Channel: Taimiyyah Zubair
Al-Isra 23-35 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 23
I was going to share the line ojima smilla rahmanir rahim lesson number 143 syllable israa ayah number 23 to 35.
walkabout buka Allah Budo Illa Yahoo and your Lord has decreed that you are not worship except him. You must not worship anyone but him. Because if you do worship anyone but him then what's going to happen
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Kava Kava is from the root veterus have bought. Yeah.
And Kava literally is to pass a judgement to pass a judgement between two opposing parties. But it's such a judgment that is definite that is going to be executed. Because if Callie is someone who is a judge who has authority to implement his decision as well.
So although meaning he has decreed, he has decided, this is a must do. He has not left a choice for us with regards to these matters.
This is a fact. Why'd you mandatory upon us we don't have a choice with regards to this.
If we are asked to do something, then we have a choice of either doing it or leaving it. But when it has been decided, when a law has been passed, when a rule has been made, then there is no choice left to the people.
Similarly, when Allah uses the word Kaaba over here, what does it mean? That this is a must we don't have a choice with regards to this. walkabout aboukir your Lord has decreed what has decreed another boo Illa Yahoo that you do not worship anyone except him.
Meaning that you should only worship him without any partners or any associates because he cannot do what he can history.
And remember that everybody, it includes various types of worship,
whether it is physical,
through one's button.
Like for example, a person performs ritual worship, such as said that he prostrates to another he's using his body to worship the other. Similarly rabada also includes worship through one's man through one's wealth. Like for example, a person sacrifices an animal for the sake of the idle or for the sake of the one whom he worships, or he gives, he gives charity to the poor. So every act of worship should be done exclusively for who Allah subhana
wa What better way to Danny and with the two parents, both of them meaning the mother and the father, what should be done, if son an utmost good, how? By being dutiful to them,
by being respectful towards them, by being obedient to them
by treating them well.
So Allah has commanded us that we must treat our parents well. We must be dutiful towards them. We must do listen to them.
In my humble ohana, if they definitely reach, if at all, they reach you from the roof veterus bat lamb line below to reach and they overhear first of the two parents are in Dhaka near you. Meaning in your presence while they are living with you.
While they are in your own house, you are looking after them.
If your parents they reach while they are with you in your life and Kibera the old age
al Kiba from New fetters calf Bella and it means old age, literally it means to be big and from this it is used for someone who is elderly.
So, if your parents reach old age, when they are living with you,
or old age, especially as mentioned, because at this age, what happens
the position of parents is reversed from those who are looking after the children to those who are being looked after by the children.
When children are younger, who looks after them, parents, but when the parents are older, then they are looked after by the children.
So this is especially mentioned over here because the role, the position has been changed.
So if they reach old age while they're with you,
I had a woman, one of them too, meaning one of the two parents, either the father or the mother. And it's only one of them who is with you.
It's not that both the parents are living with you, your mother only is living with you or your father only is living with you and the other parent has passed away.
And again, this is especially mentioned because when parents have become old, and they have lost their spouse, the mother has lost her husband, or the Father has lost his wife, then they are more dependent on you.
They are more dependent on their children. They demand more attention, more love more time.
Because before they had their wife, or they had their husband, who they could speak to, they could talk to, they could go out with. They could do many things with them. But now they're alone.
They're alone. And the only close relatives that they have are Who? The children. So if one of them is alive, he is living with you, or Kyla Homer, both of them. Meaning both your mother and father are with you. And they reach old age with you, meaning near you.
The word killer human killer is actually a move for the word meaning it's not the duel form of another word.
You understand? Like for example, me name is a dual form of what movement. But Kyla is not the dual form of something. Just as the word comb is not the plural form of another word. But the word Kiera gives the meaning of destiny.
So one of them or both of them.
And they are old, they're living with you. Then how should you be towards them?
For that the call then do not say lahoma to them to mean to any of them do neither the mother nor the Father. Don't say to them ofin of do not even say off to them. Especially when they have become old. Because when they have become old, then even the word of hurts them a lot.
It is enough to hurt them for days. So don't even say
the word of is actually a now
and it's a Kadima cara, it's a word of contempt.
It's a word that expresses disgust
that a person uses to express dislike, to express his frustration to express the constriction of the heart. When a person is unhappy, when a person is not comfortable, he becomes irritated. He becomes annoyed. What does he say? of
and in the Arabic language there's a word of similarity there is a word of
but in the English language, for example, what kind of words do people use?
Oh, though, man, people use many words. Very tiny words, if you think of it, isn't it?
What is this? A slight expression,
doing different things or saying different words if you look at it, all of them, they're very small. Very small words off is also very small. But it's enough to hurt someone.
It's enough to show your frustration. It's enough to show your annoyance to show the constriction of your heart.
It is said that the word off literally means it is used for everything that is filthy, that is dirty and is worthy of being disliked.
It is said that oath is dirt that gets stuck on one's hands. Like for example, if a person constantly works with you know machinery or works as a mechanic or something like that, then what will happen
is cuticles will constantly be dirty.
There will be dirt that is fixed constantly in the cuticles or in the skin right there no matter how much he washes his hands, that dirt does not go away.
And if you see them offering you some food with those hands.
How do you feel?
You don't want to take it
even if they've just washed their hands. But because that little bit of filth is still attached to their hands. It's still stuck. You don't want anything from their hands.
Similarly, it is said that it is used for the dirt that is under one's nails.
To understand dirt that is under one's nails.
If you see someone offering you some food with such hands, would you like to accept it?
It's very tiny amount of filth and it's under the nails. But still, it's enough to disgust you.
Similarly, it's also used for a nail clipping.
Like somebody is cutting their nails, and the nail clippings are everywhere.
If you see a nail clipping, even on the floor,
what do you think? Yeah. Right, if you see it on your bed, if you see it on the table, you feel disgusted.
Even if it's your own nails,
it's going to disgust you.
Similarly, it's also used for earwax.
If you see a dirty q tip,
if you think what are the earwax, the nail clipping the dirt under the nails, the dirt, which is stuck on the hands, it's very tiny. And it's not even that filthy. If you look at it. It's not that filthy, but it's enough to disgusting, it's worthy of being disliked. It's not something that is clean, it's not something that should be spoken about. It's not something that people show to other people.
You're supposed to throw these things away, you're not supposed to display them.
So the word of it conveys the sense of filler, something that is very tiny. And it also conveys a sense of hair color
or something that is very disgusting, very insignificant, very filthy, something that should not be like something that is not worth any appreciation.
And figuratively, the word is used to express the disgust that one has towards something or toward someone.
So Allah subhanaw taala says that when they have reached old age, one of them, or both of them,
do not even say
do not even say the slightest word of dislike, the smallest word of contempt. The smallest word that expresses frustration,
do not let them hear anything offensive from you.
Even if it's very tiny, even if it's not a big deal.
Even if you say those words to other people dare not say those words to your old parents.
Don't ever say such words to your parents. If off is not allowed, you think something bigger would be allowed?
If off is not permissible? Then yelling at them. How is that permissible?
talking back at them. How is that permissible? shouting at them, scolding them as if they're a little children. How is that acceptable? When Allah says let the Coloma often don't even say of.
And if you look at it, that don't even say off to them. Look at the literal meaning of the word of that. Showing bad behavior to words, once parents is such a cheap thing to do.
It's such an ungrateful thing to do. It's as if somebody is throwing their own nail clippings at someone.
If somebody throws their nail clippings at someone, if somebody takes some wax out of their ears and throws it at the other, how do you think about that person?
They're so ungrateful. They're so mean. They're so disrespectful. They're so cheap, they're disgracing themselves.
Because when a person throws a nail clipping at the other, who is he degrading himself, that he doesn't even have the decency to throw something that is worth something.
It shows the indecency of a purse
that there are so disrespectful they don't have any self respect, they don't have any respect for other people,
especially their parents. Therefore, in your attitude in your behavior in your dealing, we should not show anything that is equal to that of a nail clipping either
always be respectful towards your parents
wallet and her humor and do not propel them.
Then how from the root letters noon Hara and now is to cause something to flow and it is also to drive something away. And how what is unhealthy rivers streams because in it the water is constantly flowing and the water is being driven away.
And from this word is also used for scolding someone.
But what kind of scolding
This is a sagittal Hurley's to scold someone severely harshly.
This includes yelling at someone shouting at someone being rude to them in speech, speaking loudly we learn in sort of what a masala fella then so Allah says whether than her home and do not even scold them, do not yell at them.
What Paloma, then what should you say?
Because if you think about it in old age, parents become extremely sensitive.
They become extremely demanding. If you're not allowed to sit off, if you're not allowed to yell at them, then what are you supposed to say to them?
Allah says good say to them lahoma to both of them the mother and the father. olan a word that is Kadima that is respectful, that is honorable
Kareem is from the root letter scaffold ami and column is actually used for a grapevine
because near the Arabs, the grapevine was something very delicate, very fragile, and also very elegant
compared to all other plants. And from this, if the nobility if the quality of something was to be shown, the word Khurram would be used. So when you speak to them, say words that are khadim that are innumerable, that are respectful, that are decent, civilized, and they should be decent in both manner as well as content
manner as well as content.
In the site, we see that Allah subhanaw taala has given two comments to us. What are they
worshiping Allah subhanaw taala alone and secondly, the good treatment of parents.
What does it show to us? That after the right of the last panel data, the greatest right from amongst people, is of who? The parents. Yes, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam that is when it comes to his obedience following his Sunnah we're talking about when dealing with people when dealing with people. So when dealing with people the greatest right is a who is of one's parents. And we see that both of these comments worshipping Allah alone and being beautiful to one's parents. They're mentioned many many times in the Quran together. For instance, in total Baccarat 83 we learn what is a hardened army sir Bani Israel in letter buena Illallah, WA, Arizona
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So, both of these commands are mentioned together at many places in the class.
And with regards to the good treatment of parents, certain commands are given over here.
And what are they that first of all, when they have reached old age, then do not utter words of disrespect.
Do not utter words of annoyance, so much as even if
and if something as minor as offer is not allowed than something greater than that is definitely not allowed, is definitely not permissible.
Secondly, another command that is given is Latin herma.
Do not scold them, do not yell at them.
Thirdly, that when you speak to them, always address them with honor, with gentleness with politeness with respect, this should be your behavior in front of your parents.
We see that your son towards variance is necessary at all times.
When a person is young, and also when a person is older. When a person is single, and also when they are married. When a person does not have children, and also when they have children and also when they have grandchildren
at all times their son towards parents is necessary. It's an obligation upon us. But especially what is mentioned over here that be extra nice towards them when they have become old.
Because when people become old, they become like children.
Physically, as well as emotionally, physically, they become dependent on you. You never had to cook for them. Now you have to cook for them. You never had to serve them food. But now you have to serve them food. You perhaps never did their laundry. But now you have to do their laundry before you never had to help them.
around the house, but now you have to manage the house herself.
Physically, they become like children, they become weak, and even emotionally, how that sometimes they behave just like children, they become extremely demanding. They want more attention from you. They want more time from you, they get irritated very quickly. They don't want no for an answer.
If they don't understand something, they get extremely annoyed, they become extremely impatient with you, the level of their patience reduces. And this is a sign of old age.
We must understand this, because many times we don't realize that our parents are aging, they're becoming old.
We think of our parents as people who are old enough to have some sense, to behave properly, to be realistic to be logical, and we forget that they have become old. Which is why if sometimes they get irritable, we cannot understand what's wrong with them.
If sometimes they get annoyed at what you said, we don't understand why they're behaving like that. We notice them changing, we see them changing, they themselves feel that they have changed, and other people also feel that they have changed. Why have they changed? It's because they have become old.
This is why they have changed.
And remember, many times, we don't realize that our parents have changed because they have become old. And we do not treat them properly anymore.
We need to treat them properly. We need to be respectful towards them, extract tolerant with them. If you think about it, if a child, he becomes impatient,
he becomes annoyed at the smallest of things. You can easily discipline the child, isn't it? So
if a child becomes very demanding, you can say no.
I'm not going to get this for you. If they rebel, you say go for your timeout. Right? You can do many things to discipline the child. But an older parent, can you do that with them?
Can you discipline them the way you discipline your child? Can you speak to them the way you speak to your child? No. and dealing with children is so difficult. But dealing with older parents requires much more patience. It requires much more effort.
This is why Allah subhanaw taala is saying let the hula hula often don't even say to them. What happened her mama, don't yell at them.
Don't scold them
realize that they have become gold.
And what they need from you is love.
What they need from you is care some time some attention that you help them. you assess them. Not that you begin to yell at them that you begin to say what's wrong with your mom? What's wrong with you that that you expect me to work and you don't do anything yourself? No. Latin haha.
Sir, either men will say you. He said with regards to Boko lahoma, Colin Karima. That Colin Kareem towards old parents is Allah Allah, the Muslim, let's say hidden false.
That this is like the speech of a guilty servant to his harsh muster.
If a person has a boss who is very harsh, very rude, very strict,
and he makes a mistake.
The employee makes a mistake. You're working for that boss and you make a mistake. It's really your mistake.
How will you talk to that Master? How will you talk to that boss, you will choose your words very carefully.
Right? You will be very gentle, extremely respectful.
You will change yourself,
You will accept that they are harsh. They will be the way they are going to be. I have to change myself. This is how we need to be with our parents.
Accept that they have become old.
Accept that their patience has reduced.
Accept that they are more irritable now.
Accept that their body is hurting that they are suffering from illness. They're suffering from loneliness. They're getting depressed. Accept this
and change yourself accordingly.
Don't expect them to change. Change yourself.
Many times we put an effort to change our parents.
We want them to change but the fact is they're not going to change they become old
their habits of reconfirm you need to change yourself
and accept them the way they are.
Which I had said that when parents reach old age, then do not feel irritation.
Because when they become old, they demand things from you. They demand more time for you. They have such requests that are very illogical. Like, for example, they want that, if, for example, their computer is not working, they want it to be fixed within a day.
If their internet is not working, they want it to be fixed within an hour less than that. They want their phone to be working. And they find it difficult to operate these things themselves, isn't it? And you get irritated? What's wrong with you? Why don't you get it simple technology. You just have to press the button you have to go here you have to go there. It's simple. It's foolproof, but still our parents find it difficult.
What do we want, they should change, but the fact is that you have to change. Don't expect them to change. Because Allah subhanaw taala is telling us that we cannot say off, we cannot yell at them. And we have to speak to them with good words.