LifeStyle #28 – Taming desires
Channel: Wael Ibrahim
Series: Wael Ibrahim - Ramadan 2023 - Lifestyle
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Salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu Bismillah R Rahman Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah his son Lola Salallahu Alaihe Salam, my dear respected Brothers and Sisters in Islam everywhere whether you are on while Ibrahim page connect Institute Karachi or connect Institute global or you are on live Dean in Pakistan or elsewhere May Allah's path Allah bless you in the in the coming few days of Ramadan today is the 28th or from Milan here in Australia, in Perth and wherever you are May Allah Subhana Allah continue to bless you and may Allah subhanaw taala accept your fasting your Pm your Salah, your DUA, your recitation of the Quran, the time that you been
spending with me during this last month of May Allah subhanaw taala by the end of the month, write our names among those people who will be saved completely from the punishment of hellfire. I mean, I mean, I mean, today in sha Allah to Allah, the lifestyle aspect that I wanted to address is something called a weed a showered or attaining our desires, not controlling our desires and I will speak briefly about controlling versus staining. So taming your desires basically, is to regulate those desires and those feelings that we go through sometimes for the Haram and use it in a halal manner, use it in an acceptable manner, we all have desires for the opposite gender.
However, there is a difference between Xena and marriage. So when you fulfill those desires in Xena Billa, you're disobeying Allah subhanaw taala and committing a great crime against him and his commands. But when you use the same desires in a marriage within the wedlock, with this acceptable relationship, then you're fulfilling the same desire but in an acceptable manner. So that's the difference between taming and controlling, we cannot control the desires that Allah subhanaw taala has inbuilt within our system, we cannot control that. But we can wait regulate them, engage ourselves in activities other than these other than fulfilling those desires until Allah subhanaw
taala opened doors for us to fulfill them in a halal and acceptable manner. The Prophet sallallahu sallam said al que su Mandana so who am Allah Lima abandoned mouth, the clever intelligent person is the one who always judges himself and work in this dunya for what is yet to come and that's the hereafter why Camila Lima abandoned mouth while I do Su and the weak person while I G Zhu Min at Da NF Sal who, however, who the weak person is the one who always follow his desires or his or her desires, that's the weak person will always follow whatever the desire pushes him or pushes pushes her to participate in what a man not Allah then he wishes that Allah Subhana Allah will forgive him
later on or who wishes or hopes in Allah subhanaw taala that he will let go of his crime or his
action that is displeasing to Allah subhanaw taala. So, taming our desires basically, is to regulate them and to wait for Allah subhanaw taala to open doors for us to fulfill them in a manner that is pleasing to Him. Or the hot Barbara the hola Anwar, like he mentioned, take an account for yourself has Cebu and Fusa come Kamala and Taha Cebu judge yourself my brothers and sisters and if you did not watch the episode of Maha Sabha self accounting, go back to the episodes and watch. We mentioned this hadith in details. But basically our hotel is saying take account of yourself before you are taken into account before Allah judges you. Yeah. And weigh yourself prepared as a yellow prepare
yourself for the greatest grounds of judgment, the judgment day, or indeed the Day of Judgment is only light for those who reckon for themselves. The Day of Judgment will be very easy for those people who judge the judges themselves today. And of course, the opposite is true. And one of the things that we should always bring to our understanding is that whenever we think or reflect or whenever we are driven by our desires to do the Haram, remember that ALLAH SubhanA
Motala is just waiting for you to either succeed in the test or fail in it what I had to learn. being successful means to wait and hold yourself and tain that desire until it is fulfilled in a hurry man. Sometimes people be looking at alcohol, beer, wine drinking and say, Oh man, we wanted to have a sip. We wanted to try. We wanted to experiment but Allah subhanaw taala prepared rivers of wine in Jannah Subhanallah Why would you go for the Haram now? Why can't we just regulate those desires until they are made halal for us Mamoon in Mohan Ravi Alon are born of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he said, a slave cannot have the fear of Allah subhanaw taala until he
takes account of himself as he takes account of where his business partner got his food or clothing. So as you as you regulate those desires, as you try to tame them in your favor, or your service account for judge yourself, whether you have fulfilled them in a halal or haram manner, I received so many emails about people who wanted to fulfill the desires of sexual you know, sexual desires they wanted to fulfill them is through self pleasuring when I had the Billa May Allah protect the soul and sometimes it says Halal is acceptable. There are some scholars it's my crew and so on so forth. My brothers and sisters in San remember one thing my crew means dislike, hated by Allah
subhanaw. Taala comes from Quran and mcru. The ruling itself means that if you participate in the action, yes, you're right, Allah will not punish you. But if you abstain from that action, what will happen, Allah will reward you from stopping yourself from controlling the consequences of that desire, not the desire itself, we cannot control the desire and remember this, but we can control the consequences of these desires, their actions we can control, but the desires themselves, they are meant to be enjoyed, but when it is up to Allah to decide the time, now there are a few reflections that I wanted to highlight here in sha Allah, the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam
when he said the intelligent person is the one who compares the value of this dunya with the value of the Hereafter
meeting this is the reflection that we wanted to deduce from the Hadith. Okay, you assume and then if so, what Amina Lima abandonment, the prophets are some saying that the clever person is the one who judges himself and always works towards the hereafter which means you are comparing the values, the pleasures of this dunya with the values and the pleasures of the next. And as such, when you do that little comparison Subhan Allah as shown in the Quran, and in the here and some of the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, you will find yourself focusing most of your attention on the reward that you will gain in sha Allah to Allah and on the Day of Judgment in Jannah. And these
glittery and thrilling desires that are here in this dunya you will realize that they are temporary. Those people ask those people who have committed Zina, I Allah may Allah protect us all. They will tell you the enjoyment was only two seconds, three seconds, but the guilt, the dark phase of guilt and shame and sadness and regret would last much much longer. So the first reflection is the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam is telling us compare the enjoyment, the pleasure of this dunya with the enjoyment of the Hereafter. And when you do that, you tame your desires in a better way. You tend to be more focused on achieving greatness in this dunya for the sake of the enjoyment of the Hereafter
Inshallah, tada the prophets Allah Allah Allah Salim said, Whoever focuses only on this world on this dunya Allah will confound these affairs will confuse his affairs and making constantly. We make him constantly looking at poverty, meaning Allah will bring poverty right in front of his very eyes, and he will not get anything from this dunya other than what Allah already has desired for him, other than what Allah subhanaw taala decreed
for him, and whosoever focuses on the hereafter.
Whoever focuses on the hereafter, Allah will settle his affair for him and make him content with whatever he has.
And Allah subhanaw taala will bring the entire dunya and the year after running to him Yanni Allah will grant you the pleasure of this dunya and the pleasure of the next if your focus your main intention
your main focus is the earth era. We are not saying that we should now neglect this dunya Allah says in the Quran, Walton Sana Siva Kameena dunya don't forget the portion that we have provided for you in this dunya but we're saying what work in this dunya for the benefit of the Hereafter become successful in this dunya for the benefit and for the reward of the Hereafter. The Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam said, Indeed Allah subhanaw taala the Most High said, so this hadith Kotze, all son of Adam,
poor son of Adam, devote yourself to my worship, and I will fill your chest with richness and alleviate your poverty from you. If you do not do so, I will fill your hands with problems and will not alleviate your poverty, poverty. This is something a promise that Allah subhanaw taala is making for every individual, either you devote yourself for Allah subhanaw taala as worship
either you devote yourself to obedience of Allah subhanaw taala commandments as found in the Quran, and through the teaching of the Prophet SAW Selim or you will never be satisfied, even with fulfilling your desires in Haram men. Yeah, and even when you fulfill your desires in a haram way, you will not be satisfied. So what's the point? So what is the point? Another reflection we may think of? Is that the likeness of this dunya my brothers and sisters in Islam is both an amusement and diversion which does not last long. How many years are you going to live in this dunya? How many years are you going to enjoy these pleasures that you are running after? Allah subhanaw taala says
in the Quran, amen higher to dunya Illa Allah I will wala that this life, the life that we are experiencing right now is nothing but an amusement and diversion. it diverts our attention from the main purpose of our existence. What $1 cleaner to hire only ladina to hone, but the hereafter is far better for those who fear Allah. For those who have Taqwa. If you did not watch the tacos episode, go back to Episode One I think or episode two. We talked about taqwa in great length. So Taqwa is an essential key for our salvation. Jana was prepared for those people have Taqwa? Flf Archlord Allah subhanaw taala saying, Don't you have a brain? Don't you think? Don't you have a mind? Don't you
have a reason? Allah subhanaw taala is telling us that in the Quran, because they intelligent person back to the Hadith of the process. Allah is the One who will realize that this dunya no matter how many years you're going to live in, it's very short,
very temporary. So what's the point of fulfilling your desires in a haram manner that will displease Allah and will result in an ever lasting punishment and everlasting darkness? Will I ever belong to the adjustment? So may Allah protect us all and grant us the right understanding? Allah subhanaw taala in another area told us a level know well, and never higher to dunya Allah Ibu Allah Hoon was eager to whatever who by Nakhon what a castle and feel unwell you will Oh lad know very well, that this life, the life of this dunya is both an amusement and diversion and an adornment and a boasting to one another, and a competition in an increase in wealth and children. This is the dunya This is
the reality of the dunya
it's an amusement, it's fun, adornment we want to own we want to possess this and that boasting about our wealth boasting about how many children we have
Subhan Allah and then he gave the example of the dunya trimethyl Sorry, can I mess it up then? ARB eligible kuffaar Another two who may I hear you, but are almost full run through my Hakuna Potomac. So what is the likeness of the dunya is like the example of a rain rain, which resulted in the plant growth that pleases you know, the tillers. Then it dries that lamp after it becomes so beautiful, that pleases everyone. Then it dries and you see it turned yellow, dying, then it becomes,
it becomes what scattered dust, hot armor, complete destruction and in the Hereafter, Allah subhanaw taala continue and in the Hereafter is severe punishment and forgiveness of from Allah subhanaw taala and approval and what is and what is the worldly life except the enjoyment of delusion, Allah is bringing to us again and again in the Quran. The reality of this dunya so that we don't become you know,
so we don't drown
into the pleasures. That is, you know, that's temporary within this dunya. Another reflection we may think of regarding the Hadith of the Prophet SAW Selim about taming our desires is that true believers conduct themselves within the limits of the Sharia of Allah subhanaw taala. And so they don't consider themselves to be free to do whatever they want. We are not like dogs and cats, my brothers and sisters and Aslan, dogs and cats, if we fulfill their desires, they fulfill it anywhere they want in front of any one, they don't care, they don't have that shame inside of them, or that feelings of we need to do things, you know, in an inappropriate manner. They were designed, they
were created this way we are not not called what are called corona by me, Adam, Allah said that we have elevated and dignified the children of Adam. So our creation is different. So we have to be proud of that. And we have to act within those limits. That's why the prophets Allah Allah alayhi salam said dunya sent gentle movement. This dunya is a prison for me for a believer.
It's a prison for us. We just can't wait to get out of that jail and enter into the everlasting freedom, Jen, because this dunya is the Jana of the disbelievers Allah so the They are running after the desires. May Allah protect us all your blimey May Allah subhanaw taala protect us all. There was a reminder in the Quran and I want to give you it was a reminder for the children of Israel and I want to give you this as a homework in sha Allah, Yanni, even in the book that will be launched lifestyle, I will give that as an exercise for you, I will leave a few pages maybe in the book for you to do that exercise. So Allah Subhana Allah in the Quran in chapter number seven, verses 163 all
the way to 169 Allah subhanaw taala was sending a reminder to the children of Israel, who are commanded to subdue the desires to tame the desires and to tame the greed, but the disobeying Allah subhanaw taala and follow the desires instead of following Allah's pantile What is the homework, I want you to go and read those I am and see what was the outcome of disobeying Allah on the account of obeying and following your own desires. And take heed, take lessons, write down those lessons in your notepad, write it inshallah and you get the book, the physical book, right inside the book as a reminder for you that if you follow your desires, instead of following Allah, then you are
worshiping your desires instead of worshipping Allah subhanaw taala or Allah ditta Allahu Allah. Allah says in the Quran, have you seen them, the person who has taken his desires as God,
they are not worshiping in the sense of praying five times a day to their desires, rather, we are just driven by these desires, Instead of obeying Allah subhanaw taala and living within the limits and the boundaries that Allah had decreed, and revealed in the Quran and through the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam.
It was also
excuse me, another reflection that we should also learn from this beautiful narration is that don't forget and ignored the worldly life. We mentioned that briefly. But again, let's reflect on this. Allah Subhana Allah is messenger Muhammad Salah is telling us within the same Hadith that work in this dunya become successful in this dunya. But remember that everything you do here in this dunya it's a contribution to your error. So don't forget and don't ignore the dunya but don't rush towards.
It's literally you know, rewards rather be patient until you attain the blessing and the rewards of the hereafter. So Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran and seek through that, which Allah Subhana Allah has given you seek it, go and go for it. You know, investigate, research, study, work, earn save all these things. Allah is telling us what Delhi female tech Allah Donnell ephra But all the contributions that you do in this dunya you have your eyes and your heart and your mind is on the hereafter Walton sama Seba. Kameena dunya and don't forget the share the provision we have given you in this dunya what I think some Allah who you like, and do good in this dunya my brothers and
sisters in Islam, as Allah has done a lot of goodness for you. Yeah, well, temporary facade and don't desire to cause corruption in this dunya in Allah lay your head goon of serene, Allah does not
UTLA those who do corruption, may Allah subhanaw taala.
Grant us the right understanding my brothers and sisters in Islam, I mean,
Allah subhanaw taala also the sorry the Messenger of Allah and this hadith is also bringing our attention to the fact of that we need to compete, we need to really engage in those kinds of competition towards the hereafter, towards Jannah towards the hereafter service will either not fill up a mirror or become we're generating our dua card this summer you will arc or that will Edina and then we'll be learning also Allah Subhana Allah said and race, race one another towards forgiveness from your Lord and Jana, which is as the heaven it's when as the heavens and the earth. It was prepared for those who have faith in Allah and His messengers.
Delic of Allah ut he may Usher these are the bounties of Allah which will be given to him ever he is pleased with wala who will father of him and Allah subhanaw taala is the Possessor of all great bounties May Allah make us among those people who will raise for goodness and achieve the same results Subhan Allah erase and achieve gym together with the light on reflection number six now I think if I'm not mistaken, if you do not control your desires, they will control you. If you don't tame them in your favor, they will tame you they will get in control of your very action meaning you will become addicted to these desires in the Haram way in the Haram sense. So be careful Allah
subhanaw taala says in the Quran, so as for those who transgress and prefer the life of this domain, indeed Hellfire will be there aboard.
Indeed the Hellfire will be there alone.
And as for those who feared the position
of the Lord fair, the the position and the status of Allah subhanaw taala has our Creator and prevented their soul tame the soul from their inclination towards evil in the Jannah will be the final award. May Allah make us among the people of gem. Three things the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam said three things cause destruction and three things lead to salvation. The three things that caused destruction are number one, that desires that are followed by people greed, greed, sadness, that is obeyed and person self admiration. You love yourself too much you have too much air.
Yeah, and conceit you know.
These are the worst three what I as a biller, and the three things that lead to salvation is the fear of Allah taqwa, secretly and publicly So in both cases, and moderation, when rich or poor, so you're always humble, you're always moderate and justice, whether you're angry, or whether you are calm and pleased. May Allah grant us the right understanding. So one of the things that will destroy us is pleasure that is followed by pleasure that is followed and obeyed immediately, whether in hallway or in the hallway. The Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the fire is veiled surrounded by all kinds of worldly desires, and that's the problem. When you run after your desires.
You're getting closer to hellfire, what I have to believe and Paradise is veiled and surrounded by all kinds of, you know, temptations, So may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us all the Arambula lemme another reflections is following your desires is equivalent in a way to following shaitan
following your desires is equivalent to following shaitan because if you follow your desires in a haram way is the result of shaitan tempting and whispering to you while long you read on your toolbar a coma you read the Lavina Tabby ona shower and Emilio Milan Alima that Allah wants to accept you repentance, but those who follow their desires, they wish they wish that you will be inclined towards also haram desires a little bit because in that little bit you will be deviated. You will be deviated from the Path of Allah subhana time my brothers and sisters here are some practical tips to fight our desires in sha Allah Tala, for example. Some people they have an issue
with waking up for fetcher. So the first step is wake up for fetcher for Fudger whether it's freezing cold or whether it is hot, or on all occasions wake up for failure fight these temptations by yourself set up alarms I bought for my son an alarm on Amazon called the bomb alarm that can shake the bed. When we find or realize that he's a bit of a heavy sleeper. We found a solution and the
Solution work magically get off your comfort zone and do something against your own desires and see what happens. Number two, give optional charities all the time whenever you can give optional charities things that you're not obliged to do it. Designers will say keep it for myself for my children for myself for my children, no now give keep it or give it to others. recite the words of Allah subhanaw taala the Quran every day, every day you have a must have on hand you have an application, you have a Quran displayed somewhere read you know that we like we are fond of buying those frames and hanging the decoration or and from the you know, calligraphy and whatnot. Buy them
with that intention to hang them around so that you can read it and fight your shaitan and fight your desires against you know, not doing what Allah subhanaw taala is pleased with. Obey and careful your parents another tip, serve your parents whether you're married or single. And I'm not saying that when you're married, neglect your wife or you neglect your husband and go serve your parents but balance between all of them and go on and you know, help them especially in their old age, all these things help you tame your desires increase your knowledge of the deen when you have more knowledge about Allah about Islam about the the hijab and niqab The Day of Reckoning and the
punishment, they're most likely you will attain your desires as Allah I want to wait I'm going to wait for Jana inshallah.
And find the point in sha Allah to Allah live a righteous life free from hypocrisy free from showing off free from major or minor sins, display this in public and display that in secret to Allah subhanaw taala and to remind each other of those points my brothers and sisters Islam, tell your friends that if I earn in those areas remind me and I promise you I will never I will never scold your thing that you're judging. I need a reminder myself. May Allah accept from one and all May Allah subhanaw taala enable us to tame our desires and use them only in a halal manner that's pleasing to Allah I mean our blog ninjas Aquila. Hi. And don't forget before leaving if you did not
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