Tom Facchine – 4 Facets of Ramadan – Gratitude

Tom Facchine
AI: Summary © The importance of gratitude and practice in achieving Gratitude is emphasized in the conversation. Gratitude is a fruit of gratitude, not just actions. The success of graduates of the fall college program and finding a positive environment for mental health is also discussed. The conversation ends with a discussion of negative consequences of social media and the importance of finding a positive environment for mental health.
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this Ramadan we are focusing on four things that this month of fascinating teaches us today we look at gratitude.

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Gratitude is one of the central pillars of both our practice and our belief as Muslims. The prophets of Allah

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said that a family template with

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the family

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builds the scale

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of hunger is the ultimate expression of gratitude.

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It means we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala for who he is

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for what he does, and for the uncountable blessings that He gives us.

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This act of Thanksgiving

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is so important that Allah azza wa jal began beforehand with an after discipline

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and requires us to recite is in every rough out of every prayer.

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The Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sunnah is telling us that the study concluded that I believe

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that this phrase as somebody that builds the skills that will weigh our good deeds on the Day of Judgment, meaning

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if we are grateful, truly grateful that you won't need any other deeds online today.

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This doesn't mean that he can just say the words of humbly Allah and forget about prayers. Fasting, it means that gratitude is the key ingredient to all acts of worship in the first place.

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On grateful hearts will compel us to pray it will come

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Tell us too fast. It will compel us to worship Allah subhana wa Tada in the way that he wants us to worship and

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a grateful hearts will create the motivation in us to find out what the Lord wants from us in the first place.

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Beyond the favorable results of the afterlife, gratitude has a transformative effect on our lives. In this world, the prophets have a lot of upset about being in a

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fight, or less is the value that the Afghan in

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the situation of the believer is amazing, because it's all good. And this isn't true for anyone else, except for a believer, Prophet. So listen, as you explained, he said it in a saw that someone shut off the camera fight or flight as long as it was called La sala can actually fight off that our Muslim.

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In times of ease, the believer is grateful. And so that ease is good for him.

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In times of hardship, that believer is patient, and so that hardship is also good for him.

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The implication of the statement of the prophets of love it

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is that if we find ourselves in times of ease and prosperity,

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and we aren't grateful for it, that that ease and prosperity is not good for us at all, but rather an affliction a calamity attract

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as the last seven of swords and for Catherine, we will be held accountable for every blessing that we are given.

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Every blessing requires a certain action and a certain orientation from us, so that it doesn't count against us. On the Day of Judgment, we purify our material wealth, by paying for material charity in the form of attack.

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Gratitude is the spiritual charity that is due upon every single blessing overall,

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as we also learn from it,

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gratitude builds within us a resilience for times of difficulty and helps us to face those trials. We learned that our hardships are just as much gifts from Allah subhanho wa taala.

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If Gratitude is the secret to success and tranquillity in this life, added the x that question we then have to ask is, how do we get? How do we develop gratitude within ourselves?

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First step, since we depend upon a loved one to honor for everything we need to ask him for.

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This is one of the DUA from afar and a lot of teachers have to say it's mostly my fault. Probably Oh, certainly. Ashburn. Yeah, that's

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why they went out with us all the wall. My Lord inspired me to always be thankful for your favors, which he blessed me and my parents reading and to do good deeds but pleased.

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Gratitude is in itself a blessing from Allah and Allah is the source of all blessings. Therefore, we must ask Allah to make us grateful servants, the prophets of Allah wanting the Sunnah. He taught us by a temple to ask for gratitude after every single prayer. He used to say Allah, Allah and he didn't become what shouldn't be. What was that? Oh, Allah helped me to remember you and helped me to be grateful to you and helped me excel in worshiping.

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That was number one, asking Allah after asking Allah for gratitude and the grateful hearts. The next step that we can take to be grateful is to learn and understand who Allah is. So

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if someone is uninformed about Allah, so that to them, Allah is only a concept, only an idea.

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just a theory, that person does not have a strong enough conviction to produce a great cohort.

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We can bring ourselves to be grateful to just a concept, or an idea, only win the favor and constant bounty the philosophy column of the other pillar cluster is the reality that we firmly better witness to and experience. Will we be able to also experience gratitude?

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If someone is missing for the love of Allah azza wa jal so that's a dumb Allah is like a person who is sometimes petty, sometimes unfair, who needs us to worship Him, that person does not have the right type of conviction that could ever produce a grateful heart. Who couldn't be grateful to someone they believe possesses such laws and imperfections? No,

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that is why Allah is the kind of was out of when he blames the deniers are facing the court. And he often says, well, now the law has got poverty.

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They underestimated Allah. They didn't properly account for who Allah was.

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If they had, if we truly understood who Allah is the One who created everything, the one who nurtures and maintains everything, the one who knows everything, the one who provides everything, the one who forgives everything, to those who repent with sincerity.

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When we understand the true nature of a Law of Gratitude is automatic.

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We can't help but experience but grateful hearts.

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After asking for love and gratitude, and understanding from a lot is we can become grateful by practicing gratitude and acting. Grateful. This is actually right in the same first we mentioned the perimeter of the house, and so on. Yeah, that's it and on top, it was a wedding the day what an hour spa the hands on.

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My lord inspire me to always be faithful to your favors, which you blessed me and my parents with

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to do good deeds that pleases

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the prophets of Allah says, Again, let the wage showing us how to put this into action. He would pray every night for long stretches. So that our external world the long run, I will tell us an obedience a loved one doesn't

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have to follow up on the map.

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The prophets of Allah wanting to stand in prayer until his feet would crack and bleed.

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So I told him one day

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before we leave

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your house to go walk, walk on the love, love, love, love, natural thought.

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Why do you do this? Well, Allah has already forgiven your pastor teacher sins the prophets of Allah embody your Sunday.

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He said to her

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what's up? I prophesize I'm gonna say should I not want to be a grateful servants.

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The prophets of Allah

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implies here that gratitude requires approval.

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It requires action. It would not have been enough to just say that we are grateful.

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He had to demonstrate his gratitude through his devotion and his worship if that is true for the rest of creation.

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But it holds true for us as well.

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It's not enough to say that we are grateful.

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We must demonstrate our gratitude with action and service before we have our stuff with

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you in a.

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Sec for some of the products are being

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washed out in the water from the dash W from the Chevy, Chevy and that was the unit that will happen in our business

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was Luke 20 Some of our a while he was talking about when we're stepping into steam in the field,

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if we realize the importance of gratitude, how it is the lifeblood of all devotion and worship, and we must educate ourselves about the obstacles that stand in our way preventing us from experiencing gratitude.

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One of those obstacles is an entitlement. Sometimes due to our own arrogance, we think that Allah owes us something

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either in this world for the next.

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This delusion prevents us from recognizing the magnitude of Allah's blessings and prevents us from being grateful that terribly narrates a hadith of his son and what the prophets of Allah tells us a story about the hermits who worship Allah azza wa jal by himself on a mountain for 500 years.

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He asked Allah to let him die in frustration that Allah let him die in frustration.

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When he was resurrected, and he stood before a host of problems, Rosada, Allah sent to the angels, putting him in paradise, according to my immersion.

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But the man protested.

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He said, No, no, according to my actions, according to my BS,

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a law set a second time, to the angels putting the powerless according to my mercy for the man, again, a process to know according to my deeds, this happened the third time and so a lot of steps as I bring the scale,

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and weigh in this deeds on one side, against the blessing of his eyesight on the other.

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And they saw that the blessing of eyesight outweighed the man's 500 years of worship.

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That Allah is the one that told the angels to place on the scale the rest of the blessings just related to his body.

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His health, his hear his sound mind. And it was as if his 500 years of worship didn't play a thing.

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A lot of those sorts of angels, so be it, put him in * according to his deeds.

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And the angels grabbed a hold of him and began to take them away. But he cried out, he said, No, put me in Paradise by Your mercy.

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So a lot of the angels to stop.

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And then he asked the man

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who created you from nothing?

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Was that from your deeds?

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Or was it from my mercy?

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And the man said other things from the person

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who made it possible for you to worship 500 years.

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The man said it was from University, who made you who gave you water to drink and food to eat and who took your soul while you were in prostration? And said all of it was from university, my lord, then I lost interest, by my mercy. And so why am I here see you as a paradise. And he ordered the angels to take him once again, to paradise.

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This is the fundamental principle.

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In our theology, our worship is merely a token representation of our sincerity, and our gratitude. It is in no way

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reached the level of what we owe the amount of thanks and praise that Allah Subhana Allah deserves.

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Our worship is the least we can do.

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And we depend upon the Lord's mercy to reach paradise.

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This is true even for the prophets and messengers, the prophets of Allah wanting was still on he said, let's pull up after the meet of

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the unbeliever.

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All want to so far.

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Not a single one of you will promise my wife or son of seven will enter Paradise by his deeds.

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Companions were surprised when they said Not even you. Messenger of Allah prophesize says not even be only if Allah envelops me with his mercy account.

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Another obstacle standing in our way of gratitude is jealousy.

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Jealousy for what others have blinds us, to the blessings that are lost because audit has given us, robbing us of gratitude. This is why the prophets of Allah who are English, instructed us say, overall in our mental wellness, family income. Well, that's a metaphor.

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For who allege,

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alone you're able to

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look to those below you and don't look too long as above you.

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That was so you don't feel a little, a loss favors upon

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the human soul. It leans towards and yearns for whatever doesn't attack.

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We tell ourselves, we will be happy once we get the next thing that we desire, whatever it takes,

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but the reality is that there is no end to human design.

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There is no satisfying human want.

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Unless we train our hearts upon gratitude.

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The prophets have a level of English

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is teaching us here that focusing on what we don't have is a disease.

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At first disease that will prevent us from being grateful for a lot of blessings.

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There is always someone worse off than you.

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The solution is to spend time with those who have less than us, so that we appreciate what you do have.

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One last obstacle to gratitude

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is having a transactional relationship with Allah subhanho wa taala. That means that you worship Allah and obey his commandments, not our gratitude.

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Because we want ease and prosperity in this life.

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Such a person really isn't worshipping Allah at all.

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Rather than his heart is set on his material interest.

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The province with the law he told us of the danger of this attitude.

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And also indicated to us how to identify it be said Tommy's gonna wrap up now but deliver

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a commission in order to do well then then we'll call that

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ruinous, someone who worships material well.

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He is happy when he has what he wants. And if he doesn't get what he wants, he's not happy.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is teaching us that the side of gratitude is being even keel.

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We exist that gratitude in our hearts whether we get what we want, or not. Because in the end, we submit to Allah will enter his wisdom and are consoled by the certain faith that along those paths, if you find yourself struggling to be grateful, when you don't get what you want in life, or even worse, when you go through hardship, we can find a good example of gratitude and this type of situation. And she already one of the setup. He said, If I experienced hardship, I thank Allah for four things.

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One, I found a lot of them it's not as bad as it could have been.

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To it thanks a lot for granting me the patience to Barron's

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three I love that he gave me the opportunity to purify myself by going through it.

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And for I think a lot that it didn't affect my faith in

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fasting all along

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is a fundamental exercise can build a gratitude.

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Go in all day without food and water, even though we still need to go to work. And we still need to go to the school and do our daily tasks. It makes us appreciate the blessings we have so much more. The prophets of Allah says is solid, far,

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far, far too clean up there for heating, the other follow up but the fastest person has two sources of happiness. One of them he breaks his fast and the other one he needs to sustain them with the reward

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basking the promises of love it was acknowledged as Reiki Masters a joyous occasion. As we say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Without fasting, we wouldn't experience the same level of joy for our food and water.

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Because we would take it for granted.

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Ramadan makes us think, beyond our food and water, to all the other blessings that we experience so often, that we take for granted.

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Perhaps the greatest examples of a blessing like this is our faith is understand.

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If you were born into a Muslim family,

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if your ancestors are Muslims, then you have the greatest possible blessing.

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But like all lessons,

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if it was handed to you, without much effort on your part, it's

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you. It's possible. And there's a danger that you're going to take it for granted.

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Wherever the blessing of Assad was taken for granted, we don't realize what we have until it is gone.

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We see this firsthand. Living in the United States.

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European Institute reports that nationally, one out of four Muslim youth will no longer identify as Muslim. By the time they're an adult.

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A lot of this comes from the passive attitude, the adults back home, you never had to ask yourself this question, What can I do to make sure my children and grandchildren remain Muslims.

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But this is exactly the pressing question that we have in our community today.

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It is usually only when the children stop caring about their faith

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and vegan resisting these expectations that we start to react

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when this happens post on the streets for the traditional markers of religiosity from back home, such as memorizing import and learning about the stamp. And while religious education is essential to building strong faith in our youth Yaqeen Institute has found that the most significant factor in building the fate of our youth is happening possible friends.

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In a study that they conducted, having Muslim friends decrease the odds of seeing religion as important by 148%.

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Having Muslim friends increased the odds of having orthodox beliefs by 186% of how many Muslim friends have increased the odds of praying daily by a whopping 280%.

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this pandemic is slowly winding down. And our messaging on Campbell Street is getting closer to his completion, there will soon come a time, when we are able to have activities in person, again, an hour you must be one of the top priorities, if not the top priority.

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We continue to depend upon your support to finish the messaging. So we have a place for these activities.

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And we will rely on your support going forward to start these programs to maintain them and to have our youth participate in it. We are grateful for the staff

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that let's show

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let's show it by taking every opportunity to protect and strengthen our faith for ourselves and for our future generations focus on something other than the drop

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