Mothers of the Believers – Episode 04 – Khadija bint Khuwaylid Part 02

Yasir Qadhi

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Shaykh Yasir Qadhi continues his lecture on the first wife of the Prophet ﷺ – Khadija Bint Khuwaylid RA. She is the first person who began the good deeds of doing Wudu, accepting Islam, believing in Allah and praying to Allah.

Barakah or Umme Ayman is the slave of Abdullah , the father of the Prophet ﷺ. A brief introduction is given about her and should be listened to intently

Next up for discussion is the people who are living in the household of Khadija RA. Zaid ibn Haritha and his family shared a special bond and lived in the household of Khadija RA. It also had Ali Ibn Abi Talib RA in the same house.

The first of her children is Al Qasim. He was born and died before the beginning of Islam. He died a young child. The first daughter and the second child of the Prophet ﷺ is Zaynab who is married to Hala’s son, Abul Aas. Zaynab was born when the Prophet ﷺ was 30 years old. She passes away in the lifetime of the Prophet ﷺ. Similar biographies about the other children of the Prophet ﷺ are shared in explicit detail and should be listened to intently.

What was the role of Khadija RA at the time of the revelation and her future course of action upon knowing about these revelations? Shaykh Yasir Qadhi makes explicit elaborations on the purity of Khadija RA and we should comprehend these points and remember them always.

 

Episode Transcript

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smilla hamdulillah salat wa salam ala rasulillah.

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So we're continuing to shallow to Allah with part two of Khadija de la Juana. And last time I believe I had reached.

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Where did I reach the issue of her age during marriage? Correct. That was where it reached out how old she was during marriage. So I had also mentioned that it seems like she had hired the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on a business trip to Syria. And there's also one report that she might have even done this twice. And if that is the case, then we can derive from this that she was a mature wise lady who is testing the Profit System twice before making such a big decision. So the marriage of Khadija as we said occurred when the profits of the local audio center was 25 years old. And it was at that point in time where the Profit System finally had a house of his own. Because

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before this point in time, he was simply living in the house of Abu Talib, Claudia Allahu Allah. And so as

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I said earlier, lavon he didn't die Muslim, my apologies. So the Prophet sallallahu, Sena moved out of the house of Abu Talib, and he moved into the house of Khadija. And this is where he lived for the rest of his meccan period. So he never had a separate house from those two, he grew up in his house, and then he lived in the house of Khadija until the hedgerow and in the house of Khadija are the Allahu taala. And her there were other people that are either they were brought in after the marriage, or they were living from before. So very quickly, we'll talk about some of the the people who were there or whom the union brought together. So obviously with Khadija would be who right now.

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We already mentioned this last week, her son, okay, hint, and as I said, strangely enough, we don't have many reports, but he must have been there. Now along with that there were two other people, both of whom were former slaves, and eventually they were freed, the one of them from the side of Khadija and the other from the side of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So on the side of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he had a hajima, a slave by the name of Baraka, and her cornea was only Ayman Baraka Konya was on me Amen. And of course, I have given a brief story of Baraka before. And just a brief summary as well that Baraka remember who she was, she was actually

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the slave of Abdullah, the father of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and according to one report, she might actually have been one of the children of the army of abraha, whose father died and so she's taken a prisoner. Okay, so she's coming with the army of abraha. And that would make perfect sense it fits in perfectly. So Oh, man, a man is a little girl. In all likelihood, her father has been martyred or you know, killed or whatever, in the, in the attack of the Kaaba. And so obviously, they're going to be prisoners of war, they're going to be taken. And so she's slowly sold into slavery. And Abdullah, the process of his father acquires her How old is she, we have not a

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single clue about her age other than what we can derive and extract. And so this is all my HD higher than Allah knows best, that the only reasonable age that we can have a she is older than the Prophet sallallahu Sallam by a few years at max five years. Otherwise, it wouldn't make sense the rest of the story, okay, so she's basically a little girl. And that's not uncommon. I know it sounds strange, but that's not uncommon back in the day to have a child. You know, in that circumstance, it was pretty common and normal. And so she is a young lady, a young girl, who is basically going to be raised as a slave. And when the process is born, she might have been maybe five years old, six years

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old, so she's just a little bit older than the Prophet sallallahu sallam. So she accompanies Amina to Makkah, and the process is six years old, so she's going to be 1112 years old. Okay. Mina dies on the way back, she is the one that brings the process of them back to Makkah. So this makes sense. Now, obviously, she's not going to be alone in the desert. Obviously, they're going to the caravan, but each caravan has many units. So that unit was Amina and Baraka and the process and so I'm in the die. So she continues with the caravan back to Medina back to Makkah. And with the death of Amina, she then becomes the property of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she essentially raises

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as a motherly figure even though she was only a few years older than him. And that is why in some books of Sierra and these are not Hadith inside. The Muslim these are books from the Sierra, and there's no place

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Probably narrating them that the processing would say whenever he saw her Yeah, Omar or my mother. Yeah, Omar, so he would call him a man Oh, my mother. And it is also mentioned that she had a problem pronouncing Arabic And I mentioned some stories before that she had either a lisp or a pronunciation issue one of the two that she couldn't pronounce Arabic properly. And sometimes she would say things that mean other than what is intended. Such as, for example, when she said sub betta Allahu Akbar macoun. So instead of saying sub better, she said sub Ba, which is cursing rather than sub betta, which means to to affirm. So the process is that enough of this dry enough of this

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that we don't need this, even though it was a joke, she didn't mean it that but the point is like that, so she had that talking, or maybe most likely, it was a, you know, it's difficult to learn the Arabic pronunciation when you're coming from another culture Allah knows best. So this is Baraka. Her cornea was on me, amen. And of course, on May, amen. Well, what how did she get the cornea? Because she married one of the people of Mecca, who was actually not from the hora, she was a traveler or a resident, and his name was roommate, a mandibular, obaidul hazaragi.

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Sorry, obaidul hazaragi and obaidul houses you married. Baraka and the two of them had a human so that's where we get only a man. Okay, they had this Sahabi called Amen. And amen does have a few reports in the Sierra, but he dies a Shahid in the Battle of her name, so he dies within the mccunn the Medina and Sierra he just dies within the Sierra timeframe. So there's no children of that and he dies basically a Shaheed in the lifetime the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So, Baraka husband, Baraka, husband dies, she becomes a widow. And the Prophet also than then says, whoever wishes to marry a lady from Jenna, let him marry, amen, amen. So, he is encouraging people to marry

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a man. And this is where our next figure comes in. And that is a figure that was belonging to Khadija, but was gifted to the Prophet system and that is none other than you all know. Zed, Zed z they've been had it as a they've been had it right they they've been had it. So they they've been hired into the story again, I've done this before many, many, actually a year or two ago for God when they they've been had it was an Arab slave. And that was a little bit rare. But the story was that he was kidnapped as a child, and he was sold into slavery. And eventually he made his way to the souk of Rockwell outside of the the atom during the the pilgrimage. And Khadija told her nephew,

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Hakeem him in his arm who we talked about last week. She told him in his ama that I'm going to get married to Mohammed awesome. So find me a bright young, you know, slave that I can give to him. And again, all of this is common back then is the days of Jamelia, slavery is rampant, no problem. They have an understanding what's going on. And she wants to give a gift to her husband of a harden of a servant, and he's going to be helping out and whatnot. So she instructed Hakeem in his arm to get a young lad a young boy to do Hadith of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, and that is where they they've been Hadith that comes into the picture. And so Zaid is now also in the household, and

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Baraka is in the household when the process and marries Khadija either at that time or shortly after that time, the marriage takes place between Baraka and between obaidul hazaragi. They are the first of her husband's, at some point in time obeyed, passes away. We don't know exactly when that's when the Prophet system says whoever wants to marry lady from Jenna, let him marry only Amen. And so they propose this for almost a month because they know each other very well. They have both been living in the same house. They have both been slaves at one point in time to the Prophet system and to her deja and so they both are very familiar with one another. And Zaid therefore proposes to omit a man

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and they then get married even though from the standards of the time on a man was quote unquote, beneath his aid in the sense of social status, ethnic status, you know, I'm talking about in the J Leah days, the you know, she wasn't known for her beauty she was not a lady that would have been,

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you know, people who are superficial would have been interested in on top of that, she must have been at least 10 most likely 15 years older than z if you think about the math and do them. So most likely even there's a 15 year age gap between Zaid and between only a man still Zaid proposes because he wants a lady from gender and because he must have known her from living in the household and so her o'clock and her mannerisms attracted to her and so they marry and they remain married until they

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dizer Shaheed in the Battle of Malta in the Battle of Mata, the eighth year of the hegira, the famous the tragedy that happens. So the two of them remain married and from that union is born. So literally they are married in the house of Khadija. They live in the house of Khadija. She gives birth in the house of Khadija, and this is why this family is a very special family. And it's linked to the process of Khadija directly because they are living there and they are servants and then they are freed eventually, as you know, I did the story. The both of them were eventually freed. But even when they're freed, they remain with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and they remain as a

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part of the extended family if you like, and Oussama Ibn Zayd is born with sama bin Zayed was called the Beloved of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this is one family that is a part and parcel of the family of Khadija and the prophets are from from the very beginning. And, of course, the other person that eventually comes into the family, at what stage exactly we don't know, but most likely around five to seven years before the beginning of the prophethood, which means around seven, six years after the marriage of Khadija. So not immediately after the merger, Khadija but maybe five, six years after the merger, Khadija the Profit System then offers his uncle of

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authority. Why don't you give me your youngest boy now, at the time that was it? I never thought it. Okay. Java was older, too old doesn't need to be any help. So why don't you give me your youngest boy and I will raise him because socially, economically, the process is now wealthier than his uncle because of Khadija. And there's more space in the house. And Abadi is a very, very impoverished family, very struggling family. And so I did on the law one moves in to the household of Khadija. So if you look at the house of Khadija is a house of love and joy, it's a house of lots of people, it's not an empty house, even now the children are going to come that's another thing, but Subhanallah

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it's like the bustle the hustle and bustle. And the Baraka that comes is very clear that the House of Khadija would have been a relatively larger house, and they would have been, you know, many rooms and whatnot, and they're all living their life over there. And the next 15 years, ie from the marriage until the beginning of why we do not have really any information at all, we don't have much information about their personal lives, because obviously, who is going to narrate it's a personal life between the prophets of the lifestyle, and Khadija. So we literally just have one or two things. And the main thing that we have is really the children that were born to them. And I've gone

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over the children and I will go over the daughters in a little bit more detail when we finish. But really essentially, just very quickly, all of us should know that. The first of the children that was born was a law Sim.

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Sim and this is the vast majority opinion, there is a second opinion that Xena was born before Qasim, and Susanna becomes the eldest and then costs him so that opinion is there. But the majority of 18 have serious Syrah scholars, they say that I'll call him was the first child that was born, and he was born. And he died before the beginning of Islam. And there are two opinions about the age of his death, the first opinion when he's just about to walking, which is going to be two years old. And the second opinion one is just about writing. And I feel that one of the narrator's confuse the two. And so it's split up at some point in time Did he say walking or riding, if you say riding

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riding a camel, then your meaning seven years, eight years old, okay, you're not going to ride a camel alone at the age of three or four. So if you say writing, then he's going to be seven, eight years old. And if you say walking is going to be two years old. Allah knows best which report is the more authentic one. Either one, it basically means that he lived beyond, you know, the years of weaning. But Allah knows best. The one that is more mature is that he lived the age when he was riding a camel on his own, which is seven, eight years old. So he's basically a young child, and then he passes away. And here I'm going to go into a quick tangent. One of the goals of my Sierra

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and my alma Hudson momineen is to try to cover as many topics as we can that are related to the Sierra. And this is a topic that does

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have a relationship and I wasn't able to cover it when I was doing the actual series. So just a five minute tangent here about the issue of Qasim and the Cooney avoid costume. Okay, because we were talking about costume right now. And of course costume is

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the son of Khadija as well. So the Hadith in Sahih Muslim unnecessarily Malik said that once we were in a huddle called and somebody called out Yeah, Abella Kasim.

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So the Prophet system turned to look at him. And the man became embarrassed. And he said, Yeah, Rasul Allah, I didn't mean you. I meant so and so.

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Because you're not supposed to call the Prophet system by his name. And the man said, Yeah, I will cost him and the process of turned and I didn't mean you. There's a

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Another man, his name is Abu casa, I meant him. So the prophets of the law Who are you who has seldom said

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use my name, that semo bismi wala tecnova konia t, and don't use my cornea. You may use my name, but don't use my cornea. This is a famous Hadith in Sahih Muslim. Now based on this, our scholars, as you can imagine, have different into seven opinions or something. They love to have all these different opinions to confuse the masses. But maybe there's some benefit then that allows us to teach the masses all of this confusion to clear it up for them. Just kidding. Of course, they're not confusing the masses, but people have to understand like when he's saying let's economic unity, don't use miconia. Does that mean it's how long to use his canoe whatsoever? Well, the law hideous

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then Mr. Michel ferry said it is how long you cannot use the shaft. You cannot use the cornea will cost him it is how long? Another group said no, it is my crew. But it is not how long a third group said it is only how long if your name is Mohammed. If your name is not Mohammed, you may call yourself a world costume. Okay, so if your name is Mohammed, you cannot choose the cornea above cost him. A fourth group said that, in fact, not even just about cost him. But you should not even call anybody costs him. Because if you named them cost him What is a person going to call his father? I will cost them so is it even this ticket out? All of these are minority opinions, the vast majority

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of roadmap and this is the Maliki might have the humbly madhhab in the maturity wire the Hanafi madhhab. The vast majority said it is completely valid

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to call yourself a bull Qasim and to name your son awesome. And to be called awesome. Even if your name is Mohammed. How could they say this one there's an authentic hadith in Sahih Muslim, because they said this hadith number one was given for a reason.

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And that reason was what

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don't be confused between who the Profit System is awesome and somebody else. Now if anybody right now says oh I will cost him there is no confusion that he means the Profit System is so with the death of the Prophet. So some of this prohibition is lifted up.

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This is the majority opinion to 30 with him say this and then as partial evidence as well. So then they move on to the next piece of evidence. And they say as the scholarship they've been have said, The Tabby who was a tabulator vocabulary, he said, I met four of the children of the Sahaba all of whom were named Mohammed and their kunia was above cost him

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which means what the Sahaba themselves understood that this prohibition is no longer applicable after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam then he lists them number one, Mohammed Eben palha even obeyed the law we all know talk have been our way that I wanted to share with shadow number two the most famous amongst them and I mentioned his story briefly would obviously Mashallah other than our note taker who is currently writing a text which is all right, everything else is forgotten by the way how many people have said to give Salaam to you over and over again? Maybe we should have a surprise cameo at the end because all over the world people are asking even last week

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somebody said again so before I forget

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it's it's it's too much of an honor he sings for the people online okay. Bismillah. So we said number one is having obeyed the law he had a son Mohammed who was I will call him Who is the most famous

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Mohammed whose corneas above cost samples from the tab here on the sons of the Sahaba does anybody remember

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Mohammed Ibn

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Abu Bakr, Mohammed even Abu Bakar Mohammed even Abu Bakr was of the famous sons of Abu Bakar and his cornea was awesome and there was an awesome Eben Mohammed even heavy book that's number two. Number three you hide a Mohammed have not even ever thought that you had Mohammed have not even thought and he was also able to close him. And then number four you had sadly wl cos had his son Mohammed Mohammed inside the Navy will cause and he was also a little costume. So four of the major sons of the Sahaba In fact, all of them were actually double Bashara. They named their sons Mohammed and their sons then took the Konya herbal costume, which means they fully understood now why would you

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take the cornea I will pass him if your name is Mohammed because you want to follow the Profit System correct. There's no other reason to choose Apple costume if your name is Mohammed. So the sons of the Sahaba understood that this is permissible and once they understood it so the majority of scholars then said it is completely permissible therefore to this tangent here. You may call somebody a blue costume in our time is no problem. Even if his name is Mohammed no problem. That was something that was only fees them in in Nevada. It is allowed no so that is awesome. Then after awesome, we said there's a controversy who has

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Xena will cost them so those who say Xena was first awesome come second those who say costume was first which is the majority Zeynep come second. So zeyneb is the eldest daughter of our NaVi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, most likely she was born when he was 30 years old when he was 30 years old. And I'll do the stories of these doctors at the end very quickly again of the Sierra. And again, just to tell you from now, the information we have about them is less than a paragraph or two. They're all concealed and shrouded in the hijaab of the Sierra, hardly anything is known about them. So zeyneb is the eldest of the daughters. And she is the one who is married to her son, her

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hardest son had the one whom Khadija need Holla Holla had a son a blouse, and I would ask him or beer so Xena is married to holla Khadija is the one who put the marriage together. Khadija is the one who asked the process of why don't you marry Xena to my my nephew of ours. And so they married and they were very, very much a couple who wanted to stay together who loved one another and they remained together until they passed away. Their story is very, very famous and we'll talk about it in detail maybe in a few weeks. inshallah tada if Allah gives us life, and then we will finish the series and move on to very quickly the daughters and grandchildren of the prophets. Let's send them

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even though I've done it before, but just one time in a different way, that Zina and a blouse, they will refuse to convert to Islam in the beginning Xena converts to Islam, but I will ask always remains a faithful husband, a loving husband, a very loyal husband and never harms any Muslims. He's not an enemy to Islam. He doesn't convert for personal reasons of family and whatnot. But he doesn't become an enemy to Islam. And even in the Battle of budget, he participates grudgingly he doesn't really get involved in the attacks is in the back. But he is captured as a prisoner of what also is captured as a prisoner and when the ransom is given, so Xena then sends the necklace that used to

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belong to her Dejah. Right, this is where it comes into Khadija that as a part of the ransom, Zainab den sends the necklace that used to belong to Khadija and the hadiza then gifted it to Zane up on her wedding. And so, when the profitsystem saw that necklace, okay, obviously this means that when the Sahaba got it, they recognize what it was they must have taken it to the process of because obviously, he is not monitoring every single piece that is coming in. But in this particular case, when it came in, so then they must have brought it to him. And so they they say his heart softened immensely. elbonian you could tell that he is very emotional now. And then he makes shefa to the

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family who owns a house has a prisoner of war. And basically anytime the processor makes you fire he is rasulillah when you listen to him, Allah will give you back much more than what you you know you have given so when he makes a fire, any Muslim will do whatever you want out of school of law. And so he says, If you feel it is okay, he doesn't want to order a command if you feel if you feel that you can find yourself in your art to do this, then why don't you send a blouse you know home and give them the you know, plenty of back as well don't take the money from them. And there's no question that, you know, we have to be honest if some buddy says, oh, how come the process some did

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it for Xena but not for the others? Was it because it is a nub? And it was there surprising. He is the father of Zeno. Zainab does not have the status of any average lady on the street. She is the daughter of the province ism. Why is that surprising? And this is his, you know, wife's jewelry coming? Why is there anything wrong with this, there's a personal element involved and there's nothing wrong with this whatsoever. So he made a shift out for saying the jewelry and her husband. And he told about us as we know that I'll let you go on one condition and that was why he did it. Because he did not want his daughter to remain married when we should have. So he said I give you

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one condition you go back and you send Zane up here. So you go back you're free. But essentially your ransom is my daughter basically. That was basically what it is right? So I will ask subparallel willingly Yeah, and he nobody could force him in Makkah. Once he went to Makkah he could have broken the promise, but that's not his character. He sends Xena back, beloved and others waiting outside. And you know, Xena goes with them and he returns back to Medina. And so, Zainab that remains single and unmarried. She could have gotten married at the time. Her nigga technically does not exist after there's over, but the two of them are very much they want to remain a couple, even despite all that

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is going on. And finally, in the sixth or seventh year of the hedgerow and a very famous story mentioned a sly Bahati where a blouse basically runs away and he flees and he takes refuge in Medina and trees in the middle of the night, and he finds the house of Xena. how that happened is really interesting. Allah knows how we don't know but how

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We would have found the house in the middle of the night. Allah knows best he finds the house of zeyneb nobody knows and all of Medina That house is because he's still not a Muslim at this time. He's not supposed to be there it is illegal for him to be there. He might get into trouble might even be killed because he is a pagan coming from the mecca from what age he finds the house of Xena, and insalata fajita when the process says Allahu Akbar, from the back the voice of Xena when fajita has started, that she said I am saying I've been to Mohammed and my husband or blouse has sought refuge with me and I have given him refuge and have given him protection in solitude.

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Okay, one of the processes that have finished the Salah. He said have you heard what I heard? They said yes, he said well law he This is the first I'm hearing like in other words don't think that I know something you don't know it's tense between cooperation and the Muslims it's tense. Don't feel that I this is some no this is the first I'm hearing my daughter not even telling me that she's making a public appeal that I want to protect a blouse you know, and Islamic filk says that any Muslim who gives a protection

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that protection is valid okay. A man is called any Muslim who gives a protection protection as well. So the process of allowed a blouse protection but he did not allow a blouse to remain with her unless he converted. And he then converts to Islam at that point in time. And so the marriage resumes now there's a long Philippe discussion, too. Did resume was there a new Nic guy because they haven't been together for five years? How could he then they just so that we're going to talk about that later on. But the point is, this is Zainab and

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Xena passes away in the lifetime of the prophets of Allah one day he was setting them. The next daughter after Xena is Rokia and Raka was born when the process was 33 years old, and Rokia was betrothed to a bola hubbs eldest son rutabaga, but she was too young to actually get married. It was just arrangement and that when they grow older, they will get married. As you know, I will have reneged and broke away and refuse to get his son married to Rokia. Both Rokia and amico were betrayed to Aruba and Otaiba, Ruth Bader table of the children of Abu lahab. So before Islam, the agreement had been made, that the marriage will take place between these two daughters and two sons,

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obviously after Islam, you know, what happened in Abu lahab went against and said, I don't want my sons for you. And that was better for the daughters as well. So that was finished so a year therefore migrated to Medina as a single lady without getting married. She was also young at the time, so she would have been basically in the 20s or so. So she hasn't gotten married at this stage. And she then Sorry, I'm getting confused, natural clear, omega tumors and married my for my for my slip of the tongue mamaku migrated as a single lady, little Kaya was then married to Earth man, my fault my problem. Omega boom was not married when she did it on fault. Emma was not married when

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they did hegira. So to repeat, the two older daughters were married in Makkah, the two younger daughters were married in Medina that was a slip of the tongue. Little Claudia was married obviously to a man obviously my mistake. And the two of them they even had a son as we talked about, and we will talk about again insha Allah and lokoja migrated to Abyssinia and migrated to Medina so she is one of the daughters of the process and was done both of the hedgerows. She has been to every senior and she has been to Medina as well. And Rokia was the first of his adult children today. She died before Xena buddleja was the first to die. And she died in the Battle of butter before the process

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and returned and she was so sick. That was the excuse of earthman for not going that was why earthman was given excuse to not go even though he wanted to go. And because of his illness he was given an excuse. And at that point in time. He was then the was when she passed away her sister omega thumb was then given to Earth Manuel de la Juan

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and omega zoom had been previously unmarried. She had migrated as a single lady, she didn't have a husband. She was too young to have a husband at that time. But in Medina, she's now a young lady. And so when Manuel de la Juan is now illegible, and single, so then omega film, then Mary's earthman rhodiola one, and she as well passes away in a few years and they don't have any children follow them as we know. She is born in Makkah, and she migrates to Medina as a young girl and she then marries Ali rhodiola, one in the second year of the hedgerow in the month of Muharram, the second year of the hedgerow. And so Ali and Fatima nica takes place in Medina, Fatima was five years older

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than our Isha and we'll talk about Ayesha in two weeks in sha Allah with us

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Either, and the last of their children was Abdullah. Now, there's a bit of a controversy. If Fatima was number four, some say Fatima was number three and omega film was number four, there's a bit of a controversy there. And there are very strong reports in both sides to be honest, so Allah knows best, I just want you to know that some say, and the difference between ultimate omocha tomb is a year and a half. So there's not that much difference. They're very close to each other. So some say and to be honest, the family generally seems to say that Fatima was number three of the daughters. And this is in contrast, what we are familiar with the she was the youngest. Allah knows best. Allah

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knows best in the end of the day, but what is known mature amongst the Muslims as Fatima was the youngest. And there are some reports that say Fatima was the youngest as well. Fatima was five years older than I should have the Allahu taala and have the last of the children and the only one to be born in Islam is of course, Abdullah. It is of course, Abdullah. And Abdullah is called Athena and Otto here. And Abdullah is the one who is born in Islam and dies in Islam in Makkah, and because of whom suta till COVID is revealed. And I've mentioned his story many, many times. So these are the people in the household of Khadija and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, so that we

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understand what is going on in these years about who else is coming in which families are living there, and the children that are born to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now, obviously, the big narration that we have deja, which is the most important narration is the narration of Khadija rhodiola. Juana and what she did when he came down. There is nothing that I found before this except for one narration and Allah knows best how authentic it is. Because, as usual, most of the narrations have missing links, but it is mentioned

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from odo obey from his brother Abdullah and his obey that a neighbor of Khadija narrates that once he heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam raising his voice in the house of Khadija, and saying, ha ha deja wa will la de la Abu Lata will reservable la de la boom, a burden that he was saying to Khadija I swear Oh, her deja, I will never worship a lot I will never worship and Rosa, and Khadija was responding back that Holly, let Holly reserve, leave a lot alone, leave reserve alone, meaning Don't worry, don't worship them. And what this indicates is just the only thing I found in that 15 year interim between the marriage and the Hara incident, the only thing that I

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found is one thing. And what appears to be happening is that there is some pressure being put by society on the Profit System to participate in some ceremony to be a part of a Latin RZA. And he's feeling that pressure. And he's telling Khadija, I'm not going to do this, I'm not going to do this. And Khadija is saying, Don't worry, don't do it. Don't leave a letter, don't don't, don't, don't go to Allah don't go to a loser. And this is before the coming of Islam. So we know the prophecies have never worshipped a false god. It seems therefore that after the marriage, Khadija as well stop doing this, even though this is before Islam. So hadisha, as well then becomes basically a Hanif and she

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stops worshipping the false gods, and she supports the decision of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, to not worship these gods and this is again, what we would expect of Khadija There are also things that seem to be happening right before Electra is revealed by just a few months, and of them is that the Prophet system is confiding in her deja, the things are changing. So we know from authentic hadith and I mentioned this in the beginning of the sutra, that the Prophet system began experiencing different things before revelation began. of them. The Hadith in Sahih Muslim says For example, there is a hedgerow in Mecca the choose to say Salaam to me even before I was a prophet,

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and I still recognize that hedgerow that rock every time I pass by it is identify Muslim so the process is saying there is a rock that I remember it used to say Salaam to me and I still know which rock that is. And they've been abuzz and all the Allahu unsaid that sometimes the processes would see a light or hear a voice saying Salaam and once he confided this to her deja, and he said to her, deja, I am worried that something is wrong with me something there's a disease or something. And she was the one who then said to him, that Allah will never do this to you or son of Abdullah Heaven, Abdullah, Allah will never do this to you. So the process is telling her deja Some things are

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happening. I don't know what they are in a blue book that I didn't know Booyah. It is narrated that to the Prophet system and Khadija we're both in house

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hero for an entire month and it happened to coincide with Ramadan. So this shows that at times Hara Hara the process would take a DJ there as well. And they would both worship Allah in a way that we don't know what what there's no Salah, but what would they do? And at one of those occasions, the process of went outside the cave and he heard a voice say, said Mr. Lee come to him and he came back to Abuja and he said, I think I have heard a jinn trying to scare me trying to do something to me. And she replied, It must be good news. Oh son of Abdullah bin Abdullah, it appears that Khadija would sometimes called the process and we have an Abdullah is one of those nicknames so it looks

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like Khadija would call the Prophet says and we have an Abdullah or son of Abdullah as far as I have read no other of his wives would do this none of and that's it makes sense because only Khadija is the one from mcca who knows and he may be She even has memories of Abdullah Allah knows best I'm saying so she's the only one to call the urban Abdullah or son of Abdullah. This must be good news because Salam is only given by the good and for good. If somebody says Salaam it's not a shade on. Okay, so if you're hearing Salaam it must be good news. And in another Hadith, also in de la Abou noraim. So the Alibaba noraim. Last week I quoted the La 11 Bay Houthi I said is the most famous the

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line. The second most famous Delilah is Abu Abu nameless for honey has a multi volume book about the miracles of the prophets. This was one of the classical books of miracles. And in that book, we have this narration where it says that the Prophet system said to Khadija that I am seeing dreams that are coming true. Now that phrase I'm seeing dreams are coming true. We know from authentic Heidi's, well known, had Ethan Bahati says the process and would see true dreams for six months before rissalah. So we know this, what this version is saying is the phrase that he's going to Khadija and confiding in her that I'm seeing dreams, I see something and it comes true. And she responded that

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AB should have good news for nothing will happen to you except good. So all of this shows that even before the karate incident happens, the prophet system is confiding in her Dejah going to Hadith and we're going to see obviously in the airport incident, it really embodies the relationship and attitude that the process had with her dg rhodiola, Juana azuri, the famous stablity he said that after the daughters of the process and were born, that was when he began to love seclusion, he wanted to be cut away. And that is when he would begin retreating in Laurie Hara. So this is happening basically, when the process is in his late 30s. That's when he wants to just, he just for

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some reason, he doesn't want to be around the people of maca, and obviously is preparing him for, you know, hair off. And so he would go to hell for many nights at a time. And he would take food prepared by Khadija, until when it ran out, he would come back to Makkah dupo off, then returned to Khadija for a few days and then take food again and do the same thing. And he did this for maybe a year maybe three years until it began. So there's this phrase where he is basically living in Khadija with Khadija and Hara between Hara and Khadija between holiday Hara and the house of Khadija for a while doing this for a while doing that, and her DJ is the one helping providing food,

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according to some reports, at times, she herself would go deliver the food, and this is proven as well and the version of a boon or aim, were at time she might even have stayed with the profits of the law while you send them in the cave. And I want you to before we move on.

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So Pamela, I mean,

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I'm not trying to be any, you know, mocking or anything of our current situation and many women relationship, but will lie how many wives would support a husband who's doing something that's strange, not that I'm comparing any man to the Prophet system. But the point that I'm trying to get to cannot come across here is that the process is at this stage, he's acting atypical as the least that can be said, I mean, some would have said it's a bit bizarre, leaving the house going for days in a cave. And Khadija has so much trust that he must be doing something that's beneficial for us. And that really is the mantra of Khadija that's what we see about Khadija that she gives the utmost

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respect and trust to her husband. That really was what he needed during this timeframe. And we're gonna see this over and over again, that the support of a wife for her husband Of course, it is so important. And we see this again, I mean, I don't go into a tangent here but it is so true and all of

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Men we know this that you're the support of the wife is something that really empowers a man to become more courageous into the work to become more confident in what they do, psychologically is actually empowering. It gives the man the energy that is needed, not just from, you know, the wife from the family from everybody there, but especially from the wife. And I know this talk is, you know, politically incorrect in our age, because people think this is antiquated, because we're not talking about her genders or social construct. Of course, I don't believe that. But people are saying how many women are the same? Obviously, I don't believe that at all. But you can't change the

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fifth row. You know, I just want to tell you one book, that is one of the most popular bestsellers on Amazon about marriage relationship is by Dr. Emerson eggerichs. Emerson eggerichs. And it has, you know, Amazon has the rating system, it has, I think, 3005 star ratings. I mean, that's like, almost unheard of, on Amazon. Amazon, as you know, is a platform for everybody, majority of them are non Muslim, and they rate books, you know, so a book that has even 100 ratings is a big deal. Most people don't read a book in observers gonna read it, to have 3004 and a half to five star ratings like this is it's off the charts, as they say. And it is one of the most popular books written by a

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psychiatrist about a healthy marriage. And the title of the book, I have the book at home, I've read it, I've summarized it in my classes, and that I give on marital issues and whatnot. And that's why I've discovered the book, I was looking at what are the most popular books out there that are beneficial, and this one always was being referenced and popping up all the time, it was written, I don't know, 15 years ago, or something. So now it's antiquated these days and 50 years, these ideas are considered old school anymore, right. But the title gives it away. The title of the book is love and respect. The love that she most desires, and the respect that he desperately needs this the

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title of the book, love and respect, you can try your best to say men and women are equal genders are social constructs, you cannot change the way that a lot created men and women, a woman desires to be loved and admired. That's the way Allah created her. She needs to be reminded of that love. She wants and craves the love that a man will give her. And in return, obviously, she wants other things as well, just like the man but the main thing that you what is the main thing the man wants, the book says it, love and respect, respect to be respected means doesn't mean that you put your husband on a pedestal and bow down to him. That's not what it means. Even though the Hadid has that

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connotation, because there is that connotation there. And I'm not gonna mince my words, there's a reason for that connotation. But it doesn't mean that you literally worship the husband, no, but it means that when the wife gives the confidence to the husband, that I trust you, that's what the respect is, I trust your judgment, I know what you're doing. And you're what you're doing is going to be worked out in our best interest, that support that a loving wife gives this person, the guy who wrote the book is saying, When the man has that support from a loving wife, it is the most powerful psychological tool that he needs to conquer all of life's problems, because he will feel

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empowered that, yes, I have the love and the support of the woman I need the most. I have her support, I can do everything. In contrast, when she doesn't give that support, okay? If she's like,

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making sure that his ego doesn't exist, okay? always putting him down mocking him, the person is going to feel if I can't even earn the trust of my wife. How can I earn the trust of anybody else? Even though he won't say that? Right? But that's what the By the way, I'm just quoting the author here, right? Even though us men, we know this is true, but this is what the author is saying. And again, it's Dr. Emerson eggerichs. I do recommend you read the book. But the point that he's saying is that the man doesn't even realize this, but it's in his mind. He's a psychiatrist. He is a world famous guy. What he's saying is the man subconsciously, if he has failed his marriage, then he kind

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of sort of thinks he'll fail at everything else as well. Whereas when the even though he doesn't say that, but that's there. And that's why depression is linked to marriage so often, both husband and wife By the way, both of them there's so much true with with that now anyway, but the story I'm trying to come up with Khadija is that what we see in deja throughout all of the narrations, you know, and again, all of our mothers, we love them, we respect them. The ones that will appear in Medina, we hear certain minor things that are human nature, nothing wrong with that. Certain grumbling certain complaint, certain bickering, human nature, and they are the best of us. What I'm

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trying to say, with hadiza, not even a word

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whiff of any of this, nothing. It's a totally different lady. And what we learn from this is the level of support that hadiya gave to the Prophet sallallahu Ali, who was said to them, it is unparalleled. And that is why he himself sets the last set of so many years later, that she supported me when nobody else did. That's what he remembered about her. What was the phrase that come tears came to his mind. So I said, that she supported me. So the support of a loving wife that that is what helps a man overcome so many things. And so when we look now, at the story of vida Hara, everything will now fit into place once you have this psychological framework, because really,

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this is the most important story of Khadija in the modern era

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that so many books mentioned. And that is, of course, the incident of gibreel. Coming to the process of audit Hello, squeezing them three times. We all know that story.

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According to Ibn Hisham, the Profit System went back to Khadija. And this isn't even his schaums version body doesn't have this one. But it's a very interesting phrase. He says that he sat next to her thigh to thigh means he literally is next to her and embraced her. So he needs a physical comfort. Now, you know what happened, the squeezing and all that, you know, the I'm not going to go over the hot ahead. I mean, that's everybody knows us, jumping over that. I'm now coming back to back in the house of Khadija, right? So you understand what I'm what I'm saying your time is limited. We're not going to go over all of that. So he comes back and embraces Khadija This is a

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very interesting, you know, phrase that it's understood that he needs to be comforted. And he embraces Khadija, according to the body narrative. His heart was palpitating toe to toe for audio. His heart is now trembling and whatnot. And he sings a milania Maloney as he enters the house. And Khadija then comforts him, he says had that have an unhealed rower. Now he has version does not mention the embrace. And you understand why psychologically, she wouldn't mention that one phrase understand, even though obviously, you get the point here that she's not going to mention that as mentioned in other narrations here, but I should does mention that until his

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trepidation and fear left him now, what

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truly amazes me when I think about this, is that from holiday Hara to the house in the middle of Makkah, minimum minimum of two hours

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in our times, with staircases to how to head off, you have a staircase now, okay, and you have well paved roads, in our times, I don't think we can do it an hour and a half less than that. And even that I think we're being generous. Minimum is two hours, if not more than that, to go down from audit, head up and walk and go all the way back to the house of Khadija next to the car. throughout those two hours, whatever has happened and hit off. Our Profit System is still feeling cold. You know, all of us. Once in a while something happens and we go cold, whether it's the news of somebody whether it's whatever, we go cold like that. But how long does it last? Five minutes, 10 minutes,

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two minutes, 10 seconds. How long does it last? Whatever happened to the profit. So seldom, like even hasn't said about another matter that if any of us had had it, we've had a heart attack immediately. The very fact that he's still alive and breathing. It shows the level way above us. But at this stage two hours, and he feels the cold. And he says me loonies and Maloney. Think about that. Her deja covers him up. Now again.

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He embraces her. The narration doesn't say but it's understood. What do you think she would have done? What any wife would do? That's human nature. Obviously, these awkward details, especially the classical outers wouldn't have mentioned it, but what do you think any wife does when her husband is feeling scared trepidation, she must have hugged him back and think about that. Two hours of walking, does not comfort him with two minutes of Khadija has embraced us. Just think about that. Once as he says, Then when his fear was lifted up, so it took a while for two hours now the Khadija is there. They embrace and hug he covers she covers him with the shoulder and whatnot. Now, the fear

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goes away, and now he's able to talk. So Pinilla this shows us the love that the process have had and the comfort that he found in Khadija

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And he then confides with her that in the UK, sharlyn, FC, that's what the head of the body says. I'm worried about myself means. And this is something that many Muslims find awkward to say, but I don't have any issues with exactly what is there. He doesn't know what's happening. solahart he was setting them. So he's wondering, am I seeing things? Am I delusional? These are things that are happening, what would any person do? If he's hearing voices, seeing lights, seeing something, I'm worried about myself? What is going on in the NFC, I'm worried about what is going on. And this is another amazing reality. Again, the men here fully understand fully understand. This is human

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nature. Men build walls. That's what we do. We're not talking about the wall, the guy in the White House is building that. We're talking about the walls that we built around people. Men build walls, they do not allow anybody into their innermost thoughts. When men come together, they talk about external problems, the politics, the world, this and that. They don't talk about a problem happening at home. It's embarrassing for a man to tell others about a weakness. That's not what a man talks about.

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But if there is a confidant, which is for most men, non existent, will call your mom, if there's somebody that you can really open up to that person you will open up to. And when a man does that highly vulnerable, very difficult for a man to put himself in a position of laying out his weaknesses. Who does a man do this in front of somebody whom they have a most trust? It's very difficult. And that's our mother Khadija.

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No man likes to tell even his wife that I have this problem, because he feels as if he's not a man in a village, the problem we have, I'll be honest, it's a male ego problem. We don't want to that's, you know, women martial does have article that they can talk about any and all problems real and imaginary for hours and hours on unmarshal. That's about a cola good for them. But women and men on the other hand, they don't talk about their problems. On the contrary, they just clamp up on it. They don't talk to anybody, sometimes even their family, their nobody, they just clamp up on it and just deal with it internally. When you open up, it's a sign of vulnerability for the man. And it's a

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sign that the person I'm opening up to, I have full confidence in. And frankly, most men might not have anybody in their lives. Or maybe one or two people like that. Here we have the prophet SAW Salem, opening up to her deja telling him telling her his doubts, his fears, his weaknesses. I'm worried what am I seeing? And once again, I mean, again, I'm not trying to stop for the law mock any modern couples or whatnot. But a lot of times if any man does this, the response to his wife is even more demeaning. Okay, like any time a man comes in, says something problematic. And that might be it's like, well, you deserve it. You should have gotten Anyway, you know, well, you shouldn't have

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done that, you know, that's like also a very common response. And obviously, when that happens, then the man's ego which was already fragile, goes to, you know, non existent, which is why he clumps up even more later on. Okay. But again, so panela, which we have here will lie. I mean, this is mind boggling. I wish somebody with a speciality in psychology and psychiatry analyzes this next paragraph, I can only do so much not my expertise, but will law what we see here is a woman with psychological wisdom and emotional maturity, the likes of which

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hardly existed. I mean, look at how she deals with the situation. Here is her husband coming to her terrified, trembling vulnerable with a very bizarre story. And she comforts him in such a manner that she takes that fear that trepidation and turns it over into confidence. What an amazing lady. And inside Buhari, we have six phrases mentioned. And other books we have other phrases mentioned going to add all of them together. And so let's piece together that conversation to the best of our ability inside. Well, how do we have six phrases, the first of them, la la la, he la Zico la vida. That's how she begins. When she comes and says, I'm scared. I'm worried. He's, he's laid open his

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vulnerability, put it all on the table. This is the most vulnerable a man can be to confide in someone about their weaknesses especially a weakness to do with your body with your mental issues is definitely a variable.

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Big weakness and immediately with the voice of confidence her deja negates those doubts. No, that's not true. No, nothing wrong with you Lau will lie swears by a law, then she affirms she negates anything can be wrong, then she affirms law, your physical law la vida, Allah will never, ever embarrass you. Allah is not going to embarrass you by putting you through those send negation of his doubts, and an affirmation of his status. And then begins a long list of CV resume snippets. Okay, this is a list of

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the positives of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. And once again, not too, I mean, you know, I'm sure this doesn't happen to any of us men here we have never, there are stories that we hear about in faraway places, right? where sometimes a woman might list the negatives of her husband, rather than the positives. Have you heard of this ever? It might be something stories right here and there, right? Nothing, nothing we have ever experienced in our lives. But perhaps it is said in faraway civilizations that if a man might open up, the wife begins to demean even more and bring up things of 10 years ago. Again, these are things said, Not that I have any experience of this, but it

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is said that something might be brought up of 1015 years ago. Here we have Khadija of the Allahu Allah Subhana Allah and again, we'll look at the emotional maturity to bring up the positives at a time of weakness. Well, light. Think about that. In all seriousness, he is now feeling scared and vulnerable. And haleiwa doesn't remember the negatives. Oh, you did this that day. Oh, of course, he's not alone. No, she has confidence boosters, one after the other. insoluble Hardy, five things are mentioned in Takata ravensara. There are three other things. And in a poverty, we have one other thing mentioned.

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So a total of nine things that we find in various narrations.

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And this is so beautiful, and so panela. And I'm not trying to brag about anything, but I don't think anybody has done this type of thing before to because I was very interested in this paragraph. And I wanted to go and see so actually collected it. And I don't want to, you know, sound like this. But just to make you understand these five minutes that you're going to hear took me an hour and a half to do. It's not that easy. Much of the research that goes on to something that behind the scenes is something that I have done, I enjoy doing that. But I'm saying this is not something that is immediately accessible that I don't know anybody who has actually gone and tried to find out what

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did he just say? and try to figure out the whole, you know, piece it all together? Because there's mentioned in you know, five or six different books. And so why do we have five positive things that are mentioned inside mentions three more authority mentions one and then they have this data it mentions an ending to this so we have a nice long paragraph that is found in the multiple sources and to the best of my knowledge nobody has constructed in this manner and if somebody has done any hamdulillah I don't know anybody's done that. So let's begin with seipel hottie five things are mentioned after the first point. The first point we said is what color will la de la musica la vida

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inside Bahati, number one.

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Number one in Nikola Tesla.

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So Khadija is now describing the positives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, you are good to your family and relatives. This is the first thing that you mentioned. You're good to your family and relatives, you have slept over him. Number two, you help the weak,

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you help the weak, those that are weak, oppressed, you help them.

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Number three, you give to the one who has nothing. taxable martyrdom, somebody that's impoverished, no food, no clothes you give to that person. So the second so the first issue is about your family. The second issue is about social work, being involved in the community, taking on the causes that are unpopular, whether it is the issue of burying the daughters alive, whatever the issue of racism, whatever it might be, at that time, you are helping the oppressed. Number three you are giving to those that have nothing. So this is now charity, generosity. Number four, don't call it life. You are hospitable to guests if a stranger comes doesn't have a roof, you invite them over you let them

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stay in our house, your hospital to get you give them food. And number five what to do Allah Jimmy Are you know what a bill that is like an end all be all like it's a generic statement. You help in every positive manner that you can is just to end like I can't even list all the good that you have. What are you know, either Jimmy, you know, I will help you help in every good cause that is there. Just leave it at that. So this paragraph summarizes for

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The life of the Prophet system in Makkah. What is he doing in Makkah? Here Khadija summarizes those positive things. You're a loving father, you're good tribesmen to your local tribe here. You're somebody who takes on the causes of those who are oppressed. you're somebody who's generous with their time and their wealth. you're somebody who's hospitable to strangers, you give them food, you give them our shelter. you're somebody who helps in all good deeds. In the Takada live inside. There are other phrases that are mentioned in turn on top of these ones, three are mentioned in the public court.

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You speak always the truth.

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We know this, I mean, so your manners in speech are always the truth. number one. Number two, your amanat are always fulfilled. If somebody trusts you with anything, a promise a contract an item, you have given them an oath, you always fulfill it. And number three, and inside we have and you're a HELOC are the most a crumb, the best of the clock. There's nobody better than you.

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In the 30th of October, we have an extra phrase. And that is you have never done any fire show.

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You've never done any bad deed drinking gambling, women, you haven't done any of that.

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So all of these if you look at them, so panela What is her deja saying here? Her DJ is saying you're a good man.

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You're an honorable man, you're a decent man.

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This shows multiple things. First and foremost.

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And I've said this and many others, if your spouse can testify to your character, you don't need any other character witnesses.

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If your spouse can truthfully and honestly testify that he is a good man, she is a good lady. Because nobody knows you better than your spouse. It is very easy to fool your colleagues at work. It is the norm to have a double life outside and inside the house very easy.

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Many are the people there must be good friends think they are angels and their families know there are devils. Many are the people to be loved.

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But when your spouse can testify, honestly and truthfully, that he is a good person or she is a good lady, how long that testimony is all you need. And that is why her D just testimony is worth the weight of 1000 men. She's testifying to the HELOC inside the household. And what does she mentioned anything that is positive is mentioned here. Look at this long list of 910 points. You can't even think of anything more.

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Number two we have over here as well. Khadija has positive understanding of Allah azzawajal blessing the good person that Allah will bless the good. So what I'm saying here is before even a man comes down from the heavens, Khadija already has a type of Eman in a law. This is a very important point before the details of the man are revealed.

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hardage already has the precursors of EMA

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so amazing, because she has so much essentially sip cabela and usno one Billa at wakulla law, all of this is gushing out, and she hasn't even heard La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah yet, but it's her fitrah So this shows the purity of Khadija rhodiola Juana that she knows that Allah will bless the one who's righteous, and I don't know anybody more righteous than you, or Mohammed or even updated at this stage, not rasulillah at this stage. So what we see here truly is a psychological wisdom and an emotional maturity. That is mind boggling, mind boggling, where she takes the fear of the Prophet system, and she turns it into confidence. And then to add to that wisdom, she then

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suggests a course of action. And then she takes the hand of the processor and walks with him on that action will lie what to Lady Think about this. Not only does she suggest what is to be done, she physically she could have just said go to whatever she could have said that go to work. I see what he has to say. But she knows right now he needs a little bit of help. And my physically being with him will comfort him. So she accompanies the profit system to work in nofal. And then the story as you know what explains what has happened and what are called course is a cousin as we said that nofal is the brother

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Have hoilett so Khadija been to hoilett and nofal, what have I been known for? No further and hoilett are both brothers. So this is her brother's son, and one of his elder to her DJ by many, many decades at this point has already become blind, etc, etc. And this really again illustrates, as we said, the maturity of Khadija, and I want to translate for you a beautiful passage from straight from urbanization. Right after this incident of even his shams, a lot of hero right after her the hero in his Sham has a paragraph about Khadija and I found it interesting. He put that paragraph at the audit Hara not at the death of a teacher, what is the paragraph say are translated for you. And

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hadiya been to Hawaii, they believed in him, and affirmed what had been sent to him by Allah. And she supported him in his affairs. And she was the first who ever believed in Allah and His Messenger, and believed in what was revealed to him before in other words, she is the first muslima in human history. She is the first to embrace Islam. We're gonna come back to this point next week. Even Hassan goes on even as hot sorry, this is in his heart, and in his shop, same thing in his house. So this is being written 130 years after the death of the processor, very early paragraph here. So, so through her through her, Allah made it easy upon His Prophet.

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Never would he hear anything of his people, rejecting Him, or refuting him and become with grief, except that that grief and worry would be removed when he returned to her. For she would comfort him and affirm him and make it easy for him, and thus make the troubles that the people gave him, she would make it disappear and easy for him. This is Urbanus Hawk writing, the first author of Sierra, he has this beautiful paragraph that Allah blessed the process in with Khadija and with Khadija help he took on the problems of the world, this is basically human psychology. That never was any problem being faced outside, except that he would return home and she would change that grief and into

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comfort and that fear and worry into confidence. This is even his house writing 1100 years ago, and of the blessings of Hadoop and time is up. So we'll just finish off with this one thing and then we'll move on wait till next week in sha Allah of the blessings of Khadija obviously, not only has she been the first to accept Islam, she is therefore also the first human being ever to do will do and pray of the oma of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam no one of the obviously the process of did no one of the oma prayed and did will do before Khadija radi Allahu Allah. And even Abdullah

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says she was the first to believe in Allah and the Prophet even a theory says the first of all of hulking law to accept Islam. All of Allah's creation to accept Islam is Khadija even a theory rights no man or woman preceded Khadija she is the first person to embrace Islam. And as the Connie, the famous author of Hadith says, as the Connie says, she was the first to believe in pray. So she started this practice of accepting Islam and praying, she started the Sunnah of prayer. So she will get the reward of all of those who did this deed until Judgment Day. In other words, what he's saying the highlight of the process and whoever begins a good deed, shall have the rewards of all

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those who follow until Judgment Day, as that Connie is saying she's the first person who began the good deed of embracing Islam, no one before he embraced Islam. She's the first embraced Islam, the Islam is an abbey. She is the first to embraces Islam converts to Islam, basically. So everybody who converts their role model is Khadija whether they know it or not. And she's the first to do will do and pray of the oma. So everybody is then following Khadija in this that she's the first person who saw the process of doable and she then did it. First person whose other person pray and then she did it. And beautiful Hadith over here in the margin debate about it. And because it was long, I decided

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to just read the Arabic considered translating it, volume 10 page 183 we have here that Eben Massoud says the first time that I heard about the matter of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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So this is Eben Massoud, you know, even as you all know him,

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and he's describing how did he hear of Islam. The first time I heard of Islam was when some of my uncle's came to Makkah

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and

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We all went to Ibis and Abdulmutallab. They were their friends of Ibis, even Massoud uncles and abass. were basically traders and whatnot. Remember even Massoud was an Arab, he wasn't a slave. But he was from what is considered to be a lower class of Arabs. He was an out of he was not a slave. And he was a hired hand, he would do menial chores and jobs and do other things. So he was living in Makkah, and he was basically a worker, basically labor in Makkah. And that's why there was this class warfare between Abu Jamal and him, but he was not a slave. And so it was really sad. My uncles came, and they were sitting with a bus and we were sitting around the well of Zamzam. Then when we

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were sitting there, they saw a man come and he describes their seeing of the profits of the low sell him like, you know, a whitish man with reddish tinge. Now when the Arab said white them as light brown, remember when they say white, they don't mean white. When they say white, they mean lightish brown, white for them was called yellow. Okay, what we call white, they call yellow for them when they said a whitish magnet is light brown cream ish, brownish, that's how the complexion of the process was. And he had hair going to his

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ears. And his forelock was large, and his nose was, you know, beautifully fashion, all of this, their full beard, etc, etc. And now hold Komodo a little battery, this is in the narration here, and now he will come up a little better. You all understand this. He is like the moon on the full moon. And this is in the narration here. And on his right hand side was a handsome young man who has not yet bearded young man. And behind them was a lady who had covered herself completely. This was rare, they didn't see a little closer, and they came towards the Kaaba. And they touched the Blackstone, they did throw off seven times, and the boy on his right and the lady behind. Then they raised their

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hands and said that to Kabir, the boy was on his right, the lady behind them, they raise their hands, and they stayed there for a long time, then they do drew core and stayed for a long time, then they stood up, and they stayed for a long time. And then they went into such the, and the lay, the boy on his right, and the lady behind, and they did all of this throughout the entire time. So we had never seen anything like this before. And we found this strange, so they turned to our bus, his uncles, and they said, Oh, I will follow what is this new ritual that we have never seen Has something happened? What is going on here? So they he said, Don't you know? They said no, he said,

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that is my nephew, Mohammed Abdullah. And the boy to his right his idea of Nadia thought him and the lady behind him is Khadija Binti hoilett.

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While la he, there is no one on this earth, who worships Allah in this manner other than those three,

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only these three are worshipping that's it. These were the first people who prayed and they were the first to do will do and they were the first to face the Ebola. No one preceded them before this. So everybody who then does these deeds is in fact, imitating Khadija on the low wind. She is the one who started all of this in the oma and so she will get the reward partially of all of those who did it until Judgment Day. And this leads us to the conclusion of today and inshallah next Wednesday be the delay Tada. We will conclude Khadija didn t hoilett will leave questions to then inshallah, because it makes sense to leave it to them. And with that, inshallah We'll see you next week with a

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data set. I'm working on how to lie about a castle.