Fiq Of Love

Yaser Birjas

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If there's anything in this world,

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anything in this world that causes nonsense, to make all sense, that would be love.

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Because love

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when people are love, they see the bride and the bride. Possible Impossible, impossible becomes possible when you talk to them. They just believe and love and nothing goes for love, whatever it

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is

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no wonder that it became throughout the history of mankind. Until this day, as I was researching the meaning

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of love, I couldn't find I couldn't really find

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a conclusive evidence or conclusive determination to say this

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word

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has been defined differently for generations, but they all agree on one thing, there is a mystery

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to show you how mysterious love is mysterious way to

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give an example here.

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But if you're

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most likely most likely, you're not married to love.

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Cuz

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you love most likely you love the first ever experience was when he was still young

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was across the street

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510 years more or less.

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And you still happy with the

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ups and downs.

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Like you share a relationship with someone who wasn't your first person perhaps the one in the second third. But still,

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it works and function

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comes to love my dear brothers and sisters, when it comes to a loss of power management

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in many ways,

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mentioned loss and the loss of power

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in a way

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that spoke about love and one of the greatest contexts but a loss of power that was speaking about

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room

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was speaking about the magnificent creation, the magnificent, visible gloss, he began last time the competition this is

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a loss of power began speaking about the creation of man.

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When he created

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the creation of all these cultures and languages, we spoke about so many great things

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in between all this magnificent creation

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was it

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is this? He said no. This is one of the miracles among his son and this is what he was talking about the mountains

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among the sons, the ocean and the sea and all this stuff. A lot of confidence said that among the standards this that he has created for you spoken

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of amongst yourselves as well.

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Start

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with us, so that you might find peace and tranquility,

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peace and tranquility. And also

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find a piece of

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knowledge that is one shade of love

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is one shade of love.

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Language is very, very expanded language very, very deep and profound language, some of the

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Muslim stuff

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passed away 700 years ago.

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Once a whole book, on the subject of love, he says,

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more than 60 different words explaining the meaning of love in different shades, when you must be able to explain

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things.

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What's the meaning of

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timing and soft, tender love?

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What do you call it in English, the closest word for the passion, passionate love. So he put our passion in love. And then

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what does

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this have to do with marriage?

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Mercy is another form of love.

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And love transforms. One

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relationship to the other moves from down all the way out.

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You say most of relationship or

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most of relationship

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with passion and love, the way we were taught in this culture

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all these horrible things, everything's supposed to

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exist.

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There is no love.

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Because it's everything about love, but how do they explain?

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So, they say

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unfortunately,

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that marriage is all about love, and the only one condition or one category, which is the passion,

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same method, the first thing we did was that,

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but then we start saying the genuine qualities, a genuine sense of your spouse becomes very powerful Of

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course, all over the place. Now that you

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see the reality of

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it becoming.

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So you have the option

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as the only way

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to do

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but other people that go on to the next level.

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And now one of these are many levels of blood, one of them

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has mercy.

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And then another word for actually compassion

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which means passion and compassion.

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In relationship he says replace it with your heart, passion and compassion.

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Law says indeed

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as

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follows.

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So this is

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our last man and woman. This this position on the mandate in mind to love women and women and men is a very natural thing. It is something that is very, very natural as a last

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in favor of human mankind.

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You should preserve

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what is it

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how you maintain that relationship?

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This is what we're going to be talking about.

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Now, when it comes to

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when it comes to finishing, just like I said, at the beginning of the relationship, your passion is love. But then

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perhaps

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more or less, and

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they always

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ask

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why is

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she said

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she said

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Merci.

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Merci

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in the same situation with a spouse is

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holding on to her.

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Again,

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they're not.

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They're not running on passion and love, the use of love. So when we look at those two extremes right now,

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how can we into this wide spectrum? How can I live through this spectrum without falling into the practice of loving?

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The initiative, love and mercy of passion and compassion

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to Wales for longer

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have to train and exercise both wings.

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But we always focus on one when what happens.

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So you have both so this is for the for the men, women, if you would like to survive in this relationship do you want to polish and so on and

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so hard on your love and your mercy? You need to balance that

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passion and love, they always say, flowers, chocolate, candles and so on all these things

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is much more than just candles.

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And for those who just

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revise.

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I also tell them that

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you will have the best guidance when he was

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15 he was still cherishing those feelings even though he was an example, one time,

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a long time

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in his life, so when he became Muslim, he was a jerk on the one spot against the prophet

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in

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just one year right before the conquest of Makkah.

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The Shahada embraces Islam. So as

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the Prophet

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then suddenly he puts his hand back.

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So

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what's going on

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in your mind?

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So what is your condition?

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Me I fought against

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democracy.

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You come

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in

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Gilda

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is

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a science and condition and he was the head of the military.

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When he came back, it was time for us.

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So there must be some connection.

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So we can come back to that. So law is adult for the man

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who is the

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man?

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Who is the most beloved dude.

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When you asked him a question

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you asked the province of Alaska, who was the most beloved to

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he just said.

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And then he

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was kind of surprised. He was thinking about the surprise, I said,

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I don't talk about I'm talking about men.

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I don't mean that I'm talking about men.

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Which means Her father

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is my best friend

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will learn

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to ask the simple question and it was very

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unexpected.

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The passion

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among themselves.

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Demand

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is still

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natural.

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She can't carry the grievances of some of his wives, I guess.

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But his wife was a very natural normal, I don't think he was was was.

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So the

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people that will send their gifts and the food and whatever they want to offer them

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offended by that

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who is best to gather references other than Bob the most

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the most beloved to him.

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So,

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it is time

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for some justice.

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So, why

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don't you love why you love

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then he points to actually goes

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there is a smoker

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which means to talk

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we have

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some power to that extent.

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If needed experiences

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in common.

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He was saying as we

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express those through words through action,

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this is not

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this is

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these are natural.

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However, they are you.

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issue of loss.

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Do we say

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the answer the business day we

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know that why is that because

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You cannot judge something

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when it comes to love, it's something that you have in the heart. But what do we exactly judge? We exactly just the action, the action, what do you do? How do you act

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based on those feelings, some people they fall in love so passionately.

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And rationality.

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And a lot of all them accountable for the action.

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Other people

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will love them

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was

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an iteration of it becomes an issue big fish. So

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agriculture becomes a big thing. However they

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sum

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against

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against.

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So Allah will judge the people based on the actions they take the love that they haven't been hot

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and that's what

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they said, but when it comes to love, it's in the heart

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because it's invaluable.

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However, we will judge the actions if you do it before love.

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But it

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isn't until you commit

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adultery fornication was the first of all accountable for these practices. It has to be done in order to fulfill that promise of Allah

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tranquility.

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Now, of course,

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by choice, or by force,

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or by choice, which means is it

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up to this person?

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Or does it happen by choice?

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Wow. Okay, can I give you I'm gonna give you one minute, I want you to talk to the person sitting next to you. This test you

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chose, and let's see if you can convince them of that.

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had no intention

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on you.

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Merci. Merci. Can

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you just wake up?

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You have never seen it before.

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Guess what?

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The answer actually is both.

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And then after that

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How are you?

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Speaking

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man, you

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You see something that attracts you to them, right? So without you having choice, open your eyes and do

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what you love.

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So that's what he says, fall in love

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with love, in most cases of hackers by choice, sometimes a loss

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for example,

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they

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just cannot say

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how much they try.

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They try they try

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is not.

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So this is something that was forced on them.

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So what do you do in this case, when it comes to the law of demand, if you're not prepare yourself for marriage, don't even try because

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it consumes your energy, it

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causes many people to become weak in their worship because it consumes them from inside.

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But once you're ready for the person that

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shows that they open your heart, you can open your mind,

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open your eyes, and enjoy that.

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And peace of mind for those who live

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tested. Again,

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this is somebody who has an image

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so now

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there is no way to control this easily. However, as a human being Allah

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gave you basically

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should put some restrictions.

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Okay, I know I

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can't.

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Yes.

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You need to

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ask Allah to help you go through this. And

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another question, why do people fall in love with a beautiful image?

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You know, because all

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you got to know

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is one of these words of one, I read more than 36 different curriculums. And there was a very famous paper which you all know the very famous statement that the spirit of bandwidth.

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Many of these cases many of these stories, they base their relationship

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on based on month on image on a beautiful image of Cinderella

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Kennedy imagine someone just chases a woman, you know, all over the world all over the city, just

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because of the shoe size.

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Some of the shoe size issues and wherever.

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Now, of course, unfortunately, this is right now this was

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a lightning

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strike. But they planted something in our mind that if you have a beautiful image, then you will live happily ever after. Now most accurate all these

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all these fairy tales, they always end with this statement.

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And I've never I've never regretted any part two of this talk.

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There will be just like anybody else

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perhaps.

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So but we don't say talk to so why do people get attracted to me? Kennedy

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condition because we will

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marry someday

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But Was that something that means to you when you get conditioned to that?

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Yes.

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Parents, but why? Why? Why? Why their face is what matters the most

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brings happiness. Why do we associate beauty with happiness? Why what's the connection?

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Of course, we all want

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the beautiful

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image. All this is here will happen that question American has

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an English language

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learner.

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And now this book is

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another beautiful treatise on love. So he explains why people are beautiful. He says

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he says

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that we have created man in the best meaning the

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most beautiful form. So for us, for us, we've been also raised to believe that beauty is associated with work with perfection.

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You will see a nice car.

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Nice car design.

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What

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is beautiful,

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beautiful, why they describe it as beautiful.

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Perfection.

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That looks nice and beautiful. Why? Because for us beautiful means

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beautiful.

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So based on this beautiful,

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handsome God, what is

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associated with

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these

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beautiful, beautiful,

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beautiful shows we must be.

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That's what they find

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is much more. When it comes to love and relationships. It is much more than just an appearance. So what is it? What is it? This is the thing that we learn from

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psychologists and therapists that from the practice of

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when it comes to practicing law, you have

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you had to rush for me to come to me.

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Maybe after?

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He says to me Well, honestly.

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So okay, so he asked me, What do you suggest for me? I said I have the solution for you. What is

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your solution?

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She was

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asked, okay, let's go and talk about love what exactly happened?

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For most people, when they printed this out, they refer

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to the sentence of love the feeling that

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I stopped loving, which means I don't feel

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don't have that compassion that I had before. So I asked him I said

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Wouldn't it be

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wonderful?

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Blah, blah, blah. I said tell me. What did you love?

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Okay.

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I said so now what's going on? While

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she's talking

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He's not doing this anymore so you see that's what I mean by love love you love them for the actions

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the action that they have the relationship

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now that your solution is to reactivate love

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So tell me what do you

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got

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look nice

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chocolate with so many things right?

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It was so nice

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says don't do anything

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for granted so she told me

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Can you please say

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based on an entitlement

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so if you want to revive relationship you need to check Why did you love them before for what reason as much as he was always nice to me, she was always respectful

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so my advice was react in a

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responsible way

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if you know that you're watching this is these things from your

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beautiful

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spontaneous gesture

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come back again.

00:37:04--> 00:37:07

Now you will never be too busy because it doesn't take much of your time.

00:37:09--> 00:37:12

determination and effort and attitude that's what

00:37:16--> 00:37:23

matters therapists they accidentally explain to rationalize love to rationalize and love that it's

00:37:24--> 00:37:34

true things one is the law theory and the other is the account bank account.

00:37:36--> 00:37:40

So, let's begin with the bank account the bank account What do you

00:37:42--> 00:37:45

propose somebody proposed

00:37:46--> 00:37:49

he wants to start the conversation immediately

00:37:52--> 00:37:57

you open a bank account and they open a bank account with a

00:38:00--> 00:38:01

checking account

00:38:02--> 00:38:03

checking account

00:38:04--> 00:38:05

but essentially

00:38:08--> 00:38:11

every time you do something what happens

00:38:14--> 00:38:15

to the account

00:38:16--> 00:38:17

every time you do something

00:38:20--> 00:38:22

so you keep investing in

00:38:29--> 00:38:33

chocolate bar you brought a chocolate bar reception

00:38:37--> 00:38:41

got so high yield investment in terms of recession.

00:38:48--> 00:38:49

So even these small

00:38:51--> 00:38:52

investments should continue to

00:38:55--> 00:38:58

invest investing, investing, investing, investing, you know, you're so so

00:39:04--> 00:39:06

busy with

00:39:10--> 00:39:11

whatever it is.

00:39:12--> 00:39:17

So once your product is changing, you're not important anymore. Ask

00:39:18--> 00:39:19

what they care about.

00:39:20--> 00:39:21

The most important

00:39:27--> 00:39:35

and that's when you start a mandatory response. So the man get the gun from his wife, you know the things that he needs to do.

00:39:36--> 00:39:39

Even though that two kids right now.

00:39:43--> 00:39:45

But he's still the same for the

00:39:46--> 00:39:47

same thing.

00:39:51--> 00:39:52

Again,

00:39:55--> 00:39:56

they will be withdrawn from this account.

00:39:57--> 00:39:59

It was wrong was wrong with that.

00:40:00--> 00:40:01

There's not enough investment,

00:40:03--> 00:40:04

eventually gonna be

00:40:05--> 00:40:09

more than deposit. And at some point you're gonna find yourself on my hands.

00:40:14--> 00:40:17

So if you want to have a loving relationship

00:40:20--> 00:40:20

and

00:40:21--> 00:40:24

investments, it doesn't have to be something to use.

00:40:26--> 00:40:29

They will make the difference. And the second

00:40:30--> 00:40:34

they said the last time last time

00:40:38--> 00:40:41

just like a vehicle, and postcards out there.

00:40:43--> 00:40:44

And the customer says,

00:40:48--> 00:40:49

Now, let me just show you.

00:40:55--> 00:40:57

What do you guys thought to forget?

00:40:59--> 00:40:59

When the

00:41:00--> 00:41:00

most

00:41:06--> 00:41:10

majority of women, women, when it's half full,

00:41:14--> 00:41:15

they stop.

00:41:16--> 00:41:20

And they ask the guys, when they just start to fill gaps

00:41:26--> 00:41:27

in the middle of nowhere,

00:41:35--> 00:41:36

it just

00:41:39--> 00:41:43

function as long as it's fine. Don't stop No.

00:41:46--> 00:41:47

As long as the

00:41:49--> 00:41:53

do not stop, don't waste the time. I remember one time.

00:41:56--> 00:41:59

So the young man who came to drive me from the hotel to the

00:42:00--> 00:42:01

event.

00:42:08--> 00:42:10

So I don't I guess you're going to stop

00:42:25--> 00:42:25

wasting

00:42:33--> 00:42:37

you know why when they want to keep stopping you

00:42:38--> 00:42:39

like checkpoints,

00:42:41--> 00:42:41

checkpoints,

00:42:42--> 00:42:44

everything is okay. It just

00:42:47--> 00:42:48

is the

00:42:56--> 00:42:57

truth when you do this, we do that.

00:42:59--> 00:43:04

For men, as long as it's fine. Just don't touch it don't stop.

00:43:05--> 00:43:06

That's why

00:43:07--> 00:43:10

this is why why the industry is happy.

00:43:11--> 00:43:13

Or at least she's not comparison.

00:43:23--> 00:43:27

The highway that's when he wakes up when his wife gets upset.

00:43:28--> 00:43:30

And then one day his wife comes and says

00:43:35--> 00:43:53

he wasn't crossing his mind at some point that his wife would ever ask this question. But he was so distracted was the highway on the road that he never stopped to fill gas? Why when they want to stop for gas every now and then. Because they always want assurance in the relationship.

00:43:56--> 00:43:57

And this is how you should enjoy

00:44:01--> 00:44:01

enjoy

00:44:02--> 00:44:03

security.

00:44:15--> 00:44:16

But also

00:44:18--> 00:44:19

to check that I'm in because sometimes Yeah.

00:44:22--> 00:44:24

So check in every now and then

00:44:26--> 00:44:28

they don't have to check

00:44:29--> 00:44:30

once it breaks.

00:44:38--> 00:44:42

That's exactly the same thing. Why should I go on a vacation when we when we find a

00:44:45--> 00:44:46

bride

00:44:47--> 00:44:51

when she has all these things over so they never think of it as insurance.

00:44:53--> 00:44:55

So when it comes to the issue of marriage and

00:44:56--> 00:44:59

relationship, you will need to rationalize your religion.

00:45:00--> 00:45:01

Russia, Russia,

00:45:02--> 00:45:03

Russia,

00:45:04--> 00:45:16

what made you love them and what makes him love you these are the things you need to keep to keep in your mind. And always keep doing keep doing it because they're locked in for

00:45:17--> 00:45:18

as long as you can.

00:45:19--> 00:45:21

So keep the maintenance going.

00:45:22--> 00:45:23

Now

00:45:26--> 00:45:27

let's see that

00:45:31--> 00:45:33

number one will come to the

00:45:35--> 00:45:35

store.

00:45:37--> 00:45:38

One thing

00:45:41--> 00:45:49

to love one of them is water formation. The waters have permission for permission meaning that every time you do something good

00:45:52--> 00:45:52

thank you very much.

00:45:55--> 00:46:03

Awesome. Anything that is mentioned feels appreciated. And when was the last time SR one of the last time they serve as

00:46:04--> 00:46:08

trash cans on the back of a dashcam and take it off without you asking.

00:46:12--> 00:46:14

Because most men are very practical

00:46:37--> 00:46:38

for the garden

00:46:44--> 00:46:44

space

00:46:47--> 00:46:50

very happy. Why? Because

00:46:55--> 00:46:56

it's efficient

00:47:00--> 00:47:03

and assembling again. So imagine that your husband one day

00:47:04--> 00:47:05

instead of pushing.

00:47:10--> 00:47:11

In this case,

00:47:12--> 00:47:16

please please come and say thank you very much. I really really appreciate

00:47:22--> 00:47:23

those words.

00:47:27--> 00:47:28

A lot of fun for

00:47:30--> 00:47:31

anyone who says to his brother does

00:47:39--> 00:47:39

this or not.

00:47:44--> 00:47:45

house should

00:47:48--> 00:47:59

appreciate his work on regular basis every single day. In the morning, in the afternoon. Remember, when you do these things we appreciate

00:48:03--> 00:48:06

you come home for more. You're very tired. You sit down

00:48:09--> 00:48:12

it's the same thing every single day that you do.

00:48:13--> 00:48:14

It doesn't mean

00:48:25--> 00:48:26

said

00:48:31--> 00:48:31

the

00:48:33--> 00:48:35

same thing with the children.

00:48:39--> 00:48:41

What he comes up with it comes back

00:48:51--> 00:48:51

It doesn't matter.

00:48:55--> 00:48:57

And same thing for both of you

00:49:00--> 00:49:04

can imagine what some people are really like the second is

00:49:05--> 00:49:08

quality time, quality time.

00:49:10--> 00:49:20

If you ask most women actually have a survey that I do my workshops on the subject when I asked the ladies What do they complain the most about the number one complaint women they have against?

00:49:23--> 00:49:26

What is the number one complaint one they have against?

00:49:31--> 00:49:34

It was which is true. But

00:49:36--> 00:49:37

they said

00:49:42--> 00:49:44

they don't listen

00:50:00--> 00:50:02

The biggest complaint I have about their life

00:50:24--> 00:50:24

optimal

00:50:29--> 00:50:36

solution for this problem is quality time, you know, when it comes to a husband, and she says I want to talk to you,

00:50:39--> 00:50:43

because that's going to be talking about

00:50:48--> 00:50:49

is going to become 50.

00:50:50--> 00:50:51

So that's why

00:50:59--> 00:51:00

so that's the first thing

00:51:02--> 00:51:08

that the husband's gone for his wife to talk to her, when

00:51:10--> 00:51:17

they checked her husband is serious about this. Because you know, one of his biggest problems is that is my house. So when he does

00:51:20--> 00:51:23

his laptop, for the TV,

00:51:24--> 00:51:25

that he can distract.

00:51:26--> 00:51:28

So they need that quality time, what is the

00:51:31--> 00:51:38

few minutes divisible attention between a husband and wife, just for them to talk not

00:51:39--> 00:51:49

to share information, as much as to just to communicate and connect with one on one of them. And as they speak, men, they like to speak just to give them permission

00:51:52--> 00:51:54

to share emotions and

00:51:57--> 00:52:01

conversation when other activities such as visually you look at the guy, one speaker,

00:52:04--> 00:52:12

but the actual conversation in the center, why because there is not enough information as much as inflation, which is very good. This is such an important

00:52:17--> 00:52:24

article, because it's very hard to read and design differently for legal

00:52:25--> 00:52:25

levels.

00:52:26--> 00:52:27

That's an amazing thing.

00:52:29--> 00:52:33

So quality times is what they want, they want to feel better. Sometimes

00:52:34--> 00:52:35

you have

00:52:42--> 00:52:43

to go outside

00:52:45--> 00:52:47

the home office, then you just got to

00:52:53--> 00:52:55

just forget about everything.

00:52:59--> 00:52:59

And

00:53:01--> 00:53:01

then come on.

00:53:14--> 00:53:15

He used to

00:53:17--> 00:53:18

send the army.

00:53:22--> 00:53:24

Imagine imagine those moments of

00:53:25--> 00:53:26

walking together.

00:53:27--> 00:53:29

Imagine walking

00:53:32--> 00:53:34

on this beautiful spacious place.

00:53:36--> 00:53:39

Talking and chit chatting with one another. So everybody want

00:53:47--> 00:53:51

to say one minute, but those memories will last forever.

00:53:56--> 00:53:57

Some allow

00:54:00--> 00:54:01

us to go all the way back.

00:54:05--> 00:54:06

Because you know

00:54:09--> 00:54:11

men and women they hate sometimes.

00:54:13--> 00:54:25

Why? Because for the night is focuses on destination and a woman facilities because when you don't know where to stop, and then also focus on the road. So when she says

00:54:27--> 00:54:28

to mine,

00:54:33--> 00:54:34

she said nothing.

00:54:45--> 00:54:59

But it's quality time. That's what I told you both husband and wife. If you ever get together, to talk to shop together and so on. Make sure that you decide on the time. How long would it take to pay 10 minutes and stuff

00:55:00--> 00:55:00

For

00:55:03--> 00:55:04

you For the purpose of

00:55:18--> 00:55:18

receiving

00:55:26--> 00:55:27

which means if you didn't fit

00:55:31--> 00:55:33

in as it was between a husband and wife

00:55:34--> 00:55:36

or husband comes with one will mask it

00:55:38--> 00:55:43

will also do is that for men I get asked to be

00:55:44--> 00:56:00

they still have a monetary value. So that's why they don't give gifts very often. Because once they say that they have been bringing big gifts and that's why they get disappointed many times in the relationship because after all this sacrifice that's what I get from him.

00:56:01--> 00:56:02

Because I

00:56:05--> 00:56:22

don't care about how much it cost what they care about the idea the thought that contains that you will you have the passion in my mother's alley of Walgreens in the chocolate highlighted animals 50% on sale. For me that's amazing.

00:56:27--> 00:56:28

Please share with

00:56:30--> 00:56:30

us

00:56:31--> 00:56:33

chocolate that makes

00:56:35--> 00:56:35

sense.

00:56:39--> 00:56:42

And manly gifts. What does that mean?

00:56:45--> 00:56:54

chocolates, perfumes, flowers, these kind of things and so on. So when they buy their husband, the husband especially because his check the price

00:56:57--> 00:56:58

that's

00:56:59--> 00:57:00

why because

00:57:01--> 00:57:01

these are

00:57:04--> 00:57:05

some really practical

00:57:07--> 00:57:12

tools like gadgets, these kind of things a car for example, all this stuff so

00:57:15--> 00:57:18

please don't forget that you live

00:57:21--> 00:57:24

a better life for themselves. So

00:57:25--> 00:57:26

don't buy it a laptop.

00:57:28--> 00:57:29

This is the latest edition.

00:57:33--> 00:57:33

Let me show you

00:57:40--> 00:57:40

this

00:57:43--> 00:57:45

something such as a

00:57:46--> 00:57:48

while that he wants her to

00:57:52--> 00:57:52

know

00:57:54--> 00:57:59

is that you may or is exclusively for them that says you have a laptop

00:58:02--> 00:58:04

my permission for you make it

00:58:05--> 00:58:06

and

00:58:10--> 00:58:12

then name this.

00:58:16--> 00:58:20

In this case, you would know she was exclusively for

00:58:22--> 00:58:23

laptop

00:58:25--> 00:58:26

chances you must

00:58:30--> 00:58:32

be smart, smart.

00:58:33--> 00:58:48

Sometimes the way you do these things will be the most beautiful gifts. We don't have to buy some expensive for a gift, something that has a beautiful child that will do the job number four to service the meaning of actual service women specifically

00:58:51--> 00:58:55

rely on their husbands to do for them to show love

00:58:59--> 00:59:05

coming from war and wanted to keep the show me that we face because the house was not very close.

00:59:07--> 00:59:09

They have no idea how many times

00:59:11--> 00:59:12

but it has no children.

00:59:18--> 00:59:19

They just come in

00:59:26--> 00:59:40

so number two is to Arizona right now Mashallah. regardless how much you organize and you may use you, you leave the game room, just leave it there for five minutes or less.

00:59:53--> 00:59:55

She doesn't she doesn't play

01:00:00--> 01:00:01

Video inboxes

01:00:03--> 01:00:04

in five minutes,

01:00:05--> 01:00:06

back to what was.

01:00:09--> 01:00:12

So for the men, whenever they come home when they see the situation like this

01:00:17--> 01:00:19

social emotion, instead

01:00:21--> 01:00:30

pick up these toys, put them away, put these pillows back on the couch and eventually do something without being told to do.

01:00:37--> 01:00:39

It is too busy extending already.

01:00:45--> 01:00:47

What exactly is it suddenly

01:00:51--> 01:00:52

gets away from me

01:00:55--> 01:00:58

best choir and so forth without being told.

01:00:59--> 01:01:00

And many

01:01:06--> 01:01:09

more than this, and the love I have for you.

01:01:11--> 01:01:12

You cheer each other

01:01:13--> 01:01:17

on of seven acts of service. And finally, the physical

01:01:20--> 01:01:21

proximity.

01:01:23--> 01:01:29

When he walks around, you'd love to have all hands on, sometimes at the beginning of the relationship.

01:01:31--> 01:01:31

But then after that

01:01:34--> 01:01:35

they don't actually

01:01:39--> 01:01:39

live in.

01:01:42--> 01:01:46

They have a sofa, they have the chair, and they have the loveseat.

01:01:48--> 01:01:51

Because, you know, I recognize most of the time,

01:01:52--> 01:01:54

you don't have children, yet, you spend most of your time

01:01:57--> 01:02:01

on the luck, because it's not actually two people. But we have

01:02:03--> 01:02:14

a baby. So in this case, we have extra space. But you still love the proximity goes. And what does that mean? That physical touch, I don't mean by

01:02:16--> 01:02:21

experience for me versus show kindness. And that's what

01:02:24--> 01:02:37

she was crying, she said, some of us needs to come from the message when it comes back from outside the first thing he does. So, the first thing is a random squat and against his mouth,

01:02:40--> 01:02:45

his mouth and then the company faces as well. What is that?

01:02:48--> 01:02:52

What does that mean? Is that going to be sweaty and smelly?

01:02:56--> 01:02:58

And then come back to what he said.

01:03:00--> 01:03:13

This is the this is not about the physical, you know for to go beyond that it is to show the love and respect for the same thing. She said when he goes outside when he wants to live to the message. She said

01:03:20--> 01:03:22

Why is fasting, fasting?

01:03:29--> 01:03:32

She said he used to kill his wife.

01:03:34--> 01:03:36

And then he would walk up to them as possible.

01:03:42--> 01:03:43

Because

01:03:45--> 01:03:46

she was talking about

01:03:47--> 01:03:47

he was

01:03:49--> 01:03:49

shaking his

01:03:55--> 01:03:55

head you

01:03:57--> 01:03:58

before it is worth way

01:04:06--> 01:04:17

more than just now is fast. It is an act of devotion to the message after devotion and on the way out. What does that mean? That's

01:04:19--> 01:04:23

the beautiful kindness that shows love responsible law.

01:04:26--> 01:04:26

She says

01:04:31--> 01:04:40

touch them by his hands or by holding their hand as they're sitting together at home. So the last one was the last one just sitting there on the dinner table.

01:04:41--> 01:04:43

As you're eating or having a cup of coffee or conversation.

01:04:44--> 01:04:47

A few weeks of your marriage and then after that.

01:04:49--> 01:04:50

So lovely.

01:04:53--> 01:04:58

And one of the most beautiful show our beautiful, beautiful show of physical

01:05:00--> 01:05:01

Chapter one.

01:05:02--> 01:05:04

The first one actually says on the,

01:05:06--> 01:05:06

on the

01:05:07--> 01:05:21

washroom facilities and so on. So she overheard, she overheard the other seniors in the method playing with like having a show like a workshop or something like that. So as the the class, the spirit of the armor, so she can

01:05:24--> 01:05:24

listen to

01:05:27--> 01:05:29

what she was doing. And as the thing

01:05:31--> 01:05:35

that he is continually he can see through, he knows she won't

01:05:36--> 01:05:37

need to say anything. So watch

01:05:43--> 01:05:51

out for her. And she came from behind. I'll show them the house. And then they had a window that overlooks from the house.

01:05:52--> 01:05:55

So as she was standing behind this little dog,

01:05:56--> 01:05:59

and she was looking over his shoulder through the window to them as

01:06:03--> 01:06:06

she described that, he said what the

01:06:07--> 01:06:11

key was on his chin, but it is beautiful, this

01:06:12--> 01:06:19

dimension that that will not be visualized. Can you try to visualize how would they be standing

01:06:21--> 01:06:27

on the street, that doesn't mean just, you know, kind of you know, this head is like this. No, it means she was

01:06:29--> 01:06:31

resting her chin on his shoulder.

01:06:33--> 01:06:36

And she's visiting the region with her face to hit it.

01:06:37--> 01:06:43

So hard to leave his head as well. So she will have his cheek on her cheek.

01:06:44--> 01:06:50

cheek on his cheeks all of a sudden, and why would you be hungry?

01:06:52--> 01:06:52

I mean,

01:06:54--> 01:06:59

I will suggest to your husband, which is a beautiful, beautiful woman's

01:07:00--> 01:07:03

body was waiting for her to finish watching he will say

01:07:05--> 01:07:06

no.

01:07:07--> 01:07:08

Then after some time,

01:07:10--> 01:07:12

finally, after so long, she said

01:07:18--> 01:07:26

she used to read a story. Many years after the festival. She said well, La Mancha channel,

01:07:28--> 01:07:30

I had no interest.

01:07:35--> 01:07:36

This position

01:07:38--> 01:07:42

makes you wanted to enjoy the position of tea on her tea.

01:07:44--> 01:07:45

The last position

01:07:47--> 01:07:48

such as a show of love, and

01:07:51--> 01:07:54

this was one of the most memorable moments in his life

01:07:55--> 01:08:00

is the status. And those are the last you know, in

01:08:01--> 01:08:04

the last few seconds and breaths from the

01:08:07--> 01:08:13

universal line cannot come closer to the end of the service line.

01:08:14--> 01:08:18

And the last few months, the last 14 days, he was nervous

01:08:19--> 01:08:28

about the AMA. And the last day he was unable to move on. On on he was unable to first of all,

01:08:29--> 01:08:43

he said to make him to ease his pain and suffering. So she would go on his bed with him on the bed. And this is the body and rest his body on her chest and I want you

01:08:44--> 01:08:48

to sit next to him and she would dress his body on her chest.

01:08:50--> 01:08:59

She would hold his hand from behind. And she starts wiping with his Blitz attack resistant because he was unable to decide.

01:09:02--> 01:09:12

When in those last moments, what she said the thoughts and his head was between her chin on her chest so he was thirsty and he wanted because he also wanted to deal with it.

01:09:13--> 01:09:17

of woman like this, and this woman husband is dying.

01:09:19--> 01:09:20

What

01:09:22--> 01:09:27

was a nurse she had to be in that position. There's nothing for her husband

01:09:28--> 01:09:29

that she

01:09:30--> 01:09:39

needed the last one. The last breath She said her daughter came in and he has in his hand his wife the the toothbrush, so when she

01:09:41--> 01:09:44

said she couldn't speak. She said

01:09:46--> 01:09:47

I know how much

01:09:49--> 01:09:50

said

01:09:51--> 01:09:53

she said yes they should be

01:09:54--> 01:09:56

and yes. So she

01:09:57--> 01:09:59

and she she

01:10:00--> 01:10:00

She She,

01:10:01--> 01:10:03

and she played another activity.

01:10:05--> 01:10:06

And then she was

01:10:07--> 01:10:09

stopped in the forest or vice versa.

01:10:12--> 01:10:15

And he starts cleaning his mouth. So

01:10:16--> 01:10:17

he said,

01:10:19--> 01:10:24

access. I've never seen the problem. So law there's suddenly been in his mouth went away. But

01:10:25--> 01:10:30

as it was credit for something special. And finally he puts them down

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to the heart of companionship and companionship, that means I would like to depart. She said he

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was coming and asked him if he wanted to stay longer.

01:10:45--> 01:10:47

Suddenly, she said,

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I felt that way.

01:10:53--> 01:10:54

on my chest, which means

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to the last minute, this lady she's telling us, I've never

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I've never let go, my husband to the last breath is not

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such an amazing show.

01:11:16--> 01:11:17

That's the genuine,

01:11:20--> 01:11:21

genuine

01:11:23--> 01:11:24

and really show

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moments.

01:11:35--> 01:11:37

She says, manager may not often and

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it wasn't my chest. I never go to the last minute, the last

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thing she said, and the last thing ever started from this world was my slide.

01:11:52--> 01:11:58

Because she was so awesome. She was so happy. And the last thing is he from this world, what

01:12:00--> 01:12:07

what else can you say about this amazing, amazing and real example of love, from the logical sort of life.

01:12:11--> 01:12:15

When it comes to love, as we said earlier, this is from a loss of

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the above.

01:12:20--> 01:12:22

And it's a blessing from Allah.

01:12:24--> 01:12:30

oma, for those who like to enjoy that peace and tranquility and subpoena, they should pursue that and

01:12:32--> 01:12:33

do

01:12:35--> 01:12:37

it because you enjoy it.

01:12:38--> 01:12:42

And if you don't find your joy, what's the best example is the example for

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why we have problems in our marriages? Because we're not really going

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to marriage and marriage.

01:12:58--> 01:12:59

Today,

01:13:02--> 01:13:07

university man, I'm sure when you go home, you don't go home empty handed.

01:13:08--> 01:13:10

To me for the chocolate bar.

01:13:17--> 01:13:18

And for the ladies.

01:13:21--> 01:13:23

Don't forget that you always compliment your

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sister.

01:13:38--> 01:13:38

Me?

01:13:52--> 01:13:53

Yes.

01:13:59--> 01:14:01

My question is what

01:14:06--> 01:14:06

love

01:14:09--> 01:14:10

is love

01:14:11--> 01:14:16

is love. Why do people sometimes think of us as love?

01:14:18--> 01:14:31

If you check the different kinds of love different categories of love, this is one of these categories, sometimes of romantic love, actually a romantic love is part of this as well. Because if you take romantic love

01:14:33--> 01:14:34

romantic love

01:14:39--> 01:14:42

stories such as the famous story in English as well.

01:14:54--> 01:14:59

Now in every single culture, every single culture asset they have models

01:15:00--> 01:15:00

Not so among

01:15:02--> 01:15:02

the

01:15:05--> 01:15:09

most famous love story is called face balloon.

01:15:10--> 01:15:12

And if you ask them what happened,

01:15:13--> 01:15:23

the father of the girl refused to give the message to them. So she might have someone else. And as a result of that, this man is

01:15:25--> 01:15:29

literally insane. He walks in the shovel, you know,

01:15:32--> 01:15:34

every time they mentioned,

01:15:35--> 01:15:42

he recovers, and you give, obviously these beautiful lines of work. But we're speaking about something else.

01:15:43--> 01:15:44

So this is another project.

01:15:47--> 01:15:50

So why don't people sometimes used to be below.

01:15:53--> 01:16:08

And I believe that this is actually a psychological issue that needs to be filled in the thing that's being and you know, it's a show of love. And that's a psychological problem, specifically, the amount of things that show the show of love for what needs to be physical

01:16:11--> 01:16:12

sickness,

01:16:13--> 01:16:17

to show to show control by verbal abuse and emotional abuse.

01:16:18--> 01:16:19

So non

01:16:22--> 01:16:23

abusive,

01:16:26--> 01:16:28

to just enjoy,

01:16:30--> 01:16:36

enjoy going after them, because he loves them so much, and they

01:16:38--> 01:16:42

enjoy, they love to see how much he suffers,

01:17:00--> 01:17:02

the Muslim should lose

01:17:05--> 01:17:05

money

01:17:07--> 01:17:09

training, I teach the students how

01:17:10--> 01:17:11

to qualify. So, if

01:17:13--> 01:17:15

you have an inner circle and

01:17:17--> 01:17:17

the inner circle

01:17:21--> 01:17:22

and the second one is bigger circles.

01:17:25--> 01:17:35

Core circle contains many main qualities that you should not come from, you should not come from the question, why should not compromise

01:17:36--> 01:17:36

the

01:17:41--> 01:17:42

religious?

01:17:46--> 01:17:46

He said

01:17:49--> 01:17:50

if someone comes to you,

01:17:54--> 01:18:00

so we talked about the law, by the law, the practice of

01:18:02--> 01:18:04

relationship between them, and the last one.

01:18:05--> 01:18:08

Do they come today, but they fast?

01:18:09--> 01:18:10

they change their lives.

01:18:12--> 01:18:13

All these things?

01:18:15--> 01:18:16

Don't say?

01:18:18--> 01:18:20

Fine, but this is so dangerous. If

01:18:22--> 01:18:27

you have children, how are you going to raise a family that will vote for lots of animals, there's no model now

01:18:35--> 01:18:42

that you really should think that it's very dangerous, in this case to be careful for quality, the reference for

01:18:43--> 01:18:58

cultural references in terms of age and attendance of culture, in terms of color, in terms of the sizes of a profession, in terms of you know, social status, all these things are cultural. So it's not just about the

01:19:01--> 01:19:04

culture, it focuses on the person. Now,

01:19:06--> 01:19:07

I can't say anything about this.

01:19:09--> 01:19:13

It's a matter of personal preference. Some people they care about qualities,

01:19:15--> 01:19:16

from qualities.

01:19:18--> 01:19:18

But what

01:19:20--> 01:19:21

is called the qualities

01:19:24--> 01:19:27

and the relationship with the people, how those people

01:19:32--> 01:19:33

how they behave.

01:19:38--> 01:19:45

You mentioned about giving gifts to your spouses and there are certain special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries,

01:19:46--> 01:19:58

Mother's Day Father's Day. So I I want your opinion on is it appropriate to what is the most special memory to share with your spouse?

01:20:00--> 01:20:00

Birthday

01:20:10--> 01:20:14

birthday birthday and then your children's birthday your mom's birthday

01:20:16--> 01:20:17

and then

01:20:20--> 01:20:21

these special

01:20:23--> 01:20:23

occasions

01:20:25--> 01:20:29

and become social I will say the same for the best okay?

01:20:33--> 01:20:34

I think however

01:20:35--> 01:20:36

the wife doesn't want

01:20:40--> 01:20:43

to have this spontaneous Nashville again

01:20:56--> 01:21:02

the husband continues to have a list of some numbers for years

01:21:10--> 01:21:12

and one of these workshops

01:21:14--> 01:21:15

so here's

01:21:16--> 01:21:17

what happened

01:21:19--> 01:21:19

what

01:21:21--> 01:21:21

lady

01:21:23--> 01:21:26

what a loving action for you is

01:21:30--> 01:21:37

how do you show up to number one the number one top reason that I've seen so far all these workshops

01:21:44--> 01:21:47

loving quality husbands they want from their wife

01:21:56--> 01:21:59

No, it's actually cooking good.

01:22:15--> 01:22:16

The highest

01:22:22--> 01:22:24

most guys the physical

01:22:26--> 01:22:26

most of

01:22:37--> 01:22:39

you know

01:22:46--> 01:22:47

No.

01:22:51--> 01:22:52

No.

01:23:06--> 01:23:06

So how

01:23:10--> 01:23:11

what people look for when it comes

01:23:13--> 01:23:13

to health

01:24:00--> 01:24:04

perspective of Muslims and then what should a Muslim look

01:24:08--> 01:24:08

for me

01:24:13--> 01:24:15

have to exist before it even I

01:24:19--> 01:24:20

know

01:24:26--> 01:24:28

how would you even define that?

01:24:39--> 01:24:40

If you don't love someone

01:24:45--> 01:24:49

after a long period of love or loving relationships

01:24:53--> 01:25:00

in America 62% that's crazy, but almost 60 to 64

01:25:00--> 01:25:01

80%

01:25:09--> 01:25:10

happened last year,

01:25:11--> 01:25:13

only one month, and they cannot say

01:25:17--> 01:25:21

what is that? So eventually, how do we define love?

01:25:24--> 01:25:30

I want you to be practical. When you propose to someone how I should proceed or just

01:25:33--> 01:25:42

you need to look for your comfort zone, you need to reach comfort zones that don't look to love them, because you will not be able to do

01:25:44--> 01:25:45

the exercise.

01:25:49--> 01:25:52

So you need to reach your comfort zone.

01:25:55--> 01:25:57

martial law by law

01:26:01--> 01:26:03

of attraction to them, you don't

01:26:04--> 01:26:11

want to sacrifice a lot for them to get to that point. But at least your comfort zone in this case,

01:26:12--> 01:26:18

proceed and move on. You can continue you can make engagement and start now in

01:26:20--> 01:26:21

case

01:26:43--> 01:26:45

Shura Council.

01:26:48--> 01:26:55

Were having problems. What kind of system do occur husband doesn't agree with this. Show me a husband

01:26:59--> 01:27:04

looking for a couple, when they have issues, the husband has a problem, the relationship that is too

01:27:05--> 01:27:06

late is almost for me.

01:27:07--> 01:27:14

husband is not now he doesn't want to come because he says there's nothing wrong with the front row with us. I have no problem with

01:27:16--> 01:27:20

somebody. But for me, I go to work.

01:27:21--> 01:27:23

And they also they hate to go

01:27:24--> 01:27:27

Why? Because they feel embarrassed.

01:27:32--> 01:27:34

They don't trust and confidentiality.

01:27:38--> 01:27:39

So

01:27:41--> 01:27:41

this is very,

01:27:42--> 01:27:47

very good. And that's what I meant by Bing on a very low you

01:27:58--> 01:27:59

try to say fine

01:28:03--> 01:28:04

life without you know,

01:28:05--> 01:28:07

sitting on the sofa

01:28:16--> 01:28:18

which means an arbitrator for Merseyside

01:28:19--> 01:28:21

side and trying to reconcile

01:28:24--> 01:28:24

if the

01:28:26--> 01:28:28

political situation alone is possible.

01:28:30--> 01:28:31

Man, please.

01:28:34--> 01:28:36

I highly recommended the city council

01:28:37--> 01:28:41

is for the lowest common denominator.

01:28:42--> 01:28:56

So the husband is not really trying to not tell him that whatever you get from the counselor is going to be an unbiased, it's not going to be serious counseling because you have to participate in active participation of both forms.

01:29:13--> 01:29:14

Be

01:29:15--> 01:29:27

a slight problem of Muslim men popping in and out of marriages leaving behind and not providing for them. What does not serve others. I wish it was only a slight problem.

01:29:30--> 01:29:36

The remaining husband and many guys, they really they think that they live the same life

01:29:38--> 01:29:41

for their children, that is

01:29:43--> 01:29:45

the stress so they move on

01:29:52--> 01:29:52

relationship.

01:29:54--> 01:29:59

So it's a serious problem and the last holding accountable deployment.

01:30:00--> 01:30:03

That day, the professor says

01:30:07--> 01:30:19

it's sufficient self sufficient extend a person commenced as they will, which means that because boom, they're responsible for to go waste resources that you don't take care of

01:30:22--> 01:30:23

your child

01:30:27--> 01:30:30

or your ex wife and never fade child custody.

01:30:35--> 01:30:36

You will never

01:30:37--> 01:30:46

forget parents in the relationship after the divorce, you know, they lost a foster children, that's a very, very serious issue and a lot more comfortable.

01:31:01--> 01:31:02

What

01:31:04--> 01:31:06

is a school

01:31:09--> 01:31:11

he comes back, he can help our children

01:31:13--> 01:31:18

expect their wives to be Superwoman the teachers, the teachers,

01:31:20--> 01:31:27

all the they want to do everything, their job is to walk outside raise the cash money, and then

01:31:29--> 01:31:29

well that is

01:31:31--> 01:31:35

the ratio traditional marriages, maybe some other countries in this society

01:31:37--> 01:31:39

and therefore talk relationship but

01:31:41--> 01:31:42

they have to open a system

01:31:44--> 01:31:46

or ask a man to go and you know, have a job

01:31:51--> 01:31:54

are also asked to come to the opposite. You

01:31:55--> 01:31:56

know, I'm asked

01:31:58--> 01:32:00

to help out when you walk

01:32:02--> 01:32:05

away and you know, some of these things.

01:32:07--> 01:32:11

Work on the house is a very serious for both of you do your best to

01:32:17--> 01:32:19

manage is made in heaven.

01:32:24--> 01:32:28

The question is based on the idea of the soulmate.

01:32:29--> 01:32:40

soulmate. That's the theory of romance in America, in the West in general. And where is it coming from? And it's interesting, it's coming from the same Muslim scholar

01:32:42--> 01:32:43

and Millennium have gone

01:32:45--> 01:32:45

out of

01:32:49--> 01:32:59

history is that the Spirit they meet in the universe, and then they come back and when they leave here that you know,

01:33:01--> 01:33:02

based on this database

01:33:04--> 01:33:05

so now they don't have

01:33:09--> 01:33:11

everything written. But

01:33:15--> 01:33:23

however, you are an active participant in that community that you take, take this make decisions and take choices at making these things happen.

01:33:39--> 01:33:39

So

01:33:43--> 01:33:43

I'm going to show

01:33:51--> 01:33:52

you the way

01:34:06--> 01:34:14

how would you suggest a wife or husband then forecasts of something that she needs from him and the relationship

01:34:16--> 01:34:22

ladies to take the bed as the chance to communicate these things.

01:34:26--> 01:34:26

Unfold

01:34:29--> 01:34:35

and go to the web. So it's a nice beautiful moment right now the app is amazing together

01:34:41--> 01:34:43

with for the Wizard of Oz conversation

01:34:47--> 01:34:48

and they don't communicate very

01:34:49--> 01:34:51

well on the list of speakers

01:34:53--> 01:34:53

because

01:34:58--> 01:34:59

they get really upset

01:35:01--> 01:35:02

So how can you have

01:35:05--> 01:35:06

quality time

01:35:07--> 01:35:09

look for a family husband is

01:35:10--> 01:35:15

gonna relieve that stress by giving a face away.

01:35:17--> 01:35:17

So

01:35:19--> 01:35:26

he will appreciate that once it is released, that's the best time to talk when it comes to luxury, you know,

01:35:28--> 01:35:29

appreciate helping young

01:35:31--> 01:35:32

children, okay?

01:35:37--> 01:35:41

Look for the quality time, don't do the wrong time before the

01:35:46--> 01:35:47

program

01:35:52--> 01:35:57

is very important. Unfortunately, I haven't seen any code, you know, most

01:36:07--> 01:36:08

it's still there.

01:36:14--> 01:36:15

And

01:36:22--> 01:36:26

that's not sufficient, I also have 16 CDs already activated

01:36:34--> 01:36:38

is loving your spouse a lot means you are meant

01:36:39--> 01:36:40

to attach to this world.

01:36:45--> 01:36:50

That love becomes an obsession, that you stop doing your religious duties, because

01:36:54--> 01:36:55

what are the rights of

01:37:07--> 01:37:07

the one

01:37:09--> 01:37:10

everything

01:37:24--> 01:37:28

there is advice people against allegations against

01:37:36--> 01:37:37

responsibility,

01:37:38--> 01:37:39

responsibility

01:37:41--> 01:37:42

responsibility,

01:37:43--> 01:37:45

what is the relation

01:37:47--> 01:37:58

with the customer? What is known that culture as long as the compound should arrive? For example, is it the responsibility to cook in the house

01:38:01--> 01:38:01

and so on?

01:38:03--> 01:38:07

Is it the job to go and work or service a home and

01:38:08--> 01:38:16

bring the money all defined according to a similar process a lot of setup. But this is not measured

01:38:17--> 01:38:18

by customer.

01:38:32--> 01:38:35

The horses after having children

01:38:37--> 01:38:38

when funds are

01:38:40--> 01:38:43

the best of funding older

01:38:44--> 01:38:47

children. However, the man is the responsible

01:38:48--> 01:38:52

party that says you know staff and staff.

01:39:05--> 01:39:08

Chairs should spend as much as you can.

01:39:10--> 01:39:20

So there is no way you can state the fact that you're responsible. But again as much as you can, after all did your kids these are children

01:39:21--> 01:39:21

to grow

01:39:28--> 01:39:29

as much as possible.