Islamic Marriage 05 Which Part Of A Women Is It Allowed To See

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Shadow

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remember

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Abdullah he, he was so happy Jemaine hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah we talked about a lot of issues that pertain to Islamic marriage, which is the theme of this episode.

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Now, we want to go again a little bit deeper into the subject, I want to talk about engagements in Islam the rulings of engagement,

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engagement means this to individuals will come together with the intention of getting married, as soon as they realize they they are compatible to one another, if the person does not think this person is compatible, then that relationship must not continue. If the person is not ready for marriage, due to his financial needs, due to time limitation, health problems, family issues, if that person is not ready for marriage, then he should not or she should not entertain meeting talking with the opposite gender period. But let us assume and hungry now both of these young people are at that age when they want to get married and they ready to get married. Now, I'm hungry Not

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now, everybody should know what they looking for

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in terms of Deen in terms of manners, in terms of society or class in terms of performers, what the person prefers, all this should be taken care of, when we come to this point, what is the next point then, the next point is when you see that person you like the person now you must propose to that person which is known in the [???]tier

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which is when you have the intention when you intend to marry someone during the hunt, what is allowed for you to see and what is not allowed for you to see. First of all,

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from the sharing our point of view, the messenger over loss on the long run he was sending them was very keen about the young couple seeing each other.

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If you remember, starting with the Navy Salah long Ronnie He will send them

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if you remember how this Ayesha which allows and confirms what I'm saying, which is it is permissible for you to see this young lady or this young man.

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The Messenger of Allah said in my dream twice

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angels came carrying you on bed that is mattress with all the bedding of that bed is from Jenna. And you were sitting on the bed so I cover the hijab and I saw your face. So I said if a long wants me to marry this young lady, then let it be sort of pseudo law in his dream. So I Isha. And the angels came to me and they say Yasuda law

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This is your wife, you're going to marry this wife. So take a look at her. So that shows it is permissible for a husband, for men to look at this young lady, his intention is to get married to her. Also

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one of the Soviets, one of the women of the companions of the Messenger of Allah, she came to the messenger of a law in a gathering, opening, gathering, General gathering.

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And she stood up,

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she stood up.

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And she said, jasola law,

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I want to marry you. Now, she proposed to the messenger over law publicly. And of course, Allah subhana wa Tiana commented on that and sort of did that, and show that it is permissible for a young lady to propose to amend as long as she is maintaining the limits of the shutdown. So the messenger Overlord, he looked at her up and down. And then he looked down. And he said,

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At this moment, I have no desire of getting married. But he looked, maybe he didn't like the way she looked. So long winded, he was saying he didn't want to hurt feeling as though you know, my time. I'm not attracted to you, you know, as beautiful as I would want my wife to be. But he said, at this time, I have no desire getting married. Of course, what else? Have you seen the law on ABC jimsy Auto pseudo law. If you don't want to marry her, I'll marry I like her. And of course, she got married, or the loved one. How it shows is permissible.

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jaggery bin Abdullah said,

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the messenger on loss and if one of you wants to marry,

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or he has the intention of marrying a young lady, let him take a look or until he is pleased with what he sees, until he's satisfied until what he sees would allow him to take the next system which is getting married. So he said, when I wanted to marry this young lady, I used to hide behind trees, climb on trees, look at her from an angle where she's not looking at me until I realized, and I thought, this is the one that I would marry. And I found what I was looking in a wife and her. Muhammad Yunus said, I'm out of the law, one, one of the companions, the Messenger of Allah, He was also running after a lady from an angle where she cannot see him.

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One of the people he said to him, Subhana law, you are the Companion of the missing your overlord and this is how you behaving. And this Muhammad Yunus sedima, the Sahaba he said, so law he said,

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if you want to marry a young lady, take a look at her and tell you please, when you see another narration,

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one of the other Heidi Allen movie Raveena Sharma, came on Mahajan,

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a man who accepted some in a very unique way.

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him and his friends him and his companions, they got drunk, and he killed them all. And he took all their wealth and he ran to the city of Medina. And he said to the Messenger of Allah, I'm here and I have this wealth.

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He said, What? Well, he said, I have this well, he said, How did you gain the wealth? He said, This is what I did to these people. The messenger over law said, we will accept you Islam. I will not accept your wealth.

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When he came to the city in Medina and lived with the messenger on the law, he went on he proposed to one of the women of the unsought

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and Maria Guna sharp for your information brothers and sisters. He was very handsome man very attractive man.

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No woman ever would say no to Marina administrator, but because the way he looked, so he proposed to the family of the answer. And the family they accept the proposal because they know about

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and then they he came to the messenger Melissa Yana Sula, law, I just proposed to a young lady. And also like I said, Have you seen her? He said, No. He said go take a look at her. And if you like that will make your marriage last longer. If you had attracted this young lady, then hamdulillah you will remain stay and you stay together.

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But after the nikka takes place, if you saw this young lady and she's not as beautiful as you wish

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As you desire, then of course, the relationship and the marriage mainly stay longer. So I'll move on the long run. He went to the house of the unsavoury to the people that he proposed to the daughter. And he said, missing your own law asked me to look at your door. And then father, mother,

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they were puzzled.

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Is that alone? And the young lady, she said, behind the curtain,

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they're missing your own law really asked you to do this. He said, Yes.

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She said, I'm coming out. If the messenger of a law asks you to do this, look at me. If he didn't ask you, don't do it. So she came out. And then Marina, he said, are the long run. I was never pleased with any women. Like I was pleased with that young lady. He said, I lived a life of 100 in a life of happiness with that young lady because I follow the Sunnah and the orders of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu it and shortly after this break, we will continue with this so you stay where you are. saramonic Sarah, Sarah Sudha Kdm Satan, only Vienna Mohammed is good to have you back. Let us continue with the subject of engagement. And

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one of the other Heidi Allen movie Raveena Sharma, came on muhajir,

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a man who accepted Islam in a very unique way.

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him and his friends, him and his companions, they got drunk, and he killed them all on he took all their wealth, and he ran to the city of Medina. And he said to the messenger of a law, I'm here and I have this wealth.

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He said, What? Well, he said, I have this well, he said, How did you gain the wealth, they say, this is what I did to these people. The messenger overlords said, we will accept you Islam, I will not accept your wealth.

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When he came to the city in Medina and lived with the messenger on the law, he went and he proposed to one of the women of the unsought

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and Maria Guna. Sharp for your information brothers and sisters. He was very handsome man, very attractive man. No woman ever would say no to Maria administrativa, because the way he looked, so he proposed to the family of the answer. And the family they accept the proposal because they know about moving them in a shareable and then they he came to the messenger Melissa Yana Sula, law, I just proposed to a young lady. And she said, Have you seen her? He said, No. He said, Go take a look at her. And if you like that will make your marriage last longer. If you are attracted this young lady, then Hamdulillah, you will remain stay and you stay together.

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But after the nikka takes place, if you saw this young lady, and she's not as beautiful as you wish, or as you desire, then of course, the relationship and the marriage mean that he stayed longer. So I'll move

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on. He went to the house of the ansaldi, to the people that he proposed to their daughter. And he said missing your own law asked me to look at your door. And then father, mother,

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they were puzzled.

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Is that a law? And the young lady, she said, behind the curtain?

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There missing your own law really asked you to do this. He said yes.

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She said, I'm coming out. If the messenger of a law asks you to do this, look at me. If he didn't ask you don't do it. So she came out. And in Merida, he said for the long run.

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I was never pleased with any women. Like I was pleased with that young lady. What is the downfall if the person didn't see his wife before marriage? Of course, we stated that if that happens, the marriage may not last.

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But I will tell you very unique story that happened on pertains to this subject. A wealthy man. He had two daughters

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and two brothers siblings. They came and they proposed his daughter's Barbie

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cost a thought. It is not permissible for me to see my wife before marriage.

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Each one of them agree to marry the daughters of this wealthy man. And the wealthy man made a big dinner for everybody huge dinner. But what happened, the younger boy, married the younger sister and the older boy, marry the young, the older system. And it was that that the culture of the people that had handed in now when the new guy takes place, and when email is taking place at that same moment, and people are eating and they welcome everybody and the people come on, they congratulate them, then husbands, they go and stay with their wives.

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So some Hana law.

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Mistake happen.

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They switch the cables. So the older brother, he went with this younger sister,

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and the younger brother, he went with the older brother, and they were not married to each other.

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And after hours and hours and hours, someone just realized the mistake that they made.

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So of course, I'm Hannah law. Now, it seems that both of these people they committed Zina,

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because this man they consummate the marriage.

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They are intercourse with the wrong person.

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They both of them are intercourse with the wrong people. So the word EMA or the wording in just turn into janaza.

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shock.

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Everybody was shot.

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So the father, he said, What should I do? In front of everyone? This is what happened? What should I do? So of course, you will always find those quick move T's without knowledge giving photography, cheap photography. So one of them said, so Panama. They were married, then he got to a place and they committed Zina, all four should be killed on the spot. They should be stoned to death. And the other ones say no, no, no, no, that's a little bit harsh.

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We should nullify this marriage and they will never marry each other again. So everybody's are giving footwear left and right. And one of them says Subhana Allah. Why would you even talk about the subject when you're not qualified? And when you have email me honey for in the city? Email me any reason city call him. So in the middle of the night, they went to the house of Abu hanifa as they bought him and they said What should we do?

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Avi honey, if I spoke to two brothers, and he said

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did you like the women that you spend the night with his half course? He said hamdulillah

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he said to the younger one did you like I said handling now is good, fine. So he said then divorce your wives, the one that already performed the kneecap for divorce. So they divorced. And he said now, you will make unique

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for the wives or the women that he spent the night with.

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This is may be very unique story. It may never happen to you. But some of the UNAMID the use this scenario and they say what if that happens, you marry a wife that you've never seen before. It could be the wrong person. It could also be the person that you were not looking for. Okay. assumingly You came to the house of this family and you said I'm here. I'm ready. The families talked. I want to see her how much is a lot for you to see. How much

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of her body how much can you see

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some of the all of the oma they agree it is Mr. Han least

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at least is Mr. Happy to see her. But how much some of the onomah said

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on the only the face only the face.

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Others set the hands and face.

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Third room they said

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arms, face and hair

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and of course logically as a father, as a brother or even as a son. You will never allow for someone to come to your house and look at your sister and dress and then say well I you know I don't like her. You know, Charlotte, heart luck shala Next time, someone will like you.

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And then he goes and then the second person comes. He sees her like that.

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Allah Subhana Allah, demoralizing, it's little bit it very difficult as a matter of very difficult for anyone to say is acceptable for my sister is acceptable for my daughter is acceptable for my cousin. And it's not acceptable

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to a lot of people especially, I would never agree to that, for anyone that I know. But they said, when the messenger of one or the other,

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when the messenger over law said, Look at her, look at her, until you please, it means you look in no normal way that her parents may look at her. So looking at them as permission,

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but the conditions are what they feel. If you want to do this, there you are, rather have to be serious about marriage. You shouldn't just go around and enjoy the beauty of this young lady's and then say, I don't want marriage today. I don't want to get married soon. No, your intentions should be because Allah subhanho wa Taala Anna knows about your intention. And you can never follow a law. your intention should be I want to get married. And I think she is the person she is the one for me. And I think she's the one for me. And I want to see her face if she works on her hands, if that's necessary. But just to enjoy yourself is not alone. What is also not allowed. And what if you learn

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is what a lot of people do. After the engagement takes place. They allow this cup to go to movies, which is haram to go out together without any supervision, to be together to talk to each other, to come for him to come and visit for her to go visit him unacceptable. What do you need to understand is us long than the car did not take place. She is not handled for you and you're not hired for so you can be with her alone in one place. You can take her out for dinner, you cannot touch her. You cannot kiss her. You cannot be close to her. As a matter of fact, she should have stayed away from you as he would stay away from any stranger. any stranger. And a lot of times mistakes happen that

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these two young people they think, oh, are we getting married and hamdulillah everything is said our parents they talk families are getting well at the dinner and then they fall into mass. Because he says to her, we can do this sooner or later. She says yes true. I said I said look.

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Even unica is next week. Your wedding is next week on some panel.

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What the Satan doesn't tell you is what if one of you dies? What if something happens? One of your mind you change your mind? What if your family is no longer getting along? Well, what do you do? So had a lot one of the injuries that I had been in the Middle East, that two young people they thought everything is cool, everything is going well everything will go perfectly as we planned. And they committed Zina and Subhana Allah, they felt bad. And both of them. They went to her parents and the boys said, I made a mistake. I committed Zina, and I want to rectify the situation. So the father said, I can do anything go tell your father what happened. And let us do the nikka right away, in

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his way to his father, he got into a car accident he died. Now, the young lady, now she can prove her father can prove that these slapped together in haraam. And what worse was, she was pregnant. And when the father of the disease gets to know about this, he said, No, your daughter committed Zina with someone else that hamdulillah that Allah saved my son from that, and delta was about to marry my son, and she gave birth to a child through Xena. Now really, you don't want to take that risk. You don't want to play with this because this is playing with fire. So brothers and sisters stay away from each other. Parents should maintain that Islamic behavior ruling and when the niqab

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takes place, then only then they can be together with Long Island, which is optimal lawhead salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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forever be true. cherish this life that's destined for you. Live your life with kindness and care. Remember

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I will always be there be the

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next system which is getting married. So he said, when I wanted to marry this young lady, I used to hide behind trees, climb on the trees, look at her from an angle where she's not looking at me until I realized and I thought, this is the one that I would marry. And I found what I was looking for in a wife and her. Muhammad Yunus said, I'm out of the law, one, one of the companions, the Messenger of Allah. He was also running after a lady from an angle where she can not see him.

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One of the people he said to him, Subhana law, you are the Companion of the messenger overload, and this is how you're behaving. And this Mohammed, Vina selama, the Sahaba, he said,

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so law, he said,

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if you want to marry a young lady, take a look at her until you please when you see another nourishing.

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One of the other Heidi Allen movies, Robin Sharma, came on mohajir

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a man who accepted Islam in a very unique way.

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him and his friends, him and his companions, they got drunk, and he killed them all on he took all their wealth, and he ran to the city of Medina. And he said to the Messenger of Allah, I'm here and I have this wealth.

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He said, What? wealth he said, I have this well, he said, How did you gain the wealth, he said, This is what I did to these people. The messenger overlords said, we will accept your Islam, I will not accept your wealth.

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When he came to the city in Medina and lived with the messenger on the law, he went and he proposed to one of the women of the unsought

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and Maria Guna shaba. For your information, brothers and sisters, he was very handsome man, very attractive man. No woman ever would say no to Maria administrativa, because the way he looked, so he proposed to the family of the unsought and the family. They accept the proposal because they know about.

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And then they came to the messenger Melissa Yana Suna law. I just proposed to a young lady Rasulullah. I said, Have you seen her? He said, No. He said, Go take a look at her. And if you like that will make your marriage last longer. If you had attracted this young lady, then hamdulillah you will remain stay and you stay together.

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But after the nikka takes place, if you saw this young lady, and she's not as beautiful as you wish, or as you desire, then of course, the relationship and the marriage mean that he stayed longer. So I'll move

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on. He went to the house of the unsavoury to the people that he proposed to the daughter. And he said missing your own law asked me to look at your door. And then father, mother.

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They were puzzled.

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Is that alone? And the young lady, she said, behind the curtain.

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There missing your own law really asked you to do this. He said yes.

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She said, I'm coming out. If the messenger of a law asks you to do this, look at me. If he didn't ask you don't do it. So she came out. Anil Morita, he said are the long run.

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I was never pleased with any women. Like I was pleased with that young lady. He said, I lived a life of hamdulillah life of happiness with that young lady because I follow the Sunnah and the orders of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu. And shortly after this break, we will continue with this so you stay where you are. saramonic salatu salam ala rasulillah Kareem says Vina Mohammed is good to have you back. Let us continue with the subject of engagement. And

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one of the other Heidi Allen movie Raveena Sharma, came on muhajir

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a man, we accept Islam in a very unique way.

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him and his friends him and his companions, they got drunk and he killed them all on he took off

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They're well and he run to the city of Medina. And he said to the Messenger of Allah, I'm here and I have this wealth.

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He said, What? Well, he said, I have this well, he said, Oh, how did you gain the wealth, he said, This is what I did to these people. The messenger over law said, we will accept your Islam, I will not accept your wealth.

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When he came to the city in Medina and lived with the messenger on the law, he went and he proposed to one of the women of the unsought

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and Marina Guna, sharp for your information brothers and sisters. He was very handsome man, very attractive man.

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No woman ever would say no to Maria administrativa, because the way he looked, so he proposed to the family of the unsought and the family. They accept the proposal because they know about moving the money.

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And then they he came to the messenger, Melissa Yasuda law, I just proposed to a young lady. And also like I said, Have you seen her? He said, No. He said, Go take a look at her. And if you like

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that will make your marriage last longer. If you had attracted this young lady, then Hamdulillah, you will remain stay and you stay together.

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But after the nikka takes place, if you saw this young lady, and she's not as beautiful as you wish, or as you desire, then of course, the relationship and the marriage mean that he stayed longer. So I'll move on the long run. He went to the house of the unsavoury to the people that he proposed to their daughter. And he said, missing your own law asked me to look at your door. And then father, mother,

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they were puzzled.

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Is that alone? And the young lady, she said, behind the curtain,

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there missing your own law really asked you to do this. He said yes.

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She said, I'm coming out. If the messenger of a law asks you to do this, look at me. If he didn't ask you don't do it. So she came out. And Marina, he said are the long run.

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I was never pleased with any women. Like I was pleased with that young lady. What is the downfall if the person didn't see his wife before marriage? Of course, we stated that if that happens, the marriage may not last.

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But I will tell you very unique story that happened on pertains to this subject, a wealthy man. He had two daughters

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and two brothers siblings. They came and they proposed to these daughters. But because they thought it is not permissible for me to see my wife before marriage.

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Each one of them agree to marry the daughters of this wealthy man. And the wealthy man made a big dinner for everybody huge dinner. But what happened? The younger boy married the younger sister and the older boy marry the young the oldest system. And it was that the culture of the people that and 100 and now when the new guy takes place and when EMA is taking place at that same moment, and people are eating on the welcome everybody and the people come on, they congratulate them. Then husbands they go and stay with their wives.

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So some Hana law.

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Mistake happen.

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They switch the cables. So the older brother, he went with this younger sister

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and a younger brother, he went with the older brother, and they were not married to each other.

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And after hours and hours and hours. Someone just realized the mistake that they made.

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So of course of Hannah law, now it seems that both of these people they committed Xena

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because this man they consummate the marriage.

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They are intercourse with the wrong person.

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They both of them are intercourse with the wrong people. So the word EMA or the wording in just turn into janaza

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shock.

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Everybody was shocked

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so the father

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He said, What should I do? In front of everyone? This is what happened, what should I do? So of course, you will always find those quick move T's without knowledge giving photography, cheap photography. So one of them says, So Panama, they were married, then he got took place, and they committed in all fours should be killed on the spot. They should be stoned to death. And the other ones say no, no, no, no, that's a little bit harsh.

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We should nullify this marriage and they will never marry each other again. So everybody's are giving footwear left and right. And one of them's so behind on law. Why would you even talk about the subject when you're not qualified? And when you have Mmm, Avi honey for in the city. emember. behind him is in city called him. So in the middle of the night, they went to the house of Abu hanifa as they bought him and they said, What should we do?

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Honey if I spoke to two brothers, and he said,

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Did you like the women that you spend the night with his half course? He said hamdulillah

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he said to the younger one did you like I said handling now is good, fine. So he said then divorce your wives, the one that already performed any cut for divorce. So they divorced. And he said now, we will make an unica for the wives or the women that he spent the night with.

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This is it may be very unique story may never happen to you. But some of the ornament they use this scenario and they say what if that happens, you marry a wife that you've never seen before. It could be the wrong person. It could also be the person that you were not looking for. Okay. assumingly, you came to the house of this family. And you said I'm here. I'm ready. The families talked. I want to see her. How much is a lot for you to see. How much

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of her body? How much can you see

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some of the all aroma of the oma they agree, it is nice to have least,

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at least is Mr. Happy to see her. But how much some of the aroma said

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only the face only the face.

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Others set the hands and face.

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Third move they said

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arms, face and hair.

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And of course logically, as a father, as a brother, or even as a son. You will never allow for someone to come to your house and look at your sister and dress. And then say well, I you know, I don't like her. You know, Charlotte, heart luck shala. Next time, someone will like you.

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And then he goes and then the second person comes. He sees her like that. Some hannula demoralizing, it's a little bit very difficult as a matter of very difficult for anyone to say is acceptable for my sister is acceptable for my daughter is acceptable for my cousin. And it's not acceptable

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to a lot of people especially, I will never agree to that. For anyone that I know. But they said when the messenger or one or the other.

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When the messenger over law said look at her, look at her until you please it means you look in a normal way that her parents may look at her. So looking at them is permissible.

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But the conditions are what if you if you want to do this. There you are, rather have to be serious about marriage. You shouldn't just go around and enjoy the beauty of this young ladies. And then say I don't want marriage today. I don't want to get married soon. No, your intentions should be because Allah subhanho wa Taala Anna knows about your intention and you can never follow a law. your intention should be I want to get married. And I think she is the person she is the one for me. And I think she's the one for me. And I want to see her face if she wears it up on her hands, if that's necessary. But just to enjoy yourself is not alone. What is also not allowed equity filler is what a

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lot of people do. After the engagement takes face. They allow this cup to go to movies which is haram to go out together without any sort of

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To be together to talk to each other, to come for him to come on visit for her to go and visit him. Unacceptable. What do you need to understand is us long than nikka did not take place, she is not harder for you, and you're not hired for. So you can be with her alone in one place. You can take her out for dinner, you cannot touch her. You cannot kiss her. You cannot be close to her. As a matter of fact, she should have stayed away from you as she would stay away from any stranger, any stranger. And a lot of times mistakes happen. That these two young people they think, oh, we getting married and having dinner. Everything is said our parents, they talk families are getting well and

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hungry now. And then they fall into mass. Because he says to her, we can do this sooner later. She says Yes, true. I say fancy look.

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Even unique is next week. Your wedding is next week on some panel.

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What the chiffon doesn't tell you is what if one of you dies? What if something happens when of your mind you change your mind? What if your family no longer getting along? Well, what do you do? So had a lot one of the instance that I had been in the Middle East, that two young people they thought everything is cool, everything is going well. Everything will go perfectly as we planned. And they committed Zina and some Hannah law. They felt bad. And both of them. They went to her parent and the boys said, I made a mistake. I committed Zina, and I want to rectify the situation. So the father said, I can do anything go tell your father what happened. And let us do the Nika right away. In his

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way to his father, he got into a car accident he died. Now, the young lady, now she can prove her father can prove that they slept together in her arm. And what was worse was, she was pregnant. And when the father of the disease gets to know about this, he said, No, your daughter committed Zina with someone else on hamdulillah that Allah saved my son from that, and delta was about to marry my son, and she gave a birth to a child through Xena. Now really, you don't want to take that risk. You don't want to play with this because this is playing with fire. So brothers and sisters stay away from each other. Parents should maintain that Islamic behavior ruling and when the niqab takes

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place, then only then they can be together with a law alum, which is optimal law. Hey, salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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forever be to cherish this life is destined for you. Live your life with kindness and care. Remember, Allah will always be there be there