Taleem al Quran 2012 – P28 283D Tafsir Al-Munafiqun 9-11

Yeah, are you here? Lavina Armano Allah subhanaw taala addresses the believers. He says all you who have believed led to Will he come? It should not distract you. What should not distract you and while you comb your properties What are hola do calm nor your children, I'm Nicola from the remembrance of Allah. Do not allow your wealth and children to distract you from remembering Allah Latin he come Ill ha la who What is Allah Who? Something that busies you so much that you forget about what is more important law who is distraction, a waste of time, something that's distracting you so you're not abled or you're not focusing on what is more important.

So don't let your wealth and children distract you from Allah has decreed you have been created for the worship of Allah, not for the worship and service of your wealth and children. wealth and children are a tool a means through which you Please Allah, not that you forget Allah, and get lost in the worship and service of wealth and children. Why is this mentioned over here? Because this was the main reason behind hypocrisy, the love of wealth, and the love of one's own people. So blind was this love, that it led these people to become insincere to Allah subhanaw taala. But we need to think about ourselves also. When is it that we say big things? And we don't really fulfill them?

What prevented us saying things like, I'm going to pray this masala or I'm going to read this much Quran or I'm going to do this for the sake of Allah, I'm going to spend this, I'm going to do this work for Allah. And then what happens? Why do we go against our own words? What prevented us what distracted us our money, our things, our stuff, getting them, looking after them, maintaining them, enjoying them using them, and then not just money, but also family and amongst family, children, especially they consume you like nobody else.

And the thing is that they're so lovable. Right? They're so lovable. I mean, look at fit our own, fit our own when he saw baby Musa and as he said to him, let the Cthulhu don't kill him, Cobra to finally work. He is so cute. I find him so lovable and you do as well. For our own, who had been killing so many babies of Bani Israel. He made an exception over here because baby Musa was right in front of him. Look at how his mind was changed. Right? And this is the thing with children, you could be doing the most important thing, but when a baby comes in front of you, when a child comes in front of you what happens when I've seen the most serious people make the funniest of

expressions? Right? When they're talking to children.

Like the most serious people, I'm not saying it's a bad thing. I'm just saying that there's something in children that makes you lose yourself.

That makes you just, you know, leave so many things isn't an amazing how a woman who has studied for so long and worked for so long. And she's had such a good career. What happens when her baby comes?

I'm not going to work, finished and done. I don't care if I spent $50,000 over all these years on my education and training. And then I was making so much money, I don't care.

I'm with my baby. I'm not giving my baby to anybody else. All right. I'm not saying it's a bad thing. The point I'm making is that there's something about children that makes you give up many things that are important to you.

Isn't it? So Allah warns us over here, be careful. Yes, you can leave your job for your children. Yes, you can leave your hot meal for your children. You can sacrifice your sleep for your children. You can sacrifice your you know social events and your shopping trips and many of your hobbies and things that you loved and love. You can leave them for your children. But one thing you cannot leave you cannot afford to leave even for your children is the vicar of Allah. Because Allah is more important than your children.

So let will he come, don't let them distract you from the vicar of Allah. What is the vicar of Allah salah. First and foremost Hakim is salata lyrically established the prayer for my remembrance. Don't let your children stop you from prayer.

guarding your prayer, praying on time praying properly.

Don't let them do that. Don't

Give them that power. Your children should know that it's time for prayer. And Mommy has to pray. And that's it. And yes, they can sit right next to me, but they're not going to stop the mother from praying, Latin he come. And then what happens with our prayers also, sadly, is that we're praying but our mind is where not just the baby. Even the toddler and the preschooler and the school going kid, the child was completely independent, who can actually open up the refrigerator, get himself some milk and pour his cereal and do everything but what happens when you're praying? What is he doing? Where is he? Where's she? Alright, the mind is there, which is good. I mean, you should be

concerned about your children, but not during prayer, please, let only come. And then what happens after the fourth. I gotta be with my kids. So now it's okay, you know, doesn't make some noise, right? It's not

what happens to the vicar after salah. And it's not always your children, those whom you've given birth to, it could also be the children of others. Your siblings

could be your cousins, could be other children, could be grandchildren. Don't let them prevent you from the Dhikr of Allah. Then after Salah also Quran, Quran is also a form of Allah. So don't let them prevent you from Quran distract you from reciting it from learning it, reflecting upon it, acting upon it.

Don't let them distract you.

You see, wealth in children are such that make you even give up yourself, right your comforts, your desires, your wishes, your

you know, goals, you give them up. For the sake of these things.

They could also include this be

don't let them distract you from the speech of Allah.

Why am I here for our VALIC and whoever does that for Hola, Iike, homall hacia room, then it is those who are losers, they will definitely lose out those who are distracted by their wealth of children from the Dhikr of Allah, then these people shall definitely lose out. They will suffer loss. So don't do that. Finally go my said this reminds me of that idea in my head, that every nursing mother will forget the one who she nursed. And to this day that hits me because how can you forget the one you nursed? Like so many times a day throughout the night, you know, but that day on the Day of Judgment, it's gonna be such a terrible day that you know, only your deeds can help you

then. So right now, don't let those who nurse distract you from Allah so they could. The thing is wealth and children, they can very easily distract a person from the Dhikr of Allah. We think about it. In sudo i 11 We learned that some people that came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and they said SHA, Allah, Tina, Anwar Luna, Luna, what can we do? We really wanted to come, but our wealth our children, our families, they kept us so busy, we couldn't come. So many times, we want to do something important, something that we believe in something that's necessary. But what kept us so busy, we couldn't do it. It's our wealth or children.

And you see wealth and children, they're such that you can't leave them because Allah gave them to you and made you responsible over them. So you can't say to your children, you know what I'm done with you by you can't say to your wealth, I leave you I'm throwing you away. You can't do that. Allah is going to ask you about your money. Where did you get it from? What did you do with it?

Write about your children, you can't leave them. But at the same time, we cannot let ourselves waste away in their service. We can't allow we can't afford to do that. wealth and children are a blessing and a test at the same time in Nama and while como la do calm fitna your wealth and your children, they are a test a trial. And this is why it's a constant struggle. Always every single day.

You can never reach that level where you can say, You know what, I have the perfect balance. I have a time for the kid and I have a time for my children. You think you have it but wait until 10 more minutes. And then what happens? Here you are doing and your son comes in interrupts you are here you are reciting the Quran in the middle of the eye. And then your daughter comes and interrupts you or somebody needs the bathroom or somebody's now hungry or somebody needs help with their homework or somebody needs to be driven somewhere. Alright, and then what happens? What happens? You were distracted from the decree of Allah. And in the next Surah we will see that at the same time. We

cannot get mad at a time you can't get mad at your children or you are preventing me from the Dhikr of Allah. You can't say to your children, you are shaitan you're not letting me read Quran you can't do that.

You can't

They're your children after all. So it's your responsibility to always strive to maintain this balance. You can't maintain it, you just have to keep striving. You have to keep striving you have to keep struggling. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was described

as a bi I shall deliver on her, that when she was asked that what did he do at home? She said he used to keep himself busy serving his family. And when it was time for prayer, he would get up for prayer, he would get a prayer.

You see, for women, especially, it's very easy to lose themselves.

Once they get married, then what happens the husband is number one priority. Right? Once the children come in, and the husband is forgotten for some time, and the children become number one priority. And the house becomes number one priority. It's these three things. The husband, the children, and the house. Right. And while and OLED and the husband is somewhere there. Alright. But anyway, these two becomes a priority. So what happens to the woman, her Salah is getting affected because she has to rush and cook. Her Quran is not being recited because she's busy with her children.

She doesn't have time to pray the 100 or the energy to pray to her just because she's exhausted from worshiping the house. Honestly. And by worship, I mean serving, serving, we are serving the floors. And we're serving the bathrooms and we're serving the kitchen and we're serving the closets and we're serving the laundry so much. We want to make it perfect. And because of that we don't have the strength. We don't have the energy left to busy ourselves into the care of Allah we don't have it. So it's very important for us to remember that we have to give time to ourselves also.

In early enough cigar alayka help your naps has a health upon you. Please, as a woman, remember that your knifes has a heck upon you but sadly whenever we say that you need to take care of yourself. What do we mean? You need to go for a manicure? Right? You need to go to the spa. You deserve to go get a nice haircut. You deserve to go out for coffee with your friends. You know with yourself, you're looking after your body

or you are spending time with other people. When is it that you are truly spending time with yourself when when when you are connecting with Allah subhanaw taala

spending time with yourself giving your knifes your hook is allowing yourself to do what you were made for.

What were you made for Allah

and if you are not taking that time out to remember Allah to connect with Allah, you're forgetting yourself.

You're not looking after yourself.

Forgetting Allah means forgetting yourself remembering Allah means remembering yourself. Let Hakuna can Medina Salah for unser home and foster home. Don't be like those people who forgot Allah so Allah made them forget themselves. So when you take time for yourself, that does not mean going for an appointment with the dentist, or with the doctors. Yes, that is also important. But when you take time for yourself, when you take care of yourself is when you're looking at the needs of your heart, when you're doing something that will help you that will allow you to fulfill the purpose for which you were created.

And, you know, Sister Hala, Banani she said that, number one, right on your priority list, of course is who? Allah subhanaw taala.

And then after him, who is it? It's you.

You.

You have to take care of yourself mentally, emotionally, physically, you have to take care of yourself. Because when you take care of yourself when you're together, only then you can be good with your children. Only then you can be good with your husband, isn't it? You could have the house in perfect order. But what will happen the moment you will see your child eating in a way that crumbs are falling on the floor. What will happen you will snap at him

for eating like a child

because he's a child.

Right? Because you're not all together. You're not all there.

But if you have spent some time with yourself calming yourself down, Allah be decree law, he taught my inner Kulu then what will happen? Will you have some tolerance in your heart? That if your child is eating like a child and throwing crumbs on the ground, will you have some tolerance and some will you yes

Well you have some tolerance and solver in dealing with your spouse in dealing with your family members. Yes. But if you don't take care of yourself, you're angry inside, you're empty inside you're hurting inside, you're sleep deprived inside, then you won't have somebody in dealing with people. So laterally come on while you como hola Tacoma and decree law. If you want your life to be in order than busy yourself into the care of Allah.

Having a clean house doesn't mean your life is an order. Having welfare children doesn't mean your life is an order. Having well dressed children doesn't mean your life is an order. It won't be never will may have our Valley gopher Hola, Iike Homolka soon. You see, whoever lets their wealth and children, distract them from the Dhikr of Allah this will lead to success, lap. This will lead to failure. And earlier we learned remember Allah La La come to flee Hone, remembrance of Allah bring success. Forgetting Allah brings failure, you will fail in your marriage you will fail in your family life if you don't have the Dhikr of Allah in your life. Salaam aleikum, this is reminded me

how this world is temporary. And the more we chase, the more we lose, and nothing is for us except what we pay while we're together. The example of Abdullah Pinochet than his son which you did so much to disbelief, Allah says a very good example how, you know, all elicited, like me and all honor belongs to Allah only. And we should just

please Allah, allow her yes, we think we will have honor if our house is in perfect shape, you know, everything is perfect. It's clean, you know, because people will come What if somebody just walks in right now and to see my house messy, they wouldn't have any respect left for me, really?

Who gives honor, it's the house. It's Allah.

You know, we have to train ourselves for secret Allah, if you do not train at this time, by the end in the retirement life, you are not able to make your habitual and the activities which we have been keeping yourself busy in the youth. I know a few months, those were 24/7 engaged with the food for the kitchen, serving the sun serving everybody. Now they're retired, they're sitting on a bed, they cannot get up, they cannot go to the kitchen. But they are stuck. They cannot even have a passion to serve the kitchen. They don't have trained themselves to zicatela and somebody was going to gym. So now they she's retired, she cannot go to the gym all the time. So she's sitting having a depression

tablets, because she's not trained herself to engage yourself physically. Even she's free. See, children will leave. They will grow up, they will get busy, too busy to even come and ask you, Mom, how are you doing?

Right? Well, it's there. But you don't have the strength to look after it. You don't have the energy to cook. And if you're not in the habit of doing vicar of Allah, then what can you do when you're stuck on that bed?

Full of anger and frustration? Why is it that people get irritated by old people? Why? Because they're constantly criticizing. Right? Why are they criticizing because they can't do anything with their hands. And what they see other people doing it bothers them so they have to correct them all the time. And when they have to correct them all the time, those who are doing the work that got irritated.

You know, Alhamdulillah my grandmother, she raised 12 Children,

masha Allah.

And I remember as a child, we would go and spend weeks and weeks in our grandparents house. And literally, there would be so many people you can imagine 12 siblings and they're married now and they have children and it's summertime and everybody wants to come over you can imagine how many people would there be? So it was summer and outside would be very nice. You know where we would sleep

in the courtyard of the house because rooms were full. Everywhere was full. So Masha Allah huge courtyard like this big maybe. And right before Maghrib. You know, in Pakistan, there is this thing called Manji. So it's like a, like an outdoor bed, you could say, Okay, so one after the other would be put so the whole house is full. And outside is also full. And my grandmother, she would wake up for the Hadoop

even at that time. I remember in the darkness, she would be up praying the hatchet.

And then she would start making breakfast after budget, she would pray Fajr on time long budget, she would recite her Quran and she would pray her ish rock

and then she would go into the kitchen and start making ferratas

and she would make it for everybody.

serve everybody feed everybody.

And then she would go again and start reading something my grandfather would teach her.

Because my grandmother didn't really go much to school. She went only up to like grade five or something. At that time where she was no tradition of women going to school to my grandfather would teach her one book after the other. She would have her lesson also and then she would get busy with making lunch

for the whole crowd. All right. And now why is it that I you know, I've wished for that time that my grandmother will come and stay with me once she came and stayed with me for the whole summer because that summer was the best summer

it was beautiful. In the morning, I could hear her reciting the Quran she would recite the entire surah baqarah and Alia Amman every day Masha Allah, this is her habit.

And you know what? She actually did TQ she to 30 mil Quran in Pakistan.

At this age,

I don't hear stories like from my aunts, you know, in every family, their politics, right? The mother in law is getting in problems with the daughter in law and there's so much interference now with this sun and that sun and what is that person doing? And what is that person doing? No, because she's busy.

She's busy with that they could have Allah and she's able to do that. Why? Because even with 12 kids she made time for the vicar of Allah.

We make our families and our houses and our education and our work such a big deal that Oh, I have work oh, I have my exams Oh, I have my studies. I can't pray I don't have time for the Quran. I have to skip my class I have to skip this and I have to skip that because

my child and my this and my that these things will keep coming and going through life.

Today it's one thing tomorrow it will be something else what should never change is what your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala

because he's always there

and he's always deserving he is Al Hamid Al Hamdulillah all praises always for Allah he's deserving of it

at all times. So let will he come on while you come are allowed to come on decree law. Don't let this happen to you. You know, take this idea, write it up and put it somewhere to remind you

if it's your kitchen, where you spend a lot of your time put it there. If it's in your car, put it there. If it's

in your closet,

front of your mirror, put it there. Because that's also a form of man right? This jewelry or that jewelry this makeup or that makeup this shader that one? Yes. So like I'm I was just gonna say like, you know, there was a time when I used to work and I used to work a lot like it was crazy. Like people used to look at me they used to call me workaholic. Okay, I used to use it. I used to there is a point I used to even do three jobs is crazy. Yeah, just to I don't know what I was going through. But anyways, but I always felt that little emptiness in my heart. So at that time of humble I was you know, beginning my dallimore Grind do so I always took the appointed university or

wherever I was to teach somebody at least one verse to do a how a call or something. Because I was like, I need to do this. I can tell you more cron was a weekend but we did we'll just go through work and even we can even go to work. But I also needed to do something on the weekdays to still go University and just teach one girl two girls whatnot. And now all died has died in my work. Life is completely off. It's done. Temporary, I don't know. Okay, so, but now I have a baby and the baby is very mashallah active, and she's back to back. I have to run after her on the whole house. So alhamdulillah like my mother in law, she's super Masha May Allah guide to agenda for those, she

keeps reminding me all the times like you know, let the baby be the way it is. You just watch her but always keep the Quran or do they grow a lot because the baby will grow the house will stay dirty. Everything will be there. It will be constant, you know, work but you also need to do the crib Allah. So with the baby now I also do they could have Allah like we, you know, recite Quran and what I teach her she's so little but still there's things that we do together. So my time when I spend with my babies not only gone to waste and just behind my baby, but I can also do you notice we have a line the baby's also learning to spend time hunting. You see many times, you know, we tell

ourselves that I'm spending time with my children. I'm looking after my children. I'm a stay at home mom. I'm a full time mom. Because this is important and it is very important. You're not wasting your time. However, this can also become a distraction from Allah as they could and we need to be honest with ourselves.

Please be honest with yourself. Right? Even if a woman is staying at home

with her children, or she's not working, she's at home, looking after the house, you know, making sure things are good so that you know the husband comes home and he's happy Alhamdulillah but

you also need to take time for that. You need to do that.

You're busy with school, you're busy at work, whatever is going on, that also has its place.

Allah says, What un*able and spend minmetals Now come from that which We have provided you.

The things that Allah has given you use them in his way, spend them in his way, man cobbly A deer herder como El Moussa, before death comes to one of you. And that will come suspend before death comes fire cooler than he will say meaning when that will come. This person will say but a below hula a hello, Tony. Oh my Lord. Why did you not delay for me? Why did you not give me some more time Isla Adel in Korea to a Agile to a time Caribbean near? Meaning Why did you not delay me for a brief term for some more time?

Why did my death come today? Why not? One more week, one month, one more year. Because if I had only one more week, one more day, one more year for a sadaqa then I would give charity what a Camino Salah Hain and I would be of the righteous.

But the thing is that if you're not making time for something today, you're not gonna make it.

Because today you're making one thing and excuse and tomorrow, there'll be something else that you could make an excuse.

I was reading a book by Seth Godin

what to do when it's your turn, and it's always your turn. And in that book, he was saying that the perfect time is now he was giving the example of how he was speaking somewhere, you know, all these excellent students. And it was a small group of them. And you know, he was encouraging them to do what they believe in now. And don't wait until they have graduated until they have their career set. So one person raised their hand and they said that, but doesn't it make sense to delay a little bit more, because right now we have our student loans to pay off, and then there's so much stuff to do, you know, we'd rather wait for some time before we, you know, start doing what we want to do and

focus on what we must do to pay off our debts, then we can focus on our dreams. And he said, No, because right now, it's the student loans that you have to pay off. So you desperately need a job, any job, you want to become a cog somewhere in any factory, so that you can make money to pay off your loans. That's what you want to do. Tomorrow, what will happen.

Tomorrow, what will happen, you will be busy with your family, and then what will happen, and then there'll be an old parent dependent on you. And then what will happen, then there'll be something else. So there is always going to be something in life, that is going to keep you busy.

But if you truly believe in something, something is important to you, you got to do it. Now no matter how busy you are.

No matter how busy you are, it doesn't matter you got to make time. I know somebody who's taking a course with Seth Godin these days, and it's a month long program, only one month long. And you know how much reading they have to do this big box full of books.

Within one month, you know how long the classes are?

Multiple times a week on Sundays from nine to six. And you know who these people are you and I can't apply, by the way. All right. It's people who are working in the White House.

It's people who are managing important businesses around the world. It's people who have their hands already full. And they're expected to do all this work. Because you know what, you can do it. You can do it. We handicap ourselves. We disable ourselves when Allah has created us able.

We hold ourselves back when Allah has given us opportunities.

And if we keep delaying, but not tomorrow, maybe day after maybe next year, well, that perfect time is never going to come. Because at the time of death, this person will be saying, Oh my Lord, why didn't you give me some more time so I could give charity and I could be of the righteous as if he's saying I didn't have enough time? No, you did have enough time. And if you didn't make use of the time that you were given,

then we'll lay you a hit Allahu nevsun Allah will never delay a soul. Meaning give it more time either. Giada De Luca, when it's time has come. Once the time of death has come. Hello us will

Have you don't be METAR Malone and Allah is acquainted with whatever you do. And sort of Arafa 34 Allah says, well, he couldn't do much in Agile for Elijah Janome, latest Luna satin Wallah, you're stuck the moon, for every people is a time term that is fixed. Once it arrives, then they're not delayed for even an hour.

Not even an hour.

You see, Imam, an nawawi. He died very young,

very young.

And Imam nawawi. I'm sure you've heard of his name. But he Abu Saleh in a very, very famous book that he put together, the 40, a hadith of Norway, well known.

Alright, because he made use of his time, he wanted to say something.

I found that this year, I've gotten a whole lot busier than I was in previous years. Every year, I felt that, oh, there's too much to do. I'm never gonna get any time to do anything, you know, and I freaked out about it. But now I've come to this year, and I look back at the previous years, I was like, wow, those were nothing compared to now. I have 10 Different things I have to manage even more so in school, this that everything. And I find that, like, I look back at it now. And I'm like, Why was I so worried. You know, you get to that point. And you know, if you remember that Alyssa never brings you to something unless he knows you can handle it. Unless he knows you can bear that burden.

And as long as you remember that it you know, it calms you down, especially when you start stressing out about all the things you have to do. You know, when you make the to do list every week, you see you know, 10 pages of things to do and you freak out. But if you you know you look at it and take it step by step one at a time and you realize you know what, I'm only doing this because I have the capability to do it. That's the only reason the last one that was brought me to it. So you start ticking things off at a time and by the end of the week, everything's done.

Even our bus will Dylan Warren who said that every person who has fallen short of his duty regarding sadaqa and Hajj, will ask to be returned to this world at the moment of death. Every person who has fallen short with regards to sadaqa or is the cat

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he will say at the time of death or Biloela hurt Danny Isla Julian Clary Vasa Dhaka a Camino Saleh.

We know how just thought we save up to buy a house,

don't we? It's like everybody's biggest problem these days. There is not a place I go to not the people I meet except that they asked me questions about some way through which a house can be bought. As if I'm some big finance person. I don't know a thing. Seriously, I don't.

But it's everybody's obsession. Making money. Buying a House saving up for this and saving up for that. What about hedge? What about hedge? What about camera?

What about going to visit the house of Allah in truth on what we know and i A 99 Allah says hit that either hit the homerun mode cholera big rune law only Armello, Saleh and FEMA direct until that comes to one of them. He says, Oh My LORD, turn me back. So I can do the good that I didn't do. I left I want to do it now. A man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he asked all Allah's Messenger with charity is the best. And he said, the charity which you give, while you are healthy,

having a keen desire to amass more wealth, you are healthy, and you have this desire to get more, you've already decided what bag you're going to buy next, you've already decided what jacket you're gonna buy next, you've already decided what phone you want next, you know, you're waiting for it

and you are afraid of poverty and wish to become more wealthy.

So, the charity that you give in that state is the best charity. He said Do not delay it to the time of when death will approach and then you will say give so much to such and such person and so much to such and such person.

Because it has already belong to such and such.

Meaning if at the time of death or near death, you're going to start giving sadaqa you're going to say okay, you know this piece of jewelry, give it to them.

And when I die, give my phone to that person and when I die, my computer can go there. And when I die this money of mine which is in that account can go there. And that jewelry just sitting in the locker can go there. What's the point because it's gonna go to them anyway, you're about to die.

That's not the best.

The best. So the hook is when you are healthy. You want more, you're afraid of poverty. You're afraid that if you will give something away, you won't have it. You're taking a risk by giving sadaqa and that is the best sadaqa

The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to a man take advantage of five things before five others take advantage of your youth before you become old.

Your health

before you get sick your wealth before you become poor

your free time before you get busy

and your life before your death

you know when you are young

remember that this youth is not going to stay forever don't wait to become old to do something

your health when you're healthy realize that this health is also temporary.

When you have wealth realize that this wealth is also temporary.

When you have free time realize that that free time is also temporary very soon you're gonna get busy

and when you're alive make use of that before you die because it's life is also going to go away

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