Mental & Emotional health

Wael Ibrahim


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I think we're

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we can do better than that attach we'll

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have the lovely mean we say because of them lol Karen to move to a smile make for the beautiful presentation of the topic. The Muslim Poun is very Muslims throughout Islamic history and I hope you have been inspired to become somebody better to change the narratives or move the Ummah follower be in Allah Alhamdulillah Allah Lamine the time is going and we need to keep pushing. I wanted as we are taking away that taking away is the art of knowing who we have and praying for one another. May Allah subhanho wa Taala reward all our show you have the love of melamine my brother you did jump jump do that and can you do it again? Yes

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no no the way you are doing it. When she moved in and was talking he said jump jump so

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I am going to learn this language by first by fire I need to Alhamdulillah All right under beautiful you permit me to welcome to the mic stand

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somebody who will respect is one of our sheer can house it will be speaking on the topic promoting mental well being okay I'm interested in this mental well being mental well being when they do like this to you in Agile doesn't mean

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which I don't want this Ah she quite easily else. I don't want you to know that. But you know take it up now. Please welcome no other person that I shake while he'll O'Brien for his presentation attack. Well

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I hope you didn't take that

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okay, I'll get

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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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I sleeping or

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are you sleeping

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so shout back at me Come on. A Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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Masha Allah Monica loves Villa Amara Hema hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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Robbie Shahi Sondrio silly embryofetal Alok that's Emily Sani of Cali Saba Hanukkah la in Milena Ilana Allah antenna in NACA and tell Alim will Hakeem

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is a confusing place

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I said that yesterday

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and I'm still standing by what I said.

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Now I've been learning other stuff about your culture.

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And what struck me the most is the usage of your the English

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when you when you smash the English language together with your own local language, so I want to I want to try that with you and see if I got it wrong, right or wrong. Okay.

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Are you with me?

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So there's one thing that I heard a lot is a big

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a big don't make me Vic's

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Allahu Akbar Look at this. So a big don't make me Vic's meaning don't press my nerves don't let me come over there and you know like it's a warning out of Allah.

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There is also wahala

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not put me for wahala

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me Don't give me troubles. Rahul Agha and one of the one of my favorite is

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no Dhoni. Why y'all Allahu Akbar? No, don't be ye o meaning. Don't cheat me. Don't Don't. Don't frog me. For one, nine, right?

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And my favorite, waiting to happen.

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You know, this morning, when I learned these phrases, I came this morning at the backside back backstage. So I made the volunteer so I'm starting to practice. So I told the brother waiting to happen, you say nothing to happen.

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And then a little while later another brother came and he says waiting to happen and he said he better than better better they happen. Like the responses are there also, I feel like Nigerians

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have intention that's my theory will lie. I feel like they're intentionally have mess up the English language to get back at the British.

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I believe that the original intended plan was that since they have colonized us, then when in sha Allah when we colonize England, they will not understand us.

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It will be like a code language may Allah protect yourself.

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Alright, let's get back to business in sha Allah.

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May Allah protect us? How many of you my brothers, my sisters in Stan have heard

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the words men don't cry?

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You try to cooperate with me like if you heard some something, men don't cry. Men are expected to be strong, tough, toughen up. Don't cry. Have you heard that before? I remember my father, may Allah have mercy on him. When he discipline us. My father was so powerful man very strong, very like old

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fashioned kind of a father like he will look at you. All what he needs to do is to stay at you. And that is absolutely sufficient for you to freeze. He will look at you you will understand exactly what he wants Subhanallah in this the old generation, but I remember one day he was scolding me. And I was about to cry. So my father said what? Show me one tear.

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Which means if he showed me one tears,

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this is your end.

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This is the end. A big don't make me fix kind of you know.

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It's a warning.

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Show me one tear, meaning if you show me the tear in LA.

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How many of you have heard sister patience?

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But my husband beat me out brother. Patience solver. Sister.

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How many of you have heard these things? Now in life, my brothers, my sisters, Islam. We go through traumatic events, don't you agree? We go through dramas seeing people passing and these things affect our psyche affect our mental health affect our emotions. I was just talking a while ago with another smaller group

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about the importance of looking into these details to understand how to cope with them. For example, if I asked you, my brothers, my sisters in slam by a show of hands, and please cooperate. How many of you here are into horror movies? Who loves horror movies?

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Okay, so you know, and I know that when you watch horror movies, you're gonna get scared at one point in the movie, is that right? You know that?

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You know, also that horror movies are unreal, they are not real ghosts or aliens or it's just fiction. Do you agree?

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You know, also that the horror movies that you're watching is on a piece of metal called TV. So nothing is going to come out of the TV to haunt you. Do you agree? Yet? When you watch those movies, and you hear the music

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something is coming, you know, you know ahead of time it's coming. The moment that you've been waiting for it's coming, you gotta get scared. And once that scene appeared, you jumped off your bed, you jump off your seat, you get scared through force, but you knew ahead of time. Now what happened in your body? When you get scared? What do you feel you feel your heart

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pumping too fast? Sometimes you feel it in your knees? Sometimes you feel in your toes. Sometimes they call it butterfly you feel in your tummy? Am I making sense? So whatever emotional events, psychological or mental events occur in your life, your very physical body reacts. So there is a huge connection between mental health, emotional health and physical health. And this exactly what happened to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he was sitting in the cave of Hera before the first revelation.

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You remember, there was a huge angel named Angel Gabriel appeared to him in his actual form.

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And the prophets Allah Allah Allah Selim described the angel Gabriel as an angel with 600 wings that if one of them was to spread, it will block the salah.

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ate from reaching the earth. Now that's one wing. We're talking about how many 600 wings? How will you behave? How will you react to such magnificent creature like this? Not only that, but the angel Gabriel HUD, the Prophet SAW Salem three times, and he released them once and then he released them once and he released them. The Prophet SAW said, I felt that my ribs are going to pop open through my buddy. That's how tough the hug was. And I kept on asking myself when I was studying this year of the process, Salem, what was the significance of that hug?

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Allah subhanaw taala wanted the Prophet SAW Selim to remember that this is something real, it's not a movie. It's not a an imagination. It's not a dream. It is really, the Prophet SAW Salem Moran to his beloved wife running

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from the cave of Hira all the way home, shivering, the effects of this shocking, incident, unusual incident. He was shivering, his body was reacting. He went to his beloved wife, Roddy, Allah, Allah Khadija and he told her cover me up I feel like a gin had to says was possessed.

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I feel like a gin has possessed And subhanAllah Levine because Khadija the Allah Allah was a wife who trusted Muhammad wa sallam so much. She loved him so much. She knew that nothing wrong is going to harm him. Like Mohamed Salah Salem was in the cave up there. And he didn't tell his wife why he was there. Anyone here is married Can I can I see hands of the sisters in particular sisters who are married. Okay, so I will come to the closest if you don't mind, sisters, can I come ask your question? In your view? Bismillah.

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Imagine your husband came one day and he told you honey, I'm gonna leave for a while. Don't have to worry about anything. I may come.

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I may Allahu Allah. We don't know. But don't worry. I'm not cheating on your doing anything. Haram. I'm just leaving for a while, maybe 40 days, three months. How will you react to this?

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What is your daughter? This is your daughter?

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What? In real life?

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Okay, we will not get into the details now. Okay, so what would you do if your husband say I'm leaving? And don't worry, I'm coming back. But you don't have to ask me any question. What would you do?

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I'd be worried. You will be worried. That's if you're not Nigerian. That's why I think

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MRI brother MRI will Nigerian wife just leave you go just like that.

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Any Nigerian wife here can tell me what will happen. I'll come to the sister. If you don't mind. You can all go away. Do you go?

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What does that

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all go away or go? This sounds very offensive.

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Or go away? Do you go? I go where you go.

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Is that what you said?

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So you will question him, Where are you going to you will never leave unless I know where you're going to right? Yes. One more. One more. One more any more response? Yes, sister.

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And guess what else? Ibrahim Ali Salam, the father of the prophets. He lived Saara his wife in a desert. No water, no any source of living nothing to survive on. And he said what?

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Salam aleikum? I have to go

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are you leaving us in this desert? Ibrahim Hassan did not even respond. He because how will he explain a miracle? Until harder. So

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the Allah Allah, she said, Allahu Amara kabhi hadda did Allah commanded you to do this? Did Allah inspire you to do this? He said yes. Then she said he then learn Yoda Jana, even therefore he will never fail us. Look at the faith. This is a lesson for married couples to trust each other. And to live up to that thing, telling his wife cover me cover me. If that was a Nigerian wife, she would have looked at him and say, I told you don't go there

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hola hola. Katella we are so poor man. alums that. But no, Khadija the hola on our last

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Seeing his conditioned, shivering, shaking, fearful. He was a man he was a human being, yes, he was the prophet of Allah. But Allah told us in the Quran that he is only a man, a human being like us. So we have those emotions, the emotional responses to these shocking events like all of us, Salah Allah, Allah, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and when his beloved wife recognizes that he's going through a traumatic experience, you told him Lau Allah, Allah will never fail you. You were always good to the orphans, and to the needy, and your neighbors, you always meet people with smiles, you're always kind you're always charitable, she reminded him of his good qualities to

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uplift his morale. This is what we need in our community. This is what we need in our society to boost confidence in the lives of others.

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Many of us because of these tensions in our homes, we this we lose confidence about who we are. Some people be don't they pretend to be someone else who they are not.

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And that effect on our psyche. Today I want to talk about

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few points in sha Allah Tala that can help us be in the law, uplift this mental health, emotional health corridor, whatever you want to call it. Based on the Islamic texts, the stories from the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW Salem, so are you ready inshallah? Are you ready? Number one, are you taking notes? If you are of course a sister, I know you're taking notes if your brothers

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I've lost hope.

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No, because the brothers have got good memories, you know?

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Got your brother. Like al Bukhari and Muslim you know, kind of, don't need to take notes. First point, if you wanted to uplift your spiritual, sorry, your emotional being your mental capacity and live with confidence in life. Number one, something that we always fall into what we want to change is in sha Allah, do not apologize for your tears.

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I'll repeat that. Do not ever apologize for your tears. How many times have you seen people crying? And while they are crying in front of you, they apologize. I'm sorry. I am sorry. I didn't mean to cry. I'm sorry. Have you seen if you are one of them? Raise your hand. If you are among those fields, and when you cry in front of others. You apologize.

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The minority I can't believe it.

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Brothers Do you cry or No? Or men don't cry Nigeria. Also you have that men don't cry so you're always standing strong. But the prophets Allah Allah alayhi wa sallam cried, who are you not to cry?

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The Prophet of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said that if you know what I knew,

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if Allah giving you the knowledge that he had given me, you would weep Allah.

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Allah for little, you know, little time. They would hear the cries of Abu Dhabi will be standing in the first row while praying they will hear him in the last row, weeping during salah.

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These are the companions of the of our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW Allah, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when he was burying his beloved son, Ibrahim Alayhi. Salam did he apologize for his tears? Did he tell the people Sorry, I couldn't control myself. Even the Companions next to him, he told him you. You owe Mohammed crying Salah Salah. So he said tears is a sign of mercy from Allah Subhana Allah to Allah.

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I don't understand why we want to prevent the mercy from Allah to enter into our lives, why we prevent ourselves from crying when we wanted to.

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Why we feel that if we cry, we will offend others or will impact others. Listen, my brothers and sisters a lesson of life to live by. If the people in front of you don't want to see your tears, they don't deserve to be in your circles.

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They don't need you don't need to be around them. You need the person that when you cry will contain you

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will give you some words of encouragement. The Prophet was burying his beloved son. He was not only crying until he saw the tears dripping off his beard on the ground. He was also broadcasting to everyone telling them in July in ADMA My eyes are shedding tears. Who speaks like that? How, how many times you cried and he told the people, I'm crying?

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Did you do that before? No. But this was the coping mechanism of the prophets. Allah Allah Allah is Allah. He was telling and describing to the people, the situation of his sadness. My eyes are shedding tears my heart

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is shattered, but we only say what is pleasing to Allah in early lay? Why? Nalia Rajang so crying is good, but acting in a manner that is displeasing to Allah is wrong. So when you lose your loved ones and you wait, or you tear up your clothes or you complain why me? That's haram that's wrong. You need to stop that. But you're crying.

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You're sad how can you how can you control that? Let it out. Just like how our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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have shown us in those examples Number two are you taking notes

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face intense emotions with Da

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my brothers my sisters I'm going to teach you to do I want you to focus because the time is running out.

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I want to teach you to do ads inshallah today but if the law and these are your homework, don't never come to these conventions in these conferences and go home do nothing. Unless you put the knowledge in action you have wasted your time and money and all everything else around it. take something home at least one thing inshallah from every speaker be the light on face intense emotions, intense traumatic experiences with Doha. Two stories here when the prophets Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam was delivering or conveying the message of Islam into if a city away from Mecca. He was faced with so much harshness, even kids were stoning him until his face was bleeding his feet

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was bleeding so Allah Allah Allah Muhammad wa salam, the drove him out from the city. The leaders of that city have mocked him so badly that he called this day the bitter is day of his life. Salah Allah, Allah Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then he went further and he raised his hand, Allah in the ash Gu la kabaah. For Kuwaiti, he complained to Allah subhanho wa Taala the weakness of his resources.

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He complained to Allah subhanaw taala Allah I don't know what to do, you have given me that message. But look at the people how they are responding to it.

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Walton letter hayleigh T, and my lack of resources and help from the people around me. Well, how Annie Allah, Nas, and the disrespect that the people have shown to me, I don't know what to do.

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And then he started to praise and acknowledge Allah subhanho wa taala, as the Lord of the woods, the most merciful and so on. And the last part of the DUA is the one that I wanted to bring to your attention. In lamea kobika, Allah Yaga, Fernando Valley, if you're not angry at me, I don't care.

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If you're not upset with me, if what I'm facing today is not a result of your punishment on me, then I don't care I will bury

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this should be our concern.

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Is Allah pleased with me or not? If he is Alhamdulillah, whatever Allah brings, by way, I'm good to go. Look at the faith of the people in Gaza.

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The people will come from under the rubbles Al Hamdulillah. Who could do that amongst us? Who will look at his dead body, the dead bodies of his family members and say Al Hamdulillah, we'll see you in Jannah in sha Allah, who would say that to his sons who wanted to marry before the demise, and the father will look at them and say, they wanted to marry you Allah, I ask Allah to marry them from borderline, who have faith that strong that will make them think this way. And think about Allah and those most devastating moments in the lives. May Allah subhanaw taala have mercy upon our brothers and sisters in Palestine, Amina bahala me.

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But this is this is what we should always bear in mind. Remember this though I get it from the internet, memorize it in sha Allah. The second dua the Prophet SAW Selim said, Anyone who hear it must learn it. How many of you here believe that the Prophet SAW Salem is the final messenger of Allah is of your hand? If you don't raise up your hand, you're in big trouble.

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Right? All of us Allah or the majority, I'm not sure if we have non Muslims amongst our, you know, in our midst, you're welcome anyway, but Muslims will believe that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the final messenger who said put your hands down

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a big

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don't make it x

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Hello, like vote.

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So call us put your hands down hamdulillah muscles. If you believe that he is the final messenger.

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Then follow what he said. He said anyone who learned who heard this hadith, this da must learn it. And he also said

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About this da in particular, that when you recite it with full faith in it, you will never feel anxious or depressed again. Do you believe him? You raise up your hand. So listen Allahumma inni Abdo what no update? What no ametek nasiha te fi Edik mod in fi hockomock Hoglund fi Ocado oke as Anoka be co lisman Horlock Some may there be enough six oh anzaldo V keytab IC o Atlanta Hua min healthy, I will start 30 If your elemental Hi Bendik and tajawal Quran or Obeah Calbee

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wa Jalla Hosni was a harbor Hammy. Allahu Akbar. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam first is making an acknowledgment, Oh Allah, I am your slave and the son of your male slave and the son of your female slave meaning I am a slave my parents are slave we are all the slaves of Allah Subhana Allah, ma sia T fi Edik

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my destiny is in your hand more than fee your Hochberg. Any judgment you pass on me is going to pass for sure. I balloon fee Ocado anything you pass on me any judgment you made you make upon me is just is added

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our balloon fee o'clock and then the process and started calling upon Allah, I asked you by every name you have named yourself with.

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Or you have revealed it in the book in the Quran. Or you have taught it to any of your creation, or you have kept it hidden in the world of the unseen with you. All of that the Prophet didn't ask for anything. He's just making a big long introduction for what to ask Allah subhanaw taala to make the Quran the spring of his life of his heart and the repeller of his sadness and grief and depression. The Quran two secrets here my brothers and sisters number one, the Quran itself. Where are we from the Quran? What is your connection and relationship with the Quran? Yesterday I asked you what is the first thing that you touch? When you wake up in the morning you said what

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you said what?

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Not the Quran. So what is your priority? So prioritize the Quran in your life, read it every day.

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If if one day pass without reading the Quran, there's something wrong with you. Well, Allah, may Allah protect us all Europe. Read it every day, memorize as much as you can. Use what you memorized in your Salah. build that strong connection with the words of Allah subhanaw taala. And second secret within this hadith or with this, within this narration is the Doha itself. So recite the Doha whenever you can, and read the Quran repeatedly to gain the benefit of this, you know, Doha or with this prediction that when you decided you will never feel depressed again. Number three, seek out comfort.

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Seek out comfort in the company of others. So when you feel down, when you feel depressed, when you feel sad, don't keep it to yourself. You know, sometimes we flood ourselves with anger and intense emotions until they explode. Have you experienced this before? Have you? When people sometimes go through traumatic experiences or they are struggling with any type of addiction, behavioral addiction or substance addiction? They want you to actually go and confess or talk to someone about the struggles but they're afraid why? Because you're gonna judge them. You're gonna look at them differently. But look at this man who went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and told him

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what you're rasool Allah. It then leads Zina

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all Messenger of Allah, allow me to commit adultery. Now I want to ask the men this time.

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Let me ask the Schaefers jabber

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in Nigeria,

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if someone entered into a masjid and he went to the Imam, I don't want you to recall the Hadith. Ah, I want you to the lay people. Yeah. And he went to the Imam and he told him Imam. I want to commit Zina. Make it halal? What will happen to this brother? They will get Vax, they will get Vax Allahu Akbar.

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I asked this question to in another country, a country that I love the most the only one of the countries that really on top for me, Pakistan, many Pakistanis in the room

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you guys have killed the Pakistanis in the country we have we have two three. You know they say what? When I asked them what will happen if this occur in your in your Masjid local masjid, he said

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janazah the next day

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So, he asked about Xena, they kill him. And then the next morning, the berries body and make dua for him Allahu Allah for Allah who are hum, well, you should have left him to live at least to repent, we're gonna kill him first and then we make dua for him later. Look at this. This happened during the time of the prophet The man came to the Prophet of Allah, asking him to commit or to legalize Zina, the Prophet in this narration didn't even mention the word haram.

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Because he knew that the man knew that it is haram. So what's the point?

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The Prophet realized that the man was not asking about the act, whether it's legal or not, rather, he's struggling with this addiction, so he wanted a way out of his difficulty. So the prophets Allah, Selim reasoned with the man, and he told him, Do you like this to happen to your mother, to your sister, to your daughter, to your aunt, and so on? And the man said, no, no, no, say other people to they don't want these things to happen to their mothers, to their daughters. And the man was relief, the process and did something extra, he placed his hand over the man's chest or heart and he made a die Oh Allah, Allah purify his heart and protect his chastity. So we need people

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otherwise we get lost. If we are fighting our struggles by ourselves, we are the losers. Full stop. If you if you want to go through these intense drama, mental health issues that we are going or mental diseases rather, together, by yourself, you will be overtaken by these massive emotions that cannot be contained by one person. So always learn to reach out. And, by the way, there are people out there who would love to see you coming forward. Don't ever think that people don't like to hear your problems, that our people are just waiting to assist you with your struggle. Number four.

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Do not alter your emotions. Do not alter your your emotions. But don't let them control that mean. It means that when you are sad or going through a sad situation,

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don't you hear people say? Don't be sad.

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Did you hear that before? Don't be such a to happen. It's like my father died. And I am sad. I'm crying. How many of us here when when they lose the loved ones? They feel happy? Do you unless you are insane. Right? So how could you come and tell someone who lost his father? Don't be sad. Or really okay, haha, what is this? So don't try to alter your emotions that you're going through. And by the way, I forgot to mention something very important. There is no such thing as negative emotions. There is no such thing as negative emotions. So when you get angry, that's not a negative thing. But if you acted upon your anger, in a manner that is displeasing to Allah, then this is the

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negative thing. But the emotions itself is not negative. The prophets of salaam became angry. When the man who came to the process I'm asking for advice and he told me also Allah give me advice, say Allah Tada, don't be angry. Don't be angry. That was not a suggestion from the Prophet SAW Salem for the man to erase anger from his life. Impossible. Rather, it was an advice that when you experience those emotions, act in accordance to that which is pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala.

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You got it. So don't ever try to alter your mood, your emotions, emotions are like waves.

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Sometimes you're very happy. Something happened makes you sad. Something bad worse happened makes you deep into the depths of your sadness that's close to anxiety, depression, and then slowly, slowly uplift. So take that wave, relax, don't make the situation worse. And slowly, slowly the emotions are are changing. So give your time give yourself time to heal. If the emotions that you're experiencing are intense, and will lie they will disappear on their own, and you will expect to experience different set of emotions. What is dangerous is, is to live in one particular emotion for life. It's like I'm sad, and I'm worried that I will never be happy so I remain sad for the rest of

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my life worrying about my condition. Be careful. It will subside on its own in sha Allah dal number five. Don't let anyone define who you are.

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I want to emphasize on this point, very important. Do not let anyone tell you how to express yourself. When I was on my bed when my back crushed. I was screaming for weeks

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I was shouting to the top of my lungs. And my wife may Allah bless her. She, she was concerned about the neighbors. So every time I will be screaming, she'll say show

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the neighbors

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that I will suppress my pain, I will suppress myself, I will suppress the expression, but when I scream, I feel better. So one day she told me she, the neighbors say, Okay, give me your hand. So I took her hand, and I squeezed it as hard as I could.

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Until she screamed, I say

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the neighbor's

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lungs down. The point is, we lived all our lives,

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being concerned about everyone but ourselves. I am in pain. And this is the one thing that made me feel better or made the pain a bit, you know, less. And sometimes we are restricted from expressing how we feel. So don't let anyone define who you are. You are not your parents. And I'm not suggesting now our evolution and his parents, but rather try to express like, we are different. We are different. What worked with me when my father was staring at us cannot work with my child today, when I look at my child like this, like how my father used to look at me using the word

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Whoa, whoa, you know?

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That's different. My father used to look at us and we will understand exactly what he wanted. But the generations are different. The people are different. We can't be like minions. We can't be like dealing with everyone the same way. May Allah protect us solely out of number six my brothers and sisters, this is one of my favorite. Do not ever replace the Quran with music.

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Do not ever replace the Quran with music. Many people when they go through intense emotions and sadness. They say the only thing brother that makes me feel good is I can't sleep brother without the earpiece in my hand. You know my ears. You guys have that here. You sleep while you're listening to music. Don't ever replace the Quran. Allah Allah He told us in the Quran that the Quran is healing is Shiva. Why Why don't you go Why do you go to the poison if the Quran is Shiva right in front of you. And look at what we sing. I wanted to show you some lyrics some of which I used to myself listen to in the past.

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This liar used to say, I believe I can fly.

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Anyone remember this song? I believe I can touch

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the sky. This man either a liar or a jinn

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because the Quran told us only Jin can touch the sky

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look at this rubbish we hear it. What else we have

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now Hola Hola. Hola. Hola. We'll look at this song. Look at this. Look at what we sometimes sing. Without paying attention to the lyrics sometimes the lyrics go against our Arcada our Eman our belief. Look at this song for example.

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Let's go all the way tonight. No regrets, just love. We can dance until we die.

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So you keep on dancing. And the last action in this dunya will be one

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and you meet Allah on the Day of Judgment what? Why? Because the Prophet SAW Selim said what Mata Allah che in Bartha la whosoever died upon an action will be resurrected about upon the same action. So if you want to die dancing, be my guest

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keep dancing. If you want to die in a bad ah, you know what to do.

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One of our Messiah told me you we can decorate our own death attribute dementia stuff for Allah you know the he said yeah, if you want to die read in the Quran. If that's your ultimate wish to die while reading the Quran, then what is the most important action that you should participate in day in and day out?

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Simple make that the most important action in your life.

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Because the Prophet saw Sam said Ma sha Allah che in marathahalli whosoever dedicated his life for something will die upon that cause. May Allah grant us a good ending. I mean, our blasphemy. There is another song. I am a Barbie Girl

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I am what?

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You guys know the song. Don't lie to me, Nigeria. Please don't lie. We buy these things for our kids. I am a Barbie girl in a Barbie world in a plastic life is fantastic.

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Right. And then look at this worst, the worst part. I am saying this out loud so that we can understand what we are listening to, and quit. If we are still drowning into this filth, you can brush my hair.

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And what undress me everywhere

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we give these lyrics to our kids. So when they come later on in life and watch a Hollywood or Bollywood Bollywood movies, and you see people half naked on the screens, don't blame them.

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They already grew up hearing these films. So they became numb to these images while I had the biller, so be careful. And the other stupid song is Do you remember when we used to sing, sha Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah.

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This what we are listening to last point, my brothers and sisters in Islam, it's not gonna happen. If you're not gonna handle it, it's not going to happen. If you're not going to handle it. What does that mean? It means that whatever trials and tribulations and tests that you are going through, Allah had designed you to bear it. Allah has designed you to go through it.

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Allah subhanaw taala mentioned the Quran, Allah you can live Allah Who enough son in law

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will never Allah will never put a burden over your shoulder unless he knows for sure that you can handle it. Now why we cannot handle it sometimes. Because we don't accept it. We rejected when I was bound on a wheelchair for a year, part of my misery was not accepting the fact that I can't move anymore. And that was a double trouble over my shoulder. I could not bear what I could not fathom. Or imagine my love my life living for the rest of my life being pushed around on a wheelchair. I could not accept that fact. And that was my source of misery. The moment I decided to function

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on a wheelchair and accept the color of Allah.

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And now as you have noticed, when I walk Do you notice something? What do you notice?

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I'm limping.

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Do you know what I call this limb?

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I call it the cute limb.

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This is my cute limb. Some people

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some people asked me Why do you call it the cute limb? The word cute. Number one is something that we all agree on is referred something beautiful that we all like Yeah. This limb is the best gift Allah has given me in my entire life. You know why? You know why? Because it reminds me that one day I was an evil, ie I wasn't even able to feel the ground.

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And now I'm walking.

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So why Why should I complain about this cute limb?

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Isn't it cute? will lie my excuse.

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my brothers and sisters Islam, whatever Allah throw at you don't don't think that it is unmanageable. Don't think that Allah is giving you a trial that you cannot go through? We are not in Huzar today, because we cannot bear those challenges. It's not for us, Allah forgive us.

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But for them, we look at the bodies we look at the people crashing on the rubbles

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and we think that oh how poor they are Wallah he they are in a position far better than all of us. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the pain of the Shaheed

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the pain of the Shaheed which we perceive as something horrible, horrific, right? limbs are everywhere in Gaza, parts of the bodies are under the rubbles until now they cannot discover.

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The Prophet saw Sam said that this pain is like a

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a bitten like you have been bitten by a mosquito.

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When you die, we experienced psychological bouts,

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which is painful. The prophets Allah Allah Allah is Allah Miley's passing see in nearly mo de la Sakura death has an agony associated with it. May Allah protect us and forgive us and have mercy on us. But for the Shaheed it's like just a mosquito bite.

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So from our side here, we see horrible things but on ground Wallah he they are far better. We can't We can't bear the struggles. So when Allah throughout your trial, remember, you can bear it. You can bear with my brothers and sisters Islam and may Allah Subhana Allah ease our pain. May Allah subhanaw taala forgive us all. Unfortunately as always a time to come and a time

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to go, you got to be missed. This is the last segment in this video for myself. Perhaps we will come back for a panel discussion, but for the time being, I love you all for the sake of Allah and I asked you to make the art for me for my family. And until next time see you. Perhaps next year Allahu Allah Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi overcast

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I forgot something very important. I have my book here. I want to gift it to the sister who said over my dead body

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can you come sister please present this gift for you Inshallah, because this was the response I was waiting for. Sorry, sister. I'll give you another one later

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with HRA

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Salam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah

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next time we'd get more copies inshallah. So I