Depression – The Cause And The Cure
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen
wa Salatu was Salam ala Abdullah he was sorry he Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi edge marine ama that for this Friday night reflections, we have the topic of depression.
And I'm not sure if I'm going to finish this in one session or not because it took me a long time. The last time I did this talk took me a very long time, but I'll see how far we get.
The first thing I began by thinking about
is I began by thinking about different words for sadness, and depression.
In the Quran,
and in the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we started looking at the different words in the center for depression. Now I came up with six words, in the Quran, and the Sunnah, which relate to depression, and I'm not going to claim these are the only six words, but these are six terms, which are strongly related to sadness and depression. And I think the fact that there are six different terms mentioned within the Quran and the Sunnah tells us just how important and how serious this particular issue is.
So just to give you the terms that I have, the first one is, Allah has an
with effect on the heart and affect her on the die,
hasn't hasn't.
The second one is a closely related word along
with a dogma on the hair and a sukoon on design.
And then we have I love them.
I love them.
And then we have a lamb
with a heart and a mean,
the meme is moshed data with a shader on it.
And then we have
le x
and we have the a solder. So what do these terms mean? And what is the difference between them. So let's start by just excluding some terms, or defining some terms, the difference between a husband and a husband,
it is said that
a husband is a much stronger and more severe form of a hazard. So it's kind of like if you take a hazard to be sadness or depression, and herzan is
times two.
It's the same concept but it has more emphasis.
If we take about iliacs, we can remove that Alia says despair. When a person reaches such a level of depression that they despair, from the mercy of Allah or they despair from the help of Allah.
Via cassata is a particular expression which I personally find to be very interesting.
Because it means that somebody is squeezing your chest.
When you say, You know my chest, it feels like someone is squeezing it.
And I think it's a beautiful illustration of how it feels to be depressed.
Because when you feel depressed, you really do feel like somebody is squeezing your chest. Like you just can't You can't breathe properly.
You can't
you know, you can't ever settle you don't ever feel comfortable. And I think it's a beautiful expression in Arabic,
the southern to have somebody who feels like they are being that chest is being squeezed.
Like someone is squeezing them and they can't breathe properly.
So now we have three words left and we need to know the difference between them and they are and hasn't another one and
so what are the difference are the differences between them?
The scholars they say, and from the scholars who mentioned this is Eben or Chi em Rahim Allah Allah Darrell has an
refers to depression because of something that has passed
any an event that has happened in the past the event is no longer happening
the event is no longer happening.
However,
it has left the person in grief and depression and and that's why some of the some of the some of the translators translate that hasn't to be grief, any sadness over something that has happened in the past.
For example, somebody loses a child.
This is in the past, and in the present, they are okay their family is okay. But in the past, they lost a child.
So the sadness and the depression they feel we call it a hazard because it is sadness over something that has been and gone.
Then on the opposite side, we have lm
and lm is anxiety or depression over something that has yet to happen.
So a person says I am
I'm suffering from him. That means that they are worrying and they're depressed about something that might happen.
Shay on
yet, aka Roku, he thinks it's going to happen he believes it's going to happen.
But he hasn't happened yet. But he believes that this thing is going to happen in the future. So this we call it
lm
and so we are left with
an even okay m Rahim Allah to Allah He says Allah
is being in a desperate situation right now, especially when that desperate situation involves a threat to your life, or a threat to your you know, your whole way of life, your you know, maybe you lose, you're losing everything or you fear for your life, then this kind of instant crisis that you're going through right now, we use the word algorithm.
And if these are not tracked, then the hazard becomes present.
The mild grief becomes severe grief.
And if they are not trained properly, they become a yes, they become despair, to the point where a person despairs, that Allah subhanho wa Taala is going to help them or that Allah Subhana, Allah is going to bring them relief.
Now, I think just these words on their own, are incredibly interesting.
And I wanted to highlight a few things about it. First of all, look at the look at the wisdom and the depth of Islam.
You know that what a doctor might just tend to be or you know, you're suffering from depression. Islam defines Are you suffering from depression because of something which happened, or something which is happening, or something which you feel will happen, and each one of them has a separate solution for it.
And likewise, the word hem is very interesting.
Because there is another way of translating the word ham, is that ham is being preoccupied with something.
When you become, you know, you're just always thinking about something.
Then this, we call it him being preoccupied with something.
And this is interesting because clinically, medically,
depression is not necessarily equated with sadness.
I'm not a doctor or a psychologist, so I'm not going to try to pretend to be one. But I will give you an idea of what I mean.
That there's not a one to one relationship between sadness and depression. A person can be depressed, and yet not be showing any outward signs of sadness.
But the problem is that their brain is just basically at full capacity. They're worrying so much about a certain issue that is going to happen to them that their brain has reached 100
percent of its capacity and the person literally stops working.
You know, they can no longer think they can no longer do things. And so they become clinically depressed. Now, there may be other kinds of clinical depression, as I said, I'm not a psychologist, but what I will say is that it's not true that everyone who is clinically depressed, is walking around with their face turned, you know, like, the other way around. In extreme sadness.
Usually, if a person is explained, displaying extreme sadness, this is actually a good sign. Because this is a way of relief. The worst case is the one who can't express their emotion. And so they have,
they become so preoccupied with their emotion because they can't show any grief
that they just become like a zombie.
They don't do anything, they don't function, they just like they go. And they, you know, they they eat, and they go to sleep, and they wake up and they eat and they go to sleep, they wake up, and it's just day after day after day. This is Arabic we call it as
being excessively preoccupied with something mentally that you can no longer function as a proper person. And this is a kind of clinical depression.
And since depression is a matter of the heart, and a matter of the soul, a lot as well give it great importance in the Quran and the Sunnah.
Because Islam came to remove people from sadness and depression.
Islam came to remove people from sadness and depression. without a shadow of a doubt.
There is a difference between a person crying from the fear of Allah, or crying because they're frightened, their deeds will not be accepted. This is the healthy kind of sadness, it doesn't cause you your chest to be compressed. It doesn't cause you to stop functioning as a human being. In fact, it makes you function better as a human being. Because the fear of a law you have it motivates you, it drives you forward, it makes you want to work hard and if one makes you want to get involved and it makes you want to, to do as many good deeds as you can.
And so Islam came to remove people from sadness, and depression.
So we want to just have a look at some of the IR that mentioned these words. At the moment, we're not going to talk about causes or solutions. We're just going to talk about some of the IR, which mentioned these six words that I have chosen to speak to you about.
The first one in Surah Al anon Ayah number 33.
Allah subhanho wa Taala set our dinner Allah mo in hula zunow Kayla de kulu Farina whom la de buena wala kin Nevada Nina bi se la hedgehog
a law set. We certainly know that you are saddened by what they say
and hasn't. You feel sadness like zunow Kennedy akula.
However, they do not deny you.
But it is the art of a law that the wrongdoers reject.
This tells us some things. One thing we want to highlight here is that sadness and depression are things which are natural human experiences. They do not mean that the person is mentally you know unfit or that the person you know deserves to be taken out of society. Our messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
felt grief and sadness. He felt sadness because his people denied him.
When he was telling them the truth,
he felt sadness in the year when he lost Khadija Viola and her and his uncle Abu Talib and Abu Talib died as a non Muslim.
He felt grief he felt sadness. So, sadness does not mean you are a lesser person.
It does not mean that you are not worthy. It does not mean that you are not a proper you know, not a proper human being
Because if the Messenger of Allah Sall Allahu alayhi wa sallam felt grief and depression and sadness, then we also will feel it. It is a natural human experience. But Allah subhanaw taala in the ayah gives the prophets I send him something that will remove his sadness. It is as though a lie saying, Do not take it personally don't take this on yourself, because it's not you they're upset with. And that's true, because Quraysh never had any problem with the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as a person. Their problem was with the IRS with the message.
But it made him sad. It made him grieve. It made him feel down.
And in some of the ayat we have a, you know,
a much stronger emphasis than that. Allah subhanaw taala said in salto calf, I am number six fella I look above your Neff Sokka Allah sad him inland umino, Bihar that high dcsf.
Perhaps you would kill yourself
through grief over them, if they do not believe in this message out of the sorrow that you feel.
And this is another word we could add to the six words if we want to add a seventh word we could add an SF, any sorrow.
So Allah subhanaw taala said that if you are Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam didn't take this Quran and be protected from Allah subhanaw taala perhaps you would kill yourself because they don't believe in this hadith
out of how much sorrow you feel because they're not believing in you. They're not respecting. They're not taking the Ayat of Allah they're not accepting Islam.
So there's no doubt that the grief the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam felt for the sake of Allah was something
severe and something serious and not something light.
So that talks about and hasn't
we have a prison
as we said, is a more severe variety in solar use of iron and the 84 whatever. Color Yeah, so I'll use what we have got it now who Mina who's nifa who are Calvin
he turned away from them. And he said, All my sorrow, we said SF. sf.
Yeah, assefa Allah use of all my sorrow over use of
and his eyes became white, ie he became blind,
because of his extreme grief,
and the grief that Yaqoob
alehissalaam felt was so bad that it caused him to become blind.
Because of the extreme sadness, he felt,
again, we can take from this ayah
the benefit
that even the prophets and the messengers went through this kind of sadness.
And if you look at the upper lobe and the kind of sadness that he felt, it was so bad that he became blind because of the extreme grief that he felt over losing
use of
Allah him Salah.
But there is a benefit in the last two words as well, for who Calvin.
Calvin is somebody who conceals and suppresses their feelings.
And that indicates to us that there are harms in suppressing the sadness that you feel.
And there are potential benefits in some ways as well.
One of the benefits we're going to talk about later is complaining of your sadness to Allah
and expressing your grief and your depression to Allah.
However, since Yaqoob, was was suppressing his feelings, and he was concealing his feelings deep down inside, they were becoming like a poison that was causing him health issues and causing him severe pain because of the fact that he kept it all boiled up inside. So from this, you can take the benefit of the need to share your feelings.
Ideally, again, from the example of Yaqoob you want to be sharing them with Allah subhanaw taala before and beyond and above everyone else. You don't want to be someone who cries
on the shoulders of the people, you want to be a person who cries in sagitta to Allah subhanaw taala and tells Allah even though a lot knows better, the sadness that you feel, but Allah loves for you to tell him the situation that you are in because it shows your need of him, and it shows his superiority and supremacy over you. And this is the essence of worship, lowering yourself before the one that you worship. So Allah loves for you to express your grief and your sorrow to him.
But there is certainly a lesson in this ayah that concealing sadness and grief to the point where it eats you up inside is something which is not good for you in terms of your you know, your health and your and your your, the way that you are and the way that you feel. So, it is important to have an outlet for your grief. And in the end Yaqoob found the outlet of that grief, which was to complain of his sorrow and his suffering to Allah subhanho wa Taala and that is why you see from Yaqoob a change in in even though he went through this phase, when he tells his sons to go out and look for use of
you see that positivity in him that he never lost that positivity he never lost that feeling that his situation will improve. But definitely there is a lesson in this regarding suppressing your feelings.
Okay.
Likewise from the stories of the prophets we have Uranus
and Allah azza wa jal mentioned with regard to Uranus elverum.
Allah subhanaw taala said first jagaran Allah, one Ajay now hoomin Allah
what Khazali congealed meaning
we answered him, and we saved him from album album, we said is a present catastrophe, a distress
that you're feeling right now Allah saved him from that distress worker, Lee kanoon gil meaning and in this way, we are going to save every single believer. And we're gonna talk about which way later on. But the point here is that when he found himself in the belly of the fish, and he found his skin becoming, you know, his skin was melting away, and he thought that he would be there and he would die there, and he would remain there until the day of judgment.
This is Al Rahman, he felt extreme sadness and distress over his current circumstances. And when he called out to Allah, Allah saved him from that, from that distress.
Like we said,
one of the words that we had is Elliott's despair, and this is like for us as Muslims, this is the depression which is absolutely blameworthy. And it is something which is a crisis of a man when your depression leads you to despair, of Allah's help.
And that is why again from Yaqoob that Allah subhanaw taala tells us some sort of use of iron and the 87.
Yeah, then he had Habu Fatah has assuming you may use
Fatah has sesame usofa he was a assumere rohilla
in hula a Sunni rohilla Hillel como curfew ruin
all my sons go out and find about use of and his brother and never despair of relief from Allah. Nobody despairs of relief from Allah except the carefree rune the disbelieving people.
So really, this ayah teaches us
that the kind of depression that we are most worried about the one that is a crisis, the one that is an emergency is a yes despair, because this is only associated with the kafar with the disbelievers.
As Allah subhanaw taala said
they have despaired of the hereafter they have no hope they are certain as certain as the sun rises in the sky that they are going to Johanna.
They have despaired of the help of a lot and no
despairs of the help of ally except for the Kufa the disbelieving people.
Therefore, we say that when a person is in a crisis of a man,
a person can have strong Eman and sadness because the prophets I seldom experienced that they can have strong Eman and alarm and distress, because Uranus experienced that. But they cannot have strong Eman and despair. Because despair does not go with him and despair and Eman don't gather together in the heart of a person.
And that is why if a person ever feels they are so distressed and sad, that they despair of a loss help, then this is a sign that we need to do some emergency action here. We need to give them you know, like this is like when someone's heart stops you have to give them the electric shock. This is now this person needs an electric shock. But not a physical one but they need a spiritual one.
Because if they've reached the point where they say Allah will never help me and Allah will never get me out of my problem and Allah will never save me and Allah will never give me gender then this is an emergency a crisis of a man. But as for feeling depressed and feeling like I don't know how I'm going to survive the rest of the year. I don't know what I'm doing, how will I ever get out of this? This is not contradictory with a person's email. Because this kind of feeling was felt by the prophets and the messengers at a massage salon. Rather what is contradictory to a person's Eman is despair.
Like Allah subhanaw taala said, Will levena Kapha will be Aya t La Jolla, CA e Ola aka Ola aka Esau Mirage Matthew Ola aka Hamada Bonelli, Allah subhanaw taala said those who disbelieve in the signs of Allah and his meeting, it is they who have despaired of My Mercy, and they will have a painful punishment. And psalter Angkor Wat
as for
lm,
we have a couple of narrations that mention it.
The first one
is a hadith
which some of the scholars said it reaches the level of being a Hasson, any of being a fair Hadith. And some of the scholars said no, it is that if
and I think we'll love Island the Hades reaches a level of being fair.
And that is the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, Mangia Island humo Mohammed Wahid and Hama Hiroshi kapha, hula hula madonia.
Woman Shabbat beehoon dunya. Lemieux Bella houfy Ldlt holla.
Whoever makes their hammer, their anxiety, a single anxiety, the anxiety of the hereafter
allow will suffice them the anxiety of this world and the next.
In other words, we are encouraged to have anxiety.
But we are encouraged to make that anxiety anxiety relating to
the era, not anxiety relating to the dunya.
And if you make your anxiety anxiety related to the AF era, Allah promises you that he will take care of your dunya and your archaea.
And whoever makes their anxiety spread out in the martyrs of the dunya and he Why are you depressed? Well, I don't have a job. Why else are you depressed? Well, I can't get married. Why else? Are you depressed? Well, I don't know how I'm getting on my phone. Why is how you depressed because of this issue with my friends? Why else you depressed I didn't win my football team did not win the league. Why else? Are you depressed? Well, I could not go on holiday, why all of them are more dunya then Allah does not care in which of its valleys He is destroyed. In other words, Allah does not care if it is this one that kills him or that one that kills him or this one that kills him or that one that
kills him.
Allah does not care which of the things kill him in the end? Because he has made all of these him in the dunya. Now it's normal to have some concern over the dunya but when a person the only concern they have is the dunya you say are you praying this is not i'm not praying but that doesn't worry me.
This is the mosquito This is the masiva
Again, this is the point where we need the, you know, electric shock treatment for the person a man, when their only concern is the dounia and everything that is in it.
And when you ask them about the Akira for them, it is the lightest thing. It's like oh yeah, the accurate I never mind about that.
But back to my job problems and my money problems and whatever.
We need to shift our hand, our anxiety and our depression and our sadness and concern or whatever it is, we need to shift our worries to be worried about the accuracy
and about the religion and not worry about the dunya now it's natural to worry something about the dunya. But that should always be insignificant in comparison to the amount that you worry about the accuracy.
Because this dunya is insignificant to Allah subhanaw taala. And we know that if this dunya was worth even the wing of a mosquito,
Allah would not have given a disbeliever water to drink, not even water, look at what they have. They have countries and they have policies and they have money and they have billions and trillions. If this dunya was worth even the wing of a mosquito Allah would not have given them water. Forget about trillions and trillions, Allah would not have even given them water to drink.
this dunya is insignificant, it is small, the average age of a person in this ummah will be between 60 and 70 years the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said 65 as a rough as let's say as an average 65 years 65 years compared to 50,000 years standing yomo piano compared to an eternity in gender or Johanna
really sit you're gonna sit and worry about 65 years, the standing on the God of judgment is 50,000 years long. It is every possibility that you will be standing on the Day of Judgment 1000 times longer than you lived in this world.
And yet, you don't have any worry over it. It doesn't even make you blink an eyelid. And yet you worry about what somebody thinks of you and what someone will do and what someone might do in this dunya that is not even like the beginning of the day. It's not even you know, like they will say we did not stay in it. Or she has an outdoor haha we didn't even stay like an afternoon or a bit of a bit of the morning. And you we were only here
just for an hour. We just stayed in the dunya for an hour. That is how they will feel on the Day of Judgment. Now it doesn't mean it's not natural to have worries over the dunya ultimately that is a natural human circumstance. But you should never be in a stage where the dunya is your biggest concern. That is why we make to have you heard you've heard in for example, in Malawi many times the Imam will say Allah malatya it dounia Akbar Amina Allah don't make the dunya our biggest worry.
Don't make the dunya as a thing which keeps us awake at night. While Annabella and Mina and don't make it the end you know like that is all we know. We don't know anything about the deen we only know the dunya don't make it the end of the knowledge we have Waller in anonymous era and don't make the Hellfire our final destination. So you hear this too long mulata jolly Dunia kabara homina don't make the dunya our biggest source of anxiety and worry and depression and we are depressed over what over the dunya that Allah doesn't care about over the dunya that isn't worth anything over the dunya that is temporary. So this is something also to think about.
Okay.
As for this,
the solder any feeling like your chest is tight. This is mentioned in some
Ayat of the Quran for example, in assura from the statement of Moosa will do surgery while I am Talia coulissante for our sin inaho said my chest will become tight
and my tongue will not be fluent.
So sent for how
to the point here is that feeling of a tight chest when you feel like somebody is squeezing your ribs or squeezing your lungs and you can't breathe that feeling of sadness and depression that comes from that. So
was something that the profits were worried about and the profits Allium was started to swell up experienced. And so, again, we should not be worried that we pass through phases in our life phases, which are better and phases, which are, you know not so good in terms of the actual dounia. The circumstances within the, within the dunya.
In another ayah, Allah subhanaw taala explains this in a different way, Allah subhanaw taala says in Soto cos Ayah number 10, what else behalf to only Moosa Fatima,
the heart of the murder of Moosa became empty. And this is another beautiful expression, we could add this and make it even number eight on the list, what would we call it for all alcohol, when your heart feels like it is empty.
When your heart feels like it is empty, some of the scholars of Tafseer said meaning empty of all else, it has nothing in it except your the thing that you are worried about. The mother of Moosa had put her child into the river, she was scared, that he was going to be washed away by the river, what would happen to him and her heart It became empty as though there was nothing in it except Moosa.
Now, this is different from another sickness of the heart or another problem of the heart, which is caused what we'll call the hardness of the heart. This is again a fault of a man, having your heart failure, and your heart is empty. This is not a fault of a man, because she was from the believers who Allah subhanaw taala praised
in the Quran, so she was not blameworthy for her heart becoming empty of anything except for her son.
But what is blameworthy is cos what we'll call the heart becoming like a rock. So Marco said kulu come
for here, calheta, Allah to Russia do cassava, then your heart became hard and it'd be your hearts became hard, like a stone or harder than a stone, this is blameworthy.
But as for you feeling like your heart is empty. And in my I feel like my heart is just empty of anything except my concern, then this is also a normal experience that was shared by some of the meaning that Allah subhanaw taala told us about in, in the Quran.
Okay.
I was going to talk somewhat about
terms for happiness and relief, but we don't have a lot of time.
I'll just go through a few of them. I think, you know, there is a very famous Arab,
Arabic poem
that things are known by their opposites
that things are known by their opposites.
And, therefore, it's useful to look at some of the
the terms
for happiness, and joy and relief from our last panel data. So we have Assad
and he which is happiness, we have alpha Allah.
Allah subhanaw taala said, who will be fatherly law he will be rock mighty he fabbi Delica Leah for who?
Say, by the grace of Allah and His mercy, this is what should cause you to be happy. Let them be happy because of this. Let them rejoice because of this. A suru and Nasir help victory coming from Allah.
Allah in Nasrallah, he hurried, the victory of Allah is Ever close.
A row
relief from Allah, like when you feel
I can breach the relief came.
Anil Maharaj. And I like this word, the way out the exit, Maharaja. Allah subhanaw taala said Romania, tequila hija Allahu Maharaja. Whoever has taqwa of Allah He will make for him a way out a Maharaja. Because sometimes when you're depressed you feel like there is no way out. Like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. But by having taqwa of Allah, Allah azza wa jal will make for you A Maharaja away out
and there are many many other terms for
All happiness that I mentioned
in the Quran
Okay.
Now we come on to some of the means
of combating
depression and sadness.
The first one that I have
out of my
list
is knowledge.
When he sent out his
children
to go and look for use of and his brother
and when he you know he had become, he had become blind he had become old.
They were scared for his life.
He said something very significant.
He said innama ash Koo bethey, were Hosni illallah wa Allah momina la Hema Allah tala. He said, I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah, we'll come to that in a moment. And I know from Allah, what you do not know.
So he effectively equates him coming out of his sadness out of his grief to two things, complaining of grief and sorrow to Allah
and knowledge.
Because ultimately, knowledge is what takes you out of this problem.
knowledge of what
one of the greatest things that you can have knowledge of to relieve your sadness and your depression is to have knowledge of the names of Allah azza wa jal and his attributes. When you know that Allah is Arab.
Al Mohler, R Rahman and na si l factor. We just did alpha attack last
week, that Allah subhanaw taala is the one who opens the door for you when all of the doors are closed.
When every single option is finished, near Mel Mola, one neat man Nah, see what an excellent guardian and protector of you he is, and what an excellent helper he is.
The more you know about Allah, the better you will cope with sadness, and depression and problems. So the first thing we advise to every single person suffering from sadness and depression is
gain knowledge, knowledge of Islam,
generally, and specifically knowledge of the names and attributes of Allah azza wa jal. Now, those of you who want to start that I want to recommend it for some of your friends we have on kelim as YouTube, Kelly, my UAE, we have the names of Allah series, and we've now reached up to alfetta. I think next week, we have
a semi annual bossier oil, bassiana, semi I can't remember which way it goes around, I think, a semi year and then I Vasil.
So we each week, each every two weeks we are doing solve the names of allies.
There's no doubt that these names really, totally change the way that you see, you know, the sad things and the sorrow and the problems that happen to you.
So this is one thing, knowledge and knowledge in general, the more knowledge you have of Islam. Knowledge breeds what action and action goes. What action gives you taqwa and taqwa does what gives you a way out of your problems.
Allah subhanaw taala said hello, Anna. Hello, Cora. Amen. What taco will Ephrata la him Baraka t Mina, Santa you will out if only the people of the towns believed and had taqwa we will open for them the Baraka of the heavens and the earth.
The Baraka is there, you just have to do the actions that make you suitable to receive that Baraka from Allah subhanaw taala.
Okay, so that is the first one knowledge.
The second one, thinking of the hereafter.
Try to transfer your worry and your grief and your sadness to the hereafter.
And actually those of you who are
Thinking about it carefully, you will see that these two things are related. Because when you have knowledge of Islam and knowledge of the Hereafter, what happens? You instantly start worrying about the accurate much more than you worry about the dunya.
Because you know the reality of the era and the reality of the dunya.
Number three, supplication.
And so many people think of this as a
cop out, or they think of this as Oh, you know, you just keep telling me make to make? That's because, yes, I agree with you. If somebody just comes up to you and say, you know, you say, you know, I'm really depressed, and you say you make dogs, then yes, I agree, this is not very helpful. Why? Because they're not telling you the thing you really need to know, which is how to meet to ask for your dog to be accepted. Because obviously, you're already making
Did you ever see somebody came up to you said, well let you know, I'm going through a tough time to make do I said, Do I really does that work? I never knew about that before. Of course, he knew to make two hours before he knew about two hours before he knew that he should make. But likely he doesn't know or she doesn't know how to make dua in such a way that they do, I will be accepted.
So gifting them a book on how to make or gifting them some to us, for example, and you could go to dos.com has no Muslim or whatever. And thing this is a two alpha sadness. This is a two alpha grief. And usually when you talk to the person, many times they're doing beta in do they say, yeah, I'm reading you know,
11 times and then I say, yeah, we'll do something. Yeah, honey, 25 times. And then I say this, and I say that. And this will never be answered by allies or just
because of the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Amina and an Elisa Allah.
Whoever does an action which is not in accordance with our sooner it will be rejected. So how will Allah answer someone who's da is completely contradictory to the Sunnah of the Prophet salla.
So usually, the thing is not saying to somebody
Olejnik, Allah help you. It's saying to somebody, look, let me teach you how to make sure that you do, I can be answered be in the light. Again, if you want to just send someone a link, I have a lecture on this topic, which is called to either weapon of the believer, I believe, I think that's the title, they give it in the masjid. It's from before I was at kalama. But there's a if you type, Mohammed, Tim, or something like that, then you will probably get the video come up in sha Allah, which you could send to the person who is sad or depressed and say, Look, here's some discussion about how to get your dog to be accepted.
Again, when you're thinking of the Hereafter, that means you're going to be focusing your deeds and your you know, into those worries. So, for example, you're not going to see somebody who's depressed and you say to them, okay, where are you excited to fetch it? Well, I'm just depressed, thinking about my job or thinking about my life. No, because when you're worried about the Hereafter, you're going to worry about what you can control and not worry about what you can't control. So what does that mean? Worry about what you can control. ie start worrying about the salon. start worrying about printing the Gemma, start worrying about being good to your parents stop worrying about whatever it
is that you are able to control. But as for worrying about your risk which has already been written for you and it will not change no matter what it is that you do anyway.
Then this is not beneficial to sit worrying about something which is not within your grasp. Now somebody might say how does that work with Carter? It works like this. The part that you leave to cover other things which you have no control over that is when you say control Allahu wa Masha offend anyone you have no you've done your best and it didn't work out. You say Katara Allahu Allah, Masha. For us when you have an opportunity to do something right now you don't refuse to do it and say Qatar, Allahu Allah, Masha, Allah instead you say let me do it. Bismillah Turkana, Allah, Allah, but you don't say cutter Allah with something that you have a chance to, to influence or to change
by the help of Allah. But you see a cutter Allah for something that you tried and it didn't work. You tried and it didn't it didn't. It didn't work out right for you. So worry about what you can control. Don't worry about what you can't control. The next point is patience.
The prophets I seldom said I Japan The Emeril movement
How excellent is the situation of the believer. And this is only for the believer.
Only for the believer
when you're given a great you know, an easy time and a blessing. What do you do shack up you give thanks to Allah gratitude to Allah. Okay? What do you do when you have a hard time? A da what happens when you have a hard time? Saba, you have patience.
And it's better for you, whichever of those two circumstances you are in, they are better for you.
If you're in a good way, good circumstance, thank Allah.
If you're in a bad circumstance, be patient and whichever of the two happens to you will be better for you in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala.
The next one, recognizing blessings, because however bad your situation is, if you think that you are the worst person off in the world, then realistically, you're not thinking straight.
Because you have some degree of Eman, you have Islam, you have any a heart that is beating a brain that is working eyes that can see an ears that can hear and a tongue that can speak that puts you ahead of millions of people on the planet.
Maybe billions of people on the planet, it puts you ahead of if you talk about the blessing of Islam.
So you can't you know, if you don't recognize the blessings, then you put yourself in your own a cage of your own making. You're the person who makes the cage for yourself. You lock yourself in the cage and you make it for yourself. But when you see the blessings that exist in your life, you suddenly don't feel as sad as you used to feel. You feel a little bit sad, a little bit worried. But you say you know what, it is a lie me like look, we're living in safety. hamdullah relative security hamdulillah relative ease and humble, I can walk to the masjid Alhamdulillah I can see the name of Allah Alhamdulillah if I want to grow my beard and wear my Islamic dress, I can do it. The lady
wants to wear hijab nobody will tell a take off their hijab I lost she's instantly better than hundreds of millions of Muslims around the world who cannot do those things. They are in wars they're in oppressive oppression they are being you know attacked and so on and so forth. So see the good that is there. Don't focus on the bad that is that. Like they always say there are two types of people there are people who see the glass as half empty. And people who see the glass is half full, the same amount of water in the glass. It's just a matter of perspective. Some people see the glass is half way they see all the glass is half full. And some people only see the water is halfway they
see the glass is half empty.
Both are true. But the question is one person is looking at the positives and one person is looking at the negatives okay?
reliance upon Allah.
Put your problems
in the hands of ally soldier.
Give your problems any say Oh Allah.
I've put my trust in you. I have put my reliance in you I have complained of my problems to you.
Now I'm asking you to help me out.
Ultimately, when you put that reliance upon Allah, it brings the help of Allah Allah loves you to rely on him.
Allah loves you to complain of your circumstances. Allah loves you to cry to him, not to Benny Adam. Allah does not love the one who puts his hand out to the people and says, you know, give me give me give me but Allah azza wa jal loves the ones who put their hands out to him.
So enjoy, enjoy and is sounds really strange, but I'll say it again, enjoy
the feeling of being reliant upon a lot at the time when you feel the most depression and the more sadness
you have a connection to Allah at that time, that you might not have at any other time. Because you are mortal. And Allah answers ma ujjivan Matata, Elijah, Who is it? Who answers the one in desperate need. So when you're in desperate need to have a link to a law that you don't have in any other time, or many other times, so for sure, enjoy the feeling of having no hoping anything but a lot.
Because it's a beautiful feeling, even if it feels terrible from the point of view of the dunya that you think every road is closed and the only thing ahead of you is destruction.
But you feel amazing that you still have that hope in a lot.
As the origin and not a man that comes at the time when you have hope in Allah and you don't have hope in anything else, because Allah azza wa jal is our
Raja.
He is arrow Raja, he is the one that we hope in when we don't hope in anything else. And he is the one who opens the doors for us when there are not there is not no way that those doors could ever be opened. He is the one that opens them for us.
So call upon him by all of his perfect names, Allah and Hey, are you a Rahmani r Rahim, Al Fatah, and Nasir, and so on call on Him by all of his names and ask him to bring you relief for the situation that you're in. Because one of two things will happen. Number one ally soldier will either instantly relieve your burden or he will give you something even better at the time that is best for you. So keep on making do out because you cannot lose.
You know when you make die, it's not like when they tell you to open the can of coke and you either win something or you don't win anything.
You know, like look on the back okay, I didn't win next one I didn't win. Next one I didn't win two is not like that. When you make too Are you always win every time. You always get the prize that you want. But sometimes it comes
ajilon and sometimes it comes ajilon sometimes it comes quickly. And sometimes it comes at another time that is better for you. But it always comes you always win when you make God.
Have faith in the Divine Decree.
Have faith in the Divine Decree. To Divine Decree is something beautiful for relieving depression. In fact, I would honestly say that I'm not sure that I know any method of relieving depression better than having strong faith in the decree of Allah azza wa jal.
And to finish off the class today, we're going to finish with a Hadeeth
of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Because I feel that this Hadith,
it summarizes
what it is that we need.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said it Harris Allen Iam fabrika was dying biller while attaches.
Step number one,
try be keen to get what will benefit you.
You know, be keen for what will benefit you. Try for it, work for it, strive for it, try to find it whether it's here or whether it's there.
Try to find those things that will benefit you try to be keen for them
and seek the help of Allah because you will not be able to get yourself out of the problem you're in only Allah can do that. What our charges and don't be
I think the best word for this. I like the word I like to use this word. Don't be defeatist. Don't say I can never do it and I will never be able to do it and I'm not going to do it and I'm never going to get out and so there's no point do your best to get what will benefit you seek the help of Allah in getting what will benefit you and do not be defeatist. Do not be a person who says I will never get it I'm not gonna do anything Forget it. I will not you know there's no point I may as well just sit down
we're in a sort of a cache. Fela taco and the file together work together.
What I can call Katara, La Hoya Masha Allah testa who Amman shavon
and if you fail, if you are afflicted by something,
depression, sadness, you just didn't get it. You didn't get what you were looking for. Don't say if I only did this, this would have happened that makes your depression worse. If you see if only I did this, this would have happened if only I didn't miss my day at work that day. If only I didn't say this, if only I didn't feel the exam. If only I didn't make this choice.
But say called the Allahu wa Masha it is the decree of align he does whatever he wants. Because when you say if only it opens the door to the actions of the shape on and one of the things that shape Han loves to do is to put depression and sadness into your heart to make you despair of the help of Allah. Because you said well, if I did this, if I only did this, if I could have done this if I wish I'd done this. There's no point in these statements, but c'est la vie Mushaf believing in
cutter is the most amazing treatment for worrying about what tasks Why is no point worrying about what past when it was in the decree of Allah, worrying about what will happen in the future, there is no point worrying about what will happen in the future because what is written for you is written for you, you will not be able to change it.
So, ultimately the depression and the sadness that people feel, you get some degree of relief by knowing the Divine Decree and trusting in Allah and that doesn't mean you have an edge that doesn't mean you sit down and say, Oh, well if Allah had written for me to be successful, I would be successful. No ERISA may in fact do what will benefit you go out try to be successful in for success try seek the help of a lot Don't say I can't do it. And then if you fail, see Katara Allah, wa Masha Allah and don't say if only I did this, then this or that would have happened. There's a lot more to say. But
I think that that is more or less what I wanted to cover one, one
point I mentioned at the end of my talk last time I did this and we have a couple of minutes maybe I will mention it here
is just a contrast between the believer and the disbeliever when it comes to these issues.
Allah subhanaw taala said regarding the believer, Mann amela salejaw mean Zakat in our own Salah who are mean on file I know he falanghina higher Atlanta yeva well energy Sienna home Angela home bx Anima, can we
Allah said whoever does good, whether male or female, when they are a believer, we will give them a good life.
A good life in this world, a good life in the buzzer, and a good life in Africa. And we will give them the reward of what they did according to the best of the actions that they did.
So Allah promises a good life
to those people who
do good deeds while being believers he promised them they won't they not gonna get to this level of despair. What did Allah say to contrast between that and the disbelievers Eliza just said women out of that and victory for in Allahumma a shutdown banca? One action Oh yo malkia Mati Amma.
Whoever turns away from my remembrance, he will have a depressed life. A depressed life in this dunya and a depressed life in the barossa and a depressed life Yokoyama
when I sure Oh, well. chiamata Amma and we will raise him on the day of judgment to be blind.
Call obiri Maha shell Tony armel called contra vasila he will say my lord Why have you raised me blind when I used to be sighted in the dunya Allah will see a color cattolica Attica tuna Santa Sita workers Valley kaleo matanza.
In this way the signs of a lot came to you and you chose to forget them. So today you're going to be forgotten the same way that you chose to forget the Ayat of Allah when you are alive.
So it's a big difference.
Big, big difference. And I'll finish with another.
Another idea which I think just contrasts quite beautifully the difference between the believer and the disbeliever in this regard, Allah subhanaw taala set for mejuri de la jolla, dia who Yeshua sadara hulin Islam.
Whoever Allah wants to guide he makes his heart
open to Islam. Literally, he makes his chest expand. Like he can breathe, you know, he doesn't feel like someone is squeezing his chest.
When you read the annual Villa, and whoever he wants to misguide yeah giant sada who can how Raja can annamma Yes, sir, Adolphe sama. Whoever he wants to misguide, he makes his chest feel so tight and constricted, as though he was being shot up into the sky. You know, like when you have the the pilots and they go up in rockets and the pressure that is put onto their chest? Allah Subhana Allah describes can now like he is being kanima your son, I do feel as though he is being propelled up through the sky. That is the pressure that he will feel because the last panatela didn't open his heart to Islam. Cara Lee kh Allah who reaches the island that in a minute in this way, Allah places
defilement upon those who do not believe
there's a big difference between the believer and the disbeliever. Yes, the believer may have sadness. Yes, the believer may sometimes feel a little depressed or down or anxious or grieving. But ultimately, it's not like the disbeliever that feels like they're being pressured.
Held through the sky. It's not like the one who lost planet Allah has truly closed any good to their heart.
Rather they still life in that heart. And you just have to find that and to be able to bring it up through those methods that we mentioned and others and allow as much as knows best vertical vehicle