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Bismillah Alhamdulillah Salaam Alaikum peace be unto you. Welcome to the deen show, which is a way of life. We try to put out there for everyone to see helping you understand Islam and Muslims. And until I believe a few days ago, I just found out that Islam is indeed the largest way of life in the world. Alright, check this out as the fastest growing way of life in the world, yet miss most misunderstood. So we try to help clear most of the misconceptions, and educate the non Muslims and the Muslims with learned men scholars in Islam. So we're going to sit tight, we're going to be talking about manners, we're going to be talking about proper behavior. And we're going to introduce

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our next guests. You're going to read about them, and then we're going to bring them on to tackle this topic. Sit tight. We'll be right back on the deen show.

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peaceful, peaceful, peaceful.

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How are you? Thank you again for being with us. Thank you for inviting me. The people got to read a little bit about you. So they see that you're qualified to help give us some advice on what's called an a C or a C. Okay. Now we want to talk about I love this hadith. All right. Well, Latif because they're coming from the divine inspiration to the last and final messenger to mankind, the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon right? Correct me, he said, I have not come but to fulfill good manners. Yes, the Muslims, a lot of them delicateness we're lacking this, we need some. I start with myself. I need this advice. And then we move on from there. How define good manners in Islam. Let's start from

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there.

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It's a very comprehensive topic. But I would like to mention some points that hopefully by the will of Allah subhanaw taala, it will be easier for the listeners to understand the concept of color or manners, or mannerism in Islam. There are three types of mannerism in Islam that we have to fulfill, as we know Beifuss test and we're not living on the face of earth for the joy and, and that's it, we're living for a purpose and that is to worship our last panel, dad, and everybody will be judged and asked in the Day of Judgment, how they live their life. The first type is the manners of the Muslim with a loss of anodyne, that means, how was his worship to Allah subhanaw taala, the

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associate partners with Allah does when he say la ilaha illa Allah He sincere in doing this, and he turns to known but the last panel that is the obedient to Allah subhanaw taala the absolute obedience and away from sins and so on, which is which is the rights of our last panel that and the mentors with Allah subhanaw taala it's very clear in the corner prophets, messengers of Allah, the best of the human beings, you see, how would they speak with Allah subhanaw taala when the revelation comes to them, as Allah subhanaw taala said about the prophets are certainly miserable Bizarro motto that when Allah subhanaw taala lifted the prophets or settlement in light of Ascension

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through our marriage, he did not look left and left and right, he looked right in front of him manners with Allah subhanaw taala there is Allah said, I'm Jesus peace be upon him, when Allah subhanaw taala will,

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as it's in the end of Surah tilma ada he would say, or Allah, if you forgive them, they are your slaves. And if you punish them, you are the almighty or wise men is the last panel data that we learned from the Quran, referring everything to our last panel time. So applying this in our life, the matters with the prophets are the law to send them to be obedient to Him to love the Prophet alayhi salatu salam to put forward his Hadees before our intellect and our opinions and submit ourselves to his way. And then if we perfect these to the third type of manners, which is the manners with the human beings, it should be the easiest one and it's so simple and it comes natural,

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because you seek the first to by being kind to others, you seek the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala alone, when I'm coming to you, are you talking to me or to the parents or the neighbors or whatever there is, we don't do this in Islam, so that they can do the same to us. We do this only for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala even if they are so mean to us, we still kind to them, because this is what most panel downloaded us. So it comes from the first two kinds and obeying the way of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and having the knowledge and this is very important. And life is all about giving rights to others, the rights of Allah subhanaw taala What are they? the rights of the

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prophets of the law to sell the rights of our own selves, the rights of our parents, the rights of our wives, the rights of the wife, to the husbands, the rights of the children, the rights of the neighbors, the rights of the Muslims, the rights

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The non Muslim, even the rights of the Muslim sinner, there he has rights on us to enjoin good and forbid evil, the rights of the Muslim there is a scholar in the religion, for example, and so on. And this is what's the meaning of the Nazi had to be concerned about the rights of the Quran in us, you know, to be concerned about the loss of Hannah, Allah, His Messenger, and the leaders of the Muslims, the masses of the Muslims, all of this comes with knowledge, we have to spend the time and the effort to learn all these etiquettes and manners of how to deal with other people, Islam we learn everything, how to worship Allah subhanaw taala in the masjid, and how to buy and sell with

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transactions, how to deal with each and every one of us. It's all laid there in the Quran and the Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim. Once we have this knowledge, then we are left with applying this knowledge and has to go hand by hand and this is one of the critical matters, that people need to understand the ultimate they call something called totally unrelated transgression of knowledge, you have a little bit of knowledge and action is not up to the same level what happens, the person will have arrogance will have transgression. Because knowledge alone doesn't work. You have to follow this with actions applying this knowledge, having more and more a better, the better and the act of

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worship making Salah fasting it humbles the person makes him down to the ground with his relationship with Allah subhanaw taala. So if the if the knowledge go beyond the action, it gives arrogance, and it makes the person fall into bad manners and the opposite. If deeds and actions go beyond knowledge, a person will fall in innovations in the religion because he wants to please Allah subhanaw taala but with no knowledge, so they always have to go hand in hand. No one is exceeding the other. If we are conscious of this, and seeking the knowledge from the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Allah so to serve, I think we don't have to sit for a long time and discuss how to deal

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with the Muslim brothers. When you buy and sell when you do transactions with a lot of problems you'll have a Muslim Mashallah looks like he's following the way of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is good in the masjid very humble in the masjid. But then once they're outside and they're dealing with some worldly affairs, a different mask has been put on. Yeah. Which is a deficiency of course, why? Because we didn't do what's supposed to be in the budget in the proper way. We didn't know the manners with Allah subhanaw taala and the Buddha prophets are set up in the proper way and having patient to patients to fulfill the orders of Allah with other people in our life. So it doesn't just

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go for manners in the masjid. You need to take it outside also and dealing with everybody, right? And if we perfect what's in the masjid will come out with us. If it does not come out with us that means we have a deficiency in the masjid. We did not do it in the proper way. Now we know about the manners that we're supposed to have with our brothers in faith, but we also supposed to have certain manners and etiquettes of being kind to people who aren't even Muslim. Is that correct? Definitely. Of course we have even men as it's mentioned in the deen with animals with animals and the prophet SAW Selim said there is a charity in everything that has a liver, anything that is a life as life we

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have certain manners towards these things, and the prophets of Salaam is the best example in that. And we know the Hadith where a woman entered the Hellfire because of a cat that she locked it up and she didn't give it she didn't give it any food to eat and didn't leave it out to eat from what's outside till it died. And I Lost Planet Allah punish this woman into the Hellfire and the opposite. A woman that was a prostitute from the children of Israel and she entered agenda because she gave a drink of water to a thirsty dog. So this Deen is beautiful. It's very comprehensive, and everything is there. So we just need to learn how to act with other and it's all there as far as knowledge is

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concerned how to deal with the non Muslims and given down a las panatela says, we'll call in se Hostnet speak to people mess everyone, hostname meaning with goodness. So it doesn't matter if the person is a Muslim or non Muslim, we have to speak to people in goodness in a good manner as the prophets of Salaam used to do. We know that in Islam, which means total surrender and submission to God alone. Without no partners. We have evidence for everything we do in sha Allah. Okay, we have evidence and we should follow the evidence, which is the crown asuna and you have the best of generations which were the the companions around the time of the Prophet. Correct. So now we have

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our brothers and faith. And we have some difference of opinion on certain matters. Where do we cross the line? And how do we have manners a clock? when we're dealing in situations like this a person might have his hands different in prayer person night might not have the same opinion with you on a certain matter. So where do you cross the line? rather than getting in a big heated dialogue debate? Where do you stop and where do you cross not cross the line? Where do you know when to backup? Well, this has more than one thing for us to do. First, we have to seek knowledge ourselves in the proper way. What is knowledge? Knowledge is as they say, color, color or pseudo color. So what Allah said

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What the prophet SAW Selim said with the companions of the 11 homestead. So, if we have the proper knowledge, and we do not blindly follow no one but Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, and we asked the people of knowledge those who have the same attitude, because if we could not know something, then we as the people have knowledge, we should not open the Quran and the Hadith ourselves a normal person and says, Well, this is the prophet SAW, Selim said that, that means the ruling is such and such we do not know the comprehensive and the different I had just mentioned there. So that's why we asked the people of knowledge, so secret knowledge is one thing and having these principles that we

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follow the way of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam and understanding of the early generations of Islam, applying this principle in our specific way of doing things, and then we have to know how to deal with those who are different from us, those who are different or doing something that is not the truth. Either there are scholars or knowledgeable people or they're just normal person. If it's a normal person, we need to educate need to be kind need to be patient, and with patients and given the Dharma for the principles that we need to follow the Quran and the Sunnah with the understanding of the early generations of Islam and being patient in doing so, then in sha Allah by the wind of

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Allah, things will change. But someone for example, is calling people to innovations in the religion and he is supposed to be a leader among them, we have to be picky, we have to be careful and avoid being in the companionship of such a person. And we have to warn people from him in the best way in the most etiquette way. So that we do not fall into the same innovations into religion. But again, these different debates in matters of fact, yeah, right. First of all, we have to have the principle that whenever we have differences, we have to refer the differences back to the caller. And the Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim as Allah subhanaw taala says, faintness, atom fish for doing

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that if you are in difference with one another with regarding to any method, refer it back to to Allah and His messenger. So the lesson he did not say referred back to men, he said, referred back to Allah and His Messenger sallallahu wasallam. We, as the people have knowledge with the evidences from the Quran and from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Some people and this is a very dangerous statement, when they say, Well, if the method has differences of opinion, then take any opinion and you'll be fine. Is this is what the verse says. The first says, if you're in differences among one another, did not say just take any opinion, don't take the differences of

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opinion as one of the things that we extract rulings from No, go back to the Quran and the Sunnah. So going back to the evidence, not us necessarily, but we take the sayings of the element of the scholars with the evidence with the goal is to follow the profits a lot to celebrate, and to be patient with one another. How do you know you have brotherhood? That's very important. Now, if you have a matter that you want to address with somebody?

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And should you do it individually? Or do you now call a person out in front of people and embarrass him or situation like this and not wanting to jeopardize? Because advice sometimes very heavy. And now, you have to

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start to think like, man, am I gonna ruin a brother? hood here over one issue? How do you address you know what I'm saying? Right? And it's very important naseeha they usually translated as advice. Yeah, but it's not the proper translation, if you wanted the comprehensive meaning of nausea comes from the word NASA 11, which is when you purify the milk, to make it totally pure, from any impurities. The same thing naseeha means that you have this feeling this pure, sincere concern about the one that you want to make no see, how would you say that again, pure, pure concern, pure concern? If you're so concerned, whether the most the highest to Allah, that means you're so

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concerned about the obedience of Allah? Then I'll say hi to the core and that you are purely concerned about the Quran and how can you fulfill the rights of the caller? Now say hi to the Muslims, is to have the concern, and this is concerned is so pure, and for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala alone not to look superior, but to put someone down, but for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala the person has that concern should be present in the heart first, and we have to test ourselves. Before we advise someone, we should check with our hearts. Are we sincerely concerned about this individual we need to save him from the wrong that he or she is doing so that they can

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see the truth and follow the truth. If we have this concern, then we'll take the proper means of advice. Never just one or the other met one of the scholars of the religion of Islam have a very, very benefiting small book that he said that forgiveness is the title of the book which means the differences between the Sangha and exposing the affair of someone.

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You can think that a person is given Messiah, but when him when he's disclosing business, he hi in front of all the masjid. You're not making Messiah. You're you're in bed.

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Single rotor. Yeah, and this is not permissible. So in that case the person should take him alone.

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Choose the right words have this concern in the heart. You can even as they say, pray some of the good things in him and mentioned some good things, remind them of the Brotherhood that you have. And then you would explain and that way then we'll see how we'll be accepted. By just if it's if it's just some words that a person throw on someone's face, I did my part, whether it takes it whether he doesn't take it, this is not a person that is concerned. So and following the manners of the prophets ourselves, and then entering the measure as we know of the profits or seller urinating in the masjid what the prophet SAW Selim did with him, took him with the best and gentleness a man

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saying one more weapon attack me salami, one of the companions of the Prophet SAW Selim, he came into the salah and he was away for some time he didn't know that speak in during the selects ribbit. So someone, someone in the cellar sneezed, and he said, your hammock Allah He told him your hammock a lot during the Salah. Yeah. He said that people looked at me, like very angry, do you know, stop speaking? And then he said even something more, he says, Woe to me or were to Colombia, which means vote to me. May my mother parish me Why are you looking at me like this? This is all during the summer. So they kept telling him to be quiet by hitting their legs with their hands. So he said that

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I knew that they want me to be quiet. So I stopped talking. After the prophet SAW Selim, this man, this companion, he said, will lie by the name of Allah. I never seen anyone, a better teaching teacher than the prophet SAW said he would never was angry with me. He did not tell me any harsh words. But he told me that this Salah, this prayer is not for the person to speak in the worldly talk. It's in the vicar of Allah subhanaw taala, and the citation of the Quran. And as a result, this person, you know, changed by the manners of the prophet SAW Selim and this is one of the some of the etiquettes to do and we advise others. If you come to a disagreement where you know what you

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are sincere, or you're not, that's with the law. But now that you can't get this person that see it your way? Do you just stop hanging out with this brother of yours? Where do you go from there? If a person do that? No, see, huh? And it depends on what is the crime that this person is committing there, if it's a matter in the creed, in the belief, or in the methodology of understanding the dean, person gives them a C ha, and advice. And if it's not been accepted, and he do it in a proper way, and if he sees there are more means to take, then he should do that if it's not been accepted whatsoever. And that person should avoid falling into the bed companionship with that, would that

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brother depends on of course, what it is for something minor, then we put it in that perspective. And if it's something major, then we still keep the advice, but we avoid falling into the same issue because when a person is closer to someone, he might be affected. And of course, this is general right here. To be specific. It's very important for each and every one of us asks the people of knowledge when it comes to these situations because so much difficult things happened and heart and animosity among the Muslims as a result of not knowing the manners and etiquettes and do not differentiating between what is mine and what's mine. What's major. So we should as the people have

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knowledge with specific specific incidences and what to do with this brother and what this brother is doing in the masjid? And what's his relationship with the Muslims and so on? And should we avoid bickering, arguing, and definitely the prophets or settlers mentioned in the Hadees that some of the rewards of those who leave arguing arguments even if you have the person wasn't the truth, and as a motivating if you're about the agenda, the mythology that I am guaranteeing a house in the outskirts of gender, for those who leave arguments when they are in the truth, not leaving it when he's not been on the truth when being a truth and he would still leave the arguments but what it means by

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this is that we should still show the truth and if the truth is not been accepted, then we leave the arguments that's why my medic Rahim Allah, he said in the meaning of which if somebody argue with you, tell him if you have the knowledge, tell him what's in the Quran. And the Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim with regarding to what he's doing or she's doing, if they accepted Mashallah, it's great if they don't accept it stop at this point. Because what else you gonna say? You already said the highest level of things which is the Quran and Sunnah revelation, no mistakes in it. If he says something else, then you're gonna go to something lower, you're gonna start going into intellectual

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things which is cannot be against the Quran and the Sunnah. So you're going to go to a wrong route. So once you made the evidence is clear, and explain it in a proper way, then this is good enough and a person should not argue one last question before we come to a close. How do you differentiate if what I'm going to say is going to cause a greater fitna? How do I balance this out to know when to talk to be able to differentiate about losses and gains

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Yes is one of the most difficult things, and it needs a person of knowledge. So, yes, we can learn how to deal with it. But please, this is my advice, ask someone have knowledge how to deal with specific situations, because to know what is the outcome of things, there are so many variables to it. Gotcha. So once the person sees that the outcome is more evil than the evil that is present now, it becomes not permissible to forbid that present evil. Because if you forbid that President evil, you is going to be a mean, you're going to be a mean for a bigger evil. This is not what Allah subhanaw taala wants from us, when we enjoin good and forbid evil. So but we have to have the wisdom

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and the knowledge to be able to differentiate between both Can you give us an example on this last point, example if someone for example,

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sees a bottle of wine? Yeah, right. In a place where it's permissible for people to drink alcohol, right? If he goes on he breaks this bottle of wine. It's hard drinking alcohol is harder Yeah, so if you forbid the evil by medicine our hands and we do this a bigger evil we'll have other Muslims in our city will be arrested, right? And the person that is selling the the wine or the alcohol, he will be given from the Muslim from the money of the people to build his place better into so where's the evil decreased here or didn't decrease. So as a result a bigger evil happened. So as a result, it becomes haram for a person to forbid the evil in such a manner but if he goes and speaks to that

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Muslim, but this is not permissible, this is haram. Even if he tells you harsh words, okay, be patient, but we do not transgress so that we do not we're not the cause of a bigger evil. Gotcha. Okay. So being sincere, being on the right knowledge, putting things in context, referring it back to people, not only just you going back to the Chronos sooner but going back to someone who's a doctor in this area scholar in this area, someone who can explain it to you and the situation being sincere, and we should be okay, then it's shoreline. Okay, thank you for being with us again. sokola Haida and thank you all for tuning into the show inshallah we bring a new show every week on the

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deen show. Until next time, a Salaam Alaikum peace be unto you.