Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 15 – L143C

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Al-Isra 23-35 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 24-25

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Walk with lahoma and lower to them Jenna has only the wing of humility meaning Be humble, be submissive to them, Be obedient to them, be humble before them

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may not run out of mercy out of compassion because in old age What do people need? mercy that others should care for them

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others should be gentle towards them nice towards them.

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So, out of your mercy towards your parents, what should you do workfit lahoma Jenna has the Li

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is filled from the newsletters half elbowed and half is too low or something. And this is both in the tangible sense as well as the intangible sense. We learned the Quran half a lotta law fair one that will bring down those that are high.

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And Jenna is wink primarily the word is used for the wing wing of blue wing of a bird.

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Similarly, the word Jenner is also used for the size of a person or the size of an animal or something like for example, into the 22 we learned we saw this and I was told what moumita illa generika join your hand to your site. So generic over there is not winged, but what is it?

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side flank. And thirdly, the word generic is also used for hand or arm. Instead of causes I have 32 massages and I was told what mon la cadena Hakka mean

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that joint to yourself, your Jenna meaning your arm or your hand when you are afraid. So, what are the three meanings of generic wing? side? an arm or hand?

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So what would lahoma Jenner has the Li and what does a doll mean?

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humility

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and remember that the lies of two types one is that which humiliates a person and one is that which honors a person.

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When a person frustrates before a creature What is he doing? humiliating himself degrading himself? But when a person frustrates before Allah subhanaw taala then what is that?

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Where do you have respect? Similarly, when a person speaks to someone who is lesser than him, very politely, what is that? very respectful. So what Loma Jenna had to leave Minerva? What does it mean by Jenna has to leave

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that they're your wing of humility.

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So lower the wing of humility towards them.

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And this will be understood in two ways. That first of all, physically, lower yourself. Physically lower your side your body,

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meaning in your posture.

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When you're standing before them when you're sitting before them. Don't stand before them with your chest out and your back straight and your shoulders you know, up in the air in your head up high. Be humble.

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Be lowering your posture. Because if you stand, you know with your body standing up straight and high up then that reflects arrogance,

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doesn't it? It reflects arrogance. It makes the other person intimidated. He doesn't have the confidence to speak to them. So be humble before them. So they can say whatever they want to say.

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They can request whatever they want from you.

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Work with lower physically lower yourself.

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And also lower yourself out in behavior. That Be gentle.

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Be gentle towards them.

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look after them. Take care of them. Be good toward them when you speak to them be humble.

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And you see many times people will show their humble side their submissive side in front of their friends

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or in front of their boss or in front of their children even sometimes, that whatever they say they will obey immediately. They will comply instantly. But when it comes to parents, there is a big no on the face from the beginning.

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You dare say something to me. Anything you will get from me is going to be a no this is not correct.

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Allah subhanaw taala Delta's walk with lahoma do not have Dooley.

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This command is primarily for one's own parents.

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But it doesn't mean that if there's another person who was elderly who was older who is related to you, you don't show any respect to them. Because remember that one who does not respect the elders and who does not

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Short affection to the children to the younger ones is not us. So just because the other person is a distant relative of yours does not mean you don't have to show respect to them. No, you must show respect to them. And especially between spouses, I mean, the parents of your husband or your wife, yes, they're not your parents, but your spouse is obligated to respect them. And they cannot respect them unless you cooperate, unless you also show respect.

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So what fifth lahoma dinner had duly made.

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Many times we are very affectionate, very gentle towards other people. But when it comes to our parents, we don't tend to show any mercy.

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Sometimes people are very, very merciful towards their own children, they cannot tolerate that their child is suffering from, you know, the slightest cut on his body.

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They will take him to the emergency immediately,

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they will take him to the doctor immediately. If a child wants something, they will quickly run into the kitchen and prepare that food, even if they're exhausted.

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If their child wants to run and play, they will run and play with them, even if they're physically hurting.

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If the child wants to go outside, they will take the child, if you can have this mercy for your child, why can you not have this mercy for your older parent for your elderly parent, for your parent who is lonely?

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Who does not have their wife with them or does not at their husband with them. The only child they have is you and they're living with you. You can be so nice towards your children. You cannot be nice towards your parents.

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What they love, imagine I had the Li Mina Rama out of mercy for them, because they're old, and they need your mercy. They need your compassion, they need your care.

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And don't forget the time when they looked after you

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will call and say or have their hammer, Oh my Lord, have mercy on them to come out just as what obey any day to raised me Silvia small

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meaning when I was small, both of them my mother and my father, they took care of me.

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So Oh Allah, you have mercy on them.

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Because if you look at it, when parents are older, many times are suffering from loneliness or disease or illness. Many things are suffering from just the fact that they are dependent on their children sometimes, you know, it saddens them.

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It makes them very upset.

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And no matter what you do, you cannot pay them back for what they did to you. You can never do that. Therefore, make the right to a lot that a lot bit ham woman camera.

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So if you look at it, two things I mentioned over here, that first of all, show mercy to them, yourself.

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And secondly, pray to Allah to show mercy to them as well.

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Do something do bring ease in their lives.

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And also pray to Allah to make their life easy for them.

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Do something to make them feel happy and pray to Allah to make them happy as

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well call Rob Durham, Homer, Kamara, biani, Surya, the word obey Ronnie is from the root letters, although bad Well,

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Rob bear, Europe b tarbiyah.

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And tarbiyah is training.

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Basically, the word Rebbe is also from the same root which literally means growth, when something is increased Arabia is a hill that seems to grow out of the earth.

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And that will be a training someone includes many things.

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It includes, first of all, attention from NASA, what does that mean?

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To cause something to grow to make something grow? So it is to ensure growth to foster to look after to ensure growth.

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Secondly, tarbiyah also includes delvia, from the Word of God that what does that mean?

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nutrition. So Telia is to provide constant nutrition.

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And thirdly, Tobia also includes this leaf, which is to culture, someone to educate someone in mannerism.

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So if you look at it, when parents look after their children, they do all of these three things. What that first of all, they're constantly looking after you constantly.

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Making sure that you're reaching your milestones

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that you are now talking or you're now able to eat your

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now able to digest a particular food, you're able to walk, you're able to talk, this is what attention, then a double the daily, they feed you, weekly, they go for groceries every other day they go for groceries to make sure that you are getting enough nutrition.

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And it's not just when you are nursing, but when you're older, when your toddler, when you're going through school everyday, your mother backs your lunch for you. Sometimes even when you're in university, sometimes even when you're working your parents, they provide constant nutrition to

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your father, he spent on you from the beginning, until even when you're married, and you're working yourself, still your father spends on you, this is what dudleya constant nutrition and then does leave that they're constantly working to ensure that you have good manners.

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From the time when a child is very small.

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The parents are so particular about how the child should speak, how they should behave, how they should keep their things, what kind of words they should use the teach them, please. And thank you and excuse me good words, making sure that they're able to eat themselves, they can go to the washroom themselves, they can change themselves. All of this is what constant nutrition. And this is the gift that parents give to their children.

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And if someone has done so much, or sign up on you, that they have fed you, they have taught you they have looked after you for so many years, how can you ever be them?

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How can you ever be them?

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It's impossible to pay them back. If you hire a nanny to look after your child, and you ask that nanny, that you are supposed to feed the child you're supposed to change the child you're supposed to teach him this particular language, how much money you would have to pay to that man. Think about it.

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How much money you would have to pay, who pays the parents

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who pays them for all that they do for you out of so much love when they had so much love for you. And they gave so much time and their effort and their money to look after you to make you happy to make you a good person. You cannot have mercy for them when they're old. They have so much love for you. How can you not have mercy for them when they're old?

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And you can never pay them back. Therefore pray to Allah Akbar, Hama Kamara

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oh my lord have mercy on them.

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Just as they took care of me when I was small. We see that many times.

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Many times, people do not realize how much their parents have done to them until they themselves become parents.

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And at that time, it's perhaps too late.

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Because even if you want to look after your parents, you're unable to perhaps they have passed away.

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Perhaps they're too far away. Perhaps you're not living with them anymore. Perhaps you cannot see them every day. Perhaps you're too busy with your work that even if you want to do something for them, you can't therefore make the offer them because no matter what you do, you cannot pay them back.

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We learned that once a man said O Messenger of Allah, what rights can parents demand from their children?

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And what rights can parents demand from their children? The Prophet sallallahu wasallam replied, they are your paradise, or your hell.

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They are your paradise or your hell, meaning

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they can demand anything from you.

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And if you obey

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their means of entry into paradise, and if you disobey that would be a means of entry into hellfire.

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About the death of the lion who reported that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, the father is the most central door of all doors of paradise. It is up to you that you may lose it or protect it.

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You have an option.

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You have a door that can lead you to paradise. And who was that? Your father by pleasing your father by making him proud by making him happy by serving Him by taking care of him by respecting him. Either you can get hold of that door and enter Paradise through it. Or you can lose that door by disrespecting him by disappointing him.

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I believe in Arma he reported in a hadith that allows pleasure isn't the pleasure of the Father.

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A lot of pleasure is where in the past

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measure of the Father and allows displeasure isn't the displeasure of the Father.

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And there are many other studies that show to us about the importance of looking after the parents taking care of them, respecting them, especially when they're old. For example, we learned from another Hadith, that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam once he said, he is doomed, he is doomed, he is doomed.

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He's a big loser. He is doomed, he's perished. The man whose parents, one or both of them reach old age while he is alive, and he does not enter Paradise.

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He got to see his parents, even one of them when they were old. But he did not serve them. He did not look after them. He did not take care of them. And he lost the opportunity to enter Paradise through them

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through serving them.

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So we all need to reflect over here.

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That our parents, how do we treat them? How much do we obey them? How much do we please them?

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What kind of words do we say? In order to make them happy?

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Whatever efforts do we put in to make them proud?

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To be our parents?

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We have to see.

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Because they have done so much for us. How much are we doing in return.

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But sometimes what happens? It's possible that parents they request something for you they demand something from you, which is incorrect,

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which perhaps contradicts their religion.

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Like for example, sometimes it happens, that a mother demands something from her son, which goes against the right of his wife, we understand.

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The mother is demanding something from her son, which if he should fulfill it will be injustice towards his wife, or towards his children. Because the person is not just responsible for his parents, he is responsible for all those he is to take care of. So in this case, it's possible that you say something disrespectful.

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That your parents demand something from you, you say no, no, I can't do this. Because I have to spend this much time with my son with my wife, I have taken over there to say no, you should be with us all the time, or something that is unrealistic. So it's possible that a person becomes disrespectful in return. It happens. Similarly, it's possible that parents are old. And they demand things from you and you get so irritated that you end up saying Have

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you end up saying words that are greater than have you end up yelling at them, you end up scolding them.

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And later on, you're like, what did I just do?

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I'm perhaps losing all of my good deeds because of the way I'm dealing with my mother or my father. It's possible. So Allah subhanaw taala says, Rob bukem Allah, your Lord is most knowing beam if he knew full cycle of what is in your hearts. Allah knows the intention in your heart. Allah knows what you're going through in your heart. Allah knows the situation that you're in.

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Rob, welcome. Arlen will be my fino Fusco, he is better known of your near

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in the corner, silent Hina. If you are righteous, meaning otherwise overall, in general, if you're righteous, if you're good, if you're obedient towards your parents, for inner who then indeed he Ghana, he is ever a little away, Sabina, for those who repeatedly turned to him. He is a photo he is forgiving.

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So what's the solution? Then?

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If out of hastiness, out of impatience, a person utters words of disrespect, then what should he do? He should turn to Allah immediately. A Webby and he should focus on being righteous overall, being beautiful overall. Because it's possible that you take care of your parents in every matter that you possibly can. But there's just one thing that really annoys you.

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One thing

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and because of that, sometimes you end up in an argument with them. You end up saying something that is disrespectful. So Allah knows the near in your heart, you don't mean to be disrespectful, you still respect them, you still adore them, you still love them. But after all, you are a human being. So if you make a mistake, and Allah is Forgiving to who a well being, and a web is who one who constantly returns repeatedly returns.

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One who constantly returns to Allah, that every time he realizes he has said something disrespectful, he goes and does his stuff. He goes and apologizes. He goes and says sorry.

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He does Toba. He seeks a lesson.

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forgiveness and he tries to be obedient to Allah in all circumstances in every situation.

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We see that there is no child at all, who has not fallen short in his duty towards his parents. No one can claim I have never disobeyed my parents.

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No one can claim that every person has done something or the other, that is disrespectful. That is not appropriate towards the spirits.

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But Allah subhanaw taala does not want that people should remain in guilt. He has given us a way out and what is that? What does that do?

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The moment you say something disrespectful,

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go and seek forgiveness from Allah. And try not to say that again.

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Make a promise not to say that again.

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Allah knows you were weak, that you after all, are also a human being. And sometimes we see that parents are very old, and the children also become old.

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Older children are looking after older parents, both are losing their patience. Both are losing their tolerance. Both are losing their strength. And in this there's a lot of conflict.

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There's a lot of disrespect, sometimes that happens, but what should the children try to do? Overall be righteous overall be concerned, overall Be respectful. And if sometimes, occasionally, something happens, go and seek forgiveness from a loss parameter.

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Because a less forgiving towards EU a will be.

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Similarly it happens that a person has been very disrespectful towards his parents. And he never realized and after years and years he realizes when he learns about the deen when he learns for and then he realizes that I have been so disobedient towards my parents. Then what should a person do remain in that guilt? What should you do

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to Toba? pray to Allah subhanaw taala for the parents. And similarly, sometimes children don't realize the value of parents until they themselves become parents, when their children disobey them. They think I used to do the same to my parents.

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When their children yell at them, they think even I yelled at my parents, and you feel that it's coming back to you.

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Then what do you need to do seek forgiveness from the last time because he is forgiving towards Ooh, a webbing those who constantly returned to him.

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So we see the beautiful teachings of already.

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That the parents they need to be respected and taken care of, at every stage of one's life. But especially when the parents are older.

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And in that, be extra careful.

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Accept that they have become old.

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Accept the way they are. Don't try to change them, change yourself.

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And don't say anything that could hurt them. Because remember all that they have done for you.

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Make the wrong for them. And if ever, you end up saying something disrespectful, go and seek forgiveness from Allah.

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We should also use good words when we are talking about our parents to other people.

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When the parents have become old, always look at things from their perspective.

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Always look at things from their perspective. Think about it, they're lonely, they're alone. They're ill.

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And always tell yourself, they become old. When they yell at you, when they say something that is unnecessary. When they give a comment that is very rude. And you feel so hurt, just tell yourself, they become old, they become old.

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Especially when it comes to girls. They get less time to spend with their parents.

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Because as soon as they have the ability to cook and clean their mothers, they train them why so that they can cook and clean for others. Right? So you get very little time overall, to spend with your parents to look after them. So why do you have the time? use it.

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Use it and when you don't pray for them.

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Let's listen to the recitation.

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Kareem

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these IR when we reflect upon them, we all need to reflect on our behavior with our parents.

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Sometimes it's possible that with our words, we may hurt them.

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Perhaps we don't agree with the way they have brought this up or the way they have taught us certain things. We may disagree with those things. But there's always a reason behind that.

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You don't know what they went through. You don't know what they wanted. And whatever they did to you was out of their love.

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So we all need to reflect on our behavior towards our parents, maybe our words, maybe our attitude, maybe our laziness, maybe our neglect, maybe it hurts them.

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What else are you thinking

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about some of the things that I had done when I was younger, I was apologizing. And even then they have such a forgiving manner. And she's continuously giving me excuses like, no, it was because you were younger, it was because you didn't know. And even that's

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exactly, that if they can give so many excuses for your bad behavior towards them. They can't tolerate it. Why can we tolerate a bit of their, you know, rudeness, or not even rudeness but a bit of their strictness when it comes to us? Or a bit of their when they get annoyed because of their old age? Why can we not tolerate that?

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When they have tolerated so much than Why can we not tolerate?

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Sometimes people think that yes, when we're older, when we're married than our parents, when they become old, then that is when we're supposed to treat them well. But the fact is that even at this age, many times we see our parents getting old. We see them getting white, here we see them becoming more ill. We see them becoming weak, weaker and weaker every day, which only makes us more responsible for taking care of them even more, for being extra gentle to them.

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Salaam Alaikum.

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I came here a long time ago, when I was young, I left my mom and I miss her so much. I wish I said

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now I have message for you to young kids. You really have to obey your mother, your father, they're really treasured.

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Just the gift of looking at your parents everything.

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My mom when she talked to me in the fall

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when she said this, okay, don't worry, we're gonna see each other. So this message for you, you have to obey them don't even say off to them, please.

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We read that we have been given many blessings by Allah subhanaw taala. But unfortunately, we don't read through them. We don't appreciate them as much.

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And of the biggest blessings that every single person has been given is what his own parents,

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his mother and his father.

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So before it's too late, we should value these blessings.

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We should appreciate them for all that they have done for us. For everything that they've got us every day, every moment that they have spent with us in every penny they have spent on us

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for our good out of their love for us. And because of this we should continuously pray for them.

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If we cannot see them every day, we can make the offer them every day.

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Hope you're humble Nakamura

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to make sure this is a part of your daily drawers.

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Remember your parents and pray for them.

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Whether they're alive, whether they're with you, whether they're healthy, or they're ill or they're old, no matter what they're doing where they are, make the offer them.

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And scholars have said that Robert McNamara by any sarila This is a draw that should also be made for parents who are not Muslim. As long as they're alive, you should make the offer them

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because that is a mercy that they need from Allah, the mercy of hedaya guidance.

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So make sure you make this URL for your parents every single day. Because what they have done for you, you can never make up for that.

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Kareem

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was