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Charlotte Tyler. Today we have another
episode or another segment of our Friday night reflections, reminders jhala. For today, we're talking about the topic of the Muslim woman.
And I'm going to talk about this topic in light of various IR and ahaadeeth.
And these ayat and ahaadeeth give us information which is important
to both men and women.
It's important to women because it relates to them. And this is an idea that relate to women.
And it's important for men because it helps us to understand how we should treat the women around us and the rulings relating to that.
And as a man, you are often responsible for the women folk in your family, for example, you're responsible for your wife, you're responsible for your daughters.
In that case, you need to be aware of issues relating to the halal and haram and issues relating to advice given to women so that you are able to exercise your responsibility properly, you're able to fulfill your responsibility as someone who is responsible, usually for various
women folk in your family.
So therefore, it's important,
very, very important that you understand
issues relating to an advice relating to the Muslim woman, so that you can go and advise your wives, and your sisters, and your daughters, and so on. And for the sisters themselves so that they can understand some of the responsibilities of the Muslim woman some of the dangers in this time some of the things the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam advised.
And so I'm just going to select and I'm not going to, by any means select every Hadeeth on the topic, I'm going to select a few ayat and a few Hadeeth. And from them explore some of the topics which are important around this, around this, this issue of Muslim women.
And I think it's particularly relevant in our time, because we see that there is a
huge effort being made by the enemies of Islam,
by those people who want to extinguish the light of Allah azza wa jal
to attack the Muslim woman
not so much physically, as attacking her through shubo heart, Russia heart
through doubts and misconceptions,
telling her that you don't have to do this. And you don't have to do that. And this is not obligatory, and you shouldn't do until she becomes confused about what Allah azza wa jal wants her to do.
And through Shahada
by appealing to her desire,
and we're going to talk a little bit about that. But just to give you an example, every woman wants to look beautiful. Everyone wants to look beautiful.
Every woman wants to look her best. And so the shaytaan wants to appeal to the Muslim woman when she goes out to decorate her hijab.
And to make herself look very, very beautiful. Because this is naturally appealing to her in herself.
And so the shape often appeals to her desires.
And there is a huge effort from shale clean and in swell Genie from the shale clean of the gin and the men to attack the foundation of our own. The thing we
holds us together in terms of the Muslim, our Muslim women, our mothers, our daughters, our sisters, our wives.
Because the shouting from the jinn and the men, they know that if they achieve this, then they will have weakened
the men and the women
in a very severe way, in a way that is very, very strong and in a way that is very effective to achieve their aims.
And this being, you know, on anyone who sort of is keeping up to date with with what is going on in the world today, I can see the amount of effort that is being put into
a sustained attack against
the values that practicing Muslim women hold
and trying to prevent them from their religion in things that men are not prevented from.
And you only have to see in the West, and particularly in Western Europe, the efforts to ban the hijab
none of them want to ban the beard. None of them want to ban your Thea from being above your ankles. Their efforts are towards attacking the Muslim woman
because it serves their aims in weakening the Muslims. And it serves their desires in being able to see the women wearing what they desire the women to wear.
And so they for example, tell the woman you are free to wear nothing but you're not free to cover yourself. If you cover yourself, you'll be fined or imprisoned. But if you wear nothing, this is your freedom.
And so ultimately, we have to respond to that by educating ourselves men and women, about what Allah azza wa jal requires from our Muslim sisters and from men with regard to our the Muslim women that we encounter.
And how we should go about
raising our Eman and increasing our Eman with the permission of Allah to such an extent that we can withstand these kinds of attacks which are being made these kinds of ideological attacks against
the women in our, in our community, in our religion in our society.
So a number of ideas and ideas and by the way, like I said we were not by no means covering everything I'm just picking some things that I wanted to talk about. So I want to start with a an idea, which I think just sets the tone of what we want to achieve today.
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Eliza just set the believing men and the believing women
are allies to one another. They are Aurelia,
they support one another, they help one another.
They commands that which is good.
And they forbid that which is evil. And they perform the prayer and they give them a car and they obey a line His Messenger it is they whom Allah will have mercy upon. And Allah is the Almighty and all wise.
This for me sets the tone of our mentality in terms of what we want to achieve today. And how we should we should approach the issue of the Muslim woman.
We don't approach the issue of the Muslim woman as a man pointing my finger and sitting on an ivory tower and looking down and saying you know you should do this. And you should do this and you should do this. But from the point of view of helping one another, but I'll go home earlier about they are helpers They are the ones who are allies to one another.
They tell each other to do what is good. And either women tell the men to do what is good and the men tell the women to do what is good.
And the men tell the women to stop doing what is wrong and the women tell the men to stop doing what is wrong.
And they encourage each other with regard to the prayer and giving this account and obeying Allah and His messenger and notice how Allah subhanaw taala mentioned these things in which men and women are both
have a share in doing these actions.
In commanding good in forbidding evil in performing the public
In giving this icon in a being aligned His Messenger, I noticed that allies origin emphasizes the obedience to Allah and His messenger.
And I don't want any woman who hears this to think that this is a man telling you what to do.
This is a last panel with Allah who is commanding you and he knows what is best. Allah Allah. Allah doesn't the one who created No. Because again one of the shubo hats, one of the misconceptions and the and the evil notions that they the non Muslims put out as they say, why are you letting these men tell you what to do?
Take back your freedom. Take back your ability to decide for yourself.
This is not about a man telling a woman what to do.
This is about all of us getting near to Allah azza wa jal. Every man and every woman is commanded to obey Allah and obey His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Allah is the Creator and he knows what will correct his creation. We don't know what's good for us.
What law here we don't know what's good for us. We think something is good for us. And later on, we find it's not good for you.
We think that such and such a thing will be beneficial. And later on, we find it wasn't beneficial. Allah azza wa jal knows what is good for us. He knows what will correct us. It's not about men telling women
or lecturing to women what they should do. But it's about obedience to Allah azza wa jal, and all of us encouraging each other to obey Allah.
And this removes the shubha the doubt that
why are you listening to a man telling you how to behave?
Why are you allowing them to dictate to you what you should and shouldn't be doing?
We say to those people, you have misunderstood. We are not here to get points over one another, that I am in control of you, and I'm responsible. And I tell you, and you don't tell me. That's not the mentality. The mentality is we are here to help each other to obey Allah is the origin. Yes, some of us are responsible for others, we will come to this Some of us are responsible for others. That's normal human society. Everybody has a boss at work. All of us have people responsible for other people. But ultimately, what matters or what we are talking about here today is obedience to Allah, and obedience to His Messenger, sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And that is commanded for men and
commanded for women. And women's role is to do everything they can to help themselves and to help the men in their family, to obey Allah and to obey His Messenger. And a man's role is to do everything that he can to help himself and the women in his family, to obey Allah, and to obey his messages, a lot of it was said, and even if you as a man or a woman, don't understand the benefit in something.
Maybe, for example, you don't fully understand why it is that women are required to wear the hijab and men are not required to wear the hijab.
That is something that comes with knowledge, people of knowledge, understand why, however, maybe at a certain point, somebody comes especially a new Muslim, or newly practicing Islam and says, I don't really understand that. We say that ultimately, understanding is not as important as recognizing that it is a command that came from Allah, and Allah knows best what is going to correct our society and ourselves.
It's not a requirement that I should understand the ALA The reason for every ruling in Islam, if I understand the reason Alhamdulillah and if I don't understand the reason that I know it is from Hakeem in Hobie from the most wise and the one who knows and is aware of everything
and that if he decreased something for me, it's going to be best for me. Like Allah subhanaw taala said, while La Jolla and mo Anton lotta Allah moon, Allah knows I Allah knows what is best for you. Because this ayah talks about you loving something and hating when it's good when it's bad for you and hating something when it's good for you. And then Allah said will love we learn more and Tom Latta Allah moon, Allah knows what is good for you
and you don't know what's good for you.
So ultimately, even if
You don't understand some of the rulings we're going to mention today. What you have to understand is that these rulings came from or come from Allah, and from his messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And therefore, we obey even if we have yet to understand the reason or the wisdom behind it, and if we understand the wisdom that makes us even stronger, and I'll do my best to explain in my limited according to my limited ability, some of the wisdoms behind these rulings today. However, ultimately, once we recognize that a ruling comes from Allah and His Messenger, Allah azza wa jal told us were mechanically meaning, while Minetti either called Allah who was sudo Mr. molefi Allah
to mean Emory him. It's not for a believing man or a believing woman, neither men nor male or female. If Allah and His Messenger decide or decree or legislate a matter that they should have any choice in it. You don't have a choice. as allies, though he has said in another ayah that they submit to work with complete submission or you sell the more Taslima they submit to it completely. Because we are Muslim. What does the word Muslim mean? Somebody who submits to Allah male and female, we submit to Allah, meaning we submit to what Allah has legislated for us in Islam, the rules and the regulations and the laws that Allah has decreed for us in Islam, we submit to them,
because we know that Allah azza wa jal
knows what is best for us. And we have submitted to him in Islam. And therefore, when a law decrease something we don't have a choice to see, I think, what I believe or my opinion is, the My position is, none of these words should come from the mouth of a man or a woman who believes in Allah after they are sure that the command came from Allah.
You don't have an era you don't have a choice after that. And whoever disobeys Allah, and His Messenger has indeed gone far astray.
So this is kind of to set the, the intention behind what we're trying to get an introduction to what we're trying to, to say.
The first idea in terms of the topic at hand that I want to deal with is an iron sword alley in Milan is number 36. Allah azza wa jal is talking about the mother of Maria malleus salam,
the wife of a Milan
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Allah so just hit the translation of which is, when she gave birth to her. She said, My Lord, I have given birth to a female.
What is the meaning of this, she had sworn
she had sworn to Allah azza wa jal
that she would offer her child in service to the place of worship.
She had promised to realize our agenda that she would offer her child in service to the place of worship.
She said, we'll be in Nineveh to aleca Murphy, Bhavani mojarra, Fatah, cappellini.
Allah, I pledge to you whatever is in my womb,
as a service for you, as a servant, to be a servant for you.
And it seems that this was one of the acts of worship that was
within the Sharia, of the people who came before us
that a woman could pledge her child in service to the place of worship,
what they call the temple ever, they could
offer their child and pretty and particularly a male child,
and she was expecting that child to be a male. And when she gave birth to a female, she said, My Lord, I have given birth to a female, meaning this is not what I was expecting. I was expecting to give birth to a boy and the boy will grow up to be in service of the place of worship.
However, when it was a girl
This was more difficult. So she said, I've given birth to a female. And Allah knew better what she had given birth to.
And then Eliza just says, and this is the shade from the ayah that I want, while he says that, okay?
males are not like females is the statement of a lie soldier is not the statement of the wife of Mr. Eliza, Jen said, while he says that colon cancer
males are not like females.
And this is the first point that we want to put across, that in Islam, men and women have different needs.
What we're going to hear in the next, a hadith or ayat is that those needs are met many times the same.
But ultimately, we have to recognize that men and women are not the same.
And this is in response to the shabiha of Western feminism. And I say Western feminism, because not even Eastern feminism fell into this. And this is primarily Western feminism, which is the belief that women should be men.
If you want me to define, I define Western feminism as the belief that a woman should be a man.
And that she's not being given her rights until she is a man.
And that's not what Islam says. Islam says men and women are different. They're different in creation. They're different in much of their character and temperament. They're different in what Allah azzawajal has obliged them to do in many cases. So we have to learn to love and appreciate those differences,
not to fight against them. Because one of the things that the western Western feminism is teaching us to do,
is particularly teaching our women to do and bear in mind not all Western feminism comes from women who are caffee rot, who are disbelievers. And some of it sadly, comes from women wearing hijab.
And perhaps I can tell you that one of the worst and most staunch feminists who caused so much, she caused so much facade on the earth.
And she was in my city in Newcastle, and she caused so much facade on the earth, so much corruption, and yet she was a Muslim, a Muslim woman.
So don't think that all of them I'm talking about the non Muslim women I'm talking about also, the Muslim women who
try unfortunately, have fell into the era of serving this cause of Western feminism, of teaching the women that you don't have your rights until you can be a man.
But Islam tells you that men and women are different, and we should appreciate. And we should learn to love and respect the differences that exist between men and women.
And not interest, interestingly enough, is the position of many Eastern feminists. And I'm not a fan of feminism, or whatever the masculine equivalent is, in any case, but many feminists from the east said that feminism should be giving the woman the freedom to be a woman.
Whereas in the West, they said it should be giving the woman freedom to be a man.
So even feminists, even staunch feminist among themselves, even some of them say that we should learn to love and respect the differences that exist between men and women. And this is the nature This is the fifth law, the natural inclination that men are men and women are women.
And it's getting to a crazy degree, you know, what we thought was, was, you know, we thought that the issue had reached its peak, in terms of what people would do in terms of this pushing, pushing women to be like men.
And Subhanallah, the issue became much worse in the past years, where now young children, young children are being gender reassigned.
And they're having their gender changed when they're small children. Because why the teacher tells them actually, you're not a female, you're a meal.
And it's forcing them yeah, and he's forcing them to, to change their agenda. And now there is a big push, for example, to remove any in the West, particularly United States, and I
Somewhat in other countries to remove male and female bathrooms
and to allow males and females that they use the same, the same bathroom
because of this constant push to eradicate any difference between men and women, whereas Allah azza wa jal tells us well, he says the current Cal OSHA, men are not like women. They're not the same. So don't treat them the same. Learn to respect and appreciate the differences that exist between men and between women.
Having said that,
my next point is, don't exaggerate these differences.
Why? Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
what it is reported that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
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women are the full sisters of men.
In other words, what the scholars take from this hadith
is that all of the rulings that apply to men apply to women except where there is a clear delille
and when Allah azza wa jal says,
What are key musataha to zakka
those of you who know Arabic akima is the masculine plural
and all you men perform the prayer.
However, the masculine plural in Arabic encompasses the feminine as well. But we want to establish a principle here. Everything in the Quran is targeted at men and women equally, except where there is a clear delille
and sometimes it's a clear evidence. Allah subhanaw taala speaks directly to the men or speaks directly to the women
who uses the the feminine plural
or it relates to an issue that only affects women or an issue that only affects men.
However, the vast majority of the Quran and the Sunnah, is aimed at men and women equally.
Because women are the full sisters of men shackled equal rigid.
And they're not like you know, like some like lower second class citizen you know, like that is just like the odd the outcasts of the oftast you know, like the waste product.
They are the full sisters of men, and the rulings of Islam apply to them as they apply to men. So when Allah azza wa jal commands you to say, what could rob visit in a man oh my lord increase my knowledge. This applies to women and it applies to men. When a lot So Michelle says Joakim salatu wa to zakka performed the prayer and give this occur. This applies to women and it applies to men. When Allah is though just says yeah, yohannes or Buddha or back home, or mankind worship your Lord. This applies to women and it applies to men.
When Allah azza wa jal promises Eugen nuts, tragedy mentality hell and
paradise under which rivers flow Gardens under which rivers flow. This applies to women, and it applies to men. The only thing that don't that doesn't apply to one gender apart from the other is when there is an evidence to restrict it to a particular gender. And there are some issues that are restricted to particular genders. In Islam. There are some things that are unique to men and some things that are unique to women. But in general, the rulings that are given to men are the same rulings that are given to women.
And this is the balance in Islam is beautiful. It's a balance. Islam says look, men and women
mostly need the same things. And so the commands that are given to men and women are the same. But when there is a need to be different because they are different from one another, then Islam will give us a different ruling for men and a different ruling for women. But the basic principle the underlying fundamental principle is a nice shakaar equal region. Women are the full counterparts the full sisters.
And the full fully, you know, fully all of the laws of Islam apply to them fully as they apply to men, unless there is an evidence to restrict it to one or to the other.
And now we move on to an ayah in Surah, Nisa.
And I think this ayah is probably one of the most important things that we're going to talk about today.
And if you understand it correctly,
it destroys almost all of the shadow heart that are spread around the Muslim woman, and almost all of the attacks that are spread against the Muslim woman to push her away from Islam.
It's iron number 32 and Sultan Nisa, Allah azza wa jal said while at a time and nomophobia Allah will be he Baba kumala vow, Larijani now Siva mimic testable well in Nisa in acebo. mimic test set was a law him informally in Allah hi Can I be could be shaking
a lot. So it just said, do not seek that which Allah has preferred some of you in over others.
So point number one, Allah has preferred many of his creation over other people in his creation in many different things. Let me take a non or non controversial but a less controversial issue and talk about lineage. Does anyone doubt that the best lineage is Benny Hashem?
And that the best lineage moving out further inspiration, and that the best lineage moving out further are the Arabs.
There's no doubt about this. Allah has preferred people from Benny Hashem over people who are not from Benny Hashem in lineage.
I'm not from Benny Hashim. I'm not from Croatia, nor am I from the Arabs.
I should not be upset that Allah azzawajal has preferred them over me in that particular aspect. That does not mean that everyone from Benny Hashem will be above everyone else in gender. Rather some of Benny hashima in the lowest of Johanna.
As Eliza just said, tibetian de la hubin. What happened?
Me Abu lahab, who is in among the worst of the people of Johanna, is from the best of the people in lineage.
You almost cannot get anybody closer to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in lineage.
So there are things which Allah has preferred some of us overnight as opposed to others. For example,
in strength, Allah Subhana Allah told us the prophets lie Selim said, el momento kawi, Hiram La Habra, la mina movement and wife are equal in
the strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer and yes, the the Hadith primarily talks about strength of determination and strength of a man and other things. However, the Hadith also encompasses physical strength.
Allah azza wa jal has preferred physical strength over physical weakness. But if Allah hasn't given you physical strength, don't sit there thinking, why has this person been preferred over me? Allah azza wa jal has given you what he has not given them and given them what he has not given you. And all of you have an opportunity to earn What is with Elias origin.
So we need to understand that Allah azza wa jal gives virtues to whoever he wants, and takes them away from whoever he wants. And if you lost a virtue in something, you gained a virtue in something else. Maybe you're not from Croatia, but maybe your manners and your etiquettes and your character is better than many of the people who are from koresh. Maybe you are not physically strong, but you are strong in your in your Eman are strong in your determination. Maybe you know you are not wealthy, but you have the ability to, for example, give sadaqa in other ways you are a person who finds it easy to do the vicar of Allah. Allah azza wa jal has preferred some of us over others in
different things. All of us men, women, you know, adults, children allies that our gel has preferred
Many of us over others.
And this is something we need to get used to, and not fight against.
And you know, a woman could, you know, can, could fight and say,
and this is really specifically regarding the men and the women.
The women could you know, the woman she could say, but why has a lot done this? Why has Allah given this to the men? Why has Allah given authority over me to the men, but Allah subhanaw taala has given you what he has not given to many of the men, Allah Subhana, Allah has given to some of us when he has not given to others in many things, many, many things. So we have to recognize that and we have to appreciate that a Lost Planet Allah has given some virtues to some people over others. And we should not be seeking out. Why have I not been given this, and this is the first sign of illness, sickness, sickness in the hearts. When you look at what Allah has given somebody else. And
you say, why have I not been given this, I should have been put in authority, I should be the one in charge, I should be the one who's been given this, I should be the one from this lineage, I should be the one with this power, I should be the one with this wealth.
respect the fact that Allah has given every person what is suited to them.
And don't try to wrestle it from somebody else.
Then ally so justice specifically, regarding men and women, men have a share of what they have earned. And women have a share of what they have earned. And so if Allah has preferred men over women in any particular aspect like authority,
if Allah has preferred men over women in a particular thing like authority, then do not fear because the chance of reward is equal. The chance of attaining Paradise is equal. There will be women who are far far far, far above us in paradise caught on any guaranteed without any doubt,
like the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the pious women mentioned in the Quran, like Maria, Maria, Salah, and Asya
Ultimately, they will be far above our level in paradise without any doubt, we don't have any doubt in this whatsoever.
And they have been promised Paradise by Allah azza wa jal.
So we the fact that they were women, and the fact that men had authority over them did not stop them from earning the highest part of paradise.
So why should we be worried about what differences we have between us in the dunya, when our chance to earn reward is the same. Men have a chance to earn reward, women have a chance to earn reward, they may earn reward in different ways. A woman may earn reward by obeying her husband, a man may earn reward by being gentle to his wife.
But ultimately, your opportunities are there for men and are therefore women. And that's what really matters.
Equal Opportunities for paradise. That's what really matters. And they always talk about equal opportunities for men and women. But what really matters is equal opportunities for paradise not equal opportunities in the dunya.
Because Allah azza wa jal has preferred some of us over others in the dunya. Many of us over others there are people far more knowledgeable than me, Allah has preferred them over me in the dunya.
Everyone has a chance to earn paradise, men, women, rich, poor, whatever you are, however, Allah has given you strong weak, whether you are from the best lineage or the worst lineage, Allah azza wa jal has given you an opportunity to earn paradise. And that's what really matters in terms of equality between men and women, that we've been given an opportunity all of us to earn paradise.
If it were the case that a light switch has said, all of the men are in the higher parts of Paradise, and all of the women are in the lowest parts of Paradise, then this would be this would be oppressive. This would be unequal, this would be unfair. But as for our allies, or just saying, men, you're responsible for women in this dunya but your wife may be far above you in gender, and maybe
You will be raised up in paradise as a gift to her because of her email.
She may be far above you in general, she may be far more beloved to Allah than you are.
She may be from the Aurelia of Allah from the beloved servants of Allah. And you may be from, you know, the minimum standard of the Muslims.
It doesn't matter that you've been given a degree of authority over her in dystonia, what matters is that you have the opportunity and the chance to earn reward from Allah subhanaw taala into an paradise. And in this, being a woman doesn't hold her back from earning paradise, and being a man doesn't hold you back. And being from being a non Arab doesn't hold you back from earning paradise. So don't worry about the things that Allah has said this is better than this, or this is preferred over this or this is responsible for this. So this one is in charge of this one. none of this matters. What matters is the opportunity to earn paradise and ultimately all of us are servants of
Allah. All of us are servants of Allah, whatever stage you reach of being in control of, you know, half of the world. You are still Abdullah, you are still a servant of Allah azza wa jal and you're still required to obey Allah and obey His Messenger and you still put your forehead on the ground in submission to Allah azza wa jal
West Allah Han informally and then instead of wishing for what someone else has, instead of a woman sitting there and wishing she could be a man,
ask Allah for his virtue. ask Allah to give you agenda for the dose, ask Allah to make it easy to obey Him. ask Allah to make you from the 70,000 who will enter agenda without any punishment or any reckoning. ask Allah from his virtue? Why sit there thinking about what somebody else got? Instead of just asking Allah, Allah give me what I want give me this give me this give me this.
The sensible person is the person who is focused on asking Allah for what benefits them. And the person who is lucky is lost is the person who spends all their time instead of asking Allah for what will benefit them. They spend their whole time wishing they could be somebody else.
don't wish you could be somebody else men or women. Don't sit here wishing you could be somebody else. Except what Allah has given you an ask Allah to give you what you want.
Indeed Allah is in every single thing. knowledgable
Allah knows every single thing he knows what you want, he knows what you hope for he knows your dreams. He knows what you ask for. He knows what is best for you and what is easiest for you to achieve. For you to achieve paradise.
I might have to divide this topic into two parts if we were not going very fast at the moment, but nevermind. Let's see, inshallah.
Moving on to something different.
We're going to talk about a hadith narrated by a Lima Muslim.
In Kitab Raka if
I recall, any The, the, the book of the heart softness
from the hadith of Osama bin Zayed
of the Allahu anhu man
that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said matar up to baddie fit net and here are Babu Allah rigidly Mina Nisa.
He said, I have not left after me
a trial more harmful to men than women.
And I think this hadith is one of the important Heidi's we have to talk about
when it comes to the interaction between men and women.
That the interaction between men and women it can be very, very, very harmful.
And the prophets I send them left many feet and many many feet and will come after the came after the death of the Prophet slicin many trials and tribulations and yet the prophets lie Selim said I have not left after me, a trial more harmful to men than women.
And this has
therefore a responsibility upon men and upon women.
This Heidi has, has a respect informs us of a responsibility that exists for both men and for women. From the point of view of not being a trial for one another,
not becoming a fitna for one another.
And this is a responsibility for men, and it's a responsibility for women. So it's a responsibility for men that they don't put themselves in such a position that they allow a woman to become a fitna for them, a trial for them, a trial for them in their religion, where perhaps they would leave some of what Allah made obligatory, or they would do some of what a lot made haram for the sake of a woman.
And from the point of view of the women,
that the women don't allow themselves to become a trial for the men,
either in the way that they carry themselves, the way that they speak, the way that they dress, the way that they interact with men.
So men and women have a responsibility about this hadith. This Hadith is not a criticism of women. This Hadith is a hubbub cover warfare, it's telling you the reality it's not a hail Hades, which is critical of women. And many of these ideas are misunderstood, and either taken to be critical of women. This Hadith is not critical of women, this Heidi is telling us something which is a reality, the reality is that women are very harmful to men, if proper restrictions and proper guidelines are not followed.
And they can cause a man to go very far astray and cause themselves to go very far, astray. Because, and it should be no surprise, that from the natural nature that allies are jealous created as with is that men are attracted to women, and women are attracted to men.
Men find women attractive, and women find men attractive.
And because of this, Islam put so many restrictions and so many rules, and so many etiquettes in place to protect men and women from the dangers that can happen because of this natural attraction that exists.
And this covers everything from, you know, this is enough as a proof for everything from prohibiting free mixing between men and women, to the proof of the hijab, to the proof of the way that we interact when we speak to one another, to the proof of you know, many, many rules and regulations in Islam can be summarized by this, that there is a danger in women becoming a trial for men. And so men are commanded not to put themselves in a position where they become a trial, or they allow themselves to be contrite, or to become in a state where they would disobey a lot because of a woman. And likewise,
the opposite that the woman doesn't let herself for communist state where she allows herself to become a trial for a month.
And that is because of the unnatural attraction that exists between them. And also the love that exists between them because also, it doesn't only apply to
extra marital relations, as in, you know, men and women being attracted outside of marriage. Even in marriage, a man might disobey Allah azza wa jal, because of the love that He has for
And there are many examples of this, that a man might disappear a lot, so just because of the love that He has for his wife.
But definitely in terms of
the, you know, the the history of mankind and the nature of mankind. You can see the trial that
exists between men and women and that Islam put so many sensible restrictions in place to make sure that these things do not become a problem. And they do not harm either the men in the society or either the women in the society. And so there are a few things that we wanted to talk about
in this regard.
statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
regarding a halwa
regarding and halwa
La, Luna Raja, Emirati illa kanessa, Huma shavon.
No man is alone with a woman, except that the third of them is the shape one.
No man is alone with a woman, except that the third of them is the shape one. The meaning of this is a man who is not allowed to be alone with that woman, for example, she he is not a Muharram. For her, he's not her husband. She's not her brother. He's not her father. And so when he is alone with that woman, in Hollywood, where they where they are, they are in a private setting, the shape on is the third one of them. This is a case of where the trial comes up, and it becomes very prevalent. So this is another evidence for prohibiting free mixing. And just being too free among men and women and women sitting along with men, why not their maharam and so on. And this hadith is also mentioned
in context of the brother in law.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that they're in law, his death
to ignore his death,
meaning the brother in law or the one similar to the brother in law, the brother in law, you know, the one who is as a relative is very, very close to you, as a relative is very close to you. But in terms of the Islamic relationship, there is no prohibitive and there is no maharam relationship.
Like the brother in law, like for the man, the sister in law,
like the, you know, for example, that the aunties, the aunts, husband, and you know, so on and so forth, and that those people who are non Muharram, but they are very close to you in, in lineage,
or in marriage, those people are the biggest danger. And sadly, we have a problem in our society,
we have a difficulty in our society. And the difficulty that we have is that it has become common to be relaxed about those things. So the lady she might wear full hijab, proper hijab. And she may observe that proper hijab, as she should be doing with everyone except for her brother in law.
With her brother in law, she relaxes it, maybe she doesn't wear as completely as she would with other people. She kind of talks very freely, she laughs and jokes, even though in front of other men, she lowers her gaze, and she covers herself completely. So Islam tells us that the where is the danger? Where does the danger lie? The danger lies in the ones who are closest to us, but are still not permitted, we are not permitted to mix with them.
So it's very important from this new I don't personally I strongly recommend that people don't live in a family environment, where they are living where the woman is living in the same house as a non Muharram. Man, except when the house is is if the house is very, very large. And it's possible to completely, you know, separate it in general, it's not from the Sunnah. This is not from the son of the Prophet. So I said, to live with the, you know, the the husband's parents, and then the brother, husbands brothers are in the same house. And they mix with one another, this is a big, big danger. And it's a big trial. So we have to do things to help each other out of the situation. Because we
are only out to one another, we help us to one another. So we have to help each other. We have to help each other not to get ourselves into these situations, whereby either we put our female
the people we're responsible for among our female relatives in a situation where they are forced to mix with male relatives that are not they're not there. Mahalo. And likewise, that women don't put themselves into these situations. And when we're going to come to talk about the hijab, and I think probably I'm going to divide this talk into two parts, and we'll we'll continue it on next time because I think we've already been talking enough. And we still haven't even covered half of the Heidi's and the Iraq that I wanted to cover.
But before we talk about hijab as a,
as a dress, I want to also talk about hijab as a concept, ie the way that you carry yourself in the way you deal with the opposite gender. And I mean this also, by extension to the men as well, the way that you deal with the opposite gender. How do you deal with people of the opposite gender, you can prevent yourself
from getting into fifth now with the help of a lot, and you can prevent yourself from being a fitna, with the help of Allah,
by the way that you set out your store, the way you set yourself out, the way you behave, the signals the body language that you give off,
very different when a woman comes to speak to you, you put your head down,
and you just speak to her the minimum necessary to fulfill the purpose. She comes and says, I want to ask you a question. Go ahead. Just a question, you're looking at the ground, she gets a signal, there's a body language signal going on there that look, there's a barrier between us take what you need the question or the issue you have or the work you need to do.
And go, she understands that and you understand it. Whereas when you stare into her eyes and smile, ask her how have you been? And how are things and how was everything last week, and I hope you're well and
you allow yourself to put yourself in a situation where you expose yourself to fit. If it doesn't happen one time, then there is no guarantee that it will not happen the next time and the next time. And likewise, the ladies, when you communicate with a man, you communicate with him in a professional way, to the minimum extent necessary, even the brother in law.
Do you need him to get something from the kitchen? to please give me this? Give it hosco there is no need for a long, smiley, happy, jokey conversation, you can leave those happy, jokey smiley conversations to have with husband wife.
And one of the saddest thing is that so many of us don't behave that way with our wives. And he to put it in a maybe in a way people might understand better, and we don't flirt with our wives, and we flirt with women that are not our wives alongside and we don't behave gently and softly and lovingly and caringly and playfully with our with our wives. But we behave in this way with women who are have no relation to us. So when our wife asks for something, don't talk to Don't ask me this. I'm busy.
And when a woman who is age nebia, she's a foreign woman, and she comes and he looks at in the eyes and he's like, What do you need? Look at how we become the other way around.
So don't make ourselves a fitna, the ladies, the way you deal with a man, the way you behave, the way you carry yourself, the way you speak the body language that you give off, the way that the dress that you wear, all of it sends a signal. And that's why when we come to the hijab, and I'm going to a more about hijab next time, it's a big topic, but we talk about the hijab, what Allah say danika dinner, and you often this is better for them to be known. And the hijab sends out a signal. It's a message, it's a great big sign that says, I am a Muslim woman who deserves respect for who I am.
There are limits with the way that you deal with me, this hijab is one of the limits. And there are plenty of other limits as well.
It sends that message out to the men and the man understands. He understands that the woman who dresses provocatively is sending a message. We're not going to say what you know, this issue of being blameworthy or not for what happens to her. It's not the issue here. But it's the way people dress it sends a message the way people sit sends a message the way people talk sends a message. So make sure the messages you are sending to members who are of the opposite gender who are not Muharram, you're not maharam to them or they're not Meranti is the right one. And it's one of dealing with things to the minimum necessary. Professionally, appropriately without looking without
small talk without flirting without all of those things that people engage in. Just like you would go into, you know, like you would go into a I don't know into a bank or something and you see the guy behind the desk and you say to him, like I came to withdraw some money, I want to withdraw 1000 denims. Okay, what's your sign here, please, okay, gone. You know, you don't stand stare the guy in the eyes and see how you, you know, you okay, I haven't seen, like this is something that you just deal with people on a professional level.
And that's the way that you need to make sure that that interaction happens between people who are of the opposite gender and leave the romantic behavior and, you know, the playfulness and, you know, between the husband and between the wife, and leave your kind of friendliness and kindness to the women who you are their Mama. And likewise, the same goes for the sisters. So this is just
and a few points to be honest. I don't know if there's anything else that I wanted to,
to deal with.
No, I think I think there are three or four
points. There is only one point that I'm going to mention left. And that is, Heidi for a show of your love. And I'm going to quote the Heidi from Sahih Muslim, although it's in other in other books of Hadith as well.
And so long Hadith but at the end of the Hadith, something very, very beautiful that I shadow the alarm and her said, she said near moonies, she said nierman Nisa only Southwood, unsalted, lemmya con em narrow tunnel hyah. And yet,
she said, How wonderful are the women of the unsolved
they do not allow their hire, to stop them from learning their religion.
And this tells us something really nice. It tells us that men and women are required to have higher
because I should mentioned the hire of the woman. But not only women, the prophets I seldom had the most highest of any person, the most shyness and modesty of any person.
He was more shy than the virgin bright.
And the prophets I send them was very, very shy and very modest. And likewise, women are commanded to have higher highs, something beautiful when Elijah just spoke about the two women who one of them married Musa alayhis salam
that she came to him she is
walking in a way of shyness. shyness in a woman is something beautiful modesty in a manner in a woman.
But modesty and shyness should not prevent you from seeking knowledge in Islam. seeking knowledge in Islam, there is no shyness when it comes to seeking knowledge in Islam, or shyness has its place in terms of the way you ask a question you can ask with shyness etc. But China should never prevent you from knowledge that you need. And this purpose of this gathering today and inshallah we're going to continue it, we're going to want to continue it we have to talk about the hijab and we have to talk about our behavior towards the way we treat our women folk and lots of things we have yet to talk about.
But what I wanted to explain what I want to finish on today, is this idea that our women, for them to achieve the paradise that they're striving for, they need to have knowledge and we need to make an a very high priority for our sisters in Islam to learn their religion.
And if you look at the examples, and perhaps the best example is the example of our mother I shall have the Allahu Allah.
The prophets I send them said that the superiority of Isaiah over the rest of the women is like the superiority of ferried over the rest of food 30 dislike when you have
like bread and gravy, something like that you mix them together. It's a very beautiful, very, very beautiful and very beneficial food.
Why was Ayesha superior over the rest of the women because of the knowledge that she had? eyeshadow the Allahu Allah has in terms of the number of Hadeeth, the fourth largest number of Hadeeth, out of all of the men and women of the companions, yani out of all of the men and women of the companions, only three people narrated more Hadith and it was Yolanda.
Likewise, in fact, our fatawa in giving fatawa and giving verdicts only three people from the companions issued more verdicts than I should, I should choose to give fatawa she was a big scholar from among the scholars of the companions from the major scholars of the companions.
This is what we want our women to aspire to be. And we have to get the most out of our, our, our sisters in Islam and for them to get the most out of their selves. And for us to protect them and us from the evil which comes to us from every direction from the east and the west. To do this, we have to do it with knowledge. We have to inspire our sisters to learn their religion, like eyeshadow Viola and hide it. And there's no doubt that we are suffering a drought
and famine as it relates to women seeking knowledge. Sadly, and generally Subhanallah women were known in the past among the self for seeking knowledge in a amazing you know, in an amazing way, especially in a male Heidi's the science of Hadeeth. It was known that women excelled in the science of Heidi's
I don't know why, but it is a fact that
Women have excelled in the past in the science of Hadith.
And in many other Islamic sciences, and I'm not saying there are none of them available or around today there are they do exist. However, the numbers are much smaller than we would like them to be. We would like to inspire many of our sisters in Islam, to become scholars in Islam, to become people of knowledge to become a resource that the other women go back to, like I shall have the law became a resource that the women would go back to for their fatawa for their needs for their questions for their teaching them their religion.
And so this requires a real dedication and effort from both men and women. Because if you want to help your wife to study Islam, it's not easy. And that means maybe your food will not be cooked exactly as you like it on time, every day, at a specific schedules that you give in your clothes may not be, you know, like Preston, I end and whatever in the house may not be whatever you want. Because ultimately, you as a man want to sacrifice some of that, to enable your wife
to seek knowledge, and to encourage your, for the members of your family to seek knowledge. And that has to be cooperation between the men and the women. And we'll talk more about that in Sharla next time, but I just wanted to finish on the conclusion of the importance of seeking knowledge and the importance of not allowing
women qualities, like shyness and modesty, those good qualities, not allowing those to prevent a woman from learning her religion, and for a woman to strive with everything she can to learn her religion, and only then will she be protected by the help of a lot from this is huge sort of surge of attacks and ideological attacks against women who want to practice their faith. And I'm sure you guys know that in terms of
conversions to Islam, there are significantly more women who convert to Islam than men.
And I think you guys know that any generally. And and this is true all over the world. Even in Cali man, the statistics are the same. The number of women who come to become Muslim are much more than the number of men so there are plenty of women who see the virtue of Islam. We have to also allow our own women, our own sisters, our own mothers, our daughters, our wives, to see that virtue as well and to embrace it and to practice it to the best of their ability. So inshallah I think that is all we have time for today. And we will do a second part basically later Allah will talk in that part about the things that I that I missed Up to now, or the things that I did not talk about up to
now. So we'll leave it there inshallah. I'm not gonna have a massive amount of time today for questions, maybe just one or two inshallah on the way out. So panicle are more behind the Chateau La Ilaha Illa and Estelle Furukawa.