Does Marriage Kill Love 3 Jealousy

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salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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hamdulillah.

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salat wa salam o Baraka Nabina Muhammad, wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman kathira to mama wa. If you remember the last thing we discussed before we took a break for salata, the mother of which we spoke about the essential needs for both men and women, husband and wife in relationship in marriage. And men, they were very, very vocal about it, and they have no second choice. They say they don't have any second thought about it. When you ask them, What is the top thing that they demand that they would require, they would love to see from their spouses. They say respect. But that's what I'm looking for respect. And when it comes to women, and you ask them, what exactly are

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they looking for, they will give you multiple options. But it all boils down to one thing, to be thoughtful about them, to be caring, to be loving, to show gentleness and kindness, which is all translate into love for men. And women, if you would like to communicate that value that they hope for the love to see from you, you have to do it on their terms, not your term. That means you show respect to the man in the way that is considered so meaningful to him. And you show love to the woman that is so meaningful to her. If you try to show love to her in the way that is meaningful to you, you're gonna mess it up. You're gonna completely mess it up. And that's why when a man asked

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his wife if she asked, What do you love? What do you want from me? What do you what do you love to see? And he tells her cook good food. She's puzzled. She said, look at this childish, you know, desire. It's not about being so childish about his desires, he is just trying is asking you to show respect to his needs and his desire. That's all. Same thing when a man asks his wife, what do you want from me, and she tells him, I want you to listen to me too. I want you to love me, I want you to be kind and so on. So, and he consider that so childish. This is so kind of a trivial look for something essentially, you need something practical, come on be reasonable, they start arguing and

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fighting each other. Why because each is trying to force and enforce their version of love and respect on the other party. So if you would like really to communicate love truly to your spouse, you need to think of it that way they understand it, and not the opposite. It's not yours, it's they how they see love. And it's you how you see love as well as love and respect between a husband and wife. Now when it comes to love, and respect between a husband and wife, there is no more beautiful model. There is no beautiful and great model than the model of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam after all, he was sent to mankind as Ramadan I mean, a massive nurseryman Council a lot he was,

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that's why Allah azza wa jal he sent him some Allah, Allah Selim that we've fallen, imagine, imagine Allah azza wa jal sent down to us an angel. He sent an angel. Yes, many people would believe, but those who believe in Him, they would see difficulty in following his example, because they will have their excuse saying while he was a man, he wasn't, he was an angel. I can't do that. I cannot do this. I'm a human being. But Allah made him an angel. And that was one of the arguments of the machine. When they asked about Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, how come Allah azza wa jal sends down to us a human being Allah subhanho wa Taala he gave them the answer, that He will send him as an

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angel would have made the minimum human being even when we send them as an angel we will make him into a human being.

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Will Janna whom Allah Allah, Allah Allah, so if we send them down an angel he has to come down in the form of a human being. So Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was sent down as a human being so that we can relate to him. So it was Salam Ali, Allah has Odin made him worship, he said and sort of tilaka they are the sort of that you decide to have every Friday and towards the end, the last I have call your Mohammed or Mohammed called tell them proclaim announced this to them in Santa Ana Basha. I am a human being. In addition, I'm a human being. And then some people might say yes, he was a human being but he was a superior human being. He was super human. He was from the light of Allah He was

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this he was that all these kind of ideas about ossola but they're not true. Because Allah subhanho wa Taala immediately immediately answered against all these thoughts in the following work in the same

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Miss lucam just like you well in an anniversary of Miss lucam, so that no one would say, Yeah, he was a super human. So we cannot do that because he was different. No one can claim that he was Miss lucam human being just like you, you have a lie who receives revelation. So in order for us to, to see the prophets or to relate to him, he has to be a human being like me and you. And that's why Allah subhana wa tada sent him as a role model Ramadan, and I mean, we are commanded, being commanded to follow the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam and everything in Salah, ncrm, Hajj, all his all the devotional acts that also include his Allah and his manners, His love and His manners.

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You know, that's a habit, they used to ask about all these things, all these things. So some of the companions, three young companions, they came to the houses of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they were asking about his devotional practice at home. They've seen him outside how he prays how he does as a father, they want to know what does he do at home so Allah what it was. So when the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah, they described what the prophet does at home, in terms of devotion and act. Can

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they be a little that says, that's really, it, just like many people, when they think of an Imam, they think of what they think of someone like a Sahabi, or an AVI at home. And that's why many sisters, many ladies, they they adore the idea of marrying a religious figure and Mr. Shea or a public speaker. And so how I wish I can marry this guy. I had some requests on Facebook, but not from Al Hamdulillah.

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Some some ladies, they asked him, could you please connect me with XYZ?

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They want to marry some of these public figures. So I sent them polite that says, You know what, just to let you know, he's a human being after all. And if you think that he is going to be giving you all these beautiful lectures at home on daily basis, you will be dreaming.

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Anyway, the point here that the Sahaba these young men, they came to the houses of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. And they asked about his a better Canon takala they belittle that so when they belittle that, they said okay, one of them he says, As for me, I shall, I shall fast every single day. I will never stopped fasting. The other one says, I will make jambalaya every single night. I won't sleep at night. The third one says I am going to abandon pleasure. I'm going to quit any, any form of pleasure, and I will never get married. He wants to live a celibate life so that he would dedicate his life of Allah subhanho wa Taala. That sounds impressive, right? This isn't that

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impressive vision. Tell me the truth. Isn't that impressive? Somebody could all his time just for the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala absolutely impressive. But is that following the example of Rasulullah? Absolutely not. Because we are not super humans. We're humans who dedicate a motion for Allah subhanho wa Taala. So the problem when he heard about that, he gave us a signal. So you know what? He said? So a lot of us Allah mavala woman yaku naka de Vaca what's wrong with those people who saying so and so and he gave his interpretation to what they said. So Allah, Allah wa salam, and he said, Carla, Emma will live in Neela, shakeela, was in LA, and the most faithful to Allah

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subhanho wa Taala, among all of you. And the most beautiful talamantes all of you, however, he said, I fast and I break my fast. I pray for you, I'm willing to get some sleep, what is the word janessa and I get married. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam has given us here a gesture that just like everybody else.

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The virtue is in follow his example. sallallahu wasallam in salah and fasting in Korea, Malaysia, and believe it or not, even in marriage.

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He says this is my son, Tamara Van sumati polysemy. This is my example. Anyone who doesn't follow my example isn't a true follower of mine. salallahu alayhi wasallam. So even in marriage, there is a Sunnah there is following the example of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. Many of us, many of us, we take training, in order to take a driver license, you take training to become a teacher, you become licensed for so many things in life when it comes to marriage. We don't really think that we need licensing for them. Because it's just, it's given. I've seen people getting married all these years, I can learn from books I can learn from people from my mom or my dad, you still need to learn that

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and the best teacher is Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa saramonic. And also the law says Cairo, Cairo como la wanna hire?

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The best among you are, those are the best of their families, and I am the best of my family. That's what he said. Salatu was salam, which means the best among all of us here. Now those are the decades so much time for family and fasting as much as they maintain good relationship with their spouse.

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Whether family according to the example of Rasulullah, sallAllahu wasallam sounds trivial, but it's very, very essential and so rewarding in the dunya. And in the aphria Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. He said those words Piru compiler, clearly, I am the best, the best of my family, he said about himself sola salon, and by that he is soliciting what your obedience and your following was example. So the example of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, most of us, most of us, we think that the household of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was the perfect household true or not as a man.

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Don't you believe the wife the life of Rasul Allah, his family life? was the perfect family life. Do you believe that?

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Was it the perfect family life or not as a mom?

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Yes and no. Right? How is that? Yes, because it's the best model? No, it depends on how you define perfection, because most of us would define perfection by what? No issues, no problems. No answering back, no jealousy, no competition, nothing like that. Right?

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well know, the professor said he had to deal with that at home. And part of the perfection of his relationship that he dealt with that successfully sallallahu wasallam. So if you're looking for a perfect relationship, and perfect marriage, please, please don't expect a problem or troubles free marriage. That's not a perfect marriage. That's not a perfect, that's called fantasy.

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And it's not really perfect marriage is a marriage that you're going to have to go through all these challenges. And then you just know how to go about it. Because the prophet SAW lesson he knew how to go about these issues. A lot of light was a llama. And so for the brothers and sisters, those who would like to have this perfect marriage, they need to know to be prepared for these issues.

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cannot hear there's some kids running without their parents to tell them.

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Zach milaca, I got a request, actually, that some of the sisters specifically on that side, they're unable to concentrate and focus and perhaps some of brothers on the side too, because some kids are running around. So if you guys make sure to control the distraction as much as possible, we appreciate that Zach malapa.

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So again, a perfect marriage doesn't mean it's traveled free marriage. No, no, no, no, a perfect marriage is a typical marriage that you're going to have to go through some of these troubles. However, you become a smart navigator. You know how to handle you know how to deal with that. So let's see how the perfection of the marriage of Rasulullah, Salah Sam was through the smart navigation through all these challenges. If you ask about one of the top problems between husband and wife, one of the top problems between husband and wife, what would it be for the guys? What is the third problem that you'd have with you between you and your spouse? Because of what?

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Anyone? Any suggestions, sisters? The number one trouble between what provokes problem between your husband and wife the number one reason

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I can hear it, I'm sorry?

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What is it? Money? He says money? Well, that's one of them.

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Maybe it's your problem.

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But there's so many other problems. You know, when I classified and I asked people to give me the reasons. One of the top priorities one of the top reasons for problems between husband and wife is jealousy.

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Oh my god. When men and women they become so jealous about what jealous about what sometimes we feel it's ridiculous, but it is jealousy.

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Am woman she's jealous that her husband spends so much time with his mom than he would do with her.

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A woman she feels so jealous that her husband is he works so much. He spends more time on his laptop and computer than he would do with her children. A man feels so jealous that his wife she feel Perhaps she's maybe she's she spends much time with her family, then she would spend time with his family. And so eventually it comes to jealousy. It comes to different formats, let alone a woman gets jealous because her husband receives a phone call from his female coworker.

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And then the moment he receives a phone call, Oh, hi, XYZ. How are you doing? Oh, I'm doing fine. Great. Yeah. And his wife was just listening to him says Marsha.

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I wish I could have this greeting when I call you. It's not like nah.

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I'm at work. Don't you know that?

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It's not like he goes his coworker. He says to her. I'm at home right now. Do you know that? No, he's always Oh, how are you doing and so on. His wife she gets really upset.

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I mean, she just now start looking at him and her husband now saluted her

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Let's talk about the phone. Which means there were no please don't provoke me. He runs over to the other room, she chases him out. Eventually, it becomes a really big issue. Is it legitimate? Jealousy? Absolutely. That's legitimate jealousy. But does that justify the fact that his wife comes to the cell phone? And she started checking all the female names over there?

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Okay, you need to tell me who's this And who's this And who's this And who's this otherwise you do this you have the right to do that. What about the man? What if his wife works?

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And this brother calls her Mashallah they work even in dour and he call it says the sister You know, could you please help us with that, Okay, I need to speak over the phone. And it takes forever

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or maybe he comes home his wife is chatting on Facebook because eventually she's you know, double project and it's all Mashallah brothers and sisters Disability Law. Is that okay? That's jealousy. Well, jealousy was also part of the life of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. Can you imagine Ayesha? jealous.

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I want you to think of how Showmance is jealous. How would she look like? Because when you think of Ayesha, she's that loving, beautiful, sweet, the most beloved one. Rasulullah Salallahu salam, right. That's how we think of Arusha. I want you to think of her when she's jealous. What could she do in jealous? What could women do in jealousy? What could men do in jealous? Here's the thing, when it comes to us, our allies, our mother's house, his wife, they were jealous, like everybody else, he was jealous. And we have examples. The first one on Selma della Juana. When the prophet SAW the loss and proposed to him Selma, from Selma, she had children

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from her previous marriage, her husband passed away. So the property proposed to her and she said yes to the law in the Mirage industry. Yeah.

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Listen, I have so many children, which means I'm a single mother, I don't know if you're gonna be able to handle my kids. The other things you said,

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I'm a very jealous woman, I cannot handle really, you know, seeing you with other women.

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So then the prophets, Allah semitones are as for your children, there'll be my children. Which means don't worry about that. I will take them like my kids, and ask for jealousy. He didn't say, Come on, stop. This sort of victimless of you. I'm the Prophet. Don't worry about it. It didn't say that. And he didn't even he did not even deny the fact that she could be jealous and it's a legitimate jealousy. He validated that. But he told her he says, As for your jealousy, I'll ask Allah to make it easy.

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Which means it's not even in my control. But it will be in the hands of Allah subhanho wa Taala to tame it for you. And he met the other lots of hands on with Allah to tame her jealousy rhodiola Lana Ohm selama own sadhana because of her characteristics or qualities. She be she she's like Arusha. She was one of these most beautiful women. And she was also one of these. This has beautiful leadership quality. the wives of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, they were two teams has been I know some submitted they fantasize that the House of Rasulullah was a perfect you know like Mashallah, like a beehive. All the wives are just, you know, busy Walker, there was so long on our activities

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and so on. And now what we're plotting against each other.

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So you have Ayesha hopstop Sofia soldier in one team, and I'm Selamat leading the other team that includes Xena and other ones, alongside a lot of sentiment. So the prophet SAW Selim he made he treated the jealousy with the drama Are you making enough to Allah subhanho wa Taala to tame your jealousy to make it acceptable level? Are you ask Allah to help you out through this or just you know, let it go? You need to make the wrong number two the second example

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what is the jealousy just breaks out in a moment, a tantrum let's say moment and she made something he makes something comment action that shows this respect. How are you going to react to that most men they become offended if their wives act in an in a way that is considered disrespectful to them, particularly in front of people. So here's I shall be allowed to run ha she receives Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with some guests and the Hudson said Bukhari Muslim. She said Rasulullah came to me and he had guests with him. I she admits she was not very good cook. She wasn't very good.

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She said half so was. So when the product arrived at the house of Arusha. He asked her, do you have anything ready to feed against? She said, No. Well, I'll make something real quick. I don't have anything ready. But I'll do it real quick right now. So the prophets of Allah Sam did not wait for Ayesha to finish the food. He said okay, so and he sent some servants gone check out that otherwise you have anything ready. So they weren't and they brought a plate or a dish from the house of house saw she had some food that she prepared when the servant was coming in and when she

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came through the doors of the house of Irish imagine a food coming from another wife into the house of Arusha to feed the guests of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam from food is another one. That's like unbearable to her. So she said the moment she heard the steps of the servant as she was coming through the door, she came quickly. And she stroked the hands of the servant. She dropped the plate. She brought the plate, the food was actually all over the place.

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What do you guys think of this action? The man are looking grumpy a little bit. They're waiting to see what would be the action for us to realize.

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Here's the thing Rasulullah was in love with Isaiah.

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And when you love someone, you forgive them

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and not just forgive them. Make them feel good. That this is legit. I understand. I understand what you did. It's really offensive to me. Perhaps disrespect in front of the guests that you did that to me. I like for men. It says if this if a woman does like this if one of his guests today, an alarm, Stan Yeah, he will be in jail. She'll be in grave.

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But here's Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, he saw that. What can he do? He smiled. He started laughing. And he started calling the guest basically asked for another place. He started collecting the food of the floor. And he starts talking to the guests and says, Tomoko, your mother of the mother of the believer became very jealous. What can I do?

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Which means he validates those feelings. He didn't scold her, but I sinned. So how dare you do that to my girls? How dare you embarrass me? You know what, that's it. I'm done with you know, if you truly love someone, you're willing to forgive and accept. Put yourself under position. They can be jealous, and that's natural. You think this is enough? Look what she did.

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When she put herself in a position to get herself to make her jealous herself she put herself into trouble. In the side Buhari Imam Al Bukhari I should have allowed that and she reported that when the Prophet used to travel, he will take some of his wife's with them. That night, the turn of that journey, the turn was for some of the ones that are sort of La hafsa was one of them. And it was another one. As they were traveling, the women usually they stay in the back of the hall, the long caravan. So the prophets of Allah said and he went all the way back to chitchat with them being thoughtful. Why? Because in a long journey, women they get bored, really, they need some

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communication. It's not like let's get to this finish or regardless. No, they want some sort of thoughtful gesture. So the property understand the need to connect and communicate with their spouse. He goes back to chitchat and talk with them when they're under cameras. On the camera. There is like a hole that like a small tent to cover them from the from the screen from the sun from the dirt and so on. So his iPhone helps us to have such as Ayesha says, You know what? Why the Prophet every time he comes back, he goes and he walks next to Isla de la, and he will chitchat with him. So this time how sakoda How about if we switch?

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Let's switch. I she liked the idea. Let's do that. They were basically bored. They want to do something exciting, right? It's something thrilling. Let's make something so they thought about it. So they switch the cameras. So I should went on the camel, perhaps on the camel of Russia, the Prophet salaallah salaam goes back to the camel of Isaiah. And he thinks he was there with Elijah. But it was hassle. And I was wondering from the Hadith, how could they probably couldn't tell from the voice perhaps. They were clever, right? Eventually, the prophet decided it's time to camp, and he wants to spend the night over there. Then he ordered the tent of Ayesha to be moved to his main

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basically quarter. Who was in that tent

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hafsa I shall when she when they moved her tent. So her tent right now and she just went to look to see where she was. She was Rasulullah wasn't there. Now she realized that helps are gonna spend the night with Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, she brought that against herself. What could she do? She's not going to go and burn the tent on them when they're sleeping. She's not going to go and make a big scene out of this. Instead, she feels so jealous and high in South Korea. She says she was so jealous that she went and she put her feet on the bushes that doesn't bushes. And she said Yara send any snake and a scorpion just to bite me. I can't take this anymore.

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I don't know when I think of the Hadith says this is like I don't want to just even say that. It's like a committing suicide.

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But it shows you that the jealousy is genuine. This is real jealousy. It's serious. So the guys they need to learn to adapt, that women are born to be jealous in that sense, which a positive jealousy because that's an instinct of survival. Same thing for men. It's an instinct of survival. If you don't show your jealousy over your spouse, that means you're dead.

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You don't care you completely completely insensitive to them. So you need to show that part of jealousy However, it's, it has to be that moderate jealousy. And I mean, my mother jealousy that has has its limits. So going on violating secrecy going after their emails and going after their accounts and hours of cell phones and so on. I think in this case, it's not a matter of jealousy, this is a matter of mistrust. And we will have a big problem with that. Unless someone truly finds that there is reason for them to suspect something beyond the normal behavior of men and women when they are in public. If this is the case, they need to have serious counseling. Seriously, they need

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to have serious counseling to deal with that. But what I'm saying is that jealousy is acceptable Now, based from the sister side, and regard to having opposite genders friends on your Facebook account. Is that okay? Is it fine? You know, for a woman to have all these guys on her Facebook account as friends? How about the guys? Is it okay for a guy to have all these female friends online? Is that okay? Gemma?

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What do you guys think?

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Is even such thing as friendship, just we are just friends. You know, the famous, the famous YouTube video that came out that young kids was on in one of these universities or forgot what university was that? And he made two videos. Can men and women be be friends? And he went randomly asking students on college? Can men or women be friends? Somehow interesting? All the girls, they say of course. Sure. Yeah. Women are can be can be friends. The guys, although they would say?

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I don't think so.

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All the guys, they said no, I don't think so. And all the girls that said, Yeah, why not? See, even the perception of friendship is different for a man. There's motivation more than that. And then he made another video asking if men and women when they meet, you know, kind of do they think of anything beyond friendship? A man is Yeah, he said, yeah.

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He would think beyond that, meaning he is interested in going on to the next level. By the way, a woman might not be interested. So for the brothers and sisters who have opposite gender on their account, I really don't recommend that for you at all. And if you're married, that's a no no situation. Why am I saying that for because I'm already dealing with some young, very tough marriages. Because of that. Some of the sisters, they were basically engaged in some activity on Facebook, and we're chatting with some guys and so on debating, and so on. vincci developed from being the officer bit law. Now, unfortunately, it's more than that. And now I'm dealing with the

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situation, husband and wife, and they just say, you know, what, call us I quit. Three months later, they, she went back again to the same situation.

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And then he said, okay, the man he says, I accept the first apology. But now what do

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you try to reconsolidate but I'm talking about serious damage, and the relationship right now, this becomes very, very serious. So is your spouse? Does he have the right to ask you to remove all these friends? Oh, absolutely. And even suggest if you can even close that account will be better for you.

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Because now what once you have your spouse, there is no meaning for you really to have any kind of any beautiful relation, satisfactory base relation, does anyone have a new with your spouse? That's a recommendation though. Next. So as you can see the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. He dealt with jealousy with the DA ask Allah subhanho wa Taala. He took it as a human, and he would love for this friendship. To come she became very jealous, what can I do, and also the Prophet sallahu wa sallam sometimes he will just turn his eye and turn basically away from that houses. When I showed that

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when the wife of the prophet SAW some became two parties, basically, the Sahaba of the law that I'm home every time they see the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, when he is

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when the pseudo law has some a lot of asylum is in the house of Isaiah, they send all their gifts. When he goes somewhere else, they stop sending gifts. So in other words, they felt that was unfair. Why is why they're not sending us anything. So they complain. And in this complaint they sent on selama rhodiola delana, who was the head of the other team? She said Jada sutala in the desert? Yes, unlike Aladdin, you know, the whites are asked you if it's possible to ask the people so they could send their gifts wherever you are. They don't have to wait until the day the day of Isaiah. The Prophet said to her, I cannot do that. I can't force people to do this. So she went back to the

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ladies and she gave them the answer.

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She said I asked the Prophet sort of lost a limb and he did not give any response Other than that, they were not satisfied. So you're gonna have to talk to him again. Basically, you're our leader. Go ahead, talk to him again.

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So I'm Selma, she goes again. She talks to Rasulullah Rasul Allah, the ladies, they asked me if you could tell the people to do that. The Prophet gave the same response silence. Then, finally, when she came for the third time later on, she came for the third time asking for the same request Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. He gave a very, very open answer young and very, basically the very honest answer it says, it says, Please, young Salam says, Please, do not hurt me, in regard to I shall be allowed to run.

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Don't do that to me. I don't want you to talk about isolators which means I love her. This is something you know, I cannot control therefore, stop hurting me in regard to Ashley olana. She stopped and she went back to them. They asked her that's not enough, you better go again. And talk to him said I'm not going anymore. So, so they send who can you guess? They send Fatima. His daughter said if his wife is not going to work with them, let's send his daughter he cannot say no to his beloved beautiful daughter, Fatima. So Fatima goes, Yasser, Allah, your wife are asking you, you know, some sort of justice in regard to I have interacted with Erica. And I showed the law, she

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was with Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, and she remained quiet. And that's now an issue of animals, right? The issue of the animals who's going to solve the problem. You're going to live your wife, you live that difficult time to deal with your daughter, with your sister, with your mom and so on. And just you keep just watching and see what's going on. Well, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam he supported his wife against the case of the other woman's even if the arbitrator over here or the envoy was his own beloved daughter, Fatima, he told him as if he feeling sorry that she was put in this position. Kalia Fatima, Allah to have been Don't you love what I love? called Bella era. So of

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course I do Ursula. So he points to Irish and he told her isn't a hippie had just loved this one. Just love her.

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So ultimate, she got the message. And she left when she told the wife that's what he told me salado salon. They were not satisfied at all. They sent another invoice. This one was Xena. Xena Brody Allahu Allah. Hi. She said about Xena wacana to semeniuk rasulillah. I will have one. She was my rival. Basically, she was next after Ayesha in being the most favorite and the most beautiful. She was the second after I showed you a lot that Anna. So that's why she was very vocal like Alisha. So the moment she got into the house, she started attacking guy so they allowed that on her. And she was very harsh in her statements against Russia. I was looking at Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam who

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was just like, looking at it. Whatever.

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He doesn't, he didn't want to be part of this. Just like Rasulullah she's asking permission which really jasola What did you take care of this or let me do that. The prophet SAW Allah Samia gave her basically the gesture that she's yours. deal with.

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And he dealt, she dealt with it, she dealt with it in a brilliant way that she made Zainab to stop and be quiet. She stopped. She stopped. Then when she made her stop speaking, I she looks at a suit of lies that allows me to see his his reaction, what is it going to do? So she looked at Rasulullah. And also like he had big smile on his face. Because this is the daughter of Rebecca, which means I know her. See, that's what I'm talking about. So even though sudo lies the loss and such, sometimes in situations like jealousy like these, you need to try to be as neutral as possible, which means don't get involved as much as possible. As much as possible. Try to stay neutral in these cases. In

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many situations, women, they might have some issues, and loads, they have some issues. Still, if you as long as it's not really a matter of insults, the matter of you know, becoming abusive to one another. They won't they will solve their issues in shallow data easily. However, also, I want the ladies undergrads as well to understand, you cannot put your wife between her family and your family and asked her to choose that's not fair. And the same thing, the lady you cannot put your husband between his mom and you and ask him to choose. That's not a fair choice at all. You're gonna have to sort things out properly in shallow data, knowing that it's a matter of competition between two

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women to one the heart, the heart of this man. Each one of them has its own territory in their heart, if you keep it to that territory should be financial loudhailer. If you stick on the other party's territory, that's when we have clash. So as a mother, you will never be able to replace him. And as a wife, you will never be replaced and at the base of the mother in the heart. So keep that in your mind the shout out about Nikola Tesla next