Prepare Your Child For The Future

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I said I'm worried alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu brothers and sisters Welcome to a brand new episode of 26 ways to be a good Muslim parent. As we come to the end of this series, I mentioned that we want to chat to you a little bit about the advice of Look man, the wise to his son, as Allied soldiers mentioned in the Quran, and in the last episode, we talked about the importance of teaching your children the prayer, and the importance of teaching your children to be a force for good to command good to order good to encourage good and to forbid evil, to stop evil from happening among their friends and their peers in their school, and to be a force for good in their community.

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I want to talk to you about the same idea today

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but in a different from a different angle.

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And that is the statement of lachemann as Aleister which told us in the Quran. Yeah, boo Nia Optimus Sala. What more Bill Maher roofie, when

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was your island as far back in early kameena as me, oh, my beloved son established the prayer, command good, forbid evil, and be patient over what befalls you. Indeed, this is from matters requiring determination. And what I want to talk to you about today is preparing your child for the future, setting your child's expectations. And I feel this is an essential part of parenting. And something that is clearly a benefit that can be taken from this I look man is preparing his son for the difficulties of the future, preparing his son for some of the challenges that his son will face setting his son's expectation was pure Anima asop.

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So you know that your child is going to experience various difficulties or various trials of various times in their life, you have an idea, just like the idea of an exam, you know that your child is going to sit a certain exam at a certain time in their life, GCSEs satps, high school certificates etc, you know that their child is going to sit certain exams at certain times. So prior to that exam, what do you do? Prior to that exam, you prepare them for it. And this is the key to what we're seeing here is that you suspect your child will experience various difficulties in their life, various troubles, various trials and tribulations. And what do you do you prepare your child while

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protecting them, you prepare them, like a general prepares his army while they are safe in the barracks. He doesn't take them out on the field when people are shooting against them and then prepare them while they are safe in the barracks safe in the army base. At this time he prepares them, then he takes them out when they are prepared. And so this is what we want to encourage the children towards that preparing them for things. As the time comes when we feel they're going to need it before they're experiencing it, preparing them for the future preparing them for some of the difficulties that are going to come. That doesn't mean that we have to lump all of those into one

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goal. It's no point talking to children about the difficulties of work when they're five years old, or talking to them about the challenges of marriage at six years old. There's very little benefit in that. But there are certain challenges that they will experience people not listening to them people not being fair with them, perhaps then the challenge of going to school the challenge of dealing with non practicing relatives, the challenges of heroin, you know, being encouraged to do the harem, when they you know, sort of a teenage years. The challenges of your desires, the challenges of then career choices and stuff like that. These are all challenges that will come at various phases from

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very young to very old. But the key is that at each phase, you are educating your children as to that challenge and you're helping your child to overcome that challenge before the challenge reaches your child and setting their expectations.

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Because we find a lot of children, and a lot of help is sort of loans that their parents literally give them everything on a plate. And this is strange because this is something we don't see from the non Muslims as much as we see it from the Muslims, the non Muslims, even the richest of the many of them will say, I want my child to work, I want my child to realize the blessings of life. I want my child to understand that things don't come for free to understand the value of money, etc. We see a lot of the Muslims disregarding this very Islamic principle, and not preparing their children for real life. Everything is bought for them, everything is given to them, they become very spoiled.

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There's nothing wrong with occasionally spoiling your children to show your love, show your affection. And I think it's almost a globally accepted principle, that there's nothing wrong with spoiling your children from time to time, or some of your more distant relatives spoiling your children from time to time. But when children are spoiled, day after day after day, given everything that they need, not prepared for the future and not told about the difficulties that they will experience. Then this leads to a child that doesn't contribute anything to society, and indeed ends up in equipped or ill equipped to deal with the challenges of life. Compare this to the advice of

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mine was pure alhama sabik. Be patient. Because I've told you to pray. And praying is going to require patience, good deeds, require patience. One of the three types of patience is doing good deeds, and avoid since you have won a lottery Shrek Villa on my son, do not make a partner with Allah. And avoiding sins is going to require patience. There are going to be times where you want to be sinful, you want to disobey Allah, it's going to require patience, it's going to require effort, it's going to require determination not to disobey Allah azza wa jal at that time, and the quarter and the cover of Allah is going to require patience. Allah subhanho wa Taala is going to decree for

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you difficulties to prefer your challenges. decree for you ups and downs. One of the things you can do,

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as a parent is to explain this to the child through the experiences the child has. So maybe you go through a little bit of a financially difficult period, the child doesn't get so many toys, so many things bought for them, and explain to them that this is part of the ups and downs, alive. So a gel gives you times of relative ease and times of relative difficulty times when things are going well for you, quote unquote, things when times are a little bit tough. Educate your child set their expectations that this is part of life. Otherwise, the first time something bad happens to them the first setback, they get the first hurdle, they fall down. And that's not an appropriate situation

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for a Muslim to be in that they fall down at the first hurdle that they fail. The first setback, and your child will have setbacks

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in their life, school, or other setbacks, things they wanted, they didn't get. Teach them to be patient, patient in the face of what alarms are, which will decrease for them, and teach them to love Allah, and that the decree of Allah is good and the decree of Allah azza wa jal is good for them. And they need to learn to accept it and they need to learn to be content with it. And being content with the decree of Allah is one of the hardest things that a Muslim can do. want them to learn to be content with the decree of Allah, to be patient, to patiently do good deeds, to patiently avoid doing since this is what every adult wants. But if we can teach this to our children

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early enough, so that they develop this as a habit, then inshallah we are really preparing them for the future. We're preparing them for what is going to come. And in the second part of this episode in sha Allah, Allah, we're going to talk very specifically about some of the trials and tribulations that we need to inform our children about some of the things that at some point in our child's lives, we have to prepare them for we can't afford to miss them out. And so we need to educate and prepare our children for that before the time comes when the child is exposed to some of the worst of the trials and tribulations and inshallah we'll talk more about that in the second part of the

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episode. But to summarize this first part of the episode, we listen to the statement of Look, man, that allies are gentle related to us in the Quran. Yeah, Buddha alchemists Allah. What more than one honeymoon cup or spear Alana Saba in Nevada Kamiya asmin more or my beloved son

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Establish the prayer. command that which is good and forbid that which is evil and be patient over what befalls you. Indeed, this is from matters requiring determination. It's not an easy thing to do. It's a tough thing to do. requires effort requires determination requires energy. Sometimes you get it and sometimes you don't. Sometimes you pass and sometimes you don't. And inshallah we'll talk more about the speed nilai to Baraka with Allah after the break. And until then, as salaam aleikum, wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu Welcome back. We're talking about the statement of alarm. So Jill, the last panel with Alan mentioned to us from lokman.

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these are from the matters that require a lot of determination. So this is also about setting the expectation of the child. This is going to require determination, it's going to be tough. The exam is going to be hard. But insha, Allah, Allah, you're going to pass in sha Allah, tada, you're going to get through it with the help of a light switch, and it requires Al Azim. He didn't say it's impossible. He didn't set him a level of impossibility, you're never going to be able to do it, you've got no hope. But he said, You're my son. This is going to require some serious effort as some real determination and some real effort. Because praying five times a day requires effort, and

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ordering good requires effort. forbidding evil requires effort, being patient over what Allah azza wa jal decrees, for you requires effort. being patient to do good deeds requires effort. And being patient to avoid sins requires effort. So we need to develop that culture of putting that effort in from those children and encouraging them to do so while they are protected under our protection after the protection of a large region. And we are shielding them a little bit protecting them from the world a little bit with preparing them. And yeah, honey, we are living in a time of freedom, a time of trials and tribulations. And some of these trials and tribulations you feel will directly

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affect our children.

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hadith of gibreel when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked about the signs of the hour, he said and tell him that I am a to a better that the slave woman will give birth to her master. And I think the strongest opinion here is this refers to aku Lydd being evil towards our parents treating our parents as though they are slaves. While intellia

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Allah, Allah, Allah Allah, we are Usha yet Otto Luna filopodia

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that you see, barefooted naked and poor shepherds

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competing with one another in building tall buildings. My point in mentioning this

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is that you fear that these signs have already come. We are already living in an age of being bad to people's parents treating one's parents or slaves. We are already living in an age where the naked and barefoot shepherds compete with one another in building tall buildings. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in an authentic hadith weighed only our min Sharon cogic Tara footie, Julio, mini Raja mia juja, my jammies daddy.

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The prophets I seldom said,

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for an evil which is very close. Today, there has opened from the barrier of young Jewish and non Jewish something like this. And he made a sign with his hands to indicate a hole that had opened in the barrier of the hydrogen that George, the signs of the coming of the dead jar to the jar will come at a time of much killing. And are we not living at a time of much killing? The dead jungle will come from a group of the Hawaii bridge in a place between Syria and Iraq. Do we not find a group of the Hawaii bridge between Syria and Iraq? The dead child will come at a time of something that will make him severely angry, or an anger that will Rouse him do not live at a time of anger at

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a time when people have forgotten the meaning of La ilaha illa Allah subhanaw taala how many of the minus signs of the Day of Judgment have already happened? How many of these signs can you definitively say have not yet happened? barely even what then what do you think your children are going to live through? What sort of a world do you think your children are going to live through? bearing in mind, there are going to be battles there are going to be wars there is going to be killing and how have they said O Messenger of Allah what is that how much he said killing, there is going to be killing there is going to be slaughter. There are going to be wars, the digital will

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And the digital is described by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam indeed it has been revealed to me that you will be tried in your graves with a trial that is equal to or near to the trial of the mercy had dejavu

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and he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that there has been no trial since the creation of Adam. more severe then the trial of MST had the judge was he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So what are we preparing our children? For with regard to these trials? Do we really think that the best thing for our children is for us to wrap them up in cotton wool and pretend that these trials and these difficulties are not going to happen?

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Rather, we need to explain to our children, some of the trials and tribulations in a way that's appropriate to their age. At the beginning, it might just be teaching them the first 10 out of sorts of calf,

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that if you read these, if you will be saved from the rest he had the job. And some of the scholars said the latter 10 out of sorts of calf might just be teaching them this without teaching them necessarily Why just teaching them to do it keep you away from the fitna to keep you away from trials and tribulations. But as they get older they need to know who the digital is. The digital is not the TV and the digital is not a system and the digital is not a corrupt world government that digital is a human being from where the agumbe from the sons of Adam, who will come and say I am a profit when there is no profit after our messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he will come and

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say I am your Lord and you will not see your Lord until you die and upon his forehead will be written

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In calf, for raw or careful, disbelieve, and every believer will see it, whether they can read or whether they cannot read. We have to ask ourselves, when are we planning to talk to our children about the trials that they are very likely to live through? Perhaps your children will not see the detail and perhaps they will. But how many more of the trials of Islam, the trials of the coverage, the trials of killing the trials of slaughter the trials of the non Muslims surrounding the Muslims, like a man inviting his guests to dinner, happily eating from the wealth of the Muslims and happily slaughtering them? Subhana Allah, we have to prepare our children for what they are going to face.

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And yes, as I said, it has to be age appropriate. You can't tell a three year old about some of the horrors that they might experience in their lifetime. But you can teach them to do is to keep them safe. You can teach them the ayat that keeps them safe. The prophet SAW Selim said to keep yourself safe from the digit, he instructed us to simply read the first 10 out of circle calf, we can teach this to our children

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to do our to keep us away from fitna from trials and tribulations, then we can begin to teach our children some of these trials and tribulations so that they recognize them. So they recognize these fit and go back to the hadith of her they follow the alarm, canon. So yes, aluna Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and welcome to any sharp behalf at Angular Kenny, the people used to ask the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about good. And I used to ask him about evil out of a fear that it would touch me. So we have to teach our children and prepare them for what they may experience during their life. For if we don't prepare them, perhaps they would become unaware. And

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the trial of the digital is very severe. And the trials of Yeah, Julian, Matt George, and the trial of the killing that will come at the time of the day of judgment and the trial of the non Muslims surrounding the Muslims and attacking them, like a host would invite his guests to dinner. All of these things are trials and tribulations. And we have to try to educate our children in a way that's suitable to their age, so that when they become adult, they are aware of these trials, and they know how to avoid and they know the minor trials that are going to lead to the major trials. So maybe the minor trial is the trial of women. The first thing that Manny is slightly over tried with was the

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trial of women. So they're aware of the minor trials, they're aware of the major trials, so that they, if they are, for example, we talk about the trial of women, if they are boys, they don't fall into this trial. If they are girls, they don't become this trial. And that is age appropriate, you can teach that to a five year old or a seven year old or a nine year old. But you teach it to a person according to the age they need. And so when they reach adulthood, they are aware of the trials and tribulations. They're aware of what might happen. They're aware of the fit, and they could approach the Muslims and have approached the Muslims. They're aware of what's going on in the

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world today, to Islam and to the Muslims. And they're aware of the reason why that is going on. And it's not the strength of our enemies. It's not anything to do with the strength of our enemies in no Qaeda shape, or any Canada the plot of the shape is forever weak. But it is our own weakness, our own sense verhaal facade to feel better, we will be Makassar. But alienness corruption has appeared on land and at sea by what the hands of men have earned.

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And allies said regarding the Battle of Erfurt when the companion said and how could this be that we lost? Who who I mean in the unforeseen come see this from your own selves. So we need to make our children also recognize the reason why.

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It's not a lack of an Islamic political system. It's not a problem of the strength of the enemies of Islam. It is purely a problem of our sins and our distance from Allah azza wa jal and our lack of success from Allah subhanho wa Taala. Because of our sins and because of our distance from Allah. That is why the Muslims are suffering, and at the same time and To conclude, we also need to give them hope, hope that they can survive these trials and tribulations. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said they will not cease to be a group from my alma, I'll have a VA hearing upon the truth in all of its manifest glory, clearly in every single way, upon the truth, they will not be harmed

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by those who oppose them, until the command of our law comes and they are still in that state. They will not be harmed by the trials and tribulations that will happen to them and they will remain

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Upon a good way until the command of Allah azza wa jal comes. But if we can't teach our children to be from those people, then this is a problem. So we have to prepare our children for the hardships, prepare them while they are being protected while they are being nurtured, prepare them for some difficulties that will happen age appropriate information to the point where they reach the adulthood and they know the difficulties they're going to face, and they're ready to face them. And they know that with the help of a lot, they can get through them. And there will be a group who will get through them. And they are dedicated and committed to being from that. And they recognize the

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minor trials and how those trials can lead to major trials. And we ask a lot, so just to keep us all safe from all of these trials. And this is all we have time for in this episode. Until next time, Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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