Fiqh Of Advice
Channel: Waleed Basyouni
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My brothers and sisters since we said that the theme of this year is about support.
And the concept of support is such a vast concept and big concept. And it's very important that we support one another as a community as a society, brothers and sisters, as follow Muslims.
This is an important
matter to us, especially in times where a lot of people need help. And we have seen what happened during the hurricane Harvey and how people come and hamdulillah or came forward to help one another
Other and if you want to know how big of a topic this all you need to do on your way out from the door in the back, look at the sub topics and the basically the points that was written in the wall of the wall of brotherhoods and what that should be made of. But today I would like to shed some light on one of the meanings of supporting one another one of the attitude that we should have when we think about supporting one another which is advising one another, and naseeha and abuse illallah wa sallam said come up with me Daddy, Dino nasiha Tamimi. Daddy said that he heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said at Deen that religion is based on the concept of nasi had the
concept of advising one another
and this is a very important concept in Islam. And it's not only something the prophets of Salaam started it, but this is the concept that is well
established by every prophet and every messenger prior to Mohammed Salah Lau audience in the
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and I can go on and on many verses in the Quran. Were prophets and messengers stated and said to the people that we are sincere advisors to you, we advising you, why don't you like to receive the advice and so on. And in nebby sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one of his quality that he never held back something that he knew it will benefit others. Manhattan abuso Salaam as Anna said the process didn't pass away didn't leave us unless until the prophets of Salaam told us about everything that will benefit us in this life and next and warn us from everything that might harm us in this life. And next, Mamata rasulillah salam wa tada Kabbalah mineral clean Illa de la la what Ababa Mina sharp
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have come to you a messenger from among yourself, Aziz and Emma and it to me, it's very hard for him to see or to tell you something that will put you in hardship. He doesn't want to put you in any kind of any form of hardship and it hurts him a lot to see you going through any type of suffering, disease and Anima and it to me and him and I to come in and I'm worth pelaku Harrison alikum he cares so much about you. That caring that what led the prophets of Salaam to be the best NASA The one who always advise them the best advice Allah allowed them to extend when someone came to the province of Salim to give to declare Islam and to say I am Muslim. Gerry Ravi, Allah answered
Abdullah, he said by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he came in, he gave my Legion to the prophets Allah Lord and send them and to declare my Islam and my Shahada. I said, by our to Allah, if I miss sada I promised him that I would reform the Salah what he is, and to give this account the charity, one must have equally Muslim that I will advise every Muslim that I know.
That's how the practice of the early Muslim generations look at Cana Salif Hanuman tena Soto FEMA beno the early generations use advanced use to advise one another and used to warn their students and their fellow community members from ever be like the hypocrites are the disbelievers. The arrogant disbelievers who don't accept advice. That's why when Allah subhanaw taala described the diss the hypocrites by saying what either Tila Tequila or how that tool is to be. When you tell him it tequila fear Allah, He will be so arrogant.
I will not accept that from you kind of numerous route, who are Roger Lujan Saha, that verse means when you advise your brother, faithful American, mythological and sovereignty, hey, don't worry about to me care about your own self onboarding about me care about your own family. Don't look at me look at your own cell. He said that's the hypocrites when he said, You know what, just you not qualified to advise me. You know, I don't accept from someone like you. That's a sign of hypocrisy. That's the arrogance that Allah Subhana Allah described the disbeliever with monochrome law to hipbone and NASA Hey, why don't you like those who advise you? And naseeha advising one another one
of the meaning of being a brother and sister to one another. That brotherhood and sisterhood basically entails? Then they'll see it means that we should care for one another and advise one another. How cool Muslim and non Muslim is the right of every Muslim upon every Muslim, either love to sell them and when you meet him or her to give them set up, either Dhaka Djibouti invite you to answer the invitation. What is the stem cell hackathon sila and he or she asked for advice that you give them the advice and when they sneeze and they said hamdulillah to say of hammock Allah and when they are sick to visit them, and when they are dead is to follow their funeral thalassa Nicola Nabi
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Marie Muslim, a colossal Emilie de la Manasa to Latin m one who zoomy Gemma actually Muslim in three things will purify your heart and allow you to Kumara Fie fee real well a hazard Wella valina voila, hope in the summer of 2013. If you want your heart to be pure, your heart to be clean, is to learn that you always do things sincerely for the sake of Allah. And you always learn how to advise those who are in charge anyone a lot, put them in charge in position of leading position or lead something that you don't hesitant to advise them. And nuzum ojama it Muslims that you care for the unity of the community that you don't break the unity of the society.
My brothers and sisters, there are so many etiquettes for them to see her for that advice, when we advise one another. And these etiquettes is so important, because that topic is an important element in our life. And it should be done properly. So it will be accepted. And it will be effective. Rahim Allah who are on the low and it has anyone who say, and it has an essay, once the two grandsons of the prophets that a lot of send them once the young teenager boys, the past by an older gentleman
who don't know how to make Google. And these are teenagers, they know how to make. And this old man doesn't know how to make with it.
And he felt that they want to advise because if you don't make a correct will, that will affect your present self hasn't seen also felt shy for the young age to approach this old man and to teach him. Yeah, and it's the hair master goddess in Nima and young Sahaja hakobyan. So they said yeah, I'm uncle, can you watch us? Tell me which one of us his widow is better or perfect, is correct. Then the first one men that will then the second one made the will in front of the old man. So the old man when he saw them, he said, I'll tell you the truth, I just find out that I don't know how to make although
I realized that I don't know how to make little because each one of them was saying I do this because the prophets of Salaam did this. And they do that because and basically start teaching him an indirect way.
And see how it does something should not meant to embarrass embarrass others. And naseeha is not meant to show power over others. Unless he has not about exposing others unnecessary how it's about helping others. It's about fixing this in this situation. It's not about making it worse. That's why one of the first etiquette that we must have the right intention. Some people advised us to show off just to show that I know that to show that I have better knowledge that I have power that I can say that or because we want to be a little in the other one or put them down, especially when it comes in front of people.
Sometimes even they will say it here and in it to each others and both talking about someone else and their absence. And they said oh we talked to him. It's an Aussie. Nothing has to be given to the person himself. Not to put it online. Not to put it basically on
The Gathering and nothing should be advice to the person directly.
Also, we make sure that undersea ham is not about to be is not about you being happy that someone make a mistake is not about that you being happy that someone has done what what is wrong. I remember once I was with one of the young students of knowledge, told one of the shields, one of the teachers or some person they considered like a chef to me.
He told him about a scholar, a very famous of scholars without mentioning names, who said something terrible, said something terrible, not even a young student of knowledge will say such thing. So this young man was telling the chef's Can you believe it? Sure, so and so said this, and that's a statement, Jenny, I would say, it's so easy for me to say to tell you that that statement even can be considered a statement of before and unfortunately sent by a great scholar.
So when he said this to the scholar, what he was waiting, he was waiting for that scholar to basically pass the other scholars, he is not a scholar, he says that who can How can a Muslim say such things like that, all of a sudden, this shift start crying, and I saw the tears coming down from his eyes.
And I said What's wrong? He said, when he This is such an evil statement sent by someone we know that he is very well known and very knowledgeable person, that he made that mistake
which you think of our mistakes and we are way less and knowledge and tougher than this person.
What can happen tomorrow so for him was not about the mistake he was so sorry how this person you will do such thing and it will be hold accountable before Allah smart Allah and how can this happen to any one of us without realizing he taught me a lesson that day? That did not see how it's really not about never come across your mind to be happy that you find out Oh, you know what, I found out his mistakes. Now I found out that he did. Now I found out that this is this and that. It is so sad to see them in nebby sallallahu Sallam reported that he said man I Yara homie them lemmya moutet If Allah if someone ever Whoa, pick on someone sins and say oh Shame on you. How did you do that the
process of them said you will not die unless you will do the same mistake that this person did. You will not die unless you will be in the same situation. You make fun of someone for example, because of his weakness that he did this on that and you happy with it, you might end up doing that or worst malice path Allah protect us law to the Russia motto for your AFI La Jolla technique.
Do not ever be happy as people have problems and mistakes been exposed, because a lie maybe will forgive them and will test you with the same situation. Whenever you're given advice, make sure that you choose the best of speech the best afford, warding your advice is so important. So essential. And by the way, don't think far. Sometimes we don't think about choosing our words, when we talk to our own children, to your son, to your three years old girl, to your 14 years old boy to your spouse. Sometimes we think about making unwarranted get nice when we talk to a stranger but we forget that we also should choose the best of forums when we talk to our own family, to the people
who are close to us to your employees.
So people should always give the advice and dress the advice with the best affording Allah Subhana Allah praise the believers by saying well who do you know by up meaning
that Allah guided them to say the best of speech will only national say to people, what is good, what ordinary body? It is until my servant to say the best, not only what is good, but to say what is the best because the best of his speech, the soft speech, this speech are the words that are soft. And and when you are a gentleman the way you would in the way you talk. These will be will go very far. That Allah subhana wa tada said, he lay your side we'll call him up the good talk walby risen to the heavens. It'd be Masuda the Allah answered that the prophets of Salaam said I mean laser beam fashio What are built by the well are Billa and what are the power
And movement cannot be a person who's indecent. A person who who would use bad language. A person who curse a person who basically is speak
of others. Look at how the Sahaba they learn them choose their words very carefully. let Mr. bassel they allow an
Akbar Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who is bigger. You are Rasul Allah. The Prophet Salamanca was asking Ibis who's bigger You are the prophets of Allah. Then he said, Carl, who are borromini cobla herbison attain?
He said, he is bigger than me, but I was born two years before him.
He doesn't want to say I'm bigger than him.
No, he said I was born two years before
Roger Amara coming out of Medina. And he saw people out Kaduna. People are camping around fire. So you want to call them for Kala O'Meara Allah and Allah bow. Wa Talia, Allah na
re I attend enough Romero de la and so people around fire, you know, you will think that he will say, oh, people will fire what you're doing. He didn't say people to fire he say oh people flight
because it doesn't sound right people are fire as if they are belong to the fire. One time one of the students said I spent years with judge so and so. And always this judge a blind person come to his gathering. Karla voila humungous in in mass me to Karla Nicola, and he is the hub before Danny and Ilana. We're in Nepal, in the hub, Mara Abbey, Mohammed.
He said I never heard this judge saying to that blind person, this blind was about to leave, he tell his servant, go with him. He never ever said take him
out of respect for that person disability.
It was said once that one of the halifa had a group of people and among them young men. So the holly valance test how well mannered this young man is. Then he said what you did you see this ring? And he showed him the king is basically the king's ring. So he said, What do you think? Have you ever seen anything more beautiful, and much better or anything better than this ring? He said yes. Yeah.
He said What is it? He said, the finger that carry that drink, carnal hottie mala dl vessel and lady will be savvy. Then he said, which one is better? Our home or your home, your father's home.
If you are in our home, our home will be better. And if you are in your home, your home will be better.
I guess this kids living these days he will be at Trump's White House. You know, it's because there's a lot of people love to be you know, phrase anyway. But the point is that regardless of how you categorize the answer, but he's he knows how to write to say, what is correct what is right. My brothers and sisters, let's learn how to say things in the right way. How to Be gentle when we speak, how to compliment people not to be aggressive and rough and mean when we talk to one another.
That's why one of the educative nnessee had to be soft, and to be far away from being mean to others. When the profits are stolen in the process albums mastered a man came in the back of the mustard Can you imagine? Just imagine those somebody would come in the back of the mustard and urinate in the back of the mustard.
The companion jumped on me What are you doing to stop? Then in the visa someone said Hey, hold on. Let him finish since he started didn't finish because if you disturb him, you can hurt him or you can cause much more problems. So when he finishes the day this massage did not because you saw an empty spot, you know in the back of the mustard means you can urinate you know, public place when you come to the mustard you should keep it clean and he educated him
when a man came to the hostel and mustard and he's praying, so someone sneezed. And this is the story of more urban unhackme tsunami. So Maria, he come from the desert doesn't know the etiquettes of Salah. He said your hammock Allah and Allah so the Sahaba told them like this kind of a joke.
Lucia Luna Liu Sekito nanny, they told me like this, there is an Why are you saying that he said Hamza lies in the Salah. He starts talking. So people will start basically
stop then after the Salafi jump over me from every corner that's person pulling me pushing me telling me this telling me that and to the process someone came and he stopped all of them out of Amara. I sent him in Houma and Lima and never seen anyone like this. He said to me, and he told me that a Salah when you are in this, I cannot talk to anyone. This Sir, I only talked to a lot, a lot talk to you, you don't talk to anyone else
in the media decree law.
And he said, Well, I didn't frown at me he did. Then the man was so happy that he raised his hand and he said, Allah Mohammed, Mohammed.
He said, y'all he said y'all love you know, grant your mercy to me and to Mohammed this man. But none of these guys you know because of how mean they were then in Ibiza Salaam smiled and he said had gelato Asha in Ibiza Salaam like you You laugh and smile and he said you have made what is so massive so small. I was mercy so massive what would you only limited to to one of the etiquette of naseeha is to say it in secret not in public not to publish it not to put it in every social media outlet that's why I've been Abdullah Baba him Omar said that Miss Arab Nikki Damn. Sir, Rahim Allah when Allah Allah Yogi melas mercy be given to those who give me my mistakes in secret for Indian
film Allah Ada Korea career advising people on public is not an advice. It's an attack. It's an humiliation. As an Imam Shafi Rahim Allah said, but I want to make an important distinguish that advising people one thing, but an honorable model for now and in Moncada, something else. When you see something evil and you stand up for what is evil, that should be public eye so someone in front of people doing what is wrong, you can stop that. That's why when a man change the practice and from Hamad sallallahu Sallam and he raised his hand and hope but will Juma making the one of the prophets of Salaam companions stood up in the Salah, and told him put your hand down, this is better, you can
do that in the Salah.
I was just not advice that was honorable macrofauna. And in Hong Kong, you see someone doing something evil or wrong, you stop him even if it's in public.
But the advice it should be in secret and, and private. Make your advice, a reason for you to be the first to practice what you preach. Don't get angry if people don't take your advice. Don't try to argue with those who you advising them. It's not about it's not a debate. It's an advice. So you just deliver but don't try to corner them and to you know, make them admit like it's so ridiculous. Some people told me she had I advised him and he didn't admitted what's wrong. You advise him and he didn't admit it, why he has to admit it. Your role is to give advice, then the between him and Allah subhana wa Tada. Make sure before you advise someone about something
that you make sure that he has this problem, or this incident really happened. Like somebody advised someone after he finished it. By the way, I don't know what you're talking about. Oh, I heard that you did that. I did it.
The Fitbit, make sure that you have the correct information. Be patient because sometimes advice people people get angry at you. People attack you. That's why I was a panel to Allah said you have won a sonata in McMahon's advice when he told us about it. Okay Misato
Mancha was better Allah Masada be patient with what can happen to you after standing up for the truth.
Be wise, when you give the advice, wisdom it means to choose the right time.
Some people you work from the heart from the door and your spouse or your you did this, this is this and that. like wait a little bit. Let me just breathe in. relax a little bit. It's not the time about advice. You choose the right time to advise somebody haven't seen him for years. You're my shot law. By the way, I have advice for you.
Wait a little bit. Take the time somebody is in a wedding or in a funeral. That's not the time to give them a personal advice. So choose the right time. Choose the right place.
Also, you know, you don't advise. That's why mmm madrichim Allah, when you go to the Bustan to the park, it's a park is not a time for advice, like telling you as a chef and a teacher, sometimes somebody inviting me for, you know, for a dinner, and we go to eat and about to eat. He said, Sure. Can you give us advice? Yeah, sure. So you can eat the whole food. That's right.
I mean, that's not the time to give advice, we just want to socialize and have a good time together. So that advice has a place has a time has basically when people are willing, among the wisdom and giving advice, it shows your priorities. You see your family have multiple problems, you choose what one you want to start with, you see your community as multiple things, which issues start with, that's neither wisdom. Also, knowing the situation of the person you're advising him, maybe he is depressed, maybe someone going through hell, and life, maybe going through a lot of problems, and you don't know. So when you know what the decision of the person might help you to back off a little
bit, to choose another time to advise, you know, as a person, a female different than male, different than young, old teenager, older person, a person of position and power and fame, you do not advise a scholar and share the same way you advise a young man, for your friends or colleagues. You do not advise your parents in the same manner you advise your friend, no.
Parents are something so high, so honorable sort of spected
you don't advise an older person to say my you advise, you know, a young person that you know, so people are different, the way you advise them, you don't advise someone of power and position in the same way you advise, you know, a person who does not possess that.
Make sure that among the wisdom as well, that your advisor will not cause bigger harm.
Sometimes you advise someone, and you know what, yeah, and he holla you lead the person or the villa, as we say, yeah, and he
Yeah, and he will leave the whole thing for you. And I know of a case, a brother who was married to a sister, okay. And he used to teach her on. That's true story. And every time she pronounced something wrong, he said, saw ha
Then he corrector today, as far as I know, maybe she changed but today as far as I know, she's not Muslim.
She took the most half and she threw it in the floor.
She couldn't she was fed up for me for about two years with this guy. She took the massage throw it away. He came to me Jasmine, she did she commit by throwing the massage on the floor.
I said Well, I don't know committed before. Exactly.
You should ask did I made her commit coven
as a stupidity
that people don't know what the priority how to address things like that. And all these wisdoms paralog comes in one word in the Koran
where they endeavor it
one word to summarize the whole thing. You give advice when you see it will be a beneficial advice.
That's why I've been a bass was asked Should I give advice to someone who will not listen to me? He said no. Because Allah said whether you're in fit, you remind when you see a reminder will be effective. I ask Allah subhana wa tada to make us among those who listen to the speech and follow the best of it. Salalah Solomon and ebina mom
and hamdulillah salat wa salam ala Milena, ba, ba, ba Ba,
one of the etiquettes as well and we'll see how is to give people time. If you have something you want to advise them about. And by the way, advice can be given to individual to Institute's or organizations, governmental official.
It's all levels that will say how should we give, we should give people time. That's why someone said Dr. Mohammed, give me one month to think about your advice, then in episode you can go
so take you give people time to think about, you know what you advise, don't command or demand an immediate response. also decide for nasi. How would you advise Don't make it too much. It'd be Massoud used to advise people every Thursday.
There is we have a very strange culture. I just feel
Finish a whole lecture and we go outside in the car then a brother to me shall give us advice what in the world I've been teaching the whole day.
It's a strange It's a strange cult because the advice became so cheap has no value anymore.
also be sincere in your advice. Make sure that you are sincere in your advice when you give the see how give the right thing don't just don't try to make them feel good only while you deceiving them.
Can you imagine if I asked advice from a doctor and he knows I might live in dangerous as a Mashallah, you're good. You're doing good. I don't want to hurt this feeling. How not a doctor betraying the trust.
I mean, you don't need to be mean or blunt about it to embarrass him. But you know, be wise, but it is also have to be true. Because I have seen sometimes people try to, you know, give you just any type of cheap talk just to make you feel good about yourself.
know if you really have something sight, especially if you know that people will listen from you, or otherwise don't say the wrong thing. If you cannot say the truth, don't say the false one. Because misleading people is so dangerous, is so wrong. It's so immoral.
Even if your intention is good, because good intention is not good enough.
I kept this for the final.
Your advice should not belong. And I guess I should advise myself about that. So with this out, say your advice also might make it short. Don't be too long. And don't be keep coming back and forth. Do you need to say it 100 times, you know, keep addressing the issue maybe in different ways in different manners. I asked a las panatela to make us among those who listen to the speech and follow the best of it and make us among those who advise one another and hopefully Charlotte maybe in future homeless I will talk about, you know, the etiquettes of receiving the advice because that's also another another talk that I think need to be addressed as well allow melphalan or him know if
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