Channel: Tim Humble
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As always, we begin with the praise of Allah subhanho wa Taala. We begin by sending salutations upon the messenger salallahu alayhi wa sallam and upon his family and his companions.
I just thought I would start by introducing myself because this is not the first time I've been to Nottingham. But the first time I've been to this university, so I think it's worthwhile for you guys just to know a little bit about who I am and where I'm coming from. As you probably gathered from the poster, my name is Mohammed Tim. And I was born Timothy, Michael humble. at about the age of 14 years old, I became Muslim. After that, I went through a few years of being very, very confused, and thoroughly lost about how to practice Islam. I come from Newcastle upon Tyne and there wasn't a very large Muslim community, and they didn't really have a lot of support for new Muslims. And then I
found some brothers and they, they sort of helped me on my way after the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And I applied to the Islamic University of Medina, in 2003, I was accepted in 2004. I went there, I graduated from the Arabic language program, and then from the faculty of Hadeeth, sciences and Islamic Studies. And I've been back in the UK now for about two years, a little bit over two years, two and a half years, perhaps, and I deliver lectures on topics relating to Islam, and I deliver quite a lot of lectures to I socks and two Muslim students. So inshallah Tada, this will be a new experience for me in terms of the first time that I've seen most of you all, I might have met
one or two of you, in other lectures, and inshallah with either this will be a chance for us to make this discussion, an interactive one, what I would like to do in sha Allah is to talk to you for maybe 2025 minutes, to give you some nnessee has some advice, some of the things that I've observed amongst the new university students, and indeed the existing university students and, and how universities work and some of the things that I think that are relevant from the Quran and from the Sunnah of the messenger, sallAllahu, Alayhi, wasallam, with regard to your lives as students, and then inshallah to Allah, what I'd like to do is to open up the floor for you guys to tell me about
some of the issues that you experienced. And for us to sort of have more of a workshop than a lecture, you know, let ourselves sort of get the discussion going and try to open up some dialogue and try to, to let everybody really understand and try to come to some conclusions in Sharla, about some of these different issues. Now, the talk that I've been asked to give relates to the ultimate success. And looking at the brief that the brothers gave me when they asked me to come here, and they asked me to talk. And they talked about giving advice, and they talked about, you know, talking about student life and these kinds of things. And I looked at the title and I thought, the ultimate
success and I looked at it and thought, you know, Subhanallah, for someone in your position here today, what is the ultimate success for you? It is the success in the dunya and the success in.
So you want to be you want to come to university for a purpose. You didn't come here just to, you know, waste four years of your life or three years of your life, you came here for a reason for a purpose. You wanted to achieve something and to be successful in that. But you don't want to compromise the thing which is most important. You don't want to compromise that thing, which is the ultimate success, because the ultimate success is not the success in the dunya in this world, but the ultimate success is the success in the hereafter. And we only have to look at how short This world is. The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned the average age of the person from the
oma of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam being between 60 and 70 years,
at 65 years, 65 years in comparison with the Day of Judgment alone, 50,000 years, compare 65 to 50,000. then compare 50,000 to eternity.
Those of you who are doing master's degree will soon tell me that that's a difficult comparison to make, compare 65 to infinity. So panelizer not worth thinking about this world is very, very, very short and it matters very, very little. But it
At the same time, we still came here for a purpose. We want to achieve that which is going to make our last panel with Allah pleased with us. And we want to have this success in our university life in our degree in our further study our masters or PhD, we want the success in that as well. And that's okay. And Allah subhana wa tada mentions this in the Quran and when I heard about the title of this talk this ayah it came to mind.
Men Canada, you reduce our dunya for in the law, he fell up dunya What? What can Allahu semi embassy Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, whichever of you want the dunya, they want success in this world, you want to have a good degree, you want to be successful, you want to have a good job, you want to earn a lot of money,
then who is it, Allah subhanaw taala is the one who holds the keys to this world. And the next Allah subhanaw taala is the one who has the ability to give you what you want in this dunya and in the US.
And it doesn't have to be a contradiction between the two.
And this is one of the first points that I want to make. And one of the most important points that I want to make. Islam does not require you. And I know we all know this. Islam does not require you to lock yourself up in a little box. And to make sure that the windows are sealed, and that you can't go anywhere or see anyone or do anything. And that you just wait until that time comes when you reach a certain age in life. And then you pass on to the next one. Islam is a practical religion. Islam is a religion, about going out there and mixing with the people and, and being involved and making a difference to yourself and to other people. So it's not impossible for you to achieve the
success that you want in the dunya in your university, in your degree in your job in your furthest education in whatever it may be, along with the success in having said that, for us as Muslims, which one is the most important, it's not about this temporary world that lasts for such a short amount of time. That should be the last thing on your mind. So your aim and your your primary goal and your main focus is what is with Allah. And then if you find a way whereby you can achieve what you want from your aims in this world in terms of your employment and in terms of your degree and your study, education, not something which is a blessing act on top of another blessing from Allah
subhanho wa Taala that Allah subhanaw taala blesses you with guidance in this world to take you to the place that you want to be in the next Allah subhanaw taala gives you from the world those things that you want. And like we say in this ayah we see that Allah subhanaw taala tells us that if you want to achieve success in this world, if you want to achieve something in this world, it is Allah subhanho wa Taala Who is the one who can give you the success in this world and in the next. So it's about fusing those two ideas together and achieving success while we're here in this world and achieving success in the next with the permission of Allah subhanho wa Taala
I also think that all of you will have heard the importance of good advice in Islam and the giving of good advice. And we know that Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says in Surah two as well also in Al insana, Allah p hosel. lol, Edina mn little smiley had what our soul been happy with also the sub. And I think everybody knows this surah by time this sort of a chef, he said, if this was the only surah that was revealed to the people, it would have been enough for them.
It completely covers and it comprises all of the principles of Islam. And we're going to talk a little bit about that later on towards the end of this introduction to the lecture or this introduction to the workshop in sha Allah hota Allah, but just for a moment reflect upon how Allah Subhana Allah describes mankind being in a state of loss. And this coastal, that Allah subhanaw taala describes this loss that Allah subhanaw taala describes. It's the opposite of the success that we want to achieve. Right? It's lost in the Euro, and it's lost in this world. It's lost in the hereafter. It's lost in this world. And everyone is in a state of loss for every single person is in
a state where they are a loser and a failure except for those people who Allah azzawajal mentioned in the following or in the the IRS that follows
follows in this world when Allah subhanaw taala says except those who believe and do good deeds and they advise each other, have this Tomasi this mutual advice and they advise each other to the truth. They advise each other and they call each other they offer advice, to come together and to cooperate and to work together to find the truth. And they advise each other, upon patience, they advise each other to have patience, they implement and they practice patience in their lives. So, in this surah, we see the importance of this advice, and we know that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, that, this religion, a dean will not say, this religion is or the essence of this religion is
anoxia is to give good advice, sincere advice. So if the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam described the entire religion as being based upon this sincerity and this good advice, then we can see the importance of us offering each other advice and benefiting from each other's experiences, and us trying to come together to work together and to cooperate upon Albert, an attack was taqwa like Allah subhanaw taala mentions in the Quran, cooperate upon all that which is good, cooperate upon all that which leads to the obedience of Allah and abandoning the disobedience of Allah
and don't cooperate upon sin and transgression. So this is what we want to achieve. And this is the importance of this advice in the Quran. As for the sun that we're going to hear in this introduction to the workshop, a number of, or a couple of the examples of the advice that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave to people some advice that he gave to the young people, some advice that he gave to his companions in general, and we're going to try to implement this advice in our lives as well. But in the later Baraka, what is
the very first piece of advice and I just think it's, it's such a beautiful advice to start with. And it's such a short example and it's something that you find when you study the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he was given Jomo Kenyatta, he was given the ability to say so much with so few words, he was given the ability to say so, so much, with only a few words. And this advice is the advice of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, to Abu Dhabi bottle of wine. So he came to the companion of Buddha and he advised him three things. And these three things, it's just a way of kind of warming up the workshop and just getting you guys
thinking and getting you guys involved in Sharla. And he advised three things. He said, It tequila hazlemere, could
have Taqwa of Allah. And we're going to come to taqwa in a moment have Taqwa of Allah, wherever you are. You've come from the Middle East, you've come from Asia, you've come from Nottingham, you've come from Newcastle, you've come from London, wherever you have come from. And wherever you find yourself on this dunya have this taqwa of Allah. And we're going to talk about this tough one in a moment. And then what did he say, and follow up the bad deed with a good one, and it will wipe it out. Follow up the bad deed that you do by doing a good one, and it will wipe it away. And then he finished his advice with the statement we're highly connected. Hassan, and treat people with the
best of manners, treat people in the best possible way. So this is one of the pieces of advice that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave, and it's from those Hadith that gathers so many things together in such a few words. And we're just going to break it down and just look at a couple of these different things. The first thing is this word taqwa. And this comes again and again and again in the Quran. And if you look at the hope, that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to give regularly, he used to begin and we call it Houghton hija. He used to begin by reciting certain Ayat of the Quran, again and again. And this way he would do it frequently. Very
often, it became well known that this is how he would introduce his speeches and his lectures. And in this he begins with three groups of ayat, all of them start with the command to have Taqwa. And likewise, Allah subhanaw taala mentions almost an you almost can't enumerate the benefits of taqwa that are mentioned in the Quran. Allah subhanaw taala says that this taqwa that he talks about, it is a way out from every difficulty. When Mayor tequila Maharajah whoever has this thing this talk what we're going to talk about is going to make for him
way out of every difficulty, you have a difficulty in your exams, you have a difficulty in your family, you have a financial problem, you have a problem with your social group, you have a problem with work, whatever problem you have, it's going to make a way out for you.
With the help of Allah subhanaw taala, it's going to be a cause for you to be given a way out from your problems. And it's going to be a cause for your risk. Because Allah subhanaw taala mentions in the same ayah when may attack Allah Jalla Maharaja
acid that is going to not only give him away out of every difficulty, but he's going to provide for him from places he couldn't imagine. You think I can't get by without that river based loan with taqwa you can get by You think I can't manage to survive. It's too expensive and the cost of my studies and the cost of my living and the cost of this and that we talk about Allah Subhana Allah will provide you for where you couldn't even imagine it would come from Allah subhanaw taala mentioned taqwa is the reason for success in education in learning. Allah Subhana Allah says will help lower your level kumala if you have this taqwa Allah azza wa jal will teach you will teach you
those things you need to know Allah subhanaw taala will teach you your religion, Allah subhanaw taala will teach you those things that are essential for you to live and to succeed in this dunya and indeed to be successful in the next. And to be honest, we could talk for the rest of the night about the benefits we would need the lights that Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us about taqwa. But the question I really want to drill into you guys and I really want to explain to you guys is
what is this taqwa that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam advice to Abu Dhabi. What is this taqwa that he would repeat in every almost every hood? What is this taqwa that Allah subhanaw taala mentioned again and again and again in the Quran, to the point where every almost every surah every page, you open up the Quran, you find it written there somewhere.
What is this Taco Bell taco in the Arabic language, it means to put a barrier between yourself and something that you're scared of. So you know, when you go into an X ray room, you go into to get an X ray done. And the technician he hides behind that great big LED screen. You know, he goes behind that massive big, thick LED screen. This is taqwa, linguistically, at least. Okay, in the sense that he is protecting himself shielding himself from something that he is scared it's going to hurt him.
But in Islam, taqwa is a bit more important than that. It's not just about shielding yourself from radiation or shielding yourself from glass on the street or shielding yourself from you know, from the harmful rays of the sun or something like that. It's about shielding yourself from the anger of Allah and the punishment of Allah and the curse of Allah and the Hellfire and all of those things that are mentioned in the Quran as being part of the punishment of Allah subhanaw taala. For what shield what barrier Can you put that is going to save you that is strong enough that it's going to save you from the fire of Johanna.
What can you hide behind that is going to save you from the curse of large jell o from the anger of Allah subhanho wa Taala more barrier is possibly strong enough for that. All this barrier is what we call taqwa in Islam. And it means to do the best that you can't obey Allah subhanho wa Taala to obey Allah and what is obligatory and to obey Allah in what is recommended as much as you can, with the right intention and in accordance with the Sunnah of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam and it means to avoid disobeying Allah subhanho wa Taala
and avoid those things that our last panel with Allah has made disliked or disapproved of,
again, with the right intention and again in accordance with the Sunnah of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. That in a nutshell is what taqwa is for you to do your best for you to do your absolute utmost best for you to obey a law and to avoid disobeying Allah to do so with the right intention not for your parents and not so that people say Masha Allah subhanaw taala Look how religious this person is and not so that you get a marriage proposal and not for any other reason for the sake of Allah azza wa jal alone, and to do so in accordance with the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because if your actions are not in accordance with the sooner they will
be accepted from you, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the famous Hadees reported by emammal Buhari and among Muslim men I mean I'm an Elisa it I'm Runa whoever does something that is not in accordance with what we have brought
be rejected from him. And even if your intention is correct, because one of the companions he came, and this is an authentic hadith narrated by about the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that one of the companions he came on the day of Eat, eat without her, when people slaughter after the ADA is coming up when people slaughter their sacrificial animals, and he had the best intention that you could have. His intention was to sacrifice his animal quickly. And to have it cooked and prepared and ready for the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam seeing that he was hungry, seeing that he was in need of some food and feeling like you know, I really want to have it ready
for him. I don't want to wait until after the hotbar and then you know, it takes time to prepare and everyone's hungry. I want to be the first of the people to feed the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam you can't get a nicer and a better intention than that. So he sacrificed his animal before the prayer in opposition to the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam with the best intention, the best intention but he didn't do it according to the sooner because he did it before the aid.
So along he came with the food and he offered it to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, share to Kasha to let him This has nothing This is just meat. You're not giving me anything that has any edge or any reward in it. Nothing at all. You just gave me a plate of meat, nothing else. So behind Allah, such a wonderful intention. The only thing that was missing is it wasn't quite according to the Sunnah. It's just plain meat doesn't have anything in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala. So your actions for you to have this taqwa. You not only have to obey Allah and you not only have to try to not to disobey Allah, but you need to do
it with the right intention and you need to do it in accordance with the Sunnah of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
The next thing I wanted to talk about, before we come back to this advice of Abu Dhabi, or this advice to Abu Dhabi, for the Allahu Allah
is not just the importance of taqwa. But the importance of you guys at the stage you are in your lives and the importance of youth in Islam.
Subhana Allah Islam gives a massive, massive importance to young people who grow up and spend their lives are being Allah subhanho wa Taala. From this as you can see, mentioned in the Hadith of the seven, who will be shaded on the day when there is no shade but the shade of Allah so just the shade of the underneath the throne of Allah on the day when there is no shade, but his who was one of those seven is what? Shaban a young, a young person, a young man named Shafi pietila, he grew up and he spent his youth in obedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala at the beginning of university, whether it's your first year or your second year, whether you're almost graduated, at the end of the day,
from an Islamic perspective, your use is you know, when you're under 40 years old, or under 35 years old, or depending on the different opinions about when your use finishes. But the majority, if not all of you here today will be in what Islam terms to be your youth. And so you have this opportunity, this massive opportunity to spend this time in obedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And to be from those seven that Allah shades on the day when there is no shade, but his imagine what it's going to be like on the day of judgment when the sun is brought close. And imagine when some people they're going to be in sweat up to their ankles, and some people are going to be swept up to
their waist and some people up to their chest. And some people, they're going to be as if they were muzzled by it as if they were drowning in their own sweat. And you imagine that some people they get the air conditioning, some people they get the shade, they get to sit in the beautiful shade without any of this concern whatsoever. And imagine that one of those people is that young person, that young man or that young woman who spends their use the time when everyone else is out clubbing and drinking and messing around. They spend a use of being Allah subhanho wa Taala. But don't be contented before one of the seven, one of the seven groups. It's not enough. Let's try and do some
more of the seven groups. Why not be from those people who their hearts are attached to the masjid. Those people who they are attached to the message they frequent the message they love to be around the message. Why not be from those people who meet for the sake of Allah they meet together because of the love they have for our last panel tality meets upon it and they put upon it
all about spending your time here with you here in this university in obedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala and it is a funny
tastic opportunity, if you want to know how much importance the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave to young people listen to the advice that he gave to every adverse the advice that he gave to that young boy even as a young boy, you know, the Allahumma young young lad. You know, he's just a young lad. Maybe I think this dimension, he was very, very young at that age.
And he's with the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam accompanying him, and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam turns to him and he says, Yeah, vuillaume young lad, young boy, for the La Jolla fork.
If you're mindful of Allah, and if you god the rights of Allah, and you god the rules and the regulations of Islam and you stick to the the rights that Allah has over you and you implement them and you implement the the laws of Islam and you are mindful of Allah, you remember that Allah is watching you, what you get in return, Allah subhanaw taala will protect you from every evil and everything.
So finally, he will protect you from failure, he will protect you from having your enemies overcome you he will protect you from the enemies of yours amongst the jinn and amongst the men.
Allah subhanaw taala will protect you and this is what we call an Arabic Al Jazeera amin Jin Suleiman, you get the reward for what you do. What you put in is what you get out. You are mindful of Allah subhana wa tada and Allah azza wa jal protects you. And further on in the Hadees. From the advice the messenger gave to me adverse, in one of the narrations of the Hadith, he said, geography Allah He field raha advocate you should come to know Allah azza wa jal at the time of ease, and Allah subhanaw taala will know you at the time of difficulty. In other words, when Allah has made things easy for you, and no matter how hard things are for you, in your studies, and whatever else
you're doing, things are relatively easy for us compared to many people around the world. When it's a time of ease, don't abandon Allah subhanaw taala at a time of ease, don't be like the Muslim spoon of maca how they used to be when they used to climb aboard a ship and the waves would come from everywhere and the storm would build up. And they would make to our to Allah making the religion for him alone or law save us all I help us and when Allah delivered them to the land, and they used to make partners with Allah subhanaw taala
because they only turned to Allah when things were difficult. And that's not how we want to be. We want to turn to Allah subhanaw taala when things are easy, so that when things are difficult, Allah Subhana Allah will make things easy for us.
And the advice to me Ibis or the Allahu anhu is long advice. And I just wanted to take some parts out of it, but
very, very specifically, you know, regarding this issue of when you have an opportunity, and you have an opportunity now to worship Allah azza wa jal to be obedient to Allah take it, because that opportunity doesn't always come again. Allah Subhana Allah mentions a group of people in the Quran.
He mentions a group of people when a Hollywood editor whoever saw camera movement will be our motto. We turn their hearts and we turn their site away from Islam when they didn't believe in it the first time. So don't always think you're going to get a second chance. You have a chance now in your youth in your ease in your time of have a time when you should be finding things relatively easy. You have an opportunity to spend that youth and spend that time of ease in obedience to Allah azza wa jal to spend it in taqwa in a being Allah in avoiding disobedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And if you do this, then you are heading on the path to success be in the light hit about a quarter Allah
success in the dunya and success. And in reality, the dunya is such that when you turn your back on it, it comes running to you. You know, when you turn away from this world and you focus on the Hereafter, Allah subhanaw taala will take care of your dunya he will take care of your worldly needs. And this is mentioned in some of the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam some of the meanings which indicate this, that if you put your whoever's ham whoever's whoever's intention and his worry and his concern is for the Acura Allah subhanaw taala will take care of his dunya Allah subhanaw taala will take care of this and whoever his intention is worry and
his concern is for the dunya Allah subhanaw taala will lead him to it and you'll find him get himself busy in it. Like most people who are lost parents, Allah says that he don't be fooled by the wealth and their children allowance only to give them this way.
So that they can become busy with it, and they forget about Allah. And then Allah takes their souls when they're in a state of disbelief. And that's not how we want to be. So this is just a kind of an introduction to some of the advice of the messenger, sallAllahu, Alayhi, wasallam. And some of the things that I think are the most important things to touch upon.
I also want to mention some things in the conclusion inshallah, but right now, what I think it's very important to note is that University is a time when there are certain pressures, and certain difficulties that most students face. And I've mentioned, or I've written down, maybe somewhere between five and 10, very, very common things. And what I want to do is to open this out to you guys in shoreline to hear from you to hear from some of the things that you think are the most difficult or that you think are problematic for university students, bearing in mind that some of you may have been in university for a good few years, and some of you may be very new. So what we want to do in
Sharla, is to open up to to everyone in Sharla. to hear from you guys what kind of problems it is that you face. And then for us to get to look at how the Quran and how the Sunnah of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam advises us to deal with these issues and how we can find ourselves a way to sort of work through them, and I have a number of things, inshallah, what I will most likely do is I will listen to you guys and if we don't cover them, then I will cover the ones that I think that are the most important inshallah so I want to hear from you guys, inshallah, what I'm okay, inshallah Bismillah.
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I think you covered a couple of points that I think are really important. Two points that I was going to mention that you covered that are on my list of really important things to mention. The first is that some of you may listen to that story and think, Well, those things wouldn't bother me. And that's because the shape Han has his own way of dealing with each individual person. And one of the best things that you can do is to know the ways and the means that the shaytaan seeks to get hold of you. And the ways in the means that the shaytaan seeks to call you remember the shaytaan has no power over you except to to call you will call the shaytaan olema. Put me in Nola, Hawaii Kumar,
they'll have to come from left to come. The shaytaan will say when everything is all done
a lot of promise to you. And his promise was true. And I promise you and I broke my promise. While mechanically it could mean Sultan, I didn't have any authority over you, except what except that I called you first Egypt Landau to confess to Egypt, except that I called you and you answered me. So the beginning is that the brother mentioned about the temptations that university students face. And this is a big problem. The Temptations and they are different for every person, for some person, they can literally live in above a bar and they will never look at it. And for others, it will be a big temptation for them. For some people, it's the temptation of the relationships and the women and
the men and we're going to talk about that in a little while in sha Allah. But for everyone there is something that the shaytaan is calling you to. And one of the best things that you can do is like the brother said, first of all to recognize it. I recognized I hated it. And this is how Allah subhanaw taala has made you in your natural state. This is the fifth one the natural inclination that Allah is made in you that you hate to see this kind of thing. Like Allah subhanaw taala says well I can Allah hug Baba eco Eman was a you know who fuku we can work out raha la cumin Kufa? Well fukada ICN Allah ecomo Rashi doon favela mean Allahu Allahu Allah and Hakeem Olajuwon which is the
source of your art. But Allah has made a man beloved to you, and he's made it beautiful is made appear beautiful to you in your hearts.
He's made you hate disbelief and hate defiance and hate disobedience, those other rightly guided people. So you find yourself in a situation and you find yourself hating, it's not nice, it's horrible, because you see around you all of those things, and some will be more tempting than others. The shaytani has his way with each individual person. With some, it's going to be the alcohol with some, it's going to be the music with some it's going to be the women or the men, some it's going to be, and so on and so forth. So you recognize it. And you recognize the effect the shaytan is having upon you, and you recognize the danger and you act on it before the time comes
when you fall into it. So you recognize this is not a good environment for me, I can feel the call of the shaytaan. I can hear him inviting me to the party, and I don't want to go. And then the brother touched upon another point, which I think is very, very important, which is the importance of the people who you spend your time with and where you spend your time. And we know that it's enough that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said and model Allah, Dini Hari, a person is on the religion of his friend, his close friends. So let one of you look at who he takes as a close friend, who you spend your time with, who you share your room with, who you share your house with.
This is very, very important. If you share your house with people who are disappearing a lot as the origin don't complain, if you end up disappearing Allah subhanaw taala wisdom, if you see yourself in a problem, then you need to make the steps to get out. And the other point that I wanted to make with regard to what you said is that some people may say, Well, look, I'm kind of stuck in this situation I you know, Subhan Allah, Allah azza wa jal gave you a way out. And this is a blessing from Allah subhanaw taala. That deserves thanks to Allah subhanaw taala that Allah azza wa jal gave you a way out of that difficulty. For many people, they say, I couldn't find that brother, I
couldn't find that house. And this brings us to one of the fundamental principles of Islam. One of the principles that many of the rulings of Islam are built upon practical law must are to fear Allah as much as you can, to the greatest extent that you can, you're stuck in a dormitory and the people are doing this and that and you can't get out, make your intention to get out, make look for your means to get out. And then do what fear Allah as much as you can do as much as you can to isolate yourself from that harm that is going on, and fear Allah as much as you are able to do. So if you do that, then Allah azza wa jal will give you that Maharaj that way out, that you are able to find your
way out from those problems. And the other point that I wanted to make regarding this, which I think is also very, very important, is another key principle in Islam. And these principles are so important, because they give you an answer to many, many questions. And that is the principle that when you have made your effort, put your trust in Allah, because upon Allah, you can't guarantee you're going to find that brother in the message, but you do your very, very best. And in this there are, I guess, two forms of misguidance and a straight path in the middle, there are those people who they don't even bother to try and say, well, follow wants to find me a way out, find your way out
and they just sit down, they do nothing. And then there are those people who they run around like crazy worrying about ways this kind of code, how am I going to do this, and if I don't do this, this is going to happen. We do neither of those, we do our work and we try our best. We try our very, very, very best. And we do the best that we can to try to find a way out, go ask the people put a notice up in the masjid, you know, go and talk to some people call up some brothers as the head of the eisah. Do whatever you can. And then when you've done your best, either identify tawakkol Allah, when you've done your best when you've tried your best, then trust in our lives.
So you trust that Allah subhanaw taala is going to provide you that way out. And you need to have that patience, and we're going to talk about patience, inshallah, towards the conclusion of the talk in Sharla. And so, just like along hailing Yahoo for that very, very nice story, and that introduced us to a number of points as long as you talk about, okay, we're talking about for the brothers who've just come in some of the pressures that people face when they first come to this to the university or some of the pressures that people are facing now. And what the kind of Islamic advice is and what the Quran and the Sunnah says about these things and how we can, you know, find a way
out from them in Sharla.
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lowering our gaze around the country, especially for Muslims coming from Muslim countries, we're not very common or usual to see, like people here I've been known for worry about.
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No doubt, no doubt at all. Subhan Allah, this is one of the, the biggest Phaeton and it's not one of the biggest trials for people in England. It's one of the biggest trials for the Muslims, because the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned, and he warned his companions again and again and again, that fear Allah with regard to the women, Fear Allah with regard to you falling into these relationships that are not permissible. And this is something that is such a trial for people and to travel everywhere, regardless of where you are, because to part a lot, you know, you can look at the most religious and practicing Muslim country in the whole world. And I lived in
Serbia for I lived in Saudi Arabia for somewhere near eight years, and Subhan Allah, even though you can't compare the two, you know, SubhanAllah. But even then, when someone has that inclination in their heart, they, they go towards it, and they move towards it, and Subhanallah the code of the shape. And this is particularly strong. So it's extremely, extremely important that we set ourselves those limits that our last panel to Allah sets for us, and that we stick to them and that we don't go over them. And like the brother mentioned, it begins with the way that you know, or the gays, the way that you interact with people, because in university, you're often dumped into situations that
you wouldn't like to be in, you know, Subhana Allah, you may be in the house, you never ever, ever have a non Muharram in the same room as you in university, you might be forced to, you know, sort of sit next to each other, you might be forced to, in a lot of difficult situations. And so it has to begin with that. That tough lie, that fear of Allah and it begins in the heart, first of all, begins in the heart, it begins with your whole approach, you know, down to the way you talk to people, the way you look at people where they were where you direct your site, where you go, you know, somehow I don't know about you, but Nottingham, but in Newcastle, we have a very, very bad area, Newcastle is
very well known for its nightlife, it's very well known for its clubbing and it's you know, Subhanallah women that are very, very inappropriately dressed and things like that. And that has an area that's well known in Newcastle. Now, as much as I lower my gaze, if I walk through that area on a Friday night, doesn't matter whether I lower my gaze, or I raise my gaze, I'm going to look at something because it's everywhere. So it's about you thinking about what situations you get yourself into. And it's about, again, like we mentioned, recognizing the way that the shape arm gets to a person, it's about not just lowering your gaze outside, and not just lowering your gaze in front of
the Muslim sisters. So that you know, you don't look at the sister, but likewise with the non Muslims as well. And you set yourself a standard and you know, Subhanallah, it's difficult. It's not easy in the workplace. And it's not easy in the university to do this. But if you set yourself a standard, and you make it clear from the beginning, people will come to respect. And you would be surprised how many non Muslim women respect this approach when people behave more respectfully towards them, and they don't judge them on their looks, and they don't stare at them in the eyes, and so on and so forth. People do respect it, and they come to respect. And yes, it's awkward the
first time someone sticks out their hand, and you sort of sit there, you don't know what to do. I don't know about that. But there are some
brothers who have given some what I think is reasonable advice. Some of the brothers who have, I don't know how I managed to study these kinds of things. They recommend that if you hold something in your right hand above chest level, it's much more symbolic to somebody that you don't want to shake the hand. And I don't know how well that works. But holding things in your hand doesn't always work. But holding things quite high up in your hand is quite a good way of avoiding taking people's hands. Because if you have your phone sort of here, and you're like, it's very obvious that you're not going to shake the person's hand, but at the end of the day, it's about the limits you've set
for yourself. So when that sister comes in, or that lady comes and puts a hand out, you have to set that limit for yourself and say, I'm sorry, I can't, you know, and no disrespect to you whatsoever. Please, I don't want you to take offense, she'll take offense anyway. But you really say I don't want you to take offense. And you know, this is why this is my Dean. And you have to have these answers. And this is part of your doubt. You know, have a read of the websites and the YouTube videos that give you the answers. So you have a canned answer in your head. And you say you know this is from Islams respect of women. This is from Islams respect of people's personal
limits and you have a canned answer when you don't use it.
You know, and you don't know what to do, and your hands are going everywhere and you trying to explain that, but we don't touch women. And that doesn't sound good. You know, when you say that Muslims don't touch women, it doesn't, it doesn't give a good impression of Islam to anyone. We don't touch women, you know, and people get very, very confused. And it's not my parents are not Muslim. And it's happened to them many times. And I've kind of gathered from this, that people have a decent kind of reply in mind, before they come to this situation, they usually get out of it in a in a much better, they usually give a much better impression of Islam to people. So set yourself
these limits, and don't cross them. Don't be tempted to go meet your friends in the coffee shop, if you know, it's a place where you know, you're likely to fall into Haram. And I've been talking to the brothers you know, in this regard, but Subhan Allah equally for for the sisters, you know, so Pamela The same applies to compromise yourself. So Paula some sisters, Mashallah Nicola, they have kept their hijab and their higher their modesty, their whole life, and they come to university, and in the first year, it's okay. And then in the second year, it just, it just loosens, and it just sort of lowest slightly, and then again, and then again, once you start to compromise, that's it.
It's like a snowball, it just rolls down the hill. And then before you know it, all of the things that you used to do before to protect yourself, and to keep yourself away from the harm, you don't do them anymore. And that's something that, you know, Subhanallah, we've seen with regard to our sisters, and we've seen with regard to the process as well. So with regard to this, like the brother said, lowering the gaze and alarm. So Jen mentioned in the Quran to the believing men and to the believing women and allies, which I mentioned both and sometimes they get the impression that this is something that only men are supposed to do. You know, those men who can't control themselves,
just lower your gaze, you know, but Subhanallah This is something I realized, oh, Jen mentioned for the men, and he mentioned for the women, lower your gaze, and have that demeanor and not personal kind of self respect and self dignity, that you set yourself as an example. And you say, look, this is my limit. I don't cross this. And you deal with people the same way you deal with people. In the same way you don't compromise for someone not compromise for others. And that way you send out a message to people and people will respect you for it no matter what eventually, when all is said and done. People will respect you will respect you for it be in the light about a quarter.
We don't have too long I'm going to try and maybe another 20 minutes is a long topics upon a lot. But let's see what else we have. We have anything from the sisters or
no doubt, no doubt that the dollar is extremely important. Yeah. When you are representing Islam, whether you want to represent Islam, or you don't want to represent Islam, you represent Islam. When your name is Ahmed or Fatima, or Maria or Mohammed, you represent Islam, whether you want to or not, doesn't matter if you want to say I don't want to represent Islam, I'm not practicing properly. I'm not doing the right thing. It doesn't matter. In the eyes of the non Muslims, you represent Islam, whether you like it or not, everything you do represents Islam. And that comes back to the hadith of Abu Dhabi, workaholic nurse of European Hasson deal with people in the best possible way. Subhan
Allah, you represent Islam. And once you get that knowledge of Islam, and you put that knowledge into practice, the next step is what to call the people to that knowledge to call the people. And that means the Muslims and non Muslims. If you are passing by four years, three years in university, and you're not explaining Islam to somebody, that is a concern to me. And it's difficult, it's not easy. And you know, in this, we don't really have time to talk about about dour as a whole. But I would highly, highly recommend for those of you who haven't yet had the chance to listen to it, that you listen to a series of lectures there on YouTube. And they're also on mp3 called How To Get A
Shahada in 10 minutes by a brother called Kamala McKee. And I have never heard a lecture on dour that is as good as this lecture. And maybe that's because I haven't listened to enough. But my personal opinion, I haven't heard one better than this. It talks about how to deal with people, it talks about how to get a quick answer, you know, different things like asking somebody, don't say to somebody, what do you like about Islam saying to somebody, what do you find? Why aren't you a Muslim? What What is stopping you from accepting Islam? And then the person it makes them think there's so much to talk about in that lecture? It's such a beautiful lecture, please do listen to
it. And again, you know, in your dour, don't, don't think that you can be careful with this. And this is something very important that we link between the comment of the brother and we link between the issue of the dour don't think that because you're giving data it gives you the right to ignore all of the limits of allies. So again, why are you sitting
With that system where I'm giving her dour you know what are you doing in town at night I was giving down you know, this is a problem so Pamela we see this amongst the brothers and amongst the sisters, sisters of Halloween Are you compromising in your deen I'm giving you I'm giving our It doesn't work like that. You don't get success by doing the hard on, you get success by sticking to the limits of Allah. Allah is the one who guides you don't get in Nicoletta demon. When I can Allah it may assure you don't guide to you once who you want but Allah guides who he wants. And Allah is the legit said this to the prophets of Allah, whatever you send us, you can't guide who you want. The ultimate
success is from Allah subhanho wa Taala. The ultimate success in your Tao is from Allah, you're calling people to Islam is from Allah. So don't compromise don't don't think that you can do the Haram and get something good out of it. Stick to those limits. That's very, very important
We can in university environment, we just discussed the fact that we have a lot of brothers and sisters, a majority of
Can you please advise us for the one who
it's a very, very, very, very good point and a very important point and something that I don't want to neglect it or I think it deserves time. So panel law is how we deal with the non practicing Muslims. Again, bear in mind that whatever I'm going to say this goes with the same condition as before, don't compromise in your D. Don't sit with that sister who's not practicing because you're being soft and gentle with her yet set yourself those limits and stick to them. But when it comes to dealing with people you want to not be judgmental, do not sit down on your high horse and look down at that individual and think this person is like this and like this, and they're never going to
change and I'm so much better than them. Because it may be that Allah subhanaw taala flips you around and puts you in their place and them in yours and that is not difficult for our last panel. So my sincere advice to the brothers and the sisters is when you're dealing with those Muslims that are not practicing Islam as they should be. They're not putting as much effort in as they should be. The first principle is that you are merciful towards them and soft towards them. fabbi Mirage met him in a lie he lintel at home. wallow Quinta de Cali, belenko boomin Holic Allah azza wa jal says, If by a mercy of Allah, you are gentle with them, you are merciful towards them, you are soft
towards them. And if you were harsh and hard hearted, they would have run from around you. You don't get it by being hot by coming across with that kind of better than thou attitude doesn't work. You try to understand I look at myself when I was 16 and thinks of Hannah law. I'm not even the same person today as I was then. So Paula, it's like a complete body transplant. You know, it's totally different person. And I think that's a part of life. Someone came to me and said, or you know, I'm still practicing and you're not and it just it doesn't bring people closer. Yes, sometimes you need to speak a word that is a little strict and a little harsh. But the first port of call is to be
soft, and to be gentle. And hikma in reality, wisdom in Islam is to know when to be soft, and when to be harsh. You recognize that brother who really needs you know, I remember one of the hardest things for me was at the end of my practicing Islam was growing the beard. I was probably about 17. And I heard a lecture by a brother. And he only I'm sure he was soft at the beginning, but I remember him saying that the lion without a beard is a lioness.
The lion without a mane is a lioness. It's a woman. And he said, do you want to be a woman? Or do you want to be a man, and that wasn't particularly soft and gentle. But suparna ly had a big effect on me. So you need to recognize that sometimes you do sometimes a harsh word or a stern word at times, can benefit but your first principle in everything is your soft, your time, your understanding, come on, you know, you try different wind ways and different means to bring that person closer to Islam. Why? Because you do not get a bigger space in general, by your brother or your sister going to the hellfire. You don't get to get their land in the castle and their houses
and you don't get a bigger space. You get a bigger space in Jannah by guiding more people to Islam with the permission of Allah as the origin.
I think one of the things I wanted to talk about is particularly with just bringing together some of the things we mentioned previously, is don't always think that the fitna or the trial for you will be in that non Muslim woman who's you know, wearing her very revealing clothes or whatever. Sometimes the trial for you is the shape on is is cleverer than that with you. And sometimes the trial for you is more subtle than that. Sometimes it's that Muslim sister who asks you to share the
You know, school notes or the university lecture notes, and then you become close. And then you start talking. And so stop these things before they happen. And don't think that the only trial is outside the pub on a Friday night, there are trials for you in whatever you do, there are trials for you in your daily life all the time. So it's very important that you are aware of those that you recognize those, I think I wanted to talk briefly about pressure in what you learn, you know, University is a melting pot, whether it's what you learn in class, whether it's what you learn in the message, you're going to get mixes of different groups and different people and different
ideologies, you're going to get people teaching you who do not follow your religion, let alone your belief set, let alone your creed, let alone your particular methodology. And that's a difficult thing. And to be honest, it requires a great deal of understanding and a great deal of understanding of the principles and the rules of Islam, to know when you can compromise and when you can't, but do be very, very careful. definitely have a filter in your ears over what you hear whether it's about Islam, or whether it's about anything else, whether it's you know, you're doing a degree in, in something and they're talking about evolution, or whatever it may be, have that filter over your ear
and have that ability to see this information that's coming to me isn't true. You hear someone in the message, he says, brother, there's nothing wrong with this free mixing, you know, this is just what the Saudis do. And, you know, you hear this kind of statement and you think, right, put a red flag there, go back and actually find out from a knowledgeable person what the answer is, okay? Because you're going to hear many different people, you can't possibly get a university that is full of people in this country, four of them are Muslims, all of them are upon the sun, not all of them are practicing exactly as they should be, it's not going to happen. So you are going to find
Subhanallah so many different groups, you're going to be exposed to so much of the call of the shape on in terms of people calling you out away from Islam, people calling you to deviancy within Islam, and you need to be firmly grounded. And that is going to bring me to my conclusion really, which is that really you need these four things. And these four things are the four things that are mentioned in sort of us. And I think we can conclude our our understanding of our workshop in Sharla huhtala. I know it's been very short, at least for me, it's been very short anyway, that's upon law, we can conclude it by looking at the surah once again, this world class once again and extracting from it
four things. The first thing that Allah azza wa jal mentions, or that is implied in the surah is the importance of knowledge. You need to learn your deen you need to learn your Islam, not only to save you from the shewhart the the the the principles and the false notions and the misguided ideas that are spread around the university from Muslims or non Muslims, not only to save you from you know, people calling you away from Islam, but you need to get the knowledge of Islam because if someone stops you and says, You know, I noticed you're a Muslim. I've noticed that you're wearing hijab, can you tell me something about Islam? How many of you could be able to answer unfortunately suppiler
many people are not able to answer when that time comes. You need to have knowledge of your religion knowledge is the first port of call. Allah azza wa jal mentions knowledge in the Quran before action. No all Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that there is no god worthy of worship except Allah and then seek forgiveness for your sins, knowledge comes first. And then when you get that knowledge, what do you do with it? knowledge you don't act upon is a punishment from Allah. Knowledge, you don't act upon you like a donkey carrying books, you don't understand anything, you carry a lot of knowledge, but you don't understand anything. So don't think that because somebody is
very, very knowledgeable, that necessarily means that they're very close to Allah subhanaw taala. What makes you close to Allah is how much of the knowledge you put into practice and you act upon. So you need to act upon what you know, you need to put it into practice, it's no good you knowing that it's recommended to do this. And it's, it's obligatory to do that, and this is hard. And this is haram. If you don't put it into practice yourself, you must put it into practice, you must save yourself from by getting that knowledge, save yourself from, you know, being unsure. And then when you're sure you act upon it, and then when you act upon it, what do you do, when you act upon it,
you call other people to it. you advise other people you call other people, you don't just keep it to yourself, like it's like something that's restricted only for you. It's not just for you, it's for everyone. And your status in the sight of Allah is going to be raised by how much you call other people to the truth. And this was the job of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam not to conceal the knowledge and not to hold the knowledge but to spread the knowledge to as many people as possible in the best way possible. And then finally, and this really is the last point that I want to make upon law because of the time but it really is so so important that when you do this, you are
going to need to have an abundance of
Patience. Because when you start calling people to Islam, and when you start practicing Islam, when the sister comes and she's properly covered on the first day, she's not been wearing Hijab and she puts it on, you're going to need an abundance of patience. When you haven't been dealing with people in an Islamic way and you change and you start dealing with people in the stomach, you are going to need an abundance of patience and you should know that patience in Islam is three kinds. There are three types of patience, patience in a being Allah, remaining firm in a being Allah, staying firm like Eliza, Jessie's Rob buscema works he will have been a home for good who was probably a bad day.
When Allah subhanaw taala says the Lord of the heavens and the earth and whatever is between them. So worship Him and remain persevering and patient and firm in the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And like Elijah just says, worship your Lord, our good Rebecca had to Kelly again until certainty comes to you until death comes to you seem to be patient and doing good deeds. And you need to be patient in avoiding the Haram and you need to be patient on the trials and the tribulations that our last panel to Allah decrees are going to happen to you. Just like he decreed them to happen to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Finally, just in summary, I want to just
to, to give you a bit of hope or to give you you know, and it's always important that a Muslim doesn't remain pessimistic and Muslim is not a person who is pessimistic and Muslim remains, hoping in the mercy of Allah and fearing the punishment of Allah in balance, you find yourself fearing a lot too much. That's not good. You know, Subhanallah you need to balance yourself remember the mercy of Allah azza wa jal you find yourself hoping a bit too much relying a bit too much analyze mercy, then you need to you know, you need to remember the punishment of Eliza Jen and fear Allah subhanaw taala. So you're in this situation. And I just wanted to give you some, I guess, some positive news
in Sharla. For those people who remain firm, and they remain strong, and they keep on practicing that Dean throughout University and then they carry on they go and either in university or after university, they get married and then you know, they pass it on to their children. These are the people who are alive so just says about them in a Latina call, Rob Boone, Allahu semesta como, tetanus de la la human mother.
Half what attacks and what Abhishek will be generated, that he couldn't come to idle. Allah Subhana. Allah says, indeed, those people who say Our Lord is Allah. They've got the belief, right? They've got the understanding of Islam, right from Mr. Como, and then they stand firm upon the religion of Islam. And I like to phrase this as they stand up, and they are counted as Muslims, you want people to stand up and be counted. Because it is the karma originally is to stand up, stand up straight. And it means to stand up and be counted as a Muslim. And they remain firm on that their whole lives what happens? The angels descend, the angels descend three times they descend at the time of death.
Imagine the time of death how worried someone is you're moving on, out of this world, the angels are as close to you or closer to you than the people would imagine. The Angel of Death is coming to take your soul and the angels descending, they say a lot a half well attacks, no, don't worry about what is going to come. Don't have any worry over what is past. Don't grieve over what's gone, don't have any worry over what's going to come wherever she will be genital that he can come to, and take glad tidings of the paradise that you've been promised. And then again, imagine when the people are taken out of the graves. Everyone is running around on the day that a person runs away from their wife and
their mother and their father and their children. And they just say nipsey nipsey just me, me, I don't want to know anyone else. They want to run away from your own children. On that day, there will be some people when they come out of their graves, the angels descend to half what has an attitude will be generativity quantum to I don't, don't be frightened by what's going to come. Don't be sad over what's past and take like tidings of the paradise that you have been promised. And likewise, when the people enter agenda, and the angels are saying the same thing to them, that's who we want to be from. And at the end of the day, this life is a life of work. It's not a life of rest
and play. It's time for work. It's a time for effort, and you put it in and Allah subhanaw taala has promised to guide those people who are sincere and those people who try for his sake, Allah subhanaw taala has promised the guidance and has promised them this in the end. They stay firm, they stay strong, despite all those difficulties, and they remain from those people who are aligned. So God promises them whatever they wish for engender, and gives them the promise of that place in paradise that they have been promised in Sharla. So this is you know, in reality, there's so many things to say but we just tried to say
Here's what we could enter the time that we have in Sharla. Do you have a last point?
I have a question.
So the Buddha is asking about just following this set of ayat that I was talking about, when Allah azza wa jal says, Well, that is that will happen, that will
be the variability here.
This is something that is very difficult to do. And that's why a lot. So Joe says, When I call her 11 00 am, I would love to have been out him, nobody is going to be able to do this, except those who are extremely patient and except those who have been given a great reward and a great portion from our last panel to add, that you deal with people that even when they are bad towards you. And even when they are, you know, they're ignorant towards you, and they treat you in a bad way. You deal with them in the way that is best. And in reality that doesn't have one way of doing it. There are many, many ways and there are almost as many ways as there are situations. But it's about you rising
above the petty kind of the petty kind of issues that people have and rising above the, the kind of, you know, situation that the majority of people even the majority of Muslims are in and rising above and treating people in a better way than the way that they treat you and this is mentioned throughout the Quran. For example, when Elijah which I mentioned a bout of rock man, the slaves and the servants of the Most Merciful and he says what at the heart of a humble Jia, he wrote a call to Salama, when the ignorant people addressed them, they say Salah, like Ibrahim said to his to his father, Khalid Salam and Alec, he said, Peace be upon that and you know, Subhana Allah to deal with
people in that way and to go through your life dealing with people in a way where you give them what is better, and you treat them in the best way. Even if they don't treat you in that way. That is a lesson that if you learn it early, it will serve you in very, very good stead for the rest of your life. And like Elijah just says the one that you had emnity between the one that was your worst enemy. You can even have him as though he is you becomes your becomes your best friend. But it's not an easy thing to do. It requires perseverance and patience to deal with people in a better way than the way that they deal with you. And like we said, there's not one way to do this, but but many
ways. I think that's all we have time for if I'm gonna have a lecture in the invested amount Sharla so to get over to the message for Asia, this is about we have to wrap it up here in Sharla Okay, so just come along here on robotic lo fi comm and
Do we have any questions from the sisters in Sharla?
I just keep kind of an eye out if we had any questions I didn't see any questions from the sisters if we have any written questions or anything like that in Sharla if one of the sisters wants to put on the table and go get it inshallah
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