Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 18 – L177D

Rosa Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillah Ar Rahman AR Rahim.

That's the number 177. So to know,

let's continue.

Now with regards to this incident, basically three groups had formed in the city of Medina, the people were divided into three categories.

First of all, it was a group of those people who participated in this activity, there are who spread the rumor, who spoke about it, who accused a shell of the learner.

Secondly, it was those people who spoke against it,

some people some Sahaba and so, how the they also spoke against this, they did not let other people confirm this, I said, this is a lie, this cannot be true. But there were only a few companions, only a few. inshallah Allah mentioned about them.

And thirdly, the large majority of people, they kept silent. They did not say anything. They did not affirm, they did not deny. They did not really talk about it. And those people who were talking about it, they did not really stop them either.

So the vast majority of people, what was their position? of silence? So Allah subhanaw taala represents them.

Lola, why not? How come is Samir to Moo hoo when you all heard it? When you heard about this if why not run none what me No No Well momina to the believing men and believing women thought Why did you not think be enforcing him in their souls higher on good? Why did you not think good about eyeshadow the learner will call you and how come they did not say that had that if como bien. This is a clear lie. This is an explicit lie. Why did this not happen? Why did you remain silent you should not have remained silent, you should have spoke up against it.

Because you are supposed to be ultimately known and minute, believing men and believing women. And we have learned earlier that one movement in our movement at who are the Friends of one another Oh Leah of one another. They support one another. So he's not a believer? Is software I'm not a believer. There are believers. How could you not support them? One let me know and I will move me now to be unforeseen haven.

Why did they not think good be unfussy him?

What does it mean by this be unforeseen? This has been understood in a number of ways.

First of all, the emphysema has been understood as in their hearts.

That why did you not think in your heart good about Arusha? And as a result of that, say, Heather, if como bien How could you stay silent? How could you not say anything? How could you just let people talk about it, you should have thought good in your heart, about her about him. And you should have spoke up in their defense.

Secondly, be enforcing him has been understood as on the basis of their estimation of themselves. That when you heard about that, why did you not judge concerning Arusha and stuff when, just as you would judge concerning yourself?

Could you ever expect that you would do such a thing? No. Then how could you expect that she would do such a thing? Or he would do such a thing?

You should have put yourself in their position. If you can never expect something as such from yourself, then how could you expect something like that from her and from him?

Thirdly, the unforeseen has been understood as being whiny him. What led him about themselves about one another? About your brothers in religion, about your sister in religion? How could you not think about her about him in a good way? Because remember that believers, who are they? They're like one body? Isn't it so

and when the word unforced is used, although it may be referring to another believer, but you will consider the other believer, as you will consider yourself because believers are like a part of one body or like a one wall that is together that is standing together all the bricks of which are standing together. So if one brick is missing, if one brick is broken, isn't that going to affect the whole wall? Yes.

If one part of the body is hurting, isn't that going to affect the entire body? Of course it will.

So

How could you not think good about yourselves? How could you not think good about yourselves? Because Arusha is a part of you, software is a part of you. How could you not think about yourselves? So London would mean No, no one would mean to be unforeseen. Hi, Ron, will call you. And they should have said, Heather, if como bien This is a clear line.

So we see that the majority of the people, they remain silent, and their silence is being condemned over here. Why? Because silence is like, silence is what? approval? If you remain silent, then what does it mean? You agree with it.

So this shows us something very, very important that when something wrong is being said, when a believer is being spoken negatively about, then you cannot remain silent. Because if you remain silent, then you are agreeing.

You are approving.

Now, it's possible that what the other person is saying, you don't know about it. You don't know if it's right or wrong. So how can you speak up in that position?

You should assume good things about your brothers and sisters.

Because, you know, a person could say, well, that's a habit, they didn't know, how could they know, they didn't have any witnesses? And it's possible, it might not have been possible, how could they know they did not have the knowledge of the unseen. So this is why if they remain silent, they should not be blameworthy. But still Allah subhanaw taala condemns their behavior. Why? Because you should think positively about your brothers and sisters,

that if somebody is daring to say something negative about them, stand up in their defense.

If you think that you would never do such a thing, then definitely your brother and sister would also not do such a thing.

If you would defend yourself, then you must defend your brothers and sisters as well. If somebody accuses you, you would not remain silent, then how can you remain silent when the wife of the Prophet has been accused? How is that fair, that's not fair at all.

So a very, very important lesson, that when a believer is being spoken, Ill off.

Let's say somebody is backbiting them, somebody is saying something negative about them, we cannot remain silent, we cannot remain silent, we have to stand up, we have to stop them. And we have to defend the believer, we cannot remain silent.

And if you don't want to take a position, because you don't know, you don't want to agree you don't want to disagree. Again, you should stand up, first of all thinking positively about the believer. And secondly, stopping the other people from speaking without knowledge. Because even they don't know what they're talking about.

I remember once I had gone to this lecture, and as we came out of that lecture, somebody started saying negative things about the speaker. And what they were saying, honestly, I did not know about whether it was true or not. But I felt that it was very disrespectful, that there is a person who is speaking up on the podium, about their religion, regardless of you know, whether you agree with them or not, you have to respect them, you cannot speak negatively about them. Okay, there might be some things that you may think are wrong. But what he is saying is according to the best of his knowledge, isn't it so

and you have the right to disagree, but you do not have the right to defame the other person. You do not have the right to insult the other person to talk negatively about them. So what they were talking about that scholar, I could not confirm nor could I reject because I myself had no idea I did not know. But I stopped them. I said you cannot say anything like that about that scholar. Because you don't know. And I don't know.

And he is a scholar, Allah given that position, regardless of whether you agree with them or not, you cannot speak negatively about them.

So, first of all, we have to defend believers. Secondly, if you don't know Don't let other people backbite. Don't let other people defame insult others. This is not right.

We'll call you Heather. If

they should have set this as a big lie. This is a clear lie. Because the reality is that if a believer is being insulted, if a believer is being defamed, in reality, you are being defamed and insulted

because who are believers, one body if somebody insults your hands, if somebody says oh Your hands are so ugly, when you start laughing, will you will take it personally. How dare you say that about my hands, they may say or your hands are sore

ugly, but your nose is so beautiful. Would you like that? No, you wouldn't like that at all. So how can you think that a believer is being spoken negatively about, and the other person may be praising you? And you're okay with that. You can never be okay with that. This is not okay.

So when other people are speaking negatively, stand up, stop them. Don't let them spread rumors, don't let them spread hatred. We cannot allow this. And this we have to apply in our daily lives, and also within the society, within the friends and the people whom we are with day in and day out at work at school, wherever. Speak up in defense.

We learned that about you, but I'm sorry. And his wife, they were of those who spoke up against those people who accused our children.

We learned that the wife of a Ube Ansari, a you she said to him? Oh, are you have you heard what the people are saying about Russia? He said yes. And it is all lies. It is all lies. He said, Would you do that? Oh, are you? If you were in her position? Would you do that? She said no, by Allah. I would not do that. He said and by Allah Ayesha is better than you

why she is the wife of the Prophet sallallahu.

So think positively about other believers. And if somebody's saying something negative about them, don't let them talk negatively about them. Don't let them spread hatred.

If you don't know much, again, think positive. And don't let them spread hatred.

Allah says Lola, why not? gentle la he, they came upon a meeting for this accusation for this other. Why did these people meaning the accusers? Why did they not bring the barbarity she had that with four witnesses?

Because if you accuse someone of having committed Zina, what do you have to produce? witnesses? So why did they not produce witnesses for even lemmya to be Shahada. Then when they did not produce the witnesses when they did not come with the witnesses, for oola occur in the law, he homolka de Boone, then those people in the sight of Allah, they're the liars. Because what did we learn previously,

that if a person accuses another of fornication, then he has to produce witnesses. And if he does not, then punishment has to be inflicted on him. And he loses his credibility. And according to some scholars, his witness will never ever be accepted. So Allah says, Allah occur in the law, human kalamoon. People who accuse others without evidence, who are they're liars in the sight of Allah,

because they have the guts to speak without knowledge, without confirming the truthfulness of something without providing any evidence, because the problem over here is that they did not provide any evidence.

The fact is that they did not have any witnesses, any witnesses at all? And the fact that they did not have any witnesses, it was enough that they were lying about it. They were lying about it. Because what did we learn earlier? That led to full malaise, a lack of hearing, do not pursue what you do not have knowledge of Why? Because in the summer, well, bussola, one for the komolika cannon who Masuda

every faculty, your eyes, your ears, and as well as your heart, all of them are going to be questioned, you're going to be questioned about them. That why did you say something which you did not see yourself? Why did you pass on something what you did not confirm yourself? You cannot do that. So if you're saying something, have evidence, when you don't have evidence, remain silent.

Because if you speak without knowledge, then you become a liar for oolagah in the law homolka the moon.

So this ayah shows a very, very important lesson that before formulating an opinion about someone before passing on some information, inquiry is very, very important. Very, very important.

before passing on some information before reacting in any way, before confirming what do we need to do? What do we need to do inquire about and see what the evidence is?

So Allah subhanaw taala, saying they do not have any evidence when they did not have any evidence. They're supposed to be liars. And remember that it's enough for a person to be a liar, that he passes on what ever he hears

something very, very important.

It is enough for a person to be a liar that he passes on whatever He hears, He does not confirm, oh, I heard so and so say something about them. And you pass that information on, you have no evidence, you have no proof, you do not confirm it yourself. And you're passing it on, you're passing on rumors about them. And unfortunately, people who are in the limelight, people who are up on the podium people whom everybody is looking at, many times wrong things are said about them.

And people spread false information about them without any evidence.

Like, for example, if a scholar, you know, has not come or if a scholar has gone somewhere, it's because, you know, the government did something against them. How do you know, you have any evidence to support when you don't have any evidence, do not open your mouth? Do not open your mouth. Never say anything like that.

Similarly, if a woman is staying with her parents house for some time, people will assume Oh, you know, maybe divorce, maybe separation. You have any evidence. Now you don't have any evidence? Don't say anything, then.

If you have to say anything, back it up with evidence when you don't have evidence remain silent, because if you don't remain silent, and you say that, then you're a liar.

Well, Ola, falola. Here aleikum wa rahmatullah and if it had not been for the favor of Allah upon you and his mercy, had it not been for the favor of Allah and His mercy upon you for dunya while Allah in the dunya, and in the Sahara, la Masako surely attached to you, what will touch you fee concerning my phone, what you indulge in what you spoke in detail about fee concerning it, or they're under a lien a great punishment?

Had it not been for the favor and mercy of Allah on you in this dunya. And after a great punishment would have come upon you because of what you did. Because of what you spoke about.

There is something very scary. Who are these people? Sahaba companions of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, Gundam hydromet, in the best generation, the best nation? And what is the loss of what are the saying about them, that had it not been for the favor and mercy of Allah, you would have been punished. Because what you did was wrong, what you did is not acceptable. And the word that has been used over here, FEMA, a *ton fee, because of what you indulged in, of optimism during planters fair, yet God failed, and failed is to overflow, we have read this word earlier. Some field will mean Hazel availableness. Or the field woman at Emory, thought, you know, the field will mean at

Emory, which is to overflow.

And when this word is used for a conversation, when it is used for some speech for some dog, than it is when a person indulges in a conversation, that one topic leads to another topic. And a person is so engrossed in that conversation for such a long time that he forgets about other things.

So a photo fee, you spoke in detail about it, it was so small, something so small, what actually happened, and you blew it out of proportion. You just saw, I showed the learner coming on an animal that was being led by someone, something else while he was performing his duty that if someone is forgotten, someone is left behind, something is lost, something is left behind. his duty was to bring it. That's it. He was doing his job. And you blew that out of proportion, you spoke so much about it, that what actually happened was presented as something completely different. FEMA, afoqt and fi are there.

So this is what does it express the anger and disapproval of a loss of panel data against those people who actively participated in spreading this rumor.

And this is a great warning that we have to be very, very careful about what we talk about, about the conversations that we indulge in

about the things about the messages that we pass on. We have to be very, very careful about how we narrate something, how we report something, how we tell something to the other.

Because sometimes what has happened is not really a big deal. But we blow it out of proportion. And we present it as something so huge, you know something that's such a big deal, whereas in reality, it was not a big deal at all.

Can you think of an example something that's not a big deal, but just the way it's broken off, it becomes a big deal.

Many times these things happen.

Like, for example, what happens in the media all the time that something small happens, and oh my god, such a big deal. But something in daily life as well.

A relationship between a mother in law and a daughter in law, it's possible that the mother in law just says to the daughter in law, could you please just do the dishes, I am really tired after cooking the food. And there she tells her parents, she's always telling me to wash dishes. She doesn't let me put the dishwasher on. She makes me wash them by hand. And I'm so tired. Look at my hands that drying up. my fingernails are getting chipped.

And blowing it out of proportion, the poor lady has been standing the whole time cooking, you don't have to cook, she's asks you to wash the dishes. And there you are blowing it completely out of proportion, and presenting something that's not really a big deal as such a big deal. This is exaggeration. And sometimes exaggeration, becomes what a lie a big lie.

That sometimes when a person is living with people whom he doesn't want to live in, she doesn't want to live with, right? In a house, in a family in a circumstance in a particular situation in a particular house. She doesn't want to be there with those people, she wants to be independent.

And things happen, which are blown completely out of proportion, I can't survive there. I can't live here not even for a moment, it's unbearable. Whereas in reality, it's not unbearable. It is definitely possible. And if a person thinks that their solution ohnaka balou hironaka, we will see so many good aspects to it. So many good things can come out of it. A loss of control is teaching us something that's so important that we could not perhaps learn otherwise. But because of our negative thinking, what happens, something that is so small, we consider it to be so big, right? We consider it to be so vague, whereas in reality, it's not that big.

For example, during the lesson seven times, it's not really a big deal. But we make it seem as if Oh my God, I have to spend two hours. And we tell our family members and we tell our children who don't even know head or tail for what we're doing, perhaps but all they know is my mom goes to alhuda. And she has a lot of work to do. during December when she's doing the lesson, we blow it out of proportion, we make it as such a big deal. And when we present something as such a big deal, then what happens it turns into a night. Remember that

and sometimes we blow things out of proportion because they go against our knifes perhaps we don't like what's going on. We don't like the way somebody said something to us. We don't like the fact that we were told to go away or we were told to come in. And because of that we completely misrepresent what happened. We completely miss interpret what happened. We forget how the other person said it, how the other person did it. And we blow things completely out of proportion.

This especially happens when people are working together for Dean.

You see, these people were Sahaba companions, they were special people, obviously shaytan did not want that good relationships would exist between them. They were the army of the prophets, little daughters and the students of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Those were very close to him. So anytime people come together to work for the deen, these things happen, things are blown out of proportion.

Like for example, two people are working together, they have a very, very good relationship. And perhaps somebody comes and says something to them to reform, whatever's going on to correct the situation to improve the work. And there is a third person who is watching. And he assumes that oh my god, things are not good between them. This person does not like this person, because look how she corrected her. She corrected or she pointed out her mistake therefore she does not like her. And similarly, if for example, being students if we are called, and we are told that what we have done is wrong, or we should improve in something. What do we think this teacher does not like me, this

group in charge has a problem with me. This course in charge always finds faults in me. This is what we think we blow things out of proportion. And if we put it in perspective, it's not a big deal. It's really not a big deal.

The problem is that we don't have personal one, we don't have good thinking about the other. If we have good thinking about the other, then we will not misinterpret what they're telling us.

We see that the primary reason was the jealousy and the hatred that our dilemma nobody had in his heart. And because of that he spoke up and everybody else they followed him. So we have to keep our hearts clean. If there is some kind of enmity, some kind of jealousy for the other person, some feeling in our heart which is negative against the other person, then what's going to happen. We are going to read into every situation based on those feelings. This is how we're going to interpret them.

And life is a test and these situations are

All tests that how do we react? How do we behave? How do we respond? Do we keep things in perspective? Or do we blow them out of proportion?

Allah, Allah says is the Laconia who BLC, fanatical, when you received it with your tongues, the lacuna who from the root letter is lamb puffier. lucky to meet, and the law is to receive something. And it's basically in the intangible sense for the law, the woman, Robbie kalimat. Now kalimat words, you don't receive them in the form of a package that isn't a box. So similarly is the lacuna who when you were receiving it, when you were perceiving it when you were accepting it, when you were coming across it, and what does it refer to the slander the accusation

be elsina to come with your tongues? Now how does a person receive something with his tongue?

By passing it on? That you receive it and you pass it on? You hear it and you talk about it?

And what happens then when a person talks about what he has received? He's propagating it.

So when you received it with your tongues, meaning you were propagating it you're we're who baraboo Come on back some of you were narrating it from others, it became into a rumor, I heard it from so and so who said that so and so who said that so and so right? Is the Laconia who BLT Latika? What aku Luna bf where he come anywhere saying with your amounts, meaning you spread this rumor. From mouth to mouth.

You were seeing with your mouth mellisa can be hearing what you did not have any knowledge of

and you see bf where he come You were saying just with your mouse, meaning it was coming out of your mouth without you using your mind. You weren't thinking about what you were saying. You were uttering it, but you weren't thinking about it.

And you said it without being sure of it. You said it without confirming it with a una BYE comme la sala kombinieren. And why did you do that? Why did you just pass on what you heard? What are sub una who Hainan and you were thinking it to be high in an easy, something that is simple. Something that is of little importance. But in reality, we're who are in the law here are lean. But it wasn't in the sight of a love great. How in its in, in its wizard in its consequences. Something very, very great.

The reason why you propagated it the reason why you narrated it, the reason why you spoke about it was because you considered it to be something that is insignificant.

This is why you did not disagree with it. This is why you were okay with it. This is why I just passed it on. You thought it wasn't a big deal. Whereas in reality in the sight of Allah, it was a serious matter. Because such a thing was being said about who the wife of the prophets are.

You see, falsely accusing someone, defaming their honor is not something small.

It's not a small thing. We think it's a small thing, which is why so casually, we can backbite others so casually, we can say, well, that person is not honest. That person is not dedicated. That person is not hardworking. We say so many things that are negative about other people. And in reality, we're defaming them.

Whereas we see over here, that such statements, we think of them to be haying. But they are in the sight of Allah, Arlene. They are great in the sight of Allah.

Because the consequences of such statements are severe, very severe.

Because first of all, it is liba backbiting

and what is backbiting

that you mentioned that you talk about your brother have something that he would dislike? The crooked a haka, we might hear something that he would dislike something you would not like, and you say it behind his back and you think it's not a big deal.

There is an incident in which the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he was traveling with some of his companions of ibaka as well as a little detour in Houma. And they had a servant with them, who was supposed to serve them food. And there was a time when they took a nap. And the servant he was sleeping as well and he continued to sleep. He did not wake up.

So we woke up at our home model dinner and they were talking amongst themselves and they said something such as you know, your companion is still sleeping in a derogatory way that Oh, he's still sleeping statement such as that they said, and eventually they woke him up and said, you know, bring the food and ask the prophet SAW the Lotus and understand the food. So when that servant went to the prophet SAW the Lotus and even asked for food for Omar and Abu Bakar

he said

Tell them you have already eaten.

Tell them you've already eaten. So the servant went and told him and they got concerned, they went to the prophet SAW a lot of them and they said, What did you mean by that you already eaten? He said, You said this about your companion. And I can see the flesh between your teeth. That what you said was LIBOR. And LIBOR is what,

as though you are eating the flesh of your dead brother.

Imagine

Omar, Abdullah and mehbooba karate learn who, those who became the halifa, the leaders of the believers, those who are given good news of Paradise while they were alive, but even from them backbiting was not acceptable. Even from them saying something negative about another believer was not acceptable. And negative. What was it? He sleeps a lot, he's still sleeping, or something like that. And we say such statements all the time. Thinking that we're very humorous, thinking we're very smart. We're very clever. They're subu hyena, we're who are in the law of lean. It's great. It's major in the sight of Allah.

Many times we say some things that are so hurtful, and then we say, I'm only joking. I'm only kidding. I'm not that serious.

You've caused the damage. You've caused the hurt, the angels have written. We had to become very serious about these statements about these words.

And many times what happens, we receive an email, somebody says something to us, and immediately Forward, forward, forward, without even checking if it's authentic or not. Without even confirming if it's true or not.

We think it's not a big deal. But in reality, it is a big deal.