Blessings of the Family
Channel: Yasir Qadhi
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So welcome our usual announcements insha Allah before we begin,
as usual, make sure that we are all wearing our masks, make sure that we exit in rows. Make sure that you do not congregate in the hallways which you congregate when you exit the building. And that you do not interact with anybody while inside the premises. All of this should be done outside. Also, during the football, make sure that your masks are fully covered and your nose as well as is covered or else. One of our volunteers will come and gently ask you to to cover up. We've had two deaths in our community, the relatives of our community. First, the uncle of our Board Member Mr. Choudry Mr. masu Choudry his uncle, the uncle of our board members, Mr. Choudry has passed to in New
York we're going to make dua for him as well. We have our the uncle of Idris and say Audrey who live here in Medina villas. Their uncle said whether or didn't father has passed away and they've made a special request for to art so from both of them, we're going to be making dua to Allah we ask you Allah is that of man and the Rahim that you forgive their sins Oh Allah, Allah, Allah grant them full dose of Allah. O Allah give Saba to their families of Allah, O Allah purify them over their sins as a cloth is purified, O Allah, O Allah convert every evil that they have done into good O Allah and magnify the good that they have done Oh Allah, Oh Allah substitute a place for them better
than this place and companions in their grave better than companions over here and environment in their grave better than the environment over here of Allah give them firmness when Monica and Nikita ask them the question so Allah allow their graves to become a vast place of gender Oh ALLAH and protect them from the fitna of the cover and the idea of the cover and the idea of Jahannam Rasul Allah who has said nobody will have it anywhere early. He was a big Marine.
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Alhamdulillah we exalt the Name of Allah the Majestic, the Most High. We put our trust in him and upon Him do we rely, he sent us a Prophet whose message no sincere person can deny. And he revealed to us a shady app that we live and we comply by. We ask Him to forgive our sins on the last day and our good deeds to amplify. Allah subhana wa Tada says in the Quran, yeah, Johanna SUTA Cora Bakula, the Honda Accord coming up soon Wahida wahala come in Huzzah. Jaha Weber thermen humare. Jalan cathedra on one is what taco la Hala de Tessa Luna be he one or ham in Allah? How can I leave to Morocco, Cuba. This is the first verse of Surah Nisa, all mankind, fear Allah and be conscious of
Allah who created all of you from one being. And from that being he created the spouse, Adam and Hawa. And from the two of them, he created multitudes of men and women. Be conscious of Allah, in whose names you ask people to do things. And also be conscious of your families. What Allah what or ham, be conscious of Allah and be conscious of your families. Notice how Allah tells us to be aware of our families in the same verse that tells us to be aware of him. Today's holdover is going to be a reminder about family, a reminder about the importance of our loved ones, our relatives, our mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters, sons and daughters, and our extended family. If you look
at the Quran, the Quran is full of stories about families, Zakariya and Ibrahim, they don't have children. They're making dua to Allah for children.
Use of Alayhis Salam has problems with his brothers and family. Yaku has children that are involved in family issues. We have in Surah tell care have the the orphan that does not have parents, and we have the parents who lose their child. We have in Surah Luqman verses that talk about the advice that fathers should give to their sons, so many stories about families in the Quran, and how can there not be when families are an essential characteristic of life? Every one of us has a family, every one of us has a family and that family is given by Allah we do not choose our families. We do not choose how many children we have. We do not control the gender and the quantity of our children.
Yeah, Hubballi mon Yasha enough and we are Hubballi money shot with the code. I will use a widow Homido Quran and what Ina? Well, yeah, woman Yasha Akiyama to some he gives only boys to some he gives only girls to some he gives both, and to some he gives none. This is Allah azza wa jal who chooses our families, we do not choose our families. But we are obliged by Allah to strive to have the best families. We are obliged by law, to have families that are families of compassion, families of mercy, families of love. The importance of family in Islam, goes back to the very beginning of Revelation. In the Hadith in Sahih, Muslim, a man by the name of amber Eben Abba, who was not from
Makkah, he was from a faraway town, he heard that the Prophet sallallahu ala he was selling his preaching something new. So he came to Makkah, and he said, What are you? The Prophet sallallahu sallam said, I am a prophet and a Nebby. He said, What is a Nebby? He's never heard of a Nebby. He said, Allah has sent me. So he said with what the prophets have said two things. This is early Islam, the first two, three years of the Dawa, he says two things. Number one, that Allah be worshipped. And number two, what until Ceylon or ham families be united families be upon good and compassion
In early Islam, the whole message of Islam was summarized in two commandments, worship Allah and be good to your family that was Islam in Abyssinia when the king of the Abyssinians Najafi when he called Jafar. And he said, What is this religion? What does your Prophet sallallahu wasallam teach you? Once again, in that summary was what he came to us. And he told us to worship Allah, our Creator, and to be good to our families. All of Islam is summarized in two commandments, worship Allah and be good to your families. This was Islam in early MCCA. That was no other commandments. There was no salah, obligated Nozick out no fasting of Ramadan. What was the obligation, worship
Allah and be good to your families. In this COVID crisis, every one of us has seen the importance of family. We can boycott from distant relatives, we can do social distancing from the masjid itself. We are six feet away from everybody except one category, the one category we are around our family. And because we are around them, we are discovering both the joys and the pain, both the good and the bad. Being with our families, it has increased our sensitivities, our awareness, our love our bonds, and yes also the bickering also the fighting also the tension. So it is so important during this time of stress, that we remind ourselves of the importance of family that we remind ourselves of the
blessings of family that we remind ourselves of the status Allah has given to being good to our families, in the Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim Mustafa LA, our Prophet sallallahu, either he was sending them said that Allah has said so this hadith is pudsey and it is Mustafa Kiley. It is the most blessing type of Hadith, in authenticity and in transmission in authenticity Behati and Muslim in transmission it goes back to Allah. What does the Hadith say? Allah says, another rough man, my name is a Rahman and from my name, I created a Rahim Rahman Rahim. What is Rahim? Raha means the womb. And Rahim means in Arabic the concept of family, we can translate this hadith as the
following. I am a Ramadan and from my name, I created family and the meaning of family is to be merciful or rhyme from Rama or Rahim from Rahman r Rahim from the concept of compassion and mercy. It is correct to state that Allah is telling us that the concept of family is based upon mercy and compassion. Or Rahim is from Rockman. From my name, Allah says, I created the concept of family. In the other Hadith in Sahih, Muslim and also in Bahati, that Allah azza wa jal created the creation when He created everything. And then the Prophet SAW Selim says, A Rahim stood up the family or rahem stood up and it hung to the Throne of Allah, or Rahim, the family said, Oh Allah, what is my
MACOM? In your eyes? What is my status? What is my status of Allah? I want to know what is my ranking? The family is asking, What rank do I have? Oh Allah. And Allah said, Are you not happy that I will keep ties I will remain connected with the one who connects with you. And I will disconnect from the one who disconnects with you. I will break off from the one who breaks you up and I will remain connected with the one who connects you. The meaning is very clear. The one who preserves family preserves his relationship with Allah, the One who is kind to family, compassionate to family, Allah will be kind to him, and the one who breaks family destroys family, Allah will destroy
him. In the famous Hadith in Sahih Bukhari our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
the best person amongst you is the one who is the best to their families. And I he said, I'm the best to my family. The best person amongst you is the one who is the best to your families.
and I am the best to my family. I speak now to the fathers to the husbands because they are the majority of the audience right here.
The concept of family is derived from the root for mercy for compassion. You will be merciful when somebody has made a mistake, you have to be merciful. You will be merciful when a wrong has been done, you will forgive. That's the meaning of being merciful. The role of the father, the role of the parent, the role of the husband is to embody compassion and mercy. Yes, strictness has a role to play, but the default is compassion. Allah did not say from strictness, I created the family. Allah did not say from either job, I created the family. Allah said, from my name or right man, I created the family. The default when it comes to family matters is mercy and tenderness and compassion. And
dear fathers and Dear mothers, much can be said time is limited. We live in a time of great evil, great fitna great facade, we live at a time when the iPhones you give your children, the tablets you give them it opens up a world of evil and have some good as well.
realized your parents, when you and I were teenagers, when you and I were children, we did not have that technology. Imagine if we had that technology, what would we do with it, your children have opportunities you did not have, you are giving your children the good and also the bad that you were say from so realize they might do more than you in good. But they might also slip more than you. They might achieve more than you in education. But they might also fall worse than you and I felt because of the technology that we are giving them it's not their fault. And I'm not exonerating the mistakes they do. But I am saying, do not expect your son or daughter to live the same life that you
did. Just like you could not live the same life of your parent. Were you the same as your father, as your mother, were you able to live the life according to them? You did things they didn't want you to do, and you got away with it. Realize your children will also do things much more things that you did not do. It's not their fault is the technology you're giving them. So you have to find the right balance between strictness and compassion. You have to find the right balance between what is and what is not allowed. And realize Dear parents, you cannot protect your children completely. You cannot it's the world we live in. Most important thing is you act in what how you want your child to
be exemplified exemplify what it means to be a Muslim man or woman show in your actions. The role model conduct more important than what you say is what you do. More important than you rebuke is your lifestyle. Realize Dear parents, most likely you and I will go and your children My children will live on. Whenever you have a discussion with your child, whenever you have to rebuke your child whenever you have to be strict. And sometimes you do have to be strict. Remember, a time will come when you will be gone from this picture, and your son or daughter will be there and you will not remember don't lose the battle of today. In order to lose the battle of the next generation. Think
of a time when you will not be there and your son and daughter will remember I did this mistake and that's how I father treated me think of that time. You might lose the battle of today but win the battle of tomorrow. Think long term. Think about when your child becomes a parent and they will remember your parenting techniques. There is no easy answer Wallahi there is no easy answer. And I am in the same boat as all of you. Our children are struggling. But my simple advice to you. Family and compassion, family and Mercy Family and Rama go hand in hand. If you're going to make a mistake. Make a mistake on the side of compassion. Make a mistake on the side of Rahim because that is what
family is about. Family is about love and compassion and mercy. Make your households households of love and compassion exemplify Rama exemplify the name of Ramadan in your dealings with your family and perhaps insha Allah which out at the time will come when you are not here and your son or daughter will take your place and you will remember the Rama that you had would remember your
Allah your lifestyle and that is much more important than one or two conversations that you have May Allah azza wa jal bless us all with righteous families may Allah azza wa jal make us of those who listen to the Quran and follow it to the best of our abilities. May Allah subhana wa Tada bless us with and through the Quran and May He make us of those who is versus they understand. I ask Allah's forgiveness you as well ask Him for He is the before and the rock man
Alhamdulillah HillWalker then I had a summit Allah de la mula mula Olam, Yoko local foreign ahead. There are many techniques and advice that can be said about families. There is no time today, but I will remind myself and you have one and only one. The Quran is full of Diaz for the family. The Quran teaches us that we should make dua for our parents and our children. Welcome Rob Durham, Houma Kamara Bayani Sahira, we make dua for our parents. Rob, Donna, habla Nam and as long as you know what the reality now Kurata Ireland which I didn't want to paint you mama, I'll Sneha leafy the reality. We make dua for our parents, for our spouses for our children, dear Muslim, how can you
raise your hands to Allah and ask for money and ask for long life and ask for the blessings of this world and not ask for family? The best blessing of this world is that of a family, this world the best blessing is that of a family and health. These are the two blessings of this dunya How can you raise your hands to Allah and not ask Allah for good family? So my advice to me and you is always make dua to Allah for good families, good children, righteous children, make dua to Allah constantly for a spouse that will help you attain Jana, for parents that you can ask forgiveness for. For children that will be like you are better than you and Iman and Taqwa. ask Allah for the guidance of
your children. Ask Allah that your children pray your children fast your children follow Eman that the love of the Quran is in their hearts. The love of Islam is in their hearts constantly make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala and never ever forget, as our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the dua of the parent is always accepted for the child. So make dua and make lots of dua for your children Allahumma in the domain for a mineral Allama data if you had the Diomedes him but he loves a PATA wala Hammond Illa for Raja while iodine and Illa Kobita wala Maria von enlarger feta what I what I see Ron Ilya sorta Allahumma fildena was the one in the Latina Saba Pune been eemaan What
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