Zina 07 04 2013

Said Rageah

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In the hamlet in the

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monastery number one is still Pharaoh

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fusina woman says Dr. Medina

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Mija de la who for whom and monitored one different tg de la jolla and murshida

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wash

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in LA LA LA hula sharika

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wash Edwin Mohammed Abu hora Sunni

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yeah you

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got to party he went

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to Muslim moon

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Yeah, even su Takara Baku lady Holla

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Holla come in Georgia,

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Boston humare john and Kathy Romani son

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in the law hacker community by

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way of

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Sudoku for kadhi. furs are frozen

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and

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handmade in salon marwari. He was selling them

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desert in

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Nevada Latino,

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brothers and sisters in Islam.

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I was requested to complete some of the is some of the verses that was chosen by the organizers

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starting from the ayah, where a beggar woman and lady named Otto the homeowner,

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what either

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but my my part of the talk

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it starts with one leadin Allah, Allah.

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Allah, Allah Allah who will help you what is noon woman

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and I this is this part is the part that I really want to talk about.

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In The City of London, I spoke about repentance because the rest of the ayah

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6970 and 71

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talks about the punishment of the person who commits any of these acts

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and the reward for those who repent to Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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The first ayah deals with three issues.

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Allah

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Allahu Allah.

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Those who would not anyone would know what the ANA

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and I thought

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majority I should say

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most of the Somali youth and Somali community that are he there are two that is solid and strong. And I am proud of that.

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I am very proud that majority of the Somali community there are Qaeda is very solid.

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They not in any of the ends. They never would the people who were fabricate

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or innovate

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and then are also the among those people who are going to the extreme.

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But they are in the middle path of that loss of her know what's the ANA said?

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This is your own Ma and you are the middle path of all nations.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala save this oma from being any of the end. So I'm not going to address the issue of hate because majority of us we know enough about that.

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When I have to learn enough salatu salam Allahu ala Bella and they do not kill innocent persons and its people without justification or reason. And that is also given

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when it is known

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This is the point that I'm going to be talking about today.

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Before I start talking about this

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I like to tell you this

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brothers and sisters, I'm not gonna sugarcoat

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I'm not gonna be luxurious, Mr. Mustafa, Hola. Very gentle, very kind, very soften his approach to the point at the same time.

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But I'm going to be blunt about what I have to say.

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And I will put my position myself in the position of the Sahaba, who came to the messenger overload of Hadees. If you say, Buhari or Muslim

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thisara with this man, he came to the messenger overlord to the city of Medina. And he got off his mount. And he led the mount wander around. And he entered the mystery, the Navy use of the law while he was in them. And he said, I never know Hashem,

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where is the son of Hashem

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and the Sahaba out of respect, they turn towards the messenger over loss of the law while he was sitting was sitting at the end of the mejlis. On a suit aloha was a person who would put a crown over his head, or person who would dress in a unique way so he can be recognized between from the rest of the people he was very common person. So there's a habit they look towards him sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Messenger of Allah, Allah took he say, I responded to you

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anther Mohammed, Mohammed. He said, Yes,

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Allah for in Nisa iluc. One Moshe didn't Alec fella. Enough. cffc cada yahaya. He said, I'm going to be extremely blunt. I'm not gonna sugarcoat, I'm not gonna tell you lies. I'm gonna be straightforward. So Mohammed is talking to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, do not keep anything in your hearts towards me, I am going to be the same person, I'm going to take the stand of that Sahabi. And I am going to be blunt with my community, with my people, people that I'm extremely proud of being part of them. So do not take anything to the heart. And do not assume that I'm targeting you. Rather, I want to put a problem that we are sharing on the table, perhaps we will

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be able to deal with the situation in a better manners.

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First of all,

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the issue of Zinner

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as a Somali community,

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we despise it.

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It is one of those things that extremely aid.

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We don't deal with it. We don't talk about it. We do not do much of discussion concerning about that, because my throat means done with it. We know it is not alone.

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But let me tell you brothers and sisters,

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our youth, you got early hava Romana, I'm gonna say as far as

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our youth now days, and I'm not talking about the brothers and the sisters, the honorable people who are sitting here that I can see that there are people feeling a loss of her know what to Hannah, but I'm talking about what we have. I've been to North America, I've been to the Middle East. I've been to Europe, and it seems that we are complaining we are aching from the same illness. So pay attention this to this and do not take it lightly.

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Our problem, especially with the gender mix, with a harem act, it became extremely out of control.

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I'm going to tell you, that the lady The girls are the female in any society, if the female or the female section women

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ever if they are in charge of the chastity, honor, self respect, self esteem, then the society or the will be healthy society. That's why in the Quran Subhana Allah when it comes to stealing, Allah said I sorry for sorry.

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He put the man first and he said the thief

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The male and the female theme but when it comes to Xena

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zania to was Zani. He put the woman first because they are in charge in that area not men.

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Women are in charge in that area

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and that's why I never use some of the law while he was selling the car the current owner will fit in that the Benny is wrong influencer. He said the first fitness of many is wrong. He was in there women not in the men

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in their woman and another Hadith and W sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said that the Torah and the sun and a man can have Kabbalah can he say you were followed the footsteps of the people before you he if they enter miserable, that you You will also want to enter that lizard? Otto Alia who the one nesara Who are these people that will follow messenger overload during the Christians corner? Who else?

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Who else? So what I'm asking is for our sisters,

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to fear Allah subhanho wa Taala concerning

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the responsibility that our law put them operate on the shoulders of the women,

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sisters and brothers equally. Allah never said in the Quran, do not commit Zina.

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You can flip the pace of the Koran you can go from Sora to nurse so let's infer that authority nurse and you will never find one is saying what do not commit Zina however, Allah said rather takanobu Xena what a taco Xena. What a taco Rosina, do not be near Xena how the one in ASEAN has never said do not commit.

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And what are the ways women and men commit Zina?

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What are they? There are many ways and the Zener is he said Do not be near it. And the sisters I'm talking to the sister who is here because I'm not talking to the people out there because they never hear sisters nowadays. Unfortunately, they make these things extremely accessible.

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Very easy.

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For example

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who doesn't have Facebook was sitting here only small number of people

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but look at the Facebook of the sisters. Look at their Facebook pictures.

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Did they put niqab

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only few of them Subhanallah

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lacking on the Facebook pictures

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Masha Allah makeup

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from deck to deck from one ear to another

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the vanilla assassin as a woman, you know, they all they have fake eyelashes. And then they have their you know hair done. And then Cisco so arisa Asha day

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Hold on.

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I'm not kidding. That is so foreign. If you don't want guys to look for a look at you and your picture on the profile.

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I'm sure most

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of you don't know how you look like but I'm not saying do not take it

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don't take it serious. I'm saying we don't know. But for you to put your profile headline, your headline, headline, Himalaya Himalaya anchor, what does it mean?

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It means Hey, there's more pictures. There's more of me. Why don't you check me out?

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Check me out.

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Alone, sir. Alan never said what a taco dinner committed Xena brother. He said what are Takara bozena. Now what are you doing? You inviting these guys? You inviting these people to go and look into your profile to look at your photos and pictures? And then this is the beginning.

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This is the beginning is never you don't say a sister who says you don't see a sister who says My name is Amina a tequila.

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No.

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You are inviting people to get closer to Xena. And remember the nimbyism the law either you will suddenly What did he said? He said every person every human being will commit Zina and how do you say a Muslim lady

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will commit Zina.

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And then he said the Zener of the eye is looking. And now what you doing sister? You facilitating the Zener for the brothers and you saying, Look at me.

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Look how beautiful I look. And you never ever, you will never put a picture. Ugly picture of yourself sisters. You won't,

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you won't put that on. You will put on article without makeup you will put on when you know if someone sees you on it, I will do the law. Now you have to put on when you have your full makeup. And this is leading her arm this is leading to Xena. This is leading Xena of the Nether Zener of the eye.

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What I'm asking is this, I told the brothers, I promise that I will only speak for 30 minutes.

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What I was saying brothers and sisters as a suggestion to resolve and to limit the issues and the problems that we're dealing with nowadays. I'm please, online, my heart is bleeding when I see a lot of things or hear a lot of things my heart bleeds on is bleeding right now, but listen to my suggestion you may say or may assume of old fashioned, you may assume you know that everything is the way you should be. But listen to me. Listen to me. My suggestion is

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please, sisters and brothers

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do not mix

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do not do a lot unnecessarily.

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And I know

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that sometimes you cannot avoid it. in the marketplace you cannot avoid at school you cannot avoid you know public places you cannot avoid it. But what you can avoid is sister's dress modest. Dress Morris in a way that you know when a person sees you, he will respect you.

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Why don't you know I was sitting with Jeff most often the others other brothers Mashallah. We're sitting in a restaurant here, and I'm facing the mirror facing the glass. I'm sorry. And I'm facing everybody. And I see 90% of the people passing by our Somali. And my you know, that is the coolness of my eyes. I love that. And the majority 90% of the of 70% of the people are women.

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But you know, guess what, I also noticed,

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I noticed your dress is unique.

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Number one, a lot of sisters were jealous. And I knew what it was. I love that. And I respect that and that's beautiful. However, what is the point? If you're gonna work jilbab another topic? You're gonna work time quotes. And then here's what

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I guarantee you.

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You will not put that you will not put that what do you call the belt? But you say look at my fingers.

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Look, this is what Allah gave me. And the second thing is

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what in the world is strong with the sisters, they have another head walking behind them.

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Whoa, have you ever when you go back home boys brothers and sisters, there's a movie called aliens.

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The aliens has a long head in the back.

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You will see aliens with.

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And these are the women by the way. The sisters I know the system that into doing this the sister who do this are the sister the messenger overlord mentioned. And he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there would be a time that the woman would have camera arms on the back.

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And they will not intergender though you can smell the frequency of gender format such and such and such distance if you won't feel bad, but on the top of the jilbab you have a tight jacket. Under your head you have an extra head that is walking behind you. And then you aim and you come into the hammock or you came into a lecture were you supposed to be hearing it tequila, fear a lot. And then not only that, you know in a segregated congregation where there's only brothers and sisters, but you coming to an event or to a place that men and women equally can see each other

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and this

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As the seed of all evil,

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this is the seed of all evil in terms of Xena. And this is what we're encouraged. And I asked you by Allah sister, if you wrote in bad. And if you were this thing, how do you expect men to turn away from you? And I was looking at the guys who were sitting in the restaurant

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and in them in the glass, they like what have you ever watched him in a tennis match?

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And the artists are doing this, this this

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when a girl passes by, they go with the girl. Then another one passes by they come with that one. And at the end of the day, they have Herrick

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and the girls, you are the You are the show. What are they looking at? They're not looking at guys, they looking at you. And I only have 10 minutes. So let us say the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He forbade us to have this kind of attitude, and have you and the second thing I would

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avoid having what they call nowadays.

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Best friends.

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However, what they say, and in a model, what they say is, oh, he's my friend.

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He's no No, no, no, no, no, he's my just my classmate. I'm calling him because I need notes from him. That is not the case of vanilla.

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Girls, men will never ever be your friend.

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Boys. Girls may be your friend. And they will assume that I'm not saying hello. They may really say we're in a coven. sakana Wolfie homolka cadonia but the boys they never look at girls like they are just friends. No

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Mashallah.

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Yeah sure.

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What is your fake Facebook account?

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That is the ships, the tracks I'm sorry that the trip tricks are shaytaan

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Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah said

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mosinee in Musashi warahmatullahi than when Allah was talking about the honorable women. He said in in the chest the honor they did a decent, they honor and a decent am but they do not have friends they do not have male friends

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thirsting for yo yo. yada yada. Pay attention fathers and mothers.

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I asked you by Allah, Fear Allah make marriage is

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make it easy.

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Make it simple.

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I know. I know. You is in my brain is haiyang I understand we have a problem that quick marriage quick divorce.

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But what we're doing right now is not allowed in Islam which is

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parents they assume that they protecting their girls and the girls are forced to study and do work and go to score which is excellent. But depriving them from each other. A call to you is not working.

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They will need behind your back. They will talk behind your back.

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They will call each other behind your back. They will do everything to meet and they will so do not be naive heist or Nina in another way. One accent in economy one accent. I'm sorry.

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I'm sorry, lacking I have to say.

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Do you know how many sisters and brothers come to the Imams of the massage? I've been mmm over 10 years and majority of the people who come for counseling are young men and young ladies. And you know how many sisters have hannula how many sisters would say to the Imam of the masjid or come to me and say

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in ambae saadani Masha Allah mabrouk

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Magoo Sankara, I can marry him Why not?

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Allah

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who you're going to Michigan Cara?

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Cara Machado

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I'm a young lady.

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I'm good sister, the brother came forward. But I made a mistake.

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I've been with someone before

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I can I can marry this guy.

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And I can tell my mother that I'm no longer in and maybe

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what are you going to say mica?

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Who's in charge? Well, I, I want to know a theme in when he was alive. And I grabbed his hand. I said, you have no say mean, in my community, we have a problem. And the problem is, Who are your young kids, they want their daughters to finish their education. But the girls and the boys are meeting one another. He said, while you're incarcerated by OSHA and castlemania, they are sinners.

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They are what then be the is haram haram Haram. He came say say if they come to you together, and the parents are not wanting to marry them, and I'm not saying what I'm doing or I do this or I'm doing this. He said is so good. What are kurama he said get them married, that is better than them committing Zina. So I'm saying if What if we learn the Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where he documented on a de novo hanaoka fuzzer. We do agoria is to Gloria is suraiya. And and the sisters and the mother's parents.

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I know that divorce is high is extremely high.

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You know, I did this?

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I did this study. And I always do you know something that I think will benefit my community. I brought a lot of sisters in one room.

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And I said to them had done a Santa Nakata. Why?

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And they said we want to be housewives, we want to raise our children. We want to do this. I said then why are you going to school?

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You know, even to go to say why did?

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She said michael i saw for Rondonia.

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See, she didn't say if I get divorce. She didn't say that. She didn't say when you know she said when I get divorced, I won't need a certificate that I can go so mentally in unto she's already planning your innoko perhaps that they're going to get divorced quickly. Monica you may as well finish that is something has to change. We have to change that. That is a sad reality. We should not go to school because we assume that soon we can abort the young. And now you know for years I've been saying and I will say hello a superior errata but I also add to my program saying how to maintain marriage because when you start out

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with a trigger point on winning in

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so we never said to them stay together and how to stay together. So I'm saying to avoid Zener one of the things that we should do is make marriage easy. And the other thing brothers

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and the sisters to avoid Zener is to lower our gaze. Talking to a lady talking to a man is not haram

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but if they talk to you with a seducer turn voice or tone, that is what is haram.

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That is was one of the one of

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the motto.

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If a brother says sister Can you hand me this? Oh, she can he can say that. He can say sir American sister is your husband is his husband here. She can say that. The sister can say I said American brother Can you speak to your wife? That is permissible. But if she's you know, a US citizen

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that is not allowed the seducer voice and tone that is not allowed.

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An interview sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called among many Lima Lima Bina phi k he was the Amanullah who Jana, he said who can soever who can give me a guaranteed to control his tongue or her tongue and to control their private part or what is between their thighs. I guarantee them gin and nav under the hood is in the VSL Allahu alayhi wa sallam said that similar things. If this is not working brothers and sisters, how do you think maybe is a little long what he was selling is very well known to everyone howdy above the ramen. minimus rude about the Allahu anhu Kalia Masha Shabbat minister Kwame Nkrumah at affiliate So what? He said oh young people who have so ever is capable of

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getting married. Let him get

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married, if you cannot get married, then not them fast.

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You know, once

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I know my time is up,

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you know that I want to get married, but I can't afford to get married. Nobody wants to let me marry their daughters because I'm broke. I said, Okay, then the messenger of a loss on the long run, he was setting them said, If you cannot get married, then fast. He says, Yeah. What are you talking about?

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When I'm fasting? If I look to my right, there's undress women. If I look to my left, there are women that wearing revealing clothes. If I look ahead of me, the bosses and everything they are they carry a woman that is almost undress. He said, even when you go on this, what they're doing counting when I looked down in the marketplace, there are pictures of women that, you know, advertising bikinis and things like that man, Kanagawa, Monica Gonzaga. How do you want me to talk? How do you want me to walk?

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So this society, even that is difficult. So I'm saying once again, you know, we are aching, it is very painful. And at the same time, it is our responsibility to maintain our chastity and our honor and the honor of our sisters, please, please, make marriage easy. And then massages in the community. And so Muslim organization should try to facilitate a whole matters Manasa for

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them, and the Messenger of Allah, Allah adaptiq he say I responded to you,

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Allah and Mohammed, Mohammed. He said yes.

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color for Indonesia, Iraq. One more shot, didn't Alec fella, enough cffc

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he said, I'm gonna be extremely blunt. I'm gonna not gonna sugarcoat, I'm not gonna tell you lies. I'm gonna be straightforward. So Mohammed is talking to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, do not keep anything in your hearts towards me, I am going to be the same person, I'm going to take the stand of that Sahabi. And I am going to be blunt with my community, with my people, people that I'm extremely proud of being part of them. So do not take anything to the heart. And do not assume that I'm targeting you. Rather, I want to put a problem that we are sharing on the table, perhaps we will be able to deal with this situation in a better manners.

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First of all,

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the issue of Xena

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as a Somali community,

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we despise it.

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It is one of those things that extremely

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we don't deal with it. We don't talk about it. We do not do much of discussion concerning about that. Because my through means done with it. We know it is not alone.

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But let me tell you brothers and sisters,

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our youth, you got Ali hava karasuma. Nina, I'm gonna say as far as

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our youth now days, and I'm not talking about the brothers and the sisters, the honorable people who are sitting here that I can see that there are people feeling a loss of hurt or whatever, but I'm talking about what we have. I've been to North America, I've been to the Middle East. I've been to Europe, and it seems that we are complaining we are aching from the same illness. So pay attention this to this and do not take it lightly.

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Our problem, especially with the gender mix, with a hallum act, a became extremely out of control.

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I'm going to tell you, that the lady The girls are the female in any society, if the female or the female section women,

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if they are in charge of the chastity, honor, self respect, self esteem, then the society or the will be healthy society. That's why in the Quran Subhan Allah when it comes to stealing a law set a salary for a startup. He put the man first and he said the thief male

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The female theme but when it comes to Xena

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azania to was Zani. He put the woman first because they are in charge in that area not men.

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Women are in charge in that area.

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And that's why I never use some of the law while he was selling them. Karna Kern at a will fit in that the bunny is solid finsa he said the first fitna of many is wrong. He was in there women not in the men

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in their woman, and another handy thing that we use a lot while he was sending me some letters to Santa Monica kubla Khan, he said you were followed the footsteps of the people before you he if they enter literal, they you you will also will enter that lizard called Alia who the one nesara Who are these people that will follow messenger overload during the Christians gonna Who else?

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Who else? So what I'm asking is for our sisters,

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to fear Allah subhanho wa Taala concerning

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the responsibility that our law put them operate on the shoulders of the women,

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sisters and brothers equally. Allah never said in the Quran, do not commit Zina.

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You can flip the pace of the Koran you can go from soldier to nurse certificate authority nurse and you will never find one is saying what do not commit Zina, however, Allah said, What are takabuti Xena, Xena, what a takanobu Xena Do not be near Xena how would one in ASEAN never say do not commit?

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And what are the ways that women and men commit Zina?

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What are they? There are many ways and the Zener is he said Do not be near it. And the sisters I'm talking to the sister who is here because I'm not talking to the people out there because they never hear sisters nowadays. Unfortunately they make these things extremely accessible.

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Very easy.

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For example

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who doesn't have Facebook was sitting here only small number of people

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but look at the Facebook of the sisters. Look at their Facebook pictures.

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Did they put niqab

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only few of them Subhanallah

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lacking on the Facebook pictures,

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Masha Allah

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makeup

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from deck to deck from one ear to another.

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The vanilla sassanian urusan in you know, they all they have is fake eyelashes. And then they have their you know hair done. And then Cisco so Orissa. Asha Abdi?

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Hold on.

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I'm not kidding. That is so foreign. If you don't want guys to look for a look at you and your picture on the profile.

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I'm sure

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don't know how you look like. But I'm not saying do not take it sometimes. Don't take it serious. I'm saying we don't know. But for you to put your profile, headline, headline, headline, headline car anchor. What does it mean?

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It means Hey, there's more pictures. There's more of me. Why don't you check me out?

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Check me out.

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Alone said Allah never said what a taco dinner committed Xena. rather he said what are Takara bozena. Now what are you doing? You inviting these guys? You inviting these people to go and look into your profile? To look at your photos and pictures? And then this is the beginning.

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This is the beginning is never you don't say a sister who says you don't see a sister who says My name is Amina a tequila.

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No.

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You are inviting people to get closer to Xena. And remember the name of the law whether you were settling What did he said? He said every person every human being will commit Zina and how do you say a Muslim lady will commit Zina

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And then he said the Zener of the eye is looking. And now what you doing sister? You facilitating the Zener for the brothers and you saying, Look at me.

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Look how beautiful I look. And you never ever, you will never put a picture or the picture over yourself sisters. You won't

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you won't put down you will put on article without makeup you will put on when you know if someone sees you on the outer villa. Now you have to put on when you have your full makeup. And this is leading harm. This is leading to Xena. This is leading Zina of the Nether Zener of the eye.

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What I'm asking is this, I told the brothers, I promised that I will only speak for 30 minutes.

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What I was saying brothers and sisters, as a suggestion to resolve and to limit the issues and the problems that we're dealing with nowadays. And please, online, my heart is bleeding when I see a lot of things, or hear a lot of things my heart bleeds on is bleeding right now. But listen to my suggestion you may say or may assume I'm of all fashion, you may assume you know that everything is the way it should be. But listen to me. Listen to me, my suggestion is

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please, sisters and brothers

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do not mix

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do not do a lot unnecessarily.

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And I know

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that sometimes you cannot avoid it. in the marketplace you cannot avoid at school you cannot avoid, you know, public places you cannot avoid it. But what you can avoid is sister's dress modest. Dress Morris in a way that, you know when a person sees you, he will respect you.

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Why don't you know I was sitting with shuffling stuff on the others other brothers Michelle was sitting in a restaurant here. And I'm facing the mirror facing the glass. I'm sorry. And I'm facing everybody. And I see 90% of the people passing by our Somali. And my you know, that is the coolness of my eyes. I love that. And the majority 90% of the of 70% of the people are women.

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But you know, guess what? I also notice

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I noticed your dress is unique.

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Number one, a lot of sisters words. And I knew what was I love that and I respect that and that's beautiful. However, what is the point? If you're gonna work jinba and on the top of your job, you're gonna work tight quote. And then here's what

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I guarantee you.

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You will not put that you will not put that what do you call the belt? But you say look at my fingers.

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Look, this is what Allah gave me. And the second thing is

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what in the world is strong with the sisters, they have another head walking behind them?

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Well, have you ever when you go back home boys brothers and sisters, there's a movie called aliens.

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The aliens has a long head in the back.

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You will see aliens.

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And these are the women by the way. The sisters I know the system that into doing this the sister who do this are the sister the messenger overlord mentioned and he said some of the lohani he was sullom there would be a time that the woman would have camel humps on the back

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and they will not intergender though you can smell the frequency of gentle form of such and such and such distance, if you will.

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But on the top of the jilbab you have a tight jacket under your head you have an extra head that is walking behind you. And then you as you come into the hammock or you came into a lecture were you supposed to be hearing it tequila, Fear Allah. And then not only that, you know in a segregated congregation where there's only brothers and sisters, but you coming to an event or to a place that men and a woman equally can see each other

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and this is the season

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of all evil.

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This is the seed of all evil in terms of Xena. And this is what we're encouraged. And I asked you by Allah sister, if you wrote in bad. And if you were this thing, how do you expect men to turn away from you? And I was looking at the guys who were sitting in the restaurant

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and in them in the glass, they like what have you ever watched him in a tennis match?

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And the artists they doing this, this, this

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when a girl passes by, they go with the girl. Then another one passes by they come with that one. And at the end of the day, they have Herrick

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and the girls, you are the You are the show. What are they looking at? They're not looking at guys, they looking at you. And I only have 10 minutes. So let us say the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He forbade us to have this kind of attitude, and the honey and the second thing is what if we learn to

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avoid having what they call nowadays?

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Best Friends?

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What they say, and in a model what they say is, oh, he's my friend.

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He's no No, no, no, no, no, he's my just my classmate. I'm calling him because I need notes from him. That is not the case of Hannah law.

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Girls, men will never ever be your friend.

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Boys girls may be your friend. And they will assume that I'm not saying hello. They may really say why in accounts nocona Wolfie homolka cadonia but the boys they never look at girls like they are just friends. No

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Mashallah

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Yeah, sure Belinda can account

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what is your fake Facebook account?

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That is the ships that tracks I'm sorry that the trip tricks are shaytaan

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Allah subhanho wa Taala said

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mosinee Musashi worse

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than when Allah was talking about the honorable women. He say motion in the chest the honor they did a decent, they honor and a decent um but they do not have friends they do not have male friends.

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First thing

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you

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pay attention fathers and mothers.

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I asked you by Allah, Fear Allah. Make marriage is

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make it easy.

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Make it simple.

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I know. I know. You is in Burma. My brain is haiyang I understand we have a problem that quick marriage quick divorce.

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But what we're doing right now is not allowed in Islam, which is

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parents they assume that they protecting their girls and the girls are forced to study and do work and go to school which is excellent. But depriving them from each other. A call to you. is not working.

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They will need behind your back. They will talk behind your back.

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They will call each other behind your back. They will do everything to meet and they will. So do not be naive. Heis ora Nina in the way one accent in economy one accent. I'm sorry.

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I'm sorry Lakin. I have to say

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Do you know how many sisters and brothers come to the Imams of the massage? I've been mmm over 10 years. And majority of the people who come for counseling are young men and young ladies. And you know how many sisters of Hannah law how many sisters would say to the Imam of the masjid or come to me and say

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in him by saadani Masha Allah mabrouk

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Magoo Sankara, I can marry him. Why not?

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UrbanCode I

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holier than oma shikara

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nn Kira Kira Matura

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I'm a young lady and good sister

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The brother came forward, but I made a mistake.

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I've been with someone before

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I can I can marry this guy.

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And I can't tell my mother that I'm no longer in and maybe

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what are you going to say, Monica?

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Who's in charge? Well, I, I want to not Athenian when he was a life, and I grabbed his hand, I said, I have no say mean, in my community, we have a problem. And the problem is, Who are your young kids, they want their daughters to finish the education. But the girls and the boys are meeting one another. He said, Whoa, Eureka and Castlevania, by Zhang castlemania. They are sinners.

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They are what them be the young is haram haram Haram. He came Say, say, if they come to you together, and the parents are not wanting to marry them, and I'm not saying what I'm doing, or I do this or I'm doing this, he said is so good. What are kurama he said get them married, that is better than them committing Zina. So I'm saying if What if you learn then the result alayhi wa sallam where he documented una de novo hanaoka faza would you agree? Is sugery is suraiya and and the sisters and the mother's parents,

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I know that divorce is high, is extremely high.

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You know, I did this.

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I did this study. And I always do you know, something that I think will benefit my community. I brought a lot of sisters in one room.

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And I said to them had on a sunny Nakata. Why?

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And they said we want to be housewives, we want to raise our children. We want to do this. I said then why are you going to school?

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You know, even to go to say Why did

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she say McCullough so 407 donia.

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See, she didn't say if I get divorce. She didn't say that. She didn't say when you know, she said when I get divorced, I won't need a certificate that I can go. So mentally. In unto she's already planning your innoko perhaps that they're going to get divorced quickly. murca you may as well finish that is something has to change. We have to change that. That is a sad reality. We should not go to school because we assume that soon we can have bullying. And now you know for years I've been sent and I will say hello a superior errata but I also add to my program saying how to maintain marriage. Because when you start out

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with a children coming on in when again.

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So we never said to them stay together and how to stay together. So I'm saying to avoid Zener one of the things that we should do is make marriage easy. And the other thing brothers

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and the sisters to avoid Zina is to lower our gaze. Talking to a lady talking to a man is not haram

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but if they talk to you with a seduce IV, turn voice or tone that is what is haram.

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That is what will call for you. If you can be hemara

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if a brother says sister Can you hand me this? Oh, she can he can say that. He can say Sarah Marie consistent is your husband is his husband here. She can say that. The sister can say I said Mr. Brother, can you speak to your wife? That is permissible. But if she's you know, a senior

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that is not allowed the seducer voice and tone that is not allowed.

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An interview sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called among young men Lima Lima Bay in effect k he was a Amanullah Hola, Jana, he said who can soever who can give me a guaranteed to control his tongue or her tongue and to control their private part or what is between their thighs. I guarantee them gin and nav another Hardee's in the VSL Allahu alayhi wa sallam said that similar things if this is not working brothers and sisters the honey the Navy is a little long while he was selling is very well known to everyone howdy above the ramen. Truth About the Allahu anhu Kalia Masha Shabaab minister Kwame Nkrumah at affiliate so what he said oh young people who soever is capable of getting married,

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let him get married. If he

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cannot get married, then. Not them fast, mid band. You know, once,

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honey chef, I know my time is up.

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You know that I want to get married, but I can't afford to get married. Nobody wants to let me marry their daughters because I'm broke. I said, Okay, then the messenger of a loss in the long run he was setting them said, If you cannot get married, then fast. He said, Sure. What are you talking about?

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When I'm fasting? If I look to my right, there's undress women. If I look to my left, there are women that wearing revealing clothes. If I look ahead of me, the bosses and everything they are they carry a woman that is almost undress. He said even when you go and this is what they do in Canada, when I look down in the marketplace, there are pictures of women that, you know, advertising bikinis and things like that man, Kanagawa, Monica,

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how do you want me to talk? How do you want me to walk?

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So this society, even that is difficult. So I'm saying once again, you know, we are aching, it is very painful. And at the same time, it is our responsibility to maintain our chastity and our honor and the honor of our sisters. Please, please, make marriage easy. And the massages and the community and the Muslim organization should try to facilitate a whole matters mono stop for a little