Dangers At The Door

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Abdur-Raheem McCarthy

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Episode Notes

Once it was asked, ” If you knew the devil was at the door, would you open it?”. Well, would you?

This is what our beloved Sheikh addresses in his talk. What are the dangers to be aware of? Where do they emanate from? Can you stop them coming into your house? If they’re as already in your house, can you shove them out? If do, how?

Wouldn’t you want to know the answers to all these questions? Listen to this talk as our Sheikh  guides us through the trials a Muslim faces today and come away from this with valuable information to apply in your life and your loved ones.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salli wa sallam Alma barrows Ramadan Al alameen, the Buna Mohammed in Walla, la he was a big man

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Alhamdulillah to the grace and blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Tonight we come to an end

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of our series, hopefully inshallah was going to be the beginning of a new star in our homes inshallah, after we lay down the foundation

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of the keys to building an awesome family, and then we talked about how to raise the heroes that we have into our homes into being heroes inshallah, today, we're going to talk about some of the dangers at the doors of our homes. And this title, actually,

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it's not a truthful title.

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It's a title built upon hope of how it should be, we should hope that the dangers are at our door. But the reality is that the dangers are where

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they're in the home, they've invaded the home, they flooded the home, and they've taken over the hole.

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And whose fault is that?

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is important?

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Because if you look at the reasons behind these dangers, spreading through our households, spreading to our ideologies, there's two main reasons

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two main enemies

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the internal enemy from inside, and the external one from outside.

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And then obviously, the two main categories that we have a whole bunch of subcategories that fall under these two. So which one of the two is the most dangerous? And which one has the most fault? Who do we blame most?

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Which one of the two enemies?

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inside? Anybody else?

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external?

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Let me ask you another question. Who is the biggest enemies?

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Always the biggest enemy of the Muslims today?

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Okay, who else? Don't you guys are on camera. I'm gonna get in trouble for this that you guys don't you can say?

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Who was considered who do we always blame for our problems as Muslims? The West and

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the more specific.

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American is right. The West Americans specifically, we always blame it. And the Muslims are the best people in the world when it comes to the blame game. Don't on somebody else.

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We're doing sans we're following the damn Americans, the damn Jews is their fault.

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Do they have some issues? When it comes to corrupting the homes? No doubt, we're not gonna say they don't. But who is the biggest enemy and corrupting the homes, we need to realize who is the biggest danger?

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The one inside the home or the one outside the hole? Who let them into your house.

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We let them in.

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They put an ideology. They put a method and methodology to spread it.

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And their troops from the morale team from the hypocrites. They came and paid them and helped them do it.

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And we open up the doors for them, let them in.

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They're looking out for their own interests you let them in.

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So who's really to blame? And it's very, very important. Because all the time we blame America blame Israel, blame the West blame that.

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But we don't look at ourselves.

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The change starts from where

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within what are the laws say about changing the Quran.

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Very good.

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What's inside of them, they don't change. He doesn't change a lot what the people have to they change what's inside of themselves.

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The change comes from within.

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So you have to pay attention to this. The reality of who the biggest enemy is. You have to be honest, at any time. When you want to be successful. You want to make change. The key to the start is to be honest. The comments if I made a mistake, it's my fault.

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It's easy to put the blame on other people. When you said

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To say, No, I'm the one responsible.

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This is when the change starts.

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The next question, what are the main things? The main dangers

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that affect the household today in the life we live in today? And the world we live in today? What are the main dangers?

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TV?

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Internet?

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What else?

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The West?

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mobile phones?

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What else?

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laziness very good.

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All kinds of problems. Think about it. So I'm going to come back and ask you guys again, I want you guys to do some brainstorming today. So you know, the people didn't come in the rain. I know it's a lazy thing. And people get lazy and rains to do at home sleeping, I guess. So. But anyways, we want to show you guys that they do some brainstorming. See what are these dangers and we'll come back to and shell on it.

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In reality, this topic tonight,

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it has a lot to do with the last two topics. Because what we're supposed to be doing lay out the foundation, once again, it comes back to the dangerous how we're supposed to raising our children, all you need to do is do the vice versa. The things we need to have a awesome Muslim home, if you're not doing them, it becomes a danger in the home. We mentioned 2425 points,

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do the opposite. If you're not doing what you're supposed to do, it becomes a danger.

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how you're supposed to be raising your children, we talked about it yesterday, if you're not doing it, it becomes a danger.

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From the beginning, picking the right spouse

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how you build the foundation. So many problems happen now in the households. Because the people didn't make the right choice in the beginning.

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You didn't build the foundation right from the beginning.

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And when a building is built the foundation and building when I first visited Egypt,

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they showed me several buildings that had collapsed.

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So what happened after the revolution, when Morsi became president in this, they were able to build really quickly in this time before he was elected. Nobody was really watching. They built a whole bunch of buildings that weren't didn't have permission to build them. And several of them because they weren't built correctly and achieved the people they collapsed, killing some of the people inside. Why did they collapse? Because the what the foundation wasn't proper, wasn't built properly. It was built just to get it done. Get some money, who cares about the outcome?

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So the foundation comes back from the beginning, leaving our responsibilities as parents. We know we're supposed to be doing but are we doing it?

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We talked about this yesterday in detail. What are we supposed to be doing? What is our role? What do we need to be doing? Are we doing

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the man today we say what's his main his main concern today? What is it? What is his job today?

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Money and most parents today, most fathers believe that this is his duty to go out to make the money in the morning, come home, have his meal ready, read the newspaper, watch TV and go to sleep. And he's done his job Mashallah tomato cola as a as a parents to put his kid into a good school. Even if it's not an Islamic school, even if it's a Christian school, no problems put him in there. As long as he gets a good education, he's eating well has a nice place to sleep. I've done my job. As a parent.

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This is the issue here. This is the day this is the real danger, not fulfilling your duties. That's what we said yesterday, we have to kindly remind ourselves about the responsibility of being a parent.

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The province of Allahu alayhi wa sallam,

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when he said

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kulu Kumara in wakulla coma soon or at some other the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. In each of his words. There's hikma there's wisdom, there will always reflect on them. In reality, who knows in Arabic, what is what is the right?

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shepherd.

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And Rabbi reality is a shepherd. But here it means that you know

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you're responsible.

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And what is the right thing to do? The shepherd is responsible for what

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his flock his flock of sheep or whatever it is, and what happens if it doesn't take care of it.

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The wolf kombinasi takes it away. They get killed by the wild animal they get lost they get harmed

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and in this Hadeeth as well.

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Must school?

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What is the Massoud

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responsible? But it also comes from the root bar? What has what issue of

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question mean that you're going to be question? You must all you're going to be asked about this duty. Did you fulfill it on that?

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Did you fulfill your responsibility?

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It's a serious thing.

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One of the biggest dangers in our household is ourselves. We don't realize this our child's needs are we fulfilling them we talk to him about the emotional side.

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The Psychology how what are we feeding them information that we're feeding them?

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All of these things we mentioned before, if it's not being done properly, they were the biggest enemies were the biggest enemies of our household.

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The child is he copies his parents

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he's a copycat when he's young, all the information you see him from you and your and your and your wife.

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So if you see in good, he's gonna be like, what? To what? To good into the straight path? If he's gonna see bad he's gonna be where? To the bad path.

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Sometimes a little kid, he says a bad word.

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Where do you hear that from?

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He cursed the others. Other kids. cause them Mr. kazama. donkey. Why because his father calls him a donkey. And as you're supposed to do

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this series is it's a dangerous thing.

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Don't get me wrong, it doesn't mean that the enemies of Islam. And what they want to do to destroy the Muslim family is not dangerous. It's dangerous. It's a major danger.

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But we have to look at ourselves and reflect on ourselves and what we're doing first.

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The issue of the TV, which you guys mentioned,

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nowadays, the TV is one of the main things that we blame. In reality, no doubt about it. It's one of the most dangerous things that we can do for our children, that we can leave our children. The television is so dangerous.

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And it's a very difficult situation that we're putting as parents. Because it's part of society today. The Islamic stations,

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the Islamic organizations that have millions and billions of dollars, some of them who put it together, we have money, the money's not an issue. We have the talent as a Muslim woman to make good Islamic cartoon channels

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for our children,

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but do we do it?

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Where is it? Most of the Islamic stuff is complete rubbish.

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It's horrible. And the kids know it.

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My son right now Mashallah. Two and a half years old, I put him in for the iPad, and I'll put an Islamic thing on him. He's like, this is crap. You know, he'll hit the he'll hit something on the side he's like that's the good stuff there. He knows by from two and a half years old this is rubbish what he's watching these these bad animations and it's just not good. He goes to the side he doesn't hit it now. Is this the good stuff here? He knows how to turn his own cartoons now. It's it's a problem we face.

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It's a problem. And it's something we have to strive to remind those who have the ability to do it.

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These cartoons that we see as being something so innocent, not a big deal.

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So Pinilla sometimes when you sit down and you watch the enemies of Islam,

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NBC three,

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the enemies, the real big enemies, these type of people when they come in, they invade your home, teaching your children, not just bad things, not just violence, teaching them straight up, Cooper

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cover

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spa turned on when my kids were killed while we were in the hotel room. I was like, wow, that's all Coover all magic. All different types of Gods superpowers from these gods. And this has been drained into the into the minds of our children.

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taking them out of the fold of Islam, he believes in this making him a catheter, if he believes in this

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subliminal messaging being put into their heads, pornographic stuff.

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Even non Muslims, from Christians who want to practice their religion, they're saying the same thing. There's studies testing, that these are sending pornographic messages to our children. I can show you pictures of the freaky Smurfs. The Smurf Smurfette, she's a mosquito sending indirect messages. And I can't say it now because we have a young audience some of the things I've seen, indirect, you wouldn't think anything about it, don't you? Look

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How the messages being sent to the kids how to be corrupting them destroying them.

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So what we need to do, and I'm a parent, just like you're a parent, Mashallah,

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it's gonna be very difficult to cut it off 100%, what we need to do is get the message out there to those people who have the ability to make a change, to get something good quality Islamic cartoon stations, that's one thing. Secondly, if our children are going to watch it, unfortunately, we have to watch it with them

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to make sure what they're watching and censoring and make sure it's good or not.

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And the video games as well. I'm not gonna say Don't let your kids play, but certain things, we have to draw the line when it comes to that.

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I remember when I was on tour in Ireland, my son sends me a message. And he said, I want you to pick up a game for me. for PlayStation, I said, Okay, what's that? He said, the god of war.

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And as I said, I said, Are you serious? He said, No, it's not really like this. What do you mean that really like that? Come on, man. I said, What would I look like now? going to buy the God of War? I said, Come on it. I said, think of something else. There's got to be something else out there. You know, there's no way in the world I buy that. And there's no way that we're I let you play there. And that's how I'm from the name right there. I mean, and no, no tell it was he was probably worse.

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They weren't when they were younger, they wouldn't want a whole bunch of games. One of them was Grand Theft Auto.

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What kind of message is that teaching the kids?

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I looked at that for the first time. And I say, look,

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I said there's no, no, no, we don't really

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what what good does it have in it? It's fine. It's no fun. You're beating up people killing people stealing cars. There's other things you can do. We're not going to mention here as well, if you download from the internet, some other crazy things. It's just that That's horrible. It is going to be a criminal a trip criminals no good in that. I told my kids, I said, Look, I said what you're gonna do, you're gonna break it into little pieces.

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And I said, Here's the money to go buy another one. But there's no way in the world that we're going to have that in this house. It's impossible. Everything has its limits, you know. So go buy another game.

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This stuff is very, very, very dangerous. We have the ability to make Muslim games, but unfortunately, there's nobody sponsoring these things. So there's certain things we realize that as individuals we can't do. But we have to try our best. Remember what Allah subhanaw taala said to us. It took a long time to talk to him Pharaoh law as much as you can. And we have to make sure we know what's going on. We talked to the brothers this morning about this we talked about before the issue of Facebook, Twitter, these things. A lot of parents want to forbid their kids from it. 100%

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I personally believe that let them have it. But with rules and regulations from the beginning. We talked about that. That everybody's happy you have a daughter. There's no pictures, no adding a boys no this no that things that Rama usually just want your friends to have fun to communicate, no big deal. But we're not going to do anything haram and displeasing to a loved one. That's better than going behind your back end. Doing that which is haram and displeasing to Allah.

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Another one of them enemies that is destroying

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the Muslims today

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is what?

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The media no doubt, the media man that goes into the TV.

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But another thing which is supposed to be one of the best places for them, the most important places for them. The schools and it's the biggest enemy.

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The reality is and I'm somebody who's

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a teacher.

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I know what goes on the schools.

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Okay, and I thought it supposedly good schools, supposedly Islamic schools.

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We know what goes on in the schools. The schools are dangerous. The stuff our kids are learning.

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Unfortunately, why don't we establish good schools? Is it difficult? No, it goes back to what the brother said, lazy, we're lazy. That's why that's why we don't do it. We have people who have the money. We have awesome teachers, awesome Muslim teachers around the world.

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We have people who have the money will sponsor but we're too lazy to do it. has already schools classes, senior kids in high school

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and the stuff they're learning in the school. It's a big problem.

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And after Zakho school in India, they do an interview for the student and for the parents

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because they want to make sure that whoever studies in high school somebody

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was good. They asked him certain things. Do you smoke? Do you watch movies at home? And if they say yes, they say, We're sorry, we can accept your kid in the school.

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Why? They said, because we're gonna build in the day, and you're gonna go and corrupt it and destroy it at night.

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What happens even if we're good parents, that is the opposite that we're living with, we build in the nighttime, and then we go and destroy it by sending our kids to certain schools. There was this solution. Once again, fear of law, Mr. Potter, what you can look for the best alternative. Sometimes they okay, but this school is not as good academically, they're what's more important the Dean of your kid, or his academics. And let's be honest with you, I study I taught in some of the top schools, they're all rubbish in the end. If the kid is gonna, gonna benefit, he's going to strive, he's going to benefit from either school sites, some schools are better than others. But in general,

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all of them are not too good. Let's be honest.

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And sometimes we pay so much money for some of these private schools. As you guys know, you guys are going through, they bite you. You pay so much money. At the end of the day. It's like, what am I doing to my children paying all this money for nothing. This is something as oma, we're going to talk about oma building, we have to really look back in this with our building for the oma look at the people who know the relations we have and try to get the message out there to make some changes. Because these are two things, issue of the media and issue of the schools, we really need to make changes in this umbrella. We're just on the mercy mission. Twins of faith conference. And they're

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one of the things that mercy mission, which is part of alkota, which is coming here next week. And of course here next week, one of the things they're doing is building schools, they have a new school now open up in Malaysia and hoping to branch out because they realize the importance of education for the kids in the school and the dangers that they're facing. The dangers that they face in society.

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Like what?

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No, friends,

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the professor said I'm trained us.

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He said, and Motorola Dini Khalili, the person is on the religion of his friend.

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So look at who you will be friend, danger.

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suparna my parents, non Muslims.

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When I was a non Muslim, they would let me go out to certain places, unless they asked who I was going with, especially my father.

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There was no who I was going with nowadays, our kids running the streets and we don't even ask, what are they learning from these kids? What are they being taught?

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Having good friends, the dangers of the friends, they have no letter into your home to be careful. What are some other problems that we face in society other dangerous

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drugs

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and is is a big thing, especially in some of the families in the societies who have a little extra money do this? Because people now they're falling into emotional stress and the drugs the danger of the drugs happens now because our kids won't be easygoing with them. We let them do what they want no freedom do what you want to do the listen to rap music and this

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and it's cool now to get high.

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It's like some of you hippie guys, old guys. I know you guys many guys are.

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Former hippies.

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Back in the days in the 60s, it was cool to get high. Now those who are following the rappers and the hip hop guys, is cool to get high.

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So they want to be like them.

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Smoke a blunt.

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Like so. And so the rapper. And they fall into the trap of [???] on one by one. The Bad Company. How many people tell you they fell into drugs? Is it all started with a cigarette smoking cigarettes or this than low alcohol little weed or this and then it starts to go dangerous.

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The family problems that we put our kids through.

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We talked about the thick of deferring,

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of arguing with our spouses because you're gonna differ there's no perfect marriage. But we say we have to have rules and regulations that we deliver what never in front of the children.

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issue of divorce and the effect it has on the children. Is divorce allowed in Islam?

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It's allowed.

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But is it the way to go most of the time? No child try our best. And see divorce is very, very difficult. In Islam. It's a very serious thing. You can't even say the word.

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There's a way it's supposed to be done. If you do it by the sooner pay attention is because a lot of you don't reflect on sometimes the issues of fifth and the wisdom behind

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If somebody wants to divorce his wife, according to the sooner

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how you supposed to do it.

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Nobody knows the good thing sisters, none of them know. So you guys are safe from them, they have no clue. That's a good thing.

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That's if you're trying to make soap, you're trying to dissolve the problem. That's what you should do in the beginning. But if it comes to the time, hello, you're going to divorce him.

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Nobody is supposed to do it when

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when she has finished her menses

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at a time she finished her MS and that time that you haven't been with her.

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Pay attention that

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a from the sooner that it's in a time where you've been with your wife intimately, that you're not supposed to divorce her until she starts her period, finishes our period. And after that. So this is a long, long transition. Look at the wisdom behind that.

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So let's say it's two weeks, and so she has a period then one week, so that's three weeks, what usually happens during that three weeks. If you're going to follow the suit and do it properly.

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You forget you forgive and you kiss and make up with everything's beautiful. This is the wisdom of the student. And then after that, if you were to divorce her,

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you sent her packing to her parents house, right?

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Is that correct? That she stays were

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in your house. It's just you finishes How many?

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Three periods. So a little bit over three months, most of the time, depending on the on the cycle, but about three months.

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The last one says that Lola, this bad camera, Allah will make something happen after that perhaps we'll make something happen. Something will spark the beauty of the marriage from the beginning after three months. Suppose you live your life normally. Because divorce is a bad thing. It's not a good thing. In most cases, sometimes you know it might have it might have to happen but in general,

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because of the ill effects that it has on the children and destroying the households.

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The issue of the weakness of faith and the ignorance of the knowledge we've talked about the importance of knowledge in the house, the importance of strengthen it so he strengthen the man of strength in the practice and acting upon Islam. When that becomes weak.

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who becomes strong in the household?

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JSON, he takes over

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Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned about the cat video and sort of the medium to zoom as they're constantly enticing them.

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Kirsten enticing them

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there's a straight to the shell thing I've taken over taking over their life.

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We will teach you from the beginning when you go into the bathroom Be careful this is the place of who the shell teen like these dirty places. That's why you say when you went to the bathroom what

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Bismillah Allahu Allah in the

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same Bismillah before you eat so who doesn't eat with you? She upon eating with your left hand. So who is with you?

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Correct.

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He was with

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the right hand. But nowadays left hand right. No big deal. No training. Somebody now has been 15 year old eating with the left hand with the right hand.

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Okay, do

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this as soon as they become no big deal to who's dealing with him. shaytaan

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not protecting himself. When he goes to bed at night. What's he What's he doing?

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Listen to low soft music to relax before he goes to bed. Get the headphones on

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with his iPhone, listen to some iTunes

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Where's the car? Where's it of course he was was so sweet and protected himself protecting the household.

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They're not they're not trained. They don't know. We didn't teach them.

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When we don't remember Allah subhanho wa Taala in the homes. What's going to happen to the hearts it's gonna happen to the homes, the individuals inside the home. What are the profits or losses of them say about the house that our law is not remembered in?

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It's like the great the dead House of the Dead. Cut it ruined house.

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And the person who remembers alone doesn't really say the same thing.

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I lost the final one wa Taala told us that the one who doesn't remember a lot, who turns away from his remembrance almost out of them decrees and lahoma a certain bunker, whoever turns away from my remembrance, he lives an evil life. So we were What's the problem? What's the problem? The problem starts from us and one that's what I want to tell you guys.

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It starts from us. So he true that the enemies of Islam are trying to destroy the Muslim households from

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There's no doubt

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the first place

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that I ever know about ever heard about that has 24 hour, non stop

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free

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movie channels

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translated

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and to your language, you may tell you one other advertisement just for you.

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Just for you, we've come to destroy your household just for you.

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They say Ramadan, yet gimana. Ramadan brings us together in the Hellfire, just for you.

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It's the reality.

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We let them in our household. What happens to us, ourselves and our children when they're watching these movies.

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And a lot of people now

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think there's some good in some movies, perhaps there could be.

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But there's a lot of evil in them as well.

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And that little bit of evil

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could be the change. Have something good or bad in your life by you watching it? And most of the time? What do most movies have in them a good message? Or a bad message?

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Most of us bad.

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And even sometimes.

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Even sometimes,

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if there's a lot of good, that little bit of bad. Is it worth it or not?

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Why would you accept something bad? if somebody were to come with a big thing of juice on the front end and this and somebody were to come in and urinate in it a little bit? percentage wise? It has 98% juice and 2% urine?

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Who's gonna drink it from you guys?

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Yeah, he says 98% good, man. Come on. You get into Harvard with 90% man.

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But we're willing to change for our Deen for our feeder for our belief for our children was okay. 90% listen to music. Yeah, it's not that big of a deal. Come on, man. Let's not be extreme.

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Music and what gives me these some of these modern day scholars who say it's hella loud music.

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They put conditions for it to be highlighted.

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They'll say that it has a positive positive message. not calling to like fornication and bad things like this. Which music has a positive message? Let's be honest. English music. American music was just taken over the world. Where's the positive message in that?

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So much No, man, Tupac. He was deep man.

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Some was like, yo, he's like a prophet, man. He was deep. No, he was he was deep. He talked about his lyrics were really deep. And they talked about some issues and in the in the in the in the ghetto communities in America that were deep. He talks about some of the things about women's rights. He has some good stuff in his music. It's true. Well, let's look at the percentage wise of the good and bad he edits.

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Big difference kill him. The woman's A B? Yeah.

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This is what you're hearing, smoking this doing that.

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Killing this planet. So what's the message the sending to our children?

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Now there's some goodness in

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Arabic music comes out. I don't understand it. I don't listen to what you hear sometimes in the soup. Never I think in the world, the history of Arabic music. I don't know there's a song accepted as a Habibi, Habib DNS.

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I've never heard Arabic song and this is his hobby Barbie, did

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you walk in the soup here? It's gotta say, Have you heard her beauty? And he's not talking to his wife. And she's not talking to her husband.

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So what's the message is that sentence to the people.

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We have to wake up we come in bnb real.

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Think about what this stuff is doing to us and to our households. No big deal. Now and in the movies.

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Or even in some TV shows.

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She's gone. I don't know who's keeping up with this stuff nowadays. But so excuse me, for me a little old school. Oprah who retired recently. She's always there with this big cross on her neck A lot of times, right? What message is this sending to you indirectly into your children?

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Okay, it's not that bad. not that big of a deal, right? You worship to sleep. You worship the cross. We worship Allah. You know, whatever. No big deal.

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Dr. Phil? Is he still around?

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Dr. Phil is is he has some good stuff. He does. I'm not gonna lie. Even Oprah she has some good stuff. We have to be just as Muslims. They have some good things, but is their outlook and how they raise their children.

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The way we want to raise our children as Muslims. They might have

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Some good points Don't get me wrong.

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But in general,

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now, for example, there was a two young

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individuals, a Muslim man, and a non Muslim girl. They were like 18. And they fell in love online, all this. And if you guys saw the story, and they wanted to get married,

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what was this solution?

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Don't get married, try it out a little bit, first, take a test drive, lease it for a few years,

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Lisa for a year or two. And if you like it, then at the end, go ahead and buy it, then you get married. So different ideologies that we have, we have to be careful.

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So these things are dangerous. All throughout the films that we watch the Hollywood films,

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at the time of difficulty, was the first thing that they do in the film.

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Swear away,

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drink straight to the whiskey.

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Any

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go to the bar get drunk is that what type of message is sending to our children? Now we're coming up.

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It's not that big of a deal. Even somebody that has been cool as a way to do it.

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This is dangerous stuff.

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How many one night stands do we see in the movies?

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What is this teaching us and our children?

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The data we blended into our households,

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the enemies of Islam from the beginning.

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And especially the days we live in are trying to focus on corrupting the Muslim household by focusing on who first

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the children who else

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the women to destroy the mother, the foundation of the household,

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the mother to destroy the Muslim women

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to get them out of their household

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like they did the women in the West. How were they able to destroy the household in the West, and look at this, look at the household in the West. Is this what we want for our families as Muslims?

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This is dangerous stuff, we have to be honest, the one

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that to me, this is serious.

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These things are not just happening by coincidence. These are strategically planned moves from their their things. This is in some of their books, by the way,

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that the way to get to them and to corrupt the society is to corrupt the household. Take out the mother, destroy the children. If they can get our children what's gonna happen to the woman in the future.

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We're not gonna be able to do anything ourselves destroy from the beginning from the roots.

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Thinking about the sending these messages to our households.

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Other things

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that are the dangers in the household

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is that we talked about waking up is that the reality as fathers as mothers, when a serious golfer,

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absent mind is not paying attention. We don't know what's going on in our households. Let's be honest. What are our children doing? What are they up to? What should they be doing? We don't know.

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We'll lay out. Most of us today will become like a lost mountain. I mentioned about the analogy

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about the livestock. We go in it goes out and grazes eats and comes back and goes to sleep. That's what life has become.

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This, our households have been destroyed because we're not teaching our children do this supposed to do or not. They have desires, they have energy. We're not fulfilling these. We're not putting it into the right places. We're not given to the proper time.

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Why do they spend so much time on these games and on TV?

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Why? Because they're looking for something to fill their time and do

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just like somebody who uses drugs and alcohol. Why do people turn to this? What are they looking for? a way out

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has all this free time what to do with it.

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They know what to do with it

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because they're not being channeled to entities not being channeling what they should be.

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Have the we talked about having a system in the household

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starting from what the beginning knowing Allah subhanaw taala knowing his obligations, the five daily prayers.

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If you could just get your sister on the five daily prayers at home going to the movie with your sons and coming back. Look the effect is going to have

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the Quran in the household here in the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala seen this in the practice

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wants to have the effect to protect ourselves. And we have to realize, as an oma,

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the men hedge the methodology that we need to be following

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in our lives, and how we're going to get there, it's only going to be through Islam. Time and time against the panel. We want to follow the western way of life. And unfortunately, the Muslim world, they follow the bad things

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that the non Muslims do the good things, do they follow it?

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Let's go outside now and take a drive.

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And let's go to America, go to the UK and take a drive.

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Which one is safer? Which one's better?

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He is it's a it's a dangerous zone it is we go out every day playing real life, PlayStation, but we might not come alive. It's crazy, as it's called.

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I mean, the only thing left is for a car literally to fly over us in our society. It's mad.

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Because the good stuff they don't take

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destroying our societies. And some of it's meant to do.

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So if I was telling you that some people the other day, a pack of cigarettes

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how much is that in a Muslim country?

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I mean, if you know I mean, it doesn't mean you have to smoke. I don't smoke. I know how much it costs. I mean, unless it went up was about seven, seven or eight hours right. 10,000 Okay. Okay. 10 rehabs?

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Anybody know how much it costs in Europe?

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Almost 10 euros more than 50 rehouse

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big difference, taxes so that people also save their lives. But he knows that the Muslims kill themselves.

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Then just come to free TV. Easy this easy that kill him. Take him out. From a young age, we have to know the evil that the enemy wants for us. Because they voted the low one inside Buhari for something very important, very important principle. He said cannon so yes, theory. So the people asking about the good luck and come to a certain a sharp Mahabharata mudra Kenny is asking about evil. So I wouldn't fall into this we have to know the evil we have to know that there's plans out there to corrupt the Muslim societies to corrupt the Muslim household. But at the same time, we have to realize that sometimes the biggest enemy is what the enemy within

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the issue with it. And the only way that we're going to solve our problems as a oma is returning

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to the Quran and the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and acting upon it. That's why the process ended when he talked about all of the groups, the Islamic groups, they're going to go straight and go into the Hellfire, their Islamic groups. So all of them are in the Hellfire except for one, which one?

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My alley here Leo was having what I am upon today, and my companions me my camera is rolling today. So this is the methodology that's gonna make us successful as oma EMA Malik Rahim Allah who died in 179, to the higit on the Imam of Medina, Rahim Allah and although Juan,

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he said something very, very important.

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He said that the end of this oma will never be successful, except for with what made the beginning of this woman successful. And this is the reality.

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Oh, mama, papa, as we mentioned yesterday, said to us that we are a nation of law give us honor through what Islam and we look for the honor and otherness lamb what happens? Allah will humiliate us. Time and time again, when we have so many solutions in Islam, we want to look elsewhere.

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I remember when we had a meeting in the school, I was teaching him.

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And these people, non Muslims, they did a good job. And

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they worked really, really hard. They're getting paid, you know, like five times what we get paid as Muslims up. So for the Muslim money, so they come. And they make these like rules and regulations and the goals and the visions of the school.

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And they worked really hard. And they came with all of these slogans and all these things. And we have all of it almost as soon as the privatized

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so they will say ESEA we have a high D the statement of our profit, he said the same thing. And they would like you know, because they thought they had come up with this. That was good stuff. So we already have this in this lab. I say slam teaches the same thing. So you could see they're kind of getting annoyed because they thought they had come up with something I said we already have it in our DNA. We don't look into the DNA.

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We look at, we're looking at john in in Harry and Larry to teach us how we should be.

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Don't get me wrong doesn't mean we can't benefit from good things that other religions have other nations have. That's a good thing.

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But at the same time, we need to be

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strong Muslims and Muslims.

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And time and time again, we see today that so many practicing Muslims, at the same time they're successful in their education, and the world they live in, will shape portfolios, that we have to be like this to be successful. No, we can be good Muslims, and also be positive members of society, helping the society. And I'm going to end inshallah with a story about this as an example. And for me, it was an amazing story.

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I was in I was in rehab.

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And we're going to visit Jakob disease. Alpha was an

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amateur, a great Muslim scholar who had lived in America for some time, in our area in Virginia. And if anybody you know, you know, the sort of the customs and stuff like that, we're about to walk into a city, he says, the father come in, as we're walking in, we hear a woman's voice

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is this you know, we everybody steps back, it was me and some other students. So we stepped back was this. It was like, come in, like there's a woman talking though we were to come in. So we come in, and we see this guy, he looked like a non Muslim, and that being a Muslim, and there was a sister inside. And they had had a meeting inside. She was actually had a PhD from America. Also from the same area. I'm in Virginia. And she was talking about a project she had with this other professor in university. And they were discussing with the ship.

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She's really palace, Palestinian, but grew up and raised in America.

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She had a her PhD was about global warming.

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And in

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the media today, who gets the biggest blame for global warming?

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From the countries?

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America blamed everything on America.

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Just put on America. Not true. Not true. Put everything on America. Hmm. So she did research and found out that America is way down on the chart. There's so many other countries who have more effect on the global arm than America, America is miskeen when it comes to it, but they get blamed for it. So she proved this through research through numbers.

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This to the American government

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was a big success. Because this man made let him CUDA because it's an issue now. It's an issue for the futures industry, for our children, for our grandchildren.

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The things that happen because of the global warming is gonna be issues in the future.

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So America, they they're safe from this research. Now, they're not the bad guy when it comes to this. So they reward it. This Muslim sister in the White House, had a big celebration to celebrate her research and to honor her and she came and her full hijab Mashallah and accepted everyone as a Muslim.

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So Muslim it doesn't you don't have to think that we have to get out of this, this mindset. This you know, we feel like we have to do a little harm to be successful. Leave the sooner don't practice this in Islam. Islam doesn't teach us this. Don't forget, we were as an oma in the past. We used to our brains used to work now our brains our eyes, they still work but they're, they've been frozen for some time. We need to

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defrost them, get them working and thinking again,

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the Muslims, they're the ones who reached the modern sciences, science and medicines today. It's all built on Muslim research. Because they used to think

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with the fate of oma best to go to Mecca, with revive this in our households.

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act upon La ilaha illa Allah Muhammad Rasul on the households.

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And I focused more on tonight on issue of the enemy within, then we talk about outside because classic when it's getting old, it's getting old, blaming it on somebody else.

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Let's go home tonight after this series, and reflect on how to make change. And like I said, Don't let shape on for you because we talked about the foundation and it's our foundations horrible. We can rebuild.

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We can rebuild the Sahaba

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we told you what When did they become Muslims?

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When they become Muslims, when you Oh,

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Mr. Buhari, he mentioned

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after the

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the statement that was to seek knowledge and to so we do what's used as one of the headings and one of the chapters inside of Bokhari

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Which is to seek knowledge some of the scholars said to so we'll do meaning before you become a saint, some of those responsible and some of them have said that before, you have to change the color of your hair because it got all gray. I mean for you get old, have we have responsibility, seek knowledge when you're young and you have the ability to do it. That's the best time. But remember what he said something he said, will cause

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us harm and abuse Allahu Allah. He was syllable homekeeper. But the companions of the Prophet SAW Islam they learned and they were old. They weren't young when they learned.

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So it's possible. And they have children, just like you have children.

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And they will raise their children raised On what?

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On COVID before Islam, your children hamdulillah Cooper has been getting to them. But the other reason on Islam they know they're Muslims, they have the faith, they have the natural instinct inside.

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We need to revive this, to strive to revive it, and to act upon it to make change. And it's never enabled for to look down upon to have made mistakes in the past. But the aim and what's looked down upon is to continue upon that mistake. Once you know.

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We have to strive day and night to revive our oma to build our own. And that all starts from in the household. First of all and ourselves, with our wives with our children, building,

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making change.

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Like we said, If every house will just focus on itself, it's going to spread the faith is going to come to the home. And Islam is a religion that encouraged us to be the best we can be in the deen and what and the dunya doesn't tell us to be monks. Don't make money Don't be sick of

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all aspects be the best you can be strive and all aspects of life with survive these meanings and a lot of those best Allahu Allah masala selama Baraka and the Buddha Mohammed