Friday Sermon – Defeating Anger

Waleed Basyouni


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The importance of being patient and not angry in order to achieve success in life is discussed, along with tips on how to control anger and avoid negative consequences. The speakers stress the need for individuals to control their anger and avoid future negative consequences by showing it to others, avoiding negative emotions, and learning to manage their anger. They also provide advice on how to manage one's anger and avoid future negative consequences.

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wash Hello number two who are soo Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad Anwar Muhammad Tomas Aleta Rahim are already in Mecca. Hamidah Majeed offers due to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family, his companions and his followers until the day that I bear witness that Allah is the only one with your fortune, and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his last and final messenger, my dear brothers and sisters, our origin, our Shreya the shear over the snap the religion of Islam, encourage us to adhere to great quality and character that identify the Muslim character. And one of it is to be patient, to be patient to

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be for barrier in the city, a lot of suburb.

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Sharia told us that one of Allah subhanaw taala has named Al Hellene the forbearance what's one of the quality of Allah subhanho That he is patient Subhana wa Tada one of the quality of

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the tea is is it Cebu, Cebu?

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And that's why we've been asked and encouraged to adhere to such quality and also the sheer awareness from the opposite of it, which is to be every person rate to be filled with negative feelings and reactions towards what's happened to you and why they are made anger from a Sherpa and being patient for a barrier from Obama and Hillary but in the Nabil Salama Arsalan Come on.

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Hosting a man came to the proxy Saddam said y'all so Allah give me an advice. Give me an advice, something I will hold into it. And I will follow up for the rest of my life. As you know people travel from distance to visit the Prophet of Allah. So they have only the limited opportunities. So that time he wants something to hold on to and to go back to his people go back to his country and to practice than he ever will see you hear different Hakuna than the

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following the visa Salam La la la la la Cabrera Salallahu Salam Nura the protests have been kept repeating it several times. Don't ever get angry, don't be angry, don't be angry, don't be angry, don't be angry, if you do,

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he demands but then he came back and he said give me another price. Then he said don't be angry and you reward will be paradox will occur in general. So that means anger is something very important to be aware of, to be careful from and NGO like any other feeling like any other feelings could be positive and could be negative. Most of the feelings most of the things that we discussed in the issue of moralities and mannerism something it one side can be positive and one side can be negative and some of these issues can be more negative than positive and that's a good was one of them. But as I said Ingo could be something good could be something that even a warm so quality of anger

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coming up Salalah

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while I'm out of the water but

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that's my mercy have taken over my anger have taken over my fellow cellphone and

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Conover Abbas supporter of the border, when they need us angry. They made me angry, I punished I destroy them that what Allah says in the Quran, so anger also it could be something positive is not absolutely something negative, something negative. And remember Shakira said minister, but

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those who have reason to be angry and they are not they have no feelings of love human feelings, became like animals became like animals. Also.

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Something recommended that you

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came angry for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala when you see something wrong or do something wrong, you don't react just like as if there is nothing. That's not our Sharia and vigil human beings. You know, I totally agree with those who said, Don't teach your children never to be angry, but teach them how to be angry. I completely agree with that, even if you have every right sometimes to be angry, but you don't have any right to be cool, you don't have any right to be me, you have any right to lose control over yourself. And this the dangers of Angel, that sometimes this angle can lead the person to lose control over him or herself. As I said, you have the right to be in, it is

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not possible to envision a life free of anger completely. But we can have a life free of bad angle.

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What is anger anyway? What is a

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you're never gonna read this, you can go to any websites to see how the psychology and psychology in the psychology define anger, but anger in general, it is a normal demotion with a wide range of intensity from a mild irritation and frustration to rate. So it can go from very mild irritation all the way to rate it's the option to proceed threats, that you feel to yourself to your loved ones or property, one self image, some part of our identity, like for example, your religion, your culture, your family, whatever you identify yourself worth, and there is a warning bill that tells us there is something wrong there is something wrong. So, in the in itself, just defining it this way, it is

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not something can be looked at in a negative way, necessarily very negative or a negative one. So, in your

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three components, pay attention to physically,

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it start with physically you can see the changes that happen when the adrenaline kicked in the body, you became sometimes we will get red face, you know, muscles became so tight, you know, the heart rate goes up. So you can see that as a physical reaction to

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a positive experience of anger, or perceive how we perceive and think about what is making us angry. For example, we might think that that is not fair. It's not just, you know, that's not supposed to happen to be, you know, I don't deserve that this is wrong. That's why you became angry, then the behavior or the way we express our anger and this is the most important thing, how we express our anger. And there is a wide range of behavior that signals anger, we may look and sound angry, turn grip, raise our voices, slam the door throughout us, like the kids became angry or not given kid some mountain fathers, you know, the first one they are so angry, and they say certain words that

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they will not say usually when they are angry.

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Certain one experience a and it can be healthy, or it can be motivates us to stand up for ourselves for what we believe is correct, can motivate us to stand up for justice.

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But also on the other hand, in the other that mismanage anger can be counterproductive.

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In key can be unhelpful when input is too intense, out of control, misdirected, and overly aggressive. It can mean to approve decisions, it can make a profit and loss to the circle problems. It can your problems bigger than the problems at hand and can even affect your health affect your health. And that's the angle that the Sharia speaks mostly about. That's the type of anger that's the type of behavior that should be awarded or spa that the end of the fishery are linked to a shape up then to shape up to the because this Inger had so many things this type of anger has cut the ties between so many friends and neighbors to be angry at each other's and stay away. Turn away from one

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another. This the same angle the cut the relationship between the brothers and sisters, the frame

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Since the family members, this is the angle that color walls and cars.

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This is the end of it caused people to say things that they regret from the rest of the law. This is the aid that deters ruin your habits and ruin your life. And remember, for every moment, you have angry, you lose 60 seconds of happens, something I just read on the wall while of controlling the mustard. For every minute that you are angry, you must 62nd happens. Brothers and sisters angers as you can see it to something very serious. You know, they say anger is one letter away from the word danger.

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Anger is just one letter away from the word danger. And it is indeed, and it came home so many in so much of your life. So what I would like to do today is to talk about this behavior and give you certain tips. How can we control that A, how can we be in control not be controlled by our angle? What? Remember what I just said, the genome showed

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that so many evil comes out of this type of anger. Keep that in your mind. When you show angry like that when you lose control of anger tip over that so many things can go forward in your life. That's why the prophets of salaam told him don't be angry. Because if you're not angry, that means you are in control of yourself, then if you aren't in control of yourself on a GMO, oxygen mouse shop, that anger is the mother of so many evil. That's why I've also been poor for a forbear patient. That's the mother for so many things, good things that you can do in your life.

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People, they say people will fly into rage, almost make a bad grinding. When you think about it, have you ever achieved that anger? You know, so many times we say I'm gonna go to your heart, you know, I'm gonna let you know, I'm just gonna give it to him, my boss, my dad, whatever the case says. That's the angle, you know, then after that you regret it, you lost your job, you lost your relationship with your loved ones, and you did not get anything. Just that moment of anger that you released, it did not benefit much.

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No man can think clue. When his fist is clenched. There is no doubt, he can think clearly when your fist is clean, you're so angry and frustrated.

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Number two,

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also, it is important for you to know what are the reasons what are the causes for you to get angry. For example, sometimes you get so angry, if I can speak myself when I sleep too late, and I woke up late. Let's say I missed a bad day. And I will wake up have an IQ become very, very angry first, just so I know if we don't get enough sleep, I will be converting the person of the day. You know, it is not to my day. So stay for me. Some people say you know what?

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Maybe because your anger certain places certain people circumstance that you expose yourself to. So when you know the reasons that make you angry, you start dealing with these reasons, you start dealing with these costs and to disengage, engage on them. Try to eliminate them as much as you can as much as he can. Sometimes why she knows the key to turn her husband's angry. You know the thing that can turn your wife crazy.

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Make her not.

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So why would you use that? You just make that you managed to avoid this to work. Until recently, I had so many complaints from Salomon Brothers about Ingram. And when I talked to them about over one, two so angry, He's a chef. And that's not me. I'm so angry person with my kids with my family with my community, I'm just really angry became very negative. And I found at least two or three of those products that made him so different like this and became so angry. And how long should it have been at the time that they've been watching so many videos, YouTube's videos about what's going on Syria, and what's happening and I'm seeing these images, you know, I just saw this morning an image of for

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kids like about two years old, hanged in one of the wall in one of the villages and see, but basically head just two years old.

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When you see things like this, and it will have a negative impact on you. That's not a proper thing to expose yourself to it.

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That should channel your feelings of anger for the positive, but it became a negative. You have to abstain from this because that's what caused the anger, the negative anger in your life in your luck.

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We have number three.

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You need to

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know that so many times anger can cough by people try to make you angry. Surely cases you couldn't stiff SAS needed strips or somebody try to make you angry. Don't fall for it. Don't be fooled or let somebody make you angry, said You know, I'm not gonna let someone who I don't care about to ruin my life. Sometimes in my Facebook, I see some nasty cars. Sometimes I get an email a very nasty come in or sometimes somebody doesn't like what I said or what what my opinion you know, sometimes you have stuff like that someone will say something bad about, you know, that person actually not work for you to spend time to ruin your data for someone's net worth. So one of them will tell you to control

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your anger say it's not worth I'm not gonna make nobody to take over my life, or to make me lose my job. I'm not gonna allow this to happen. And that's how it's allowed to control Europe and also

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remember what he used to say.

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He will NGO's you

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conquers you

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so don't let anyone conquer you

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remember he will angers you conquers so then that easily somebody to concrete

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also one of the things and see the exact the best example from this point. What's actually the one she was so angry at Quraysh she was so mad at them and she curses him she's absolutely rage. So the top selling Total counter what do you Sanada as in Nana, you do more than you do and I'm with Elena Dickerson someone has named them Muhammad Sasa limited to follow Christ change his name to them so you sit down with him did with them and wrestle with them so the posts on Twitter we talked about a person by the name of with Eminem What are you angry Muslims Muhammad so this whatever the same is not related to you

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know he's not gonna allow them some Allah sent him

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to shift his focus salaallah Newsome that's one of the way to control and he calmed her down. She controlled what Ingrid what the Alana walked

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off for some time. This insults these threats that you feel are unintentional. Sometimes our intention so don't take it too serious.

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Next point. One of the things that's very helpful the time of Inglewood the prophets of salaam told us to say relationship on the regime. Calendar Mr. Selim

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had the original ha na Blankenship energy to say apology.

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Remember, I asked God to protect me from anger because anger is the reason for so many evils to come. I shake on will be so happy when he gets angry because he easily can still do with the tip of his finger.

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Because you lose control. And when you lose control, just just another push, knock you down.

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So remember that don't ever put yourself in such situation. I live in a ship out of Ottawa or ask you to protect me from the ship of origin. We're going to ship on Lisbon for aesthetic villa in Summit.

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Also one of them that it will help Allah to control your anger changing your position. The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam said either

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way better yesterday in a couple stellar cages either to German school, it doesn't matter the processor themselves. If you're standing sit down if you're sitting lay down, it doesn't mean it means change your position to whatever you're setting. You can stand up you can lay down if you're laying down you change your position. That's why the set the best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. One of the best conductor for short temper is a long walk just change your position walk change the place changing the place this fused in this fuse that angle over mine to shame you enough a circle in San Pedro to save you from victory.

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There is nothing can control you to help you to control

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bucur Allah subhanaw taala where the worker

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either either happens

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to see mention Allah when you forget it crema sigma and when you become angry because when you're angry even think about Allah

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certainly divorces server councils were broken apart because a moment of anger

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the love the

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one of the

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advice of the prophets Allah salam to us when we are angry, Allah Salam Salam we're headed Fuseli Muhammad

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a SIL one has to see what

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your scripts

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teach people and teach them the religion make it easy for them

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to make things hard on people he said when some of you became angry should remain silent.

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That's at that moment remain silent. So that's one of the advice just don't

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just come down and going inside the next point is absolutely important. It is very good to help you to control your anger after you come down you talk about what made you angry

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you don't take note in order for you to face this anger often come down speak about express yourself so even leave it inside your heart tell your husband what's made you tell your dad what's made you angry? If you send the so angry with my kids sometimes they become showing replying cannot control so what I do I just come down so they go counter for over there says hello from galectin times that Subhanallah five times they go to the phone with you say that then they come to me said now you can tell me no just you need to make an Hamdulillah I guess you need to come down more five you know in after the come doesn't Hey, tell me what's wrong with us.

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Let me know tell him after the come then it's very important to live the person release that frustration released that frustrated but after we come down after we come down. Also, I want you to remember what the punches and I'm also told us when you're angry, he sits a little box him in an oval shape on we're in the shape on a fulcrum in and now we're in pneumatic for now.

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Taco Tuesday

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he sets out some inwardness from the show and say Tom was created from five what take far away is water when you are angry.

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One way that I can change is to take a shower, some fires bigger than others.

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So anyway, so one of the advice is

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to calm you down.

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It just again it's changing your physiology changed your psychology that's absolutely fact. Absolutely fac it helped us to come down off a one of the things that told him to control their anger. Think about what Allah subhanaw taala have prepared for those who control green

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cow the mean

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is what allowed him

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to see Calvin Wilhite will have a nurse who Amina sin in Medina, Allah.

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Allah loves those lessons love the lesson of the one who control their anger and they are willing to forgive them to

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mentor them you

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at the end of the project Salam said, those who have

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the ability to control the anger while have the ability to release, I can give it to him I don't care that I control.

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Allah will call upon everyone in the day of judgment and reward you the booty word before anybody else before you will enter in paradise, generally to wish for

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the reward of paradise reported by templates and even has

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also remember that controlling an NGO is the word of the Prophet sunnah tend to be surrounded

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by somebody

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Never say

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never seek revenge. He never saw someone who was driven by his anger. So Allah Allah, you are at the center, he only gets angry even to determine to lock him up. Only when he sees something wrong and even that anger is a positive type of thing.

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Remember preferences? Being a angry doesn't mean you're tough guy. No, no, that is a solid basis should even

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the store names not all who get angry and get louder. No, the purchaser himself the strong response among you, the one who controls himself in the tough anger in the mushahid.

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In the

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event on

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how to

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add one, add a column to the album and

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when you go for help you practice positive self talk, talk to you say positive word like Allah

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Subhana Allah, come down shallow, things will be better. It's just a more positive self talk. also engage in physical activity, as I said, see your mental health professional or things out of out of control. And the slot machine would like to take course that is even online course in anger management. One of the things that helps breathe,

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breathe deeply. Don't breathe only from your chest to breathe from your guts. You know, make that fresh air, go to your lungs, hold your breath for a few seconds, you know, and release them, put another air fresh air here for a few seconds and release. Breathing is absolutely extremely helpful to control your self. And finally,

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always ask Allah subhanaw taala to get you in control of yourself, not to be controlled by your anger, not to be controlled by your desire. Ask Allah subhanaw taala to get that away from you. If you suffering from anger to job to become your hub.

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allow men to know that

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stop for a minute to come to stop you'll

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know that there are sisters, when you see someone angry, remember the following steps. When you see somebody angry, remember the following steps one where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.

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So understanding a nurse, believe me anyone so if you get so angry, there is pain in his life. If your wife is so angry, if your husband is so angry, there is pain going on in his life. If you see somebody in the masjid, always angry, there is something bothering them to figure out what that what what that is. And believe me, you will treat that person completely with different sense of the tongue. Don't eat fire with fire. If you if your friends, your spouse, your partner, your boss angry, don't

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just make more fire come down. Just avoid talking to the person at that moment. Avoid the person and give them their space. When the person who became so angry at the prophets was so angry. She was so angry because she just loved her kid. Because if someone came to me said, be patient, she said stay away from me.

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Wow to Muhammad, she said stay away from what someone said he left.

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You need immediately give her response. He never said anything bad about it. He said just it just lost her patience with a man was so angry the products and I know some of this man said he will control anger. He said if he said our strategy. So one of the complaints weren't thinking which is doing good. Because there is a difference between knowledge and wisdom. You know that? That's right, knowledge is one thing and wisdom is that something else? So the power of the wisdom of Allah, He did not say that.

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He has the knowledge of what this person needs to do. But the wisdom left approach and now the other man went with knowledge or wisdom he went and he

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said why do you think me don't give something get out of my face. It's not the right time to speak to someone.

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You know, one of my favorite quotes about this, they said, you know, just to go back to the point. We need to wrap it up, it's already forgot. So something positive short leave unless the person asked you to State let them understand how you feel that you know how they feel sorry. Let them understand how they you know how they feel. forgive the person whatever he said or she said in a ton of anger. Don't

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take what that person says.

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For granted take the grain of salt so don't like be

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It totally hit hard against that person. Because people say things in the tunnel of anger, they don't really mean it. May Allah subhanaw taala make us among those who always control their life and have a happy life, healthy life, almost Panatela can who took what I found out to this person at UCLA was at UCLA. And Toyoda.

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