Safe Sex In Islam With Imam Siraj Wahhaj

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salam aleikum. Again, we're greeting you with that beautiful greeting of peace, peace be unto you. Today, my next guest is going to come out in a second. This is some exciting, we have an exciting topic that we're going to be discussing in a minute. Sex, everywhere you go. Everything you see is promoting sex. And sometimes safe sex is put in front of the word, sex. What does this mean? condoms are being passed out at the schools. Parents now the fathers used to be able to have some kind of say, of who comes to see his daughter. And nowadays, parents and fathers are being pushed away. A lot of times from, from even having a say, and dating is prevalent.

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So we want to see how Islam How does this way of life that we have life of all the messengers? How does it tackle this subject? What's the definition of safe sex? With my next guest? Who comes out in a minute? We're going to help you understand this a little bit better. We'll be right back on the dean show. He

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is His Messenger.

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There's only one Jesus was his messenger.

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Why did that maybe? Maybe it's just to break the ice. My next guest a mom Suraj Well, hi.

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peaceful, peaceful Peace. Peace. Assalamu alaikum.

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Peace be unto you. Peace be upon you, my good brother. Thank you for finding the time to be with us here on the deen show. Very excited to have you know, I want to thank you for inviting me. It's my great honor and privilege to be here with you Mashallah, I want to say this to your audience that I've been following you for a number of years. A wonderful job on the line, we are very happy to to support you and your great efforts. Well, I have some for you too, because we love our mom and you know, in Islam, we give the gifts. So we're going to give some gifts. Thank you Here on the deen show. Thank you. This is something that is

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for you. And then you can share it with the other people think you should I put it here. Yeah, our brothers from half date calm. They help us to do a downward drive to produce some dow videos. And those are the new DVDs for dow Thank you so much. So please

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have a good time viewing them and sharing them with the non Muslims and everybody out there. Now we're gonna be talking about sex. We're going to be as great as great topic, sex. Ah, great topic, and we're gonna put safe in front of it. We got to have safe sex safe sex. You're having safe sex?

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That's the way to have it. But we want to clear this up. What do we mean by safe sex? Please, let's get into this topic. Well, you know, let me before we talk about Yeah, I think there's two premises, that I think that before you talk about service, whether it's safe or unsafe, that the audience have to talk about number number one. Is is our relationship with our Creator? Yes. is critical. You know, and even though my name is Raj Maharaj, and your name is Eddie, but a real in reality, we Abdullah that means be the servant of a law. And the law mentioned the court and McCulloch to genuine answer Italia don't have I have not created spirits, nor humans except to worship me. So so.

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So the first point that we may differ with other people is that everything we do we do for the creator everything, whether eating food,

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and abstaining from certain kinds of food, or whether intimacy with our wives, or whatever it is, we do it as a result of him commanding us when I say us, I don't mean just the Muslims and the father was a prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings upon them. I mean, every prophet so whether you're a follower of Moses, a follower of Jesus, or follower of Muhammad, peace and blessing, the eponymous what I'm talking about, first of all of them, and that is that everything that we do is not like this what I want to do, no, it's not what you want to do. The question is what do your Creator what has he ordained for you? So it's not just arbitrary, like my opinion, your opinion and what you just

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do what's good for you. It's, it's what you're saying what you think is good for

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Or something that you think that's right. So the first point I want to make a talk about safe sex is that it's going to go okay what what the gods say, the creator, what did the law say? What did the Lord of the worlds What did he say? Now the issue? This is not just a Muslim guy, this is the God of the heavens and earth and everything. Only one God alone long, handle a lot more sananda Let me

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well, Amir kulambu one.

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That's why in the Quran, Allah tells Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon to tell the people of the book The Christians and the Jews elect who know what Allah who can wipe your garden. Now God is one so there's only one God, it's not the God of the Muslims is one God, the same Creator of the heavens and earth. Three and one are just one. Just Just one. You don't want to play tricks with mathematics, no mathematics, children, you don't. You don't chop them up like a pie. None of that. Right. So number one, the first one I miss the first premise is that that God is the one that created us. And he's the one that gave us the commandments. Let me tell you the second. The second

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premise, which is, before you go on to let me just interject when now just on this, if you can add, you said, One, does this God that we worship does I mean, is there anything like him? Does he have any children? Does he have anything like his creation? Or when just one of one of the things that our scripture tells us, which is the less revelation to man given to Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings upon them? Well, Lisa committed

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There is nothing like unto him. He is unique. There's nobody like him. You don't have no wife, you don't have children. So God is One is creative. Everything he was from the beginning is everlasting. He was he didn't give birth to anyone normalcy born. So that's the one we saw that just makes so much sense. Yeah, please. The second thing, the second premise, which is which is critical.

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I once was thinking about the Congressional Black Caucus, you've heard about them wrestle Black Caucus. And though many people know about them, they don't know the model of the Congressional Black Caucus, the model of the Congressional Black Caucus is black people who have neither permanent friends, no permanent enemies, just permanent interest, and permanent interest. And the reason I talked about that, and talking about the next premise is that is very is crucial. And that is that every commandment that Allah gives us, is for our own best interest. It's wrong. Good. As found good. He doesn't need any of these things. No. So if he deprives us of something, he knows that that

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is best for us. If if he would give us something, yeah, that makes he makes it permissible, he makes it halau then it's good for us. He makes it haram not permissible, then it's no good for us. So these two premises, you can't talk about sex or safe sex or nothing until you talk about number one, what the God commands us, you know, what's in our best interest. Now, having laid that foundation, now we can talk about safe sex and let me give you let me give you some information. Let me give you some background information. That thing is critical. The Who are you familiar with Who? Who? Who? Talk to us about who? aids wh o World Health Organization? Who, okay. They they said that intimacy

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between men and women happen on this earth every day? 100 million times one day, 100 million times a day. 100 million times a day. Let's hold right there. We got to take a break. We'll be right back. 100 million times a day into misuse taking place. We'll be right back on the dean show.

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Mom Suraj, Mohamad on the dean show 100 million times a day who is giving us the statistics that sex is taking place intimacy, yes. 100 million times a day? Yes. No. Well, let me say this, you know, some people is wrong with that most of that takes place in New York City in Chicago.

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But think about that 100 million times a day. That's a lot. That results in 910,000 conceptions a day. Wow. 910,000 that results in 350,000 sexually transmitted diseases, eight herpes, gonorrhea, all these things a day a day. Wow. And you hold on to your seat. The last one. The results in 150,000 abortions a day. Those are little babies that are being put to death. little babies being put to death every day. 150,000 around

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The world saw the consequences of sex. While on the one hand, it's enjoyable. We can't deny that. Yeah, God created it to be enjoyable. Right? But alas, isn't quite an what tilaka who do doula led to hug the doula? And these are the boundaries of Allah. Just don't go past them. Now. He wants us to enjoy ourselves. Yeah, with the intimacy between a man

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and his wife marriage. Of course, only marriage, because other than that is out of the boundaries, like like a basketball game without foul lines and everything I have got have fallen. Yeah. Okay. These are the perimeters. These are permanent, what God has said, we stay in those perimeters. He says this in it. Because if you don't, you're going to get that you're going to get 350,000 sexually transmitted disease. Right? You're going to get 150,000 abortions a day. Right. This is as a direct disobedience to allow the almighty Yeah. Now when you understand the beauty of intimacy, when a man and woman comes together, and the possibility of creating new life. Yeah, you know, and you know,

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it's interesting. Recently I was reading the Quran, this is the verbatim Word of God Almighty, the Quran. Absolutely the exact words of God, okay, it's not written by, you know, some person who we don't know, is not from it's not it's not even the words of Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon them. The Quran is the words of God that was revealed to the last prophet, Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon them, even as God revealed the Torah to Moses, and revealed the Injeel that the gospel to Jesus gotcha. So this this last revelation in the Quran, so I was thinking about the prophets, right? How we love them, we love all of them. And, and I was thinking the other day about

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Prophet Moses, in the Quran says Allah mentioned in the Quran, and we inspired

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Omar Musa, the mother of Moses,

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Jesus had a mother, Mohammed had a mother and a father, Moses had a mother and a father. Yeah. So the results of these will begin to put Jesus in a special category. Yeah, come back to that moment. But the result of all of these profits, but the results of their mother and father getting together, and look what they produced, they produced all of these, these these these great men. So so the so the the union of a man and the woman, and the pleasure can create such beautiful people as the messengers of God. And the reason I put Jesus in a special category, because we know as Muslims, we believe that his mother Mary, was a virgin. And, and she didn't have a Prophet Jesus didn't have a

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father. Yeah. What is the miraculous birth? But putting that aside, you know, no, no woman can get pregnant without a man. Yeah. somewhere. It isn't man involved. But we're just trying to get to know each other. You know, I want to get married. I want to get down like you're telling me, but how do I get to know somebody? You know, I would say the problem. Yes, problem is, we have a lot of tasters tasting,

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taste, taste testing, says driving.

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There you go. All right. You can't do that yourself. Because what happens? The man says, Okay, come on, honey, I want to get to know you. And then after he gets to know us, Okay, the next let me get to know you. And let me get to know you. And let me get to know you. You know, you remember Wilt Chamberlain will chair with the basketball player. The famous basketball Yeah, one of the great basketball players ever. he bragged in his book, that he slept with 20,000 women, he got to know, you got to know.

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And I just started recently, I was in there. I was I was I was I was listening to a radio station. And I can't confirm it. But apparently, according to what they said that the president of Cuba Castro, just now, you know, recently, maybe last couple of days, said he slept with 35,000 women 35,000

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women, so they fit up there and this 100 million somewhere. That's a lot of women. So as our women I mean, and then what happens when you so when you look at that is like, okay, it's ugly. It's ugly. And what we try to do is that a man and a woman, you know, they come together, they get married first, and then they have the intimacy. Why? Because that's what God said. He said, and we as Muslims as believers, we're the servants of Allah. And if he says it, then it's good for us. So it's not your opinion. Now this is what the crater saying it's not my opinion or your opinion, or anyone's opinion, is what the Creator Himself is saying, gotcha. Now, you're telling us that

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Look, that woman, she wants to get married. And now the guy she says, I understand that, but he's different. He's not like the rest. What are you gonna say about this?

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Well, unfortunately is like the rest because he wasn't like the rest, he will be a God fearing man. And because there there are others, by the way, Christians and Jews who believe that you shouldn't have intimacy until you get married. So it's not something that's just for the Muslims. Yeah. But other, you know, God fearing people, because it's also in their scripture. Yeah. Because we believe that all the scripture comes from the same source. Yeah, it actually comes from God comes from Allah. Yeah. So he's the same one that revealed the Torah, the NGO to the gospel, and the Koran is the same one God, but how can it be that I mean, even in the high schools nowadays, you'll see that

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the condoms are being given out. And this is being promoted. Okay. Everyone is doing it. Everyone is dating. So you're telling us everyone is wrong?

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Anyone? Let me tell you something. You know, what, see the problem, Eddie that we have in a society that we given? Yeah, given right. So he said, Well, you're not having sex anyway. So give him a condom. I do agree. No, no, let me let me be real with you. I do agree that you know, if you're doing it illegally, yeah. Right, then then it's better to use a condom Yeah, less chance of disease and you know, pregnant unwanted pregnancies and things like that. But I'm not giving in Yeah, I'm we're saying is that you're not have sex until you get married. And there are a number of high school students and college students who live in by their creed, who don't necessarily call

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themselves religious people, but understand the dangers of having an intimacy before marriage. So again, it's it's you know, if you want to be the servant of God, then this is the price that we have. We have to pay. I give it another example. You know, people like alcohol they drink people like to get hired and like they smoke marijuana. Yeah. Well as Muslims we can. God doesn't allow us so we're not gonna smoke marijuana. If he gave us the permission to do it. We will do it. Yeah. If he said we can drink alcohol we could. In fact, the Muslims drink alcohol. A lot mentioned is a very interesting verse in Quran. Let takanobu Salah antem suka Hata Talamo Mehta, Kowloon. Oh you believe

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do not approach prayer while you are intoxicated, until you understand what you're saying. This was revealed in the court and before alcohol became prohibited. So there were times there were times when Muslims drink alcohol, why it was permitted. But once the God Almighty stay away from alcohol, yeah, you know, it is an abomination. So then the Muslims, they stopped and it is written that one that I had from the Quran was revealed.

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Leave it alone, that some Muslims will actually be drinking. But when the revelation came, they simply turned it over and spilled it out in the streets of Medina. Yeah. And they said it was flowing down the streets of Medina, because God Almighty had said that it wasn't permissible. As long as God permits it, we can do it. After he says it is prohibited, then we can no longer do it. So the first step be that acknowledge that there is a creator, that he knows what's best, he's the most wise. And now are there consequences just like at work, you disobey your boss, once twice, you get fired, I think consequences for following your passions and desires and not following what your

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Creator told you to do. You know, it's interesting that you said that, Eddie, there are two consequences. Two possible consequences. Number one is right now, while we live in on this earth, right now, now, some of the things that I've talked about not only sexually transmitted diseases, and all the other consequences of that, or even imagine

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a man sleeping with a virgin woman, she thinking that he's gonna marry her. And he sleeps with her and then leaves her totally emotionally destroys her. Absolutely, totally destroys her right? And on one hand, on the other hand, you will see that God will let you do it.

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Isn't he let you do it even though he said this is what I want. And you say, Well, I'm gonna I'm gonna do it. garga let you do it. But then the punishment in the Hereafter is something altogether different next life now. There is a next life and that when this life is over, that's not it. We're gonna die. That's a fact. kulu Nelson the equal to mount. A law says Quran every soul shall taste of death. When we are going to die mcaleenan Epson enter mood to elaborate the lead keytab in Agilent no soul can die except by the permission of Allah is already written in the book, so we're gonna die. No question about that. Nobody lives forever. Ronald Reagan died. There you go. My president

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died. There you go, okay. You and I will die gonna die. That's just the way it is. More than that profit.

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Let's dive. Right so none of us are exempt. But the point is, is that now we have to face him are created on the Day of Judgment, and how he's going to judge us for all the life that we live. Everything that we did, he gave us commandments. Now you got to pay a price. Even in this country and every country you have law. Yeah. And if you violate the law, then you're gonna be punished. If man can can can create laws and punish the people for violating those laws like Bernie Madoff. You remember him the guy who gypped people out of billions of dollars? Yeah, he's in prison, because he broke the law. You know, people in prison, they break the law, what about the law of God, so in the

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hereafter will be punished by God's punishment, if we if he doesn't forgive us for committing that sin, for violation of the law of God, we're going to when we come back, God willing, we're going to be discussing some of the benefits of doing it the right way doing it how your creative wants you to get right back on a good show.

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We're here with sir rod on the dean show precautions. Sometimes when you're in it, you already been blinded by love. How do you not let it get that far to that state precautions? Yeah, you know, there's there's a, there's a very interesting verse in court and the law says, learn takanobu

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Don't go near fornication, and adultery.

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Never mind that. Don't Don't do it. Of course, don't do it. But not only don't do it, don't go near it. And God in His infinite wisdom, he puts us in a situation he tries to put human beings in a situation where they won't get in trouble. And let me give an example.

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You know, his a Muslim, he's a he's a strong muscle. So Oh, believe I'm strong. And don't worry, I can be alone with this beautiful woman and I won't touch you know, maybe you won't. Yeah. But then again, maybe you will. Because what happens is that there's a tradition of our Prophet peace and blessings be upon them. That said that when a man and a woman are alone, by themselves in seclusion, then shaytan the devil, you know that character? He's a third party, and a shaytaan the devil all he wants to do is get us to disobey Allah don't say tannic forces are there they're real. The spirits are real Christians talk about them. Jews talk about Muslims talk about it, call it the devil, call

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it same caller shaytaan. Call them jinn, whatever you want to call them. They're real spirits and their desire, the evil spirits desire for us to do the wrong. So a wise man doesn't put himself in position where he may disobey his creator. This is why Allah has given us the warning. Don't put yourself in that position, where you can commit Zina. So you don't want to be alone with a woman who was not your of course your wife or your your, your your child or your your sister, your mother. You don't want to be alone with a strange woman, by by yourself. So, so we take our precautions. Yeah. And then here, you have to police yourself. You know, I'm doing something very interesting, very

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interesting tradition. I don't know anyone more pious than Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings. pious, right. He was in Mecca and I don't know city Mohali, the Mecca. He was in city in the city of Mecca during the month of Ramadan, right. You're the Messenger of God in the city of Mecca during the month of Ramadan. During the last 10 nights he was in Ithaca, he was in seclusion in the math, Masjid, in one of his wives came to visit him.

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And after the visit, he said, let me walk you home. The here's the Messenger of Allah in the city of Mecca during the month of Ramadan, walking home with his wife.

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And some of his companions come by and they see him and they start to walk quickly. He called them back. He said, This is my wife,

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messenger of God city of Mecca, making things straight putting things in, making sure he's letting us know, to let them know I'm not walking with no strange one. Yeah, this is my wife. How much more should we now we walk all the time. We know we walk in, we owe an explanation to somebody, we walk out in the street with a woman who's that woman who's that woman that you're walking with? And so the protection of the community is that when we walk into the community, and we see a man walking with a woman and Muslim man walk with a Muslim woman, okay, sure. We should assume that's his sister or his wife or his. We should assume that but not necessarily so. So the protection of the Muslim

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community is a brother say, oh, by the way, this this is my wife safe sex. So that safe sex? Yes. When we opened up the show, we talked about safe sex hot topic. It's all over sex, sex, sex. Now you put the safe we're talking about marriage. Yes, doing it. How you create it wants you to do it. That's the only way and we're almost out of time. Now. The precautions now, some

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The benefits, some of the benefits of sex is that

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you see this big smile.

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So we don't shun away from this. Oh, it's not something that we're like we hide on put our heads down. No, it's a good thing. It is good thing. Let me tell you something. It's natural. Just the idea. God created it. Yeah. And He created us to have a good time, we should have a good time on it with our wives, though, within the within the boundaries that God has laid down for us. So now this is when men and women come together, they do it the right way in marriage, the brother he's getting really excited. Something's building up, the woman wants to be held in love. Yes. How do they go about it the halau the permissible way, you got to find out the this woman who is her guardian, who

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is his or her father, who's the one who's going to give her away because in Islam, we respect the Father, we don't go sneaking around with his daughter know sneaking around, sneaking around, we respect the Father, we go to the Father and say, you know, so I'm interested in your daughter, you know, I'd like to have a formal meeting. And I'd like for you to get to know me, and to know my family. So this is the respect this is the Brotherhood of Islam. Like you know, I had a man you have enough say, none of you really believes until you want for your brother, what you want for yourself. Now, if you you know, you, you you, you want someone to come to you, if you have a daughter, you

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want someone you expect to expect that young man to come to you, then why not go to that woman's father, or her guardian is maybe a father has died? Maybe it's a brother, maybe it's an uncle, maybe it's a grandfather. But that's the way we do it. We don't we don't we don't sneak around. We don't go to sneak around to hotels and motels and backup people's car. This is ugly, this is ugly to Allah, this ugly to civilize people. We do it right. And there's joy. And I'll tell you one thing, I tell you the truth, when you sneak around, you can't really enjoy it. Something happens psychologically to you. Because it's not it's not this is not right. And you know, it's not right is

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in your very fitrah it's in your very nature to know that this is not right. So you don't have to hide and sneak in wonder if someone is watching me. And you know, you don't have to do all of that. That's the beautiful thing about doing it the right way. That's the beautiful thing about safe sex. safe sex is only through marriage. No other way. No other way. There is none of this dating in Islam. today. No, you do me a massage. I like to take your wife, your daughter to dinner. No problem. You can take my daughter to dinner. You and my daughter and me and you and me. We get that's how we go to dinner. Okay, so go back like we started realize that there is a structure way

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for us to live. And that's according to not our desires, but the way the creator wants us to live. Absolutely. And if you want to do say sex, do it in marriage, you got to do only in men only in marriage. What do we mean by safe sex? That's the only safe sex there. Thank you very much for being with us. Thank you, God Almighty, Allah rewards you. Thank you so much. Thank you. And thank you for sitting tight through another episode of the deen show, we really hope that you got to benefit. It's something rational, logical that there is a creator behind this magnificent universe and everything in it. And it's only right, that you acknowledge that he loves you. He has manifested his love. He's

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given you so much. And now how do you give back you give back by living life according to how he wants you to live. And when you do that, that's how you get that piece. That's how you become successful not only in this life, but also in the next we'll see you next time here on the deen show until then, Salaam Alaikum. Peace be unto you. No speech is better than to do that will call people to Allah and to do the word no speech is better. Nothing is better than that. Is it true that if one person and Allah giving you the ability to guide someone, the last permission the creator's permission that is better than everything in this world, but in the whole world and everything

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that's in it in another nourishment is better than the best of world but if we really felt that he would we would not be giving out giving down and this is something that we encourage all the mshs all the dowel organizations must shift to get this we want to create more we give these to the non listeners for free for free for free Warner Brothers.

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