Taleem al Quran 2012 – P05 058B Tafsir Al-Nisa 36

Lesson number 58 Surah two Nyssa is number 36 to 50. Why would Allah and worship Allah, whenever to shriek will be he che? And do not associate with him? Anything at all? What does Allah subhanaw taala commander's that all people and notice the word wire boo, do the WoW at the end, what does that indicate? Plural. So all people, all of us are being instructed that what should we do? We should all worship Allah, and what is a ladder, to be humble, to be submissive, to be obedient, to be respectful, so have such attitude towards Allah subhanaw taala love him, sacrifice for him, live and die for him? Why him? Because he is the one who made you and He is the one who made you for his

worship. Therefore, why would Allah obey Him, love Him, adore him, fear Him, whatever he tells you, accept it humbly submissively, do not be arrogant towards him, Do not be disobedient to him. And in the Arabic language 30 Mark, but a path that is more but is such a path that is submissive to those who walk upon it, a path that is submissive to those who walk upon it, meaning it is prepared for them, it is low, it is very easy for them to walk upon. It doesn't have huge rocks or boulders in the middle, no, it is paved, it is a well behaved bath. So likewise, all people, humble yourselves before Allah subhanaw taala do everything that Allah tells you to do, what a Buddha Allah, what to

Chico be che, and you must not associate anything with Him. What does shirt mean? Sheikh is to associate a partner with Allah, it is to basically equate another with Allah in his exclusive rights. There are some rights that only Allah subhanaw taala has only he deserves, and what are they, for example, the right to be worshipped, the right to be believed in as the Creator as the master as the provider. Likewise, the names and attributes of Allah are exclusively his, you understand? So lead to shriek will be che do not equate any other with Allah subhanaw taala in his exclusive rights, do not make anyone equal to Allah do not make any partner for Allah subhanaw taala

and notice the word shape, what does shape mean? Thing to shape, anything at all, whether living or nonliving profit, an ordinary human being, whether an angel or a jinn nothing at all, no one at all. No matter how righteous a person is, no matter how Vyas he is still, never prostrate to him, because who deserves to be frustrated before only Allah never make dua to other than Allah, not a saint, not a righteous person, not a prophet, no may da only to Allah because only he can listen only He can respond, only he can fulfill the needs of his servants. So while Abhishek will be che, do not associate anything at all. Why? Because schicke is the greatest sin. Allah forgives other sins,

lesser sins, but chip is something that ALLAH does not forgive. It is the greatest injustice. And shake is something that renders all of the good deeds of a person. Invalid, useless, meaning it rejects it nullifies all of the good deeds of a person. The Prophet sallallahu sallam was told that law instructor Layer button now I'm gonna look if you did check, all your deeds would be wasted. So this is the reason why worship Allah, but also stay away from ship because there are many people who do worship Allah. But what's the problem? They also do Sheikh they will pray salah, they will give sadaqa they will give zakat but when they go to Medina, they will stand by the grave of the Prophet

salallahu Salam and they will make dua to him, they will ask him for help. This is what shake

this is check. This is not acceptable. This is something that ruins all of the good deeds of a person. They're rejected by Allah. Because Allah is the hip he accepts that which is layup He is pure and he accepts that which is pure. And if anyone mixes the intention of a deep meaning he does it for Allah and he also does it for others. Then such a deed Allah does not accept. He only accepts that which is pure, because he alone gave you everything. So he wants that you were

Worship Him alone. That's it. He gave you so you worship him. He protects you. So you ask him, he provides for you. So you beg him. He's the one who can recreate you. So you beg Him for forgiveness, He knows you inside out, no one else knows you inside out. Therefore, lead to shriek will be shaped.

Within Wiley Dini, Arizona, and with both the parents do Ersan. Allah subhanaw taala is right is the greatest because He is the Creator, He is the owner. And after Allah subhanaw taala, for among the creation from among the people whose right is the greatest, the parents of an individual. A person might say, but what about the Prophet salallahu Salam? Are we supposed to love him more than our parents? What about his right? The thing is, that the right of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, in a way is included in the right of Allah, because who has told us to believe in the messenger so Allah is Allah, Allah subhanaw taala? Who has told us to follow Him? Allah subhanaw taala. So when we

believe in the messenger, we are following the messenger in fact, who are we worshipping? Allah? All right. And if a person refuses to believe in the messenger does not follow him, then who is he making unhappy? Allah? subhanaw taala? All right, so this is the reason why after Allah, who has mentioned the parents, and likewise, part of the right of Allah is one that we believe in everything that he has informed us off, whether it's the angel or the Day of Judgment. All right, so what Bill Wiley they are Santa with both the parents do airson Why is the right of the parents the greatest meaning amongst all human beings? Why is the right of the parents greatest? Why do you think so?

You know, sometimes we don't get it like, what's the big deal? You know, we don't want to listen to our parents. They don't understand us. But for some reason in the Quran, and the Sunnah. This is what we learn all the time. My parents don't get me I don't get my parents. I mean, we don't communicate well. But still, why has Allah obligated us to do your son, because they are the reason for your existence

is in itself, your mother gave birth to you. You are who you are, because of the favors that your parents bestowed upon you. Because of the kindness that they showed you, you know how to eat because your mother taught you. You know how to tie your shoes, because your father taught you. You know how to write because your parents spent many, many hours helping you teaching you how to hold the pencil how to write every letter you forgotten.

But they spent a lot of effort doing that. This is why we're Bill Wiley, they near Santa. Yes, other people are very important as well. But of all the people, the parents, they deserve the most Ersan from us. They are the reason for your success today. What if a person says well, my parents, you know, they left me with some other people. I was raised by foster parents or I was raised in an orphanage. I've never known My Father, he left me before he when I was born, or he's never been around. He's never been good to me. Then in that case, the parents still deserve your son. Yes. Why? Just the fact that your mother gave birth to you is sufficient.

Just the fact that she bore you for nine months in her body carrying your weight bearing the difficulties that your creation imposed on her. That is sufficient reason for you to do Ersan upon her. Okay, mother, understandable. What about the Father? What difficulties did he go through? Okay, not much difficulty, but you know what, you are still his child, you take his name, you have his blood. All right. There is a connection that Allah has made between you and your father, no matter what kind of a father he is, that's, you know, something that we don't want to argue about. But the fact that there's a relationship that Allah made between the two of you, this is the reason why you

have to do air, sign up on him. You have to do Air sign up on him. Well, Bill Wiley, Dany if Santa do Air sign with both the parents and notice both the parents, the mother and the father, because sometimes we're very good towards the mother. Why? Because we spent so much time with her. And our father, you know, he's always asking is when were we spending the money and he's always after our case, or he's never around. So we're very distant from our father sometimes, but Allah says, We're Bill Wiley, Dany Sana, both the parents you have to do airson And the parents yesterday first with the immediate parents of a person, the biological parents of a person, but by extension, it also

applies to the grandparents of an individual, whether your grandmother or grandfather through your mother's side or through your father's side, because unfortunately in many cultures

A few cultures that I'm familiar with, there's this hate that is instilled in children against you, against the paternal grandparents, especially the paternal grandmother. Why? Because the mother never got along with her. So she has instilled such hatred in the heart of the children, that your grandmother, she used to do this and this and this, your grandmother, she was like this, and this and this. This is incorrect. If our way towards our parents leads our children to disobeying their grandparents disrespecting them, this is our fault. We're teaching them disobedience. Today, we are disrespecting the grandparents before the children, tomorrow, those same children will disrespect

us.

So, it is necessary that if someone is short towards who, the parents as well as the grandparents, because they are included in the parents of an individual,

like the in laws of a person, the mother in law, the father in law, even their like parents, while it is basically one who gives birth to so they have given birth to the Father, they have given birth to the husband. So this is the reason why they must also be treated with our son. So we've been widely they need Santa, what is their son or son has basically to behave in such a way that the other person becomes happy that you're so beautiful in your behavior, that they become happy, whether it is by smiling, or it is by not arguing or it is by saying something that's nice, or it is by when they're sad, you know, saying something nice to make them happy, or that when they're aging,

and when they're picking faults and everything or they're complaining about little things you just ignore, and you don't make a big deal out of the fact that they're creating, this is your son.

You know, because when parents are young, physically able, they have the physical strength, their children are around, they're able to do whatever they want to, they have a lot of patience, they have a lot of courage. But as they age, as their bodies become weaker, as your children go their own way, then what happens? They become impatient, they become frustrated very quickly. Every time you speak to them, they complain. So at that time, what is important that your son is your towards them, treat them with their son. Why? Why should you put up with such behavior? You know why? Because they put up with your behavior when you were younger.

When you were younger, and you cried, you had tantrums. You were fussy, because you were teething or because you had diarrhea or because you ate something funny, or when you were not eating. Right. And when you got your shots, or when you became sick, and you were throwing up everywhere and you were making a mess everywhere who put up with you, your parents, when you scribbled on the walls, when you ruined the new carpet, when you broke the toys that they got you when you ruin the clothes that they put on you. When you ruined your mother's clothes, your father's clothes, when you broke the dishes, right? When you throw the food all over the floor. Tell me it's an endless list. Who put up

with you, your parents put up with you. And you have to put up with their you know what the difficulties that you face from them when they're older? Think about it. children when they're younger, how many times do their parents kiss them in one day? How many times how many times are they hold them, pick them up and hug them and kiss their feet and their toes have their fingers and their eyes and their nose and their cheeks and their chin and their head and their hair, every part of the body they kiss.

And there you are as a teenager and you think hugging your mom is like the weirdest thing to do on Earth.

Or giving her a kiss is like, weird. I'm not my mom's baby anymore. This is what we believe. Think about the amount of love they showed you. You have to show some love to them as well. When parents become older, sometimes they start losing their memory. Sometimes they don't understand things easily because how things have changed. Like for example, the technology we have today did not exist back then. And you know, for us during the computer on opening your email, writing an email, writing something on Microsoft Word is something that's basics, right? And if your mom asks you please help me how did you turn the computer on? I don't remember. Okay, better. Can you show me how to turn

Skype on with me teach me how to do this. Like mom, I've showed you so many times. Why don't you get it? And we think it's a waste of our time if we have to fix their phone or teach them how to send a text message or teach them how to read a text message. But tell me how many times did they have to show you how to put your shoes on?

How many times I have little children and believe me sometimes I get frustrated. I'm like how many times have I taught you how to put your shoes on do it yourself already three years old.

Come on, when am I gonna get a break? Right? You have this feeling, but I still do it. And every time I do it, I end up giving him a kiss and a hug and teaching him and you know, giving him a smile and saying it's okay. Hopefully you will learn soon no matter how frustrated I am, but I do it with love. This is the difference between parents and children. Whatever parents do, no matter how many times they do it with love and children, no matter what they do, even if they do it just once or twice. They do it with this, like, they don't want to do it.

That it's amazing how one woman will raise eight children, six children herself. But when she becomes older, it becomes so difficult for those six or eight children to look after that one mother.

Right? Why? Because the parents what they do they do it with love the children what they do, they do it with the sense of like, this is a burden. They don't want to do it. So it becomes difficult for them.

Right. And mother because of her love parents because of their love, they able to do what they do with so much happiness so quickly, without making it a big deal. So we've been why do they need Aksana? Think about all that they've done to you. You do some good to them as well, what Bill? Well, he then he or Santa. And I remember there are three kinds of attitudes towards parents. One is, is to be bad towards the parents, that for example, yelling at them, scolding them, not listening to them, arguing with them, answering back to them, hurting their feelings. Okay, this is what bad treatment of the parents when the parents need something ignoring that need. You know that your

parents need a reminder, but you don't remind them you know that your parents need help, but you don't help them. This is what bad treatment of the parents. This is something that's not allowed. We're not allowed to do that. It's actually a sin to do this, to disobey the parents to hurt them to make them unhappy. You know, there was a man at the time of the Prophet salallahu Salam who was in the state of misery, meaning he was like dying. It was such a painful thing that he was going through the pangs of death, but like the soul was not leaving the body. So he was constantly in pain in extreme agony.

So the people brought the kids of the prophets Allah sent him asking him what's going on. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told them to ask the mother, that she unhappy with the son, is there something that he did, and she was very unhappy with her son, because she was not happy with her son. Look at how he was dying. The prophets, Allah loves and requested her to please forgive him.

She said, No, not going to. Because he's really made me upset, I cannot forgive him. He's really hurt my feelings, I cannot forgive him. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told the people, okay, collect what burned fire and do something with let his soul leave. I mean, you can't just leave him in agony like that. So anyway, people did that. And when the woman saw that this is going to happen to my son, and she's like, I forgive him, I forgive you. And then that son of hers died.

This just shows to us that hurting the parents disobeying them is something that is not small.

It is something that Allah does not like he does not approve of, because your parents have done a lot of air sign up on you. And if you return that your son would disobedience in her and hurting them,

then you're not a good person at all. There's a big problem.

The second kind of behavior is your son to be good towards the parents. And that's exactly what Allah commands us. Be good towards them. The third kind of behavior is that a person is neither bad nor good.

Do you know what I mean? He doesn't disobey them. But he doesn't even obey them. He doesn't even do anything to make them happy. He's not yelling at them arguing with them. But at the same time, he doesn't say good words to them. He's just cold and distant and Far and away and indifferent. Let's say the parents live somewhere else in another city in another house in another country. So he doesn't even talk to them. She doesn't even bother to send a nice message to them, doesn't keep in touch. They have no idea what's going on in her life. She has no idea what's going on in their life. Neither good nor bad. Is this allowed? No. Even this is not allowed. Why? Because Allah tells us do

accent and that means you have to do good. So for example, when we're with our parents living in the same house, we can't wake up in the morning and go without greeting them and come back and do whatever we're doing without even greeting them. No, you can't do that. You have to greet them. You have to say something nice to them. You can't just be cold and quiet around them. If your mom tries to have a conversation with your like, quiet, quiet, quiet, nothing. No, you have to do certain

that there was a man at the time of the companions who brought his mom on his back, carry her on his shoulders, so that she

He could do Hajj and imagine he walked around the Kaaba seven times the last sorry, Mina must deliver on offer. It's such a tiring journey. He did everything. And where was his mother not in a wheelchair that he had to push? No, on his shoulders.

So when the head was over, he went to a companion. And he asked her that have I done your son? Have I paid her back for whatever good she did to me? Are we equal now? And he said, No, you did what you did to pay her back. And she did what she did. I'm gonna love for you.

You're doing it as a burden. She did it as a responsibility out of love.

Subhan Allah. And this is very true. What goes around comes around the way you treat your parents, the same way your children will treat you just think about a woman who wouldn't her daughter was getting married, she said to her daughter, you should wear hijab, don't listen to music, whatever. And she's like, No, she didn't listen to her mother. So eventually people said to her, make dharmic do and she said that, you know, I did the same thing with my mother. She told me not to do certain things. And I did them anyways, she told me to do certain things, and I did not do them. I disobeyed my mom. Today, my daughter disobeys me. That man carried his mother in hajj on his shoulders that is

not even equal to the one you know, labor pain that the mother endured in giving birth to the child. It's not even comparable, not equal in any way. So we've been while they near Santa, Allah commands us to do your son towards the parents. What does it show to us that Allah is more merciful to words a person than his own children are because Allah tells the children you have to do your son in every way. No matter what the parents do, no matter what their situation is, you still have to do Ersan towards them. And you know what, on the other hand, Allah is more merciful towards a person than his own parents are. Because what did we learn earlier you seek Mullah huffy. Oladipo. Sometimes parents

want to leave their children for or without their wealth. But Allah says, No, I have appointed the shares, you have to give the money to the children. It is their right. So Allah has more merciful towards an individual than his own parents are, you know, sometimes parents don't forgive children. They don't get over the mistakes that children have made. And after all their children, children make mistakes again and again. This is why they're called Kids. This is why their children, but if they've made a mistake, the parents never forgive them. On the other hand, no matter what mistake people make, when they ask Allah for forgiveness, what does Allah do? He forgives them even if it's

ship when a person asks Allah for forgiveness, with sincerity, he does Toba, Allah forgives him.

Sometimes, as parents, our wish is to make sure that our children know that we love them unconditionally. Right? This is something that parents really wonders why they're constantly rubbing it in, you know, I did this for you. I paid for education. And I did this and yes, sometimes they're telling the child to assure the child not necessarily to show the favor, but to assure the child that we love you, we want the best for you. And his wine, every little thing. I love you, I love you. But what is something that children need to be taught as well that Allah loves you even more than I do?

My son, you know, this conversation that we have usually that he says Mama, I love you I say I love you more. And then he says even more Sandhya even more, and even more and more and more and more and more and he goes on and more and more and more. And then yesterday I told him and Allah loves you even more. So he was like, shaken up that what does that mean? That Allah loves you even more than Mama loves you. Inshallah, I hope you will understand that soon. So Allah loves people more than their parents do and more than their children do. He shows more axon towards them.

So a bit why do they near Santa, your son towards the parents will be they'll CORBA and also towards who Ville Korba I'll CORBA from Korea, Korea is that which is near. So then CORBA is the person who possesses a relationship of closeness to you, meaning who is close to you who is a relative to you. And there are different kinds of relatives, some are closer to us than others. For example, your siblings are closer relatives to you compared to your cousins. Correct. So won't be they'll CORBA exam towards the relatives as well. Whether they are through blood or through marriage, your son towards all the relatives. Now there are many relatives that a person has. So how should a person do

your son towards them everyone in the equally know the closer the relationship is, the more Ersan will be shown towards them. So for example, your siblings and your cousins. All right, who deserves more axon yours

siblings. So it's your obligation that you show more axon towards the siblings. It doesn't mean you don't show your son to your cousins at all. No, you show them as well. But obviously the level of our son towards the siblings will be more than that towards the cousins. So they'll CORBA while you're Tamar and the orphans floor Olivia team showing her son towards him towards her. Why? Because her father has gone when she's still very young. Someone who will protect her who will take care of her who will teach her instruct her nurture her look after her needs provide for her, he's gone. So therefore, do Ersan towards them. One Messiah keen third of miskeen someone who is needy, someone

who has unfulfilled needs, whether it's a lot or a little, you know, whether it is someone needs help paying off their bills for the month, or it is someone who needs helping offer their education, or it is someone who needs help paying for their groceries miskeen help them do their son towards them. Who else while Jerry they'll CORBA? Will gel a jar from the root letters Gene Wilder? Zhao is basically neighbor, who was the neighbor? Who is the neighbor? Who is your neighbor, someone who is living close to you, someone who is existing nearby, whether that means that their house isn't the same street as yours, alright? Or it means their houses in the same neighborhood as yours. Or it

means that at work, your cubicle is next to theirs? are that you work in the same floor? Or you work in the same department? Yes,

in a way, but it doesn't mean that other people deserve less a person.

Yes, you are compelled to help the relatives before the other needy. All right. For example, I shall deliver on her once she wished to give something away. And she was told to give to a relative why? Because you would get double reward, one for Scylla and the other for sadaqa. Right one for maintaining ties of kinship and the other for charity. But this doesn't mean that we're only helping out our relatives and those who are nearby. And as a result of that we ignore the rest of the people in the society. No, everyone, we should contribute to everyone we should help out. Right? But when there is a choice between either this or that, then you choose the closest one. So a jar is neighbor

and neighbors who someone who is existing close to you. All right, whether that means in terms of the location of your house, or it means in terms of where you work, or the people you work with, or it means someone whom you're sitting with in class, for example, there are some people who are your group members, you are in the same group and other people are not in the same group, some people you're sitting with in the same row, other people you're not sitting with in the same row, you understand. Likewise, in the car, a person is sitting next to you. All right. Likewise, when on the road, there are people who are driving close to you. Correct? In the bus, someone is close to you

sitting even though you don't know them, But who are they? Neighbor? Within the house? There's let's say four bedrooms. All right, and your sister's bedroom is closer to your bedroom compared to your brother's bedroom. All right. So who is closer? This sister All right. So anyway, they are also neighbors. So a job the neighbor do Ersan towards him or her which neighbor they will CORBA the one that is a relative to you.

Meaning a neighbor who is especially your relative do more or less and towards him or her. So for example, you have relatives who live in the same street, you have a cousin who works in the same company. All right. Likewise, your sister is driving with you in the car, you understand. So a journey, they'll call back the neighbor who is a relative, show your son towards him. But doesn't mean that if there is a neighbor and you don't know them, they're from some other countries and other nationality, then you don't show your son towards them. You have to show your son towards them as well. Because Allah says while Jerrell juubi and the neighbor that is distant Juniper from Gene

noon, but what is jump site? So gentle meaning distant, the distant neighbor distant in what sense in the sense of relationship that he is not related to you? If you're Pakistani, for example, and in your building, there are some other Pakistani people, you will be extra nice towards them. All right. And if there is someone who is from India, then even if they're Muslim, Indian Indian,

this is what people will do. All right. Is this correct behavior? No way. Not at all. Or we ask people, where are you from? Which city? And they say I'm from Karachi. And I go on from Karachi to and there's a person from Lahore.

Right, or we find out I'm Maimane there may have been two okay, yeah, of course.

I'm Punjabi, they're Punjabi to Yeah, of course, and someone who's non Punjabi, we don't even know you, or you were still here didn't even realize. So this should not be the attitude or some towards everyone, whether they are close to you or not whether they are related to you or not neighbor, someone who is in the same vicinity, someone who is existing nearby, you better show some courtesy to them. You better smile at them, greet them, ask them how they're doing. In every situation, who are you benefiting yourself? You know, sadly, I have to say it's very sad. But it happens that wherever we go, whether it's a conference or a class, people sit with who those who are like them,

people talk to those who are like them.

You know, for example, I'm Pakistani so I'll be with Pakistanis. I'm Somalis. I'll be with Somalis who said it's good. Yes, do exon towards them. But it doesn't mean you don't even look at people who are from a different background. This is incorrect. You have to show Ersan towards everyone tell me if you ignore the person who is not like you? How can you even show your son?

You can only do yourself when you acknowledge their existence.

If you don't even acknowledge them. You don't even smile at them. You don't even greet them, then how can you offer them the food that you're eating? How can you offer them help in the work that they're doing? You can't do that.

That we have divided ourselves up? This is Aaron, this is Pakistani, this is Somali, this is this is that? This is not correct. Allah tells us to do or sound words, all the neighbors, whether they're related, or they are not related.

They'll orba. And also, while Gerald was so heavy Bill Jambi and the companion by the side of law him who saw him a friend a companion saw about salt harbor Sahaba were called Sahaba why because they were in the companionship of the Prophet salallahu Salam they were his friends, they were around him. So the saw him the partner the friend the companion, who has built Jhum by the side, you know your side. So the companion is right next to you. So for example, you are sitting in class right now. Look, by your side, is there somebody there? Is there somebody there? Yes. There is somebody there. So what do you have to do? First of all, acknowledge their existence, please. Look

at them smile at them. Realize that they are there. Okay. Now, how can you do your son? Now that you've broken the ice, how can you do Exxon? What is Exxon in this situation? Look at the other person. Do they have a juice? Do they have a Quran? They do? If they don't? Then what should you do? My notes, I don't want her reading what I'm writing.

I don't write that well anyways.

It'll be so embarrassing that I've made grammatical mistakes or I've made spelling mistakes. I don't want them to read. hate my job. Is this person not at all. If they need to look at the Quran, and you will have the Quran please let them see. Let them share. If they're on the wrong page, for God's sake, help them out. If they're sleeping, for God's sake, wake them up. Likewise, likewise, check how you're sitting. Sisters, check how you're sitting, are you sitting in a way because of which the person sitting next to you is uncomfortable? Or your books all over the desk? Or your legs all over the place? Or your knees poking them? As you're writing? Is your elbow knocking their pen over?

Yeah. Okay. Because how can we do here son if the other person is suffering because of us? One more thing I'm not going to ask you to do that right now. But please next week when you come check yourself is your bias smell? Does your hijab smell? When did you last take a shower please it's very difficult to sit next to a person who's smelling of sweat it's very difficult to sit next to a person who's not tidy

All right, so this is also part of your sense so we'll saw heavy will jump

doing your son towards the companion by the side. And the friend who is by the side who is by you. The friend who is by you, you know some friends, they are your friends but they're not always with you but when they are with you then you need to do your son towards them. So for example, you go to the cafeteria to buy food and you're buying food and your friend didn't bring money or she didn't know there was lunch or she forgot whatever. Then what's your obligation did you sit with her chat with her and just munch your pizza away as she stares at you Yeah, and gobble down your pop him though we don't get pop here but juice box. Yeah. Is that what we should do? What is it with the

companion by the side? Share offer

Say something nice. So we'll Sahibi Belgium. The Prophet sallallahu sallam said, the best companions, according to Allah are those who are the best with their friends. And the best neighbors, according to Allah are the best with their neighbors. So which friends are the best? Those who are good to one another?

Do you have any idea what's happening to your friends in their personal lives,

maybe they're hurt, maybe they're sick, maybe they're not feeling well, maybe something's going on. They need a smile, they need a hug. They need you to bring some food for them. They need you to help them with something.

This is your son, right? So show your son towards friends.

That sometimes out of frankness, what do friends do, they will insult one another or call each other bad names. And it'll have a good laugh. But you know what, they'll have a good laugh at that time. But in their heart, they're very hurt.

They're hurt, this is not your son. frankness, does not mean rudeness. So Ersan towards friends. And you see, sometimes we make friends. Why? Because we are studying with them, we're working with them or traveling with them. Everyday, we have a good chat, we spend time together. But as soon as they go their way and you go your way, all of a sudden, no connection, nothing at all. Right? Or your connection is limited them only to the thing that joins you. Like, for example, a class that joins you a work that joins you, this is why you're connected to them outside of that you don't care about them.

You don't care. But when you are somewhere, and you don't know anybody, then you just walk up to them as if they're your best friend. And when you have your friends, and you see that individual, does it they don't exist.

Is this exam, not at all.

Don't use people be of benefit to them. Don't use your friends, benefit your friends, help your friends. If they're giving you company at some point, then it's your obligation that you give company to them at some point as well. They're helping you you help them as well.

So well Sahibi will jam the best companions according to Allah or those who are the best with their friends. So be good to your friend, do your son towards them. And you know, with regards to the neighbor, by the way, the neighbors have a lot of rights, a lot of rights Gibreel he constantly advise the Prophet salallahu salam to be good to the neighbor to the point the prophets of Allah Allah said and thought that perhaps the neighbor will be given a right of the inheritance. Can you imagine the prophets of Allah to set him said that when you're making soup, add more water so that you can share it with your neighbors? Because when you're barbecuing outside, you know what's

happening? You're smelling it all, isn't it? And when you're cooking your Asian food, yes, you can smell it down the street, he can smell it all across the hallway in the apartment building Isn't that so? So the neighbors have a lot of rights. And that means that when you have something when you're cooking something, and if you are on such terms, then you definitely give them, you definitely share with them. Because this is not right, that you have food and you're eating and your neighbor is going to sleep hungry.

Or that you have your car and you're driving around and your neighbor is walking all the way even in the wind and the cold and in the snow or sun towards the neighbors.

You know, sometimes you may have neighbors who have just moved in, or they are moving in. So at that time, what should you do offer some help, even if it means holding the elevator door open for them as their luggage is coming. They might not feel too comfortable if you start touching their things, but do something if they have moved in go and greet them and welcome them to the neighborhood. Right? Isn't that something we should do? Yes. Likewise, if they're working outside their house, let's say they're gardening or something, they're doing their grass. And here you are working in your front yard as well. Then what should you do? If you go grab yourself a drink, grab a drink for

them as well. They might be uncomfortable if you give them something in a glass. If you have some juice box or you know like kind of pop or something you can offer that. To see what I mean. packaged food you could offer that

your sign towards neighbor is also that when you are doing your grass, you also do your neighbor's grass, especially if it's just one strip, like really, how difficult is it going to be? You know, sometimes I see that people will do their front yard and their neighbors is just like literally one strip they will have to pass the lawn more maybe once or twice, but they don't do it. You know, one is that your neighbor doesn't want you to they have made it clear. Okay. But the other is that you see that they're extremely busy. They have young children or it's an older couple. They need help so why won't you likewise if you're doing the snow, you will do your part of the walkway.

I have the sidewalk all to do, there's especially if you're added, why not I'm not saying go shovel their entire their driveway. But at least the sidewalk part, right? You can do that. And especially when you see that someone is in need than what is necessary that you must do your son towards them. And doing evil, hurting the neighbors is far worse than hurting. An ordinary person theft committed in a neighbor's house is 10 times worse than theft committed elsewhere, stealing from somewhere else. So the neighbor has a lot of rights.

So does the friend then who else webinars severely and the traveler Why is the traveler called the son of the way because he's on the way? All right. This is just like the birds that live at sea. They're called Eban Wilma, the son of the water. Why? Because they're constantly either flying over the water or they're fishing in the water or something or the other. Right? So ethnicity, the traveler do here, son towards him as well. And who else woman Melaka a man who come and that what your right hands possess. What does that refer to the slaves meaning the people who you own the slaves do Ersan towards them as well. What is their son the Prophet sallallahu sallam said the slave

has a right to have food, clothing, and to only be required to perform what He can bear of work. Ask him to do that work, which is actually capable of doing don't force upon him something he cannot do, he can physically not do when this teaches is a lesson that if there are people who are working under us don't impose so much work on them that they cannot do that they cannot perform. Don't overburden them.

All right? Don't overburden them. And Mama look at a man who can also includes the animals that a person owns, because it's that which your ends possess. Okay, so it's not just the slaves, but also if a person owns cattle, or livestock, or fish, okay, or a bird or a rabbit or a cat. Okay, then what is necessary that your son is shown towards them as well.

You know, when it comes to slaughtering animals, how should they be slaughtered with a sharp knife. Why, so that they're slaughtered quickly, it is less painful for them. When the knife has been sharpened, it should not be sharpened in front of them because it will scare them. If you own an animal, a bat, then don't confine it in the house so that it cannot find anything to eat.

But if it's in the house, because of a reason, because it's freezing cold outside, or it doesn't know how to survive outside. Like for example, if you get a parrot and you let it out over here, you send an order it should not be in a cage, let it out, free, set it free. And what's going to happen the next moment

it's gone very soon, either it's going to be killed by a predator or because it doesn't know how to defend itself or it will not be able to fly or it will die because it doesn't know how to find food. All right. So if someone towards animals that a person owns as well, sometimes people own let's say kittens, okay, and they don't protect the kittens from their children. And what did the children do? They will pull the tail and they will hurt the kitten. And because of that those cats they grew up terrified of human being off people have children. They're abused. Is this exam? Not at all. Give them their food on time.

Right? provide them the space that they need. For example, if you have a fish please don't just confine it to a small bowl. I mean that little sometimes the fish in literally a cup don't do that. Give her some space. Some space how would you feel? If you were locked in a walk in closet?

How would you feel if that was the entire space that you were provided to exist in never to come out? That's not fair. Yes, your needs are being fulfilled you're being given food there's air there's oxygen, maybe there's sunlight as well. But come on, you need some space as well. So provide some space not saying that it down the drain. Okay, but get a more spacious bowl or tank or something like that. Yes and towards the animals in Allaha indeed Allah lay your Hibou He does not love man can Matalan for hurrah. The one who is mortal and for whom Allah does not love such people who is mocked that McDowell is from higher learn from the word Hi, what does heileman horse? How

does the horse walk with his neck held a PI? You understand when it comes to a cow or a goat? Right? How was their head subdued? But a horse upright? Okay. If the URL if the URL is to think of oneself as very great that when a person thinks that yeah

I'm the best, you know, I'm the boss and the best and the best. Okay? But he's not actually the best. And that's the reality. No matter who claims am the best or the best. No, they're not.

That Yesterday we learned about new shoes and the doorbell and everything. But what do we learn in this is about arrogance is something that Allah does not like if a person thinks too high of himself or herself and because of that she disobeys her husband and does not give any importance to him. This is what if the that she thinks I'm the best, I am better than him. But in fact, she's not the best. All right, and SDN is the internal state of a person where he believes that yes, I am the best. And when he believes such then what will happen, it will manifest in the way he walks, it will manifest in the way he talks, it will manifest in the way he deals with other people and the way he

behaves in the way he drives. In the way she walks in the way she looks at others. Isn't that so? So motel, the one who is proud in his behavior in his attitude. Allah does not like such a person who thinks he's too great. Allah does not like him, for whom from FUCKLOAD farfara. For ha It's such clear which one it is dry. If you touch it, it will make a sound like when you knock it, it will make a sound like the Potter is clear. Okay, when it's dry, when you've made something of mud, then what will happen if you knock it, if you touch it, what will happen you will hear a loud sound. So for who is a person whom you just have to touch a little bit, and there he starts talking about

himself, on and on and on and on and on until you're like you know what? Quiet, you just ask them that I heard you got engaged mashallah credulous yah, yah, quite good, you know, this person, and he has this and my father in law does this and another law is this and they live over here. And yeah, I got this ring, and I got another ring as well. And I was wearing this, you know, which had those crystals on my dress, and on and on. And you know, you know what, be quiet, for whom Allah does not like such arrogant people. So for who is who, someone who is proud in the way that he speaks. So basically, motel is in Farrell in Haier in attitude, and for who is in words, the kinds of things

that a person says about himself. Now, one is that you mentioned good things that you have, that Allah has given you something good that you've enjoyed, why? To express the favor of Allah upon you. All right. And the other is that you talk about what you have to show off. I'm the best.

This is not correct. So Allah does not like such people. Why? Because someone who is Matalan veho.

Does he do Air sign and others? No, he doesn't do Air sign and others. He thinks he's the best. He deserves all the respect. Why should he have to respect his parents? He thinks he is better. Why should he have to treat nicely his siblings or his cousins or his relatives? He thinks he's the best so why should even look at his neighbor, he says, Oh, I drive this car, my neighbor has his old car, right? Or my house looks nicer. Look at the way my grass is look at my flowers, and my neighbor, he's got weeds all over the place. Matalan for hood. So such a person cannot do air Sam, on others, a person thing so my hijab is, you know, done so perfectly. Look at this girl. She doesn't know how

to wear hijab. If a person thinks like this, about this person sitting next to them, oh my God, look at how they're writing. How old are they?

Oh mine, look at the color they're using. That's the kind of notes they're making. They're not writing anything they're gonna feel so bad. MacDonald for whom such a person cannot help another. Such a person cannot do your son and Allah does not love such people. So what do we learn this idea that a good Muslim is not just the one who is good within the house, towards the spouse towards the children fulfilling is responsibility is duty towards the spouse and the children because the previous if there are about the role of the man the role of the women, so women become just concerned about their duty towards their husband and towards their children. And the husband becomes

concerned about his duty towards his wife, and they have no idea what's happening in the family. They have no idea what stick their parents in, they have no idea how their friends are doing, how their relatives are doing what the neighbors are doing. No, a good Muslim is the one who is good within the house and also outside of the house, towards those who knows and those who whom he does not know whether there are people or animals or sand towards all parents and relatives, your son towards those who are easily oppressed and abused in the society. Living beautifully peacefully with those who are close by this is what makes a person a good person. And one who is not like this who

is mortal for who then such people Allah does not like them.

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