TaSeel #46 Q&A
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The speakers discuss the importance of learning about the Islamic culture and the shaving of the baby's head, as well as the use of haniq in cultural practices. They also touch on the negative impact of divorce, domestic violence, and custody during the waiting period. The speakers emphasize the importance of seeking marriage during these times and avoiding being affected by proud moments. They also mention the concept of time and the importance of not being affected by a proud moment. Finally, they discuss the importance of giving charity and not being overdoing it.Transcript ©
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Or we have,
Hajj session.
So those who are planning to go to
Hajj, Insha'Allah, may Allah
facilitate that for you, Abilalamin,
and make it easy. And for those who
are planning, may Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, give
you the opportunity
sooner than later, you Rabbi Alamin. So those
who would like to learn more about inshallahta'ajj
and what to do, what to expect, join
us insha'Allah this Saturday after salaat al dua'ala,
insha'Allah, wu'ala. Miss Mila.
Questions.
Do the parents have a preference of the
name over the parents the prophet named his
grandchildren?
Now, here's the thing. There is no Islamic
tradition in terms of yanid. This is the
obligation that you have to let your grandparent
the grandparents choose the name for the children.
There's no really religious obligation from that perspective.
Like I said, it's wa'ashirunna bilmaruf, treat them
kindly.
And also, part of a treatment,
in our society is the prophet is commanding
us and
goes
both ways. You So, it goes both ways.
You need to ask,
You Anir Rahma for the for the younger
ones
and and have also, respect for the older
ones. So, if the older ones and the
elders, they would like to give names
and the names are reasonable,
I mean, why not? Shouldn't be an objection
to that, inshallah, but Islamically speaking the obligation
is for the father,
the father of the child.
Does that make that the grandfather,
which means the father of the father, has
also higher obligation upon that? Some other mothers
say, yes, they do,
and others say, no, it's actually the immediate
father who has the
obligation to or actually the responsibility to name
the child. So it's a matter of keeping
it, Wa'ashi ronabu Maruf, treat them kindly.
Is there any basis for saying both Adhan
in the right ear and Surat Al Fatiha
in the left
ear? I don't know about Surat Al Fatiha,
but I know that there's the the the
iqama in the left ear, but we said
that this is actually comes from a very
weak narration, so it doesn't stand yet.
If someone reverts as an adult,
should they also do their aqiqa?
I mean, if they want to,
go for it. And I think you should.
Just like an adult who was born Muslim,
if you know that your family never did
a aqiqa for you, you should actually do
it for yourself as well too.
So, what should we call it in this
moment, Yani? If you're already 50 years old,
masha'Allah. What we're gonna call that? Still aqiqa.
Can the Aqika be done in another country
back home,
like passed as charity or more preferred locally?
Jema Al Aqiqah is not giving charity. Al
Aqiqah is celebrating the birth of a child.
So you celebrate the birth of a child
usually is within the local area where the
child was born. However, if you want to
send it to your family so they can
celebrate with the uncles and cousins and everything,
fine, do it. It's not a matter of
charity, Ajamal. It's not a matter of charity,
it's a matter of celebrating the child. So,
therefore,
however, the aqiqah is slaughtering the animal. What
are you gonna do with the meat? That's
your business.
But it's always better to celebrate the birth
of the child
by having a local maybe dinner or party
for people to come inshallah and attend
without any extravagance obviously.
The name Baraka, naming the child after Aymar
Radiallahu Anha,
Like when the prophet says Afla and Yasar
and and Baraka, it's not like it's haram
to name them that. He says
avoid this better for you because if someone
ask, hey, is Barakah at home? No, Barakah
is not
home which means there's no Barakah at home,
Anastafurullah.
So avoid that's what it means when the
prophet says avoid that.
Shaving the head of the newborn.
Actually, in the, subcontinent
women tend to shave or culturally actually,
culturally in the subcontinent,
women tend to shave the head of girls
thinking this will make their hair thicker.
The shaving head of a newborn girl is
permissible. I know it's not permitted for women
to shave their head.
Well, I don't know about thicker, that's that's
your business. I don't know, but I know
when it comes to shaving the head of
the child it doesn't matter if it was
a boy or a girl.
And we said earlier that the purpose for
this was hygiene.
Didn't have that what we have today in
hospitals and that's why some contemporary scars, by
the way, they say, you don't have to
shave.
Because again the purpose of it is to
just to make sure the child is is
clean, is yani, is well taken care of,
so again it's hygiene.
But to continue with the example of the
prophet
as he did in the community, yeah, shave
the child's head whether it's a boy or
a girl and it should be fine inshallah.
And by the way, that's around the 7th
day.
But if you're gonna now say, my daughter,
she's 5 years old, should I shave her
head because we we skipped that, you know,
5 years ago? No.
Too late for that. We're done with this
now.
Is Taniq and Adhan in the right ear
of the baby from the recommended Sunnah Act?
Also, the salaam of the prophet was blessed.
Is this something we can, delegate to a
righteous person although they do not have the
same blessing? Well, I'd rather actually take the
liability of that person
and keep the parents do that inshallah for
their children.
As for tahannik and adhan, some alama, they
say, actually, these are cultural practices from the
Prophet in terms of tahannik.
It was a cultural practice, not necessarily
religious practice,
although the the practice of the sahaba and
the prophet approving it makes makes it part
of the tradition of the prophet so it's
okay to do the haniq. The adhan was
mentioned, had Abu Rafa, as we mentioned, when
he saw the prophet
reciting the adhan in the year of Al
Hasan Ibn Ali.
Man, somebody wants to do summary of all
the actions that we do after the child
is born. Go to the book of Al
Qayyim Rahim Allahu Ta'ala, Tafat al Maudud fi
akham al Maud. You'll find everything there insha
Allah.
How much can the next spouse, family,
ask about the previous divorce, especially in case
of domestic violence and so on?
I mean, you have the right to ask
and they have the right not to answer.
So, it's at your discretion at the discretion.
It's a case by case. It's not a
matter of
like you have to tell me and I
have to know. There is no such thing.
It's up to you how much you wanna
know because sometimes what you know is gonna
be disturbing
and sometimes, you know, it's a private matter.
It didn't work out. Khalas, alhamdulillah. We went
separate ways. If someone worried that this person
might have a case of domestic violence and
so on, you can go and check online.
Check the name if in public records so
you might say something and if you worry
about it, ask the people around and then
in this case if you wanna insist to
know, it's up to you.
That doesn't mean that they have to give
you all the details,
So, here Western laws, have,
inequity towards men. In our society I have
heard that divorces,
very much
very much give more rights, especially over children,
to the women
and this ends up keeping men hostage by
the system. Is this true in reality and
any guidance on this matter? There is no
doubt there is no doubt that the the
system here is unfair really. When we come
to look at it from a Muslim point
of view, there's no doubt about it.
Yes, in many many cases unfortunately it's more
biased, you know, in,
for women, in favor of women in regard
to these matters but I've seen other cases
where it's completely opposite.
So, it really depends on how good your
lawyer is, unfortunately, Anna, and how much money
would it to to lose and keep spending
on this matter here. So, that's that's how
it works, a law must stand.
Does the talaq get annulled after reconciliation
and counter and counter reset
or does it still count and after reconciliation
you are now left with one more talaq
and reconciliation?
I don't know if I understand the question,
but if you mean by after divorce,
you get into the idda, the waiting period.
During that waiting period, you need to decide
to reconcile
and return back into the marriage reinstate the
marriage
or keep it moving until the Ida is
over and the marriage is nullified, khalas.
So, if you wait until
the Ida is over like you wait for
the 90 days for example
and there was no, there is no intimacy,
which means there was no intercourse,
and the man did not say, you know
what, I want I want to reinstate the
marriage back again.
If these
neither one of them happened during those 90
days,
the divorce is valid
and the marriage is over
and it counts strike 1 out of 3.
So, if they remarry again,
then she doesn't have to go to marry
somebody else.
So in this case, she married again but
with one strike out of 3. However,
if she marries somebody else
and then that marriage actually doesn't doesn't go
well and they divorce again,
can we can she marry the the her
first husband again?
She can. But is she gonna carry strike
1
or is it gonna be nullified?
That strike 1 is nullified right now because
she already married somebody else. So, when she
married her ex husband,
she now married him as she still have
3 actually instead of divorce now.
Can you please clarify the hadith and turmidi
on the authority of Ubay ibn Kab who
said the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam encouraged him
to make his whole dua spent on
salawat and all his concerns will be taken
care of,
since forgiven, but also,
what was mentioned today about ask Allah for
everything. I've been confused on this.
Well, look, spending time and saying, saying salawat
upon the prophet is differently virtuous,
and sometimes as the prophet mentioned to Ubay
ibn Kab, like if you do that, Allah
will
answer your call and you'll for hammukh, that
your ham, your concern will be taken care
of by the salawat of the prophet
salawat So when you make your dua, send
salawat upon the prophet salawat and then ask
for your needs. So it's always within the
dua itself, inshallah, you can make the salawat.
Again, another question about seeking marriage, ask about
a potential spouse, about past marriages,
why they got divorced. Once again, you have
the right to ask, they have the right
to say, I can't tell you. It's a
private matter right now, khalas. So it's up
to you how to accept their their answer.
In Jannah, will we still have the concept
of time? Yeah. Let's go to Jannah and
then we worry about this there.
Allah says, it's gonna be eternity, time is
is irrelevant over there. There is no night
over there jama'ah.
Like, really it's going to be day all
day?
Yeah, it's because it's all pleasure and enjoyment.
You don't go to sleep. I'll keep enjoying
it.
We don't have that concept of time over
there. No.
No.
Question about the Asil classes, if this is
going to continue throughout the summer.
Honestly, not all of it because, inshallah, if
you go to Hajj bin Illah, that's at
least 3 weeks, we're going to be off.
Now, in terms of the formal classes might
be might stop, but the students, inshallah, they
have their own programming together.
If you didn't have the right knowledge at
the time of naming your child
and have given them a name which isn't
disliked, but also doesn't have amazing quality as
the as the meaning. Just an average meaning
name. Should we change that?
Well, it's up to you if it's still
a young young young child and it doesn't
harm to change it if you want to
change it something better
would mutually acceptable by the parents of this
Alhamdulillah.
Otherwise, it should be okay inshallah.
Is there a mention of female circumcision in
the sunnah?
It wasn't something common for the people of
Mecca That's why when the prophet came to
Medina, he noticed that Atiyah from the Ansal,
she was do that, called kifar in the
Arabic language. So when he heard about it,
he goes, don't be excessive.
And it was actually a common tradition in
that area but not necessarily,
for the people of Mecca. It wasn't common
in the Arab tradition.
They probably got that from Africa because it
was very common there at that time.
Now, is it is it healthy for us
to aspire to Allah's attributes,
specifically the the idea that you discussed on
not being affected by a proud moment versus
an embarrassing moment. Is this even possible? Of
course not, Ajima.
There's nothing like unto him
You can't even compare yourself closer to that.
However, Allah himself,
he described some of his servants in the
Quran with qualities,
names,
similar to the names of Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala. When he named Ismail Halim Un Awa,
Halim which is the name of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala as well too. Right? Forbearance.
What does that mean?
Forbearance that is befaring a human being.
Nothing even close
to the to the attributes of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
Does atalak apply to wife if she says
to the husband, like, I'm done with you
or we're over? No, it doesn't, because the
talaq is from the man,
he is the one who pronounce the talaq
to his wife. If a wife wants to
be over with that, she needs to go
through a khulah, and the khulah goes through
the court order. Yeah. She needs to basically
go to the court and have the authority
release her from this marriage.
What about weighing the shaved hair and giving
amount of gold or silver in charity?
Remember back then it was something that's easy
and that amount would be enough for people
but today that's insignificant. So, if you wanna
have to wait anything.
have to wait anything.