Channel: Hussain Kamani
The Evils of The Tongue: Part 2
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hamdulillah Allahu Akbar Salaam an ally but
ascribing witness to oneself, Indeed Allah says united scribe goodness to yourself, he is more than one of the one who is God fearing. So in this particular part, because I do have to lie while discussing the diseases of the tongue. And he is pointing out eight major issues that people commonly face when dealing with the tongue eight common sins people commit with the tongue. One of the things he remembers the law he actually brings up here is self praise, that people get into praising themselves that oh, I have a good job, or I have a big house, or I have this and I have that I come from this family. I was a born Muslim. Or you know, I prayed 100 Salah I read so much
Quran, where people would they boast over themselves. Allah subhanho wa Taala says no Quran for that is a coup and for circum who are Allah movement, Taka, do not ascribe goodness to yourself, do not praise yourself because Allah subhanho wa Taala really knows what you are. You may be able to fool other people by talking about how long the 100 Salah is, but Allah subhana wa tada is the one who truly knows whether you're even focusing in your 200 solo or not. Allah you may be able to tell people to look how big my houses but Allah subhanho wa Taala knows whether the money used to build that house was halal or haram. So Allah subhanho wa Taala knows everything you can fool people, but
what's the point in lying to people at the cost of fooling yourself when Allah subhana wa tada knows you better than yourself. So always be truthful in the matter, and be aware of praising yourself. Now, when a person praises their own good.
You have to remember there are two categories of self praise, there is that part of self praise, which is disliked, which we call mother moon. And then there is that part of self praise, which is actually appreciated the shadow says it's a good thing, which is we call them do so self praising yourself or praising yourself and talking about your good in order to prove that you are greater than other people or to establish your pride or see that you're better than your friends. Obviously this is all wrong. But then there is an aspect of being happy over your deeds that is actually good in Islam. And that's where you're not actually getting the good to yourself. Rather you attribute in
the good to Allah subhana wa Tada. So for example, you're talking with your friends and you say 100 Allah, Allah has given me a big house. So you're not talking about the fact that you have a big house so you're better than them. You started off the sentence by saying 100 Allah, Allah gave me a big house. So you're being faithful to Allah subhana wa Tada. And this is something very important that if a person has wealth, they should think Allah subhanaw taala for it, if a person has the garment, they should think Allah subhanho wa Taala for it. That's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in one Hadith, he does Subnautica Hasina. Touka was a
woman, when your good deeds make you happy. And your bad deeds make you sad. That day you are a complete believer.
That day, you're a complete believer, when you realize that what you're doing is wrong. That drinking is wrong. Gambling is wrong. Interest is wrong. Lying is wrong, slandering is wrong. And every time you do one of these things that hurts you, or every time you do something good, it makes you happy. So for example, now when you give some thought you feel happy and humbled like if soccer or when you sat down and read a little Koran you feel you think to yourself, man, I hadn't touched the Quran in a week. I'm so happy today I turned the corner and I read it. Or when you pray to the counselor, you're happy over that tool so to be happy over your good deeds, and as a result to think
Allah subhana wa tada that it's something praiseworthy and good. What's wrong is to be happy over your good deeds and to praise over them, and ultimately, sense pride over yourselves and feel other people are lower than you. That's what's disliked. And that's what the majority is discussing here.
A siege was once as what is something true yet via? He answered, a person's praising himself? What is something true yet vile? True, meaning it's truthful, vile meaning but it's still poison for that person, sweet poison. What is true, but it's vile. So he said, a person praising himself because possibly what he did is true, but that praises vile for him. That's poison for him. That praise is going to make him feel like he's good. You know, in Islamic history, compliments weren't earned easily. You understand that? Today? Everyone is a shift. Everyone's a scholar. You give one good multiply and you become the next big grand shift. Everyone comes up to you says how are you doing
shift Mashallah shift this shift that shift one of the realities
This person has no knowledge of Islam at all. Maybe he has the ability to give a good lecture or two. These people have their place in Islam and they are very important. My dear young brothers that are sitting here are sisters who are involved in giving Dawa. If Allah subhana wa tada has given you the ability to be passionate in your speech, and you can convey a message with wisdom. And Merci, then that's a good thing. But never forget your own position. How much have you learned? How far do you know? If someone brings a question to you? That's beyond your expertise? Should you be answering it or not? This is a very important question. Because when people who are not worthy of answering
questions when I say worthy, I mean, they don't have the knowledge. When people who do not have knowledge, start answering questions, you can just imagine what kind of disaster that's going to create in the community. So first of all, when someone praises you, in Islamic history, we always realize they didn't praise people that easily if someone was called, you know, Email mohabbatein. That title actually meant something. And that title if Mama Mama mohabbatein, for the greatest time was reserved for who
remember how to ollie, they knew that if you said Mr. Manohar detail who you're referring to, it was Mr. Mohammad. Ali. If you refer to [???]hole Islam, the scholars knew that you were referring to Allah. Tamia Rahmatullah Holly, because not every person was called [???]hole Islam on the street, you guys understand what I'm saying? titles weren't distributed like this. In today's world, what's happened is that people does distribute titles, and they pass them out, pass them out. And they just accumulate these titles I saw on fire the other day, and one mustard on the rack, and I picked it up. And the title of the program was this man, the title of the shift was this large. There was I
was trying to figure out who's speaking and he had so many titles there, it took me like, almost 30 seconds to actually find the actual shifts name somewhere in there and have the shifts name. Otherwise, I had this title and that title, and this title and that title, this title and that title. So be aware of people praising you, and then ultimately, be aware of you end up praising yourself. Because the people are praising you. One day, you might be fooled to believe what they're saying is true about you. I'm about to decode your loved one. When he would hear someone praising him, he would start crying. And then he would make it Allahumma to ask you the Navy mokulua, Philly
mariemont Oh, Allah. Don't hold me accountable for what they're saying about me. I didn't see it. They're saying it Don't hold me accountable. And forgive me for what they don't know about me. Because the reality is, I'm not worthy of the praise and who's saying this.
I will work with us to deal with your loved one, you know, and then who was definitely worthy of praise. So we should be careful of people praising us. It shouldn't. It shouldn't make you feel happy when someone praises us try to cut that conversation off. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to rob for him at the hint, if someone comes to you and is excessively praising you, what should you do? Pick up soil and toss it on his face. Don't literally do that. But that's what the Hadid is saying. It's not something good till that person, close your mouth. Please don't say the stones talk because you're destroying me. And you're also destroying yourself because of your
exaggeration. So this is what he was saying here that one of the wise man once said, someone asked him what is true, but vile, he said a person praising himself because it may be true, but spiritually, it's going to end up destroying you. Yes. But no 39 knows that a person mentioned his goodness in two ways. One light, the other not that this lightweight is for him to mention his goodness out of pride, to show himself to be hired and distinguished over others. And for similar purposes. The lightweight he's the one in which there is a religious benefit, as when this person is commanding good or forbidding evil, advising or counseling, teaching or nurturing someone. So when
you're advising or counseling when you're teaching, when you're teaching someone when you're advising when you're counseling someone, you will need to establish your credit, your credibility. So I will need to say at times, you know, Alhamdulillah, I have spent 15 years for example, studying marriages and divorce, for example, okay, so you're not praising yourself, you're just stating the facts of the person listening to you will pay attention to what you're saying. Or someone may say that I am a 15 year experienced plumber, he's not boasting over the fact that he's a plumber. He's just telling the guy that if you want someone for the job, I have the experience. So he's stating
the facts so that the reality comes across to that person, that way they can benefit from your property. So if you tell someone 100 law I have memorized the Quran, the reason why you're telling them that is because so that if they make a correction now you're going to accept that correction, because you know, this person is an expert in in the recitation of
the lightwaves likewise, teaching or nurturing someone imparting to him proper manners, exhorting, reminding reconciling to people or defending himself against evil or things of this sort, that is in obtaining employment, such that he is obliged to mention his virtues for the intention of helping people accept and rely on what he has to say. For instance, for a scholar to say, these points I'm imparting to you you will not find you will not find with anyone else, so hold on to them and value them or similar statements.
So if a scholar says, When I'm about what I'm about to tell you right now, you won't find it in any other book. Now, someone may say that guy just posted right now he's trying to act like he has knowledge that no one else in the face of this earth has. But the reason why the chef is saying this is because as a matter of fact, if you try to search for this point in other books, you won't find it. So save yourself to time write down what I'm about to say right now and memorize it properly. So that way that will save you. So sometimes as a scholar, or as a teacher, or someone of authority, you have to state the fact that I have this experience, these are my credit, these are my credits
right here, this is what I have here. So now benefit from it.
Were getting accustomed to doing this, know also that it decreases the esteem and be aware of always praising yourself, some people, they just can't stop praising themselves, they keep talking about themselves keep talking about themselves. You know, I've met people in you know, Mashallah, who are sincere people doing such good work, but every time you meet them, they're just praising their Institute, praising their Institute, praising their Institute, praising their Institute, our institute, this, our entities that, and this institute of ours, it's special, because it's unique in this way. And they just keep talking about what they've done. They keep talking about their
accomplishments, oh, I do this, I do that. Remember one thing. If you are the listener, and someone keeps praising themselves, or praising their family or praising their car or praising their house or praising their Institute, as a listener, what happens?
You get tired, exactly, you get tired and you say, Please, brother, let's talk about how to make popcorn. That'll be more entertaining than hearing your story. Again, I've heard of this 10 times already. Let's talk about something more entertaining. Let's change the discussion. But then that person wants to come back to it again. And again. Because it says, if you get bored of hearing His praise of himself, imagine how he gets bored when he hears you praising yourself. So be aware of praising yourself. Don't talk about how big you are, and how smart you are and how intellectual you are. Because every time you keep praising yourself, you're annoying someone, just as they're
annoying you. That's what the Bible says. It says, you know, also that it decreases the esteem in which people hold you and causes you to be now you think by praising yourself again and again, people are going to respect you. Are they going to respect you if you keep praising yourself? No, they're going to look down upon you because they're gonna think you're just full of yourself, and you're a diluted fool. You don't realize how your weaknesses are and you're just focusing on your praise. So remember, as it says, By overpraising yourself, you're actually missing the point, you are lowering yourself, don't praise yourself, gee, it causes you to be tested by Allah. Magnificent
images. You know, there were scholars of the past Subhanallah, who are so great, and no one even knew about them. You know, there is one, there's one book, they teach in the Shafi school of thought if you're a chef, there is a book they teach. That's a it's like one of the most important books that teach in the cafe. Everyone knows it. This particular scholar who wrote the books who had Allah, you know, when they came to find out of this book, the book that he wrote that today is taught in all mothers in all schools that you know, a principal book in the shop that they came to know of this book after he died.
He was a carton of the mercies of the progress that allamani was sent him a no name. One of the guys that used to clean the mosque of the Prophet his entire life, no one knew he was a grand scholar. He spent his entire life cleaning. Then one day when he died, when they went through his works when they went to his house to clean up everything. They found a book there, and when they picked it up, they were amazed because they had never seen such a book like this ever written. And that book now is a principle book. They teach at all the shops at a school of thought. I mean, while he was alive, did you ever get a pat on his back? No one even knew he was a scholar, as far as they were
concerned. He was just one of those guys walking around in a bin Laden, you know, uniform in a cleaning windows or passing out water cups. He lived way past that, obviously, he lived a long time ago. But you know, when he was alive, no one knew about him. But after he died, you know, Allah subhanho wa Taala accepted him to such a degree. There were scholars like this who came before who did so much good but people did not even know this about them, that they did such great good. You know, there was a
there's a great scholar by the name of Allah motorogi Nani Rahmatullah Holly, who was a, who was the author of the hedaya. The hidayah is the primary textbook they teach and hunted. And instead of regarding him for 40 years of his life, He fasted and his wife and kids didn't even know
he would take food, his wife would pack them food, he will take it to school, to where he would teach on the way there he would distribute the food to the poor people, clean the tub, bring it back home and give it to his wife, as if he ate the food. for 40 years, the man fasted even his wife didn't know that he was fasting. And here we are, you know, just a little something and what to tell everyone. You know, guys, guess what? I just give Jim a football in downtown Chicago. You know, and then you know, everyone's posting that and they're just everyone's we're just really quick on exposing our good when in reality, there were people who came before who did so much good that
people didn't even know about. So create
humbleness inside you, Allah subhana wa tada will elevate you. If you wish to understand how praising yourself does not increase you in esteem with others. Consider how you feel when your contemporaries praise themselves for their marriage, ranking wealth, how your heart disapproves of it, how your nature finds it unbearable, and how once you are away from them, you criticize them for it, you should realize that when you praise yourself, they need to revile you in their heart while they are with you. And then when they depart from you give voice to their feelings. When you keep praising yourself, while you're praising yourself, they don't like listening to it. And as soon as
they leave you, they actually go and tell people as well, that that guy is such a fool. He keeps praising himself. So while they're there, they may not voice it. But as soon as they leave you behind your back, they're telling everyone how bad of a person you are, because you can't stop praising yourself. So praising yourself just to summarize this chapter. It's tricky. Because sometimes praising yourself is light. And majority of the times it's disliked. It's only like praising yourself as only like, or promoting yourself as only like, if you are ultimately praising Allah subhanho wa Taala. Or if you're doing it for as a matter of fact situation, or if you're doing
it to help people learn. So for example, if someone writes a book, now, when they publish that book, they're not praising themselves. The reason why they're publishing that book and asking people to buy the book is because they feel people can benefit. There may be a scholar, who you see who may tell you after some lecture, that you know, if you come to him after the lecture, that chef may tell you, I gave a lecture on so and so topic, I want you to go listen to it. He's not promoting himself. He's not marketing himself, what he's doing is that he feels that there is something that he put together. And as a matter of fact, you can benefit from it. So go and listen to it. So it all comes
down to the intention behind the words, the words could be exactly the same. But you have to ask yourself what your intentions are. And because it's such a fine line, the scholars actually say that it's better to stay away from it altogether. Better to stay away from it all together. Number six,
secure never to curse anything. Now when we talk about cursing here, we're not talking about vulgar speech or profanity. hear the word used in Arabic is Latin and Latin means to desire for someone to be deprived of the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala to say you know in order to we sit it's very common, don't pollen at all that may curse be upon you. What you're actually saying is that may Allah Baraka never come to you and may you never be a recipient of the mercy of Allah. Okay? The problem is that a lot he was sort of nervous and let's see where the words are from the puppet said a lot of them but the first person speech is from Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, He da da de
to Barak to LA Sally Baraka, teeny hyah. When I become happy with someone, I bless them,
and there are no ends are no limits to my happiness. When I bless someone's life, everything will become beautiful about them. $1 will be like a million dollars to them, there'll be no end to my buck. There is no end to it. There was a hobby of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sitting with some companions. And this particular Sahabi the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, Go and bring that bag of dates and distribute the dates to everyone. He said, Our messenger of Allah, they are not enough dates in there to give to every person. The Prophet said, Don't open the bag. Just keep taking out of there and giving. Don't
open the bag though. So that's a hobby, he picked up the bag. He started distributing. And miraculously everyone in that room got a date. He never opened the bag because a Prophet told him not to. throughout his entire life, he kept eating from there. He just kept pulling it out, kept he kept pulling it out, kept running throughout the profits. After the Prophet passed away. He's still pulled out he had like a stash always ready. You know, some people have a stash, you know, snack stash. This was a snack stash, if you ever needed to just put it out inside, take it out, give it give it he kept giving his entire life. Then one day he thought to himself, I wonder how much is
left inside. So he opened the bag and he only found one day left in there. And he says after that day, there never had it came out of that bag. And that was the end of it. Right? So the thing they mentioned the scholars they mentioned is that, you know, never question the mercy of Allah subhana wa tada never doubt the mercy of Allah, don't guard don't go and try to search for illogical reasoning to the mercy of Allah. Because when you come to Allah with that disrespect, then the mercy of Allah leaves, it's a matter of trusting, you know, there were scholars who I know have in the past, I don't know what when they would get their earnings. They wouldn't put them like me, some of
you guys may think that this was shady because they're trying to avoid taxes, but they wouldn't put it into a bank account. They would have a box, they would put their money inside there. They would put their money inside they put their money inside there and they would never count. But yeah, whenever they would take money out of there, there would always be bottom line there. You know, somehow or the other somehow or the other. Allah subhana wa tada would give them more and more and more. So and the second part of that had to the first part of the Hadith was that Allah says that when I become happy with someone, I bless them, and there are no ends to my blessing. And the second
part of that Hadith is what are the two lines
When I become angry with someone, I curse them Lana, the word curse and my curse can last in a person for up to seven generations.
For seven generations the effect of that curse can remain within a person. So we ask Allah subhana wa tada to save us all from his Lana. Anything the Hadith mentioned that is a source of Allah's curse. Never do that. There are very few things by the way, if you search the full Quran and Hadith, a lot of curse only comes on certain things. And the things a lot of curses mentioned, never do those things. For example, can anyone tell me an example of something in which Allah invokes his curse?
ship for example. Okay, what else is there?
Drinking alcohol? Okay.
You guys are saying stuff. I'm not sure if the curses are invoked on these things. I'm just going to take your word for them. Okay. I'll tell you what I know where Allah subhanaw taala as curse has been invoked on people, cross gender dressing.
You know, people dressed from the cross, opposite genders, you know, men dressed like women, women dressed like men. Allah subhanho wa Taala as curse is upon such people. Allah subhanho wa Taala his curse is upon Allah subhanaw taala curses upon the men, the women who shave their eyebrows, people who get tattoos done, right? People who have hair extensions put on these things, you know, they're all cosmetic related. But Allah subhanho wa Taala has direct curses upon these people. So and there's a list of things like this, okay, last one that says the Quran, Allah, Allah, Allahu Allah, aka the bean, that are curses upon those who excessively lie. So anything, any Hadith that mentions
Allah curse, you step away from that right away, okay? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Allah curses upon men who imitate women, even in speech, even in action. That's what the scholar said, even in here, a man should not have the hair of a lady and a lady should not have the hair of any man. And the scholars just say what's the differentiating point? They said the prophets hair and everyone beyond his shoulders. So a lady's hair should never be above her shoulders, and the man's hair should never be lower than the shoulders. Okay? Again, the prophet is teaching us how to make a segregation between the genders even if it's from far away, but looking at a person's hair. So
anyway, we mentioned last curse, you know, be aware of that. Now here the hearing man because it is telling us never invoke a loss curse upon an animal upon any food, or even upon a particular human being, whether he's Muslim or not, you cannot say Allah crispy upon you. Even if it's an animal, you know, there's some animal maybe there's a raccoon stuck in your in your ceiling. Don't go and say a loss curse upon you. Never, you've never seen the curse upon anyone, right? Gee, why he'll discuss it up ahead. Take care never to curse anything that alomost is created, whether an animal or a type of food or a particular person. Nobody said person here, he didn't say Muslim. So that means Muslim
or non Muslim. You're not supposed to curse anyone. Notice where they're one of the people on the table is guilty of associating partners with a law or have this belief or policy. So a man was only the second thing he's saying, Here's don't call any person who prays towards the Qibla, who prays a lot, same direction you pray. Don't ever call him coffee machines.
Don't use these words, because you might throw the word, but you don't realize the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when someone calls a person, a coffin, a disbeliever. That word, it hangs in the air. If that person is a coffin, it falls on him. But if he isn't a kafir, that word comes back onto you.
You guys understand that? So never call someone a coffee machine agnostic. Because, first of all, it's not your duty to do that. Right? And because it says You don't even know what's inside that person's heart. Maybe he is saying this. Or maybe he's acting like this. Maybe he's doing this particular action because of pressure. You know, maybe half of his family is non Muslim. There could be 100 scenarios out there. Okay. So rather than judging that person for being a bad person, vote on their behalf and say, no, this person is good. He has some excuse. So I'm going to give him some leeway. If there is a need to give a verdict. Leave that for the scholars. Don't become scholars. If
that's not your position. Don't go there. Because that will harm you. Gee, indeed, the only one who sees the secrets of the hearts is alomost time. So do not come between alomost high and because forget, I mean, let aside this whole idea of calling someone a coffee machine, he shouldn't even call someone a sinner. You shouldn't even look down upon someone because you may not know that person apparently may look like a bad person, but inside their heart, what kind of gems they hold on to Allah subhanho wa Taala knows, you know, some of the greatest men in Islamic history came from rough backgrounds, some of the greatest men in Islamic history. You know, they were robbers at times
for a living. He was known for being a highway. Robert, can you imagine that? I mean, the guy was a high robber. He was a thug on the street. Anyone that came his way he would take you know, take
Stop, send them on the road alone. Highway robbers are kinda like the worst categories of criminals because they attack innocent people who are traveling and feel they've been if then turns into the person who history will always know. And as Avi that haramain his title was before he died What?
Avi that Harmon you know what that means? The worshipper of the two holy cities, that no one worshipped in the two holy cities the way that men did. And what was the first half of his life?
He was a robber. He was a thug, right? And here his life changes of the loving Monica ladc regarding him how his life change molecule in the naramata la era how his life change, or Marvin hottub wanted to kill the Prophet. Yes or no. But how was he passing away, was passing away before he dies. He says, today, no one stands between me and Allah. No one stands out to me and Allah today. That's the rank a lot less than one. Okay, so never judge a person. This is what he mumbles it is saying here, he's talking about the idea of gophers [???]can default, but I bring it on even lower, even lower than that, you know, never judge a person by what you see. Because Allah knows what's in the hearts.
Know that on the Day of Judgment, you will not be asked why did you?
Vote so and so? I wasn't gonna ask you, why didn't you make a judgement about that guy? Why didn't you curse that guy? I wasn't gonna ask you that. However, if you do curse, then Allah will ask you. And if you do say something about someone, then Allah will ask you, a man because it is saying here, you will never be questioned about a law regarding your silence in the world. However, you will be questioned for your speech. So what makes what is better silence or speech,
especially when it's related to other people's silence? Because you're not only violating the right of a law, you're also violating the right of that person and allow will not forgive you until that person forgives you first. Yes, you will not be asked why were you silent regarding so and so? Moreover, if you never once in your lifetime, Kersey believes or even make mention of him, you will not be questioned about it. It's your entire life hypothetical you did not send curse upon shape on even once. Well, I'll ask you why you didn't do that.
I'm sure there are people sitting in this gathering who are 4050 years old who have never said a lock curse JSON. There must be people like that on this gathering. Do you think I was gonna ask you why you didn't do that? He's not gonna ask you. Okay. That's what he was saying. But if you curse someone, you will be held responsible for it and be questioned about it. Be careful of letting your tongue be loose with cursing people, especially culturally. I've noticed with the older language we use the word Lana a lot. Don't be Lana toto Bella Anatole Lundy had to write and they say with such passion that it just really makes you feel like wow, this guy really hates you at this moment right
now. You guys need to go get away from each other. You know, this whole idea of just being loose with your tongue and sending a lot of loss, curse loss curse a lot curse upon people. It's not a good thing. I've even noticed with some IRA brothers, right? They said lamarca la la la la la la la, you know, they'll make curse again and again and again. And the sad thing is, I've actually seen parents say this to their kids. Have you guys seen that before? Parents are saying to their kids tomahto Cynthia nossal there's invoking on their child Mary your future be destroyed.
And that's the parent who the Prophet says regarding that there is no veil between your the law and Allah subhanho wa Tada. So as parents as well be very careful of what you say because what if that the lie is accepted, and that curse actually hits your child? There's no one that's going to cry more than you then.
Do not find fault with anything you know, loss creation, or the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never once criticized, that was not good. Rather, you'd be like the food you will eat it and if not, you will leave it number seven supplication against creation. So the first one was Lana, which means to say that Allah deprive you of His mercy. The second one here is praying against someone which saint which means saying, you know, may you be destroyed. May your wife die, may your kids roast in a fire. May this happened to you may your house collapse while you and your children are inside it, you know curses like this. This is what he's talking about. Now. Yes. restrain your
tongue from supplicating against any of the creatures of a long time even if he has wronged you. Even if he has wronged you try to hold back. Sometimes they're wrong and you will hurt you so much that you might just say it. But if you do say Say something if you do say something against someone who's wronged you, make sure you don't outdo him and his wrong so that Allah will hold you accountable because You've outdone him so for example, if he's oppressed you this much right a centimeters if there was a way to measure wrong right let's say for example, he did you wrong equivalent to one centimeter Don't curse or make the law against him equivalent to two centimeters.
You guys understand that? If it was quantifiable that's that's the example he's given here. Yes.
It is permissible to pray against. It is permissible to pray against someone who wronged you or wrong someone else. And as a mom number we had said against one who violates our rule of the Sharia. It is however better to leave praying again.
One who wrongs you, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said, One who prays against the person who wronged him has been avenged. Examples of cursing and praying against someone are phrases like, may Allah fight with him and May Allah take vengeance against him.
consigned the manner to Allah Most High, as he says, verily the oppressed one prays against his oppressor until he takes his right then continues to the point where the oppressor has a claim over him, which he will demand on the Day of Judgment. So you pray against the one who's oppressed you, you're praying against them, praying against them, until you match them. And then if you keep praying against them, now you've surpassed them, and they will come back against you on the Day of Judgment. So even when you're making the law against someone, first of all, try not to do it. But we have to be real, as human beings. Sometimes it may just come out, you know, how can I expect the
Muslims in Syria not to curse the oppressor? I can talk about it all day, I can say don't do it don't. But if that oppressor killed your father, if that oppressor killed your mother, if that oppressor took your house away, took your life away, disease, your progeny, maybe until the day of judgment with some kind of, you know, some nuclear, chemical, right, some toxic chemical, then how can I tell that person don't make a curse? I'm not being reasonable. But however, what I will say is be careful of how much you curse because you don't want to surpass that person, that Allah subhana wa tada will hold you accountable on the Day of Judgment. Yes. A person once spoke out and liens
against her judge, a person once spoke out against her judge. Now Hi, Jasmine Yusuf was a mass murder. He had killed over 100,000 people, how many people Now bear in mind he didn't have a bomb, neither did they have a machine gun. Those things didn't exist, then. There was no method of mass murder. And yet this man, he somehow figured out a way to kill 100,000 people that's like, you know, in the science of murdering he's probably like the Guru is like probably the genius, right? He killed 100,000 people. And he had murdered so many people. Someone was speaking against him. And not only did he murdered anyone, he murdered scholars, some some of the greatest scholars in Islamic
history. He killed him. There was a great professor by the name of SETI had been in Japan. He was a great morphus that anyone that studied any of the seed will have heard of his name, say them in Jubail was a great scholar. One day someone came and asked him what are your opinions regarding Hodgman Yusuf? So he said, Well, ah he who a volume I swear by Allah, He is an oppressor. So a snitch went and told her Jasmine Yusuf, that, you know, saving debate, he said that you're an oppressor. So hydrogen we need to send soldiers to arrest him. The soldiers came to save engineers house, they knocked on his door. When he opened the door. The soldiers said to him, we're here to
arrest you, because we've received news that you speak bad against our ruler. So say he said, Look, I stand by my words. He isn't a presser. So when the students were tying his hand when the soldiers were tightening his hands, those soldiers actually happened to be said he had been Jabez students as well. They said shift. We can't take you there. Because we know that if he if you walk inside his court, he's going to behead you and we'd rather die in your place, you run off. So he said, I'm not a coward. I'm going to face him. So they arrested him and they took him to the court of law judge Minnesota, when he stood in front of a judge Minnesota judge Minnesota sitting on his throne. All
these his, his goons were sitting around him. And in order to make fun of Satan when God said to him, what's your name? Everybody knew his name, but he was mocking him. You know, like, you know, what's your name chump. So save ninja bear said an aside. I am the son of debate. And debate was a companion to the purpose of the law. It was some debate have been multimedia. lawan he was a son of a competitive officer sort of By the way, so Hijaz minis have begun to mock him. He said, The opposite of save, save means to be happy. The opposite of sorry, this shocking someone who's wretched. So he said, La Bella, and Tasha Fabian crusade. He put his name over making a mock out of
him. And everyone's sort of laughing at sight. Save in Japan, he stood there firm, and he said, Well, under commerce some money on me. My name is the name my mother gave me the day I was born, not what you said right now. So once her judgment is have heard this, he got very angry and everyone knew this was not going to end well. So hi, Jasmine. So he
asked him a question. He said, What's your opinion regarding the Amiga the halifa he said he is an oppressor.
Sahaja was getting angry. He then said to him, okay, what's your opinion regarding me? He said you're worse than him.
So by saying that, he signed his his death he signed his death he was gone. So how jazz music got so mad that he ordered the executed to chop his head off when the man was coming to take his head off, save in debate face that he was a Mufasa By the way, he had attacked me with the Quran. And you know, when you have an attachment of the Quran, how do you retaliate to the toughest moments in your life
through the Quran, when the man was coming towards them with a sword saving debate Facebook Live line here at the eye of the Quran, in the way to which he had led photos of the hanifa llama and a mural machine. I turned my face
To the one who created the skies on the earth, and I was not a polytheist or law, I was pure. When Hijaz minister saw this, he felt like saving Jubail had one up on him. So he told his soldiers before you kill him turn his face away from the Qibla. So they took him and they push the space away from the Qibla. he recited the verse of the Quran for a number two well Lou for thermowood Hola. Wherever you turn my face, Allah is there you can't take a lot away from me. You can take me away from a lot. He got so mad that he told us men throw him on the ground. So these big bodybuilders they picked him up and they slammed them on the ground. He was a weak scholar. He put them on the
ground. When he was on the face down on the ground. He was side of the verse of the Quran. Minh ha ha kanakam a freehand or Ito come woman ha No. Tara Tanaka. That from this earth recreated you to this earth everyone's going to return even you and then from this earth allow resurrect this again then we're going to be held accountable. And then when a judge heard this, he got so angry. He said take his hat off. And the gelato he took the sword and he took off the head of Seidman Jubail, and Rahim Allah tala. This is how he passed away at the sword of Hajaj vinyasa. And, you know, it was such a dramatic moment in Islamic history that not only did he kill people, he killed scholars, not
only scholars, he killed some of the greatest Sahaba I'm just trying to draw the picture here. So we understand when we're talking about this, it's real Okay, this this this advice, because it is giving us very real high judgment. So he laid siege against mcomber karma against where
the ruler of the time his name was of the loved ones of aid. of the loved ones obeyed was the grandson of Abu Bakar Casa de salud de la one. He was a first child to be born in Madina munawwara the day he was born. abubaker was carrying up the Levin's debate on his shoulders running around and everyone was saying Allahu Akbar, because the people in the mannequin said that since the Muslims have left Mecca, you are cursed and you're never gonna have any children. And the day he was born, and he lived, it was like a big sign that your wrongs everyone was shouting, Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar. And the Prophet became so happy that the Prophet ticket date, he moisten the date with his
saliva and put it inside his mouth. I mean, imagine that, you know, the whole idea of tonic it's established from that sort of the loving spirit of the law one what happened after he was born. So he just laid siege outside Makkah, and said of the loved ones Aveda was inside around the Kaaba, and they were firing cannons at of the Levin's bears army. And I'm loving this debate and his men were standing at the Kaaba literally. And Hijaz. minisub made an announcement that whoever stands by his side tomorrow, we won't launch these cannons anymore. We're going to come inside and we're going to take you out one by one. His cannons actually damaged a part of the Kaaba. Can you believe that? One
of his cannons, what did they do?
It took off a part of the Kaaba went out because he fired a cannon. Right now the next morning of the Levin's obeyed, was waiting for his army to stand up and fight against hijab. misophonia woke up in the morning, he saw his entire army left him and they went on a journey suicide
because they all feared death. And he was alone with two or three people only. So he realized that death was definite. So he went to his mother for one last meet her name was a smarter the last one anyone remember her? She was the one that served the Prophet food during migration. Right. And she was the sister of eyeshadow, the Alona by now she was over 90 years old, some scholar she she was 100. He went to visit his mother one last time. And when he entered into the room, he said to a Santa Monica. His mother said,
I never heard your voice, your father's voice shake. Why is your voice shaking? I hear fear. Your father wasn't a fearful man. He was a strong man. His father, the prophet said regarding his father, as available are one that he is equivalent to 1000 soldiers. The Prophet said that about him.
So he said to his mother, Mom, everyone has abandoned me. I'm the last one left. And as soon as I go out of here, they're gonna take me out. His mother said, well, you were the son of a honorable man, you were the son of a courageous man, and go and live the legacy of your father. So he said, Mom, I'm not afraid of them killing me. I'm afraid what they're going to do to my body after I die. So his mother said, the sheep doesn't feel the pain of being skinned once it's gone. You know, leave that what happens afterwards, forget that. And he went to give his mother one last hug. And when he hugged her, she said, My dear son, I can't she was blind. She couldn't see she said, I can't see
you. But I can feel that you're wearing armor. And true soldiers. Don't wear this take this off. His mother made him take the armor off. He left the armor by his mother's feed. He gave his farewell and he went out and had George benissa he killed up to Levin's ability alone. And he hung his body outside Mocambo carnamah saying anyone that Derek tries to fight against me. This is what I'm going to do to this person. I mean, why am I sharing these stories?
You with all those details because it shows the man's aggression. Because in our world today we also have people who have shown equivalent aggression, if not more, you know, people being killed, but how do we retaliate to it? Ideally we should try to control ourselves. But if we do decide to curse them, be aware not to transgress your limits and not human was Ollie. Now the simple statement will make a lot more sense to you Yes, or someone spoke out against a judge. One of the pious predecessors said one of the pious predecessors, this is commonly attributed to Mohammed evident city, Mohammed even ceilometer la Jani G. He said to him, Allah will take vengeance for her Josh
against those who attacked him verbally, just as he will take vengeance against her jobs for those whom he had oppressed. So whoever Hijazi oppressed, a lot is going to punish hijab for that. But whoever verbally abused her judge, Allah is going to punish those who verbally abused him as well. So be careful of what you say, and how much you pray against a person G. Number eight, Justine reviewing and making fun of people. This is a common thing in our community. Unfortunately, you know, everyone acts like bullies, only exists in high school and middle school. But the reality is that bullies are everywhere. Even in adults, we have bullies as well. Amongst sisters, we have
bullies amongst brothers, we have bullies, people who just can't stop making fun of other people who can't stop, can't stop belittling other people. So be aware of this. And what happens with a lot of these people. If you tell them brother stop this, what do they say? It's only a joke. That's how bullies cover themselves. What do they say? I was only messing around. It was only a joke. Well, you're picking on that person, You're mocking and ridiculing that person. Because you know, that person can't defend themselves. Why don't you go to someone three times that guy's size and make fun of him. You know, he's not gonna smile back at you. He's gonna break your teeth and make sure you
never smile again. But these people, these predators, they actually pick on people who can't defend themselves. And maybe it's the fact that these people are so soft and humble that Allah loves them. What if you're making fun of a friend of Allah subhanho wa Taala because of his softness, so never make a habit of always mocking and joking and laughing at people. Some people don't know where the limit is. And they keep going and keep going. They make a joke out of everything. They'll make jokes out of religion, they'll make jokes out of, you know, modesty, they'll make jokes out of their spouse and women and racist jokes and this joke, and they don't know where the limit is, when
there's a limit. You know, if you see someone who was afflicted with a difficulty, someone who doesn't have an arm, or someone maybe who has a cut on their neck, or maybe someone who's gone to prison, maybe someone who lives you know, a lives a tough life on the street. Are you supposed to laugh at them and make fun of them? Yes or no.
But in society, if you go online and look at jokes, who are the jokes always against?
The very same people, the people in society, who aren't as privileged, maybe as we are today, the whole world is just making fun of them, making fun of them making fun of them. I want to share with you one Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Never show happiness at the loss of someone. Because it's possible Allah may relieve him and put you in his place.
You guys understand that?
Never show happiness at the loss of someone. Because if you do that it's possible Allah may relieve him and put you in this place. So be very careful never to laugh, joke ridiculous and put down someone you know jokes that are truthful, that are light hearted. There's nothing wrong with that. We're not saying don't laugh amongst inner gatherings, but know your limits of what's allowed and what isn't allowed.
guarded. From these vices or the meat you lose face, diminish people's respect for you cause people to have an aversion from you and damage hearts. You are a source of absolute disputation and falling out with one another. If you joke a lot, you can control your tongue, you're going to have fallouts with your family and friends. Is that right or wrong? Right? And you're going to have disputes, someone's going to raise their voice and say, Stop it. And then you're going to sound like a fool because you won't know how to intellectually defend yourself, you're going to go back to your lame jokes again, okay? Like I said earlier than someone's going to lay one on you, you're not gonna have
teeth left anymore. Okay? So that's what he's saying here. Don't think I'm being aggressive mumbles out his aggression, okay, I'm just translating his aggression into real words. He's saying that if you keep cracking jokes, someone's gonna come in late on you, first of all, or the second thing is you're gonna have fall offs with everyone and you're going to realize alone, you're going to realize very soon that you're alone, because everyone has left you because you couldn't control your tongue.
The hatred in the heart so do not make fun of anyone. If someone else makes fun of you do not respond and turn away from them until they talk about something else. Via those who when they pass by, I don't talk hands by ridiculous. So if someone makes fun of you, your your, your initial response should be just remain silent. Don't give them much attention, forget about it. But like I said earlier, if there's a bully who keeps talking about you keeps it keeps going. Then you should stand up and face that person. You know, you don't have to start off with the punch. You can start off by saying Brother, please don't do this. It's not good for you. It's not
For me, it's not good for your email. And then if there's a need to explain with more seriousness, I'll let you guys figure it out what's the most appropriate way. And what's the most wisdom that you can use to explain to that person that that's not a good thing. These aids then comprise a culture that is closing off this discussion because he walked us through the eight diseases of the tongue, and he's gonna close off with this paragraph decompressive calamities of the tongue, nothing will help you against them except solitude or forcing yourself to be silent. Only speaking when a man was it says there are three things that you can do to save yourself from these diseases of the tongue.
The first thing solitude. Second thing, silence. The third thing only speak when necessary. Yes, I will walk us through the gurgler who used to put a stone in his mouth, which would prevent him from speaking except when necessary, he would put a stone in his mouth why, so that he would only move the stone when there was a need to speak to it. But if you don't have any control, then what's going to happen? You're just gonna keep speaking, keep speaking. He will point to a song and say, This is what has brought troubles upon me, he would point to his tongue and say, you've caused me so much trouble you've caused I could have lived such a good life had it not been for you, I could have gone
the agenda had not been because of you, who would point to his tongue and get angry at it. So be on guard against your tongue to your ability for it is the greatest means of your destruction in this world and the next Okay, so we'll stop here because it's very mumbles Ali ends the discussion on the part two of diseases of the tongue, and from here next week, inshallah we'll continue on very well, because it talks about the stomach and then he talks about the private area, he talks about the hands, and then he talks about the feet. So we'll talk we'll continue on to the next we can show you behind the use of Chanukah, lahoma and shadow ally Laila and Mr. Bullock after the