Friday Khutba 2011 12 23

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AI: Summary © The speakers in this segment discuss the importance of rewarding children for their time and preserving their values. They emphasize the need to teach children to use their time wisely and avoid negative consequences. The speakers also emphasize the importance of learning and sharing experiences to improve behavior and create a positive person. The importance of diversifying opportunities for children is also emphasized, and parents should give children guidance on how to manage their loss. The speakers stress the need to practice good habits and avoid burning one's clothes and face.
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in motiva

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yo yo,

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what's happening?

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Massey brothers or sisters, if you look around,

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you'll find a difference. The demographic today is a little bit different. This increase in number of young

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brothers and sisters, the youth and the kids in the nursery for the Assad regime. Ah, these are my children, your children, the kids in the children's community. You know why?

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Because there are no schools with it for them. There are still supposed to have going on. But many kids are off school right now. And that's why

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they're here for Santa Juma. But how many other kids I know and you know, they're not here for Salatu. Juma?

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Al Hamdulillah. given the chance to bring your youth, your children to come and attend Sahaja. Juma? How often do they get this privilege to come and join the Muslim community to come in a gallery like this on weekly basis, which is the most important gathering?

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On weekly basis? How often do they get to do that? For many, because of school regulations, not very often, few times during the year, and what goes on.

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They want to have that privilege to come to attend the Juma. This will happen a week before school even starts. What have you planned? As a parent? What have you done as a community member to make sure these youth and these children use this time wisely?

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What have you done to them independently for children

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or their own program on a schedule for this week to achieve something useful for them? Have you learned anything besides them just you know, the recreation stuff? Have you done anything useful, which they can learn before they go back again to school, at least something that was revived the demand their spirit, and their Muslim identity? What have we done for our children. Therefore when it comes to the time, the subject of time, it's very, very crucial. Allah subhanho wa Taala, very clear in the Quran, medically Ayah

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have a lot of data when asked

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in seminar because a lot of words by the time, particularly the most neglected hour of the day, and most people are too busy to do anything coming back for more than two hours before the end of the day. That's why not so many people will be worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala during this time, and that's why it's a one off, I swear by that particular time of the day in the person that indeed mankind every single incident is a great loss.

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Every single exam is a great course, on judgment day, you should know that that's the day

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that the day

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is deceased when you realize how much you will receive in this world how much time you had when you could have used wisely differently.

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So then it was kind of one in seven

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except for those who believe in a lot of it.

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And in the purchase these What

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are those of the healthy what are some of the sudden and they enjoy one another to go and promote health and the truth and has to be steadfast on this fat loss panel. We're gonna let the loss of the Southern and they also they help one another to be patient on this long path.

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buttons are used in the back, when you resize the Joomla should not be talking.

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You lose your reward for this sort of thing.

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So lots of how What does warning us that this is now another special moment, another special hour you can imagine?

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How often do you do

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the work that should get on this, just have fun on

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the Juma and join us a lot as well. A lot when it comes to time, time is very precious. And even a split second can make a difference in your mind. As a family.

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We have the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam, since his

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judgment was established, you see the signs of collapse in the universe, everything is falling apart. Now see the beginning of the day of judgment. He says,

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what we are the adequate sila, and you have in your hand, a plant small plant and you can put in the soil. So that issue you in this case you contribute to this one. But

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if you are able to put it in the ground, in the soil, before they're done is completely established and do

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something useful in this world.

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Even a split second can make a big difference in your mind. And you're going to need a lot every moment. Every one that you have, you will regret it we have to use it wisely.

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The Messenger of Allah wa salatu salam, he mentioned that even those who does well on Judgement Day, they will regret even those who did well. Because they will say I would have been better in the world.

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And those who didn't do well at all, they should never regret these moments.

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They seek knowledge, even to the last minute they want to learn more about your team. They want to know something new every single second every single day.

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And one of these

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are him on

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one day, he said that.

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So we asked him he said

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how far Should we keep going and seeking knowledge means when should we stop seeking knowledge?

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Until you live to the breath, you should keep seeking knowledge. How can you keep learning something new every single day because that new knowledge again can make a difference in your life. So you have time right now to read more books, and have the time to attend MSG, you have the time to go and attend programs, activities, conferences, don't miss this opportunity.

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Because it will go with what's gone wrong. That's why it hasn't mostly for him on blogs. And he says call me in

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all of a sudden, you have nothing but this number is a number day that's your life.

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Every time a day passes.

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And when that day goes away, it does not come back again forever. a rather long

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time is very precious. And that's why we have these limited hours. unlimited data, at least in this contemporary, let's say time, which is originally it's the winter holidays and the winter season. And the school is all kids around the house. How are we? How are we helping our children? How are we helping our children benefit from their time?

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Are we giving them guidelines? Are we giving them things to do? Or is it just you know, go and have fun? Go and play video games, do whatever they want to do, but just stay away from me is our children.

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We just wanted to repeat whatever. Just have fun. Yeah, it was cool. Now what's the reward, it's a prize. And the prize for him is to go and kill time and waste of time allotted. That's not how you want your children for affordable. The value of our work is to teach them something that gives you the chance now to recover from the great loss. They have all been in school, not learning about their.

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If you count the days they've been to school, and then you count the number of times they attended the messages, you'll be appalled by the statistics, the number of hours they spend in school, and then the number of hours they spend with you as a parent level on hidden messages. If your account is our youth is scared to death if you really care about the future of your children, about the real future of your children.

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You'd be scared to death,

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how much time you spend with them, and they come back from school, teaching the value, not just at the moment,

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how much time you spend with them in

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school, you have a very serious matter. You said, How about attendance before school starts? What else are going to do? It is your responsibility as a Muslim, first and foremost, and as a parent, make sure you use your time wisely. Because this is what I was going to ask you in judgment day. And in the future, as well, your children, if they don't learn these values, and these etiquettes of using time wisely from you, when they're young? How do you expect them to use this time, specifically before they become teenagers? once they become teenagers, and they don't have any structure for their life? That's when you start feeling bored.

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And you know, when children or youth feeling bored, what do they do? They find to find something thrilling, and thrilling in the sculpture is very scary thing

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is they do the bad stuff, because it's just Well, it's not because the kids were bad. And because they're looking for adventure, for something new, something thrilling for them. And if you haven't provided any structure for your children, when they have spare time, if you haven't provided that for them, they are going to create their own. So make sure as a parent to be there for them, and help them provide some guidance and guidelines on what they can do a little bit from their time about the law. And the law seven says in the

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current multiple

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two great blessings to two great lessons over which mankind and human beings

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is completely deceived about means you are completely deceived. When it comes to appreciating these two blessings. You know what I suppose you

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also have to work for a Saha. That's health and for the leisure and spare time,

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because many people they would love to achieve things when they're busy.

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But then

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they have the time for it. They have all these excuses, they're tired, they're exhausted, and they can't

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stand for you to do these things. You find yourself ill, or sick, or now is going to alter to these things. So that

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we can is a time for for many people who don't go to work. But then they have the health. What are they doing with these two, these weekends. Now we have the winter break.

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And we have

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before you fall sick because of the weather, do something beneficial, and help your children achieve something beneficial.

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What can we do in order to help us save our time and preserve these precious hours of our life? Number one

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is now self put yourself to their accounts.

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So the first thing you do is you put yourself to that account is your health just to hold yourself accountable for everything that you do. Don't wait for someone to come to remind me that he didn't work for them or for someone

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imagine if you have this constant on your mind. And don't get to the point or missing. It becomes something non unusual. Don't get to that point. almost feel guilty about it. Put yourself to the outcome. Don't let anyone do that on your behalf.

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And then number two, teach yourself to aspire to higher goals in life.

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Goals. And the highest goal that you should always think about this gentleman for those that can potentially have a sort of love is

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indeed a commodity that you trade with a loved one or dollar is very precious and sell expensive. Indeed, his agenda is that

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you don't expect yourself to get to go to Paradise, unproductive Allah and being on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam while you're sitting at home chilling and watching TV or playing games is that

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that's going to get you somewhere but nobody should be.

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And again, even receive that announcement. We realize how much you were deceived at the end of that time.

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So how about a lot of random, they had this various example for us. I mean, they weren't even like us, they have other human beings like everybody else. And they will live in exceptional times and they have a facility of technology, cars, transportation, martial arts, spacious homes, you have all these beautiful things. Now

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it seems to be quality of life is dropping so long with that, although supposed to be increasing your, your performance for the afternoon, it seems to be distracting to this task difference. All these things are supposed to help us to achieve better inshallah Allah is not helping us along. Number three, he has a lot so

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that you have good companions around you.

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You know the other

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side, which means the friend gravitates towards him. So if your friend is good management, he pulls you to his habits, and habits they say in English are contagious. good habits are contagious, and bad habits as well. If you have a good friend, what are you going to get out of them? We'll have this. If you have friends who do other things, you're not going to get anything out of this. And

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he said methanogenesis for a while jvzoo kehamilan is one of the example of the live companion and otherwise the other one is the example of the perfumes, merchant and businessman will not disappear. And the blacksmith says Hamilton is the one who carries the perfume and sells the perfume in your hand. What am I? What am I?

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What am I?

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So the merchant, the curfew merchant

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cannot give you something for free. If you ever been to these stores, they often give us free samples. So you walk out with that. So wonderful smell. All you might buy something from them, you use an effort to get something out of them something good out of them, like buying perfume? What?

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If you didn't get anything for free? Or did you not buy anything from them? The least you get is just an influence that you get the beautiful smell as your enemy or, as example, the good friend? What are the advices you for free to?

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Listen, this is something good, you should do it something for free. Or you ask yourself

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how did you do that? Can you can you tell me how you request good

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amounts from them.

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And the third, at least if he didn't tell you anything, you didn't request anything from them. Just being around the companionship. It just makes you feel safe.

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As for the other companion, he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when after Phil killed the blacksmith, you go there they go fire, smoke. And that smell used to be you saw the sulfur smell is so bad. So Steve Allen. So this is an example of his

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father in law. And

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one of the things you get out, whether that's a spark, which is your clothes and burns your clothes, or at least he was familiar with that smoke, that bad smell, you've come on the scene so bad. Like whenever you come into a room that is followed up with smoke, you cannot be smoking.

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And that's exactly the same thing. You walk with issue.

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Something in your face, if you look different, digital, anything wrong, you did it. But you're one of those who did. And that's so people can see that in your eyes in your face. As an example, the good and the bad one.

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Another way of helping us perceive the value of our time to shoot our children

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is to learn the stories.

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Learn the stories from those before us in the past

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and how they have used their times in the best way possible. There's so much you can learn about the Prophet sallallahu wasallam

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that there are so many books out there. You can just simply choose one of these books and at the value of time and how to

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use their time. During the day. They would fast during the night they wake up

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every morning that they have

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an alarm

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A lot of love but constant reminder that they are in the presence in the

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worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Also the way we can help our children use this time, by diversifying opportunities for them, you know, you

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are most likely going to be at work. So what are you going to do what your kids are going to do during the day, give them chance and opportunities. If you're a group of families, and some of you are also off, that would be great if you can provide a program for children. Something that

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I know in your mind is always about

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this, and that is good, but also give them some progression, how they're gonna have fun together to do something useful, or diversified opportunities. In addition to that, give them chances to go to and read, go to the public library buy books form from bookstores, online bookstores, given the chance to read and learn that first, diversify opportunities, and that also applies to both boys and girls.

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Don't just focus on your boys, neglecting up to hearing about your doctors and your girls. a

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constant reminder also will help us constant reminder of the time that is that is elapsing and passing by what do you remember what you did in that time, and hopefully, this will help you to show a lot more.

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So when you started remembering to con last weekend, I was hoping to do this, I didn't do that. Now all week of the winter break is gone. What are your children?

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What did you do with them as a parent, if you just only keep pushing them to just stay away from you and enjoy their time on their own, then you're missing a valuable opportunity to bond and connect with your children.

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One thing also that we should remember when it comes to the subject of time, remember that sudden moments of great loss of a beloved one.

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All of us were in our lives, this sudden moment of losing someone, a parent, a brother or sister and nephew, neighbor, friend, someone who never actually expected that they will be gone from your life so quickly.

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But that doesn't discriminate between old and young, adult non non Muslim, non Muslim, it's all equal when it comes to that.

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Command. Well, last time we're done with this one says how. So remember that it could be it could be you might be next,

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forever. Just look at the person that says no, it's not about him or her. I'm talking to each and every one of us, including myself on the line of demand to be able to allow you to go out of this store. You never know. So if you always remember yourself and remind yourself with that, that will help you keep that urgency in your mind to connect with your children, teach them values and help them to show up.

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It's an urgency. It's not a control for your children as much as feeling and irresponsible. Before you come from this world. At least you have given them hamdulillah the proper guidelines. After long after you're gone. They will be safe to shut up all the time. When you're absent from their lives.

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One thing that is very, very important

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is to remember that they will stand before your votes.

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Will you stand up for your votes?

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Some of them salallahu alayhi wa sallam he says let us

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know the feet of the son Adam will not be removed from that station before last

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until the question about five dimension form. And one of these one of these things are normally your age and your life. How would you spend your life as

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there are other youth and kids? They're texting and watching YouTube and watching naturism.

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Isn't this amazing how ridiculous life becomes so

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you're coming to achieve something so sacred and the shapefile chases you inside the method inside your brain to convince you to waste this precious moment of your life.

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The show partners together to go

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are you partners, he should chase your own until

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when he had an encounter with Allah subhanho wa Taala What did he say?

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Partly having an awakening not

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mustafi because you because we could go straight he learns a lot

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because a lot because it'd be longer I'm going to strike. So even though

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it says

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Boynton because you lead me astray.

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Marshall stay on the path on that straight path against

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itself, I shall come to them after them

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and shall not see most of them grateful.

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Now most of them won't be good for tomorrow. So that's such a fun attitude. As you know, if you keep laying on the loss of data for your faults or for Earth, that's the SharePoint attitude. It's not going to help you take the attitude the believer that you're responsible for your actions, and the time is open space for everybody. And the last powder says,

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We have gotten into the two paths, the right one, and the last one you choose for yourself.

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The army economy I'm hungry.

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Mama God.

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I do what should my kids do during this time? This spray? What else can they do? When it comes to recreation, they can do great things. I know that for sure.

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They know how to make these things even easier sometimes. But if you guide them through their, their process of entertaining themselves and make it educational, beneficial, that would be great. So the first thing you need to do you help them you give them guidelines, and what they can do what they cannot do. But if

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they want to choose the right property for themselves. Number two, this is the time and we all know that when their school doesn't they don't have the time to read the book of Allah.

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Why don't you make an assignment for them. And for you, as a parent, read with them. Some of the songs

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that are NEMA is one of two sewers, if you can

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make some incentives around them, you teach them Do your best, and let them shallow. Minimize one sort of in the loop of how our life

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is better than owning all the pleasures of this world completely.

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Just hook them memorize the sewers. If not revise what they already they might have forgotten them. So how can review what they've learned. Number three,

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knowledge your kids they come to the masjid don't even know the etiquette of

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when you

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sit down with them half an hour before they come and teach them

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when they sit next to you in the morning.

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keep your kids next year so they can learn how to be able to come to them

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with a booth with them. Make this at the end of the day, open book of Harley for instance, and

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learn from the life of your soul Love is all about

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the chroma key seem to remember that this is a very simple and easy teach them how to say so.

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Help them repeat that over and over again over and over again.

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The 10 times a day 201,000 as much as they can. But this is remember Allah subhanho wa Taala make sure that they are loaded into the into the message. That's a great virtue. And that hamdulillah we have now enough time. If you can, as a parent will use this precious time to bond with your children. Then go ahead and do a road trip. Take your children to attend conferences, or conferences. Almost every major city they have conferences, big or small. One day, two days three days, make culture tour or dispose of cities that you have around you don't have to

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go and take your children and make a road trip with them again that will help you bond with them socially. There was an advantage of travel when you didn't have the memories for

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the last time you take your kids want

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something that they could learn their feet instead of just you know killing time. teach your kids that these values and dedicate some time from this play with them and for them a lot.

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A lot

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the last

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one was

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