Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P28 286B Tafsir Al-Tahrim 1-6

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The Prophet sallua alayhi wa sallam's actions, including his desire to abandon a woman with bad smell, his desire to protect his wife and children from god's love, and his need for moderation and trusting oneself are important themes for protecting one's love and avoiding negative consequences. The importance of protecting teachings and being replaced with better wives for the Prophet sallua alayhi wa sallam is emphasized, as it is common for couples to share confidentiality and have a good partner.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Surah to to him, the Hareem how Rama you had removed the Hareem to make something haram to prohibit something to make something unlawful. It's a Madani surah and it was revealed the beginning verses were revealed concerning a particular story, a particular incident that happened in the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam as obvious from the name of the Surah it was with respect to making something unlawful. We see that in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala mentions honey. And he also mentions that honey is something that fishy fat in it is a cure for people. And of course honey is sweet and sticky and delicious. Who doesn't like it? So the

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prophets of Allah who already use Allah also liked honey a lot. And we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, as you familiar, he had multiple wives. And you could say that the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam were sort of divided into two camps. There was a camp of Aisha Radi Allahu anha, meaning she was the leader. And there was a camp of Xena Vince geohash Radi Allahu Anhu she was the other leader. And we see that there was constant competition between Zainab Radi Allahu anha and Aisha Radi Allahu Akbar. Now, both of these women, they possessed great qualities and it's understandable why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam loved

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them so much. But of course, given that they were human, they did have the sense of competition between them. So one day the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was with Xena Bragi Allahu anha and he had some honey

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and I shuffled along on her. She was a little offended by that that he because he had taken longer over there and he had a good time he had had some honey. So we learned in Buhari in a hadith that have sort of the long run her and I Chateau de la Mourinho both decided that when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would come to them, they would ask him, did you have McAfee's mic? What's that smell? All right, did you have ma feet or something Mulleavy? It has said that it's the sap of a particular tree or a herb, and it had a particular smell. So they said that we would ask him Did you have Mala feet? And the Prophet sallallahu earlier said no when he was asked by have

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settled low on her and he shall blow on one after the other. He said, No, I didn't have Mala feet. I had honey at Zeno's. So they said, well, it smells like Mala feet. Now the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was very particular about his hygiene.

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And he did not want to smell bad in in Irish. And we learned that once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was brought some garlic, some prepared food, which had a lot of garlic in it. And he did not have it. So people asked him that is this unlawful or something? And he said that no. The thing is that I speak to the one that you do not speak to meaning Gibreel comes and visits me, and I speak with him. And I have to ensure that I don't smell bad. So when I show the love on her and have sort of the law on how both of them inquired did you have Mala feet? It smells? What do you think the Prophet salallahu Newsom's reaction was, I don't want the smell, right. So he said, to have sort of

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de la noir on her that I will never have honey again. I will never have it again. Now, there's so many things to learn from this, but one of the beautiful things we learned about the character of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa Salam is that how he was concerned about his wives, that if his wife found something offensive, even if it was just a bad smell, he was ready to abandon it for the rest of his life. Even though honey has she fat in it, it's something that Allah has mentioned in the Quran. It is something that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam liked, but he was willing to leave it for the sake of who, for the sake of his wives. I remember that he said this only to have

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sort of a little more annoyed that I will never have this again. have settled a little on how I went and told our I shall deliver on her mission accomplished, right? Which means that if ever again, Xena brings honey the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is not going to have it. Right?

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Allah subhanaw taala did not approve of this. And he revealed the surah What does Allah say? He says, Yeah, uh, you have never you all Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Lima to her Remo. Why do you make unlawful man that which a halal Allahu Allah has made lawful Leca for you? Why are you making something that Allah has made lawful, unlawful on yourself? Why

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Why are you depriving yourself of something that Allah has allowed you to have?

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Now from this, we see that firstly, we are not allowed to declare something lawful or unlawful out of our own desire. Allah is the One who legislates what is lawful and what is unlawful. Even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not given this authority. And we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not declare honey to be unlawful over here. He just made it unlawful upon who upon himself. Right? But given that, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa Salam is a leader and a role model if he would make something so beautiful and good as honey unlawful upon himself, what would the rest of the Ummah do? What would the OMA do in his footsteps, they would also leave honey

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and in leaving it there would be depriving themselves of something that Allah has created of something that Allah has made lawful. So Lima to her remover or halala hulak Why do you do this meaning you should not do this. The reason is given debit Delhi mulata as magic you are seeking Merlot, approval of as logic of your wives more lots more dots is from Radar Radar to be happy mobots Complete approval.

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You are seeking the complete approval of your wives. Well hola hola. foto Rahim and Allah is Most forgiving and he is most Merciful. He is the One Who forgives over and over again and the one who shows mercy repeatedly.

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What do we see here? It is as if Allah subhanaw taala is defending his messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that if Allah has gifted you with something so beautiful, just to please others, you should not leave it. You should not deprive yourself of it.

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And even if leaving it will make some of your wives happy? Well, that is not okay. Why should you deprive yourself for the sake of your wives? Why should you do that? Your spouse does not like it, your wife does not like it, okay? But just to earn their approval, just to earn your wives approval. Don't deprive yourself. We learned that earlier. In the Quran in surah Taha when we learned that Allah subhanaw taala says that some of your spouses and your children can be an enemy to you, how that they can hinder you from going forward in the way of Allah, they can become an obstacle in your journey to Allah.

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And we discussed that if ever, your spouse or your child prevents you from the way of Allah, it's not that they're doing it out of hatred and spite for you know, they're doing it out of love. And we see another form of this over here, that how out of love because I shot a blow on her house out of the lower on her they want to do spend more time with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Right. And it is out of love that they did this. But from this, what we learn is that just to seek your spouse's approval, don't begin to deprive yourself. Don't make your life so difficult and so hard, just in order to make your spouse happy. This doesn't mean that we should not be concerned about our

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spouses approval. In fact, this is something beautiful, this is what brings love within a marriage and we see that the Prophet sallallahu sedums way was similar, that he would try his best in order to keep his wives happy. But we see that going to such an extreme depriving yourself of what is lawful, then this is not healthy. This is not healthy, that a person is losing themselves, in order to please their spouse. We see that in love and in dislike, we are taught to adopt moderation. So even in showing love to someone be moderate. Don't stay hungry all day long. And don't deprive yourself of good food of warm tea. Don't deprive yourself of lawful things just to make the other

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person happy. Yeah, a Johanna bu Lima to help the mu map handle Allah who look, Deborah Delima Bata as logic. So we see that here we are being taught moderation in loving someone in showing love to someone at the same time in the Quran. In surah, Ada ayah number eight we are taught to adopt moderation and join dislike to others also, while you're dreamin, nakusha and Coleman Allah Allah tardy Liu Let not the hatred of a people insight you do

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be unfair. No, you should be fair. So hear, be fair to yourself in loving your spouse also, be fair to yourself, give yourself what you deserve.

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Allah says are the follow the Allahu lecom God already follow up Allahu Allah Quran, Allah has already ordained for you. Meaning Allah has already given you the command the ruling concerning the hill letter, a man who come to Hilah dissolution, a Manickam of your oats. The healer is from halal, right? And remember that Hala literally is to untie a knot. So a man is Yameen Yameen is an oath that a person takes the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam took an oath over here saying that he would never consume honey again. He took an oath. And in the Quran, we have learned that if a person takes an oath, then they must remain true to it. Right? They must not break it. But if necessary,

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they can break it as long as they give the explanation for it. Correct. So here, it says if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is being told to break his oath. He took an oath that he would never take honey, Allah says but Farah de la hula come to him letter a monocle. Allah has already given you the legislation concerning the dissolution of your oats meeting Oh Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam break your Oles, give the Kafala and have honey.

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Have Honey, don't deprive yourself? Well, Allahu Mola come and Allah is your protector. Well, who will Eileen will Hakeem and he is the All Knowing the all wise. Notice how Allah says Allah humo Allah Quran, Allah is your protector. You see these verses? What they show to us is Allah subhanaw taala is protection for the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam, you know, these kinds of tricks and these kind of, you know, plotting and planning, there's something common within families, right? That just to earn somebody's love, you know, in competition, we will play such tricks just to earn somebody's attention or to ensure that they don't go somewhere else. Right. But we see that, you

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know, the scheme of I showed the law and have settled the law more on her. It hurt the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, it would deprive him of honey,

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and look at Allah's love and protection for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he revealed these verses, making sure that his beloved would not be deprived of something beautiful. Did you want to say something sister raffia? Like, why should I You said we should not make lawful to unlawful, right? Some ladies like you know, they are living in a mortgage house because my husband is English. We are memorizing Quran, we did have, right? But I'm living in a mortgage house because my husband is saying why we are decorating these houses, we cannot do something which is unlawful to lawful, right? And we know the Hadith if something's become lawful for us, like if somebody is

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dying, right? So somebody can eat something which is not lawful at that time, but somebody's dying, they can do it. So I was you know, some of my friend was saying like, even the mortgage is not lawful. Allah subhanaw taala had not you know, even there is no Hadith about it, in such conditions is going to be lawful. Right? The suit is going to be lawful. It's not lawful. It is unlawful, it means unlawful.

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That whether it is in terms of food or drink or residence or whatever it may be, if Allah has declared something unlawful, we are no one's to change Allah's law.

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And this authority Allah did not even give to his messenger with respect to honey. You understand honey? Is just food. I mean, what's the big deal? It's just food. But to make lawful into unlawful is not our right and likewise to make something unlawful, lawful is not our right either. We are no one's to do that. We are Allah servants.

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So Allah says over here will allow Humala come well hola Eileen, will Hakeem and here's the knowing and the wise intro to my ADA I am number 89. Allah subhanaw taala mentions the ruling concerning the breaking of the odds and the Kafala that one has to give Allah you are free to come Allahu beloved with a mannequin what I can you ask me to come be my optimal Amen. For cathedra to apply more I showed a team a second, that if a person has to break his oath, then he has to feed den needy people. What kind of food the average that a person consumes himself. And if or either feed 10 needy people or clothe them, meaning provide them with clothing, or free a slave. And if a person is not

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To do that, then he can fast for three days. So this is the follow up and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is instructed over here to break this oath and give the Kafala. Now, this incident, it shows to us the proof of the Prophet sallallahu, Urdu salaams humanity also that he was a human being. Right. He was a human being. He wanted the approval, he wanted to keep his wives happy. And he didn't know that this was a scheme. All right. This was something that I shouldn't have sort of low on Houma. They both came up with, they didn't smell that substance on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they smelled honey. Right. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he didn't

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understand. So it shows that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a human being. Then we see what is a sovereign EBU and when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam can find it meaning he shared a secret. He shared a secret Isla baldy as YG he to some of his wives. And this is referring to what he told have settled Allahu anha that he would never have honey again. Now if he was telling have sought a little more on how about something What did that mean? That have said a little more on how I should have kept that secret to herself. Right? But what happened she was friends with eyeshadow glow on her even though there was a competition between her and our Isha or the Lahore on

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her. What happened? Isla Bali as well. She had Ethan Phelan mana but we then when she informed of it, meaning when she informed I shot a blow on her about it mission accomplished. He's never gonna have any again. What happened? What Allahu Allahu alayhi and Allah made it manifest on him, meaning Allah informed the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, of what happened over here. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what did he do? Did he confront his wife openly? I know what you were doing. This was a trick and this was a scheme and you played with me and you wanted me to stay away from Xena? Did he confront her? No, I love about the who he made known, some of it was out of I'm

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bowed. And he turned away from some of it. Meaning, he did not talk about the entire thing. He just mentioned a little bit of it to let her know that he knew what had happened. And this is something so beautiful.

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Because oftentimes, when we find out that somebody who's close to us, whether they are a friend, or their spouse or sibling, whoever they may be, they have done something that we disapprove of. When we find out that they've done something that we disapprove off, we want to confront them. And when we confront them, and speak about the whole thing, then what happens, the other person becomes defensive. And then we get more agitated, they get angry, we get more angry. And that turns into an argument which turns into a fight and it leads to bad feelings, and it leads to many problems.

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So sometimes it is enough to just let the other person know, in a subtle manner, that you know what's going on, so that they can do their Islam so that they can correct themselves.

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This is the best way of doing Islam.

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Islam is not done by humiliating the other person. You don't correct people by humiliating and embarrassing them by publicizing their faults or by exposing their faults. This is not the way of Islamic phenomena but happy then when he informed her of it when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam let her know that he knew what was going on all that she was surprised and she said Minh umber Oka haga who told you about this? Where did you find out? Allah He said number any he has informed me who has informed me Allah Alim will hobby, the knowing, be aware, Allah is the One who has informed me.

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Now, this teaches us another important lesson that if the husband shares a secret with his wife, what is her responsibility? And vice versa? Also, what is the duty of the spouse to keep that secret and not let others know? You know, if someone is looking at you, right? They're talking to you and they look around to ensure that nobody else is watching or nobody else is listening. It's clear that they're sharing something confidential with you. If they're whispering to you, that means that they're sharing something confidential with you. If they're made sure that the door is closed, that means they're sharing something confidential with you. And if

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They trusted you with their secret. What does it mean? We must maintain that trust we must fulfill it and violating it contradicting it. This is injustice. Now we see over here that again Allah subhanaw taala defends his messenger in the tuba in Allah. If the toolbar both of you repent both of you, this is referring to have sought an issue to do the one here, that if both of you repent it Allah to Allah repent from what from cooperating with each other, against the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in hurting him. If you repent to Allah, then that is best because for cod solid Kulu bukhoma Because already certainly your hearts have solid solid from the root letter solid rain

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well Sol Salah is to incline Salah is to incline or to lean towards something. So for cazzola Globo Kuma, meaning your hearts have already inclined towards repentance. You're already feeling bad about what you did.

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And look at how again there is encouragement for reform over here. When we find out that somebody has done something wrong, we make sure that they feel horrible and guilty and we keep reminding them over and over and over again. But look at this gentle way. If you repent, well, that is best because aren't you already inclined to repentance? You already feel bad, don't you? Right? I mean, this is something very normal. As soon as you realize that you've made a mistake, you feel a sense of remorse.

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So here fuck so hot. Kulu bukhoma. Another interpretation of the word Salah over here is that it has deviated meaning you certainly made a mistake. This was wrong. You made a mistake. When you cooperated against the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam were in de la hora de la he. And then a warning is given that if you cooperate with each other, against him against the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa salam, meaning if you do this again, then remember that in Allah Who am Allah who then indeed Allah, He is his protector, Allah Who will protect him, just as Allah protected his messenger. Now he will protect him again, what you believe you and also Gibreel is his protector,

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while Solly Hoon Momineen and the righteous of the believers, meaning the righteous believers will also defend the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So what are you going to do?

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Well, Mala Iike to and the angels also by the Delica. After that, Wahid, they are his assistants. Well, he is one who assists so the angels will also assist him. Now in this verse, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi, wa salam are addressed, and they're encouraged to repent. If you think about it, there was no line. Right? They didn't utter any lies over here. There was no major sin over here, isn't it? However,

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playing such a trick on anybody, this is something that does not fit someone who's got good character, and especially against the prophets of Allah who already was on them. And which resulted in him intending to deprive himself of honey forever, this is not fair.

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So we see that the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are encouraged to repent over here. And how often is it that we also make similar kinds of mistakes, that we hurt other people's feelings, through similar trickery, and, and deceit? So it is necessary that we also repent if it was not okay for the wives of the prophets of Allah who were to send them to do this. Would it be okay for us? Would it be okay for us? No, it wouldn't. And then we see that again, Allah subhanaw taala is defending his messenger making it very clear that if you repeat this ever again, Allah will protect His messenger. His angels will protect the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa salam and the

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righteous believers will also protect him. And this shows that it is a part of Eman it is a part of our faith, to want to protect and defend the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is a part of the perfection of our Eman as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that lie you may know or hadoo Cohutta Hakuna habla la Iman wala de were Liddy when nasty Ultramarine none of you can truly believe until I am more beloved to him. Then who? Then his child and his parents and all of mankind and part of loving the Prophet sallallahu earliest

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limb is also defending him. Because when you love someone you want to protect them from any kind of harm. I saw a boohoo than the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam are warned over here that I saw a boy who perhaps his lord in falaqa, couldn't if he meaning the messenger, sallallahu alayhi wasallam were to divorce you. Meaning if you continue in this manner, then you are going to ruin your marriage yourself. And the messenger could divorce you and if he were to divorce you, then you know what? Your Lord, he can and you buddy know who his Lord can replace you Medela from burden to replace. You have a dealer who has wagon, he can bring him he can give him other wives.

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He can replace you with other wives, Hiram men, Kuna, and those wives would be better than you. This is something so you know, frightening to know that you are replaceable. Alright to know that if you don't do your job well enough,

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then you are replaceable. So here a warning is given that Allah can replace you with better wives for the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they would be better than you how would they be better? What qualities would they possess? What are the qualities of a good woman? Muslim at in submissive women, those who are Muslim and Islam is to submit meaning those who surrender to Allah Minette in believing women funny tatton devoutly obedient women that a baton repentant women meaning those women who repent frequently I'll be that in worshipping women say hatin said he had the plural of Sati and remember, this has two meanings. One is one who fasts and the other is one who travels.

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So some have said that Sati hath yes it refers to the women who fast but also those who travel as in those who have emigrated in the way of Allah

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say you bet in and they could be say you batten previously married plural of the word the Yeva say Yuba is from the word soaps are well bought and sold is used for clothing. Basically it is to to turn back to original state. Right and say you buy refers to a woman who was previously married. So she was initially single, she got married, then either she became a widow or she got divorced and now she's back to being single this is with a UVA is whatever kalraj Avocado is the plural of the word because and who has become one who is a virgin meaning she's never been married, meaning this doesn't matter. They could be say you bet or have a cow.

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So over here, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they're warned, that Allah subhanaw taala can replace you with other women who would possess these noble qualities. And here we see the qualities of a good woman and every one of us should analyze ourselves in the light of these qualities. What's the first quality Muslim math, those who are Muslim, then Mina, Islam fully surrendering to Allah, that whatever Allah commands, whatever he likes, whatever he approves off, that becomes our concern also, that becomes our way also mean at faithful with Eman insight, not just outward action, but with sincere faith. And kanita devoutly obedient remember connote is to be

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consistently obedient. Not that a person is very obedient and righteous one day, and then completely different for the rest of the week. No pani tat, consistently devoutly, humbly obedient, that a bad repentant and this is so beautiful because we're always going to make mistakes. So a good woman is the one who repents frequently to her Lord, I'll be that worshipping women Sati hat. Those who fast frequently also,

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which month is beginning

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the month of Muharram and this month is the beginning of the new year. Right. And in this month, also, fasting is recommended on certain days. So Sally had say you bet whatever, Cara. If you think about it, we generally judge a woman. By what? By her marital status, right? She's married. Okay, yeah, good. If she's single, still not married, what's wrong with her? Or if she is divorced? Well,

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what's wrong with her again? We don't look at the rest of the qualities. We don't look at her Islam. We don't look at her Eman. We don't look at her. Reba, we don't look at her connote we

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Don't look at her humility. We judge a woman by what? By her marital status. And Allah subhanaw taala mentions these two things right at the end that it doesn't matter whether she's a virgin or she's previously married. No, that doesn't matter what matters is these qualities

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