Yaser Birjas – TaSeel #41

Yaser Birjas
AI: Summary © The importance of marriage in Islam is discussed, including the benefits it brings and the negative impact of violent attacks on Sheila. The speakers emphasize the need for a better attitude towards women, finding peace and literature to keep them out of the household, and the history of Islam, including the use of "has" to indicate partial faith and setting boundaries for behavior. They stress the importance of guidance and advice for young people and finding the right person for them, and emphasize the need for guidance and advice for young people.
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Salam Baraka Muhammad Anwar Ali was a cylinder Steven Theertha mama bad welcome you back to the seal class which we started right now the book of remember Buddha Muhammad Allah darlin after someone has your password in Sao Paulo we just finished the first part of the second book, which chapter one was speaking about the etiquettes of eating and food and guest and serving which was very appropriate for the month of Ramadan but then Ramadan begins mashallah and we are right on the sickness of the book, the chapter the ethic of marriage. Maybe that's a sign from Allah subhanaw taala where people find you know, their spouses and Tarawa Salah probably right. So people come to the masjid probably

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gonna be looking for someone, hopefully in the right place in sha Allah to be their futures faster than the last version. May Allah facilitate that for the amount of banality. So we're going to talk a shot about

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Nica, why might Allah COVID The ethics of marriage and what is related to the subject of marriage inshallah Dara Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Northaven. Kodama writes in chapter two on the ethics of marriage, the scholars do not differ about the fact that marriage is recommended mister help entails many of your issues. There are many benefits in it including the following hand a lot of belaga Minister Allah wa Salam o Baraka, Vienna Muhammad Allah back when Imam mo Kodama Rahim Allah He said that life deliver Allah Allah there is no difference of opinion among the scholars that will come to the subject of marriage. It is recommended and he refers to

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that the Hadith and Nabi SallAllahu wasallam when he encouraged the young men he says Carla Salah Samia, mashallah Shabaab manasota Amin Kamala developed as always, he says all young people, he's speaking specifically to the young men. If you're able and capable of getting married, you should not hesitate you should not delay it, like get married. Which brings us right now to something as we listen and to the to the readings of the book that Emanuel Kodama Rahim Allah is addressing the subject from the male's perspective, which means speaking to men about marriage, Do this, don't do that. Do this. Don't do that. So what about the women then? Because usually when it comes to the

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subject of marriage, who's the one expected to propose? The man who's expected to provide to take care of to open facilitate the subject of marriage and so that's expected from the man. So that's why the command and the specific recommendation when it comes to the subject of preparing for marriage was addressed to the man not to the lady because the lady usually in the relationship is she's receiving she's the one who received the proposal she received the mother, she of course, she's the one who should say yes and accept. So she's on the receiving side. And that's why the command to go and propose is actually to the man that's of course in the normal traditional way. So

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when he says it's Mr. Hub, there are different certain who's going to commit it and shallow data, but he's referring to hide it in a base that Allah Salah when he says Yamashita, Shabbat, Minnesota, I'm going to abide by letters or words, or young men or young people, if you're capable. If you have the ability to get married, then you should do so. So since it's from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam as of course, coming in the form of an order over here, but it's not binding. So therefore, that's why we call it actually Mr. Hub, and recommended. So if someone asked me, What's the general rolling of getting married, we said, well, if you have all the

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details to have a successful, I would say start of the relationship dissimilar then you should, it should go it should do that. And what does it mean it has to be ready, it's going to come later in terms of the amount of sustenance, the amount of how much can you provide, and, and all this is going to come and shallow data as it speaks about the etiquettes or the ethics of marriage now, children, marriage aims to preserve one's lineage making children also earn the love of Allah as one helps the survival of mankind is also a way of seeking the love of Allah's Messenger so hard to use elm, as one increases, what is the source of glory for him? So he speaks about actually, these are

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now considered two points here. Two points. The first point when it says children, what does that mean? There are many benefits in the Bennett benefits and getting married. Number one is having children. I will say those who have kids, so what you're talking about, right? Are you kidding me? Is that one of the benefits getting married? Isn't that one of the hardships of getting married having kids? Well, subhanAllah I mean, Allah subhanaw taala has is dear to many, many people. Some people want to have kids, it's a it's a source of joy for them. There is no doubt about it comes obviously with pain and difficulty and hardship. But it's a sweet pain when they say that because it

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hamdulillah to become the fruit of this dunya and offering the answer as well to for others. It's a big challenge. But definitely one of the reasons why because we are now following the commands of Allah subhanho wa taala, who made it a command upon the OMA meaning not just the Muslims, the mankind altogether to procreate because we were sent to this earth for a specific purpose and that's to serve ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada to take care of the creation of Allah azza wa jal in the most appropriate way. And that requires, of course, you know, progeny to continue and, and procreation. So we say that, yes, one of these benefits of getting married is we are fulfilling ALLAH SubhanA.

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Allah does command for the survival of mankind, on the creation of Allah subhana on the earth, the creation of Allah azza wa jal, we have that we'll learn from the first i uncertainness Surah Nisa, the chapter of women and ironic Subhanallah

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That's it's considered the chapter of women and the first thing Allah subhana says and the iron clad Yeah. Are you a NASA Takara Boko Mala the Halacha? Communist Suwa Oh mankind and he speaks to mankind not just to the believers says, oh people Oh my god. Yeah, yeah. And so Taqwa can be conscious of your Lord. Allah develop a command of so who created all of you? So one single person wahala common household? Yeah. And from that person, his panel what Donna brought his spouse. And then he says, oh, Cara Thurman, humara Giada and cathedra Anisa. And from that first pair, he dispersed, so many men and women.

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So that's one of the purposes obviously, to be married to get married, to have kids procreate and fulfill the order and the commandment of Allah subhanho wa Taala to mankind. The second one, he says, the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he also seek in the love of a messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he's referring to a few a hadith some of them are concerned actually weak in terms of the nourishes one of them is desert Virginia whoodle would do the * for any the MacArthur on become an omen in which the generation and certain aside and as well is that the Professor Sam set as I was in New Delhi will do it alone will not marry the lady who is widowed, which means she's

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kind she's gentle, and volute and Marcia, she's fertile, which means she produces more kids cards for N name will Katherine become ill omen because on the Day of Judgment, I will be boasting about the size of my OMA, like he would, he would like to see to be the one who has the most following Salawat to lie was that I'm honest, so that's one of them, of these narrations about that specifically on the Day of Judgment. So once again, seeking the pleasure of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. As for being among the, the various followers under the advisement Sal Allah Allah. Now, it also entails seeking the bursting of the supplications of pious children and earning the

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intercession chakra if a small child passes away. So here it combines two things, number one seeking the DUA and the intercession, first of all, the dua of the child of a righteous child and which was the preface as I mentioned, the hadith is a matter of another Makoto Amarula mantra, when the son of Adam dies, your book of dead comes to an end that's it won't be interrupted, except for three things. First, sadaqa jariya will continue as charity will always add to your records, I will element into further knowledge that you guys are doing here that is beneficial to the will will continue to get reward for after long your gun, clan, a wallet inside and yada yada or the righteous

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child will need to ask for you, righteous child that will make dua for you. So now doesn't have to be a righteous child. Now, that's the general assumption and the general hope that you will produce a righteous jar that will make the out for you. Does that child have to be yours? Well, generally speaking, what is except expect is to be your child. But if other children have your maybe care and taking care of orphans and so on, make a draft for you. That will also count to this as well too. But overall, you'll get the dua of the righteous children. The second in the shefa of a small child they passed away and the professor mentioned many Hadith in some Muslim Muslim Bukhari as well to

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one of the professors have said, ma'am and Muslim Ania Mottola who not a Muslim, who loses three children like Emoto Terra terminal word, if someone loses three children during lifetime, let me upload Hanworth which means they did not reach the age of puberty. Ella, Ella, the professor said these children will be will be ushered to the parents at the gates of * Jana, to let them in. And it says from a verbal Jonathan Manaea shell from any of the eight gates of agenda may Allah make us among those who enter them will all these gates are Bellarmine. So that's one example. Another example a woman who she heard the Prophet says I'm speaking about an any person who loses three

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children, three children, and they show and exercise patience and steadfastness upon the loss of their children, that Allah subhana wa that will make them shield for them from from Johanna Mondale judgment. So let's just call it jasola hubba to and the Prophet says Sam says, and to

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maybe if you lose two children, the sub narrators they say and even if the prophet system was asked jasola What about one child? He would say yes, even one child. So the loss of a child and the lifetime Subhanallah it's very painful because we're not supposed to outlast our children really? We're not supposed to outlast him, meaning that they're supposed to outlast us we should die before they do. But Allah Stockdale sometime that some people they have that experience and that pain to deal with, including our beloved Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, not one child, not two children. Almost all his kids are about the loss except for Fatima. He had to bury with his own hand

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you can imagine how painful that is. But remember, these kids will become an intercessors for you on the Day of Judgment, to give a shout out to Sheila from Johanna. That's a great blessing. May Allah subhanaw Make it easy for those that could Yarrow Bellarmine. Now, it is also a way of protecting oneself from the Shia Tonga repelled by rebelling heroes of lust so while

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what does that exactly mean here? Obviously we're human beings. And again, he's now specific since he's speaking about two men

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particularly, men are known to be visual. So whenever they see something, they get attracted to it when they hear something, they start imagining it in three dimensions probably. And that's why even the Prophet saw some he told women not to describe other women to their, to their spouses or to their to their, for example, siblings or their children, even male children obviously says Don't, don't you ever describe a woman in detail and full details to another man, because it cannot help but you start developing better 3d image for it. And as a result, it might move the Chava Elisha which means, you know, to just let the desires and the whims of the hearts and so on and if it does

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happen, and there is no way to fulfill that desire Immolate the fitna, MRB to problem so the Prophet sallallahu Sallam used to say in the Hadith called if someone and say Muslim, it are ahead of Camerata and algebra Tolyatti Allah, if someone says, somebody says a lady, and it's just false, it's false in the desert, which means you like her, then go to your spouse. Now obviously might say, Well, wait a minute, why is this person even looking at her? Well, that is haram to begin with, there's no doubt about it. But what if it was just a matter of just a casual look, and then happens, a casual, especially in a society like ours, where it's completely over sexualized everything

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Subhanallah whether it's the commercials, pictures on even things you buy and all these things, so if anything, if anybody, the fitnah move their heart, then Alhamdulillah they have the protection because they have their spouses. But and that applies also for by the way forward for ladies ever ladies shower moved, for example, feeling something and in this case, she's also need to approach her spouse in order to make sure to take care of that and repel the perils of the desert and that shower now, is also a way of relaxing the soil and keeping a company by interacting with ones and that is that is the natural social interaction between a husband wife because ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada

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when he says about the question man, what did he say column in it and kala kala koombana fusuma as words and letters Kuruvilla. And then among his sign is this this is recreated for you for amongst yourself among your spouse's

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letters kuliah you you your your spouse's so that you find peace and tranquility with them. Now there i aka Leah's gonna lie ha ha Carmen has Oh, God is gonna let you create his spouse, so that they find peace and tranquility with each other. So the purpose really of people getting married, is to help them find that kind of relaxation break from from this slide. You know, many of us obviously, in these settings, we stay formal with each other. But when you go home or you want to be yourself, all these formulas are gone. Right now you become yourself, you joke with your family, you're gonna like entertain things with them, you don't even probably maybe behave the same way

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outside with other people. So with your family handler, you have the the Canada moment to kind of be yourself, and enjoy that relaxation moment. So really relaxed the source and keeping the company with interaction with your spouse. So obviously, that's under the pretext that husband wife, they have good relationship with each other. And I hope that they do that because Allah promised you that peace and tranquility if you bring love and mercy in the relationship. If you like these two, you struggle with the peace and tranquility. But bring these two in the relationship, you will get what Allah promised to you of peace and tranquility. Now, it is also a way of emptying the heart of the

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trouble of running the household and all the chores of cooking and cleaning, furnishing, washing dishes and preparing decent means a living. Constantly preoccupied with domestic chores alone alone is very difficult. It takes most of one's time and hinders them from studying and doing good deeds ever to survive. Integrating housekeeper is therefore an aid to help to help when in practicing is related to in this way for deficiency in carrying out these chores, extract art. So what does that mean? As a mom, those are meds but those are married specifically? If your wife takes a one week break and she travels somewhere? What happens to you guys?

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Well, let's I call on you when you're going to be back. And you keep calling it where's the spoon? Where's that cup? Where's that mug word? Easier? Gemma, right? You lose track of everything. SubhanAllah. So what he's saying here, Rahim Allah Dara speaking about traditional household, obviously, when the man is the breadwinner, and the lady she takes care of the household and she enjoys being there. Taking care of her family and household. He says look hamdulillah distributing the chores of life is made things easy for both men and women. Because it's not, you don't expect for the ladies as it's happened in our time along Stan when women she also works full time, full

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time. And then after she comes back at 5pm or 6pm, what is she expected to do to be a housewife again, and she used to work in cleaning and cooking and doing this and other stuff and so on. Same thing with a man and this kind of arrangement right now he works from from eight to five or seven God knows for how long and when he comes back home he's expected to do it. Same thing help with the chores and do this and do that and so on. So, why because we both right now sharing the exact same responsibility duties but

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In traditional household when the man is taking care of things, for example, that the lady she doesn't have to worry about. And the lady she takes care of things in the house the man doesn't have to worry about. So we're assisting and helping each other, we don't cross you know, these roles, these chores so that we don't start worrying about you know, what is mine, what is yours and all that stuff and so on. Everything has been defined and clearly being taken care of. He said, Therefore, if a person spends a single for example, guys, whatever lady Subhanallah you know, when they are alone, what it have to do, they have to take care of themselves. So you have to clean the

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house, you have to make sure that's actually tidy, will do you close and cook for yourself and make sure you do the dishes and all the chores that are needed to prepare Of course, tidy household whether you're a man or woman and obviously you're also on top of that required to do it to go to work, and you've got to have some recreational time. And if you can go to the masjid you're lucky.

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You're lucky if you have time to come to the masjid to pray started Russia and have a few words with brothers or sisters in the community and so on to rejuvenate and give some break to your soul. That's why Subhan Allah when a husband wife they of course they share the chores and do the chores with each other. Everybody knows what is expected to do hamdulillah by me makes it easy for them completely easy for them to the divide the chores and give each a break when it comes to doing their duty to Allah subhanho wa Taala as well well that's what he meant by the statements over here now is also a way of striving against the soldier head to nurse and training Yoga it through construct

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custodianship, Ria guardianship, we die yet and fulfilling the family or it's one benefits from having patients sober was wise manner than burying her heart as he rectifies them and directs them to the religions by when also benefits and working in making a lawful living for our sake and raising the children. Although these are tremendously memory, Merit meritorious Acts where they constitute custodianship and guardianship. So like I said, you know, the Imam Rahim Allah Tala has speaker and time when traditional household was the common thing, obviously. So therefore, the man is the one responsible for the order the household is responsible for providing for the family. And

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that's why he used words such as Araya to Al Wilaya, which means he's supposed to be working on his custodianship of the household and also Girish of the household for the family and so forth. So that's one of the benefits is that you train yourself to do that Mujahid rottenness Mujahid retinas why because it's not easy. And again, many people they ask me, and one of the myths of getting married but the one of the myths of getting married is that if you marry the right person, if you marry the right person, marriage is going to be easy. Do you guys agree or not?

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If you marry the right person, marriage will be easy, true or not? Is that false? Or a fact that

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that's absolutely false.

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It doesn't get easy. It gets what is easier. That's all because the standard it's supposed to be hard.

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The standard it's supposed to be hard. Allah subhanaw says Sanofi Cabot we have created you into a cupboard which means constant toiling and toil constant will go on through difficulties and hardships all the time. So it is actually it's hard. It's not that easy. And even if nothing really work, nothing between you and your spouse, eventually the lady she gets she gets pregnant, for example. And now she has to deal with the pain of carrying the baby and delivery. And the man also, you know, not the mood is changing the whole thing and changing the house difficult is coming with natural progression, the relationship, no doubt about it. Now how they behave with each other. It's

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a different story. But it is usually hard and difficult. But if you made the right person, it makes it easier. Not necessarily easy, but easier than maybe everybody else. So if you have the right person for you in terms of their flock, then manners, their dean, their attitudes, all these things in the right place. Insha Allah Allah hopefully, it will make it easier to go through the difficulties of relationship like everybody else. And that's what it refers to Rahim Allah, Allah, Allah in this matter that you know what, there is an element of Mujahid rottenness. You're going to hear things you don't like, you're going to see it in your downline. Yours, your kids and no matter

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what you try Subhanallah they choose different paths what you wish for them. And that will pay you as well to how you're going to be able to towards these things. How are you going to react to these matters, that it was module heritance you need to remain steadfast and keep yourself on the right track and your job to be the custodian of the family and the Garner family as well to you do your part. The results are in the hands of humans Mr. Allah subhanho wa taala. Now, and by the way, just like he's saying here, that the man he has to deal with his wife's manners and bearing that the harm that she brings with her attitude and so on. That also applies to the lady as well dealing with her

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husband and hardships and difficulty. But like we said, it gets easier if we marry the right person. And in financial the right attitude Bonilla xojo towards one another. Now

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No one should refrain from marriage if you fear that he might not be able to fulfill her rights bearing the burden of wife and children is like Jihad and Allah's path. It occurs in the collection of Muslim that the Bible as a whole on Friday he was salam said, A dinar you spent in a launch pad A dinar you spent to free slave a dinar, you gave it charity, a poor person, and then you know you spent on your family, the best of them is the money spent on your family. So before this point is the one before that one should their friend for marriage if he feels that he is not be able to fulfill the rights of the spouse, the rights of what actually the rights of custodianship and

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guardianship, that's what it means. What does that mean, if you're unable financially to take care of a household, you don't have the money for you don't have the means for it. If you're unable, because of a flood, and your manners to be patient, with a flood of your spouse, and your children in the future, if you don't know how to handle the opposite gender properly, then you're not ready for marriage,

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you're not ready for this, you're gonna have to learn how to deal with the people. While I say well, you know, I'm the man, I'm gonna have to, you have to listen to Yeah, but you have to also have the flag and the manners. You have to you have to be the leader, obviously, in the household, but at the same time, you you have to be responsible to make things right and the relationship as well too. So that plus the lady as well, that you need to be able to deal with the opposite gender. You know, nowadays, unfortunately, many of the problems we have with young, young people and they get married, they get married with extremely high expectation from each other. They're unable to properly deal

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with the opposite gender, like one of the most common things that guys come and bring to me as a problem. Well, she she doesn't understand me. So congratulation by the woman.

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handle a lot of time, and I mean, if you think of her, she's going to understand you 100% Like you and 100% like you. That's that's not something to be proud of Gemma will be weird, really on it. Same thing of the ladies, you think that the man, you know, he doesn't he doesn't understand this. That's good that hamdulillah what does that mean? Just because we understand each other doesn't mean you cannot learn to understand each other.

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You're just not used to it. Nowadays, we see that our children, our young people, by the way, just look at this, our young children Subhanallah they spend most of their young life before they get married, most likely with single people.

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It's not like it used to be before where they have to grow up with the family, right? You see your cousin, your uncles and your aunts and your nephews and so you see the opposite gender or relative by blood. And you know, you observe and you watch how they treat each other how they handle you know, the relationship when they get difficult when they get you know, upset with you. We've seen a lot as we grown up in the household. But nowadays, most of our kid says the hit school. This is most of the time it was single kid or single friends, from from elementary school, to middle school to high school, and then when they go to college, they spend most of that time with their single

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friends. So as a result, when are they going to learn how to deal with with a spouse, how they can learn that there is nearly no constant reminder there is no pipeline to teach them how to accept you know, just what they observed in stories that happens. Or even watching TV or maybe few families here and there from distant not necessarily living with them in that life. And that's why unfortunately, we have a lot of these issues that we don't really understand one another and as a result, we don't we don't show patience and that's why he says God because dealing with the family just like the majority nestucca Geography Sybilla which is true it is part of the jihad because you

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had is exerting an effort an extra 100 effort in this situation and that's one of these paths that we need to take care of in shallow Tara. And then he said the Hadith Muslim, which the prophets of Allah salaam says called dinar on factor who feeds a bit Allah was not in fact of Iraq kava was not on fact that was adopted in the island skin, what DiNardo in fact of Allah Halleck like you have one day now golden dinar like say $1 For example $1 You spend for the sake of Allah ZOSEN $1 Is you spend this on to free or slave and $1 is spent on charity on the pool and one is spent on taking care of your household. Which one is more virtuous here? So Allah he says the one you spent on your

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what does that mean in terms of priority? In terms of priority? So if I don't have enough means, enough means and I'm gonna give everything to go to charity because I value charity because I know Allah is gonna give me back 700 more times and hamdulillah with that kind of confidence mashallah, yeah it's true but also to calculate the risk. So you have to make sure that you also take care of your household your family and shallow tomato Darla now to be on

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section one, the disadvantages of marriage. So not everything is good about marriage. Right. So there are some disadvantages. Let's see what he says here. There are a number of drawbacks in marriage. The first and the most serious drawback lies in the difficulty of a lawful livelihood. However, it may be that that person that made that married person reaches

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Han towards something that is not right for his whereas the Bachelor is safe and this what does that mean? You know, for a bachelor what is it? What is his expenses anyway? Just you know, simple stuff, not much. Although I doubt this these days, my show that the single guys has spent a lot a lot like Lourdes these days, they will live their life right at the beginning of the Caribbean. But generally speaking someone who doesn't have the responsibility of taking care of a household and a spouse and children don't need much really provision. So hamdulillah it can easy for them they can sustain their livelihood easily. Once you get married, the demands

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the illusion to provision you have to provide you know rent and you have to provide the house and car transportation, food, shelter, clothes and medications here and there and many many other expenses and if a person is not was not ready for that, he says that the fear is that this person is going to stretch his hand to something wrong and something haram

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if they're unable to fulfill the duty for their family, they're probably going to do something wrong And subhanAllah

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this will remind me right now with the situation for brothers Mirza May Allah subhanahu make it easy for the mirror but Allah man like the corner the people the corner the people in a position or situation to break their spirit and the break their unity as a community really. So they start them almost to death. And then what do they do? They don't even the food to come in dignity for them now the throat from the air, so that they see and they deliberately make the people fight for the food right now.

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Just to fight for it. Why? Because everyone else needs to survive, need to feed their children if the older parents themselves deliberately to humiliate, why do you think they allowed them to do this? Like really, they can say no, we don't want to come from air. I mean, they can develop and deliver the exact same amount just going through the border of the trucks or staying outside of the borders of Panama. But the deliberately doing that, to break the spirit and build the communities apart and show you how savage these people are and how they're going to be killing each other for food. Unfortunately, that's what the probably the purpose of it and then very long so this is why we

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find these people along mister deliberately trying to make this happen. For others we understand Allah make it easy for them when people are in this situation, there are flock and they masma Which might change a little bit understood the hungry starving for so he says over here. So when someone is married, need to make sure that they have enough for the livelihood otherwise might have their hand might go and do something wrong. Now Milan. The second drawback lies in the difficulty of giving wives their rights and putting up with their character and of bearing the harm they cause. Over this is an element of danger here since demand in the shepherd industry responsible for his

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flock. So what he says, Look, this is this is a hazardous journey thing in life, you get mad you come with this, you can't escape that. So therefore, when you get married one of the one of the drawbacks of getting married is probably maybe you're unable to handle this, you you're short tempered, you don't you're not used to someone telling you no or disagreeing with you or have a difference of opinion with you. And all these things. So therefore both men women, they need to make sure that they actually they take care of themselves for that, because Because specifically for man, because the man is the one who's the shepherd responsible for his flock now.

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Third, the third drawback lies in the possibility that a wife and children may distract him from him from remembering Allah and making him spend his days and nights doing that is your heart might not become free to think about the afterlife in working for it. So what it says look again, because as we speak into the man here, it says probably marriage might be a distraction for many people, whether you want to seek knowledge, you would like to,

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you know, become a knowledgeable person or worshiping Allah and at night and a Buddha, and the duty of the household will probably distract you from all these things. But still, though, I just want you to remember, even working for the benefit of your family, it is an actor about of itself. So in order for us to defeat that these thoughts, that I cannot, you know, seek knowledge I cannot do what I want to do, because it's too much for me. I want you to feed those thoughts by remembering whatever you do for your family, whether you're working outside or working from home or cooking for the kids in the family, all these things can be activated, but if you have the right intention for

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it and they will be shallow that increases your Eman and your spirituality. If you have the proper intention for that then Allah has chosen now, these are the benefits and harms of marriage where it is better, whether it is better from a legal perspective for a person to get married or stay single goes back to his state with them. In fact, the student of the past should expose him should expose himself to the four aforementioned situations and think if the disadvantages do not apply to him and the benefits are found meaning they get lawful money is well mannered is a huge

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Who needs to extinguishes lost and need someone to arrange his house? Due to his living alone? Marriage is undoubtedly better for him if the benefits are not there, but the disadvantages apply. It is better to stay single. Is this applies to those who are not in need of the marriage as for those who need it, they must get married? No, I'm so what it says over here is very simple. What's the role of the marriage for people in general? He goes, Look, there is no there isn't one role for everybody. For some, it's mandatory. How so? Check this list, it says if you can accomplish these benefits, and I'm hamdullah, there is no need to worry about the harm that comes with it. And you

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have a strong desire to fulfill it, that if you don't, you might most likely fall into the Haram because obligatory opponent to get married.

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If I'm a handler able to fulfill the good things, and the handler, I'm able also to stay away from the harms and avoid these things. But I don't have the strong desire. If I if I don't marry the note, I'm gonna make anything wrong. Because in this case, it's still concerned Mr. Hubbard recommended for this person to get married.

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And if the person knows that they don't, they might have a handler good fulfillment for the right thing. But I'm short tempered. So I'm going to deal with a lot of hardship on my catchy because difficult to my spouse becomes my crew, dislike for this person to get married until they fix they're stuck on their manners, they work on themselves first. They said if the person doesn't have the means at all, and they get married, they're going to put this into their family into hardship because of that becomes haram for them to get married until they fulfill that obligation of financial responsibility. So he says basically, overall, what he was talking about, look at

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yourself, what's your condition? What's your situation in man's in these manage these issues? And from there, you know if marriage is for you, or otherwise, and if it's so at what level if it's large, obligatory, or otherwise? So that's what it says Rahmatullah here. So here's the word the benefits and the drawbacks of marriage. Inshallah. Next time, when we come back, we'll talk about the actual table Aisha good companionship between a husband wife and shallow Dan.

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Moving on to Hadith number 23 Insha Allah azza wa jal from the boogey man with Raja Rahmatullah ally

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and this is on page

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three, six, what's the page 363 363?

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Is Bismillah salatu salam ala Rasulillah he was

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calling only for him Allah

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and IV Malik in the luxury Euro the Allah and others who have lines of Allah already you know, some of them have to overshadow Iman. There were many good hadith of Nana similar morality or the Aloha uncertain messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said of Bucha toward Iman and purity is half of Eman will handle the late and lowering reason Alhamdulillah fulfills the skills while Subhan Allah he will handle it later. And ultimately Omar Bina Samoa T will

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Subhan Allah glory Glory be to Allah what hamdulillah and praise belongs to Allah, both fill or fills whatever is between the heaven and the earth was Salah to know and prayer is light was sort of portable hand sadaqa is a proof was several Lea patients is radiant light will work on Hoja to unlock earning and the Quran is an argument for or against you called Luna siniakova Very NAFSA. Everybody goes up in the morning and sells himself to her on mobile. Then he either frees it from slavery or destroys it Roselyn Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Coronavirus, Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam to Sleeman Kathira from my bad. Now America is one of the companions of

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the Prophet sallallahu wasallam His name is Kat have been awesome. His name is Calvin awesome Medela he lived and survived the time of the prophets of Allah Salaam. The time book was a diff as well until he died in Philistine town and was he died in Freetown and what the plague that happened and was in the 18th Hijiri year during the time of honorable Hapa brought the Allahu Taala and who are now Imam and now remember the Rajab Rahim Allah, Allah Allah as we are going to make, we're going to save I'm going to skip that part inshallah just letting you know that he will. Next he is going to be presenting different versions of the Hadith, different versions of the Hadith like saying For

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example, instead of saying was several dia, he said was the Ahmadiyya is instead of saying patience, or steadfastness is light. You said actually, it's fasting is light. He's also going to be mentioned other generations will too when it comes to Otto Chateau Eman. He will say his vagal will do shuttle Iman making your will do Fairford is have a faith so his best is going to mention different durations you can read them insha Allah Allah because Imam Raja Rahim Allah as he explains the Hadith, he is going to be referring to some of these narrations just like look the variations is important because

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This will happen this word means here because he said so and so. So we're going to leave for this for you to read insha Allah Allah but the Hadith itself has eight Messiah. The hadith itself has eight Messiah if we look at them here. So he says at the beginning of the artifice of Karnataka who wrote Chateau Iman, so that's the first masala AutoShot which means spirit is ever faith will hamdulillah Tamela will Misa or will have Subhanallah will handle Tamela ano terminal Medina similar to our so it says visit to this election number two and three. So we have Alhamdulillah this praise to Allah subhanho wa Taala or Subhanallah meaning glorifying Allah azza wa jal says one two and

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three right now Paul was Salah to know Salah is number four a sadhaka is number five was Sobral is number six then we have the Quran is actually number seven and the last statement coolness he has the condition of people is number eight so we're going to be discussing the Hadith Inshallah, in eight statements when Allah azza wa jal let's begin with the first one, as be as he explains in sha Allah to Allah and that will be on page 364 364 What he says called by his saying purity is half of iman now.

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By his sayings a lot of it was sort of purity is half of Eman. The word purity is explained by one person as meaning abandoning wrong actions as his words Allah subhanaw taala Exalted is He in the Hoonah assume your total Haroon they are people who keep themselves pure mean from wrongdoing and from sins now, and in his words with the urbik of

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Bureau purify your clothes, this one of the interpretation for the abaca vata Hermes actually means your actions not the actual physical clothes actually means your actions make them pure now, and his words in the lung to love you know your little boy hearing. Allah loves those who turn back from wrongdoing and he loves those who purify themselves by doing what returning back to Allah subhanho wa Taala and purify their action from these wrongdoings. So from this now what we hear is that he says that look one of the meanings of saying up the whole shuttle Iman, that the whole purity is half of faith. This the whole is the not the physical Taha purification. It's actually it's more of

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like the moral one. Meaning you're a flap your manners, your etiquettes your deeds your Amal, they're all pure. That's what he means by that. So it says, beautifying your arm and making sure that your actions are all good. That's half of faith.

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Always keeping in mind to keep Rommel pure and clean, that is half of your duty as being a believer. That's what it means. That's what it says right now, in the first meeting and the finishing of it. Now. The same person said, there are two types of iman doing and renunciation. Half of it is doing those things which one is commanded to do. And the other half is renouncing those things which one has been forbidden to do. And that is purification of the self by giving up acts of disobedience. This thing is one of the things want to be considered as a possible interpretation. If it were not for the version. We'll do is half of Eman, which contradicts it. And similarly the version

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completing will do thoroughly is half of Eman. So what does that mean here? What does the Rahimullah saying away right now what do you guys think?

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None but overall, what he was saying in the last thing he said when he said that we're here.

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So this saying if you look at the bottom of page 364, this thing is one to be considered as a possible interpretation. If it were not for the for the version that I mentioned earlier to or will do shut on Eman will do is have a fade is not just saying a period does have a fade. And also the other version when it says it's bad will will do is have a faith meaning a follow a thorough will do is half of your image and faith. So what is exactly saying I'm a member of the Rahim Allah?

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Will those very specific what does it mean?

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Actually, he is now is objecting defining purity to be the moral purity?

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There was none and that's not what that is talking about. I just it's not talking about your moral purity. Why? Because the other generations speak about what physical purity Megan will do thorough Whoo. She says that he says that interpretation of saying this for the moral purity is plausible. It's possible if it wasn't for these narration that made the will do to be made made purity being specific about physical one. So he prefers and he's actually he's in favor of the second one, which is the outset what we will say be if you read what it says actually the authentic position, the authentic position upon which most people are agreed is that what is meant by purity here is

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purification by means of water for occurrences, which will do which which Boyd will do or go So, it is for that reason that Muslim began his chapter on will do venerating it is by my Muslim husband.

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Hadith now is didn't necessarily even a manager and others and books of Hadith as well to when they began with speaking about Bahara and making model and making also the first holiday choses this one, the whole Chateau Eman. So they all they all say that the word purity in this hadith is activist the physical purity is half of your faith. It's understood to say your moral purity is half of your faith because yeah, Eman faith is all about doing good deeds and avoiding bad deeds. Right. So that's very obvious. She was he was what he said was would make very much sense unless because we have a lot of other nurses will do particularly. So we have to refer to the physical purity to say

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it is half of iman. But now the dilemma is Wait a minute. How is that if making physical purity and Tahara is only one good deed is only one good deed? How is that going to be half of your entire Eman? Your turn faith, what does it mean exactly? So he's going to be explaining this to us Inshallah, right now.

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Once this is established, and people differ about the meaning of purification with water being half of human, some say what is meant by chateaux half is a portion, not a half specifically. So the purity is part of iman. But there is a weakness in this because the only linguistic use of shelter known is a half. So what he says over here, actually, what he says over here is that the first interpretation is to say it's a portion. You're an Arabic language, sometimes, you know, this is like an exaggeration. When you say half, you don't necessarily mean half and the art of they're very well known to exaggerate things as human, you know, the right. So when you say think we say, Allahu

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Akbar kama dunya, what I'm talking about the whole world is collapsing, you know, for what, just because they, you know, Mr. Samosa, for example. So there are a lot of exaggeration because like when we say the word half, we don't necessarily mean half meats, half 50%, we probably mean just a portion of it. So when the Prophet says, sums up the whole Russia to Lima, meaning Tahara, physical power is half of faith, he means what part of it? That's all but not 50 of it. Now, the second minute,

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some say some say that the meaning is that the reward of will do is multiply until it reaches one half a female, what are the go ahead without multiplication, but without multiplication, but without multiplication, but there are critical views about this. So he said, Look,

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some they said, all we'll do is multiply, that's what it means that is multiplied in terms of reward so much so that actually it would each have a man without that multiplication or multiplication over here, it wouldn't get that level. So we need to make sure that actually the reward is multiplied until it gets half of the image. But there is no proof for that from the Prophet Salah Salem that that he worked for to get to that level. Now.

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Some say that the Eman atones for all major wrong actions. But we'll do the tools for some minor wrong actions. And that is half of iman by this understanding, which is true as well, too, because the prophets are mentioned that I did that when you make model what happens is,

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all the sins that were committed with this part will fall with the final drops of the water. Somehow the Mercy of Allah xuejun. So if someone makes sin with watching something, when they wash their face, and the water comes down, the sins come out with that, when someone does something with their hand and they wash their hands, the sin comes out with these final drops as well, too. You can imagine so it says look, yeah, the major sins require specific Tober for them. But the minor says at least 100 They can be atoned by will do and Tahara. So that for its could we actually have a faith, that's what it says, Now,

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this is refuted by the Hadith, who were does whoever does evil in Islam will be taken to task for what he did in the Age of ignorance, ignorance, which we mentioned previously. So that was that was mentioned in a different

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chapter before that, which the professor mentioned, which, by the way, it's weakened doesn't narration it's a week in which the Prophet sallallahu wasallam he would say that if someone commits something wrong in Islam, we will take him by the same sense of, of Janelia like if someone breaks Islam, and they made the same sin back then they will be actually taken again back into it. So it's basically although is not sufficient for them. That's what it means, according this narration. Now, some say that the LU atones for wrong actions if accompanied by Eman so that that sort of that does it becomes a half a female, but this is also weak. Again he says like this time who said I will do

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and Eman ham the combined well Antonio sense so the whole as a result becomes part of it. Now some say that what is meant by Iman here is Salah, as it is used in his panel Tyler's words, woman can hola hola Leah Iman

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and Allah who never let go your iman, Allah will never let your email go to waste in which what is meant by email is your solo towards a baker's mouth this then what is meant by him that's basically the it refers to a

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When the Sahaba they moved from Mecca to Medina they were praying towards towards Jerusalem for the first year and the province was open and asking ALLAH SubhanA to change the fibula and then the Qibla was changed. And when a change Allah The people that were asking the prophets as well so what about the Salah? We pray towards Jerusalem, is that gone? Are we going to be ticketed word for the word prayed before, called Allah revealed? Subhana wa carbomer can Allah Allah dua Imana Allah is Allah and let your Eman to go to waste and by a man he means what your practice of Salah towards Jerusalem during those years now.

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Then if what is then if what is meant by Iman is the sola sola is not acceptable with our purity and this purity becomes one half of Salah according to this understanding Mohammed bin Nasser over was inherited this explanation Kitab was Salah from his heart in a way from your head. And that he said about their seeing to say I do not know is one half have no knowledge and that knowledge is either I know or I do not know so that each of them is the other half. So but in this distribution if we say that a man Onsala right, a man has half salah is the other half, but then we'll do is half of the Salah. So how much we'll do is part of all this right now. It's a quarter right now, it's half of

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half, right? So it's a quarter. So it doesn't apply to this meeting right now. But now we have a dilemma right now he says that this is not what he meant by Raja Brahim. And after bringing all these possible meanings, he says here what I can tell you, so he's gonna say look, for me, I need to understand the word half in Arabic, it does not necessarily mean 5050 It means probably one as part of to one as a part of two and how he explains that is going to come.

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I say that everything which is comprised of two categories, then each one of them is the others half whether the number numbers of each category are equal, or one more one is more numerous than the other. And it's going to bring the proof to this because look what I believe is our I believe, if you say something is half of something else, that means it simply means one out of two categories. So when the Prophet says show up the whole Chateau Eman, Tahoe and Eman he made them equal this is one opposite

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such a combined together as one thing he said then they're just simply one of two categories doesn't have to be 5050 Complete here. And he's going to be examples is going to actually bring about I believe, eight examples.

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We're not going to go over them all but we're just gonna take one or two example to show you what he means by how the Prophet says and he referred to have sometimes by simply bring them to categories without making them equal to each other but at least they are part of each other now.

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the Hadith which shows this is I have divided the salah between me and my slave in two halves, meaning the recitation in the Salah, and does he explains it as an Fatiha what is meant by that it is what I mean by that is divided into worship and supplication. So here, the Hadith of the Prophet, the abbraccio refers to the height and the visa wa sallam, when he speaks about the Fatiha, the virtue of the Fatiha pada Kasam, to salata, when they when they have to sign up, divided Salah between me and my servant into two parts, two halves. So he basically going to explain these half right now says one as my servant asked me, and one, of course is worshiping Me. So he says, now

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these are two halves now.

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Worship is the right of the Lord. And this application is the right of the slave, it does not mean that the words are equally divided into, but obviously they're part of two categories. So you can say them being haves in that sense. Now, Toby mentioned this. And here's a second example. Second example. katavi mentioned this and he derived and evidence from the saying, saying of the arrows, and half of the year is travel and the other half is residents. He said that doesn't imply that the two times are equal, but the two times that have a portion to them travel in residence, even if the two times are not equal. He also derived in evidence from the words of should I surely, when someone

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asked him, How are you this morning, he said this morning, I find half of the people angry with me, being the people, either those who would give judgment in his favor or against him. And those who would give judgment against him are angry with him. And those who would give judgment in his favor are contented with him. And as they're two different groups. So by the way, just search Oh, sure. I am a lot. There's one of the very most famous and respected historical figures in terms of judiciary, because he was known as a judge Rahmatullah rally. So that's why he says, Well, how do you feel today? He goes, Well, half the people are basically kind of like Yanni angry at me. And

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what he means by that is that people are one of two things whether someone I judged for or someone just against. So the one who are just against most likely they are not going to be happy with me. But are they going to be equal to numbers? Not necessarily like are those who are ruled in favor of versus those who are against them are going to be always the same number? No. So that might be might have judged 100 people for and two people against

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And they still he says half of them are actually not happy with me. Because there's portion of them are not happy with it. So he was a man the barrage of Rahimullah in all these proofs and evidences are going to suggest right now next to you with the last version. He is trying to tell you Look, when it comes to saying half it doesn't have to be 5050. It could be just a part of a to something that is two categories. So one of them is considered harmful regardless of its proportion and its size. So even though for the purposes of photo Chateau Eman that the Hara is a purification, the purification is half of faith. That doesn't mean the purification is actually it's 50%. Of your

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Eman. It's maybe 10% or 15%. And the rest of it is the other acts of Eman. But just the fact that the prophets Allah Sam put the correlation between Tahara and Eman together, it is so significant to put the man of the world actually the physical purification at that level.

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Just to the fact that his brain and your model, your also your use of the bathroom, your washing after you know your hands get dirty and so on. So just doing that the physical purification. It is so significant, so important our faith and our Eman that the Prophet says and almost equate this to being a true believer.

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Like as if saying that if you're not gonna wash up very well, if you don't make wudu properly if you don't wash up very well in Ramadan, specifically Dejima then you're not a true believer no matter how much you try. This is how significant and important Tahara is in our faith. Just want to bring this to your attention shallow Tara, I'm going to scroll up down here to show you the other examples. I would like to mark them in Charlottesville John. So example four is the poetry.

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Therefore it says but either either Michoacana NASA, Sweeney shamaton Be mouthy, almost invalid the control value, like if I die, people want to do things they will praise people do otherwise. So it doesn't matter. The example number five is coming next after that, which is hey, there were a lot of turnover in regards to alpha, alpha which is basically the Murata inheritance law. And it was the prophet saw I mentioned it to be like it's more it's almost like in this film, he says it's half of knowledge. Why he says because when it comes to knowledge is knowledge of the living or knowledge of the dead. So the living is half the living of the knowledge of the dead. There's also another half

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and an inheritance law falls under the second category as well. Number six is a statement from Mujahid in regards to mod mother was in shock followed newsflow Like rinsing your mouth and blowing your nose is half of your role. He was how so? Because Because one has mentioned the Quran and other taken from the Sunnah that we'll do is one of two things whether it's from the Quran the six the six actually

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pillars of although as I mentioned certain Majda about odo but there was no mention of rinsing the mouth or blowing the nose. Where does come from from the Sunnah he goes so therefore it's half of it. So Mama dancer sharp half of Eurodollar from that sense and also the same of Mossad number seven a sub Rasul Eman will act in a manner Kulu. That subset of patients is half of your Eman because it says your Eman is one of the things you are that will be patient or being grateful. So definitely it's half of your Eman as well too. And the eighth example is a Salah it was because of Salah to kufrin Hatha Yoga, of course, as long as you have proper will do for it. So since Salah is at that

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level when you pray your five daily prayers and Allah subhanaw taala would expect your sins. So definitely, it's actually half of your faith, keeping it pure as well too. So these are the examples that he is Rahim Allah, Allah is bringing to our attention in regards to the meaning of having a TAF so to summarize that we read in the middle of that paragraph where it says there is far from AKBA from Allah. Now it is from the prophets of Allah Almighty, He was in them said, any of you who perform will do to the fullest are completely and then says, I witnessed that there is no God but Allah and I witnessed the Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam is a slave and His Messenger will have

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the eight gates of the garden opened up him for him and he may enter through whichever of them he wishes. So now this is what it might be because of is coming to conclude right now. So for him, what's the conclusion of all of this right now? So how does he define will do being half of our faith based on the generation we just read right now he says since will do

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since will along with the two shareholders is something that makes the opening of the gates of the garden necessary, then we'll do becomes half of iman in Allah and His messenger by this understanding. So refers us back again to the statement of Akbar from other prophets as I mentioned that anyone who says that Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah, and he says that he also made sure that he always meant to do properly, then the doors of heaven will be open for them.

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So what opened the doors for heaven for them that was the agenda for them to things their proper will do and

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Kelemen so they are now have in that sense. So when he says the Hora shuttle Imani goes because it is the other, maybe part of the key that it opens the gates to Jenna for you. So that's basically his understanding Rahmatullahi to an array and sha Allah azza wa jal next time when we come back, we will continue by defining the other principles of the Hadith inshallah with about a quarter I just want to make sure that we don't before we leave, we understand what does it mean when he says a polo shirt on Iman. So he concluded all the way down says, Look, things have doesn't see me 5050 It means a lot of two. But what kind of tools come to the heart over here? He goes, will do. And finally

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conclude by the last thing he says that the will do, and shahada, they will open the doors of gender for you. So as a result of that, since Lila is what brings you into the faith, the whole is the other part that opened the doors for you. So it's it's half of faith from that perspective. May Allah subhana wa Taala fulfill our both have certain Bananaman Wallah. Any questions you mentioned? Let's see, shall we have any questions until we get the QR code on the screenshot? Yes for them.

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Helping the the now

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true Yanni. He didn't mention that, you know, subhanAllah having kids also helps with economics right? In our household. I mean, in the past Aslan, what's the point of people having many kids in their lives? So who is referring to the first book The one right now? So what's the point of having so many kids in the past part of their actually their their purpose is what is to help with the, with the duties around the house, and also they have estates. And maybe and sometimes, you know, during the feudal system, if you're a farmer, and you're born on a farm, then you're enslaved to the Lord forever. And you need labor. And you that cheap labor and free labor comes through at having

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children, which explains why people they used to actually marry young, because they want to have someone who's fertile, who can bring produce kids, as long as it's possible for them. So when they're young, they married, they have kids, these kids, eventually they they come and they help help around when they're young, young age. So all of these benefits of hamdulillah comes from having kids and even today as a matter of fact, if you have only one or two kids in a pet, you're most likely going to have a lot of emotion and CO dependence on each other and become sore and difficult in the future. But if you have mashallah 567 Kids Nevada law and at least one of them is going to

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come out good insha Allah azza wa jal Yeah,

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at least you have a better chance than having a 5050 chances in mind. Right? So therefore economic leverage at the beginning might be difficult, but in the long term in the long term there is so much benefit and hamdulillah from having a bigger family now that's

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another question before we go into the see the screen Sharma Yes sir.

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We're going to cover that next week in Charlotte. So speaking about the those of the Hadith Subhan Allah will hamdulillah Allah two separate statements or one together that needs to be mentioned together. We're going to cover that in details next time inshallah. We have few questions already appearing here on the screen

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the Hadith mentioned class states to marry a woman that can bear a lot of children how would one know this part of the marriage? How would you guys know that this lady might be fertile or otherwise

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from the family look sometimes much or they bring about a color doubles and triplets and the vertical Ramona serious Oh, Mashallah. They're most likely most of that family is mashallah they're very fertile, and others they might have issues with that. So we said check the family and obviously not going to ask them you can we have fertility test? First of all, and you're not going to ask these questions your mom. Although Subhanallah nowadays in this in this culture with ours, that people ask weird questions will they ask about so many very sensitive private stuff? But keeping that up? Obviously, you understand that from the culture of their family now?

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What if it's too late to know that there is no purification of heart in the spouse? What should the other spouse do? May Allah make it easy for the middle but I mean, like if someone gets married and after they get married, sometime they realize their spouse, they don't have the same soft heart that they have. They don't have that thought that is inclined towards a bad and worshipping Allah subhana wa Tada like they do. So no matter how much I tried to convince my spouse, hey, come and pray. Let's come to the masjid. Let's do this. Let's do that. They struggle with it. So what do I do? What do I do right now? I'm now married to this person. Probably we have kids as well too. So what do we do in

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this situation? May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide your spouse or a Brahmin, whether it's your husband was your wife, ALLAH SubhanA gardener Bananaman. I just want you to remember and remind yourself that look,

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the lady that Allah says

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other prophets are described to be of the best ladies of a Jana who was Ujima

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Asya, the wife of who? The greatest tyrant, the tyranny of her husband did not prevent him from being what a righteous woman, not just a righteous woman, their most righteous so it doesn't prevent her. So yeah if my husband was not the best husband for example, I can still be the righteous woman I do my best inshallah under the circumstances and bear the hardship of dealing with difficult husband the situation. Similarly, men for the men, for example, if you say, Well, my wife is going to cooperate, no matter what I tell her, she has a wake up for Salah she doesn't care about fasting blah, blah, whatever the situation, may Allah make it easy for you. You keep doing what you can

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share as much as you can be the last version, because you know better than no hyacinth. No, Allison was the example of what of righteousness is one of the five oral asthma we are also the best seven messenger ever produced in mankind. And his thought was Ceylon, his wife was worth

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and the Quran Allah sets an example of Coover with his wife and his son. So yeah, even if your spouse your wife is not the best, that doesn't mean you cannot be a righteous person. We need to do our part. We need to keep advising them. We need to keep trying with them shallow data, we need to try everything we can with the Lazar to guide their hearts. But at the end of the day, our effort is the only thing we can control. As for the response and guidance, it comes from home from Allah subhanho wa taala. Now if someone says, look, if I stay with this person, I might lose even I lose my Eman even what do I do in this case? If your Eman becomes in danger because of this relationship,

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then in this case, we say your faith and your human it takes a priority right now.

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So should I leave the relationship? I mean, I can tell you that but it's up to you sister circumstances. But when I started from the spirit of the prophets, Allah Salam when a woman she came to the Prophet SAW Selim, the wife of Tabitha been casted and Seamus dabit of infestation mass was one of the the he was one of the what he call he was the spokesperson of the prophets, Allah salah, one of the closest allies the closest the people to the prophets, Allah to Allah wa salam ala you can imagine the privilege that the wife would get because of that. But then she came to the Prophet saw some karate Rasul Allah Sabbath. They're also third with my husband. Well, Allah in the law,

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what if you could have been one of them? I'm not complaining about his faith. I'm not complaining about the flood. He's awesome. Like he's saying Any woman would love him.

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What I can do Cracow private Islam, but I feel for myself to commit coup for in Islam. So the word Cooper was trying to translate the one of two things coup for in terms of leaving Islam, like I just hate his gut, basically, it's going to make me lose Islam.

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Or go for in terms, I'm not going to be able to fulfill his right as my husband because I just detest them. I don't like.

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So that's when the Prophet says I'm told, told he went to tablet, it is called this is a total lie. What are you talking about is your husband. He didn't say that. He called that because Sabbath your wife, she says he doesn't want to stay with you.

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Now Raphaela animada he was of course, he was offended by that. But he said, Okay, fine. What about my God and I gave her a whole garden as a bridal gift, like the hammer was my garden. So the Prophet told the lady would you give it back to him? She goes, Sure, you can take it back. And they were over, the ratio was over. So again, nulla make it easy for them our duty is to make our to our spouse help improve the relationship with shallow data. But if it gets to that level, then yeah, an option is to do.

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So please explain that the conclusion. Again, what were the two shahada so in the Hadith that was mentioned and that we've seen, in which the Prophet SAW said I mentioned whoever makes a thorough will do and then says, I shall do Allah Allah Allah Allah wa ala Cherie Cara, Juana Muhammad Abdul Rasul, ALLAH SubhanA, WA will open the gates of agenda for them, the eight gates of agenda will be open for them. So what causes the gates of Jannah to be opened for them two things, what are they thought of will do and saying the shahada so thorough will do an Shahada. Now, two categories of the thing that led to the opening of evil Jana therefore, in that whole examples, he was explaining

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earlier that any any anything part of two can be considered half regardless of the size of the proportion of it. So from that perspective, he says, this is we say we can say that Tahara or Aldo is half of ima that's what he means by that now.

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Is it possible marriage is not written for me, I've been trying and praying but I haven't been able to get my melas to make it easy for your beloved I mean, and provide it for the spouse that is comfortable your eyes and hearts in the dunya and akhira. Now when we say written look, ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada has written for people to get married and people not to get mad. So he allowed Subhana wa Tada allowed people to get married and he allowed for people to circumcised not to make them marry or not to find a proper spouse for them. Now, does it mean that ALLAH SubhanA wa does forcing that reality

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Don't you not necessarily which means do I need to change that? Do I have the option even to fight it? The answer is yes how by every possible mean that you can to find a better spouse inshallah Tabata whatever sometimes, you know, honestly, sometimes we have to reconsider our priorities. Because specifically young people, when they come to ask them, What are you looking for in a spouse, they give you a list of Oracle Rama that is from heaven.

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Like Sita says, sometimes a guy comes to me with a list and he asks, What do you think about this list? I said, Allah. Yeah, it is amazing. If you find someone like this, let me know I want to marry her.

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Because I know she doesn't exist except in his own mind. So it is extremely important for both men and women to take it easy on themselves and marry the right person, not the best person.

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Our struggle today is a lot of young men and women, they're looking for the best person.

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And the best person is an abstract, it's just on the paper. Yes, I want to have a person who have this will have this have that. But reality tells me my circumstances, for example, because of my background, because of my socio economic state, because of my age, because of my you know, looks, whatever different circumstances might not allow you to attract the options that you have on that paper. So it's better for you to again to go with the reality which means you need to adjust your priorities. And you will find that pool of options will open up for me for you

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will open up for you. But if you keep your options limited to specific criterias that you can't compromise on these things, you will struggle you're not on your positive options. So yeah, part of it is to fight that clutter with another product. The clutter of not being married file without the clutter of trying your best and shelter find the right spouse inshAllah xuejun. Now

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how should one bring the other spouse closer to the dean, we're not responsible to guard their hearts we are responsible to create the environment for them to be guided. I make a lot of die for them. I invite them I share with them things for example, maybe invite them to gatherings like this and whatever. In every way possible. And Charlotte at the end of the day, it's in the hands of Allah subhanho wa Taala Besides, I don't know maybe you are the one who's mashallah think that you are the world guy that person today. But a few years down the road God knows what happens. And I've seen Allah this example. I have seen these examples where people flips completely and suddenly the spouse

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the wife, she complains that he was the one who brought me to the you know, to the dean, and now he's quitting on me. Like what do I do with him right now he's the one who brought me to this height Alhamdulillah Subhanallah we don't know. So you just need to make your DUA to the to the Allah subhanaw taala to get their hearts

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so what is the correct way of washing your feet and although since we talked about odo as one of the articles of course have a faith basically since we are at work, doing Gudo for four feet is difficult with shoes, and you know put your foot in the sink and all that kind of stuff and son What if someone cannot raise the foot or the feet up to the sink?

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Just wipe all your socks. As simple as that. Make wudu at Home wear your socks and shallow Tanna and when times are salah, doesn't matter if it's summer or winter, doesn't matter if your socks are thin or thick. Just wipe all your socks I should be financial well done.

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Do you agree that with a bunch of Rahim Allah that this is the best interpretation of taharah being half of Eman or do you see other options or other opinions being more valid or worth considering? Actually SubhanAllah? It's very interesting. Yeah, there are a lot of different interpretations for this. But I do believe that this interpretation is valid, and he is going to bring another by the way towards the end. And shall we're going to come to it later, maybe next time that one will be on the two pages later, when he speaks about a man has one of two things physical Tahara and moral taharah. And he says that this is another another interpretation which isn't the most common one.

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But he chose to say the Athan will do is have a faith in terms of shahada and in terms of the whole agenda, but I do believe actually the one that he's going to be talking about next inshallah is the one that most plausible for that meaning. Which means the Hara is 1231 or two the man is one to have the thought of his mission is physical purification and emotional moral purification that's why we said it's actually half of faith

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how many children are too many or too few

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will lie that's up to you and your spouse not my business.

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But in today's economy one is too many actually you're wrong absolutely wrong. You know why?

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Why a German

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tax return

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look at the American kids you know they talked about

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there's something beyond tax and money isn't my what is it?

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The Baraka that Allah promise Nana risotto Kumar yam and provide for the interview.

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Allah made it clear in the Quran, you know, the one who provide for them and provide for them. You just bring them forth Allah

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Take care of them for you. Allah we've seen this example in many many different Hala families and said, Allah Allah Allah You know what I have another child somebody I gotta raise, I got promotion I got I was fired from my job. So I bought another job that Broadman hamdulillah more Baraka look Allah zonal provides you are limiting your risk by just being too timid to take the risk of having another child is it going to be easy? Like I said, it's not going to be easy because that's the default of raising kids and having family but hopefully it will be easier if it will try to the right person in Charlotte, Atlanta, but unfortunate living in a very materialistic world. Our vision

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is complete in our blinded we don't even see beyond materialism anymore.

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But there is so much to love than just materialism Iijima the baraka Allah promise word, this is what happened to it. Allah promise He will provide Subhana wa Tada I have to have trust in that Allah Subhan judgment vanilla Zildjian. Now

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so as the word hath is part in Arabic is part in Arabic. If there's multiple categories in Eman, Will everything fall under sub sections possible? Because there was another Hadith in which the prophets Allah Allah mentioned actually it will do our Tahara divided to three so we'll do is 1/3 and Salah divided into Chua Institute who is 1/3 and so sutra is 1/3 So even though it's third, third third but you can still say it's half because you can say we'll do it because it's physical prior to the Salah and Susan record is another half and solar so it's still half even though it's considered 1/3 For example, so it can be considered cat subcategories.

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How can you improve your spouse o'clock over time?

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Or how you deal with their with their predisposition? Well, I think that your about your clock and others

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if you're worried about your own clock, and you always respond to that which is best I hope Allah subhanaw taala will bring that the heart of the spouse into the workplace as it was our mission so to foster that card instability as an adult they were in a cabana Madaba cannon Wilhemina always repelled and responded now which is best perhaps was when we have feud and hostility becomes your most beloved person. Why am I will not call her a little dinner Subbarao only those who persevere in patience can handle this. Well my will Carla to have the Nadeem and only will do so will have the reward with Allah subhanho wa taala. So Allah is telling you is not going to be easy to do that with

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people to push back to do right with those around you. But he said the reward is what Allah subhanaw taala doesn't mean I have to do that every time they wronged me, not necessarily. It's not obligation, but it's just a recommendation to get the reward from Allah azza wa jal now

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so what is the best way to translate this hadith if we translate it as purity is half of faith, it can be confusing in English, as you know, you have to explain it says you can say purity is how a Faith says look, there might be sometimes they said we say physical and some that we say that the moral purity and their concern all part of it as well to laugh to explain to them in shallow Tana.

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So rushing marriage, we covered four brothers, the qualifiers and how to know whether they should marry young or not. What is recommended for assisted in terms of marriage. Honestly, I always recommend for sisters, if the proposal comes that you actually should consider it. I won't say take it. I say consider it because even if they are, for example, you're young, even if you're 19, or 20.

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If that proposal hamdulillah has the qualifiers. You don't don't wait longer. Because unfortunately with our society today that keep pushing the girls to wait longer and longer until they establish themselves financially. Instead, we talked about this, if you remember before, we've seen it as well as that. One of the biggest problems is the guys they wait longer to be financially stable. That's why they don't propose because they believe they need to provide.

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And the ladies they wait longer to finish their education and have a career so they can have financial independence from the man whose purpose is what to provide for them. So if you want to become independent of him, he now been stripped out of his purpose. So that's why these guys they are now looking for women who just wants to be wives and mothers really.

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It's problematic. So we need to worry about our choices. Allah Allah

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and if the Sisters of how to reach that age word now she's not in the favor of let's say favorite bracket for marriage. I would say this is not the chance maybe probably to start thinking of again, rearrange your priorities

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and open up for other pools of options. Like sometimes the sister the sister, for example, they want to have someone who never been married before. I can guarantee that for your age in the age group or men right now most likely, they'd be married before or even single parents can give that for example, you have to open up this option as a choice for instance and so on.

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