
So Allah says, Edwin Lavina, your moon and sun out and those who accuse chaste women and most Sunnah, you know, hesson, you know that there's a famous book has no Muslim, right? The the default press of the Muslim. So my Sunnah is somebody who's protecting adjusted it. Right? So those who accuse
chaste women of adultery and failed to produce for witnesses, give them 80 lashes each, Allah says in the grant, and do not ever accept any testimony from them, for they are indeed the rebellious except those who repent afterwards and mend their ways, then surely Allah is all forgiving, Most Merciful.
So
some sort of No, right?
And, you know, verses were revealed about each other de Landa.
Because people will try to slander her right, they slandered her, the hypocrites, slandered her. And then Allah Subhana, Allah exonerated her, and he really censured people who slammed up women, especially right.
And we know like, if you just study and look at the life of actually what happened, right, and how it affected her. You just know it's devastating, right?
And even today, no people can cast aspersions on a person's character,
whether it's male or female, it's not allowed at all. You shouldn't even you know, insinuate that there is something questionable about a Muslims character.
Right.
And unfortunately, we've gotten into such a, we've been so affected by the tabloid culture in the West, that so Pamela even sometimes,
you know, there's
them, they might be righteous people. And if they've made a mistake,
of course, if they're like doing something that's harming the public, and there's a way to deal with it, right. islamically we don't believe in this culture, right, which is the prevalent culture in the tabloid culture in the West, which is, oh, as soon as you, you, you have a width, that there's any kind of, you know, like, for example, you see a man walking with a woman, right? Or you see them
hanging out together. Obviously, like in Western culture, that's normal, right? Then you starts accusing or talking about them as if they're basically having an affair or that they're basically
You know, committing Zina, right. Not that the society cares, really.
But, you know, there's that culture, isn't it? Always try to catch people out. Which politician? Can we smear? What? Which person? Can we ruin the reputation of? Pamela right. That's that's like, taken very lightly.
And I mean, even if it might be true, okay. It might be true that that person is having an affair with might be true that that person is. But does that mean that it should be something that should be published and publicized and talked about and spread everywhere?
islamically No, not at all.
So
slandering or accusing a Muslim, of Xena also domain.
So homosexual acts
is
is basically, you know, punishable if the person does not bring
forward witnesses. That's pretty, that's a pretty heavy burden of proof. Right.
And that means that if there are less than four witnesses
who saw the act of you know, the sexual act basically fully
the act of penetration, mostly about kissing and stuff like that, we're talking about proper
intercourse, sexual intercourse. Clearly. If you if you can't produce for witnesses who saw that clearly,
then the HUD punishment applies a HUD means, you know, the fixed punishments that Allah revealed in the Quran, the fixed punishments in this world
that are actionable under Islamic law. Okay.
So the hub for slandering is basically at lashes at lashes, meaning whipping, right? at times.
And
testimony of that person is not accepted ever again, unless they
repent. And I think there's certain conditions they have to meet. Basically, they you know,
now that person's reputation is over
for accusing somebody of Xena
without being able to bring witnesses
panela
and what does slander mean?
It means to call a chaste woman and actually essentially, what a chaste man, an adulterer, to call any kind of, you know, the slurs that all associated with
being a loose woman or
unchaste, right.
Like the word hort, there's so many words right in every language,
or whatever the equivalent is for men, that would be considered slander,
or even to call her child, child of a adulterous right, for example,
or an adulterer.
And why is it something that's punishable? And why is it so serious? Right?
Is because
slander ruins the lives of people in their families.
You know, when you slander someone, when you even just insinuate and just accuse somebody of and just just look at even like,
in the news, sometimes you hear of people being accused of rape, for example, right?
or harassment of some sort, without any proof. And then,
even if they didn't do that, and somebody just has in for them.
It just ruins their life, ruins their career, it ruins their families or look at them the same. Of course there are people who do actually do those evil things, not talking about those. I'm saying when people just take it lightly to slander somebody without proof. Right.
And also slandering a person
or sorry, the head punishment. The reason why it's there, why there's such a big punishment is to prevent accusations of immorality before you accuse somebody of committing Zina unit. The Sharia wants you to think
Two times. Right? You don't get to take the honor of a Muslim that lightly.
And so Pamela, there's emphasis on women, because in a way, women are more vulnerable. You know, any man or any person who has it in for a woman, they could accuse a woman.
And that is the way it tends to happen rather than men being accused, it's usually women. And the effects of that are devastating for the women look at how it affected our mother, I should have done that. Right. It was devastating for her.
Of course, she had, she had verses from before and to come and clear her name, right? The average woman doesn't have that. Right. So that accusation will end up sticking, won't it?
Also, it's to protect people's honor and reputation. You know, the reputation of human beings is very important.
They're standing in society is very important. We don't you don't realize it until you lose it. You know, when people are talking about you, or when suddenly people don't trust you anymore, etc. Then you realize panela, what a blessing and an important thing, your reputation and your honor is
the reason for the hard punishment is also that it's to prevent immorality being normalized in society. Now, if you think about it,
you know, there was a time in Britain, for example, I'm just using the example of Britain, when
adultery and the you know, Xena fornication, adultery. They were seen as pretty bad, you know, it wasn't the norm at all.
But slowly, people have become desensitized.
To the extent right, like, for example, recently, we had a
nobody want to talk to him or talk about him or name him, but an MP who was exposed as having an affair, okay.
He doesn't even have to apologize for the fact that he cheated on his wife and, you know, basically wrecked two families, right? He doesn't have to apologize for that anymore. In Britain, people don't expect him to apologize for that.
Or even be regretful,
they expected him to apologize for breaking COVID rules. Do you know what I mean? Like so? Well? No, it's ridiculous. Like, that's the worst thing that he could be apologetic about, that he broke COVID rules and having an affair with somebody, right?
I mean, that just shows you how messed up stuff is right like
that, to family families were basically devastated by the actions of this MP. And he can actually come on TV with a straight face.
Okay.
And only apologize and only be regretful for the fact that he broke COVID rules. I mean, you know, that just shows you that what's happened is that societies become desensitized. And there's a silly narrative isn't that? Well, we can't really judge people on their personal lives.
And yet, upon a life, a person lies to the people who are the most important to them, and breaks their marital contract.
You know, what is a bigger fraud than that?
The society doesn't look at it like that anymore. Why? Because they've heard it too many times. Too many politicians, too many royal members of the family, right members of the royal family. Too many people
have had their stories and all the lurid details about affairs and that published and pored over by the public. And what that does is it makes human beings insensitive, desensitized, they're desensitized to that being immoral.
In fact, it is legitimizing because what it does is makes people think, well, if so and so is, you know,
doing it, or they think, you know, well, everyone's doing it. That's what people start thinking right? when everyone's doing it. So you can't be that bad. It's panela.
Last month to protect us.
It prevents the spread of rumors and hearing about evil things. You know, hearing about evil things has an effect on you.
Have you had one of those days where you just too attached to the news and you just had a really horrible day because there's like negative news all day.
Right? rumors, negativity, evil, hearing about evil acts, affects you, affects your heart.
And this video wants to prevent that.
And lastly, before I answer some questions,
you know,
by the way, if somebody comes to you, and tells you a rumor, right, a few days ago, somebody emailed me,
okay, and they said,
and this is terrible, actually, I don't think Muslims should do this. But they should do it in a better way. Right? They sent me screenshots
of a mail day, right?
Which I don't know, if they're real or not, they could have like, they could literally be
photoshopped, they could literally be created by somebody, right? It's so easy to, to just invent somebodies you know, I don't know what they called, like, messages, right? Back and forth messages on an iPhone, etc, right? With their name on it. And this person, just out of the blue, sent me screenshots of a day
and said, Look, Sister, I don't know what to do. Somebody has contacted me and sent me these screenshots of this die having this kind of conversation with sisters. And it's really troubling.
And the sister said, You know, I know that even that that, you know, the sisters are complicit, because the
you know, they're participating in this. But I really think somebody needs to do something, or somebody needs to say something, whatever, right? To this day.
Pamela?
And I'm obviously like, it's just right in front of me. And I'm thinking, first of all,
I don't know that these messages are of that day at all.
Just no way for me to know that. Second thing is okay. It's even if it was, first of all, I'm not allowed to think that it was because I have no evidence. This is not considered evidence in Islam. You know, screenshots that you could have just forged.
Second thing is okay, it's some kind of,
in more any loose conversation with a woman, right?
What's that got to do with me? Like, seriously, what's that got to do with me?
You know what I mean? Like, there's no,
there was no, like, exploitation going on? It's just basically, loose talk. How do I know that he wasn't communicating with his wife, for example,
having flirtatious conversation with his wife, I don't know who the other person is. They've blurred that person's profile. I mean, I could go on, right?
So I replied to that person. And I said, Look, you should contact that person yourself. If you believe that this is true, contact that person yourself and confront them with it.
But of course, there are other ways of dealing with it, you know, like, depending on how severe the situation is and how much evidence there is. But what I'm saying is we need to be careful provinces, we've got this horrible culture at the moment, when a Muslim does not feel safe with another Muslim. Anytime you might have a private conversation with a Muslim, you never know when they might just start publicizing it. And sometimes even that is do that.
publishing their private conversations with people
we've become so kind of negligent when it comes to the privacy and the honor of a Muslim.
Okay, of course, if abuse is taking place, we need to take action against that, but not the way that the West does it, not the way that the tabloids do it. That's not the way right, you confront the person directly. Or you go to somebody's senior, right?
With proper evidence, okay. And you ask them to confront that person. Okay. But not with like very obscure evidence that anyone could have made up.
So I'm just gonna read some of your questions before we end.
Sorry, I should read this as well, which is about restraining the tongue.
inshallah, we'll start with this hadith next time.
Because our time is pretty much up but I just want to look at the chat.
wager is making a bit of
Same
type of gambling which involves betting on the outcome of an external event or fact. Alright, yeah, so sports. Yeah, you know, So Paulo, when when people are watching football the adverts are was about gambling as well, right? They're trying to pull everyone in to this culture because they may come up money out of it. Right. So type of exploitation at the end of the day.
Music Oh,
I want to go down to music group
isn't enough sheets, without music, musical instruments?
I think that if you're
okay, people are having a conversation about music.
Okay, so when it comes to music, if I must talk about it.
You know, all the evidence that I've seen that scholars talk about is that musical instruments
are from shavon. And musical instruments are things that we should avoid. Okay?
We should use the voice singing, for example, there's nothing wrong with the singing is nothing wrong with the Duff. Right.
The prophets are solemn, explicitly allowed it and the fact that when
the girls were playing the Duff, right, and the fact that abubaker came in, and he said,
What are you doing in front of Rasulullah, playing the instruments of shape and the fact that he said, that shows you that they considered
musical instruments to be not allowed, right? And the fact that then the prophet SAW Selim said, No, but these ones are allowed, right. And that basically allowed them because they say it, right? To play these this stuff and sing, you know, it kind of shows you doesn't it that their attitude towards that, I don't really have time to go into music. But my general thing to say about it is stay away from it. music can be addictive as well, very addictive, not as addictive. It can make you think differently.
It can make you fall in love with somebody. Right? I'm not joking, like, you know, when you're a teenager. Anyway, you don't want to know about my teenage. But basically, you could, you could have music around you that is very suggestive, right? And whatever the music is suggesting,
you start thinking that you actually start thinking it right. And if you're in the company of somebody, you can start thinking about them.
And I'm not joking about that, that that actually happens. It's very effective on your mood, right affects your mood a lot. So
you know, the safest thing is stay away from music, musical instruments.
If you really like listening to something joyous, listen to nasheeds listen to the Quran and and, you know, find the different artists and find a color that you love.
But if you want to listen to singing, listen to machines that don't have music.
Right?
If you want to.
And by the way, I know because
I used to be addicted to music, I would say right,
as a young person.
And once I decided I was not going to listen to music anymore.
I smashed all my CDs.
And I threw them in the bin because I could see
the negative effect they were having on me as a teenager. You know,
being addicted being
sort of enamored by certain concepts. It encourages you to sorry to say this but encourages you to want romance encourages you to want
you know, to desire certain things that are not healthy for you to desire.
And if you look into the lives of singers and it's like so panela then no
role models for us. They are no role models for us. Yeah. So I know what it's like, like my parents probably just turned a blind eye. Or they didn't really know what we were doing. And I was, you know, everyone was listening to music. And that's something that you sometimes have in common with non Muslim friends, right?
But it's very addictive.
And it really can affect your moods and negatively and positively, but I'm saying that it can affect your feelings. Why would you want to subject yourself to something that can do that? You know? So, apart from the fact that, you know, the scholars say that a ton, all right. I'm just saying those additional reasons, right. The entire culture is very sexualized.
very sexually charged, so,
you know, stay away from it.
shall not come out here and yet, if you've missed any episodes, you can catch up on YouTube. So look, look up 17 major sins on menar or 17, major sins, Fatima barkatullah. You'll find it on YouTube in sha Allah does Aquila here and I'm going to have to finish up with God over time.
subhanak Allah Omar will be handed a shadow Allah Allah in the interest of Erica to be like salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah.
And I hope you didn't win.