Yahya Ibrahim – Grill The Imam – Dec 6

Yahya Ibrahim
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of honoring laws and avoiding misunderstandings in online communication. They also mention a young woman who talks about wanting to be a woman, but doesn't want to be a woman. The speakers stress the need to be content with a law and not allow anyone to interpret the words "the" in online communication. They also mention a self-paced program for people to register for.
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Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Alhamdulillah hum to share Corinne also led to a seller more or less say even more saline say you do now whenever we whenever we you know what have you been Mohammed Salah Allahu Allahu Allah early he was actually he will sell him to Sleeman kathira Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayidina Muhammad alene wa salatu wa Sallim wa barik ala Sayidina whenever you know Muhammad in film Allah Allah Allah or hamara mean Allah Allah Nana Johanna minako aniline with a kidnapping who man who Sina Allah Allahumma fildena Willie Worley Deena Allahumma hablando de la Doom casselton and nasi right We ask Allah subhana wa sallam

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beginning and end to make us from those who are guided who practice what they have been

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come to believe to be the truth of the whole and and the tradition in the suit of the prophets I send them that a law grants us knowledge that is beneficial, that is practiced by us and called to by us through our words, behaviors and actions and that we lead other people to that which is righteous through it along the mean

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Alhamdulillah we're continuing Mashallah, we've our sessions that were live q&a for the online Islamic school in particular, yeah, Abraham calm for those who have enrolled in the puberty program for the young men, The Art of Manliness and the heart to heart. And this is just some of the q&a live q&a that we have on the weekend for you in chat a lot. There's a number of things that are going to be accelerating in the holiday season. There's some really great stuff that I look forward to emailing you about, and the launch of launch of season two in LA. And they're just so much gonna come together and we pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala accepted from all of us along I mean, for

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those of you who are listening on my Facebook page, do let us know where you're listening from. And you are welcome in Chatelet to submit questions. Of course, those of you my students who are [email protected], under under the video where you could see me, there's the q&a button, you can click on that and you can send

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me a question. Michelle, I see my dear brother, noted Dean that we were unhedged, together? May Allah subhanho wa Taala

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except from all of us Allahumma I mean, it's good to see him here as well.

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There are many other people Michelle law that we're getting

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wonderful salaams from so does a common law fair, Doctor nor

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martial law sister Rosita and others.

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I know some of you want to send private question, but I'm not going to be able to go into my message bank through just so many emails, there will be difficult for me to go through that. For those of you who are students online with me, you will be able to send it directly to my telegram service.

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I see that a couple of questions have already come in. There's a few others from the morning session that are still there. So May Allah accept it from us inshallah. All right, let's just jump right into it. I'm always going to prioritize we're only together for 30 minutes purposefully, I prioritize the questions that come in through the

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my website. Okay, are girls allowed to post photos of themselves on social media, ignoring the whole allowing thing, you know, people being jealous of you, and so on? Alright, so let's, uh, let's just jump right into it.

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I don't like the way the question is framed. It's not our girls allowed leave the word allowed out of it. Think of it in terms of what's best, or what's proper, and what has the least impact on your life. So even if we were to leave it, you know, the Islamic stance for a moment, most

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tech experts, and people were in the field of technology will say to you, do not leave a massive footprint online of yourself. Don't leave things that can be manipulated us that can be misconstrued twisted, something that later on in the day, in the days that will come and as you mature in life, that somebody can misunderstand what you posted. And you and I see this in the news all the time. Somebody has to apologize for something that they put online, you know, 10 years ago that they didn't think would see the light of day something they forgot about nobody knew about, but somehow it makes itself as a centerpiece in life. So

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I'm not going to answer this question just from the perspective of girls, are you and I as Muslims

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Those who submit our will to God seeking ease, comfort, peace in life by following the laws that a law sent following the ethics that Allah lay down for us. Should we put whatever photos we want of ourselves online? Whatever photos we want of loved ones or others online? The answer is no. So even with with my own children, you know, my wife, sometimes you'll say, Yeah, I don't want you to use that photo, take that photo down, or something more, you know, those kind of things, you'll see that even if it's in good taste, even if there's nothing questionable about it, even if there's nothing bad about it, sometimes you need to put that in your mind, hold on a second, it could have a greater

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ramification, you'll see a lot of people, they'll put smiley faces on their children's face if they put up a family photo, and so on. Why is that because it's not good to have it online. So if it's now something personal to you, so just say you were a job, and there's a photo that you took, you and your friends and you weren't in job, and you want to share it with other people, and you think it's just a private group on your Instagram or on your Snapchat or on discord or whatever it is that you know, the device or app or that you're using, I want you to know that the moment you you click Send it is no longer your own property. It's no longer just your photo, you've chaired it on a

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carriage service that has made you as a part of your subscription to it, give away the rights of them being part owners of that photo, and that the issues that relate to your privacy are very murky, and not very clear. So anything you put online is not simply yours anymore. Be careful with that. What I can recommend to you is that I've done a whole series called Living online and it's built on 13 or more Hadith and the prophets, I send them where his words are really powerful in how we should view our online experience. And that's why I always say to the students, even if you've just joined the purity program, do backtrack and take Season One of Abraham comm forward slash

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school, because there's a whole thing there. There's like, you know, nearly five hours of recorded content, and of it is something really important. How do you coexist online? How should you approach the time you and I are spending together now? What should you put online? And what shooting you and what are the ramifications from it from an Islamic perspective? So are men and women? are young men, young ladies allowed to post photos of themselves? Yes, but no, yes, in a sense, if it's decent, and in the job, and you know, you feel comfortable that it's not something offensive to yourself or others now or into the future or of your ancestry or culture, your faith.

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It's a decision you make, but I would say to you is be very, very cautious. Be very, very critical of where you share it, who you share it with. And keep that in mind. Make note of the fact that there are governments that are nearly going to war and trade wars over apps, for example, you know, Donald Trump, our Prime Minister here in Australia, Scott Morrison, saying that they're going to or saying that they were going to ban tik tok from being an app used in America, they were going to be banned in America banned in Australia, on account of what well data mining that the Chinese government is keeping people's information, keeping people's data for what purpose? It's not

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something that's entirely clear, and its ramifications might be horrifying down the road. So even ignoring the headline thing, even ignoring just an Islamic stance, don't

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do it without further thinking about the consequences. All right. Another question?

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is a girl's voice our it's coming from the same young lady. Mashallah. is a woman's voice. I wish I could tell you, unequivocally No. The answer is no. And there's so much evidence of for this for in the whole and in the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah speaks to the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam in particular.

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And a law doesn't say to them, don't be heard. Don't be. Don't have your voices heard. Rather Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Do not be soft in your speech. Well, God never look holy. Fire up my leg if you call be. Don't Don't be soft in your in your in your speech. Less there should be someone who in their heart is a disease the problem could be with the man a disease of hypocrisy or evil desire and that they they can

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Use that in the wrong way or make it something that is past what it actually is. So even the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam have a higher standard of Porter, the higher standard of hijab, they were always cloak they were always kept at a distance from others. Even they a lot doesn't say, don't, you know, don't speak don't ever be heard by a man because the voice of a woman is not out. Ah, the wife of the prophets I seldom in his life and after his life was a teacher, not just a teacher of women, but a teacher of men, those who were related to her and those who weren't related to her, and many of the Hadeeth conveyed to us by a shout out the last one, huh? The vast majority

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of them 99% of them are conveyed by men who heard those words from her. She would also question this we'll have that and ask them questions after the death of the prophet SAW Selim. Once you would hear that they had said something that the Prophet said such as many examples of Abdullah neuroma and insignia Malik or the alarm I knew him and so on. We also know that Allah Subhana Allah shows us that in the Quran that women would come and speak with the prophets I send them and I share with the allow analogy would say, you know, a woman came and began to quarrel and debate with the prophets I send them about some of the circumstances in her home and although she's in the room with the

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prophets, I send them next door I can't hear what they're saying. But a law from above the seven heavens can cut send me Allah coletti to Jeju Luca visa would you have with a sticky Illallah

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we also know that the rightly guided whole effort who ruled after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that they would greet

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men and women with a salaam aleikum and receive it back to them. We have famous incidents where women would stand up in the masjid the prophets I send them and ask questions are very memorable hotdogs and hamburgers. So the and earth management have found about the Allahu anhu wa so if a woman was a young lady or a woman was to speak in a way that is not meant to be

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resulting in any sexual tension or sexualized commentary or words or discussion, it's the same as a man who is not meant to use those kind of language or that type of attitude to be soft in their words. And you know, and men are very prone to that, you know, the concept of a Casanova is the smooth talker. So those kinds of things that is what is

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prohibited for us as Muslims, not professionalism, not normal speech, not teaching, not studying, not engaging, not reciting the Quran. There's nothing wrong with reciting the Quran, even with a melodious voice for our sisters. It's not something that was shunned at the early generations of the Sahaba and the tambourine, or the one Allahu Allah him. What about him, where you do find exaggerations, and that there is condemnation of a woman's voice or presence, they are usually Hadeeth that are not verifiable back to the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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So returned back to that surah sort of the zap the 33rd chapter of the whole on verse number 32, that a lot condemns using speech to be alluring, and to be inviting to immorality, but not just to speak in a professional manner. There is nothing wrong with that whatsoever in this arena in the deen of Allah subhanho wa Tada. Allah, Allah Allah. All right. So that's another good question from our young sister doesn't love hair.

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Are there particular roles that men and women have that a law ordered? So there isn't, you know, the the concept of patriarchy and the concept of who earns a living and who doesn't that wasn't spoken about a lot in the forum. And in fact, you could see that a lot gives different examples. So musala is Salaam and sawtell casas he comes out of the desert, he's fled to Egypt and Pharaoh and he comes upon a large flock of animals and that there are two women, women do I need him immoral attorney to do that they are trying to restrain their fraud of flock from being mixed with the other flocks of other people at the waterwell condom bucco man, what's your what's your issue called atella News

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three had used earlier buena Shea from caviar. They said we're not going to bring our flock and get stuck with all these other men that are there. The reason we're out here is that our father is an elder in our community and he's advanced in age. So that's why we're out here. We're working you know, we're

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We're farmers and we're raising our livestock. So you find evidence in the Quran that there were women who were working, and it's something that is not condemned double. You see it also in the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you see that his wife had the job of the Allah one How was an estate owner was a trader, and she would use people to trade on her behalf. The very first relationship you had with the prophets I sell them was that she was a boss, and he was somebody who was in business working

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with her wealth as as capital

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to be used. So there were those business transactions. So you come to understand that rules and regulations are really meant most of them are culturally assumed. So depending where you are in the world, what era you're living in a lot of the culture, which is sort of, in our law is something you're about, it's something that should be taken into consideration in the practice of the faith. So you would never say to a working mom, to a working sister to a working father, that's not right for you. That's not your role, you cannot leave the home, you cannot. That's not the conceptualization of Islam. And I, you know, I really dislike it sometimes when I get a question and

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say, what are the conditions for a Muslim woman

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work conditions that she's allowed to work in? Well, it's really the same conditions as a Muslim men, which is that there is a level of peace of security, that there is a place where you are given an opportunity to represent yourself in a way that is not tarnished, or that you're not brought into having to lessen your practice of your faith, wherever your interests are served, as long as it's met with the professional conduct and the legal mechanisms that we as Muslims also pride ourselves on, then for men and women. It's equitable. You can't say oh, no, you can't go to work. There's fit not work. Don't you know that men and women are always mingling? Well, what's the thing about you?

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Well, what do you do when you go to work? Are you doing that mingling thing as well? And if the answer is no, well, if you can abstain from it, others can abstain from it. Now I do caution, of course, that it isn't a blank check where we say, you know, go do whatever you want, you know, don't worry about being a mother or a father, don't worry about who's gonna have the kids interests in mind. Those are things that are regulated by Islam, by the Hadith of the Prophet Mohammed sighs element by the very biological nature that we live, we live in. Our wives are meant to be those who become the primary caretakers, especially in the early ages of young children as they are in their

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formative years. That is a relationship that is sanctified in the Quran, legitimized in the Hadith of the prophets. I said lamb could look Omar and we could look at Roger, ooh, rah, and a man is responsible for himself for his home for his family, a woman is responsible in her husband's home, to help and to assist and with the children, that is a duty given by Allah subhanaw taala, you can't abdicate it, unless there is a greater essential, that lessens the need of us fulfilling that mandate, then all of a sudden, I have to put the kids in daycare because We can't pay rent. That's a different story. But when if everything is as it should be, then the priority must always be the

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children up until an age where they are able to fend for themselves, and you are able to provide structures that can meet those needs. So that's an important conceptualization, the rules and regulations are usually determined culturally, not necessarily religiously, the ones that are scriptural, are very few and very general. In their perspective, there is no job that a man and woman cannot do. So no man can say, Oh, this is a job I'm not allowed to do as a man. A man can be a nurse, a woman can be an engineer, you know, those kind of conceptualizations or cultural

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breakdowns at times that happen. Another question that's come along here. Why are there so many differences even about basic things like when we pray, I understand now that Hanafi Muslims who follow Abu hanifa they pray us or at a different time to Shafi Muslims. So it's not that they pray at a different time. It's they understand that the engines of time is a little bit different. So to some people, the time for Asana is when a sticks shadow, and that's how they used to you know, measure time

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When it's when it's how do you know it's longer time or the sun is at its zenith it's come to the height is that there is no shadow for a stick that is planted in the sand once there's no shadow, that means it's a lot of time once the shadow is cast in the opposite direction from where the rising of the sun is, it means it's longer time when the shadow is twice the length of the length of the stick itself. According to the Abu hanifa has opinion that is when also the enters and he takes that from the handdyed of Asia over the long run. Hmm. And and the statements of nsmt Malik that the sun had, you know, gone down to a certain degree that its rays came through the window, or the the

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passageway in the house of the prophets, I sell them, but the sun couldn't be seen. So they estimated it, it was double the length of a staff, Alabama Shafi and the Johor magically membership early ma'am admin, the majority opinion amongst Muslim scholars other than the mother hanifa is that it's past its own length. So it's not it doesn't, it's past its own length, it doesn't have to be double the length. So it's just an understanding of when salata lasser comes in. But what unifies the oma, is that we both pray us as to do is it at 350, or is it at 430. That's a subjective understanding that is immaterial compared to it. And that's another thing that you get with, for

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example, the moon sighting, some people like they like to make a joke about and call a talk about moon fighting. I really don't like those kind of sarcastic jokes. And it's not about fighting, there's nobody fighting with anyone, it's that we see, you know, people see jurisprudence in different way. And they see the evidence pointing to a particular way. Both of them want to fast the month of Ramadan, both of one one to observe late at the cloud, both of them are asking for forgiveness, one of them is starting in accordance to what they believe is a particular time to enter and the others, they see it No, it's a little bit too early, we're going to wait a little bit,

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until we're sure if we'll manickam we can't see it. So we're just gonna wait we don't need to calculate for it. Both of them are rewarded by a law, both of them are correct. In that sense, both of them should not condemn the other. And as Muslims, we need to rise above those kind of silly

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things that split us apart, and not look at what's diverging this, but look at the overall theme of what's joining us which is fasting to Allah, going hungry to appreciate the pain of others, submitting ourselves to an order, Allah said don't eat, I'm not going to eat, don't drink, I'm not going to drink anywhere I am in the world. So having that perspective becomes a really important

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way of looking at the world.

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We'll take Are there any questions that have come through Facebook? Let me check the Facebook as well.

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Mashallah, we see people are listening today from different parts of the world, from the Philippines to Perth here in my hometown, where I'm staying at the moment.

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So if there are questions, do fire them through the Facebook and, or you can send them through

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the telegram service. All right, we have another one here. If you are struggling and sometimes forget to ask a lot for help, but keep on not performing well. For example, on an essay or other things, what should you do? All right. So asking a loss of Hannah with Allah for help and being answered by Allah are two separate things. So the act of asking the act of honoring a law, the act of worshiping a law the act of relying upon a law that's important, whether you are answered or not, whether you receive the answer that you wanted or not, right. So I can be asking Allah subhanaw taala for good health. And that aspect of asking the Ric the my asking of a lot that on its own is

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separate to whether Allah, whether I will get a cure or not. They are related only in that I'm petitioning a law. But as a part of my request I must have in my heart, that our law I'm asking you because you're the one be ethical, higher You are the one who goodness is in his hand. And it's in my understanding, if you give this to me, this is something that I want, but you know what is better and what isn't for me for my life for my home and for my family, and that's why I set out to list harder, so powerful and asking a lot for guidance.

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So when you're asking a lot to forgive you, are you asking a lot to forgive you? Because you know you've committed wrong? Are you asking a lot to forgive you because you're worried about being punished. See, those are two different ways of looking at it. One of them is honoring a loss of Hannah attallah. The other is honoring yourself and it's a part of your ego. Now there's nothing wrong with wanting to escape jahannam but to escape jahannam you have to go back to that first part, which is to recognize a lot to honor a lot. One of the most beautiful Hadith of the prophets I send them he said low limb to neighborhoods narrated by the man Muslim. If you were not sinners, if you

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didn't make mistakes, let there have a lot who become Allah would remove you off the face of the earth. Well, Jagger told me you know, boon and bring in your place those who do commit sins, way of selfhood own a lot, but ask a lot for forgiveness fail funeral at home, and he will forgive them. They're in a mountain discussing this. How do they say that act of asking for forgiveness is an act of worship. It shows a law that you recognize there's nowhere to turn but to him. Lamb melda y la manga Mina, la, la La, you have no escape, no protection, no ability to save yourself except with the one who can punish you, and fulfill a rule in a law run away back to me to Allah. I even attend

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the moon, Allah says, where you think you're going? Where can you go? So keep that in your mind?

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asking Allah Subhana Allah is separate to whether you get the answer in the way you want or not. It's not about the answer. It's about honoring a law. That is what produces contentment in whatever answer you're given. So sometimes I get people to think in some of their difficult circumstances as to why they weren't answered in the way they've wanted. You know, not because a person is suffering an illness, and they made a sincere draw out to a love that that means that illness will go away. That's not how it works. A loss of kinda with the island may still allow the illness to run its course with an individual. So where so where does that fit in that do it on its own is your way of

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earning contentment. So if in your heart at the time you're making Do you recognize that it may not be answered the way you want, but you're still content or the to Billa hiraga, I'm content with a lot, even with this challenge, will Islam in my submission to a lot even with this challenge, and with Muhammad's way, even with its challenge, then a lot puts contentment in your heart that you're able to deal with the illness, even though it doesn't go away, but it doesn't drown you. It doesn't pin you. It doesn't end you. It liberates you, because you've understood your place with a lot. So what I would say to you is keep struggling, keep fighting, keep studying, keep working. And don't

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forget to ask a law, but ask a lot in a meaningful way for asking a law, not for receiving something from a law. There's this powerful statement. You, you and I we need to love a law not for what we want of him but because we are in need of him. So the need we have of a law not for our needs, but for the need to be with him is what you drive us to increase our love of him. So Hannah went to Allah. And it's now nearly 30 minutes that we've been together which is the time limit that we've always set for the sessions. I pray that Allah subhanaw taala accept it from you and I look forward to seeing you again. Get your questions down. If you haven't already registered or yourselves and

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your family and your children do register for the self paced program. Yeah Abraham comm forward slash puberty definitely worth it. So conical omega handig, a Shinto Allah Illa Allah and as suffruticosa to Lake was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah he or cat

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