Taleem al Quran 2012 – P28 278C Tafsir Al-Mujadalah 2-6

Allah subhanaw taala revealed the surah over here, Allah says Alladhina EULA hereunder Medcom. Those people meaning the men, who do Li have amongst you, Minister him from their wives, meaning the men who pronounce Li have against their wives, who declare their wives to be their mothers. The first thing is, Allah says, ma Hoonah. Omaha to him. They're not their mothers, even if you call your wife, your mother 1000 times she doesn't become your mother in Omaha to whom their mothers are not in the lay, except those women who will lead in a home who gave birth to them. Meaning your mother is your biological mother, the one who gave birth to you, not the woman whom you're married to.

We're in the home and indeed the meaning the men who sadly have their wives, Leia coluna mancora Minal Cole, surely they say modern car of our meaning they say words that are Mancha, mancha is that which is rejected. Now he and l Mancha, we are to forbid the mooncup because mancha is wrong, it's rejected. It's not acceptable. So the statement that they utter what is the statement near Allah, it is Mancha, meaning it is a sin. Malankara mancora Minako. It's a simple statement, was Uhura. And it's also a lie. It's untrue. It's false speech.

We're in hola hola for one of the four. And indeed Allah, surely he is awful and other fools beautiful, are full he is pardoning, meaning that he gives chances to the servants, even after they have made mistakes that when they make a mistake, and they turn to Him, then Allah subhanaw taala will create a way out for them. In Allahu Allah for one and a half all He is Forgiving, meaning if they repent,

we see that firstly, in this ayah What is established, there is a difference between one's mother and one's wife.

There is a difference between one's mother and one's wife, a man's wife is not his mother, and a man's mother is not his wife. While this is important for men to understand, it's also important for women to understand.

So a woman who is married to a man should not act like she is his mother.

And a woman who has given birth to a man should not act like she is his wife. Let the wife play her part and let the mother play her part. Each one should remain within her limits.

Remember that a mother can never become the wife and the wife can never become the mother.

So technically, there shouldn't be a competition between the wife and the mother.

But generally, what is it that many women are competing over?

The mother feels insecure from the wife. Right? And the wife feels insecure from the mother. These are the problems that we have.

So here a clear difference is established between the mother and a wife. There are two different human beings a man has a duty towards his mother, and he has a duty towards his wife. And these roles should not be confused.

Secondly, what we see is that if a man were to say the statement of the halter his wife, then what effect does the statement have on the marriage? Zero. It doesn't affect the marriage at all in the sense that it doesn't cause divorce. It doesn't.

So this is establishes that the words of Lee Hall do not establish divorce. However, saying these words to the wife are offensive near Allah, how offensive Allah called these words Mancha and zoo

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And then in the following verses, the penalty is given. What does it mean then saying these words is basically committing a major sin. If a man were to say these words to his wife, then he is committing what? What kind of a sin, a major sin because there are consequences there is a penalty there is a punishment.

Do you see the victory that this woman was given

the success that was given to her that how Allah created a way for her. You see many times it is words that are used to control people to abuse them. It's language it's all a game of words. But look at how this woman goes to the right source and Allah subhanaw taala creates a way out for her. Well Lavina EULA hereunder minister in him and those people who pronounce li ha to their wives meaning the men who say the words of the heart to their wives, somebody who Donnelly Makalu then they return

Room for what they have said, meaning they wish to compensate. They must compensate for what they have said because it's a mancha owl. It's a zoo near Allah. So you must repent from it. So your will do not they have to return Lima because of what Kalu they said, meaning they have to make up. They have to do Tober they have to offer expiation for the wrong words they uttered.

Then, what is the explanation for the hurry raka button, then the hurry rule, setting free off a rocker button have a knack meaning a slave.

The man has to free a slave. This is the Kafala This is the expiation

mean, probably ATMs, before they touch each other meaning before any physical contact. The man has to offer the expiation, he cannot say, Well, you know what the words of Leon are meaningless anyway. So it didn't affect the divorce.

And this is what many people will do. They will say the most nastiest things to their wives and then demand that they be physical intimate with them.

The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once said to the men that were sitting around him that how could one of you beat your wife as if she were a slave? And then sleep with her in the same night? How could any one of you do that?

So here a condition has been set. Rather, a penalty is given that the man must free a slave before touching the wife. Before having any physical contact with the wife that he come to our Luna be that all you people you are advised with you were instructed with? Will Allah who will be my dharma Luna hobby, and Allah is fully aware of what you do, because many of these problems they happen behind closed doors. There are such private, you know matters between men and wife, in which many times abuse can happen. And these things a woman is unable to even express or share with anybody. So Allah hooby mathema. Luna Habib, Allah is fully aware of what you do from a lineage it then whoever

doesn't find meaning whoever does not find a slave to free, meaning he cannot afford it. He's too poor, or he simply cannot find a slave when we can purchase and set free then in this situation, firstly, I will shahada you need them fasting for two months. But how Muhtar Tabby rainy consecutively both have to be consecutive, meaning fasting for two lunar months without a break in the middle.

Think of Ramadan. Right? Women, they get a break in the middle, right? But men don't. What happens to the men by the end of the month?

Many times they are exhausted especially from Oban is in the summer, double that.

And if a man misses even one fast in the middle, then what does he have to do? He has to start all over again.

All over again.

This is for what reason?

Why? Because of what because of saying a statement.

Because of saying certain words

that these words are so toxic. Firstly, they're so sinful near Allah, they're so bad near Allah. And they're so toxic for the relationship, that you must be disciplined. But you better not say something like this to your spouse again.

And this really teaches us the importance of being careful with our words, with our loved ones, people that we live with.

So easily we say things that are not appropriate. And women also are guilty of it. Men are guilty of it. Mothers are guilty of it. Children are guilty of it, we all are guilty of it. So for the hero rocket button is the first thing if that is not possible, then falsely and we shall have a name with a tabby right Ottaviani min poverty ATMs before they have any physical contact from a lumea Stettler. But what if a person is not able to do that? He can barely control his tongue. How was he meant to fast for two months from a lumea stutter then whoever is not able to do that. Let's say he's old, he's sick. He's tried a couple times but he's never able to fast two months consecutively,

then failed. Tom was a Tina Myskina then he must feed 64 People 60 meals. Can you imagine? He has to give food full meals to 64 people.

You see Cafaro could be anything. Right? If Allah subhanaw taala wanted, he could have given a day

Franca Farah, but if you look at these Kafala, the first free a slave free life, if that you cannot do that fast, fast why? Because fasting develops the quality

and then feed the needy, why feed the needy, because when you will feed the needy that will create compassion and mercy in your hearts. And that is what is lacking in you because of what you could say these words to somebody. So that luckily told me no Billahi rasool Allah He that is so meaning this penalty is there. Why, in order that you may believe in Allah and His messenger, you notice something again, you may believe,

didn't they already believe yesterday, but why again, believe again,

to strengthen your faith to correct your faith, because clearly there was a problem, because of which you uttered such words.

You unleashed your tongue, there was a problem.

And remember that Eman increases and decreases it decreases because of sin. Saying the statement is a sin. You have gone down. So now you have to go back up. You have to fix your Amen. How do you do that? By giving the Kafala what tilaka who do the law and these are the limits set by Allah. These are laws that Allah has given what in Cafe Grenada, Aleem and for the deniers is a painful punishment. Even our bus for too long who said caffeine are those who refuse this man Tjahaja whoever refuses this meaning he doesn't comply. He says no, I'm not going to give this penalty.

Whoever doesn't comply then for them is a painful punishment in the hereafter. All of this to discipline the tongue.

Remember that when it comes to marriage, when it comes to relationships, the wrong use of the tongue is extremely detrimental. It kills intimacy, it kills the closeness that the husband and wife can only enjoy the love the murder and the Rama that Allah has created between the husband and wife. This is destroyed by what by the wrong use of the tongue.

It is said that Hola, hola, de la noir and her her husband when he pronounced these words to her. He was also becoming old. And with age, he was becoming more and more short tempered.

And in one episode of anger, he said these words to her. And now there was a problem.

Does their marriage continue? Or is it over?

And then she went to the prophets of Allah Who said I'm seeking an answer. And then these verses were revealed. Yes. Now these words are modernized. Usually people say I'm done. We are finished. If you will not do this. I'm going to do that. That, you know, this always reminds me a story. There's one family member in my back home. She has four kids. And her husband just won the second go out of this house. She came to our house at nine o'clock. And she said that he has kicked me out. So we all pulled in and we just rent a house. And we just, you know, it kept her safe in some debt. And she was just a high school boss. She has two young older daughters, those were studying in a good

school. So one of our sister said I will send you tutions and you can run the tuition center in the same apartment. And she was living and her daughters were teaching the tuitions, no parents knew that she cannot read and write English at that time. And in my eyes, I saw her meeting money within five years time. And she bought her house she bought her car. And her husband and her mother in law because there was a fighting in the house. They went somewhere else and her husband had paralyzed. And they came back to her after four and five years, saying sorry, and saying that I said these words when I was not in my senses. I was drunk. And now they are living together.

And she's still earning a lot of money with those tuition centers. And Allah gave her in such a way the streamers that Allah helper in such a way. I mean, this is true, that there's so many different shades of it right that how women are abused in their marriages. how common it is that you see so many women, they sacrifice their career. They don't complete their school. They don't, you know, pursue any further education. They're just constantly looking after the family. They're making major sacrifices for the family. And then what happens at the end, somebody you know, the husband, he says these words I'm not saying men are like that marriage is not evil. It's not evil. It's something

beautiful. But many times we see these injustice is happening. So what we need to remember is that the person who's committed injustice against us is weak.

nearer Allah, Allah is still more powerful. He has control over our situation, and he has full control over the person who has abused me who has deprived me of my right.

And if I ask him for an answer for a solution, he will not deprive me. He will give me something.

And we see you know in this story alter that is shared. It's amazing how the couple got back together. He would wonder why, but many times they would want to reconcile and in the story of Hotel de la marina, same thing happened. We learned that Coronado Lauren has she herself narrative. This is a Hadith in Abu Dhabi, where she said that my husband has been Sommet pronounced the words and the Alia Kalahari Oh me too, me. So I came to the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam complaining to him about my husband and the prophets of Allah who already was salam disputed with me and said, remain dutiful to Allah, you know, fear Allah. He just kept saying to me, fear Allah. And

she said that I continued, with my G dal and my chakra to Allah until Allah subhanaw taala revealed the Quran concerning the situation that got some Yala who called allottee to je de Luca Feasel Jeeva. And then all of these verses were regarding the Kafala. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that your husband go and tell him that he has to set free a slave holder a little on how she said, I said he cannot afford it. He's too poor, he doesn't have the money to free a slave.

So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said he should fast for two consecutive months then that is what Allah has said. So hold on, other than Warren has said that. He's an old man, he cannot keep fasts. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said he should feed 64 people and she said, he has nothing which he can give in charity.

He cannot even afford to give charity. So she was there. When at that moment, a basket full of dates was brought to the prophets of Allah who were to send them.

And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told her that take this, and how a lot of the long run has said, because a basket was not enough to feed 60 people. She said, I will bring another basket myself because she still had some money. So she said, I'll go get the other basket. Right. And then together that was given as a photo. And then the two were together again.

If you think about a clone out of the Lorna, I mean, this is amazing. Look at her level of support. And her love also for her husband, because many times this is the situation many women, they will still love their husbands even though their husbands have said something so nasty to them. Right? colada lawanna. What does she want over here? A real solution? She's not seeking revenge.

If she was seeking revenge, she wouldn't worry about the Kafala. She would say it to his problem. Yes, finally, he has to suffer. No, no, she wants good for her marriage. She's really seeking a solution. So Allah subhanaw taala gave her the solution. Her marriage was fixed. Allah says in the Levina indeed those people who you had dune Allah Allah Sula, who, who oppose Allah and His messenger, you had Duna What is your had Duna to oppose to go against someone, they oppose me that disregard the Command of Allah and His Messenger, Kobe to

they are a best come at kobika Levina Min cobbly him just as those before them were humiliated could be two from calf butter. And kept is to throw someone down on their face to throw someone down. How on their face.

And the word is used for defeating someone humiliating someone or putting them to flight. So Kobe to those who fight Allah and His Messenger, oppose Allah's command.

misuse the law that Allah has given. All right now they can enjoy it or if they think they may be enjoying, but in reality could be too they will be humiliated, just as those before them were humiliated, wicked and Zelner is in the unit. And certainly we have revealed clear evidences, what in Cafe de nada bumo Hain and for the deniers is a humiliating punishment that will do away with all their honor. So rejecting the Command of Allah disregarding it, belittling it, not acting upon it, opposing it. This is something that will cause humiliation in this world and the hereafter. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said would Jewry La Villa to was slow. Allah Mahalo for Emery

and Hadees. We learned that Villa and saw humiliation and disgrace is for who for those who oppose the Command of Allah. So any person who finds

that he is not respected, that they're not respected. They have no honor. People don't respect them. They should think about this. How much do I respect Allah's law and Allah's commands? That I should deserve respect? Because we see that this grace humiliation has been connected with what opposing Allah and His messenger. So if I have no honor people don't have any respect for me. Maybe I have fallen short in showing respect to Allah and His messenger. This is something we need to pay attention to. You only ever I told him Allahu Jamia and on the day when Allah will resurrect them all for Yuna Bo home, then he will inform them be my army law of what they did. Right now. Many

people they commit crimes and then they forget about them. They commit abuse and then they ignore it. A day is coming when everybody will be gathered together. And everyone will be informed about what they have done. Our Sahil LA when a su who I saw Allah, Allah enumerated it, what their deeds when a CEU and they forgot it. Those who committed those deeds forgot about them. And on that day they will see them all in front of themselves. Well Allah who are luckily che in Shahid and Allah is a witness over every thing.

I want you to think about this Isola who wanna Sue.

How often how frequently, we say abusive words to people who we claim to love. We do actions that only an enemy could do. Only someone who would hit someone would do.

We say things and we do things that hurt others, we continue and we forget about it. But just because we have forgotten about it doesn't mean that it wasn't written.

It is written. Arsalan lo when a su Nothing escapes, Allah has knowledge and nothing is hidden from him. Nothing at all he is Ali will they be was shahada what happens with us is that with time we forget about our sins or with increased frequency also we forget about our sins we lose count. Allah does not lose count

our slow hula when a su so the thing is, that if we really want to mend our relationships, if we really want to improve our condition,

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watch ourselves we must check ourselves What do I say? What do I do?

The fear of Allah is necessary and turning to Allah is necessary, fearing him

and being honest, and turning to him whenever there is a problem. Let's listen to the recitation of these verses.

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