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Sulaiman Moola

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Bismillah he was salatu salam ala rasulillah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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There is a Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in which he says her book cache your army. Will you assume that when you love someone or you love something, you become blind and deaf, you become blind to see the mistake, the folly, the floors, the blemish of that person, and you literally block off and become deaf to listen to any mishap or any mistake or any shortcoming of that individual. Now, I came across a very profound or do quotation in which the poet says, or the message is conveyed in the following way. TCK coonley mohalla fat karna hai kisi Ke Kula himayat karna bot Asan comma. One of the easiest things in life to do is to give a general approval, a

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blanket approval, a general overall recognition to someone. This is my brother is amazing. He's awesome. He's brilliant. He's great. So the onlooker is like, Okay, this guy, all is good with him, all is fine with him. There's no issues with him. And that's typically human nature. When we love someone, we adore someone, we cherish someone. We give off the notion that everything pertaining to that person is correct, which is which is incorrect. It is untrue. It is a Nabhi that is pure, wholesome and absolutely correct. And then we look at the different perspective when we dislike someone or we despise someone, or we have differences with someone then we like this guy's wicked,

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this guy is nasty, he's evil. Just stay clear from him because we dislike him. We resent him. So we give off a notion that there's no good to him. when when when things are hunky dory in a marriage. He's amazing. He's amazing. She's the best wife. He's the best husband. And unfortunately, when things become sour and unpleasant, and we need to part ways, I don't know how I did contend with him. I don't know how I put up with her. We forget the good. And that's the message here. Like Indonesia, aka sub se mushkil. Calm and trust me my brother. And trust me, my sister if we can take this lesson, I promise you, we can rescue many of our relationships. One of the most difficult

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things in life is kisi ki himayat karate who a whiskey Khalid bateau, Ki Mohamed curry, or kisi ki mohalla, for karate who ski achieva toki himayat. Curry,

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that while you might be attacking someone for his wrong, or addressing the mistake of a person, be bold and honest enough to highlight his good. And while you might be complimenting someone and acknowledging someone and praise Him, which is good. Don't give off the notion that everything about him is absolutely correct. I'm not saying necessarily that expose No, all I'm saying being honest and candid, be honest and candid. When you are speaking about the ills of a person balance it out by addressing his good and when you praise someone don't become so blind giving off the notion that is an absolute you know what Savior is an absolute, you know, he or she has no flaws. Now let's look at

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quickly two Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam addressing both, you know, sides of the spectrum, so there was a great companion by the name of hooray sad or the Allahu anhu every Companion of the messenger sallallahu wasallam was great. The prophets of Allah praised him by using the word Namah Namah Hooray. Hooray. Sad.

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Sad. If you know basic Arabic Nia Mahabharata comes to praise to compliment to acknowledge Allah use that same expression in the Quran in the 23rd Jews for various prophets in our Jana who sobre la that au was very, you know, he had a great level of perseverance, Nia Maillard, he was an amazing servant, Allah He referred to today man alayhis salam, what will happen le da Buddha Sulaiman, we endow food with a son by the name of Sulaiman nehama lab he was an amazing person. The messenger sallallahu Sallam said near Mr. Raja no for me sad, sad is an amazing person, Lola to Lou Giamatti, he is he Yes, there are two issues that need to be addressed and that need to be rectified Lola to

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new Giacometti, he if it would not for his long hair. So, Luca say Juma refers to the fact that his hair was actually on his shoulders. And what is true is that he his trousers was dangling below his ankles. So the province of alarmism started on a positive note, complimented him, acknowledge them, praise them use the profound expression but at the same

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In a gentle way addressed the two issues that needed rectification and this was a companion brother, your loved one who how do we choose to elevate people? Because he might be my my friend or my ally or my crony or my mentor to a level that you know what he is sinless is blemish list. No, no, this is the thing that kisi ki rehmeyer kurta, who was killed at batoka mohalla vodka a while praising someone addressed the issue in the context on the correct merit. And in the same vein, if you are kisi, Ki mohalla, fadd, kurta, who it was key Sahiba takashimaya uma might have differences with someone and you might take exception with someone. But address is good as well. You know what my

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neighbor he could be uncouth, he could be quite rowdy, but he's the most generous neighbor I've ever seen. My kids will not pass by the road without getting a candy or a chocolate, he will always show us with gifts. So you might say the wrong my spouse. Unfortunately, he or she you know what could be losing his tongue or her tongue. But on the other hand, Subhanallah he can spend on visitors she can entertain visitors. She is the most amazing mother, he's the most amazing father. So address the wrong button. Let's not forget the good both sides of the of the spectrum. And in this regard, I share with you the amazing incident when the messenger sallallahu wasallam had mobilized these

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forces to come and invade Makkah, and he kept it a secret so that the Mexicans cannot make counter preparations. So nobody could leak out the information and the Mexicans cannot make counter preparations, and they would be then ambushed by the presence of the messenger sallallahu wasallam. And that was the plan to come and of course he came in as the Conqueror, but not in a way where he destroyed or he he you know vandalize, which is the case of rulers and monarchs in the maloca the hollow Korean

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Villa, but the prophets Allah some came with great humility and kindness, love and care, be it as it may his own companion Hatem Ebner Abby belta, Ravi Allahu anhu, discretely divulge the information. On a note he communicated it to the people of Makkah, that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam intends invade in Makkah, take your precaution, be wary and be vigilant. Through revelation, the messenger sallallahu wasallam is informed he sent the Sahaba to intercept the information and to apprehend the woman who was

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transporting the information to Makkah. Then the note was intercepted the Sahaba Hatem Delta was someone who was brought in the presence of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Now there was a mistake he made and his mistake was been addressed. In fact, save now hamara de Allah and will in a moment of rain said our Prophet sallallahu wasallam It is clear that he has divulged this information. This constitutes a type of treason. We need to take some harsh measures against him, and we need to address it against him and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam as I mentioned, kisi ki mohalla furred kurta who a whiskey Sahiba Toki himayat karna while addressing the wrong end this critical moment

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the messenger sallallahu Sallam said to Omar but Omar, he participated in better he is a veteran of better and my Allah told me lol Allah, Allah Allah Allah, Allah Allah, Allah Masha, for in need to know that Allah has addressed all the veterans and participants of whether that because of their participation, Allah has pardoned all their sins, and hence the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam balanced his mistake in the light of his good if we can adopt this year that we have the correct balance by law, we will rescue many relationships.