How to be a Happy Husband 1 of 4

Waleed Basyouni

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When I

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fell

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in love

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Mohammed Abu

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Mohammed Mohammed, Salah

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hamidah Majeed, another Oprah is due to allow this praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family, his companions and all his followers until the dicta I bear witness that allows only one worker for sure. And

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his last and final messenger

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then said that there was a man

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walk walking to the beach of Galveston

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has been walking on the beach in the night. And he found that magical land, we will rather than the genie comes out of it.

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The genie came out and he said to him, give me your wishes. You have one wish and are granted to you.

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So

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he said to him, my wish that I would love to go to the Bahamas. But I'm scared to fly.

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So I want you to build me a bridge over from Galveston to the Bahamas. On a one this highway in I can't drive straight all the way to the Bahamas that comes back.

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Then he said that's too long. I've been locked up in this land for a long time, I have a lot of things to catch up with. No to something easier than that doesn't take that much effort and that much time to be accomplished. Then he simply told him

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Okay.

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I'm not a happy husband.

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I don't know how to make my wife happy.

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And it is getting rough between me and her. So I want you to teach me the secrets behind a happy wife. Then the Jimmy told

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it will. Can you tell me? How many lanes you want that bridge to be?

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easier?

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This seems exactly joke can be said about a while walking in the beach of Dallas. Who saw that didn't he and told him the same question.

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I mean, we say this and we laugh at this is husband and the same thing they can say and the same thing they can complain

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about that they cannot understand us. As much as we sometimes complain that we cannot understand that.

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Allah Subhana Allah told us in the

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room, one

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john and

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john Anna COO,

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coo coo coo,

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coo

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Gato

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Allah subhanaw taala among his, among His Signs

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and holla I recommend

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that you have created for you,

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mates from among yourselves, that you may drill and tranquility with

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and he has put love and mercy between your hearts rarely in that of science for those who reflect.

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So, this relationship between husband and wife should be based on happy life.

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And for us, we are very familiar that women all speak about their feelings. They express their feelings very well sometimes, but men are not very good at expressing the feelings. Men are not often speak about how they feel what they want. But if this is the case, don't ever think for a moment, especially my sisters, that men don't have feelings.

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Or we don't have as men feelings. men go through several different types of feelings and stop the day the end of the day. ups and downs range of emotions from the start of the day until the end of the day.

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Is that why pays no attention to her husband's feelings, and to be sensitive to

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it, we can vary based on the relationships, when the wife should just ignore what your husband's feelings are? And what is going through.

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We usually speak about the wire and the rights of the wife, and how can you make your wife happy, and how come to have to have a happy wife, which is I think it's well needed in our community. But today, my speak is not the speech is not about this subject. It is about the other side of the coin. Today, my talk is about how to have a happy husband, how to make your husband happy person at all. And,

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and I believe it is very essential for the wife to think about this as often as she mentioned, think about it as well, about the

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sister, have you ever wished that you could read your husband's mind,

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in Western culture and so familiar, that husband and wife talk to each other expressive with each other's, you know, feelings as they sit down to talk about, but for my experience in dealing with so many cases, I can tell you,

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there is a percentage among Muslims and others, that so many of Muslims family, they don't have privilege, Muslims has been so many of them don't sit down and express freely what they believe how they feel. And I'm not saying this is right, this is wrong. If this is the reality. That's what it is. And we need to deal with it, we need to tell we can encourage, as much as we can, to speak out and to tell them to share the feelings, the culture will dominate in so many cases, however, it is. So as I said, common to see some Muslim men they are.

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They have thought that when it comes to expressing their emotions, especially towards their wife, especially towards the wife, and to talk openly with them about

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you know, it's always hard to express your thoughts. But I always think it's more hard, it's hard to express even your feelings. So you came a really challenging task in front of us as men, to express our feelings. So today, I would like to give my sister's

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an access to our mind as husbands are about to see how we think, when we think of

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when we think of her, because I believe men and woman one of the secrets of successful marriage, to realize that we are two different species, if you want to say that, in a certain sense, we think in a different way we we sync together very well. But we are very different than the way we see things. And we handle things and we analyze things. And without realizing this fact became a problem in the marriage and nurture relationships, it became available, it can even break down this marriage quicker and make it to fall apart in no time and no time. Today, I would like to give you an access to so many men's hearts and minds, to know what we think about

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how we think about our spouse, or

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what exactly we want some of the things that you might not be able to hear directly from your husband. But is there a person will receive all of these people always given bad things not always complained, but always I see the good and bad from modulation. But I deal with in my community, I have up to seeing them to allow you to see how so many men things. And then every man thinks that way. But believe it or not these 10 points that I'm going to share with you today. One of them or two of its not all of them. It's already in your husband's mouth. It's already in your life on a future husband mind. So be careful about today, I want you to know

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that there is no man unless he wants to have a husband. None of us want to live a miserable life. Every married person, every married man don't want to go back home to unhappy relationship. We all want to live in ease, no difficulty, no problem that is normal ever wish to live in a difficult life or situation like this. We're always looking for a happy marriage or relationship. There's no doubt about that. There's no doubt about that. But also, I wanted to mention that it is very essential for you to think about to think about how your husbands feels about you. Because it's not about how you feel about him. It's about how he feels about how he sees things. How he sees things because that's

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that's the key