Mending Broken Bonds Between People

Yasir Qadhi

Channel: Yasir Qadhi

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah who Allah alayhi wa sahbihi woman while I'm about

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one of the goals of this video is to achieve unity in our ranks, to make sure that our societies are as civil and as peaceful as possible. And so Allah subhanho wa Taala has legislated the bonds of Jehovah. Allah subhanho wa Taala has made these bonds of the strongest of bonds. And Allah azza wa jal has legislated many things in order to facilitate unity amongst the oma and of the things that he has legislated and of the aspects that he has encouraged in the Koran and our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa centimos encouraged in the sooner is an aspect that frankly, the majority of us do not avail ourselves to to earn Allah's rewards. And that is the concept of the Arabic word is Islam that

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Sylvain and the English translation is mending the affairs that are broken between people. This is what Islam does not tell Bane means that that which is connecting the people has been broken. And so a third party steps in that's me and you a third party steps in and men's the bonds. And these are certain I attend a Hadeeth. I'm going to mention them about the benefits of bending the ties. But before I even get there a very frank question to myself in all of you, Al Hamdulillah, insha Allah all of us we have prayed regularly to Hadoop or on giving charity, an honest question. How many of us have actually thought about bringing two people that are no longer talking back together to be

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friends? How many of us have actively engaged in this amazing act of charity that Allah commands in the Koran and the Prophet system commands in the Hadith in the Battle of budder, when the very first war booty was being distributed, and people were taking and these are human beings, even though there's a Alba certain aspects happened between them, words were said and there was anger right after the Battle of others. Subhana Allah and this shows us you can have Eman, you can have Taqwa and still fight with your fight meaning verbally with your fellow Muslim there was anger in the heart and Allah revealed to Latin unfurl the first verse, the first verse, it Allah will us live

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through that

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fear Allah azza wa jal and men these bonds that have broken up Allah revealed on the plains of the Battle of by the desire came down and they haven't even return back to Medina but their hearts have some you know what happens when some things are said when money is taken? The hearts have some hurt some pain, people have withdrawn from each other. And Allah revealed in the Quran or you who believe fear Allah and correct these men's between you were asleep who that urbini come and our Prophet says and came out and he brought all the Sahaba back together again. And Allah says in Surah Nisa, La Jolla, Rafi casita, Minda Jwa. home in lemon Amara bill sada cotton oma roof and oastler I'm being a

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nurse. This is an amazing idea. amazing idea. The majority of secret gatherings have no good in them. The majority of times you come together and you don't want other people to know you whispered to your friend Hey, we got to meet up at five o'clock meet me. Majority of times, there's a secret meeting. We know there's not good afoot. We know it's something evil but Allah says three things if you do them in secret, Allah will bless you three things. If you hatch a plot, literally hatching a plot you know what a hatching a plot is, you bring 234 people and you say, Hey, we have a plan, hey, we have to do this. Allah says the majority of that there is no good in it. But three things there's

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going to be good in it right? What are those three things is saw that cotton Oh, my roofing number three is law and being a nurse, what does that mean brothers and sisters, every one of us we know two people that used to be friends, two cousins, maybe even brother and brother, maybe even uncle and nephew. Maybe you know even husband and wife. Something has happened between them. We are their relative we are their friends. We know them very well. Allah says and I asked you bluntly, have any of us done this. Allah says have a secret gathering call together the three four other friends call together the other family members and hatch a plot hatch a plot not an evil hatch a plot not for the

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sake of sin hatch a plot for the sake of good come together and think how can we bring these two back together again? What can we do so that

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inshallah we facilitate. And I'll talk a little bit about that in a few minutes as well. So Allah is telling us to have secret meetings and have plots in order to plot for the good. One of the best ways to plot for the good two friends that are no longer talking to people that used to be close, you bring them together, the extended family and friends, and it must be secret right now. Hi, Rafi. Kathy, remember, this is not something you tell the people that you're bringing together, but the external family, the external friends, you know, your circle of friends, all of us have them sometimes two people they break up that circle should secretly meet secretly, you don't want to tell

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the other two and then you hatch the plots. And Allah says woman file vatika EBT model dot ilahi for so far, no te a jorunn now vema whoever does this secret planning for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. Allah says, I will give him not just an agile, a magnificent adjure a massive agile, one of the easiest ways to earn a job is to have this secret plot. When's the last time we did something like this? Our Prophet salallahu it he was sending me he said, Do you want me to tell you something that is far better for you than your Salah and your zeca and you're fasting they said what oh messenger of Allah, what is better than salah and zeca? What is better than these rituals? He said,

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his slaw that Sylvain bringing two people that are fighting back together again. Why? Because your prayer and your charity. It only benefits you from dinner. That's good. It's not bad. But when you bring other people together, it benefits society. You get peaceful societies, when you bring people together again. So that is why our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, bringing people together is more blessing, you will get more adjure than your Salah and your zecca and these personal rituals. If you sacrifice some of these things, as long as it's not the fault for the sake of that you are doing a great job. And of course one of the most interesting episodes in this

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regard. As we're aware when the Prophet system was in Medina, obviously nobody led the Salah other than Him obviously who's going to lead the salah and he's in Medina only when he left the city for a battle. Would he assign somebody and when he passed away is awesome. The week before he passed away he assigned a boubakeur otherwise no one dared stand in the Mirabeau the person obviously think about it right? No one now What happened? sahadi tells us that the tribe around the masjid of Koba, they fell into some dispute we don't know the details we don't need to know the details and physical fights broke out blood was spilt not death but blood you know what happens to people or to groups of

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people fighting and weapons were drawn and stones were thrown. So there was actual blood coming from the from the two camps. So the profitsystem heard of this he said to some of the people come let us go to Cuba This was after slavery was over, he said to them, Come let us go to Cuba and solve their problem. No Sneha tell Bane let's bring these two, you know, within the same tribe to sub tribes, we're having a fight let's bring sort of between them so he left so that and so that also comes and he hasn't come back and time is going on and on and on. And he hasn't appointed anybody. He has not appointed somebody they're expecting embark until finally they're all gathered in the masjid. The

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answer time is going where are you going to do somebody was gonna come and so Billa radi Allahu ansaid homea abubaker for a min Bina abubaker omaka stand up and you lead us in soil up and this shows us that the Sahaba understood that the senior amongst them was Obamacare. And so Obama grudgingly stood and this is the famous incident that when he was standing in the middle of the Salah, the profitsystem returned and the Sahaba began like murmuring like you know things have big thing happened What do we do now? It's never happened before that somebody is leading and the process of them walks in and I will buckle would never turn around. He was a man who sure inside out

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but when there's like murmuring and hustling and whatnot, he literally is different that he turned like what's going on and it's allowed in an emergency situation to look around. He looked around and he saw the processes when he's walking in nobody's gonna let him pray in the back right? Every time the processing came, the rows split up for him you understand obviously, right, who is going to Yanni sobre la me, you're going to open to the word come so they would motion to him. That's where all the noise is happening. So he turns around, he sees the profitsystem and he comes right here and the Prophet has that mechanic Stay where you are. I'm gonna pray behind you. Right? Oh, welcome to

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the excess unhemmed illa. And then he steps back hamdulillah Allah gave me this honor and then he steps back and he insists the Prime Minister is not saying anything and he insists the prophets have said, you know, come forward when the when the prayer finished by the way this is not exactly related. When the prayer finished the profitsystem said he abubaker Why didn't you lead I told you to lead he said it is not allowed for the son of Abu kochava to lead the Rasulullah Simon Salah is not allowed for someone like me to lead the profitsystem inside out.

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So the point being the one time that he was delayed for the Salah, it was more important for him to remain in Oba and to solve the problem than to come back for the right timing, which was an unprecedented affair. And that's what Mr. Bahari has, in his book, his chapter, the chapter of the leader, taking a delegation to bring sort of between the people, the leader should be in charge and throughout the syrup, how many incidents we have of the Prophet system himself getting involved, even between two Sahaba that they're just having a dispute or having an issue multiple actually, there's at least half a dozen times that we're in one of the incidents of cyber hottie that two of

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the men in the masjid began raising their voice about to debt because you said you're gonna pay me this week. And the man said, Well, I don't have I'm sorry. He said, No, you promise me I need this. And he got became irritated, the voices are raised. The prophets ism is in the house of Arusha, and he hears this and he lifts up the curtain and he motions to the one who whom the debt was owed to he said, Give him just give him some extra time. When he This is also the hedges give him for the sake of Allah just emotion not even saying something. When the Sahabi saw the process of lift the curtain, he said he rasulillah the whole debt is a gift to him, call us feast of Eden, you're going

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to make Scheffer Hello Sophie subida. And of course the famous incident of Betty rock with her husband that she was a freed slave they were two slaves married together and in that society these slaves do not have the status of other you know others the reality of the time place, they were having a marital dispute now she's walking away from their marriage and the marriage is going to end up the marriage is going to finish between them and so famous story of buddy rock and her husband the prophet and it was going on for days by the way any he wanted to remain married and she had the right for divorce where she got the divorce so the profitsystem said to barrier up yeah barrier or

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have some pity his she was crying for her. You wanted to be there have some pity and you know, come back with him. So buddy Ross said Dr. rasulillah. Are you attack Mooney? Are you giving me a command? Or is this shaft of the one making soda? Or this is a religious commandment? Or you're just trying to, you know, make things good? It goes, No, no, this is not a religious command. It's not from Allah, you have to know. I'm just trying to make soda. And so she said la Hagerty. I have no need for this man. Anyway, that's a separate point altogether. The point is the profitsystem getting involved wanting to try to bring a couple husband wife back together, bringing two Sahaba that were

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fighting back together, how many times even when, again, we can go on and on the point being, the concept of bringing people together is something that is fundamental to the Quran and Sunnah. It is considered to be of the greatest acts of charity. Now final point to your final aspect, what can be done what should be done to bring people together? Firstly, the Quran tells us now, if you can see them in the Jwa home, it's not just a one man show bring 234 people who knows the people that are fighting and have a secret meaning by secret we mean those two should know about it right? And you literally discuss tactics, you literally discuss what can we do? Okay, what's the soft spot, you

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know, what not and then the second point and this is where we get very, you know, some people raise their eyebrows are profitsystem said three things are not considered lying. Three things are not considered lying. One of them is law that Sylvain Okay, now there's a lot of discussion, what does this mean, etc, etc. And frankly, you asked me and in my humble opinion, our scholars are making that which is self evident, complicated, that which is very clear. They're making it very complicated, because everybody knows that you're not supposed to lie. Now. Now there's a hadith that says you're allowed to lie in three things. So our scholars kind of had met some of them that kind

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of had like, Well, how do we reconcile? And it's obvious, Allah says, When Maria father Jacob de haut Mattila if you do it for the sake of Allah, then even if you tell an untruth, a blatant untruth, but Allah knows your Nia for example, for example, our squat some of our scholars have explained very clearly and others were awkward, again, advanced topic here, but some scholars said okay, this isn't actually a lie. It's the type of toja and the responses DoDEA is allowed any time so why did the process I'm saying three things a lie is allowed. This means you can state factually something that is untrue. And the best example for this Okay, brothers don't smile here. The other

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thing you can lie in his marriage, right to your wife, what does this mean? Okay. Yanni, your wife Michelle, does she cook some food and you say, this is the best food I have had in my entire life?

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Is that factually correct. Now in my particular case, it will be factually correct because my wife is the best coke right? So I'm just saying that for the video recording, no problem. So in my case, it's true. But in your case, let's be honest here. So my point is, this is very clear. When you look at the context. You know, you

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Is your wife the wife praises the husband last not gonna give you take you to jahannam for romance you know I'm saying this Hadeeth is obvious that exaggeration and speaking that which is not factually disallowed so one of the three things is what is law that tell Bane so what can this mean? So you go to one of the brothers fighting you know, I was with so and so and he reminisced of the good old days where we're all together. Maybe he didn't maybe it's completely no basis or maybe he reminisce 10 years ago of something and you're kind of exaggerating the point is, it's not technically the truth, but your Nia is what brings it Did he really mentioned me, he said that then

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the same thing is put in the ear of the other person. That's why you need the team. That's why you need the three four or five people to bring the narrative together. And then once that happens, the third party should facilitate a sit down like our professors who want to Koba sit them down what's going on, remind them what Ostler who that was Allah says in the Quran remind them to have you know was sooner higher bringing peace is best This is in the Koran when you have a fight bringing peace is best that Allah so just as if two Muslim groups are fighting then bring peace between them so you remind them of the rights of a law you ask them to forgive and then if need be if one of them really

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has done volume and whatnot then you need some apology something you know other friends, you know what, you did something wrong, just ask for forgiveness or if some money was involved, you know, whatever, try your best you guys know, every situation best. And then obviously brothers and sisters, lots of drop lots of love in this regard. Do it for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. And you will find that Subhanallah you know what it is, again, this is so true brothers and sisters, that when our hearts are hurt with a friend with a relative, ego takes over, let's be honest here. Ego takes over. And in order to overcome that ego, we need to be placated. We need our egos

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massaged, right? And that is done by our group of friends and family. Come on No big deal for the sake of Allah just you know, you just need that push is what I'm saying. You need that gentle push. That's where friends and family come in. And that's why Allah subhanho wa Taala has made this such a core of our religion. So my humble request to all of you with this I conclude. What we want to do, especially in our community here and all across the globe, we want to do is to make sure that our hearts are pure and clean. And by the way, that is why Allah has forbidden jealousy and Allah has forbidden Riba and Allah has forbidden Mima because these are what break the ties of friendship. The

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number one thing that breaks the ties is something you say and then somebody says back to you what he said so Heba and Amina, and where does Lieber come from? Generally from has said so all of these things break the ties of kinship so my humble request to all of you is to think about your own family and friends your own circle and say you know who amongst those two are no longer close that used to be close and then follow this tactic and you will insha Allah to Allah be pleasantly surprised and most importantly, for so fun. Oh t adjourn now. vema we're going to give him a massive reward. May Allah subhana wa Tada. Keep our hearts pure and keep our hearts United for his sake was

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