Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 05 – L063E

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The importance of acknowledging past mistakes and avoiding false excuses is emphasized, as well as the need for privacy in public and private networks. The lack of good conversations is due to lack of privacy and lack of communication, as well as hesitation leading to embarrassment and negative consequences on one's behavior and reputation. Personal privacy is also crucial, especially in private conversations where personal information is discussed in public. The segment emphasizes the need for privacy in public, especially in private conversations, where personal information is discussed in public.
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have him in the shade

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over him.

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That's the number 63. I am number 114.

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Now how your FICO feed him in Nigeria home, there is no good in much of their private conversations.

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In the previous if we learned about the incident of Burma, and how he had committed theft, and he had accused a Jewish man of having committed that theft,

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and how he and his people, because of their eloquence, because of the way that they presented their case, they almost convinced the prophets that allowed them to make a decision against the Jews and in their favor.

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And that story, because of that many lessons were taught. For instance, what were some of the lessons that we learned from the is that we have read so far?

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That instead of just believing everything that a person says, investigate research, but in particular, what do we learn from the eye on the eye that will reveal

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that a person may be able to cheat himself, a person may be able to cheat other people, he may be able to deceive other people, but he cannot deceive.

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You can commit a sin cheat others lie to them hide the reality from them. But can a person hide from the last panel data? No, he cannot. Every single thing is being recorded and Allah is watching. And at the end of the day, Allah is the one who's going to give us recompense for every action that we do.

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What else do we learn

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the importance of accepting your mistakes.

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And the fact is that if initially we accept our mistake, then it's much better. It's much easier instead of delaying and deferring. Because the more we delay, the more lies we have to come up with, the more excuses we have to come up with. And it leads to more since one small thing leads to many more sense.

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Now, when this incident happened, just imagine if somebody does something wrong, and he's accusing someone. Now, with his friends, he is going to be discussing things.

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And they're also going to be a lot of private conversations, secret talks.

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So over here, loss of data says that in most of their private conversations, there is absolutely no good at all lahiru there is no good fee copied and managed.

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There is no good in most of their whisperings. Why?

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Why? Because if you think of it, secret talks, private conversations, what do we talk about? Typically,

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it's about biting.

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It's something that the other person would not like. So the higher of equity The minute you are home.

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And the word natural has been said over here, the word natural is when the root factor is known gene well. And natural is derived from the word network.

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A network is a high place. What is it? I place? A place that is distinct from its surrounding areas. Why?

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Because it's very high.

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So similarly, when you choose someone to have a private conversation with What are you doing, you're selecting them above others.

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Like, for example, if there's a group of people sitting together, and you decide that you're going to whisper into your friend's ear, only, then what is it, you're preferring her over everybody else? You're going to tell her something that you're not telling everybody else?

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And ultimately think of it people who were doing najwa generally, what do they think that they cannot be seen? They cannot be seen, nobody noticed them.

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Like, for example, if we're sending a text message during class, or talking to our friend or nudging, we think that nobody can see us. But the fact is that a lot of people can see.

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So the person who is doing that, why he thinks that he's hidden. In fact, he is at a high place, he becomes distinct, and he becomes visible. So a person thinks that he's deceiving others, but he's not actually deceiving others.

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So network is do you have a private conversation with someone a secret talk with someone confidential, to confide a secret

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sauce over here? Allah says lehle Africa theorem in Nigeria home most of their najwa are void of any good. Most of their networks are void of any good. They're devoid of hype. Why? Because generally in network, what do people talk about? Something bad about others, something bad about others.

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Or it's about nine or it's about fabricating things. It's about coming.

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with false excuses, coming up with a false story to hide one's crime, so most of their najwa are avoided.

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In law except me, except for the measure of who? Man, Mr. Rob is at the cutting of the one who commanded without

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meaning the one who in network in a private conversation, what is he doing? He is commanding his friend, he's ordering his friend to give sadaqa.

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Why? Is he commanding his friend to give soda in private? Why not in public? Why is he telling him secretly give sadaqa? Here? Why, what's the reason? What do you think?

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because it protects the honor of who? The recipient of the sadhaka?

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Because if publicly you say, oh, why don't you give sadaqa to so and so person, if you say publicly what's going to happen?

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the poverty of the poor person is going to be revealed, and he is going to be humiliated before people

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or my roofing something good.

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Meaning, or the Nigeria of the one who commands my roof in a private conversation?

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What is marble? marble, is everything that is approved by the Sharia, everything that is approved by the Sharia. So it applies to the obligations, the Ferrari. So for example, telling someone to praise foreigner, telling someone to do something good to speak the truth, correcting someone's mistake, because our will maruf is what somebody is doing something wrong, or somebody is not doing something good. And you tell them to do that, which is good. So it includes ordering someone to do right. And it also includes correcting someone's mistake. Now, why should this be done in an agile? Why?

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Because if you correct someone's mistake publicly, they might feel humiliated before people.

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Because sometimes really, people don't realize what they're doing. They don't know what they're doing is wrong. So if they're humiliated in public, if they're corrected in public, it's going to be an insult for them.

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So Oh, my roofing. Oh, is lacking vainness? Or reconciliation between people? Meaning or the natural of the one who does Islam between people?

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What does it mean by this Islamic maintenance? Many times people, they end up in arguments, they end up having fights with one another, and they stop talking to one another. relatives, friends, small argument, and that's it. I'm not talking to you, and you don't talk to me. So if a person privately, secretly goes to someone, and he says, Why don't you forget the other? It's okay, no big deal. Just go talk to them.

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So this is an actual, it's a private conversation. But he's doing this private conversation, why, in order to reconcile between people. So this is something that is good.

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And notice the word anass has been used over here. And as has been used over here.

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So all people, whether they're your relatives, or they're just your friends, or just someone whom you are aware of Islamic embeddedness because it's something that is very virtuous.

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Well, my dear friend, Danica, and whoever does that does what,

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what Nigeria, for the purpose of I'm going to be sadhaka or maruf, or Islamic embeddedness. Whoever does that. Why? AB de la amaravati law

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in order to see the pleasure of Allah, the approval of Allah,

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nothing of the worldly benefits, but rather he is doing this sincerely for the sake of a loss of panel data for sofa and D, then soon we shall give him a general alima a great reward.

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So what do we learn from this ayah?

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First of all, we learn that most private conversations are void of any good. If we look at the most private and secret conversations that we have, with our friends, with our family members, in which we are whispering, in which we close the door, we make sure nobody's listening. We speak in a whisper in a hush. We look around, we make sure that the other person is not listening. What are we generally talking about?

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Think about the last time that you had a private conversation with someone in which you were whispering in which you made sure that the door was closed, and nobody was listening to you. Or you're whispering on the phone. Think about it. What was it that we were talking about? What was it that the other person was saying?

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Many times, this includes LIBOR, backbiting

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and what is backbiting? Vic Coker a Hawker B macro dimension your brother

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In a way that he would dislike,

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to mention something about your brother, that he would dislike being discussed being spoken off.

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So, if, for example, you are telling somebody about how you know, I don't like the way my mother logs,

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I don't like the way she cooks food, I don't like the gift that you brought for me. We think this is not a lever. This is a fact. But if you say this to your mother in law, she's gonna like it.

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And she's going to like it.

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She said this to me today. Would you say it on their face? No. Would you like it? No. So what is it? It's a lever. And if we think of it, most of our private conversations, this is what they revolve around. We make sure that doors are closed. nobody's listening. Similarly, when we're texting, when we are having, you know, an online chat conversation with someone, what are they about? Most of the times, or are they about

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there is no height. And no height means doesn't mean that it's sinful, necessarily, but no height. I mean, it's, it's useless. There's no benefit, no benefit of dunia. No benefit of being no benefit of acid.

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Really, if you think about it, sometimes in our conversation, what are we talking about? What are we talking about how the food was, what you did, where you went, what she said what they said, and at the end of the two hours you spent talking, summarize that and see what good was there in it for you, for your dean for your dounia for your after? no benefit whatsoever.

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So this is why we learn that whisperings generally they are disliked and everything najwa is something that is disliked nowadays.

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Why because a person should be open and clear. And you should not hide something.

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if something should be hidden from someone that it's not worth mentioning. It's not worth talking about. If you want to say to your mother and not that I don't like the food that you cook, then it's not worth mentioning to your friend that you don't like your mother in law's food. It's not worth mentioning it's not worth talking about.

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So a person should be open and clear. He should not hide things.

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And whispering in general what does it create bad thoughts? Bad suppositions? And if two people are whispering What do you think? They must be talking about me? See, they're always doing this. They don't like me they're always talking against me. So this is why we learn that whisperings generally they are disliking our team because they lead to facade they lead to sin.

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Last printwriter says yeah you alladhina amanu in Atlanta Jaden falletta tornado bill believes me when it when all you have believed when you Converse privately, then do not converse about sin and aggression when more assertive assume and disobedience to the messenger. So then what should you discuss in private because everybody loves to have private conversations. People love to go online and check and send text messages to others

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with an edge Oh been busy with the color but converse about righteousness and piety. What the colada and Lady Illa hitter Sharon and fear alike to whom you will be gathered

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in total Medina Island and 10. This was a reference the I continued that the next is that in the Menagerie, I'm going to show you one private conversation is only from shape one, meaning he is the one who inspires it to people. Why Leah has una Latina Amano, so that he may grieve those people who have believed that the believers think that they're talking about us, and they feel bad

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when they say goodbye to him, but he will not harm them at all in any way except by the permission of Allah and Allah affiliate or killing minion upon Allah, should the believers arise if two people are really having a private conversation, don't assume that they're talking about you. Trust upon Allah.

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We also learn from this ayah that a person he may advise someone secretly, he may enjoin, sadaqa to someone in private. Why in order to conceal the poverty and the need of the other person

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we learned earlier in terms of Bukhara that we're into full health, or to * for Korra for

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that, if you can see the South Africa and if you give this other color to the poor in that way, for who are hierarchical, then it's better for you.

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We also learned that if a person he advises and other of something good in privacy, it is better.

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advising someone in privacy is much better. Why? Because telling them in public might be insulting.

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Telling them in public might be insulting.

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So for instance, if you go somewhere and your child is misbehaving, what are you going to do? start yelling at him in public? Why are you doing this and you're always doing this and I told you so many times

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And to sit here and don't move, this is what you should do. If you do that, what is that going to lead to? The child is going to answer back eventually, he's not going to respect you, you don't respect him, he's not going to respect you.

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So in this case, what's the best thing, leave that place, take your child with you go to the car, sit him down and explain. And if you start insulting him in public, they're never going to like it.

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And it's not just with children, even with older people, even with older people, nobody likes to be corrected in public. Sometimes, if it is necessary, because it's urgent, then a person may do so appropriately.

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Like, for example, in the classroom, if somebody is doing something that is completely unacceptable, and they're disturbing everybody else, so it is okay for the teacher to correct them. Why? Because at that time, I cannot say, can you please come to me and then whisper in their ear, it's not appropriate. But if it's urgent, and if it's extremely important, and through that, other people need to be taught as well, then that is correct, it is appropriate. But generally, it is good to advise someone to do

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in private.

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We also learned that a person may advise for Islam in private, because if he does so openly, it may lead up to arguments which may worsen the situation.

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So for example, two people, they had an argument, now you're trying to fix things between them. Both of them are sitting there not talking to one another. Now you go, and you start saying, oh, why are you so upset? Okay, what did she say? And what did you say? And now, both of them instead of listening to you, you know, it's going to spark another argument, what's the safest thing to do? Talk to them in private on one on one basis first, and then discuss the situation later. But you can't go and discuss every time. It's better to go private.

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The Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, should I not tell you something which is better than fasting, the Salah, and better than giving in charity, and obviously, this fasting, the Salah, and the sadaqa is voluntary.

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And the people asked, of course, and he said, to reconcile between people, to reconcile between people, that is much better, much better than voluntary, fasting, voluntary, and voluntary. So that

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is Lahu that they bring in reconciliation between people.

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We also learn from this about the importance of Islam. Where do we learn that from

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a bit of our moral battle, that a person may be doing the best of actions, the most important of actions, but if his knee is incorrect, then that action is worthless, maybe during the greatest athletes, but without his loss, they are worthless.

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Now, why is the class needed for you know najwa? For good najwa? Why is the class needed for good najwa? If you think of it, what's the relationship?

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Like, for example, you are talking to someone in private, telling them to forgive the other person for the purpose of Islam?

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Why is Islam necessary? Because in this situation, you can think, Oh, I'm so good. And trying to Islam between people, a person can easily do it here. And if you think of it, this is a private conversation. And even in a private conversation the person can do here, just before one person just before one person and it can destroy his action. So this shows to us how important Islam is. That even in the most hidden actions, we have to make sure that our near is sincerely for the sake of Allah.

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