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Al-Imran 156-168 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 156-159
Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim.
We learned from the previous ayah that the sins that we commit, sometimes they come in our way of obtaining our goals of being successful in achieving what we want for ourselves.
Imam Shafi he wants to complain to his teacher about his bad memory. And bad memory is something very dangerous for a scholar, as well as a student of knowledge. If you can't memorize, if you can't learn, and that's something that you're supposed to be doing full time, then you're not obtaining your goal. You're not being successful in what you want.
So he mentioned that incident in a poultry farm. And he said, check out our Kiri sua Heffley.
Check out, meaning I complained to work here meeting my teacher of super heavily my bad memory for OSHA, Danny in Tokyo.
Then he instructed me He guided me to leaving since
barani be another ilma neuron. And he informed me that knowledge is new layer of earlier on see it is not given to someone who is disobedient.
So the sense that we commit, they become hurdles in being successful in gaining knowledge, in retaining knowledge in applying knowledge, especially they become hurdles for the student of knowledge.
So yes, we need to try hard. But at the same time, we also need to seek forgiveness, we also need to do is to fall and at the same time, we also need to check ourselves that if we're doing something wrong, we must stop because maybe it's because of our wrong deeds, our wrong actions that our last presenter is depriving us of what we want so bad. It's possible.
Lesson number 51. Sooner or later one by 156 to 168.
Yeah, you are Latina, Manu, all you who have believed Lacuna Coil Latina. cafaro Do not be like those people who have disbelieved.
We'll call it a whiny him. And they said about their brothers, either Babu Phil or Lee. Okay, and who was
when they travel through the land or went out to fight? What did they say about their brothers? Locarno or Indiana motto? One I have to tell you, if they had been with us, they would not have died or have been killed.
Yeah, you've alladhina amanu. The believers are being addressed over here.
And whenever Allah subhanaw taala addresses the Muslims with this, that all you people who have been, what does it show that observing this command, observing this instruction is a part of your event? And if you leave it, if you ignore it, what does it show? What does it mean? That there is some deficiency in the amount of the person? So if you're truly believers, then you must do this or you must stay away from this.
So what's the instruction being given over here? left a coup? Do not become Do not be like who can Latina cafaro like those people who have disbelieved and Latina cafo. Over here first are the hypocrites. It refers to them when African
those who stayed back from the Battle of Earth, who did not go along with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and the Muslims for the Battle of Earth and they stayed behind it one, as we learned earlier, that 300 of them when they went back to Medina, why are they being called alladhina cafaro. they pretended to be believers. Why hasn't it been said those people who are hypocrites? Why is copper been used? Because such people, they do coffee in the corner of Allah soprano, in the decree of Allah.
So those people who display Don't be like them. Don't be like the hypocrites.
A person resembled another either in his appearance. Sometimes he resembles another through his actions, through his statements through his beliefs. Over here, don't be like them, meaning don't resemble them in speech. Don't say what they say. Because if you speak like them, if you talk like them, then what does it mean? You are like them.
You are like them. So don't resemble them. Don't be like them. And don't say such statements.
We'll call Julie, whiny him. And they said to their brothers, meaning the hypocrites are Latina. cafaro they said about their brothers.
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gives the meaning of about. It doesn't mean to, but gives meaning of about and what it one is the plural of What does mean, brother? And who is brotherhood? And remember what Brotherhood is of three types? First of all, in NASA?
What is it in nessa? What does it mean in lineage? People are from the same tribe. They belong to the same family, their biological brothers. And even if they're not brothers, they're cousins. So, in that sense, relatives, they're called brothers of one another. People of the same tribe, they're known as brothers of one another. Secondly, who is indeed,
in religion, when people are from the same religion, when they follow the same Dean, they're known as brothers who feel Islam Brotherhood in Islam, you say, this is my sister, that is my brother, whereas they're not actually your sister.
Why do you say that? Because you share the same religion.
And the third type of who is in my word, in love and friendship,
that because of love and friendship, sometimes two people, they become like, brothers, or they become like sisters.
Over here, we'll call only one him and the third about their brothers, which brothers, these brothers could be in NASA, in the same lineage, because as we learned that 66, unsolved 66 unsolved, they got martyred in the Battle of God.
So the people of Medina, among whom were hypocrites, they were their relatives, they belong to the same tribe, either the house or the husbands. So they said about their brothers, either in NASA, or in
in hypocrisy in the same arcada.
What did they say about them? And when did they say about them?
When they traveled in the year, who traveled in the earth, their brothers traveled India. Why did they travel, for trade, in search of livelihood, or for some other purpose? Either a little goofing off. And when they were on their journey when they were traveling, they died. They passed away.
Metal has not been mentioned over here, but it is implied by the context. It adorable fell off and they died in their journey. Okay, no was it or their brothers were fighters? The word of wisdom is the plural of Boise. And who is Boise, a fighter from the word husband, Irvine say? Well, the word the first word is used for a battle. It is used for a war. And
halsy or reservoir is also used for a raiding party. Jose is also used for a raiding party, a group of people that read
from the same author word has worked. In our area, it is used for those battles in which the profits are a lot of them participated himself.
There were many other battles or there were many other comebacks that took place between the Muslims and the machine. However, only those in which the prophets or a lot of them participated himself. They're known as was
so kind of loser or they were fighters meaning or they went out for battle, and hence they died in the battle.
Now, if you notice over here, eval Babu, Phil O'Connor was
either the word either What does it mean? What does it mean? When there is another word that also means when which is very similar to this, it
also means when, but there is a difference between the two.
It is used for the events of the past is to reduce when you were ascending when you were flying away, is him up for if and when the two groups intended. So it is used for the events that have occurred in the past. And either indicates about those events that occur in the future. For instance, he that and he will say, when the help of Allah in victory will come.
Now, eval durable, Phil O'Connor was horrible for cannabis. Isn't this an event of past? They died, right? So it's past? Why is it being used either as being used to show that this is the reaction of the hypocrites? Every time this happens,
whether it happened in the past or it happens now or it will happen in the future. This is the reaction of the hypocrites. It is not just the reaction of the hypocrites that existed at the time of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. But this is something that is common amongst all people who have NFL amongst all people who deny the father of a loss.
This is the typical reaction of such people. not limited to the past, but also in
The future, that whenever their companions, whenever their friends, whenever they're brothers, when they go out to travel in the earth, and they die in that journey, or they go for battle, and hence they're killed over there. What do they say? What is the reaction of the hypocrites, low Canyon or Indiana, they say that if our brothers were with us, meaning if they had been at home with us, Mama too, they wouldn't have died when makuti do, nor would they have been killed.
So in other words, they think that their friends or their brothers have died only because they were traveling or only because they went out in the wave of Las panatela. And if they had stayed at home, they would not have died. Why did they say this out of hustle out of regret, and out of condolence, meaning to offer condolence to each other.
And typically, if you look at it, when somebody passes away, what is the reaction of people?
Had she not gone there?
Had he not gone there? Had they listened to us, but whatever has to happen, has happened. This is the reaction of someone who does not believe in the Divine Decree of Allah subhanaw taala. And who does the last Panther call them he says alladhina careful
that they say, if they were with us at home, Mama to woman,
later on along with Africa, so that Allah makes that Leah Jaga
left over here gives a meaning of consequence, meaning as a result, what happens? This statement that they say, what does it become? Clear data low danika. What does that equal refer to? It refers to the statement that low can bring that up mama to mama cookie, and a person's speech. What does it reflect?
What does it reflect his belief, what is in the heart. So their liquor does not just refer to the statement that they have uttered. But it also refers to their belief, their thinking, which they have expressed in regret about the death of their brothers that had been with them, they wouldn't have died. So this belief, this statement, what happens to it, Allah subhanaw taala makes it has threatened to be a regret in their hearts. It remains as a hustler in their hearts as a means of grief and sorrow and distress.
The word hustler is from the roof veterans housing law. And hassle literally means to get tired, to get tired to suffer from fatigue. And hassle is used for regret. Why? Because when a person regrets, he eventually gets tired. Because his regretting his crime. His complaining does not change anything, does not change anything at all. The only thing that happens is that he becomes tired, he gets tired.
And Hassan is used for a shutdown Madonna. Extreme regret over something. It is to express regret and sadness over something that has already happened and it cannot be changed. And a person wishes for its opposite meaning he wishes that something that had happened had not happened, or something that did not happen should have happened. So he wishes for the opposite.
So Allah subhanaw taala makes this a hassle in their hearts. What does it mean by this? First of all, it means that this misconception or this wrong belief, this thinking that they have, it remains as a hustla in their hearts, meaning it only brings them grief and sorrow. It only adds to their sorrow, it only adds to their greed.
It doesn't make the state of their hearts any better.
You see, if a person has suffered from something, for example, the death of a close family member.
It is just constantly complaining. Why did she go Why did she go she shouldn't have gone? Is it gonna change anything? No.
And these statements are only going to add to her grief, isn't it? They're only going to add to their grief they're not going to change anything. So it remains as a hassle in such a person's heart, adding to his grief, adding to his sorrow and not changing anything. Whereas another person when they suffer from a loss and they say another lucky way nearly Roger God Allah Masha, Allah. Yes, they do feel sad at the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did Upon the death of his son. But what did he say? That nothing that displeases My Lord will come out of the mouth. When a person is like this when he reacts in this way, but eventually he finds comfort. Eventually he feels content.
But if a person continues to complain, continues to feel negative and sad then what happens? It only adds to his sadness.
Secondly, it has been said that Leah Girard along with Erica Hassan feel good to be in this household at first do they regret later on meaning on the Day of Judgment, they will regret that they had not said such statements
will love who you're here where you need and Allah gives life and he gives that and it's up to him. where, when and how he wishes to give death to someone.
It is Allah who gives life and he who gives that it's not certain places, it's not certain events that give you life or that give you that know. Allah subhanaw taala is the one who gives life and who gives that.
So nothing that a person can do. can prevent life and nothing that a person can do can prevent death will love will be met or maluna mislead and Allah is of whatever that you're doing. He is seeing meaning he is watching your every reaction. Every reaction of yours olanzapine of that is watching.
We see that belief Eman in decree. In other words, in Divine Decree of Allah subhanaw taala is a part of human There are six articles of faith. Right. And one of them is to believe in
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And that includes that a person believes that whatever he has, whether it is health, or sickness, life, or that gain or loss, anything that a person has, it comes from who unless it comes to him by the will of Allah by the permission of Allah, by the decision of Allah. And part of the man and father is that a person believes that Allah spent Allah can give whatever to whomever, however he wishes, it's up to Allah soprano.
And part of it is that a person believes that if a person if someone has died, it is because a loss of panel data has decided. So that is also part of what we learnt earlier and sort of earlier on I have 145 Well, Matt Kennedy Neff sin, and Elizabeth Miller kita. Urban Agenda. It is a keytab. What does Keita mean? It's a decree Divine Decree. It's ordained from before, and will agenda it is fixed in time. So this is part of belief in God.
Now, because the hypocrites because I'm in Africa, they don't have a man in taqdeer. They don't have a man in Qatar, if anyone was killed, they would offer condolence to each other through such statements, that only if they had stayed at home only if they had not gone, they would have been fine, they wouldn't have been killed, they wouldn't have died.
We see that these accidents that happen, or incidents that happen. They're just excuses. Anything that a loss of Pousada wishes to give us, he can give it to us.
If a person has to die at a particular time, he has to die at that time. And if there is an accident in which he dies, or if he goes to a battle and he dies there, that battle, or that accident is only an excuse, it's only a means through which a person is killed. And Allah subhanaw taala can execute his will even without using any means. So it is wrong for a person to blame the means there is wrong for a person to say, if he wouldn't have gone there, he would be fine.
And unfortunately, we do this in every small thing that happens to us. For instance, if you catch a cold,
if a person catches a cold, what did they say?
You know, I shook hands with someone and they were sniffling. They were coughing, who's already written for you, it was only an excuse that you had to shake your hands with that person and allowed him if he actually got the call from them or somebody else.
So these events that happen, these accidents that take place these incidents that occur, they're only a means through which a loss of panel data gives to us what he intends to give us and he can also give it to us without those means. And this also shows to us that a person should be very careful about his speech, about his statements about his words.
in normal circumstances, in ordinary situations we can conceal what is in our hearts, we can pretend to be very sincere, very truthful, very confident. But in times of difficulty, in times of happiness than when what is truly in our hearts, it comes out
what is truly inside comes out at the time of difficulty or at the time of happiness. So speech reflects what is in our hearts, and whatever is in your heart is going to come out. So yes, we should be careful about our speech. But more importantly, we should be careful about what about what is inside our hearts. What isn't
have our hearts. What kind of demand do I have?
Also over here we see that Allah subhanaw taala is telling us Do not be like those people who disagree, do not be like that. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that whoever imitates a nation, he is one of them. Whoever imitates the people, that he is one of them.
We think that imitating people means wearing their clothes, or eating their food. But the fact is that a person imitates another nation how in three ways, in armour, in acquire, and in arclight.
In actions, in statements, and in beliefs. So if a person does the same actions, as some other people, where he says the same statements as some other people, or he has the same beliefs as some other people, then what does it mean? That he is like them? He is one of them.
And over here, lots of friends are setting us Don't be like them. Don't resemble them, even in your speech. Don't say what they say. People who don't have belief in the people who don't have belief in the they're the ones who make such statements. Not true believers. What is the reaction of a true believer?
Hmm. What is the reaction of a true believer when something happens? What does he say?
It's by the will of Allah, Masha Allah, Allah.
Masha Allah who can win mela Misha, Lamia, Khan, whatever Allah willed will happen, and whatever Allah does not will cannot happen.
And we see that this belief in the thief, this imagine the thief What does it do? It creates comfort and peace in the heart of a person. And on the other hand, if a person does not have belief in the Creator, then what happens? He remains in hustler, he remains in regret, and he can never find comfort.
That if a person suffers from a loss, or he gained something, what does he think? This is the decision of Allah, this is what Allah wanted for me. And Allah is Hakeem, none of his decisions are free from his wisdom and knowledge. Therefore, he has wanted this for me, it is best for me, this has to be best for me. And it makes the life of a believer very easy to
and your person is just stuck there that oh my god what happened and he cannot get over it. Then he remains and
then he makes life more difficult for himself.
We don't know how to use the profits or losses and I'm sad is Alana infoq is what is his mean? greed.
So, it is be greedy, over what may infer over that which will benefit you. So anything that benefits you strive to gain it be greedy for it, try to get a hold of it was there in biller and seek help of Allah? seek help from Allah soprano data? Why? For what,
for enough, in order to get what you find is beneficial for you. What do we say? Maybe it's not good for me. Maybe I should stop trying harder. But if you know that something is good for you.
Like for example, hold on is good for you. So what should you do? be greedy for it?
And if you're finding it difficult to learn the Quran, then what should you do was during Binda and seek help from Allah while at arges and do not lose heart. They're not sure it's what is their main weakness. Don't lose heart, don't lose confidence.
We're in a Sava cache on Fela talkin low and knee fall to
work harder, and if anything comes to you, meaning if any harm reaches you, then don't say if I had not done that, it would not have happened.
Don't say that. If I had done such and such, then such and such wouldn't have happened. Meaning don't say Don't, don't say if why. Well I can call Allah wa Masha Allah. But say that this is a decree of Allah, Masha, Allah and Allah does whatever he wants. For in the low duster who aroma shavon? Don't say low, because low, what does it do? It opens the door for shaper.
Don't say if if only I had done such and such, if only I had not done such and such. So what is this are these teachers that you should be greedy for what is good for you? You should set goals for yourself.
And in order to be successful, what should you do? Don't just rely on yourself. seek help from a loss of friends.
And don't give up.
If it is difficult, don't give up. Keep trying keep asking a lot for help. And if despite your effort, something doesn't go as planned. Then what should you do? Have something
and don't say If only I'd done such and such if only
had not done such and such. Don't say statements of regret. Don't say statements of regret Why? Because that opens the door to shape on, then shavon comes and does his work, maybe you shouldn't do it.
So be greedy for what is good for you. Because sometimes a person might read this eye and say, Okay, then we shouldn't worry about you know, wearing seatbelts in the car because if I'm supposed to die, I'm gonna die anyway.
No, you do your best to protect yourself, you take precaution, you seek help from Allah subhanho data. And at the end of the day, if something happens, then you accept it as a decree of Allah. And you must realize at that time, that this is the decision of Allah and there must be something good for me. Because none of us decisions are free from his wisdom. Allah subhanaw taala wants me to learn something.
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and if you were killed in the way of Allah omoto or you died, llama Farah to Manila, water Matan Pharaoh, me manage maroun then forgiveness from Allah and mercy are better than whatever they accumulate in this world. What
What does it mean?
Well over here is a person that will lie he let him quit. By Allah, surely, if you are killed, were in the way of Allah. So for instance, a person goes for jihad, and he is killed. Or, for example, Sabir Allah does not just include you have right doesn't just include Qatar. It also includes a student of knowledge. A person who goes out to seek knowledge and in the way he is skilled.
Similarly, a person who goes to perform Hajj a person who goes to perform Amara, what is he doing? He's alternativeto Allah. So if he is killed omoto or you die,
if a person is killed by someone or he dies, a natural death and omoto is also understood as that you died at home. While you are
while you are still working. For the deen of Allah subhanaw taala for example, the person is at home and he's learning knowledge. Some people, they go outside of their home to gain knowledge. And there's some other people who study from inside their house because they're not able to go outside.
So if a person is in the way of Allah, if a person is in the way of Allah, and either he is killed, or he dies, level hiroto minima, then surely forgiveness from Allah, what I am atone and mercy from him. forgiveness for what? forgiveness for sins,
forgiveness for sins.
And remember, that as for the Shaheed the martyr, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that the martyr is forgiven, when,
at what time
from the first drop of blood that he has the first drop of blood that falls to the ground, he is forgiven.
So forgiveness from Allah and mercy, Jenna, that is Hiram and management, it is much better than what people collect, what is it that people collect? the things of this dunya
and yet Mr. Owen has also been read as
you all collect, you all gather? What is it that stops a person from going in the way of Allah?
What is it that stops the person from going in the way of Allah
love of the dunya level what a person has collected, whether it is his decoration pieces, or it is her crystals, or it is her jewelry, or it is her shoes or whatever that a person has collected. Many times they stop us from going in the way of a lower does Allah tell us over here,
that if you leave these things, and you go out in the way of Allah, and if you die, what's the big deal? What you're getting is much better than what you're leaving behind.
Sometimes it is our own selves, that prevent us from going forth in the wave of loss of friends, or when we say the chairs at school are very uncomfortable. So maybe I should stay at home and listen to the recordings on my comfortable chair. So sometimes it's ourselves. Sometimes it's the love of things, a lot of the things that we own that prevent us from going forth in the way of Allah. What is the last thing is over here? That if you die in the way of Allah, whether at home or elsewhere?
What is it that allies promising you? mahira and Rama? Isn't that better from what you're leaving behind? It's much better than Why are you sad? Why are you sad about those people who have passed away in the cause of a law?
Because in the previous ayah, the hypocrites are expressing regret and sadness and pity over those people who have passed away in the way of a law. What is the law saying that what they have gained
is much better than what they have left behind.
And similarly, you must not stay away from going out in the way of Allah just because of fear of death.
Because even if you do die in the way of Allah, then what is Allah promising you? a fairer environment. And it's much better than what you could collect in dystonia.
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and whether you die or are killed, whether you die at home, or you are killed, in the way of Allah, or you are killed while you're traveling, that either light or shadow and surely to Allah you will be gathered. There Sharon is from hush, hush info that you will definitely be gathered together before I lost the presenter on the Day of Judgment.
What does this ayah clarify
that no matter how long you live, eventually you are going to die.
No matter how much you try to protect your life. No matter how much you try to preserve your life. Eventually you are going to die let either light or shadow surely to a line you will be gathered. Life is not eternal, then why are you afraid of going to a Lago happily? Why are you afraid of going to Allah
and modes and Kotler be mentioned again and again. So, often refers to dying because of some external reason.
And mode is dying a natural death. Like for example, because of some sickness. An alternate has been said that paternal refers to dying in the way of a lot while a person is out in jihad. And mode is in a coma meaning while at home, in one's residence.
When if we look at the Sahaba like, for instance, Khalid bin Walid, he participated in so many battles, but eventually, where did he die?
On his deathbed, not in the battlefield. So what does it show to us that just because a person goes to a battle doesn't mean he is going to die, he is only going to die, where he is destined to die. And that is part of the lead.
And you see this belief in the theory, it makes a person very confident, very bold. He's not scared of little things anymore, to the point that he's not even scared of death. But eventually I am going to die.
And I'm only going to die when Allah is destined for me today. So why should I be afraid of doing such and such or not doing such and such
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So we tried to save ourselves or we try to keep ourselves very comfortable. We try not to expose ourselves to hardship.
Why? So that we can enjoy our life, we can stay comfortable. And we in order to keep ourselves comfortable, we deprive ourselves from going feasibility.
For instance, a person says My head is hurting too much. Or if I read the Quran, if I try to memorize my lesson, my head's gonna start hurting. So forget about it. How long will you stay comfortable?
How long will you stay without the headache?
It's possible that you don't do anything until you get the headache. So just trying to save yourself keeping yourself comfortable in order to stay away from civitella is not going to help you is not going to keep you alive and comfortable for a very long time. Eventually, you are going to leave this world and when you have to leave, might as well leave in a good cause. So that you have more Farah and Rama awaiting you.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, a small place equal to an area occupied by a whip in Paradise is better than the whole world and whatever is in it.
Hiram and Maya tomorrow it is better than what two people can
Like better than what the people getting
ventually this word is going to come to an end. How much are you going to run to protect your life? eventually it's going to end so might as well go to Allah happily, in a good way in a good cause.
Furby Mirage Murthy, Minna, la healin della whom? So by the mercy of Allah, Mohammed sobre la video send them. You were lenient with them. When when they made a mistake when they disobeyed you
just imagine if somebody does not follow the rules, does not follow the instructions.
And because they didn't follow the instructions, everybody suffers. how upset would you be?
how upset would you be with them? A lot, because it didn't just affect them, but it affected everybody.
So over here, a loss of panatela is praising the profit sort of Alison's character, that despite the fact that some people had disobeyed him, those people who had been appointed at the mount to guard the back of the Muslim army, when they moved from there, they disobeyed the Prophet sort of
the prophets that allowed Islam was very lenient towards them. So over here, Allah says, it is by the mercy of Allah. It is by the Rama of Allah, that lint Allah whom you are lenient towards them. Linda, is from the roof letters lamb Yeah, noon, from the word lean.
And lean literally means gentleness softness.
It is to be flexible. And lean is used for gentleness in dealing with someone to be gentle and easy in dealing with someone.
So out of the mercy of Allah, you are lenient, and gentle in dealing with them, that you tolerate their mistake. You weren't harsh towards them, despite their disobedience,
wallow content, and if you were fallen, rude earlier, it'll be hard hearted. Then what would have happened? Len Fogg bloomin Holic, they would have gone away from you, they would have dispersed away from you. If you were fumbling the word phone is from the roof address fell law law and fell is used for rudeness or coarseness of character rudeness, roughness of one's behavior, when a person is impolite, rude in his speech, in his dealing with others, it is at that fault literally is filthy, and dirty liquid. It is basically used for filthy liquid that is with fourth and fourth is used for gunk cowdung or something like that. So just imagine something so filthy, something so repugnant,
that you just the thought of it, just the sound of it makes a person very averse to words. So this is what the word literally is. and fathers used for someone who is very harsh, very rude, very coarse in his speech, in particular, someone who was very harsh and coarse in his speech. So for example, he uses a lot of foul words. He curses other people, he insults other people in his manner, in his style of speech, he's very condescending, he uses swear words. So if you were foul, meaning if you were ill natured, if you were cut, even if you are a Holic, that was very curry very repugnant. If you used harsh language with them.
What happens Generally,
if there is a leader, and if those were under him, they disobey Him? Or if they don't do what is expected of them? How does a leader typically reacted? And in the anger, what is he going to do? He's going to start swearing at them or shouting at them, using harsh words that you can't even repeat them.
For instance, sometimes you might have seen some shows in which, you know, words are bleeped. Why? Because every second, every next statement, every next shout has a swear word in it. So this is what follows is someone who is very harsh and rude in his speech.
Many times remember again, in normal circumstances, we can pretend to be very nice. But when we're angry, then the reality comes for
what kind of words do we use when we're upset? When we're angry? We should check ourselves. The prophets are allowed is that it was not false. A lie saying if you were false, what does it mean he was not follow he did not use harsh language, even when he was very upset, even when he was angry. And if you were really helpful if you are hard hearted
Lenny's will come from the reflectors lane.
Now law, law is used for the thickness or the hardness of something. When something is thick, when it's bulky when it's big, and from this, the word is used for the harshness or the hardness of the heart. Lila is someone who is very hard hearted.
What does it mean by this, someone who is very hard hearted,
that he is not affected by what the other person is going through.
For instance, you know, there's a leader, there is a person who's in charge, and there are people who are beneath him, there are people who are working under him.
Now one of his workers is sick, not feeling well. But what does this really local person do? I don't care if you're sick. Or if you're not, you still have to do what you're supposed to do.
I don't care if you forgot, I don't care if you made a mistake. It's like saying statements such as, don't tell me about how hard you work with only what what you've accomplished.
So this is what harsh hearted person is hard hearted person is that nothing affects him.
The difficult situation of the other person does not affect him at all. He is not moved. If he's spoken to nicely, if he's spoken to humbly, it doesn't affect him. If someone even talks to him harshly, that even doesn't affect him.
So this is what I call the local person is someone who is very harsh hearted. It is that that fall is in speech. And Elisa is reflected in a person's actions.
fault, Israel reflected in the person's speech. And the result is reflected in a person's behavior in his actions.
He doesn't care if the other person is sick, or he's old, or he's unwell, or it's not within his capacity. No, he doesn't care. He just wants his work done. He just wants to be obeyed. He doesn't care about the other person at all. He just wants that his goal should be met.
And as for being hardhearted, the prophets of Allah said and we learned about him, that once he kissed, hasn't really learned who his grandson, while o'clock even had his attorney, he was sitting beside him. And he said to the Prophet, I have 10 children, and I have never kissed anyone of them. I have 10 children, and I have never kissed anyone of them.
The Prophet said a lot of Southern guards to look at him. And he said, Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully. And according to others, he said that, if Allah is not put mercy in your heart, affection, your heart, then what can be done.
Mercy in a person's heart, or affection for others in a person's heart is a great blessing of kindness.
And when a person is ready, the call, then the cuteness of a child does not affect him. You know, as some people will look at your child, they can't just keep the feeling within themselves as a have to say something, they have to go all the child they have to do something and other people, it's as if the child doesn't exist.
Similarly, a person is walking with a lot of difficulty. There is one person who senses that difficulty. And he goes and talks to the other person, he asks him, he helps him and another person, it isn't that other person doesn't exist. It is as if the person was walking with difficulties perfectly fine. He's normal.
This is whatever these are called is that you see, you notice, you feel the difficulty of the other person, but it doesn't change your heart, it doesn't affect you. It doesn't bring about any emotion in the heart.
And some people, they are like this, only to, you know, keep other people fearful of them. And I think that if we give a smile to someone, if we kiss a child, or if we shake our hands on someone, if we greet someone, then people are not going to be afraid of us anymore.
And many times people are very stern, even in their speech, very harsh in their speech, why to keep other people under control.
And they think that gentleness is going to spoil other people.
You know how people say that don't show love to your children, otherwise they will become spoiled. But the fact is that children never get spoiled by love. They only gain your trust, when you show them love. What spoils them is when you don't correct them properly.
Remember that not showing love is not going to give you honor, there is in fact going to make you very small in the sight of other people.
So if you were for one or a diesel car, then what would happened then for booming herrlich they would have dispersed away from you. Then fabu is from the root reference fell Bob Bob.
The word football is from the same roof letters. What does Fiddler mean? Silver. I mentioned to you earlier that football literally means to scatter, to break. Why because physical silver. What happens to it you have to give Zakat on it you have to give it as a currency as well.
It's used. So what happens? It's broken away, it scatters. And enfilade is too scattered to disperse. But how it is when gradually, a group of people disperses away. So for instance, there are 50 people sitting in one place, what happens? One leaves, and then the other leaves. And then three more people leave. And then five more people leave, and six more people leave until eventually, everybody else has gone. Everybody has left, and there's nobody left. So this is what in Pilates. So if you work for anybody, so called what would happen, the Sahaba, they would have dispersed away from you from around you, meaning they would not stay with you. Because one thing that people cannot
tolerate is what? being humiliated, being insulted.
People don't mind doing a lot of hard work. But what people do mind is when they're insulted, and when they're humiliated, so if you humiliated them, if you insulted them, then what would happen? They wouldn't stay with you.
Over here, we see that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, is being praised in his dealing with the companions, despite their disobedience, despite the fact that they did not obey Him, all of them. Some of them did, but some of them did not.
So generally, typically, if someone disobeys, especially in this way, when there are so many consequences, what should be done, what should be done, punishment should be given they should be held accountable. But over here the profits on Allison's reaction was of leniency of being kind of being gentle, not shouting at them, not swearing in them at not showing any harshness even in action, even in behavior.
Which is why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was also prison. So column number four, what in Allah Allah who looking over you, and indeed, you are of a great moral character. This is what the character of the prophet SAW the Lotus of the boys.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that in Allah Amani Buddha rottenness can Imani be accommodated for it. Indeed, Allah has commanded me to be forgiving and well wishing to the people, as he has commanded me to establish the obligations. Just as performing the soldier giving us a call is mandatory. Similarly being nice to people is also mandatory.
We also learn from a hadith the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said Henry mercenary kulu Haiyan lajunen sadolin Caribbean meanness. Notice legend from lien
that haraam upon the fire is every humble, soft, easy and close of the people.
A person who is very humble, a person who is very soft, a person who is very easy and is dealing with other people and he is also close to people. He's also very approachable. Such a person. Fire is how long upon him and he has had on upon to Hellfire, meaning he's never going to hellfire.
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to pardon to forgive someone and not punish them not take revenge so far foreign who don't punish them. Now, the prophet said, a lot of cinema's being told to forgive them and not punish them. Why? Because they're also humans, they can also make mistakes.
Despite the fact there were so many consequences of their mistake, still alive saying far foreign home, and not just forgive them, but was still feel at home. And also seek forgiveness for them from who from a loss of penalty.
And then don't cut them off. But Wish I will move on and consult them in the matter which matter, any important matter, which affects them, continue to consult them continue to take their advice, see what they have to say. Because if you look at it, it was the suggestion of some of the companions that we should go outside of Medina. And the Prophet said of Alison wish to stay inside Medina. And if you find out that this person, he gave me this suggestion, and then he is the one who didn't listen, and because of him, everything was turned upside down. What are you going to think? Next time? I'm not talking to them next time. I'm not taking their advice. What is it profits or
loss and build over here wish I would have been on share with is from the veterans Gene Wilder.
And shelf literally means to look nice.
What does it mean, to look nice. Shura consultation, taking counsel, seeking advice from other people. When a person seeks advice from other people, and when people are discussing something together, that whole view looks so nice, that people are together. They're united. They're talking they're discussing. It shows unity, and also shows the niceness of a person
that he's not selfish. He's not only concerned about himself that
Whatever I say, must be done. And I don't care about what other people have to say no, Shira is to consult each other, to take each other's advice,
Shannon is to write a beast to write an animal in order to try it. In order to ascertain its worth in order to see how good it runs just as when you want to buy a car, he go for a test drive, right? Similarly, people would test drive their animals
to see the worth. So similarly, when people are discussing when they're taking counsel, when they're taking advice from each other, it's as if they're going on a test drive, that if we do such and such, what do you think will happen? If we don't do this? What do you think will happen? The whole picture becomes clear when you consult with one another. So watch our home for the hour, and also consult them in the matter in which matter the matters which are important, and the matters, which affects them.
When it comes to the commands of the dean, the laws of the dean,
obviously, with regards to when there is no Shura, for instance, you're not going to go ask someone, should I praise Allah or not? Why? It's mandatory, right? Similarly, when it comes to little issues, you're not going to go seek advice from other people? Should I take a shower? No. Should I eat or not? You're not going to take advice from people and little things. Because if you do, it's going to waste your time. And it's going to make life very difficult for you, you should be able to independently make decisions for yourself when it comes to these matters. Should I eat or not? Should I go here or not? If it's something that only affects you, then you decide yourself, but if
it's a matter that affects other people, if it is a matter that affects other people, then you must take the advice of those people who are going to be affected by it.
And you can't just say, Okay, this is what you have to do. And too bad. You can't say anything? No, you must take their advice. For example, as women, you have to cook at home. Now, if you decide the menu yourself, despite the fact that your husband doesn't like that food, can you just say that? No, too bad. You have to eat this. What's gonna happen? If you don't take sugar from them? It's gonna make dinnertime very difficult.
But if you take their advice, if you say, Okay, what do you think? Should we have this today? Or should we have that today? because it affects them, you should take their advice, and not give them the same food each and every day, because it's going to make the matter difficult for you. And so chaperones will take a consultation in matters that affect them in collective matters. So for instance, when it comes to battle, where should we fight from inside Medina, outside Medina, what do you think? What do you have to say, and the prophets are allowed a sudden, he did shootout with the companions before at the Battle of brother as well as,
and he continued this practice. He continued this practice afterwards as well.
We don't insert assura, Allah subhanaw taala praises the believers, that what Amala home should albina home, and their affair is determined by consultation among themselves that they consult one another, and then they decide they don't make a decision by themselves and then tell other people the profits or losses and received what Hey, he received revelation. And he was a leader, if you wanted, he would not have taken any shirt off from anyone. But still he is told take Sure. Why. What's the benefit? Why is it important? Why is it important? Take shirt off from other people
to see different possibilities. Because one person can only think one way. But when you discuss the matter with other people, then what happens you get more ideas, you get more suggestions. And maybe somebody else's suggestion is much better than yours. It's much more practical than yours. And everybody is involved. You see in our Deen there is no dictatorship, there is no, you know that one person decides everything. And other people, they have to take it even if they disagree. Or even if they weren't given the freedom to say anything about it know, if somebody is going to be affected by something, then they must be given the right to voice their concern, which is why we have a
suggestions box. But you should also give suggestions give feedback.
Another benefit of short is that it develops trust between people. And it also makes other people accepting of the decision. You think you could make a decision on your own and other people just because they're under you, they might accept. But if you discuss the matter with them, then what's going to happen? They're going to be more accepted. For instance, you want to cook chicken and you tell your husband What do you think? Should we cook chicken? We have chicken today and you know that he doesn't like it. But he said do you think we should have it I was thinking because of this and this reason? Just because you consulted with them. They will be more receptive
accepting your suggestion? And if you just made it yourself, what would they do? No way. You can eat it by yourself. Similarly, if you are to come here to school, and if you just go and fill up the admissions form yourself, and just tell your husband too bad, I'm going five days a week to school in the mornings, see you in the evening. Is that going to make it difficult for them to accept? Yes. But if you discuss it with them before, what's going to happen,
they will cooperate with you.
They will cooperate with you. And if you don't discuss with them, then what's going to happen, they might not cooperate with you, even if they agree with you.
So when we discuss with other people, we gain their support, we gain their support.
We learn about the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, who they learn who he said, I have not seen anyone who consults more with his companions than the profit sort of officer. If he consulted with his companions, who are we? Who are we?
And also if we consult with other people, they own the work, then they take ownership of the work, just as for example, the Sahaba if they weren't consulted, and they were told, okay, this is where we have to go, would they take ownership? Would they be involved? No. But because they were consulted, their opinion was heard, whatever decision was made, you know, they took ownership of whatever was to be done. And with regards to the rules of Shura, with regards to the etiquettes of consultation. First of all, we must remember that children must only be done in matters which are important, and about which there is no clear guidance in this area.
Secondly, all those who are affected by that matter by that decision, they must be consulted.
For instance, if you want to renovate your house, and you don't consult your children,
and you don't know if they're going to have their exams or something, and you said too bad, we're gonna renovate, but they're going to have their exams, how are they going to study? If you consult them? Why because the matter is going to affect them, it's going to make it easier for you, and then it's going to reduce conflicts. And thirdly, the third rule is that it is necessary that the person who is giving his opinion, he should do it with honesty, he should do it with well wishing and sincerity. The prophets are a lot of them said when someone is consulted for advice, he should give the advice that he would want for himself, he should give the advice which he would want for
himself. And also, when you take the Shahada, and finally something has been agreed upon, then you must not change it without letting other people know.
You must not change your mind afterwards without letting other people know. If you change your mind, let other people know. And the thing is that when you're taking advice from other people, because you are the in charge, you have the right to choose whatever opinion, nobody can force you to take their advice. If you're giving advice to someone, don't force him to accept your advice. If you're giving advice to someone, don't force them. do accept your advice
for either as under federal law, and then when you have made up your mind, what does doesn't mean determination resolve when you have made up your mind, then trust upon Allah. be decisive, and then rely upon Allah subhanaw taala don't trust on the Shura. Many times we spend so much time discussing and after making the decision, what do we do? We put our trust on other people. What does Allah say, trust upon who? Allah subhanaw taala in Allahu hibben whatever killing Allah loves those people who trust upon Him, who rely upon him, and because he loves them, he will help them. He will assist them. Because you can do all the Shura, you can plan all the logistics, but how are you going to
make sure that your plan works out? It cannot work out except with the help of Allah. When you trust upon him, then you gain his love when you gain his you gain his help.