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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah. He will say that more saline were either early he was hardly a Jemaine or praise belongs to Allah and made a peace and blessings of Allah be upon His final messenger Muhammad Sall Allahu Allah who only was salam, Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh My dear brothers and sisters and views at home Welcome to another episode of Islamic where you're given the opportunity to put your questions to us inshallah Tada either through the telephone number that you can call which is appearing on the bottom of your screen every so often. Or you can post your questions through the WhatsApp number is

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also appearing at the bottom of your screen insha Allah Allah

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may Allah Subhana Allah bless you all. So as we are waiting for you to call into the show in Salat Inshallah, to Allah and also to

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take your questions

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through the WhatsApp, I wanted to mention the importance of doing extra deeds.

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And the Hadith Guzzi which comes to mind, in which that the Prophet sallallahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam told us that there must

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be beloved actions that will bring you closer to Allah subhanaw taala of course and paraphrasing the meaning or those actions which will bring you close to Allah subhanaw taala and are the most beloved to Allah subhanaw taala are those which are the are to be considered the opening obligations, okay. So as a Muslim, every day that starts you look to fulfill what Allah terracotta Allah has obligated upon you, whether that comes in the form of your daily prayers, or whether it is to fulfill your trusts or your promises and responsibilities towards people. As a Muslim, you try your very best to, to fulfill those, remembering that this is the most beloved action to Allah subhanaw taala and these

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are the obligations.

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Then after that, and Hadith continues, that the servant will continue to get close to Allah subhanaw taala and gain a closeness to Allah generator. And that Allah, Allah Allah will help that servant and aid that certain servant until they are, as the Prophet SAW, Allah Allah says in the Hadith, that Allah they will they will Allah Allah Allah will be this decide with what they see within the hearing that the here with and the hand which they stretch out with Allah subhanaw taala will aid them and help them into that Subhanallah

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this hadith mentions a number of beautiful reminders to us. But the showerhead what the point of me mentioning this particular narration is that if the servant is engaged in extra acts, and if we take it as a given for all of us that all of our obligatory acts that they would have some shortcomings

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that they will maybe have some mistakes and how do we make up for that? We can make up for that by doing extra deeds and with regards to the prayer or the will negatory prayer there are the Sunnah prayers or sunnah Lewa tip that we can offer before whether they offered before or after Salah you know to before Fajr the two or rather the four before the horse to after the horse to have the mockery been to off to Asia and you with that as well.

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These are some of the other might have mentioned alongside if a person wants to offer those 12 raka per day that are logical available built for them, you know, a house or pilots in the paradise but they can also serve to make up for the shortcomings that we may have or you and I have in NL press. So offering the Sunon acts are the extra acts extra charity, extra prayers during the day extra vicar that you made during the day all of this and shadow goes about and brings you closer to Allah subhanaw taala and if you bear in mind that all the time that you are engaged in these extra sunnah acts and if we kind of add another

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benefit to the Sunnah, acts that if you don't do those certain acts, it is not that you're you're sinful.

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Meaning that yes, the obligations have to be done and if you don't fulfill them, then you will be sinful and accountable for that. The Sunnah acts are different. If you don't do them, then you're not accountable in the sense that you're not not punishable if you don't do them.

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But no doubt if you do do them. If you carry them out then it was a great reward. for that. Just imagine

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In the Hadith, which is in both al Bukhari moments, when Muslim, that the Prophet alayhi salam said Man, Sama, Yeoman feasterville Allah, Whoever fasts a day, in the path of Allah for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala but Allah Who would you who and and notice that they're in a hurry for,

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that Allah subhanaw taala will distance the face of that person away from the fire 70 Khalifa which some of the interpret 70 years, that's just one voluntary day of fasting.

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So, when we are not only aware of how that impacts you directly, meaning your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala because it means that you are constantly engaging and connecting with your LORD with Allah subhanaw taala while there are many more incentives as well,

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that Allah subhanaw taala will aid you in your actions and help you in your behavior. And that there is, you know, a desert okra we there is a great reward in the Hereafter, where one fasting day Subhan Allah will distance you away from the Hellfire for for 70 years, and that's just one day. So I would encourage myself COVID yourselves and you shares these benefits as well as hello to Allah to one another, about establishing that what is extra and over and above the fraud.

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And one individual who is engaging and conducting that or, you know, performing the

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extra good deeds will be that further away from leaving the Ferrari.

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You see the point there, the person is just restricting themselves to just the obligations, the shaytaan may come to them at one time and tell them to delay or to not even perform an obligatory act. So the person is kind of almost on the edge when they're just and only restricting themselves to the obligatory acts. Whereas if you're engaging in the extra deeds, extra acts the Sunon that maybe there was a time when you didn't perform the Sunnah act, especially when the Sunnah act is connected to the fourth connected to the obligatory act, that you're protecting the obligatory act from ever being neglected, or you being neglectful of those obligatory acts because you're engaging

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in the dissonant acts, because of the extra good deeds that you do around the obligations. And no one can be saved. No one can be guaranteed any kind of position or place, and what they're doing so we're all in need of encouraging one another, to do good deeds, and ensuring that the good deeds that we do are in line with the teachings of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, that there was no good except that the Prophet alayhi salam told us about it,

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and that there was no wrong or evil except that the Prophet alayhi wa sallam warned us of that. So we asked a lot of articles to our to give us the success that give us the tofield to allow us to be from those servants who instilled good practice and to instill these extra are our tip or Sunon prayers or sin and Sunnah Undertaker, or whatever form the extra deeds they come in, to allow that to be a part of our, you know, of our A Bader of our worship on a daily basis long I mean,

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the second point I wanted to mention Inshallah, to Allah and this was just mentioned, prior to myself coming here was about

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approaching the Quran, the best way to tackle and you know, to engage ourselves in the Quran because many of us and especially during the month of Ramadan, we were reminded about, you know, reciting Quran, learning the Quran memorizing the Quran.

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If I started if I start reciting in certain places of the Quran, Is this allowed? Do I need to start it? There seems to be a lot of hesitation

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about how to deal with or how to interact with the book of Allah subhanaw taala.

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Now, is there a one set way or one set approach and how to approach the Quran? No, there is not. Because there are different ways of approaching the Quran involves this recitation involves it teaching to the bar or pondering over its meanings, memorizing. So there's many, many approaches that all of us can have with regards to the book of Allah subhanaw taala, it's important for us to,

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to know what those different kinds of approaches are, because maybe one is more beloved to myself than another. All of us should have a recitation that we engage in, okay. But maybe one wants to go into more with a Tafseer a deeper meaning and referring to the books of deficit, or maybe another person wants to ponder over some of the verses of the creation for example. So this is another an important approach for us to watch.

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On a data concerning Smilla the Quran so without any further delay, we have a call on the line Masha Allah so we'll take this call now. Salam, Aleikum. WA. Salam Chuck, how are you? I'm fine brother barnacle. Have a question, please. My question is, you know, when you're doing your quote for next time, I have to stop. And if you forget to do so, what is the next step you can do? Okay.

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Good question, brother. May Allah Subhana. Allah bless you. Thank you. You're welcome. Okay, so the brothers asked about sujood a sell, to do a sell. So don't mean in the frustration, so, meaning to be forgetful. Now, it is legislated for a Muslim that if there is some form of mistake,

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which covers forgetfulness as well, then this leads to me having to make that up. Okay, or to do something because I forgot, that is done with two prostrations at the end of the prayer. Now, this is a sub chapter that you find in the book. So *, that's the sub chapter of sujood SL, the frustration of forgetfulness. And when do I do it? Okay. For example, I forget Surah Al Fatiha, do I make sudo Su? Is that sufficient? Or if for example, if I forget to make the first to shepherd in the first sitting of the prayer is the prostration of forgetfulness is that sufficient to make up for it? So in this sub chapter, there are certain things which yes, it is sufficient for you to make

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up for in others, which is not. We don't have time really to go into any great depth and we can't teach a Subchapter on the show at the moment. But specifically, the brothers asking that the person is in a situation and have determined that they need to make two prostrations at the end of the Salah.

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Let's say for example, they thought they forgot the first dish. Okay, they just got up at the end of the second rocker.

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In this situation to frustrations or forgetfulness is made before you make the sleep, let's say so they stand up for the third rock and it was in their mind to perform to prostrations before they complete the prayer. So they perform the second or third Raka and then the fourth rocker. And then they may say ceramide equal ma Rahmatullah Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah. They complete their prayer. And they forget to make the frustration of forgetfulness. And then, let's say they're in the masjid.

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Or they're in the place of prayer, where they offered the prayer, and they're making the clicker. And it's like two or three, four minutes later, something like that. And then they realized that they didn't make the two prostrations of forgetfulness. So as long as that person is still within the vicinity of that place of prayer, that's a very short amount of time. We're not specifying what time because it's, you know, it's someone which jihadi it's an issue, which is some legal kind of reasoning over what's reasonable. But I'm not a long time as past. You couldn't make the two prostrations of forgetfulness right there and then, okay, so you make you go.

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It makes you prostrations or forgetfulness

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and then you say Salaam Alaikum, and after la Santa Monica. Okay, so that's what you could do, if you forgot to do it, and you're still within the place of prayer. And a lot of long had time had passed.

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Another scenario is that

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as I just mentioned, the same scenario, okay, that you forgot to do the dishes, and then

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you're performing or supposed to perform to frustrations of forgetfulness. And then you went away back to work. You went home, maybe an hour passes half an hour, 45 minutes passes, you're away from the place of prayer. What to do now?

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Because now you've essentially detached yourself from that prayer as opposed to the first scenario you're kind of still in the place of prayer making the ticket okay, you can make up for it. If you've departed, you're away and a time has passed

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from that offering of the prayer then the time for doing that should sudo the SIR who was passed Okay. Salah is valid for Salah is valid in Charlotte Allah by the time for doing that has passed. Okay, you would, you know, suddenly you know, you're at home and you offered your Salah at the masjid and son, you must do prostrations of forgetfulness window right there and then you've got away from the place of prayer. Time has passed. And so therefore we'd say you're disconnected from that prayer that prayer is kind of overkill. But in future inshallah you try your best not to

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omit because nobody doesn't intentionally, but try to concentrate a little bit more on your prayer, and it can happen to anyone. It happened to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam. What happened is that he forgot it on one occasion he forgot he prayed to rock

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Instead of fool SallAllahu sallam, so you know, forgetfulness can happen to any human being.

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And we know that when this happened to the Prophet alayhi salam, he reminded the Companions he said that I'm a human being like you, but if I forget remind me, okay, are they salatu salam so this is the situation I hope it's clear the answer brother and Allah subhanaw taala knows best

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next question

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Smilla I've committed major sins and feel distant from Allah subhanaw taala and even when I make an effort to reconnect with him, I feel distant and find it easy to fall into sin again without guilt please advise me

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Okay, so,

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every single one of us will sin, okay, every human being will sin.

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Now, those sins that we may fall into, they vary in the in their size. And we note we see size because there are major sins on or minuses.

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Now, that major sin that you may have fallen into,

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says, you feel distant.

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The fact that it you feel distant, is a sign of your iman

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is a sign of your iman. And why do I say that?

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A companion, he came to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam,

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he says O Messenger of Allah, that there are times when these thoughts come to my mind

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that if I were to say these thoughts,

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it would be seen as a great sin something very evil. We never say these things. And I feel weakness I feel very bad for these thoughts. What is the situation the prophet Isaiah respond to them saying, this is the this is the reality of iman. This is true imagine

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that you have this feeling towards something which is wrong. Now the person isn't accountable for the thoughts. Okay? Those thoughts that may come to your mind as long as you're not speaking about them or acting upon them? You're not accountable for that you're not accountable for that will you learn? Okay, this is clear from the Hadith.

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But the fact as you mentioned in the Hadith, or is not the Hadith worthy of your question I should say is that you feel distant delicacy holy man. That is a clear indication of your iman and that you feel bad. Now even though you've mentioned

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you find it easy to fall into sin again without guilt. Well, this goes against the the first part of the question. The first part of question you said you feel

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distant from Allah subhanaw taala. A shaitan shaytaan. Okay, sadness,

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and feeling guilty unnecessarily losing hope. This is all from shaytan Okay, for you to lose hope in the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala. This is what the shaytaan wants the believer to fall into. But if you commit dissent, there's no going back for you. If you commit dissent, you are the worst of servants and you are so ungrateful. And there's no point you making Toba because you're so far away. You need to be sincere. Okay, when you make tilbyr You need to be sincere when you make Toba and you're not sincere. So how can you make

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the shaytaan will come to you and say these things do to prevent you to distract you to you know, stop you wanting to make a sincere repentance.

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You will have to be realistic as open the sisters that you know when you repent.

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You do something wrong and you feel bad.

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And that sin has an impact on the man it can you know, lessen and weaken the Eman? No doubt.

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If you repent and you are sorry and you feel guilty and you make a you know, promise within yourself, I don't want to do that again. Okay, you may be weak Yes. But you still have the desire not to do it again.

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It doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to then have the Eman and the strength of a man like Masha Allah somebody who has not been engaging in that sin.

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But the impact is that inshallah to Allah if you are sincere that a lot of our client will forgive your sin.

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Your sin will be forgiven but isn't it later Allah in Allah Yaga Pharaohs Zulu by Jamia to Allah to work to Allah forgives all sins,

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but the impact of that sin may still remain with you. But with regards to a sin insha Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah forgive that sin. It is now you need to work for for the better.

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And that the next time the next time you have an inclination or a desire to fall into that sin and then you stop yourself

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meaning that you're not just gonna just say no and not do it. But you have taken you know some steps

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so

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The sin that you have committed means that you have to go to a certain place or you need to have something which is with you to facilitate the sin,

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you have your cut that means of, you know, committing that sin. So, you've taken steps

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when the opportunity comes and that you are able to refrain from it, this is where you will see the change within yourself inshallah to Allah

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a clear change, I mean, you know, change may occur before that with you doing other good deeds engaging in more a bad dirt, you know, and things like you feel the benefit of that. But when that opportunity to do that sin comes again, and then you turn away from it, you will feel even stronger.

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And the simple equation is that sins, they will weaken and less than your Eman

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and with a bar that with worship, it will strengthen and raise your iman. Okay, this is the simple equation.

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So, if you've done something wrong, repent to Allah subhanaw taala and try to engage in as much good deeds as you can, this will strengthen your iman. Okay? And this will allow you to feel close to Allah subhanaw taala and not so distant. Okay, so, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to forgive us all, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to allow us to remain strong in the face of, of the noob of sins, because the sins are so many and the opportunities are, you know, almost countless, especially in the time that we're living in now, where munkar or the evil can be spread so quickly.

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of times past, you know, maybe the evil would be restricted to a particular place and it's not you know, isn't able to it's not easy to to spread it around. Moncada now is very easy to spread, especially with the advent of social media and all its forms, you know, filth and evil and, and wrongdoing and oppression can be spread at the click of a button, you know, or the share of over a particular

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you know, social media sites, something like that, you can easily spread like wildfire and go around the world in a matter of couple of hours and things like that. So the stakes are so much higher for us. But the practical steps that we can take to to protect us from the denoble they're, you know, whatever means brings us closer to that sin, you know, try to cut that whether it's your device, your phone, if it's your phone or your other computer, your PC or whatever it is that allows you to engage in, in you know, some form of sin and you need to make a stance towards that. distance yourself from it, strengthen yourself and then you are able to stay from them. Okay, so we've come

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to the end of their first pot. Please stay with us until we reach the second balaclava.

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Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah by the salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh brothers and sisters of us at home. Welcome to the second part of Islamic

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world hamdulillah we're going through your questions whether they came through the telephone call, or mostly through the WhatsApp. And I asked a lot of awkward to Allah to accept all of our deeds make it easy for us. I mean, and we'll continue with the WhatsApp questions, but isn't it later either?

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So What rights does a woman have over the husband in the dark period?

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Right so

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for those who are a little bit confused as to what the situation is with regards to divorce,

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if a divorce takes place, let's say husband, he pronounces divorce to his wife.

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And she will now start

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the clock. This clock is called the red. It is called a waiting time waiting period. How long does this last? This lasts for the completion of three monthly menstrual cycles. When she completes the third one becomes a hazard. That's when

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the divorce becomes if you'd like effective, meaning that the divorce the marriage is then over. Up until then, and before

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they are still technically married.

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So the husband, he pronounced divorce to his wife. Okay.

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Does that mean marriage is over? No. If it's the first divorce we're talking about now making money because make it simple. So technically, they're still married. So What rights does she have over him? The same rights, nothing changes.

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He still has the responsibility of protecting her

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spending on her. Okay, they say

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rights that existed before still are applicable now. And in short

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this the situation, but they know now, that the situation is a bit more critical in that if the husband does not decide to revoke the divorce meaning to take the doors back so that they stay married that eventually if she completes the three month cycle duration without him doing that, then

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the marriage is over

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and they go and live their own lives. Now, during this time they should live together

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they should stay together to remind each other of the impact of the situation that they are maybe they have children.

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So you need to understand the implications of what is happening here okay, but essentially this is

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what is upon each other inshallah to Allah Allah, Allah Allah.

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Next question, my sister is doing hedge on behalf of my deceased mother, can I contribute towards it? Or shall I save the money from my own hedge? I have not been yet.

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Okay, so if you don't have the means, at the moment,

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and the common question is,

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right. So I now have the amount of money that's needed to make how much it becomes an obligation upon you. If the conditions are fulfilled for you, okay?

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If you don't have that means I don't have the financial means is it now an obligation of you to save it's an obligation for you to save for Hajj. And if you don't save for your sinful?

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No, it is not an obligation for you to save right now. Okay, so that then you put aside that money for Hajj, that's not an obligation upon you. So if it is the case at the moment that you don't have the financial means to perform Hajj completely No. Absolutely no problem in you giving some of your money to somebody if they're going to perform Hajj

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whether it's on behalf of your deceased mother, I asked Allah Allah have mercy upon her or for another person for that matter, okay? So there's no problem inshallah Tada, you contributing towards that, okay and Allah subhanaw taala hippest.

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If a man takes an oath and now the husband, he makes an oath. If the wife does a particular action,

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then she is divorced.

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Can he later revoke this oath?

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Right.

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So the husband says,

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if you go to your mother's house, if you go to your mother's house Wallahi I will divorce you, he says or he says for example, by Allah, if you do this, you are divorced.

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Okay, if you do as a little bit actually closer to the question, I'm saying he knows that if you do something, you are divorced.

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First and foremost, we say that these types of statements, you shouldn't make them. Okay, you should not make such statements.

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Many a time, many a time when questions are posed to myself, a lot of them to do with issues that really are not deserving of you divorcing your wife because of something. Okay? And, you know, trying to because, you know, the individual feels that husband feels I want to teach her a lesson show who's the boss, this is not how you should do it, okay. This is not how you interact with your spouse. And if there are, you know, because at times you have to admit as well that may be one side or the other, there is maybe a lack of respect and things like that it can occur, okay, but resolving these issues is done in a particular way

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and threatening with divorce or making a divorce with conditioner with a tidy up or something like that.

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A lot of the time it is a problem.

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What I would say to you, because these are divorce issues, okay? Even though it's to do with making notes, okay, is that

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if it is before if a divorce has happened, if a divorce has happened and things like that you need to take it to account so you need to take some form of

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group of scholars who deal with divorce, okay, we can't deal with divorce on this particular show. It has happened and you need to take it to them Inshallah, tada. Prior to that, okay, divorce hasn't happened. And

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but you have made an oath that if somebody is going to, if your wife goes does something that you divorced, so you want to break that oath, and you want to expiate for the oath, then you can remove the oath. Okay, you can explain

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For the oath, so that oath no longer remains. I mean, maybe the husband says, if you leave the front door, or you know, sometimes she has to leave.

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And then, you know, is it practical to say that she has to remain in the home for the rest of her life? Otherwise she's divorced? No. So he wants to expiate that sin not send rather than oath, then he can do so. So that the it is no longer hanging over them. Okay. But I would say in general not to make these kinds of statements and alasa.

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Okay, there's another question here. So I'm going to share

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is regarding a family member, she got married last year, and moved in with the husband's family

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mashallah, there's a lot of people living in the house, there's some brothers there as well. And there's the father there as well and whatnot in law.

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But the handout what the wife know is

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she gave birth, she got a four month child.

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However, the situation in the home is that,

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at least from her point of view, she feels that the mother in law is not giving them or she'll have no space, that sometimes she enters into the room and this and that. And you know, she feels that also she has

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power post, postnatal some some depression, postnatal depression. And it's impacted the relationship between the husband, the husband doesn't understand her.

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And he says to her, she's not the only child, the only one in the world who has a child and Forbes, Forbes, her off to deal with it, is causing resentment in her heart?

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Could you give any advice to improve the situation and the marriage?

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So

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when you have an issue, which is now impacting the husband and wife,

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the very first step to resolve this situation, is that the husband and wife both have to recognize that there's an issue. Okay, if one part is not recognizing there was a problem, it's very difficult to fix the situation. Okay, when looking at any,

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any conflict,

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if the two parties, maybe there are more, if only one party is recognizing there's a problem, and everybody else has no problem, it's going to be very difficult to reconcile. Okay. Without some drastic, kind of, from the one who's feeling the problem, or going through the trial for them, maybe, you know, you know, removing themselves from the situation completely, and then how that impacts the family, you know, who knows what's going to happen? So first and foremost, I would say that

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I

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would advise your sister, that with your husband, for you to go with your husband to go and speak to a person of knowledge.

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Whether he says, Well, you know, I don't see a problem.

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That's no problem. The fact that somebody they themselves don't see a problem doesn't mean that there isn't a problem, because many a time, a problem can be underneath your own eyes, and you don't see it. Okay?

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So for the wife, males partner, make it easy for you, is to speak to your husband, because it has to start this way. Because you're taught, you're talking about how to interact with your husband's family. And we want to remain respectful is there hope. And we don't want to make the situation worse. So I would, first and foremost, say, engage with your husband and say, Listen, I want to speak with a third party. So that the situation can be explained to you in a different way, not just to hear it from me, or at least can present it to you from a different person. You just telling me that just to get on with it.

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It's not a solution for me. Okay. And you as a husband have responsibility to look after me, which is a reality. It's the husband's responsibility to look after his wife's well being. And so therefore, if the wife

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is asking for help,

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it's not correct or befitting for a husband to dismiss it.

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Husband, even if the husband doesn't understand, which can happen. Many, many times it happens the husband doesn't understand that there is a problem. Nonetheless, the wife believes that there was a problem. There is something that she is living experience every single day. And the fact that there is a four month

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child involved.

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The stakes are very high. The the well being of the mother is very important for the well being of the child as well.

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So I would encourage the sister to speak with the husband.

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So then for them to go and speak somebody

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and then the situation can be presented

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it in a calm manner in a respectful manner, the fact that he needs to be reminded, well, I don't see a problem, that's fine. If you don't see it, the fact that you don't see it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Okay? This is a clear response and a respectful responses about the fact if you don't see it, no problem. No one expects you to know everything, but there is an issue.

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And I'm living the issue, I'm living the problem, I'm going through the difficult situation, let's go to a person of knowledge.

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Or counselor, somebody who's trained in that, okay, they can help us deal with the situation. And the situation like this when the sisters is not is not unique.

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In some cultures, where

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when the husband, he gets married to somebody, and then they live with with him and in the house where his mother is there, his father is there, and maybe he has siblings as well. You know, this is

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common in many Muslim cultures. So it's not a new unique situation.

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And because it's not unique, happens a lot.

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The solutions, you know, they can be arrived at, it is possible to resolve these things. No matter how, you know how deep and complicated the person thinks they are. That there's no way of getting a solution for this there is always always a solution, inshallah. Tada, okay. And there's no need for anyone to be jumping

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to, you know, worst case scenario solution first.

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Okay. Oh, this can never be sorted out. I want a separation. What I want to divorce Yes, divorce does exist in Islam. But it's certainly not the first port of call. Absolutely. But the shaytaan wants to separate families wants to cause you know, rifts between husband and wife. And the easiest way to do that is to start suggesting to people divorce divorce divorce, or Hola, hola, hola. You know, dissolution of the marriage

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as the first solution.

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This is

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not the guidance of the Quran.

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You know, there are verses were a lot about what Allah tells us, if there is Chicago, there is differences between the families, then you send a representative of his family, a representative of her family to come together, if they want to find a solution, not to jump to Talaq not to jump to divorce or dissolution of the marriage and whatnot.

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So there are processes to go through. Okay. Not always the easiest, I understand that because of, you know, heightened emotion and tension between people. And

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sometimes we want to reach a resolution at the click of a finger, that at times, that doesn't happen, and it's not possible to happen. But go through the correct channels, do things properly, always seeking Allah subhanaw taala his help and his aid

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in such pressurized and difficult situations? And although, you know, my

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answer is directed to the sister who's put this particular question out there, you could say that the you know, the advice I'm giving is really is a general advice to anyone in this situation. Okay. And, you know, to speak with the husband, and even if he's in denial, it's not a problem. Okay? IE, it needs to be said to him that the fact that you don't know doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Okay? I know that there is an issue, just as you may bring up a problem, but I can't see your problem. Okay, I'm not going to deny your problem. If I'm here to fix it. Let's work together. This is a responsibility of, of the husband and wife to be a team. okay for them to work together. And

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especially with the fact that you have a child involved as well. the well being of the child is of the utmost importance. Okay?

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So happy wife happy life happy life as they say. If your wife is happy to have a daddy you happy have a happy life brother and you have a happy child as well. So we ask Allah subhanaw taala to join their hearts make it easy for them and anyone else who's going through such a situation I mean,

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okay.

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I am over a over the age of 65 Can I go ahead with a group of women

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right?

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The age is irrelevant to be honest with you.

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Whether you're 65 or 265 Okay, your agency irrelevant.

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If you want to go to Hajj as a woman, there are certain conditions to be fulfilled and that is that you go with a Muslim. Okay, you go with a haram you go with one of your male family members whether it is your husband, your father, your brother or your son, okay if your uncle

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and that way you would fulfill the conditions of Hajj before that it's not an obligation upon you. And then you can go Hajj Inshallah, to Allah may Allah Subhana Allah when away for you, Allah I mean,

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we have a caller on the line, we'll take that call challenge and remembering we're coming close to the end of the show. So please put your question as simple as you can. So we have time to answer inshallah. Tada. So now Monica

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Hello, Monica. Yes.

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I

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want to ask you a question Bismillah

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plenty of times

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I went to these, you know, like these fortune tellers and these psychics

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for like quick answers, you know, like

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yeah, just like for quick answers and stuff and

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I just want to like if it's if it's a sin to go to these people, and

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All right, yeah. And I do regret going to these people and do you think that Allah will forgive me? Okay. Shall May Allah bless you, sister is very important question. Thank you. Thank you.

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Okay. So, going to fortune tellers, people, crystal balls, you know, find out what's going to happen in the tea leaves and so on and so forth.

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Whatever form they come in, it is haram.

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Without exception, it is haram for any Muslim to go to such an individual who claims to know the unseen

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this person Olivia Dale hype who claims to know the unseen for Kedah than they are a liar. Nobody knows the future.

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It is not allowed for any Muslim to go to any Fortune teller. Find out quick answers or whatever the situation not allowed.

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If a person has done that in the past, we ask Allah Allah to forgive us and Allah subhanaw taala yes of course he can forgive you sister hamdulillah but do not return to such people

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they're taking money they're taking money in a false way haram way

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and whatever they claim I've got a good you know good way of telling the truth you Elia the professor's and prohibited us from going to such people. It is haram haram haram

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so we ask a lot of tolerance Panathenaic to protect us from and yes, Allah Allah I can forgive you and handling now. Just be sincere in your your toolbar. Okay, there's a couple of questions unfortunately we've run out of time I do apologize for that. So maybe next time shut out I will try our best to answer them. So with the end of that inshallah we've come to the end of the show until again, Charlotte Allah Baraka low FICO, salaam, Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. Yeah, are you Hello?

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