Halal Intimacy #08 – Seduction

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Brothers and Sisters in Islam and everyone welcome back to Halal in Tennessee. Today's topic is about seduction, a word that perhaps we use to indicate something unlawful, something haram, something related to people flirting with each other and so on and so forth in a haram context, but when it comes to marriage, when it comes to Halal relationships, seduction here is used to attract one another, sexually or otherwise so that we do not fall into temptations and go beyond the wedlock beyond the marriage or marital relationship. It

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is sometimes unfortunately funny yet very sad to hear from couples that they are shy from one another to interact in excessive foreplay before the intercourse where modesty is described Islam as one of the highest branches of faith. Negative shyness is absolutely discouraged, especially when it comes to the relationship between husbands and wives. So today in sha Allah, Allah we want to bring this discussion into life. Thanks to stab Abdul Latif for including this topic in his book so let's get to it in sha Allah that

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ignore best Radi Allahu Allahu Allah. May Allah subhanaw taala be pleased with him. He once said in an authentic narration in Neela, or Hepburn it is a little more indeed, I love to beautify myself for my wife. I love to appear attractive for her, just like how I would love to see her beautifying herself. For me. It's a beautiful teaching that Muslims should look into, because if we don't see each other attractive, where are we going to go? Look at Imola, Kodama, may Allah Subhana Allah be pleased with them and have mercy upon him talking about sexual intimacy he said it is an obligatory upon men, it is compulsory to have sexual intimacy with your wife, so long as you don't have valid

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excuses. Not only that, but he said, it is recommended to play with your wife before the actual intercourse or penetration. Why is that so to arouse her desire so that she can enjoy this relationship the same way you'd like to enjoy? And so my brothers and sisters in slam those who are married out there, you should always have a plan? How could we become innovative creative in performing these activities so that we always look forward to this closeness with one another. And so following the teaching of Ignace, or the Allah Allah about how he used to beautify himself for his wife, now you should become creative in beautifying yourself attracting your partners wearing

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some sexy clothes and the like. So that always, always your husband would think of you before going on the internet while I do Billa May Allah protect us all to hunt for a prostitute or to watch pornographic film? Or for the sisters not to die in agony and in silence? Looking forward to these these intimate moments between herself and her husband? Alright, some may ask how about menstruation period during this time in which sexual intimacy is prohibited? How could I excite my husband sexually when he in fact cannot have sex with me during this period? Now menstruation does not mean that you should not be intimate with your partner. The only thing that's not allowed you in this

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time is sexual penetration, but kissing, hugging and playing around. This is actually permissible we have nations where the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam is reported to have played with our Ishar the Allah Allah during his administration, it is not an excuse at all my brothers in Islam out there are married to leave your wives behind and go outside hang with the wrong crowd just because they are menstruating. Women do need and they do deserve care, compassion and emotional intimacy before anything else. Even those who have multiple wives, it is not permissible for them to leave the wives behind just because they're menstruating and breaking that turn not giving an equal portion of

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attention and time and just go on spend time with the other wife who's not menstruating. That is not permissible. That that is not justice. Because as I mentioned earlier, intimacy is not always about sex. So the main learning outcome of today's episode My Brothers and Sisters in Islam is that seduction, attracting one another sexually always being creative in calling one another to this relationship or this bond between yourselves is actually the main key to enjoyment when it comes to sexual pleasure is not always penetration even though Kodama May Allah subhanaw taala be pleased with him and have mercy upon him once said that it is most the hub it is liked. It is favorable by

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Allah subhanaw taala to have this foreplay with your wife prior to sexual penetration you should

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cuddling each other first, you should engage in those four plays first, before sexual penetration. Because this is the real enjoyment of sexual intimacy because you know, once you reach to that pleasurable state of sexual intimacy, you don't want to engage with your partner anymore. You want it to relax, you want it to sleep, you want it to go on and take a bath. So the intimacy ends by actually reaching climax. That's why are these sister Amira Zaki, who's been doing excellent job in educating our sisters about pleasure sex, without pain, sex with pleasure, she always talks about foreplay, that's before the sexual penetration. But you always also emphasize on the importance of

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after play, or after sexual intimacy, to cuddle each other to engage in those moments of closeness, through kissing, through hugging, through massaging, and so on, and so forth. So that we always remember those moments. And we always yearn to come back to them again. So don't worry, my brothers and especially sisters, who are still on till now, after marrying for five years, 10 years, they're still shy to put on some sexy clothes to beautify themselves for their husbands thinking that this moment is over. Now, you're old, we can't engage in these activities anymore. This is your lawful husband. And marriage was meant for this enjoyment, not just the sex part, but being together, being

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always happy touching each other. So don't shy away, don't let him go and have that as an excuse to do the Haram thing what I had to do that May Allah protect us all. And so if you want more details about what should be done exactly, I will definitely recommend you my dear sisters and brothers in Islam, to grab your book of stab Abdullatif if you didn't already, and get some tips and tricks that he mentioned, which I believe it shouldn't be discussed in details on videos. But the bottom line is, my dear Sisters in Islam, you need to learn how to seduce your husband, and get him into bed, since he is your only lawful man since he's the only man that he should enjoy that relationship

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with. And by the way, when I said earlier that we should always beautify ourselves for each other. That doesn't mean that we are not already beautiful. It just means that sometimes we get bored of doing the same act in the same way again and again. So we should be creative in that sense. And that's what we mean by seduction between the spouses and above anything else. This is specifically for my brothers who are listening out there, even if you dislike your wife, or even if you dislike some of her characteristics, appearances or whatever the case may be. Remember the words of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam to focus on that which is positive, to focus on the

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characteristics that are good, that are appealing to you don't always focus on the negative and if there is anything that you wanted her to do for you, please be open about it. Please start that conversation. And the same goes to my dear sisters out there. Even if you dislike your husband for anything, it is absolutely important for you to speak about it, to talk about it to find some solutions to think perhaps creatively together in order for you to make this relationship as seductive as possible for your enjoyment and for the halal relationship to continue in sha Allah Allah Allah may Allah subhanaw taala increase the love that he placed in our hearts for one another

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and never let us look outside the boundaries the law for relationship that he had gifted us with Amin, Amin, amin, before leaving the video kindly share it with your circle and subscribe to our channel if you didn't already and we'll see you in sha Allah in the next episode as Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh