A Big Problem In Our Society

Tom Facchine

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AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the importance of understanding individuality and responsibilities in order to live in a society based on individualism and social norms. They emphasize the need for individuals to have a stronger relationship and avoid confusion. The Sharia is seen as a way to incentivize individuals to live in a moreMVulious way.
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individualism is one of the biggest problems of our society, because human beings, although much of our lives are lived and experienced as individuals,

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we can't live alone, right? No man is an island. It's the poet said, we depend upon other people, especially our families. And so the problem is if the way that we're constantly conceiving of ourselves and conceptualizing our lives and our experiences are only at the individual level, what do I like? What do I not like? What is freedom for me as an individual? What is my individual choice? What are my individual rights, you're going to slowly, consciously or not whittle away, and erode and sabotage all your relationships, and all of your outside help and support. Now, it's a whole other discussion about whose interest that serves within the capitalist economy. That's kind

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of what they want, because they treat you as an individual consumer, they treat you as an individual worker, but we need to think about as a human being, as a soul that has a body, does that make sense to live like that, you're going to have your individual career and your individual hobbies and go back to living by yourself and, you know, work your 40 years, and whatever industry you work in, and then retire and die alone. That's kind of the ideal human and the capitalist individualist system. But that's not life. Right? You need family, you need

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other people to make your life worth something. And if you're involving other people, then it doesn't become a question is not about freedom. On the question is not about

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what are these people giving to me or whatever it becomes about duty? Because relationships are about duty and mutual obligation? What are my duties to this other person? What are my obligations to this group of people, and then you realize that actually, if you do link up with other people, your family, your community, your faith, then life becomes better than it would have been just by itself just by yourself, just as an individual, the whole becomes greater than the sum of its parts, right? So we need to be very careful that we're not just because if you only thinking as an individual, then life's gonna be very hard. You might feel like you're experiencing a lot of freedom

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and a lot of liberation, when you're in your 20s, maybe in your 30s, when you kind of have this sort of energy and independence and whatever, but the human body is, is not made to be independent, it's going to deteriorate, right? And you're going to need other people and support at some point in your life. And so, if you've burnt your bridges, and you don't have anything to go back to, then you're going to end up in a very, very difficult and lonely situation at some point, and a lot of people's misunderstanding of the Sharia. And they're sort of being shocked or scandalized by the Sharia comes from this problem of looking or thinking just on an individualistic level, as opposed to a family

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level or a society or societal level. Right? If you look at say, differences between men and women, some points in the Cydia, especially inheritance, inheritance is always the big thing. Right? Why should a brother get more than his sister? Right? If you look at it through an individualistic lens, it makes no sense. It seems completely unfair. we're imagining a scenario in which, you know, the sister comes from California and the brother comes from New York and they come to the court and they, here's your money, and here's your money. And by and you never see each other again, right? That seems unfair. Why would you give one person twice as much as the other, we imagine, each one of

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them has their career, each one of them has their separate lives and their separate homes and everything separate. That's the problem is how you're conceptualizing that relationship. That's not a relationship of a brother and sister, the Sharia allows people to automate the Sharia so that they need to be in a relationship of a family, right? There are duties and obligations between them. The brother is responsible for his sister, a brother is supposed to contribute and help his sister a brother is supposed to be there, if something God forbid, happens to his sister, you know, sisters, family, or husband or whatever, you know, he's supposed to be responsible, and so that seeming a

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cemetery or difference is supposed to account for the fact that he's got more responsibility to her than she does to him. So if they live as individuals, it doesn't seem to make any sense. But if they actually live in a way that Shinya is trying to incentivize, or is assuming a certain family structure, where there's an actual relationship between those people, there's actual duties, there's actual responsibilities and obligations. And so we need to imagine ourselves and live in those relationships and in those obligations, it's not that people get it backwards. They think, oh, well, now we live as individuals and yeah, sisters in California and brothers in New York. And so now

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We can get the change the city. No, no, no, no, no, no, the Sharia is that way for a reason. It's telling you that you need to have a stronger relationship and be in a more familial relationship than maybe what you're imagining. There needs to be more duties and responsibilities in between those two people than just the kind of modern, individualistic capitalist imagination.