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Marriage 02 Marriage Proposal Part 1

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Nan hamdulillah

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Nakamoto who want to stay in who want to stop?

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When I would have learned even Sharon fusina on sejati Amina Maria de la la

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fille de la

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ilaha illallah wa who luxury Kela watershed one na Mohammedan Aveda who are solo? My brothers and sisters in Islam Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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This is the second lecture of the series love, marriage and divorce.

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We briefly introduced the subject to last lecture, and today inshallah because the topic is very wealthy, we are to begin with Mila. Hey, Todd.

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First of all, I just want to make one important announcement.

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A Dino

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Lisa, that will bash up.

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The religion came

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to grant you happiness in this world,

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before Jelena in the hereafter

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the religion is not here just to make your life difficult or complicated. No,

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Allah Allah woman Hala, who are looking for hobbies is in the one who made us know how we should function.

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When you go and buy a car, they give you a car manual the manufacturer

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provides you a manual

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in order to maintain this car and make sure that it functions properly. You follow the manual strictly change the oil after 300 miles

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do this to the engine after so the same exact thing is Sherry Raja Nigel had Shara had the dean came to guarantee that our lives functions properly.

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And one of the most important areas is the issue of marriage.

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And we see a lot of violations we see a lot of end results that are very grieving, because they be there yet the beginnings were not right.

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How we got married was not right. That is why we're suffering now in our marriages, that is why we're having a hard time.

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Now we don't want this to happen to our children.

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That is why we got to learn what we should do

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very quickly because I really want to talk about

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today

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the engagement in Islam, but very quickly, just a recap.

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Marriage is prescribed

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in our religion, according to Al Quran

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and the sooner and the consensus of the oma

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Al Quran Allah subhanho wa Taala commands us thank you who now tabela akumina Nisa, Mary, as many women as you please provided that you're able to Allah subhanho wa Taala says when keyhole amm in Kumasi, Allah He married the righteous from amongst you.

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The sooner the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, cannery, Hardy tipnis Road, Yama, Shara Yama[???]a, shabba banister, palming qumola at affiliate as a word, oh youth, if you're able to get married, get married. If you're not able, then fast, this will help you control the sexual drive that you have. Navi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to the rot when one of them said I will not marry a woman. He came back to them and he said, what

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he said, and I marry a woman. And this is my pseudonym. And this is my way. This is my religion. This is my Deen and whoever follows something else about my religion. He is not my follower.

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mashrabiya Desert foulkrod was Suna. Well,

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there is a consensus amongst the schoolers that marriage is prescribed in our religion. They differ. So regarding

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is it mandatory? Is it recommended?

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Is it allowed?

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If no Kodama Rahim Allah in his book in the morning mentioned the following.

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You still have Bulkeley, the chahatein.

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While I have seen,

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it is recommended for everyone who has that sexual drive, but yet he is in control.

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He is not fearful that he will fall into adultery because of that sexual drive which he has. Not only this, he also guarding his

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looks.

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Now you cannot look to another us with another haraam. It is haram to look at a woman

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while you were little Muslim.

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It is permissible in some conditions. In some cases, they will Muslim Hata Raja for now

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you're able to do what I'm trying to say here is not only you're able to refrain from committing adultery, rather, you're able to refrain from looking to PICTURES, LOOK into pornographic and the internet in magazines, looking at women in the streets, that you don't walk around and just looking for some women to look at. So if you're having this and you're able to get married, then the second rule income which is no padana said Yog boo Allah Cooley de Sha Hua Hua Hua, Kaduna. nikka why a half wall and FC Hill fitna

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and then it becomes mandatory upon every Muslim who is able to get married. And we're gonna talk about what does it mean Abel in a minute, one of the brothers wanted me to explain this and I will do able to get married, and he is fearful of the fitna of the woman.

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And his ma Kelly molybdenum azote yaku Massoud Abdullah hipness. Oh the Sahaba he says Lola mia becomming edgerly illa ash aura to

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a movie fud her. Wali Tolan, Lineker waha for Allah and FCT fitna, let us watch to my hospital fitna.

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If I know that I have 10 days left in my life, and I am to die after 10 days, and I'm able to get married. And I'm afraid that if I do not get married, I'm going to be exposed to fitna I will get married. Leah Linda xinha kaviraj is in Acadia Ramadan. cupbearer.

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layers in his journey in is Neha who are more

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likely to say hi, have you heard of not bass? When you commit Zina? When you commit adultery when you commit adultery you're not a believer.

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If not best, said Yoon Zalman will email

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in and is extracted is taken out of his heart like this. If he repents and comes back then a man is restored in his heart again but we don't want to say that person is a careful masculine man lowly Islam Muslim yet but when we're

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away emotionally man Nordine Islam then what a man then what that said however the man

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over then you have another issue there's also a lot of sentiment and that goes to the to the brothers ally you know Disney was in

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the eye comments about how by looking at

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wireless and Wi Fi was you know will color the tongue comments about how speaking sweet nice. Well, although no testimony was in

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your ears committable

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by special machines mission center la de la had

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not the adultery that requires a hat that flogging or stoning to death but say into that

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to adult

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while he or destiny the hands commit adult was in a headlamps, handshake, whoo. Aakash em sick, huh?

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What do they do Chesney and the feet commits adultery was in Saudi Arabia, one for you said

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the only thing that is left is your private part sexual organ, whether it will confirm this or will dismiss it.

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I want to say that if no padana hears mentioned that will fit now here beginning from looking if you're walking around, many, if you're fearful of the fitness, get married, sign up to live number so it says, If I only have 10 days left in my life, and I'm afraid of the fitna because he's going to end up sinning. I rather get married even so I know I'm gonna die in 10 days.

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yaku have this little media he side

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of life is about the law on Who am I to say who by his student? Rahim Allah azza wa jal Mary in the Hydra head in oma axon whom Lisa Monaco Hello Melissa.

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Men who Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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marry the best of the oma or those who have worked.

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Of course it can

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be the umbrella but I'm only a deliverer sisters

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it's my daddy yaku bra Ibrahim of my Sarah one of the tabea in the raven Meister woman Tell me follows

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on toes also is one of the students Herbalife now best

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call and ethos. She Who is she said to him, Tessa would get married. Well, otherwise law school and nella comma Paula O'Meara nahata believe it.

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If you do not get married, I will say to you what Omar said to one of the people whose name is Aiden uzawa Mazda palmolive reservas Carla who yet nessa

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so and so Maryam NACA on in nikka.

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Arjun our food

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you're able to get married financially and physically what stops you from getting married? Only one of two weather wickedness that you want to go around and enjoy or you're unable to

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you're unable to meaning that you can you don't have what

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the sexual ability to basically have a wife

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Elena yaku Rahim Allah, Allah

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Kasabian being unmarried ladies at minimal Islam is not Islamic woman the

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SVG for pediococcus Dhaka Ilaha Islam and whoever tells you don't marry he is inviting you to something else other than Islam. Oh vi D can rubbish Manila bad Bish Vishal Abbot.

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akula Halima Mohamad Rahim Allah yobbish Lotus

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laka laka what I can lay back

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if you get married the rubbish is a lot better than basically it will be a completion for your either

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your Bakula we said as our to Egypt, it's mandatory, Abu

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alkazi why yaksha Allah and I've seen fitna someone who is able and he's afraid of the fitness

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well used to have recommended for who?

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Come on brothers, I'm not going to speak to myself here. Someone who is able but he is what

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he is in control not only not only in control of what not only the private part but in control of what I

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mean by that is in

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the beginning of Xena let you know destiny. Destiny will this and we as neither I commits adultery and so forth. Now, you bow otaku? Lin lil in Nene,

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La Nina Lola lower person who likes Allahu ebeneezer some people are like this Allah subhanaw taala did not give them the ability to have that sexual drive. We say

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It is disliked for them to get married, and it is permissible for them to get married provided that they reveal their condition to their spouse before marriage. Raj will argue his method and methodology.

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An old person whose wife died

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he wants a companionship but he is unable. Jani is not active yakushima is my and Amanda shadow model. I don't have it. Well, I just wanna marry for companionship. Is it okay, okay, okay.

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Then it's permissible. But it is this life for him to go into the relationship and the wife discovers that he is what he is not performing.

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Why a harmonica. Listen to this carefully because a lot of the brothers do not know this.

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And nikka. Jani. Sure in the UK or Ireland, Hannibal Villa, Kalia nica is haraam for a person who lives in the land of disbelief

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why laennec when you get married, you're going to have children

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what is going to happen to the children?

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Maria muslimah

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most recently went to turn into Christianity.

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Now if something goes wrong, the court is going to give her the children you kill her let's go to our country land where I come from she's not gonna come

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Kalamata Jani.

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kuffaar tabon layer halal Muslim and yet as our 11 kita via Wahby shuru.

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It is not permissible for a Muslim to marry but from the people of the book, but with conditions that it will feed back to the marrying and Muslims and Islamic perspective and the lecture that we cover the details of the subject maybe you want to look at it inshallah. But before you get married, you have to find out what is going to happen to the children. What happened if you have children are these children going to be Muslims going to be Christians is this woman is going to help you how many stories we hear that you get married to a Christian and a Jew and then your children turn into Christianity

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as a lie and father column for you.

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Let's explain albear Marielle the year Mashallah Chabad minister farming khumba if you're able to get married, the ability here means the ability the physical ability

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being able to perform and the financial ability Does this mean that you have to be wealthy in order to get married? No. You're able to earn

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you're able to support the families

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in the industry well I can imagine if lusatia was law

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I know that the hours are high and all of this but know what is meant by Alba here what is meant by Alba here that you're able to earn their living for the family one day for hydrocephalus, pseudonymous origin, Abdullah so

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can you say it used to be very poor?

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He had a wealthy wife, her name is Zane. Zane. I've actually came to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam asking him, is it okay? Is it permissible for me or rasulillah to give my Zakat in the mail to my husband, Misha, I use a little Hades.

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Is it permissible for me to give the cat to Mel to my husband? Karla hanabusa la sala Nara it is permissible.

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It is permissible. The cattle Mel goes to the husband. Lindell Eonni, the man is not the woman is not required to support the family.

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But it seems like we're talking about the men all the time. Correct. What about the women? does this apply to the women too?

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Also women who cannot control their desire, women who can yes applies. But once it comes to women, she's not gonna walk around and say, marry me because I cannot control my desire. We're not gonna say that. But let our food is our

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yarn and daddy

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Masekela she has that problem that she cannot be in control of her sexual drive the woman and then she gets a marriage proposal, and then she turns it down. Why?

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Then we tell her or we tell them why they gave her a marriage. We spoke before the Late last lecture about also the benefits of getting married. And we mentioned seven benefits of actually seeking marriage. And we will leave this maybe later either. You can go back to the lecture. It's available.

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online and check it out in sha Allah

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for you.

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Now you decided that you want to get married, correct?

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Hmm, say yes. But if you're married, you don't have to do this.

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Only those who are not married.

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Now we want to engage.

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You want to initiate the process? What should you do the first thing

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you have two choices to go.

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choice number one.

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Basically you want to identify.

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You want to identify the women.

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You want to identify the women to whom you want to be engaged to

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eliminate.

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So Hi,

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Tom, how are you going to do this?

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You have two choices.

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Your father, your mother, your sister, your brother told you. There is a nice sister in so and so family.

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Then you contact the family.

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The Father,

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tell him Assalamualaikum I'm interested

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in your daughter, or whoever is under your guardianship. But I would like to see her.

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Then in another realm of Toba, where

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you're looking at her before making the decision is mandatory. But if you're gonna do this, I want to alert you that you must have the intention that you want to get married.

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Hmm, don't call everybody Salaam Alaikum I'm interested I want to get married and you go and enjoy looking at his daughter and then move on to the next one lead.

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This falls into the Huracan

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Aloha,

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Xena No, you will have an intention that you want to get married. First of all, what is the evidence for having to look at the women more than one Heidi and Alison we'll have nashoba Ravi Allah one signal Madeira came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on de fistula nada de de una Nina, sir, you have no matter what telemovie he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he said Dr rasulillah, O Messenger of Allah hakab to Mara. I got engaged to a woman for call Allah who Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him own lor la

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Look at her. Fair enough who ahora you Diana Diana Kumar coma.

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This will help the relationship in the future.

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Oh hydrophila hurry jab are the Allahumma salli ala nabina Muhammad, Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says either hapa hadoo Kumar if one of you wants to get engaged to a woman

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for cut Dora and Dr. Amin Obama do who electronica he lanica here

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and he's able to see from her. What will motivate him more to marry her. asked her in marriage let him do it. As a matter of fact, so hybris Mohammed in the Muslim of the lavonne

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muslimah Well, how do you imagine one day he was actually sitting on the road and hiding behind a tree?

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I'm looking at a woman from Lancer.

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He's what stealing work.

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Looking hiring a look. guy actually fill out the way he's looking at her.

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Such as

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a man came to Atlanta saw him rasulillah is a dateline sobre la, you are the Companion of the Prophet sallahu wa salam and you're doing this for color. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, He said to him no the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that Allah who has our gela fee will be marine

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fella that set a neon bullet.

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If Allah subhanaw taala cast into your heart, the will the need or the desire to get engaged to a woman. Let him Look at her. There is no harm that you look at her. But again, I want to warn you, you don't look at the women walking around and say I want to get engaged. No, the intention must be what that you want to get engaged.

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To this woman. So this is number one that you got to look. Now you can do this two ways. If you don't want to get in trouble with calling the parents and getting into that thing, just find a way to see the system.

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See where she hangs around.

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But what are you supposed to look at? We need to focus on this now what huh?

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allow

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our sister now was wearing we're talking about the Muslim sister he or she's not talking she's not wearing jeans and

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we're talking about a sister who's wearing hijab, hijab the concept not the scarf, baggy loose, not an icon of temptation, some sisters, now they wear the hijab, and it's still an icon of temptation.

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getting a lot of attention, this is totally against the, the purpose of the hijab.

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So he's gonna end up looking at what,

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Leah Wilkerson, if she is veiled, then you're gonna have to call the parents and that what the beauty of the view that you always have to get in touch with the parents, then I you only can see what you're gonna have to call Mr. So and so as salovaara

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you brother in Islam, and I am interested in marrying your daughter. What can I do to see her? Okay, no problem. You're invited to my house as a terrorist now, you're invited to my house on a day so and so. Come have some tea with me. He sits with him first

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letter

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as a father letter, set first with the guy check him out. What are you doing?

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I'm doing so and so. What is your job? Yeah. And he turned him around.

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Boil cook him first. Cook him first. Before you you get your daughter to unveil cook him first. Is he a good candidate? That is your job as a Willie.

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You see, that is your job. This is a manner in your hand. And then and you can turn him around, find out who he is and what he does. And if he is a good candidate for her. If he is a good he can be a good person. But is he a good match for her? You probably know your daughter. If he is then you go to the next step. allow him to look at her face. Speak with her while you are chaperoning as they say while you are sitting, but not try there between them. Allow them to talk to one another in person.

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By episode for the first time he went home.

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I thought about it. I'm really interested in seeing her one more time.

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He saw her work one time. He saw her one time. I would like to see her once again.

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Can he do this? Yes he can.

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Now you as a guardian. You know the level of his seriousness. You don't have to grant him this. But tell him listen that said Shall I actually allows three sharp allows the times?

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The third time you tell him Jani the second time you tell him like we say needed for the legs, a lot of that lava one more time. And that's it. Yeah, that's it. You're done.

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If you see him playing around, and so then just dismiss the idea. Beat Mila he thought. So we got the process.

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Now, we have two questions that we will answer tonight and hopefully time will allows

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who you cannot get engaged to.

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There are women who you can ask

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for engagement, and women who cannot be asked for engagement. Let's begin with the women who you cannot seek for engagement. Number one, El Mirage tuba.

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A woman who's already engaged.

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There are a few of them the first battalion Mara ofI, Colombian rubella, you know that there is a brother who basically went and asked the hand of the sister in marriage houfy collab, there is a talk between the family and the brother, should you go and seek the sister for engagement.

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The Luna hadith of Norma when holofil Bukhari cada sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,

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de Beauvoir julu

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Julie had to local Haku cobla. Who are we at then Allah who will?

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Oh, man, a person should not go and get engaged.

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To a woman who is already engaged by another brother, unless the brother basically leaves the sister and you know that she's clear now. Or you go and ask him you engaged to the sister, are you still interested? No, I'm not interested, can I go on and get engaged or go ahead? Or he gives you a permission?

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That is Serbia for what is the reason for this?

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What is the wisdom behind this?

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How they will feel

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that it brings in a mastery amongst the brothers before I go and ask a sister in marriage, but then you go jump on it, either. Holanda. tremula,

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Jani modo de La da da da brings animosity, and it affects brotherhood affects the relationship of the brothers. For you. Love lohagarh Balaji lunala potty he

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had a shadow.

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If a man

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goes to a woman asked her in marriage

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while she's engaged to another brother.

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And he fell in and bully the family found out in no way look on his wilfy rich he got the money. He got the five.

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You know, there's something called Five a car,

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a house, airplane, bank account, he got all that figured out. The family jumped on the gun.

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While he's in while the lady is engaged to another brother. So definitely, yeah, we'll we'll come Come let's do it.

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Josie yellow, let's get married. waka Nika, and they did nica is that nikka valid?

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It is valid malice.

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But

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whether the man is sinful, if he knows if he knew that this woman is already engaged. If he didn't know, then that is not his problem.

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Because he didn't know he may be out of town. He didn't know that she was engaged to someone else. But then the sin falls on who on the family because they have violated how the Navy Salallahu alaihe salam

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to Roger Lu, at a fee to be accurate. Also a mathematic layer of data locked.

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In a mathematical error catalog to

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the majority of the jurors, they see that this marriage contract is valid for you. We're talking about the woman whom you cannot

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engage to or get engaged to. We said number one is what the engaged woman

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a woman who's already being engaged by another man, this is number one. Number two,

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Elmo Paula, Paula Pandora J.

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A woman who is divorced but her divorce is revocable.

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And maybe we need to explain this Jani tala tala, let's explain this.

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We have two types of divorce.

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A man divorces his wife and you end up with two types of divorce.

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If it is the first time the second time, this divorce is called re vocable.

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Meaning the husband is the only one

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who is entitled to take the wife back during the IDA days What?

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Well motala pa ye Tara basnet bM fusina Fela

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Kuru fellas heiva slfp.

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According Sapa three months later faculty led theologian college to

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her dilemma. She's divorced. Now she spends died in his house, that is three months.

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That there is what? Three months we have to say this brothers, if you tell your wife and your father 500 times at the same time, it is one time

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we will come hither and

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yon Subhan Allah.

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Allah Allah

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Malika hanifa they say if you tell her three times philos Bennett link

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for information, there are a blue Tamia. So Panama

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The above to view then if he doesn't

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want to do a Mia Rahim Allah, Islam that are generated when you tell your wife I divorce you now. Then if you tolerate divorce, a divorce a divorce, you're divorcing a woman who is already

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she's already divorced.

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From Jani, do you understand what I'm saying? If you tell her 300 times at the same moment I divorce you. All it takes for her to be divorced is what?

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What is the need for the rest?

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I want to say that if you tell your wife 500 times, at the same time at the same minute that I reverse you what counts as what? One time

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now after this one time, she stays in your house for three months. This is called la de la.

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a waiting period.

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During this period, you can take her back

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by saying your back by kissing her by giving her a hug by having a husband wife relationship with her automatically she's back.

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Hello. Now it is hard

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for you to ask a woman who is in a

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in a revocable irrevocable marriage to marry

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yada

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yada yada like Heather has de this hadith applies to you and say hi this ebihara Ravi Allah Juan Carlos Allah Azza wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says men f said Umrah at an LS la Sabina

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whoever spoils our life

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or corrupt our life against her husband?

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Why should they be the rod? She's in the end. She's living in the house of the husband. You go to her is it? Oh, I wish she divorces you and I'll marry you. Colossians

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mushkin she's not going to stay with us. She was gonna wait for that that she's gonna refrain to return to the husband. She's going to make his life he'll the purpose of that is to come back. Daniel Heckman, the wisdom behind the women is to come back and a lot of Muslims Listen to me carefully. A lot of Muslims make a big mistake if they divorce the wife the first time the second time and they let them leave the house. Yeah.

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I mean boo tinola Rajan.

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The wife must build the three month faith in your house.

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She is not to leave your house. During that time. No one is allowed to ask her in marriage or engagement. And you are the only person who is entitled to take her back. Your buddy. This is called What the heck was that a lot a

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Roger Roger de vocable talaq now.

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If you did Roger a twice I divorce you on time you took her back. I divorce you the second time you took her back. You have one more time.

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One more time. If you tell her I divorce you Bennett think

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if you divorce her for the third time she is irrevocable

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a Paula Kumar attorney for himself and be maruf in our studio from BSNL area. Allah Allah Italia for in palapa, Fela Hill Lula whom in bad who had 10 key Has

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she must get married to another man.

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And this other man divorces her and then you can marry her again. And it cannot be organized.

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It cannot be arranged Can I will the film's Amanda, Mr. tardily ma'am.

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tala.

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g.

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Family, an angry husband all the time, who tells his wife I divorce you and then he divorces his wife. And then they call this guy come on, let's get married one night, you're gonna sleep away from the bed. And then he divorces her in the morning and then he goes back and marries her again. Lana. LaHood Mahal. Well, mohalla Allah.

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Allah curses disperse. You cannot do this. You cannot. It must have been what? randomly?

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It cannot be organized. For me, Nicola, do you understand what I'm saying? Well, this is a lot, huh? Are we following me? Are you follow me? Should I slow down? You're okay. So now, if she is divorced for the third time, this divorce is called a revolt.

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Then that means she has to marry someone else. Now this woman also has a death

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lately what is the wisdom behind that?

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She could be pregnant.

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He may be

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an old enough for the springs of this man to get mixed with the springs of the other metro area. Shara Shara tax area. Sharia is in control. Allah knows Oh, sure. She must wait for three months.

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During those three months, can you engage her?

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Can you ask her for engagement?

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not explicitly.

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Wala Juna holla you can FEMA our work to be human.

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You could help

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eluding

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Bella he Annie burger.

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Benji you don't have a wife for a long time what her Phantom rassada

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and I'm looking for our righteous women to marry

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her have a f1 daddy alluding hinting

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machine octapharma

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my

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cousin fi

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face her husband passed away. She was walking behind the National Kidney. A man told her what the prophet said to Fatima twice let us be clean up enough sick

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sakala let us clean up enough sick. Yeah, and don't rush. Karla katzenbach to

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fill him with Allah to get I've already engaged. There's somebody already who alluded before this done very young has a family Mara.

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Joe was Sheriff Ian Kalamata would like to get married. Yes, Sheriff Jani can carry a bus bus explicitly. Yeah. Yeah.

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It is permissible to him but explicitly know

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for you. Also this applies to the woman whose husband passed away.

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Murphy and bra marathon has

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what is the right day for a woman whose husband passed away what is the right the

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son well Edina with a phone where the owner as well as in the bus now the unforeseen or bad assuring wash raw for months and 10 days. Oh, whoa, whoa.

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What happened? She's pregnant. Her idea is what? deliver

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Luna and Nirvana

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for during that period also whether it is the nine month until she delivers or the four month and 10 days. You could also hint that you are interested in being engaged to her.

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We have also morality holiday.

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Like the man has the right to divorce the woman has the right to do what? Hola the flag the flag

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which

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we own our sisters will law Hades. If the sister pays attention to it, she will not even think about it. How do you feel bad and how this disorder libido thomasnet tirmidhi cada sallallahu alayhi wa sallam au mamora Paula that means Oh gee help Allah meanwhile Uribe Minerva et that's in Sahara una hora

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Shiva Lilith,

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any woman who asked her husband divorce without a reason

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without a reason her on the smell the odor of gender is how long for this woman? Oh

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we do the sisters yeah Hola, which is a casa de la here and then and then the three land of America. But what should you watch? A lot of the sisters they take their husbands out there and they come and they want to remove the husbands and come out of the relationship. Rest assured that this hadith applies to you. Any woman who asked hula or divorce from her husband without a Sharia reason without the backscene minvalue de Bateson Sahara Manali, her children now have this woman who does pull out to Aspen is one month only if she's not pregnant, of course, is one month only. And during that time, also the

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Husband or the person can elude or can hint to her that he wants to engage her. We have also another form of dissolving of marriage law and moulana elmora A Madonna, a man saw her wife

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so his wife committing adultery

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tesni

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pub and for you to prove that she's adulterous, you must bring two witnesses versus shehryar so pandologic

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that Milan tacos animal called the otaku Allah He tried to hurt his knee while law he says me by Allah.

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By Allah try to hurt his knee, oh four times. And the fifth time the curse of Allah is upon me if I'm like,

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Oh, well I have to read the first page of surah to know

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when Latina Muna mala Mia Kula, whom Shahada will boo Sasha de or bow shahadat in Billa II know let me know saw the P one Missa to an Allah, Allah, Allah He

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may the curse of Allah be upon me that I found why.

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If the husband does this, what about the Wife Wife?

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If she What if the wife stands up and says, and Tasha our Basha had that in Bella who laminal KDB if she stands in front of the husband says what law he is lying. What is Minnesota and Nevada law in Canada so the team and the fifth time she says what law he the anger of Allah is avoiding me if he is telling the truth has been semi moulana within moulana that contract is dissolved.

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George colosse the new admin only one of them is what is line? Well Allah Allah, Batman fashion Baba Shara for Raveena who now you could also hint to this woman?

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Shall la la Luna

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najmul

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column fee men total Blizzard one fossil film dimension

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let's sum up quickly in five minutes. Who should you ask? in marriage who should you seek in marriage and then non-fossil will detail this inshallah the next lecture next Wednesday inshallah.

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But I want to remind you that I forgot to mention hokku sarila wooden hammer ruling we said that it is permissible to elute tardy hint to a woman who is inherited from

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an irrevocable divorce. There was a follow up.

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Is it okay? It is okay to hint that you would like to enter to engage, get engaged with her.

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But explicitly is haram. For what happened? If you actually do a marriage contract during that that is that marriage contract valid?

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I'm asking you is the marriage contract valid? No, it is not.

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mabuni Allah but

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the engagement is something different. The marriage contract is said is invalid. Laos have had a lot of desert

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dilemma allottee.

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Banner means that would you hear from a woman who is divorced from her husband?

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A type of divorce. That is the jurist referred to to be bear in meaning irrevocable meaning he cannot take her back during the IDA. If there is a marriage contract, this marriage contract is invalid. Very quickly. I hope

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he

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will have belu and talk to the dean.

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A religious woman.

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Oh,

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you're calling me Salallahu alaihe salam because the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says, Don't care about a woman is asking marriage for four reasons. gemelli her her physical beauty marry her her wealth has heavy her her lineage. Were Dini her and then her religion. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam says, Father for me that he Dini. Theravada you better go with the one with the deen otherwise, you're going to be in trouble. Nabi sallallahu alayhi salam and the Hadith and I love this hadith so much in fishery live, everybody happy afternoon fish sharp in email. 11 very happy. Howdy, howdy Amanda. Lila, Lila Juan. Carlos Allahu alayhi wa sallam Lima, the Prophet sallallahu

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barrio Southern San

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Jamar Carl Boone Shakir while he said on deck it was Elijah to saleha to a nucala and millenia erotic hieromonk 10 as a nurse woman adonia

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Yeah.

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The best thing that you can get from the dunya is halben shachar a grateful heart, escuela nalani. Well, he said when they're kids, and a tongue that mentions Allah all the time for Salah filter on our little backbiting will gossip will have the LUMO Oh, was Elijah Tom sada and a righteous woman who will help you to deal with your worldly challenges and also help you to earn Electra will help you the law hottub live nominum the Los Angeles US law office a Muslim?

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The wording amendment aside

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at dunya Mata Mata Xhosa to sada either Nevada la casa rock will either ribbit Anca Javi vodka fi NFC her family her will work Lola damata our UC Santa Barbara, the life of this world is a temporary enjoyment and the best of its enjoyment is a righteous woman and doubleheader, Colombian, little half. This applies to a person who is asking a woman in marriage What about the women? Allah subhanho wa Taala in the tongue of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam addressed the guardian. If you had asked me to meet him and Holly says Raja Ravi Allah Juan Carlos sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says either jack amento buena de nahu Luca feza Inlet

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couldn't fit Nutan Phil RV was a certain audience of someone

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who comes to ask the women who are under your guardianship in marriage and you will please with two things his Dean and his manner you better give him the women and marriage otherwise you will be in trouble.

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me decide

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what Ella Femina Shaco whatever hobbies blah, blah blah, three things are a mark of happiness in this world. I will Mara Tara to your wife, you look at her. She pleases you. Not physically by the way not just physically.

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Having a good character sometimes overcomes any deficit in the physical look of a person sometimes you see a beautiful woman but she's mean she's rude. You don't like her? You don't like even look at her because of her manner.

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Fellow feminists are the three things are mark of happiness, righteous women, and a good a good car and a good house and Shall I will explain this be the light either in details. The second thing the type of wife which you whom you should go for, and while a woman who can give you children, Napoleon the visa Lavanya nomadic Well howdy fi marginata barani Elmo Jamil also Kala sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that we were told to

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marry the loving and the childbearing women.

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The NEEMO Catherine bukhoma, my alma piano, and it tells you also that loving and having children and has a relationship. Yeah, well, a lot of time you'll marry a woman, you don't have very much affection for her. And as soon as you see your children with her, you begin feeling that compassion and nativeness with her. Number three, you should go for a virgin for a virgin, then remora Thalia, a woman who has been married before she will always compare you with her previous husband and everything, even in bed, she will compare you. You need to understand this, wherever you can be salaallah alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to jab, jab, hello, the

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Quran, Allah, Allah, but Allah Subhana Allah this does not apply to everybody and inshallah next lecture will detail this inshallah, it is also recommended that you marry a woman who's not from your family,

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because of two reasons, reason number one because of the medicine now, they tell you that marrying off kins some now exposes the offspring to some sort of the diseases, the diseases which can be inherited, Add to this the possibility for divorce normally causes more harm. Like if you marry your cousin, for example, and then you divorce her, then this is going to lead to the to a big problem in the family. You and your uncle, for example, are not going to have the same relationship but if you marry a woman from another family, if you let this woman go if you divorce her then there is no severing of Kin's that is why it is recommended to do so. Also marry

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Beautiful Women. Why? Because as can holiness well inshallah we'll detail this video later on and next lecture do not miss the next lecture of our series. Love marriage and divorce as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.