Yaser Birjas – Patience At The First Stroke Isha Khatirah Sh.
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The importance of patient mental health during difficult times, including injuries and unexpected events, is emphasized. It's crucial to avoid embarrassment and to find a better situation to live in. It's also important to be patient and stay cool to achieve full reward for the experience. It's important to learn and control oneself to manage oneself, and it's crucial to practice and understand one's own abilities to manage oneself.AI: Transcript ©
What would you do if you were in
the position of this lady who the prophet,
sallallahu alaihi wasalam, approached?
And she kind of, like, scolded him with
her statement. What would you do if you're
in the position of this woman over here?
Hadid number 31
in the other salihin
from the book of, of patients.
So in this story,
he reported that the prophet
passed by a woman
who was crying over a grave, and he
said to her. Now before we get to
the statement of the Prophet
the hadith has an extension a little bit
from all the sub narrators would say. And
that was Tabeth al Banani, the, the student
of Anas Adelaiwan.
He said, one time I overheard
Anas, his teacher,
speaking to a lady from his family, like
a woman from the family of Anas Adhan.
He was pointing to a lady. He goes,
do you know this woman?
And the lady, she goes, no, I don't
know who she is.
She said, this
was the woman when the prophet, sallallahu alaihi
wasallam, one day, he passed by a grave,
and she saw her crying.
So now he's speaking about this woman here.
So means she survived the time of the
prophet as well too.
So that woman, she was crying on that
grave.
Faqal and so the Prophet passed by and
he saw her crying. Faqal, Ittakallahu waspirin.
He said to her, Ittakallahu, be conscious of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and be patient.
Like, be patient to get their word for
it.
So the woman, without even looking at the
prophet, salallahu alayhi
I want
to Like, get away from me.
You have no idea what happened to me.
Like, you don't have the problem that I
have. Or you don't have you did not
go through what I'm going through right now.
So the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wasallam, didn't even
say a word, and he left.
Oh, Jesus left her.
What I'm tariffle. She did not recognize her
because she was too busy crying.
She couldn't even recognize the voice of the
prophet, salallahu alaihi, said she didn't even look
at him. She was just crying on the
grave, and that was it.
So when the prophet
left, someone came to her,
What did what the prophet said to you
and what did you say to him?
And she just like, said that when she
recognized that that was Rasulullah, his sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam, Jafadimruha.
Like her her her eyes completely dried up.
No more tears.
Like her fear
and her grieve over offending the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam
was subhanallah became greater than her grieve over
the loss of her child.
And can you imagine?
You just lost the child and she's crying
her heart out.
And now suddenly a man coming to talk
to her and she says, leave me alone.
And she was, oh, that was Rasulullah.
That moment for her was scarier
than the moment when she lost her child.
Like to offend the prophet so she immediately
went running
to catch the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
on the way to his house.
So she did not arrive until he was
already at home.
So when she came to the house of
the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wasalam, she did not
find any any doorkeepers.
Now why this statement was mentioned in the
hadith, alhamah they say, because perhaps this lady,
she was expecting when she goes to the
house of the prophet, salallahu alaihi, she would
find Bilal and this and that. All, you
know, gatekeeping,
the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wasallam. But
he was there, open for everybody.
So she took permission, she spoke to the
prophet, salallahu alaihi wa sallam,
I swear, I didn't recognize him. I'm sorry.
I did not recognize him.
Him.
That patience is becoming only at the first
stroke of grief.
Like the reward, the complete
reward, that's the point.
The complete
reward for being patient
is at the first strike or stroke of
grief.
Now what does that even mean?
You know, sometimes when people, they go through
some hardship or difficult over the trial and
may Allah protect you all, you're bara'alameen.
Car accident.
You just go through bump into a car
or car bumps into you.
From in the moment of being scared and
being afraid and being anxious and being angry
and just like
yelling and cursing and cursing. And after 2
hours,
I got at least no injuries.
Really?
After 2 hours?
Right?
That means you lost a lot of the
reward
that you could have, yeah, accumulated
so much
if you just maintain that patience in that
moment,
in that that split second.
You're talking to somebody and suddenly this person
start cursing at you.
And now your blood is boiling.
The shaitan is saying, are you gonna let
him say that to you? And be quiet.
So obviously
your shaitan is now whispering to you. Just
retaliate. You have to respond back.
But you you keep your cool.
You keep your cool and you decide not
to. Even though I'm capable,
but you know what? I'm not gonna go
to that level. Now that's too too low
for me.
So you stay up and you'll persevere in
patience. You get the full reward for that
moment.
But if you lose your cool and start
kind of trying to catch him and fight
him and and and then after that, the
guy says, okay, that's fine fine.
You're making bigger now. Right?
But if you're looking for the reward for
patience at the first stroke.
Similarly at home, you and your spouse,
you start,
agitating each other.
You're on the edge. She's on the edge.
And everybody's just waiting for the moment of
explosion.
Who is gonna be the one to be
the instigator in that moment?
Why?
Just keep your cool.
Stay patient.
Endure in that moment. Hopefully, insha Allahu Ta'ala,
it will get better.
So the idea from the hadith here is
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. He when
he told her,
he was guiding her
to a better situation,
better position than the one that she's in
right now.
Like, it's okay. You can cry. He didn't
say don't cry. He didn't scold her. He
didn't say.
He didn't say that stuff. He said just,
like,
it's okay. Now it's more befitting of you
to be patient. Like, why don't you now
seek the reward for patience?
But she wasn't there yet.
She wasn't there yet.
I mean, the obvious reason for that because
that's why she was on the grave of
their child and she was
hugging the grave and crying. So that tells
you a lot about this moment. So the
prophet, salallahu alaihi wa sallam, he did not
scold her for that moment.
What I also learned from this one, that
the Prophet, salallahu alaihi wa sallam, was guiding
her to that which is best and better.
So what she did what she did, which
is a crying basically,
is not haram. Like we talked about this
previously when the prophet was crying for the
child, dying in his in his hands, sallallahu
alaihi salaam. So
those tears of grief is okay, but wailing
is haram and she wasn't.
So the prophet said, okay, fine. She's not
ready yet.
At some point, she will become more patient.
But then she has lost the maximum reward
for being patient. What we also learned is
that, and
this from this hadith that,
Like a person can be excused
if they didn't have the proper knowledge.
Like what this lady told the prophet, sallallahu
alaihi wasallam, if she was conscious of who
he was, that could be tantamount to the
level of kufr.
Like rejecting the the command or the destruction
of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam,
that could become as kufr.
But because she didn't know,
if she had she known there was a
Prophet
unconsciously
rejected him,
that will be kufuf. But of course,
she didn't know so she's excused.
She'd be fine.
Well then also the khuluq of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, how humble he was.
His doors were open.
Like people can come and and even and
ask for him sallallahu alaihi wa sallam alaihi
and he would come out and he would
answer their calls, depending on the circumstance obviously,
of course.
So the prophet, salallahu alayhi, salallahu alayhi wasalam,
was there for the people and he was
humbled to answer this lady's questions.
So
remember that patience is at the first stroke.
Now how can I maintain that cool moment
or moment of patience?
Remember when Qayyim Rahimuallahu Ta'ala, he says,
So at the first stroke, you know, when
the calamity befalls someone, Allah protect the soil.
A person becomes completely oblivious
and hear this of the noise that he
has.
Like you know this is right and this
is wrong. This is halal. This is haram.
But in that moment of grief,
you become your your rational becomes blocked.
Because when your emotions become high, your rational
goes down.
And as a result, when people speak in
an emotional moment, excessive motion,
they don't make sense.
So when people are now left for that,
so they start
saying things they don't even know what they're
talking about. Take the example even of righteous
people, such as Umar Al Khattab
What did Umar Al Khattab say when the
prophet
died?
When the news spread
that the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam is gone.
What did he say?
That's Omar, the sensible man.
And who If Omar did this, can you
imagine that as to how what they did?
Omar grabbed his story. He goes, I swear
whoever says he died, I'm gonna kill him.
He doesn't wanna believe. He's he left in
denial in that moment. He did not want
to believe that the prophet, his beloved, Rasool
Allah, is gone.
So he's kept denying it. He goes, whoever
said is dead, I'm gonna kill him. He
didn't die. He went like Musa, alaihis salaam,
to be with his Lord, he's gonna be
back.
And he's trying to deny it. So he
was speaking nonsense in that moment.
Until Abuqra,
the man who was known to be very
emotional, like when he cries, he cries.
But that moment required really real men, and
he was the man for it. And he
came out to the public,
very composed, well collected of the line. And
he tells Omar, sit down, You Omar. And
Omar is not listening. Sit down, You Omar.
He's not listening. So then he showed him
the number and he gave his khutbah.
And
he
he decided
What is Muhammad other than a prophet like
the one who was before?
So if he dies or if he killed,
you're gonna return back to Allah and
that's it. Leave Islam.
So I'm gonna say when I heard that
ayah, it was like first time I've ever
heard the ayah, and he collapsed.
He says, I could not stand on my
feet so he went down on his knees.
That's when basically
moment of clarity came to him
and he realized, oh my god, he is
gone.
So the idea here is that we need
to learn.
It's a skill.
It is a skill.
It's not like people keep saying, well, Sheikh,
man, it runs in the family.
I have We have short temper. My dad
used to be like this. My grandfather used
to be like I don't care.
You're a different person and you can learn
to be patient. It's actually requires exercise. The
prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam says,
Whoever exercise patience, allow to facilitate patience for
them,
which is a skill. You can do that.
So you need to learn that. You need
to control yourself. The prophet, salallahu alaihi wa
sallam, kana, is a Hazibahu Amr Fazia ilaha
salallahu alaihi wa sallam.
When the prophet, salallahu alaihi wa sallam, is
afflicted with something, like, concerns him, he would
rush to make salat, make to
calm himself down so he doesn't react emotionally.
Then he comes out after he collected his
thoughts and he balances emotion, his rationale, and
he comes out to speak to the people,
sallallahuhanahu wa sallam.
Ibn Qayim
says that, in that moment knowledge becomes irrelevant
now.
What conforms people in moments like this?
The strength of your iman and the strength
of your iman is based on what?
What do you guys think?
The practice of what you know.
The practice of what you know.
What's the point of knowledge if we don't
practice that knowledge?
So al iman becomes strong if you practice
what you learn. So the more you practice
of your deen,
the stronger your iman becomes.
Which is why sometimes, subhanAllah, you find some
simple people don't have degrees in Sharia or
anything like that. Their will show patience more
than people who have PhD in Sharia.
Their knowledge is limited,
but guess what? They practice everything that they
know.
So their iman is strong.
But others, they have amount of knowledge upon
up. They barely
practice a fraction of it. Rest of it
is just information.
So make sure, Ajamal, to practice on your
deen whatever you can. Your adkar, you're dua.
Wake
up with the Hajj fast Mondays Thursdays. Be
kind to others. Smile, help, this, that. All
these beautiful things. Practice this. Hopefully,
Allah Subhanahu will always keep us firm or
iman.
Any questions?
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