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Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 02 – L032B

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Taimiyyah Zubair

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Al-Baqarah 234-242 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 234-238

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I was going to ship it legitimacy layer over here.

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That's the number 32, sort of the bacala I 234 to 242,

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one levina yuzawa fold em income, and those who are taken in death among you were the owner as Virgin and leave wives behind. What should those wives do? Yet our best navy and fusina about the assuring wash,

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they shall wait for months and 10 days.

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Over here we see in these verses, some more rulings pertaining to Pollock have been given.

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different scenarios have been presented in different cases of divorce, how is the woman to be treated? What should be given to her as compensation? And besides the issue of divorce, the matters pertaining to widow have also been mentioned. They have also been detailed, because we see that divorce and death are two reasons which separate a husband and wife.

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So what is the woman supposed to do in the case where the husband dies?

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So in this ayah, the case of the widow has been mentioned, that if a woman her husband dies, then what is she supposed to do? We learned earlier about the mipela, about the women who have been given divorce. Now specifically, the case of those women whose husbands have passed away, has been mentioned

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that one Medina Utah were found among

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those men, who are taken in death among you, the word youth our phone is from the roof, veterans welfare, yeah. And the word warfare means to fulfill something to fulfill a promise, it is to reach the end of a term or it is to reach the end, the completion of something

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from the same root, the word warfare, whose verbal form you see over here you the word fona. The warfare is to take something fully, what does it mean to take something fully to take something completely

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and from this, the word warfare

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as you may have heard, is used for death. Why?

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Because when a person dies, his soul is taken fully. It is removed fully from his body. And also out of his control, he does not have any control over his soul anymore.

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So what levena Yuto found a main con, this means those who have been taken fully amongst you, meaning those who are taken in death among you,

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those men who die whose roof has been taken away.

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So those men who die and men come has been said among you has been said, because you all refers to believers. So if any Muslim man dies, and when he dies, where the lunar as virgin, and they leave behind wives, yeah, the lunar is from the roof as well, then all weather is to leave something or someone in their state, as they are, to abandon something in its state as it is. So, those men who die and they leave behind themselves as virgin as well as the plural of zones.

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zones, as you know, is used for spouse over here in particular refers to wives.

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So what does it mean by this that they leave behind whites? Basically, they leave behind women with whom they have nikka whether one or more, one wife, or more wives 123 or four, how many ever wives whether the marriage was consummated with them or not? What does it mean by that, that whether only the niqab took place, or both of them were living together for the past 20 years. So whether the marriage was consummated or not, whether the money was given or not, what do you mean by that? That at the time of marriage, the mother has to be given to the woman but sometimes because of some reason the mother is delayed. For example, the man says within 20 years I will give you this much or

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within five days, I will give you this much. This is the mother so the mother was given or the mother was not given and regardless of the age of the woman, whether she is 20 years old, or 45 years old,

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No matter how old she is,

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so if a man who dies, leaves behind a wife, one or more, whether the marriage with her was consummated, or not, whether he had given her the mother or not, no matter how old or young she is, if he is leaving behind him, a wife, who is now a widow, what is that widow supposed to do? What is that wife supposed to do?

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Yet, or bosma, they have to wait. And yet our bus Now over here gives a sense of and it is an instruction that has been given, it is a command, meaning they don't have any choice with regards to this, they must wait. They must remain in the waiting period.

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And yet robustness, as you know is from terrible scrub. So which means to lie in wait for a term to be over for a particular time.

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So the women have to wait in return during the waiting period. And what do they have to do, they have to stay on their own, meaning they have to refrain from getting married, they have to hold themselves back from getting married again, yet abasement be unforeseen with themselves.

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So we see over here, that it is natural for a woman to have the desire to be made.

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So therefore, in the state of Florida, even she has to stop herself from getting married. For how long? How long is the waiting period? a vida, a short four months I shop is a floral shop. And these months are lunar months. They are coming. So these are lunar months.

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So she has to wait for four months, and not just four months? Why? Sure. And then what does it mean by 10, meaning 10 more days and nights.

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So the waiting period, after widow has been mentioned over here. And what is that four months and 10 days, which is a total of 17 weeks, and five days, which is about 130 days. So the woman has to stay in waiting for this period of time.

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We see that divorce and that both cause separation between a husband and wife. And both of these cases, whether it's divorce, or its death, it is very difficult, emotionally, for a woman. Even in divorce, it's the woman who has to suffer emotionally,

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or it is extremely burdensome for her. And therefore, the woman needs time for her to be able to transition from her previous relationship to the next relationship. She needs time on her own. She needs time to get herself back together to get over this wound that she has suffered. And this day, she is to spend on her own without being socially active.

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Why? So that she can transition from her previous state to her next relationship.

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And we see that regardless of her age, the widow has to stay in return for this period of time. And she does not get married during this time. Why? So that her pregnancy may be revealed.

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The period of four months and 10 days has been said so that the pregnancy of the widow may be revealed. We learned that the period for the Miranda is three menstrual cycles. Why?

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Because there is the opportunity of Module Two with regards to the tala kawajiri. But here in particular, it's different. It's longer. Why. So that's specifically the pregnancy can be revealed. We don't have a hadith which is mentioned in Bukhari, that in Hong Kong has become huge Murphy botani amici arena Yeoman notify 10. So my akuna Allah Putin misled Alec, so my akuna Matata metalorganic sama, uberto la in medical, fire and fulfill

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the creation of a human being is put together in the womb of his mother in 40 days in how long 40 days, which is more than a month in the form of a seed. And next he becomes a clock of blood for a similar period. So 40 days, and then another 40 days, it becomes into a clot of thick blood. And next, a morsel of flesh for a similar period another 40 days.

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And then Allah sends an angel who is ordered to breathe life into the fetus. So we see that 40 days is the first stage, then the next 40 days, then the next 40 days, how many days 40 times three 120 add 10 more days to that, how much is that 130 days. And I told you earlier that four months and 10 days, is about 130 days as well.

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So we see that, after 130 days, the fetus is given the rule, the fetus has room in it. And once the fetus has lived in it, obviously, it's going to start movement. And with the movement, the pregnancy is going to be determined.

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So therefore, there is after the widow is four months and 10 days. And if the woman discovers that she is pregnant, then her either will continue until she delivers her child. Why? Because as soon as the mother as soon as a woman delivers what happens, all of our attention, all over focus goes to the child, she forgets about the pain that she has gone through, she forgets about everything else that's going on, and all that she can be concerned about is her child.

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So therefore, as soon as a woman delivers than her it does over whether it is after one month, after one month that her husband has passed away or it is after nine months. But it will be for how long until she delivers her baby.

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And we learned this from sort of a Fennec I afford that will lead to a family Agia Luna, and you're gonna have Luna. And for those who are pregnant, their turn is until they give birth.

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So in this ayah, we learn that a woman whose husband has passed away, must stay in character. right that is mandatory upon here. We don't have a hadith which is in Sahih Muslim, the prophets are allowed is Adam said that it is not lawful for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day that she should mourn a dead person for more than three days, except in the case of her husband, whom she should mourn for four months and 10 days. So we see that morning, after the death of the husband is something that is mandatory for a widow. Why? Because if you think of it, if a woman gets married, let's say only the kneecap took place. And very soon she's supposed to move in with her husband. And

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she finds out that her husband has passed away in an accident.

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How would you feel?

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How would you feel

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this would come to her as a big shock. And she might become very depressed. And so she cannot just go and live a normal life, be socially active, continue her daily chores or going out going and meeting people, or she cannot even get married immediately. Why? Because she needs to get over the grief and get over the state of shock that she has been. And we see that time is the best healer. So she needs time to move on.

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And this is the reason why men are also not allowed to propose the widow during her it because she needs time on her own. She needs to be on her own, to get over the stage. And if a woman does get married right after the death of her husband, then what's going to happen. She may be physically living with one man, but emotionally and mentally. She may be elsewhere.

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She may be living, apparently a happy life, but the grief, the shock that she has undergone, it's going to affect her.

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So she needs time on her own in order to be able to adjust to her new life to renew circumstances. So we see that there is great wisdom in there of the widow and people could come up with many benefits, great wisdom. However, the most important reason is that Allah soprano Dada is the one who has appointed director for the widow. And because Allah is all knowing, he is all wise. Therefore he has appointed for months and 10 days. A person might wonder for months and 10 days Why 10 days? Why not just four months? There is wisdom behind it. This is a love decision. This is a ruling that has been given to us by Allah, as we learned earlier will love ujar animal will anthem letter than what

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Allah knows

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And you do not know. Also, we see that after the death of the husband, there may be many issues that the woman has to deal with, that the widow has to take care of. For example, She may have to go deal with the financial issues of the husband, which is why she might have to go to the bank. Or she might have to go to the court, because of the division of the estate. Similarly, if she works with her husband, if she's apart in his business, then she might have to deal with all of these issues. The house, she has to take care of that the children, she has to take care of them. So the death of the husband puts a lot of responsibility and work on the wife, and she needs time to deal with all

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of those matters. She needs time on her own, if she is full from every direction, come to this party come to that wedding. Okay, she might dress up and go happy. But she's going to be burdened with the work that she has to do. Emotionally, she may be very hurt. So she needs time on her own, to deal with all of these matters as well. Therefore, there has been appointed for the widow. And we learn from the uninstaller that during the event, the widow has to observe certain rules and regulations. What are they? That first of all, as we learn over here yet are best met be unfussy when a woman a widow is not allowed to get married during her. She stays on her own as a single until her ADA is

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over.

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Secondly, we learned that a woman during her the widow is not allowed to adorn herself or beautify herself.

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Why?

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Because this is part of the morning. A woman has to mourn for four months and 10 days. And this is part of the morning, that she is not allowed to adorn or beautify herself. Now what is included in adorning and beautifying herself, such as wearing jewelry, wearing makeup, wearing colorful clothing, because if you look at it, a woman basically dresses up she adorns herself for who for her husband. Now when the husband is not there, when the husband has passed away, then she needs a time in which she is not going to dress up. She's not going to beautify yourself, she's not going to adorn herself, so that if she gets made afterwards, she's had that stage in which she has been

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freed. So she adorns herself basically, for the husband. And during their it that she's not going to adorn herself. She's not going to beautify herself. And it doesn't mean that she's not going to keep herself clean. No, she has to keep herself clean, but adornment wearing jewelry. This is not permissible.

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And sometimes we see that women, they have a habit of wearing their typical jewelry, a few rings, some earrings and necklace, and bracelets. Even this is not permissible during the winter.

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So if a woman has been wearing her gold bangles for two years, for five years, for 10 years, when her husband dies, in the state of it that she is supposed to take them off. She's supposed to remove them.

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Also, they see that when a woman adorns herself. Why does she do that? Either for the sake of her husband? Or at a happy occasion? Isn't it so women who are not made they get dressed up when unmarried at a party when going somewhere. So it's basically a happy occasion. But when a woman's husband has died, that's not a happy occasion at all.

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So therefore, she is supposed to remove the Zener she's not supposed to adorn herself anymore.

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We learned from a hadith in Sahih Bukhari that on sanema said that a woman said that oh messenger of Allah. My daughter's husband died. And she's complaining about her I should we put some oil in her eye. God is like the black stuff that you put in your eyes. So she asked that, can we put that in her eyes because she's complaining about her eyes? And the profits are a lot of them said no. And each time that he was asked, but she's complaining about her eye, each time he said no. And then he said it is four months and 10 days and nights during the journey Leah, one of you would mourn for an entire year. So now there it is four months and 10 days a night. Therefore, in this time, you may

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not adorn yourself, even to the extent of putting cocoa in the eyes. Even this is not permissible for a woman in her.

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Also, a woman in her ADA is to stay in the husband's house for the entire duration of their return meaning

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She used to spend their underwear in the house of her husband.

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Now some people think of this as an unreasonable restriction. What if the man and woman were living on their own? How can she live on her own now, without the husband being there. But the fact is that that was the house of the woman, she has many memories, many good times, many good moments that she spent over there, first of all her husband has passed away, then secondly, we're taking her out of her house, it's extremely painful for her, let her be in her own place on her own for some time.

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Also, we see that because that is the house of the woman, all of the things are there, all of her clothes, her books, the things that she uses, all of them are there. If she is told that you have to leave right away, so that you can spend a day in your parents house, or in the house of your sister in the house of your grandparents, then what's going to happen? What all is she going to take with her, it's going to be very difficult for her. So therefore, a woman is to spend their a debt in the house of her husband.

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Also, we see that another restriction on the woman is that during very that she is to stay at home. And she must not leave the house to go anywhere, unless in a situation of extreme necessity. But mainly, a woman is to stay in the house during her at the end, she is not to go anywhere else. And if she has to go somewhere, then she must return and spend the night in her house in the house of her husband.

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If she has to go somewhere during the day for some work, she has to return home and spend the night way in her house.

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Now, what is included in necessity, in what situation is a woman allowed to leave the house? What are those situations? First of all, we see that these situations include or these necessities include, for example, if a woman is sick, she needs to go visit the doctor, she needs to go for her test or for some checkup. so in this situation, she must leave the house, the doctor is not going to come.

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Similarly, because the woman has to deal with a lot of financial matters, a lot of other matters when her husband has passed away. Therefore, she might have to go to the bank, she might have to go to the court, she might have to go do some work return some Amana. So therefore, in this situation, she is allowed to leave the house.

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Similarly, if the children are very small, and she's the only one who can drop them off at school, who can pick them up from school, who can bring the groceries for the children, that in that situation also, she is allowed to go provided that there is nobody else who can do that for her. Because a woman is going through a very difficult situation. She needs time on her own so that she can do that she can do that. She can collect herself together. If she is going to continue with her daily work, then it's going to be very difficult for her, she might go into depression.

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So other people, the relatives, the Father, the brother, the sister, the mother, they are supposed to help her the father in law, the mother in law, the sister in law, they should be supporting her. But if she is on her own, and there is nobody else who can help her, then she may leave the house to get the groceries for example, or to do some other important work. But obviously, when she leaves, she must remember that she is so she should limit her interaction, she should limit her adornment to the best of her ability.

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Also, we see that another necessity in which a woman is allowed to leave the house is if she has to continue work, or she has to begin working.

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Sometimes we see that a woman used to work before her husband passed away. The husband used to bring a paycheck and she used to bring a paycheck. Now, the husband is not there. He's not working. And if she does not work, how is she going to support herself or her little children, very young children if she doesn't work. So what is she going to do? She needs to continue working. so in this situation, she is allowed to work.

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Similarly, in other situations, what happens is that the man is not working. But the woman is working because of whatever reason. The man is unemployed for some time and the woman is the only one who has been working for some time. So if she stops working, how is she going to support herself How is she going to support her children. so in this situation also, she is allowed to work if she is the one who used to

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run the business who used to work than she is allowed to work. But a woman must also look at the situation that she's in, can she make do with less Can she make do with the support of her parents, or with the inheritance that she has received of her husband? If she can, then she should not work. But if the situation is such in which you must work, then she is allowed to work.

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Similarly, sometimes a woman may be in a country where she receives benefits for being a widow. So if she is receiving some benefits from the government, then in this situation also, she should not work. We learn from several narrations that some women were allowed to go work in their fields, despite the fact that their husbands had passed away. So in a situation where there is no option for you, you have to work you must work to support yourself to support your young children, if it's a necessity, than a woman may continue work, or a woman may begin working. But she has to look at her situation as well.

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Similarly, a woman may be studying, maybe she was a student. And if she sits at home for her ADA, what's going to happen? Maybe her exams are coming up, maybe her semester is coming to an end. If she stopped studying, if she stops going to school, if she stops going to university, it's going to affect her entire year, it's going to affect her entire semester.

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so in this situation, also, she may go for her work for her class, for her course, for her exam, and return home immediately.

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Because many times we see that women, they go out to do one thing, and they end up doing five extra things. But she should only leave the house for that particular purpose. And as soon as that is done, she should come back home immediately.

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And she should limit her socialization with others.

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Remember, that necessity, does not include going to weddings, it does not include going to parties, going to social gatherings, or even going to lectures. Because these events, there are social events, and a woman can do without going to them.

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It's possible that there's a wedding that is coming up in the family, your own niece or your own nephew is getting married. However, if a woman is in her data, then she must not leave the house, then she should stay in the house. necessity is a situation in which a woman has to go. And if she does not leave the house, then she will suffer.

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If she does not go to a wedding party, then she's not really suffering. She may miss out on some fun. But in fact that is better for her because she is in the state of return.

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Some people might say that a woman is already suffering, because of the sadness that her husband has passed away. And then she's told to stay in it that she's not to go out and distract herself. So isn't that going to add to her depression? person, I think like that. The valve does that at night. However, she needs time on her own to get over the previous stage of her life. And if she distracts herself by these temporary things, then what's going to happen, she's not going to be able to completely get over that stage. It's just like using drugs. If a person uses drugs, temporarily, he might feel happy. But after some time, the problem is going to come back to him. And he might be in

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a situation that is much worse.

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So we see over here, that a woman has to stay in Rita, after the death of her husband.

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And she has to observe all of the restrictions that have been imposed on her

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father but have no agenda when

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then, when they have reached their appointed term. What does it mean by this, that when there is over when the four months and 10 days are over phylogenet her Aleikum then there is no sin upon you. Who does you refer to? You refers to the body of the woman, those people who are responsible for her after her husband. So there is no sin upon you. Or earlier. Female concerning what for Allah, they did fee and fusina concerning themselves Vin maruf in the manner that is appropriate. What does it mean by this? That after they're either if a woman is

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decide something for herself. If it is an appropriate decision, if it is correct, it is maruf, it is acceptable to the Oracle, to the culture to the society to the religion, then there is no sin upon the Odia of the woman. But which decision is this that the woman is allowed to make for herself, we see that a widow, because she was previously married, she has more authority with regards to her affairs than a virgin than a woman who has never been married. We learned earlier that a virgin cannot marry without the consent of earlier. And in the case of the woman who was previously married, whether divorced or widow, she makes her decision. And the Wali just is there to perform

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her marriage, she cannot go marry on her own, obviously, the oil is going to perform the marriage. But she is the one who makes the final decision. It's not her wedding. So she is allowed to make a decision for her marriage after her previous husband has passed away. So basically over here, is an indication that if a woman decides to get married, after it's done, this is not something that is wrong.

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Many times in many Muslim cultures, it is considered wrong for a woman to remarry after her husband has passed away. But we see that in some situations, it is better for the woman to get married. Why? Think of it? If a woman has young children? How is she supposed to continue working and support the children? provide them good education? provide them a loving house? house where the mother is there to take care of the children? How is she supposed to do all of that on her own? She needs somebody else's support.

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And emotionally also, she needs someone else's support. Imagine if the woman is very young. And even if she's in her early 20s. Imagine she's in her late teens, and her husband passed away. She was still very young, is she going to remain single for the rest of her life? No, she needs a partner as well. She needs somebody to rely on as well. So therefore, if a woman decides to get married after their death, then this is not something that is wrong. It is not something that is incorrect. Rather, she is allowed to do so. So there is no blame upon you or earlier if she decides to get married. And remember that when a woman decides to get married, how does she do that? Or when she's

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thinking of getting married? What does she do? She adorns herself or she beautifies herself. She goes to social gatherings tries to meet other people. Obviously, I'm not saying that she goes and tries to meet non Muslim men. Obviously, that's absolutely Haram. That's incorrect. And so if it's in an appropriate way that somebody introduces a man to her, and all of us are aware of that. So if a woman after her, it continues to wear Xena to adorn herself, which is an indication to her relatives, to her family that I am ready to get made. So if she does something like that, there is no sin upon the relatives of this woman. Because she has decided for herself that she wants to get

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married.

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In our vessel, the nine who said that if the woman is divorced, or if her husband dies, and then her it that term and there is no sin, that she beautifies herself, so that she becomes ready for marriage proposals. This is the way that is just an honorable. So he explained this as the maroof what is Margo, that a woman? She beautifies herself so that she becomes ready for marriage proposals. Now it doesn't mean that she ducks herself up and she goes outside. She doesn't care about hijab. No, that's obviously understood. But what it means is that after there when she was not beautifying herself when she was not adorning herself at all. Now all of a sudden, she has become

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interested in clothes, in makeup in jewelry, but does that mean that she's looking for a spouse? So if she does that, there is nothing wrong in this. There is absolutely nothing wrong in this. But obviously she should make the decision honorably in a manner that is correct in a manner that is appropriate. And obviously she should remain within the limits of the Sharia.

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Well mine will be met our Medina hubby and Allah is with whatever that you do. Always all over

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Everything that you do Ally's aware of that the name of a Mojave is from the veterans hall that are from the word Hubbard.

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And Hubbard is to know, it is to be aware, it is to be acquainted about the reality of something, it is to be aware of the law here, and about the matters of the apparent and the hidden, that he doesn't just see as to what you do on the outside. He knows what you're thinking, what you're feeling inside as well. So when the woman thinks that she needs to get married, she thinks that it's better for her to get married. Allah knows about that. We see over here, that the commands with regards to the widow have been given the rulings with regards to the widow have been given. And these rulings, the Muslims, the believers have to observe them. But at the same time, these rulings,

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also abolishing some of the jahai practices, the commands that we have been given. At the same time, they were also abolishing some of the daily practices, what doesn't emerge, it practices, the practices before Islam, the pre Islamic time, we see that before Islam, the widow would remain in a debt for an entire year, for one whole year. And this was before Islam, and also at the beginning. Initially, the Muslim women also were supposed to remain in America for an entire year. But in January, when the women were in America, they were not allowed to dress up at all. They were not allowed to adorn themselves. Obviously, this is something that continued in Islam. But in generally,

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they were not allowed to adorn themselves to an extent that the woman was not even allowed to comb her hair, or to bathe herself, or to clean herself. So she would just not be emotionally in a miserable condition. But even physically, she would be in a very miserable condition.

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We learned that Dana, the daughter of Elena, she said, about the pre Islamic era of ignorance, that when the woman's husband died, she would go into seclusion, complete seclusion, completely cut off from the rest of the world. But we see that in Islam when a woman is in it that she is allowed to talk to other people, she is allowed to go out to fulfill her need. But she has been taught to limit. But in free Islamic time, when the woman's husband died, she would go into seclusion, and she would wear the worst clothes she had. She would refrain from wearing perfume or any adornments until a year passed. She would then come out of seclusion, and would be given dung that she would throw,

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then an animal will be brought out a donkey, a sheep or a bird, then some blood would be drained from it, usually resulting in its death.

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So we see that the widow, she wasn't considered as a normal human being anymore. She was cut off from the society. And when she was brought back, some weird practices were also done, such as killing an animal, or throwing dung and things like that. And after the writer, the woman did not have the liberty to make decisions for herself. If she wants to get married again, she was not allowed to decide for herself.

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And sometimes she would be forced into a marriage with someone, she'll be forced into a marriage she would not want to get married, but you'll be forced into it. And other times, the woman would be inherited by the heirs of the dead men, just as his camels were inherited, just as his property was inherited. Similarly, the wife was also inherited by the heirs

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that just as the brothers of the dead person would take his camels would take his house. Similarly, the wife would also be inherited by one of them. Which is why Allah subhanaw taala revealed in sort of the Messiah 19 that Yeah, are you letting me know? lay your head Lula come. And Teresa Nisa acaba, all you have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women, by compunction

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women are not some property, you don't inherit them. After the death of the husband, the woman has the right to decide for herself whether or not she wants to get made and who she wants to get married to. But we see that even today, in some cultures, after the death of the husband, the woman is not allowed to live a normal life anymore.

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And unfortunately, this is

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Not just in an Islamic cultures, to some extent this is also prevalent in our Muslim cultures, within our Muslims.

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In an Islamic cultures, we see that the death of the husband means that the woman must also be burnt alive with the dead body of the husband. Yes, this is a practice that was practiced up until recently, and perhaps even today, alone varnum.

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Similarly, we see that when a woman when her husband dies, she's not allowed to remain, she is considered as somebody who's going to bring bad luck. So she's not allowed to come to the weddings of other people. She's not allowed to wear colorful clothes for the rest of her life, she's going to wear simple clothes, she's going to wear white or she's going to wear black, she's not going to put on colorful clothing. And she's not going to come into social gatherings because if she comes, she's going to bring bad luck. So all of these practices have been abolished by

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the woman when her husband dies, she's going to wait for four months and 10 days if she's pregnant for pregnancy will be revealed. And at this time, she gets time on her own, to get over the state of shock to get over the state of grief. She needs time to collect herself together to get herself back together, and to deal with all of the matters that have fallen upon her now

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and after her it that she is allowed to get married. So the conclusion of this is that there is for four months and 10 days. And secondly, the widow is granted security and independence to make her own decisions. Therefore, she should not be forced to marry someone whom she does not want.

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And if she wishes to marry someone, she should be allowed to, as long as it is with

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that listen to the recitation

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FEMA

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enough for me.

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We see that sometimes even within Muslims, if a woman's husband has passed away, she is discouraged from marrying afterwards after her.

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And if she does get married, people consider that to be very strange. However, it may be better for her in her situation.

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If she has young children, she needs the support of someone else. And if her young children are looked after, by another person by another family, that gives them an opportunity to look after orphans. And the house in which orphans are treated nicely. They're treated with affection and care. That's the best house amongst the Muslims. And the house in which the orphans are not treated properly. They're not treated with affection and care. That's the worst house. So if a woman decides to get married, after her husband has passed away, there is absolutely nothing wrong in that. When Arjuna herrlichen. And there is no sin upon you. There is no blame upon you. Who does you refer to?

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The men? Which men, the men who wish to marry the widow? Those men who wish to marry the widowed women, there is no blame upon you, meaning you shouldn't feel guilty. You shouldn't feel guilty with regards to what FEMA in what I've worked on V Min hippopotami Sir, there is no blame upon you for that to which you indirectly allude concerning a proposal to women, female, our Allah is from new factories I'm wrong.

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And the word of it means to display something somewhere out of the home, another minute

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are the means to display something to present something to offer something and from this the word out rather than ideal of what the way that you see over here that is to hint with regards to something to give an indication only about something to talk indirectly. One is that a person says something very clearly in a straightforward manner.

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And the other is that a person only hints it he

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speaks about it in an unclear way, in an indirect manner.

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And this is the opposite of the three, the three is to stay, to state something clearly, to be straightforward with something over here, FEMA Otto, what does it mean? That you indirectly hint you indirectly allude

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of what minha denisa of proposal of marriage to the women

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is from the roof veterans hall for that. And HIPAA is to ask a woman for marriage, to ask a woman in marriage, it is to send a proposal of marriage to a woman. This is what clickbait is. And HIPAA is also used for engagement. Why? Because engagement is the acceptance of the proposal. Right? engagement is only the acceptance of the proposal. Remember, engagement does not mean nica. Because many times people think that if they're engaged to someone, then there is no Mahanama from issue between them. They think that talking is permissible, sitting together is permissible. There's no hijab that is required anymore, that they can go out together. No, HIPAA is only engagement, which

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is the acceptance of the proposal that a woman is proposed. And she accepts. So obviously, both are now engaged. Now, they just have to decide as to when they're going to get married, where they're going to get married.

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So head over here means proposal, proposal to who and these are the women, which women are these, the women over here refers to the widow in particular, but it may also be applied to divorced when

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it may also be applied to divorce from but primarily in the context refers to those women whose husbands have passed away. So there is no blame upon you or men, if you indirectly in a proposal of marriage to the women, when during their age,

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because remember, that when a woman is in her ADA, she cannot get married. And a proposal cannot be sent to her directly. But a man can hinge the proposal to her indirect way. What does that mean? How will that be done? We see that, for example, a man may say to the woman, that inshallah Allah will bring a father for these children soon. What does that mean? That he's hinting that she could get married after Florida. Similarly, a man may say, to the woman that I wish to get married.

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He's not saying I wish to get married to you. But he's just saying, I'm thinking of getting married,

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especially if he's a relative to her. Or he can mention it to her relative. For example, the man could say to her relative, that when here is the ends, let me know. So you can indirectly, hint the proposal. During their data.

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We see that amongst the Arabs, marrying a second time that if a person was made, they got divorced. So marrying again, or marrying a widow was not something that was considered wrong, it was not something that was looked down upon. Many times we see that within Muslims, even if a woman is divorced, or a woman is a widow, nobody will even think of sending a proposal to her. She is considered as somebody who is used or she's considered somebody who has her baggage with her so you cannot get married to her.

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However, this is something that is not in our thing, in prehistoric times as well. And even after Islam, this is not something that was looked down upon getting married a second time or marrying a widow. Islam permitted this Why? Because in this is benefit for the woman, how can she spend her entire life alone now? Sometimes you see that women at a very young age that are divorced, or at a very young age, they get widowed. And just because she is divorced, or just because she's a widow, nobody's going to send a proposal to her. But Islam has allowed this that you can marry a woman who is widow, but certain guidelines have been given. What are those guidelines that Nika cannot take

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place during their

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and direct proposal of marriage cannot be given during during

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the proposal maybe hinted and I mentioned some of the examples to you.

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Oh or accidental, you all conceal,

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accidental isn't newsletters gaff noon noon, can and can, is to keep something secret it is to keep something from sight, it is to hide something so that it remains hidden, nobody can see it. And it remains a secret it is to hide something in a secure place. Not something that you hide in your heart, is it secure, insecure, the moment you say, or the moment you write something, then what happens, it's not secure anymore. Somebody could hear it, or somebody could read it.

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But if you keep it in your heart, it's secure, it's safe.

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And if you decide not to reveal it, nobody can find out about. So a conundrum is that you hit you concealed, what the proposal were in your heart, that you don't say, you don't mention it, you don't even hint it. You just hide it fee unphysical in your hearts until when until there is over.

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So there is no blame upon the man, if he decides to hint the proposal indirectly during their data. Or he decides to wait until there is there is over. And then he sends the proposal directly.

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So basically, a choice has been given. You can hint it during the data. Or you can wait until the day is over and send the proposal directly animala. Who online you so why is this permission being given? Because Allah knows that unknown that indeed you set a Corona when you are going to mention them, you are going to think of them. What does it mean by this, that you are going to think of marrying them, even during their data, you will think about making them so therefore, he has allowed you. But if you're not able to resist it, then only hint the proposal. And if you can resist, if you can hold yourself back, then wait until the data is over.

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We see that many times something that a person intends to do or a goal that he has, what happens,

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you cannot keep it to yourself.

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Sometimes it's as simple thing as going somewhere on the weekend, and you just have to tell somebody about it. And if you don't think it's appropriate to tell them about it, you at least hinted

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it's something that is natural. We like to express we like to share our intentions, our goals, what we want to do what we plan to do. So because there is something very natural, Allah knows about it, that you are going to mention them you are going to think of them, you are going to think of marrying them. Therefore he has allowed you that if you wish to send the proposal indirectly do that. And if you wish to wait until the end of their data, you may do that. So he knows that you're going to mention

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and sometimes this Vicar can refer to just thinking about marrying the woman, or this Vicar refers to sending the indirect proposal or talking about the intention to marry that woman.

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So Allah knows that you're going to do that, therefore he is allowed you. Therefore there is no sin in taking either of the options when I can, but there is one restriction that led to our illness. Do not promise them do not make any promises with them. Of what of marrying them. When during their data. Do I Do women is a newsletter as well. And then from the worldwide What does it mean? Promise. So don't promise them. Or don't make the women promise you that don't make the woman who is a widow who is inherited. Don't make her promise you that give your pledge to me or Promise me that you shall not marry anyone else except me. Promise me. And sometimes, if a woman is not even in America,

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if a man wishes to marry a woman, and he's not able to immediately, what does he do? He forces the woman to promise him that she's only going to marry him. What does Allah say? Not to worry too soon. Don't make the women promise you that they must marry you only.

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And notice how Allah says led to our to hoonah Ceylon secretly because such promises can only be made in secret

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You cannot make this promise in front of her father in front of her brother. No, you can't do that. So lead to our 200 children do not make them promise this in secret. Some have said the lead to our Illumina Sivan refers to don't marry them in secret, don't do nikka with them in secret in that except and the Hulu of the MANOVA except that you say a statement that is appropriate. Again, what does column alpha refer to?

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That you only hint, the marriage proposal? You don't say it directly. For example, a person says to her body that do not give her away marriage until you inform me first.

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Now, why is the person not allowed to make the promise with the woman that he is going to marry her after her either. If you think of it, if a woman finds out during her data, that there is another person who wishes to marry her, this might bring comfort to her. She might think, okay, I'm not left on my own. There's somebody who loves me there is somebody who will take care of me after my death. But men have been forbidden from making these promises to the women, or directly proposing the women during her return. Why? What's the wisdom behind that?

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What if the man changes his mind afterwards, who is going to suffer more was going to get more hurt the woman so four months and 10 days is a long period of time. So therefore, do not make any promises because you never know how you might feel what you might think after there it is over. So don't make any promises and other wisdom. Another reason is that because this promise is going to cause disturbance in the data of the woman. She's already disturbed.

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She's still recovering from the death of her husband. And now somebody else comes in tells her that I'm going to marry you. Who should you think about her dead husband or her prospective husband. And she's going to be completely divided, or should you think of ourselves. So therefore, do not disturb the woman in this stage lever. Don't disturb her. You should wait until the end of 31 a Thursday move ropa de nica and do not resolve the legal contract of marriage there are a coda of nikka. tassimo is from newsletters, I mean from the word as an as is to make a decision with regards to something do make up one's mind about something. And it is to make a firm resolve firm decision that

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this is exactly what I'm going to do and I'm not going to do anything else.

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So don't resolve don't decide don't determine their uploader of nikka.

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Raka is from Iowa that literally means die or not. And from this the word Monica is used for the contract of marriage, the marriage contract.

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So don't resolve the marriage contract. What does it mean, that don't decide to marry them don't make the final decision during their data. So over a year, the command is being repeated. It has been mentioned in another way that you may have the intention to send the proposal directly to marry that woman after it. But do not make a firm decision in your heart.

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Because you never know that you propose to her. After that, and she refuses. It's possible that she refuses. She says no, I need more time. I don't wish to get married right now, or I do not wish to marry you. So don't make a firm decision in your heart after a thought of nikka Hatter until you have a little kita agenda until the prescribed period reaches its appointed turn.

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Yellow anchieta. Now what does that mean? book isn't it, but rather than the true meaning of the word kita. It's from God, which means to join together

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is to write something and from this key tab is used for something that is very important. Something that is mandatory. Something that is wired

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from the same is gudivada a common pitfall or quotevalet como cm. So katiba means it doesn't mean it was written. But does it mean

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that it was made Why did you have upon you? So keytab is something that is legit. Over here, it refers to

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it refers to the waiting period, the prescribed waiting period after the death of the

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So don't resolve to marry them until the keytab reaches agenda who is appointed time remember the meaning of agile, it's either used for a period of time or a particular moment in time, overhead refers to the moment in time, which is the end of the waiting period.

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So until there it is completely over, only then decide to do the nickel. Only then perform the nickel. And until then, do not send a direct proposal. Do not make a firm decision, and do not promise either

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one why Namu Allahu Allah mu Murphy and forsaken and know that Indeed, Allah knows what is in your hearts. Allah knows your feelings. Allah knows your decisions, Allah knows your thoughts, therefore

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be conscious of him, fear him. Be cautious of him, though, if the rule is from Heather has the wrong and Heather is to fear something or someone and it is to try to keep safe is to try to stay safe from their anger from their punishment, or from their home. This is what hazard is.

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So for example, the word hazard is also used for precaution that an army takes before battle. What does that include, for example, making sure that they have their soldiers, that the soldiers are trained similarly, that they have enough ammunition, that they have enough means of transport. So all of that is what precaution? When the army has its precaution, what does it mean? That they will be safe from the danger of the enemy, from the threat of the enemy, that if the enemy knows that this army is very well prepared, they're going to think twice of attacking them. And if the enemy does attack, they will be able to defend themselves. So this is what Heather is, over here, law

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says, Be cautious of him, be fearful of a law. What does it mean? That don't do anything that would invite the anger of a law that would invite the punishment.

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Be cautious of Allah. And notice that this has come right after that he knows what is in your hearts. So be fearful of him, even with regards to your feelings, even with regards to your desires.

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Many times we think that if we say something, other people are going to find out about it. What are they going to think about me? So therefore, we refrain from saying certain things. But we entertain those thoughts in our heart, don't we? But the fact is, that Allah knows what is in our hearts even. So if we are shy of people, and because of that shyness, because of that fear, we don't say some things. Shouldn't we be shy of Allah, and not entertain those thoughts in our hearts?

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If out of the fear of people, we don't verbalize some statements, out of the fear of Allah, should we not stop entertaining some thoughts in our hearts wanna move and aloha Jada Murphy and pusaka Allah knows what is in your heart for the room, so be cautious of him. be fearful of him. Allah knows about the whispers even that are in our hearts that shaytan puts in our hearts or that our knifes whispers to us. Similarly, he also knows about the thoughts about other people that are in our hearts. We learn in sort of tough I number 16. That one of God Hanukkah in Santa, certainly we have created the human being. Allah has created the human being when naroda momento was raised to be

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an absolute, and we know what his soul whispers to him. We know exactly what his soul whispers to him. The Secret parts, the quiet thoughts that no one else hears. Only the person hears himself. Only the person hears those thoughts. Only the person himself hears those statements that he makes in his heart. Allah knows about those thoughts. Allah knows about those whispers when I know acabo la even have delivery and we are closer to him that his jacket again.

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So Allah knows about what is in our heart and therefore we should be shy of him. We should be fearful of him. We should be cautious of him. We should focus

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on cleaning our hearts, we should focus on the improvement of our hearts. That nothing that Allah disapproves of, should be my heart. Look at the context that a man is thinking of sending a proposal to a woman. He's thinking about a woman who is not. He shouldn't think too much about her. And sometimes we see that people who do not even wish to get married to some people. So what are they doing?

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They're thinking about non Muslim, or if they do wish to get married to them, and there is no scene of them getting married anytime soon. Sometimes, children are very young, in their early teens, they're only 1314. And all they can think of is the boy whom they like, or the girl whom they like. And they're thinking about them. They're talking about them. They're sending text messages to them faster to hear him. Okay. Parents don't know, maybe your older siblings don't know. Maybe their parents don't know. But Allah knows. Yes, our feelings are not entirely in our control. But at least we can suppress them. At least we can try to control them. At least every time that the thought

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comes into our heart into our mind, we can say that no, this is incorrect. You see, one is that the feeling comes to heart, the thought comes to our heart. We don't have any control over the thought coming over the feeling coming. But we have control over entertaining that feeling or not entertaining that feeling.

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It's up to us. You can sit for two hours, and think about that person. Or what was he wearing? Look how he was talking? What was he eating? Where was he going? A person can spend two hours thinking about this. And another way is that as soon as a thought comes, he says, Why am I thinking about it? I shouldn't. And he makes and she makes herself busy with something else. So we don't have any control over the thoughts that come to our hearts. But we do have control over whether or not we wish to entertain them. Whether or not we wish to dwell on them. If we dwell on them, if we stay with them, if we entertain these thoughts, then we are at fault, then we are blameworthy. And if the

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thoughts come and we suppress them, then we're not blame with

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a loss parent. Allah says in Surah Baqarah Ayah 284 were interview Murphy and forsaken otaku who has to convey

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whether you show what is within yourselves or conceal it. Whether you verbalize it, or you hide it in your heart, Allah will bring you to account for it. Allah can question you. Allah can ask you, this person was not Muslim to you. Why did you spend two hours thinking about them? Why did you spend half an hour thinking about them? Yes, a thought came into your heart. Okay. The thought was from shaitan. But why did you entertain that thought Allah can bring you to account for it. Fire thoroughly Manisha where you are at the moment,

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then he will forgive whomsoever He wills and punish whomsoever He wills, then it's left to the decision of Allah, he can forgive whoever he will, then he can punish whoever he wills.

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And it's not just thoughts about a non Muslim.

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Sometimes, it is feelings of jealousy. It is feelings of envy. It is grudges, bad feelings, negative thoughts. Yes, we do have them. But it is incorrect to dwell upon them, to not get over them, it is incorrect, to start talking about them. Because what happens if a person is jealous of another, what's going to happen, either is going to spend a lot of time thinking, bad thoughts about that person, I'm going to say this, and I'm going to do that. Or I'm going to do this so that they're humiliated in front of the other person. Or you can go to the extent of talking to other people about that. You know, this person, I don't like them because of such and such reason. Or, you know,

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this person, she does this, she appears to be like this, but she's actually like this. So we see that bad thoughts. Don't just stay in the heart, they move on to the tongue, they move on to the actions. So therefore, we have to control the thoughts. Because Allah knows what is in our hearts for the room and he's telling us to be fearful of him, to fear him with regards to our thoughts even

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Warren No, no, no. And Aloha, that Indeed Allah He is a food and he is forgiving.

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If you have a bad car, and you're trying to suppress it, you're trying to do something to stop it, he will forgive you. But obviously if you're entertaining that thought and you're inviting the punishment of Allah, then Allah will afford only to those who deserve the muffler. While mo anila have a full on, and he is also highly human, he is also forbearing.

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Remember the name of Allah Helene, we discussed about the same earlier that him his tolerance. It is forbearance, that despite the fact that one has the ability to take revenge, he does not take revenge, but rather, he forgives, he delays he gives more chances. So despite our wrongdoing, despite the thoughts come to our hearts, the loss of penalty does not punish us immediately. He gives us time to get over them. He gives us time to strive against them and to finish those types of lies forgiving, and he's also hiding.

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that during there either, a man can only indirectly propose the widow. But he may also wait for the reader to end and then send the proposal directly. And during the return, a man cannot promise her that he will marry her, nor can he perform the Nikkor nor can he marry a woman who is in her it. We see that all of these conditions, the conditions of the return of the widow, they also apply to the death of the divorced woman, which divorced woman, the one who has been given political backing, who has been given the irrevocable divorce the third divorce, or she has taken hold what that during her it that do not send a proposal directly only send a proposal indirectly or wait until there it is

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over. Other scholars say that direct proposal may be sent to the woman who isn't there either of polyakova in or who isn't there either off

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so there is a difference of opinion with regards to this. Something that no only indirect just as they're either of the woman who is a widow, and others say that no direct proposals may also be made.

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We learned from a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he ordered Fatima been placed to remain in the house of economic boom for when her husband abou amor even have divorced her for the third time. Because we see that after the third divorce the woman does not spend a day in the house of the husband right? So she spent the day in the house up even though MK two.

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And he said to her tell me when you're at that comes to an end. When she finished there at the Osama bin Zayed the prophet SAW a lot of items freed slave asked to marry her and the prophets or a lot of sudden married her to him. So after what happened, the proposal was sent. But during their it the indirect proposal was sent what was the indirect proposal that when you're it comes to an end? Let us know. And when there is the ended, then what happened? The proposal was sent directly.

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And as for the woman who has been given for lack of a jury, the remarkable divorce the first or the second divorce. It is not allowed for any man descender or proposal directly or indirectly. During her either a woman who isn't there either of the first divorce or the second divorce. No man is allowed to send her

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proposal directly or indirectly, why? Because she is still in the house of who have her husband? So how is it possible that another man is coming up? And saying that I would like to marry you indirectly or directly? So only the actual husband is allowed to do that. Now, what if a woman who is inherited? What if she gets married to another person? What if, whether she's a widow or if she's a divorcee? What if she gets married during her time? Is there any guy going to be valid? No, the nica is not going to be valid, and therefore the case is going to be taken to the court immediately. And there Annika is going to be abolished, it's going to be terminated the man and woman will not be

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married anymore. After the completion of her ADA, then she may be allowed to get married to that man. And some scholars have gone to the extent of saying that she will not be allowed to marry that man anymore, she will not be allowed, because she has committed something that is absolutely Heaven, marrying another person during her it that that's not acceptable at all.

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During the engagement, what is permissible

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during the engagement, you see, when a man and woman are engaged, it means that they have decided that they will get married to each other. So obviously, there is no relationship as of yet between the two.

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Now, just as you will deal with any other person with regards to some work that you're doing with them, for example, if you go to the marketplace, and you are buying something and there is a person behind the table, who is helping you purchase and was telling you about what you should buy and what you should not buy or how you should take care of what you bought, how would you deal with them in a manner that is appropriate with your hijab, in a manner that is appropriate. Similarly, if you have to deal with the prospective husband or with the person whom you're engaged with, you have to tell them about something or you have to speak them about something that is absolutely necessary, you are

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allowed to do that, but obviously, in a manner that is appropriate. Sometimes it happens, that the majority of the woman like for example, her father, or her brother, he is there with her, when something has to be decided when something has to be agreed upon. So that may be done. So basically, nothing is allowed, unless and until there is a need, there is a necessity.

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The question is about wailuku and Eliana Murphy enforcing the rule, that there is a hadith which clearly states that whatever thoughts that come to a person's heart, a person is not accountable for them, as long as he does not verbalize them as long as he does not act upon them. So the either accorded to you, which is the end of the little baccata. That whether you express or you don't express, you conceal, or you reveal, Allah will bring you to account, this habit, he got very concerned, and the prophets that said, I'm comforted by the saying a similar statement that you're only accountable for what you say. But over here, what we've been told is that Father, whoo hoo, be

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fearful, be cautious. If you dwell on that thought, if you entertain that thought, for so long, what's going to happen? Eventually, it's going to turn into actions. So it's the cause of the action. So Allah will, if he wishes he can ask you about it. So basically, the main thing that we're being told over here is that we should be fearful of a loss of panel data with regards to our thoughts as well. And being fearful means suppressing those thoughts, not entertaining those thoughts.

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If a woman who is divorced or is a widow, if she decides to get married, and if she has daughters, what's going to happen to them? Remember that the Father, the husband, of your mother, even if he's not your father, you can never made him? He can never marry you.

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So there is no problem of Mahanama because he is the husband of your mother.

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And if the marriage is not consummated, then there's a different ruling with regards to that. But if the marriage is consummated, between your mother and her husband, then he's like, you're Muslim, as well.

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What else do we learn from this ayah.

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For example, a woman if she lives on her own in there, and the only people in that town in that city, she knew was her husband. And now she's left on her own, then she may go to another city, where her parents are or her relatives are to stay there, over there. But the command is that she must stay in the house of the husband, unless if the situation does not allow at all. So in that case, the woman may spend data elsewhere.

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Now

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If the husband dies at home or the husband dies out of town while he was abroad, it doesn't matter, the woman will spend any time in the house in the house of her husband.

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Any other question?

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If the nikka was done, and the marriage was not consummated, what are the restrictions between the husband and wife? You see, consummation of marriage means that both of them, they physically contact with each other, or sexual intercourse. So as soon as that is done in the marriage is consummated, and the woman has to be done, and the man has to give them up. And up until then everything is permissible, they can talk, they can be alone, they can do anything that husband and wife can do, as long as it is maruf. Remember that you can never abandon model.

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If in your family, if in your culture, your parents don't like the fact that you go with your husband, although you're married to him, although Danica has been done, and you can respect the will or the decision of your parents. Because if you don't respect that, what's going to happen? What's going to happen,

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the relationship between you and your parents is going to get affected the relationship between your husband and your parents is going to be affected as well. It's only a matter of a few more days.

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And if a woman gets married during her eta, then the marriage is going to be the nikka is going to be abolished. And after that, if she wishes to get married to that person, then nikka has to be performed again. And white and blacks specifically, are not the two colors that a widow has to wear, she can wear any color, as long as it's not colorful and very bright. She can wear some plain clothes or some dull color codes, because the hinting of the proposal, it can be done by the man himself and it can be done by one of his family members as well. Like for example, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, that when you endure it that that is known, but who got married to her then

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with Salah.

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Now in the following verses, some more rulings pertaining to Tanakh had been mentioned.

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We see that when a man and woman get made, there are some conditions of nica that must be fulfilled.

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And what are they? First of all, the presence of the of the group, the presence of the well being of the group, because there is no nikka without the wedding. Similarly, the witnesses have to be there.

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Also, the words of the nica such as the Wali saying, to the prospective has been to the man that I gave my daughter, or my sister in marriage, do so and so. And what does the man say? I accept what is the girl say, I accept. And another very important condition that must be fulfilled, is the mother.

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What is the mother, it is a bridal gift. It is the gift that the husband gives to the wife at the time of marriage. And remember, that the mother should be given to the woman, it's a must. It's a condition, it can be given at the time of marriage, or it can be given afterwards as well, as long as it is acceptable to the woman and her wedding. And the mother becomes the property of the woman, not her husband, not her father, it is her property. It belongs to her.

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So we see that murder is a mandatory gift. And what is the limit of the model or what is a maximum or minimum of the model. There is no limit every person must give them according to his capacity. Now, it doesn't mean that a rich man a person who can afford to give a lot of money is given very little, no, a person should give whatever suits him, whatever is his capacity.

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Now, at the occasion of divorce at the time of divorce, how much money is a woman supposed to keep that she was given at the time of marriage? Or if she was supposed to be given the mother at the time of marriage, but it was delayed for some reason. For example, the man said, inshallah, within a few months, I will get this much money. I promise you that this is your mother. As soon as I get it, it will be yours. But before she got them, I heard what happened. The man and woman ended up in a divorce.

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So if divorce happens if a man divorces his wife, then what happens with the mother who keeps a mother? Does a woman keep it? Does it go back to the husband? What happens?

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Or if the man did not fully give the money to the woman or if he did not even decide how much money he was going to give to the woman what's going to happen at the time of divorce because

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Maha is the right of the woman. And at the time of divorce, a woman should know who is keeping what.

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So, we see that there are several scenarios. First of all, one scenario could be that the niqab was performed, the niqab was done. The murderer was also decided it was given to the woman and the marriage was also consummated. The man and woman were living together, then who keeps

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the woman keeps them how much all of it entirely, because we learned earlier that latter hoodoo Mima data Muna che do not take back from the women anything that you have given them. So if the nikka has done, the Maha was fixed amount was given and, or even if the model was not given, but it was fixed, and the marriage was also consummated. Then the woman receives the info.

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Another situation, what could that be that Anika was done? But the Maha, it was not decided.

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For example, the man is not sure if he's going to give 20,000 or 10,000, or 50, he's unsure, the model was not decided. And the marriage was also not consummated. Just the NIC after place, the man and woman are still living separately, the mode is not decided the marriage is not consummated, then what's going to happen? is a woman not going to get anything at the time of divorce, just because no matter was decided, no, she is going to be given something. And what is that something called? It's called motor for now.

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It's called motor follow me into the motor further.

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And what is that

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it is an amount that is given to the woman, which is according to the capacity of the man, whatever that he can afford. If you can afford a lot, he should give a lot. If he can afford a little only, then he should give a little bit, but he must give something. Another scenario, which is that the nigga has done. The mother was also decided, the man said I'm going to give you 2000 and wouldn't give you 20,000 the mother is decided and the marriage was not consummated, then what's going to happen?

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The woman is going to keep half of the decided mouth

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by half only because the marriage was not consummated.

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Another scenario that the Nikkor has done, the Maha was not decided and the marriage was consummated.

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Then what's going to happen? The woman is going to receive metal metal

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metal means similar. So what does it mean? That the method that is received by similar rates similar brides like for example, what is the tradition in the family? What is this trigger? What did her cousin get? Out of these situations are going to be mentioned in the following verses but one of them which is that the niqab was done the Mahara was decided the marriage was consummated. We have learned of that earlier. So that's not going to mention but the following ones are going to be mentioned

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legendary heartache, there is no cynic on you. You're not at fault, there are no sinful consequences. If what in for Lakota, if you divorced, if you divorce to anessa the women, meaning there is no sin upon the man if he decides to divorce his wife when man as long as lambda soon you have not touched them. Man over here gives me enough as long as as long as you did not touch the women. The muscle one is from us means sensing What does must mean it literally means to touch. But must is a polite expression. It's a figurative expression for sexual intercourse.

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And Madame komatsuna means that you did not consummate the marriage with the woman. So there is no sin upon you for divorcing the woman before consummating the marriage with her.

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Oh or definitely Lola who never do you settle for them and obligation that we do is from felt what this part of me an obligation to something that is obligated something that is fixed something that is specified. What did you specify for them for the lesson and obligation? What is fidella it is an obligatory duty. It's a religious duty, something that a person has to perform. Just as there is solid, that is valuable. There is something that is valuable. Similarly, the men have the bridal gift is also a for you. Bye

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It is also something that is mandatory. Many times people neglect this people don't focus too much on the math. They say that no, it's not important. However, it's just as a philosopher evil, or they delay giving the variable. But is it okay to delay the font Salah, it's not okay.

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Similarly, if there is no genuine reason, a person should not delay in giving the bridal gift as well. So there is no sin upon you, if you divorce the women before consummating the marriage with them, or before specifying the method for them. So what's the case over here? nica has done, marriage was not consummated. And the mother was also not fixed, the method was not decided. If the man decides to divorce the woman, there is no sin upon him.

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However, since Apollo itself is something that is difficult for the woman, it is something that is emotionally difficult for the woman, there was no physical relationship between the man and woman and the collapse happens, but because it is something emotionally difficult for the woman, therefore, the man should give something to the woman as a compensation. And what is that thing that he must give? Well, material one, and you all must benefit them. material is for me that rain. matar is a name for anything, that a person can benefit from

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some of their own, give them a gift of compensation. Give them something that they can enjoy.

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And because the word is metallic, a person should give something that is actually a metallic. He should give something that is amateur meaning something that the woman can benefit from.

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How much should this be? I don't know theory, but the rule upon the wealthy one, according to his capacity. The word moose here, what's the root? Well seen I was or what is was army, the capacity, the ability of a person and moves there. It begins with me, what does that mean? It's a noun. So moves here is one who makes WUSA one who makes was here, one who makes vast, what does he expand? What is he making vast his wealth, his property. So Moosa is the one who has a lot of money. mooster is the one who is wealthy, it is a rich person, the affluent men.

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So, the affluent man, the well to do person, he has to give them a fair or the rule according to his means, other is from the letters of the law, and other is the ability of a person, what a person is able to do, the capacity that he has. So the rich man will give according to what he can afford.

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And on the other hand, where are they locked in and upon the poor man, but

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his ability, meaning he will give whatever he can afford. The word locked it is from the ruthlessness of the raw and literary means to be stingy

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and mocked, it is used for a person who is of straitened circumstances, a person who has limited resources. And because of his limited resources, what does he do? He becomes stingy in his spending, because obviously, he's not going to go buy a bag for $500. Or why because he can barely buy food. Even if he has $1,000. He's not going to spend half of his money on just a bag. He's going to spend that money instead on food on rent on something that is necessary. So mocked, it is one who is unrestricted income

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from the same route, but throttling is used for dust for darkness for gloom, because many times when people are undergoing some financial problems, they become worried and you can see the worry, the anxiety, the anxiousness on their faces, where they look at other.

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So we see that because the woman has suffered emotionally Therefore, a compensation has to be given to her for the loss that she has incurred.

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The amount has not been fixed, but it has been left to the financial capacity of the man

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madonn a benefit? How much is that going to be Bill Maher off in the mind that is appropriate in an appropriate way? How come it is a duty meaning there's something that is watching or mercy upon those who do ersan

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someone who does exam This is why our job upon him. Why did you upon him to do what to give

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Something to the woman who he has given divorce to.

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Now, a person may say that the man should not give divorce to the woman in the first place. Why is he divorcing? He married her, did not set them a house did not consummate the marriage with her. Why is he divorcing? Or he doesn't even know how he should marry her. He should compromise, he should try to sacrifice something and make do and accept her as his wife, and just force the decision upon himself. But if you look at it, isn't it better? That a relationship that a man is not fully involved in is terminated right at the beginning? Isn't it better?

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Imagine if the man is forced into this relationship into this marriage. He does not like the woman, it doesn't like her. Or His heart is somewhere else. He's not interested in her. Or he thinks that it's not the right time for him to get married, he needs to put more time into his study or his work. Suppose he's training to become a doctor. And he has to spend 24 hours at the hospital, for example, 23 hours at the hospital, can he really have a wife at that time? No. And if he does, it's going to affect his relationship. So if he thinks that it's not better for him to get married, it's better for him to divorce the woman at this point. And not go and consummate the marriage. Because

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if he does, what's going to happen, it's going to make the situation worse for him. And worse for the woman.

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Many times we see that young people are forced into marriage. And sometimes it's not just the women. It's not just the girls, it's also the boys were forced into their marriages. And we see that they struggle for a few years. And maybe they have a child, maybe they have multiple children. And after some years, they say, My heart was not in this from the very beginning, it was forced upon me. And because it was forced upon them after a few years, when they break up, it makes the situation much worse for the girl and also for the boy.

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So we see that it is better. Obviously, it is encouraged that once a person is married, then he should compromise on something he should try his best to make do with whatever that he has, and accept the spouse as he or she is. But if it's not working out, and you can sense it from the very beginning, it's better to dissolve it at the initial stage. And if a person does give divorce to his wife at this stage without consummating the marriage without specifying the mother, then he has to give some of that

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how much matar is that going to be? We see that in the early days of Islam, people would give slaves as mother to the woman. Why? Because a slave is someone whom you can benefit from, they can work for you. Similarly, we see that the amount would go up to 500,000. Or people would give camels

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according to their capacity, whatever they could afford. Today, we can say that, for example, if a person is able to afford a car, he should give a car. If he can afford to give more than that, or there's less than that he should give whatever that he can because this is matar This is something of value, something that the woman can benefit from.

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Just as the matter is not just just 20 $30 it's not just a little bit amount from which a woman can only buy a pair of clothes, it's a good amount, it's a big amount, a few 100 or a few 1000. So, similarly, the metallic should also be something that is valuable, something that can really benefit the woman in some way.

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And if a person cannot afford, then we also see that sometimes even a pair of clothes was given even a pair of clothes was given to the woman as meta. Why?

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Because a pair of clothes also is something that a woman can benefit from that is something that she has. And we see that even a pair of clothes. Today you cannot buy it for less than 40 less than 50 like a good pair of clothes less than 100 generally you cannot buy it for less than that much money. So matar must be given to the woman. So we see that the gift that a man has to give it is something serious. He has to give it and therefore the decision that he makes of divorcing the woman that also he will think twice before making that decision.

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Let's listen to the recitation

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on lobotomy.

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Thomas,

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he has

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seen me.

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Notice how the eye ends, how can I help?

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The ruling? The law? We have been taught about that. But then it's left to us how much your son Do you want to do? This is something that the more sitting will definitely do. How much or sound do you want to do, depending on how much you want to do, give them a third accordingly.

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Today, we see that the complete opposite is done. At the time of divorce, if the man's family had given some gifts to the girl or the girl's family, what did they do?

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They take them back,

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or the demand for them to be returned. However, we see that at the time of divorce, it's the man who should give to the woman.

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Another scenario, why Impala gotta move on. And if you divorce them, men probably anthemis soon before touching them, meaning before the consummation of marriage, then the guy was done. The marriage was not consummated. But watch out for Tom Laughlin, Nevada, you did fix the Mahood for them. You fix the amount of stuff, you fixed it that you said it was going to be 20,000 You said it was going to be 10,000. So in this case, how much should the man give to the woman funniest format for them, then have must be given to the woman

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to if he decided 20 he has to give 10 if he decided 10 he has to give five inlay except meaning you have to give half except in the situation where as a foreigner that they forgive. You are a foreigner who forgives. They overhear first to the women that they say that they don't want it. For example, a woman says that, you know, I got married to him, okay, but there was no consideration at all. Let's say the man is in a different country, the woman is in a different country. so in this situation, the woman says I don't need them. I'm fine without it. I don't need it. So if they forgive, then it's not a must upon the man to give half of them.

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Oh, or who forgives you therefore he forgives who forgives unless the via de roca Dominica the one in whose hand? Is the marriage die?

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What does it mean by the marriage tie? What does it mean by the marriage contract?

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The nikka?

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And what does it mean by the one in whose hand is the marriage contract meaning the person who has the choice of making that contract or dissolving that contract?

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Who is the one who has the right to dissolve the marriage contract.

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It's the husband. It's not the wedding, though he cannot come and say my daughter is divorced from you know, the man only can make the decision that I divorce you. So Olivia director Tamika Who is the one who has control over their nikka it's the husband. If he says I accept only then the marriage contract is made. If the man says to him, I marry my daughter to you. He says I don't accept is that marriage contract going to be established law.

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The word he says over and over again. And the man says no, I don't accept the marriage contract is not going to take place. The marriage is not going to take this. Similarly, if the valley comes and says divorce, it's not going to happen. So I love the bat rocker Tunica is the husband.

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So what does it mean by this? That the husband forgives the man forgives? He forgives What? He forgives the other half meaning that he does not give only half, but he gives all of it.

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So giving half is not a must. That's the rule. But if the woman says she doesn't want it, and the man can keep all of them.

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If the man says, No, I don't want to give you only half or what am I going to do with the other half you keep everything, then what's going to happen? The woman can keep everything the woman can be given the entire mouth. Wonderful. And if you all pardon, if you forgive, who does you all refer to? You over here is an address that has been made to the men. The man who divorces if you pardon and you give the entire

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mount it is a club with the club, it is much closer to the core. It's also set the theraflu over here because it's fluoro. It includes the men and the women, that if you men forgive and you give the entire Maha, or if you woman forgive, and you don't even take the half, then that is closer to the court. So we see over here that the ruling has been given. But if you overlook and forgive, if you overlook and are more generous, then it's better for you. So our Deen teaches us to be those who gave our Deen encourages us to be on the giving end, not only being on the receiving end, be the one who is giving be the one who is more generous, not just the one who was receiving and taking from

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the other.

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We see that in times of happiness in good times everybody gives. And everybody enjoys giving. At the time of marriage, the husband gives a gift, the wife gives a gift, the mother in law gives a gift, the father now gives a gift. Why? Because it's a happy occasion. But if you think of it, people are only giving you that time. Because giving makes them happy. The person who gives in the time of difficulty in a difficult time, he is the one who actually gives for the sake of

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because he's not giving to satisfy himself. He is giving to please of us Panda, no matter what the situation is. So over here, we see that even at the time of divorce, be the one who is giving to the other. And the woman can be like that, the man can be like that. Because if you give at that time, you're doing it for the sake of Allah and therefore it is closer to the core. It's a sign of

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that when a person is upset with someone when a person has been hurt because of someone. But despite that hurt, he still gives, what does that show that he actually fears Allah? He asked

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what happens I will forgive a nickel? And do not forget the funnel that is between you are What does follow me. Extra surplus more than the help. So yes, okay, the rule has been given half. But don't forget the funnel that is between you. Don't forget to be extra generous. Don't forget to be gracious, don't forget to be kind to the other. Don't forget the father, that is between you. And Latin. So we'll follow by nickel has also been understood in another way that don't forget the fuddle that was there between you.

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Meaning Don't forget the favor that you show to each other. Before that the man in all of his generosity, he promised such a huge match

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at the time of Danica. And then afterwards when things don't work out, as planned, he forgets everything. And he says, I have to give off. I don't want to give it or I'm encouraged to give full. I don't want to give it. So don't forget to follow that you show to each other before. Don't forget about the sand that you show to each other before.

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We see that at the time of nica both the side of the men and the side of the woman, they show generosity to each other. For example, when the man comes with the proposal to the house of the girl, what happens he brings gifts, or his family brings gifts. And the woman her family, what do they do? They honor they respect the serve, they treat them as guests. So what is this generosity? You're not really supposed to serve them? Okay, fine. You can show them a straight face. And you can say okay, fine. But you're extra nice. You're extra generous. What is this funnel. So all of that funnel that was there between the two of you. Don't forget all of it. Now.

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Many times we see that one person hurts us only once. And we forget all the good that they have shown to us all those years we forget everything. And this is extreme in gratitude. We see over here that even at the moment of separation, remember the good days. Remember the good days. Don't remember the bad days. We never forget of reminding our favourites to other people, but we forget remembering favorites. We don't forget to remind the other of the favorites that we've done on them. And we forget the favorites that they have shown to us. This is something that is highly discouraged. We learned so little bacara i 264 Yeah, and you hola Dena amanu la to the Lusaka tech

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company manual other all you have believed do not invalidate your charities.

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With reminders of injury, very reminding the other of what you've done to him. Instead, what should we do, we should focus on the good that we have received from others. If you have done your sign up on someone, you've done it for Allah. And if he has done it, sign upon you, don't forget it. Don't forget the sign of other people. No person is perfect. No human being is perfect.

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If 99% of the time they're good, or if 99% of their qualities you appreciate you like, there is going to be that 1% that you don't like that one quality, that one trait that you disagree with, that makes you upset, no human being is perfect. Don't focus on the 1%. Focus on the 99%. Don't focus on the bad focus on the good. Don't focus on the bad times, focus on the good times. So nothing will fall away. And don't forget the funnel, that is between you

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in Allaha vinata Marina bossy, Indeed, Allah is seen of what ever that you do. If you do your son, if you're generous, or if you're not generous, Allah knows about it. So we learned from this ayah that we should not forget the favors of other people upon us.

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And secondly, we should not forget doing our son upon others either. We should not forget to do your son upon the other.

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At divorce, people forget all the good that they have enjoyed. And they only remember the bad times. Even if the divorce happens after 20 years after 25 years. What is it that the people will remember? the bad times, not the good times. That's all that they will talk about. But over here we're being taught to be positive, have a positive outlook have a positive approach, because only when you're positive? Can you be generous, the moment you become negative, then you become selfish. Then you think about only your own personal benefit and you don't think about other people. So even at this time, be positive and be generous in the law of karma. Universal Allah is watching what you do, even

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if the other person does not acknowledge what you're doing. Allah is watching. Allah knows about your efforts, Allah knows about your generosity. Allah knows about your thinking.

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Let's listen to the recitation.

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be the hero?

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Allah says that answer will follow.

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Sometimes, the divorce of two individuals leads to the divorce of two families, even if they're blood relatives, sometimes of the marriages, between families, for example, cousins get married. And because the relationship didn't work out, the end up in a divorce, what happens? There are parents who may be siblings, they completely cut off from each other. They don't meet each other. They don't greet each other. And if they do happen to encounter each other at a gathering or something, they won't even say salam. They won't even acknowledge the presence of the other, they will completely disregard them. But Allah says let them so we'll put levena come Okay, fine. There was divorce. But

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why are you forgetting everything else? Yes, divorce is something that is very painful, very difficult. But why should you forget all the good times? Why should you forget the good time that you have enjoyed with your sibling, with your brother with your sister? Okay, yes, your children didn't get along. But you could still get along. Nothing. So we'll have a nickel. Don't forget the good times that you enjoy. Only those two people have divorced. You have not been divorced in the lobby, meta model University and sometimes we see that one party or one side tries to do or sign up on the other. They try to have good relationships with them. They try to say Salaam they try to

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greet them and invite them over. But the other side is not willing to accept it happens. So take solace in the fact that Allah is watching your actions. And those watching. Allah knows how much effort I'm putting in what I feel how I am. Therefore he is going to recompense he is going to reward in the lobby matter maluna

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Salatu was Salam ala

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wakulla carnitine, maintain with care, the obligatory prayers, and in particular, the middle prayer and stand before Allah, devoutly obedient, have you have you is a command. It's an instruction that has been given to all believers. And notice that the context is a divorce, and the and the person who has died leaving behind a widow. Because these issues, these matters, when a person gets stuck in them, once a person starts discussing them, there is no limit to that. There is no end to that.

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And especially when a person is going through divorce or when a family member is going through divorce, all that he can think about is how sad The situation is. how miserable The situation is. And doing this What does Allah say? Have you Lord Allah Sunnah, let all of you guard your spirit, preserve your Sadat protect your spirit, though it is from here and have means to preserve something, it is to protect and preserve something, so that it does not get wasted.

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Hence, is to protect, to take care of something.

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And the word happy little also gives a meaning of medalla which is to keep up with something and maintain something, to constantly do something to continue doing something.

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So have a lot of followers and also the wife is a floral of sweater. And over here gives the meaning of specific sort of specific prayers. So it refers to the five daily prayers

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that no matter what happens in your life, even if you yourself are going through divorce or even if a relative is going through divorce, no matter what happens. Don't neglect your son, Happy louella Salawat

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and in particular with sonet was for that it will slow especially guard the middle of

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the word was thought is feminine of the word OSA and OSA is from well seen thought I will set is the middlemost that which is in the mid that which is in the middle of Central was thought is a feminine of that why is a feminine word used over here because it's an adjective of a salad, a salad and with a family. So it's a feminine noun.

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So, the word was thought gives a meaning of that which is central that which is in the middle. And remember that omoton was the one we learnt earlier in the second just refers to what oma that is in the middle. And also oma that is best was that also gives meaning of best. So figuratively, the word also means best or most important, because that which is in the middle is best. The best age is the age of youth between childhood and old age.

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So what is this middle for that? What is the central Salah or what is this best winner

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out of the five daily prayers. So that's when we'll start refers to the US of Santa.

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Why? Because there are two further before it and do forever after it. fudge it in silver before it and Mother binnorie shot after it. So it's right in the middle. And secondly, it's called hostile vest. Why? Because it is of great importance. It has great importance in Islam in our city. So we see over here that guarding the prayer. Preserving the prayer is something that is very important for the believer. We learned that 50 prayers 50 Salawat were initially prescribed in the Muslim woman and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam went on, Miraj what happened 50 prayers were initially prescribed and then on the encouragement of massages and under profits or loss and then kept going

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back and eventually the number came down to five. And after this, any person who maintains and properly performs these five solo ad, he will get the reward of praying all those 54 provided that he does the Hey fella, he does the heft of the five swaddler.

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The question is, what does it mean by his listener? What does it mean by guarding the prayer?

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We know that guarding the prayer first of all means performing the Salah properly fulfilling all of its pillars, fulfilling all of the conditions all of the prerequisites performing the Salah in the correct manner.

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In the proper manner, following the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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also, guarding the salon means performing the prayer on time.

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Do not delay the Salah Do not delay the Sadat from its proper time and pray it when the time of the solder has actually gone. For example, the person prays laughs But at the time of Rasul, Salah, that is what that is not guarding the prayer, guarding the prayer means performing the law of Salah in the time of versona within that time, not delaying it from that time.

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We learned from a hadith that is reported in both Bukhari and Muslim that even Israel for the land he asked the Prophet sallallahu Sallam which deed is darice to Allah, which deed is the best deed at the sight of Allah. And the Prophet said about a sudden replied, a sweater to either walk it has to offer the prayers at their proper times and proper times means what to perform this letter within its time, do not create after its time or before its time.

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I asked what is the next good deed? What is the next action which is best in the sight of Allah? And he replied, LG had the feasibility

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to participate in jihad in Allah because I asked what is the next in goodness? And he replied, beware anything to be good and beautiful to your parents? Or the layman was earth he then added, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told me these words, and had I asked more, the Prophet would have told me more.

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If only I had asked him more questions. So this is a hadith that is reported in Boko Haram and Muslim. So guarding the Sunnah includes performing the Salah on time. And guarding the center includes praying the seller, constantly meaning not missing out on some seller,

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because it's to guard the seller to not miss out on even one Do not delay even one

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whatsoever was thought and in particular guard wood center, there are so solid because it's the mid masala now the evidence was slotted was clubbing. Also Salah was, first of all the linguistic evidence that I told you, that was twice that which is central for Serato also the central it's best because of its great importance. We learned that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam during the Battle of

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what happened in the Battle of the Muslim side to dig the trenches. And upon digging the trenches, they also had to guard the trenches because the enemy was where was the enemy right across the trenches, right? So they also had to constantly guard the trenches. So the prophets are allowed is an upset shell aluna ani Salatu was Salam ala ously mana Allahu kulu Babu Babu tahuna Allah, they meaning the disbelievers, they made us very busy from performing the middle prayer they also pray

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because they had to stay over there for so long that the proper time was gone. May Allah fill their hearts and houses with fire and this is a hadith that is mentioned in the Dharma and a similar Hadees is also reported in say Muslim. So from this we learned that so that is so that Rasul. Now why is selected also mentioned here in particular, aren't all of the five daily prayers important of course they are. But when one is mentioned specifically, it shows that guarding that performing that is extremely important is much more important.

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What is the importance of the solid?

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We learned from a hadith the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that men fat that was for that are three fucka Anima Butera, Allah who woman who, whoever misses the Rasul prayer will be like the one who has lost his family and money.

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The one who misses his also smaller, it's as though he has lost his entire family. It's as though he has lost his entire money.

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Many times, what is it that makes us neglect our assets?

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It's either because we're busy in our work.

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Or we're busy with our families.

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And what is the Hadees fellas? That it's as though you've lost it lost all of your money, you've lost all of your family.

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Also, we learned from another headache that on a cloudy day, perform the super early. Why so that you don't miss it? Because obviously at that time, there were no clock. So if it was cloudy since morning, how would you know it's time or loss of time? or How would you know it's almost most of the time you can't tell? So there was times where at all that performed there are super early for whoever misses the offside prayer will have his good deeds wasted.

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And this is a hadith that is considered as so hey.

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So we see that

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So so that is of great importance, or is the time when the day is coming to an end, people are either wrapping up their work for the day, or they are busy with their families. And sometimes a person is busy with his family life. And if it's such an issue such as divorce, then what happens once a person is caught up in this problem and this issue, then indeed, Lexa Sana.

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Sometimes a fight may continue for so long that a person doesn't even realize and he has missed the proper time.

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In the middle of these verses, Allah subhanaw taala reminds us of the importance of sada

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another Hadees tells us which is mentioned in the Hebrew Friday that whoever prays the to cool prayers, Salah Alberto daily, which are the two cool prayers that are sought, and

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as of salah and fudger Salah why, because obviously, it's a time that is very cool. And also the intangible sense. If you miss your morning, you miss out on a lot.

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Just challenge yourself to stay awake one morning and you'll see the benefits really don't sleep after budget even for 15 minutes, even for half an hour and you'll see the bulk of your time in your day.

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So whoever prays to cool prayers, what are the fudges and, and also also because the sun is not at the top, it's not over. So therefore, that is not that hot at that time. So whoever prays to cool prayers, he will go to Paradise, you will go to Jenna.

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Also we learn from another Hadith, that inner consetta owner of bircham cannot own a hidden camera letaba Moon if you look at you people will see your Lord, as you see this full moon and you will have no trouble in seeing him. The full moon when it's up in the sky. Can you see it without any difficulty? Yes. And Can everybody see it? Yes, whoever is there can see that they tried to look up even if there's a big crowd of people, still you can see because all you have to do is look up and you can see the moon clearly and full moon you can see it clearly. So you will see Europe you will see a lot of planetary just as you see the full moon today. For instance bartone and lateral

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laborales Latin parabola Tula shamcey was forgotten cobla horrible shamcey Shamsi follow. So if you can avoid missing through sleep or becoming busy a prayer before budget and a prayer before sunset, which is awesome. Then you must do so.

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A prayer before sunrise and a prayer before sunset which is awesome salah and the fighter sada. So, if you can avoid missing the Salah, then must do so you must try to avoid missing the Salah. Because only if you avoid missing these two prayers, then you will be able to see a law then you will be able to see a law clearly.

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So if you want to see Allah, then guard this prayer

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we'll call moral value quantity and stand for Allah as a devoutly obedient quality as we have learned the meaning earlier on Athena's from canoes and canoes as humans obedience and also means to stand. The word canoes also means calmness stillness. So what does it mean by formally like equality? Stand for Allah as devoutly obedient, meaning stand with humility, stand with who should perform the Salah with that your heart, your mind your concentration, your focus should be on who? And Allah, not another things, not another people, not on what else is going on the left for Allah and show humanity obedient in front of Allah. What does it mean by obedience in front of Alliance

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for that showing humanity

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this has also been understood as almost a quantity, meaning stand in Salah while being still with Saku with stillness with calmness.

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We learned that said when

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he said that we used to speak to each other sometimes during sada before in the early stages. We used to speak to each other sometimes during Salah. But when this was revealed Pomona laggy quantity, we were commanded to be silent, and were forbidden to talk.

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So we see that in Santa Knute means to show humility, to have for sure, but it also means to become still. stillness of the body and stillness of the tongue and stillness of the tongue does not mean that you don't say the words of Salah obviously you're supposed to say them with your tongue and not just in your mind. But what it means is that a person should not

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Talk with other people. We learned that once, what are we even How can he spoke during the sauna and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to him, that the ordinary speech people indulge in is not appropriate during the prayer. The prayer involves only this be, it involves only the copies, and remembering of law. So Salah should have the speed, that could be under the common law, remembering of law, on the tongue, and also in our hearts. So Salah must have humidity.

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Let's listen to the recitation.

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So we learned from this ayah that all five prayers must be performed properly, a person must guard all of the five prayers. Sometimes we focus a lot on just certain sort of, for example, if we're at school, and if the band goes at 130, we want the class to end at 130 we want to go to the masjid and pray the Salah with them. However, if we're at home, what do we do? We deleted three we relate to 330 hertz love. So that means praying the Salah within its proper time, within its proper time. So if because of some reason, and this is a very important reason that all of us are sitting together in a gathering of knowledge, studying the Quran. And if for that reason, we're not able to praise

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Allah with the rest of the masjid, then we can pray within the proper time of Salah in jamara together, in congregation together, all right, understood, as long as it is within the proper time. And if it's more than two, three people, then why not praying Jamaat and remember that ecommerce is flooded with the condition of your karma to be performing the slaughter in congregation that is especially for the men, before the women, since all of us are together anyway, might as well pretend I didn't get more reward that is benefit for us. But it's not mandatory upon the women. Remember that. So guarding all the five prayers is important, not just a few sooner, but special importance

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must be given to the Asana. And from the Hadees that I mentioned to you that if we wish to see our app clearly, then we should also focus on performing the fudger Salah properly and at its proper time. Not delay it. Really how much difference is going to make if you wake up 15 minutes or 20 minutes already half an hour already all of a sudden you woke up ready before budget so you can do it for the rest of the year as well. Because the benefit is great. Imagine seeing a law clearly. And also we learn the etiquette of Salah that when a person is praying this letter he should pray with canoed with humidity with ashore with calmness. Just imagine when you're meeting somebody whom you

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love when you're talking to someone whom you love. Do you ever speak with your mind being elsewhere? He won't do that. And if you try to do that, other people get so upset, they get very upset. And they sometimes they stop you in the middle and they're like, what did I just say? Just to test if you were listening or not. So if you really love someone, you pay attention to the conversation that you're having with them. You don't say it mindlessly, you know about what you're saying, and you say it with your heart. Similarly, when we're praying further, don't just say the Salah A to Z with no concentration with no heart. But say it with consciousness and for this, it is very important to

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know the meaning of Salah

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because only when you are the meaning of Salah, can you focus on the ceramcoat Otherwise, how do you know what you're saying? How can you pay attention? How can you focus you can't

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rely on anything. So the etiquette of search is to perform it with humidity with concentration with devotion

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to the recitation from the beacon

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