Said Rageah – How to Raise Happy Children

Said Rageah
AI: Summary © The importance of encouraging salon employees to start at age seven and encourage them to stay at that age for the age of seven is emphasized. The success of their church and the importance of parent rewards are also highlighted. The speaker emphasizes the need to reward children for their actions and encourage parents to make them rewarding. The speaker also discusses the struggles of children with black culture and how parents and children can connect with someone.
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Does it mean we can only start a salon at the age of seven? No. It means you start encouraging them, but by the time they reach seven, you become very serious with your orders and you say boy, we have to pray order them. Boy Next morning I'm still asleep. My alarm is still off on someone who's waking up.

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Baba let's go Where are we going to most I mean, I missed it. Let's go to the Mr.

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smilla rahmanir rahim

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in Alhamdulillah

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know the villa Himanshu Leon fusina. Woman say Tia Marina

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Maria de la who for one more woman Yoda Lin Fantasia de la jolla. murshida

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Why should you Allah either her in La la de la sharika

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wash shawanna Mohammed Abu hora solo

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Johan larina, Armando choco la haka. tokachi waratah. Mouton. illa Anta Muslim moon

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yohanna su Takara Baku, Lady Hanako communists in wahida wahala caminhar Xiao Jia. Min humare. JOHN and Catherine one Isa,

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what Taka la la de de Luna de Waal or ham in aloha can Ali Kumara Teva.

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Yeah, you have larina Armando choco la wakulla Ponce de la cama Morocco, where Yaki la cama de novo

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Rasulullah who for Cody further falls on Halima

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I'm about Salam Alikum rahmatullah wa barakato.

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You may be you may be wondering who is this person with the nice outfit?

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I'm a black version of Mufti mink.

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This is who I am.

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See, last night, I got jealous of everybody. Because every one of them had a nice fish. They had a nice otter and they came to the stage I was the only one who did not have this one.

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So today I said forget about these guys. I'm getting my own. So when Shannon law somebody donated they said hamdulillah Just kidding.

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Now as Mashallah Tabata Kala.

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Have you heard the recitation of Shahada?

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If you like to say Allahu Akbar.

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See, the brother He said,

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Who wants to listen to certain rocks? I think I was the only one who raised his hand.

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They said who wants to listen, so tell?

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I think me and other Somalis.

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And then he said who wants to listen to pseudo tereus in all the Indians and Pakistanis, Mashallah.

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By default, we lost

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Indian community and Pakistani community you have this connection with surah t as in we all love all 114 soldiers, but you guys have this connection with sudo trc.

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was what was the recitation beautiful

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Subhana Allah.

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See, if any young man wants to get married.

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If you want a wife, all you need to do is get these CD from Shahada

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God and rent a nice car

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and then dress like him

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and blast that Mashallah CD and open the doors. Just make just make sure you park your car on the sister side.

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And you will see all the sisters are running tomato cola. And you will be standing there saying only the only four sisters only four sisters and some sister policy Amma she are taking me to nine is permissible. You know she had they can have nine wives you know that?

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That could happen.

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My talk today is to be very short insha Allah

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and I want to talk about

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how to raise happy children.

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And I want to say first of all,

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as we know Allah subhanho wa Taala gave us these children to us. And they are pure. They're not corrupted by anybody. When Allah gave us this gift, they are ours to maintain to mine them to me

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Make sure that we raise them according to the Dean of the law.

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And then we as parents, we shave them.

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Some of them are righteous, or for Nicky tabula. Some of them are diaries. Some of them are.

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Some of them are thieves. Some of them are liars. But it all mostly comes back to the upbringing of the of the parents because an abuse of the law while he was suddenly he said, for

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their parents will either make them hit you yahudi nasrani. Ahmed, you see.

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So when you get that when you got the gift, they were pure.

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So I want to go over a few steps how to raise children,

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from the blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala is the children are the nim, and we will order by Allah subhanho wa Taala. To raise them well raise them in Nevada.

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Allah said in the Quran, Allah kabhi Salatu was Salam ala Alinea.

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See what did he say? The first thing that you need to make sure that these children understand that you make this make sure they understand the importance of Salah what a Chanukah. bisola Order your family order your children to perform Salah. But Allah did not stop there. But he said was stop and have patient in that have sovereign in that. Why? Because when you order your child to pray together for Salah to failure, most of the children what do they do? They go back to sleep. You wake them up before you even brush your teeth before you even start using the washroom before even Mr. myko and before we even get ready and he says some gear for failure we go into the machine and you go into

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the bathroom and you do what you need to do. And then you come back What is he doing?

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losers still snoring

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and you wake him up?

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Then you try that four or five times I forget this is useless. But alas no no was started I have some I

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have seven. That's how you shave his personality.

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That's how you shave them becoming better Muslims better meaning better, for better that is that's how the stars does whenever you solve the law while he was suddenly said at the age of seven, all of them to perform the Salah at the age of 10 be serious with them.

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Does it mean we can only start a salon at the age of seven? No, it means you start encouraging them. But by the time they reach seven, you become very serious with your orders and you say boy, we have to pre order them

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by the age of 10

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it becomes crucial

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if they don't pray, there's a consequences if they don't perform the Salah at that age, there are there are consequences. And Allah subhanho wa Taala said to you and you and me

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on full circle

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protect yourself and your children and the first one to protect after yourself are your children and you found your wife

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so how can we make these children you know love the dean over law, how can we make them happy? How can we make them you know, let us do the following number one.

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Make Islam rewarding

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punishing source.

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When your child goes to Salatin

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what do you do?

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What do you do use Okay, get ready for school. Okay, how are we ready, but that is not the right approach.

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He just went with you to Salatin and he thinks he accomplished something Mashallah Baraka

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what do you do you reward them for every federal for every fetch. See, this is what I tried in Canada. There's a coffee shop called Tim Hortons. Anyone is familiar with that.

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Tim Hortons is the best coffee in the world.

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The best coffee and they have the best doughnuts in the world. And they are every single corners. We have more Tim Hortons than massage. I guarantee you that.

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So I say to myself, let us get up for free just go to the masjid. And you know, they drag their feet no matter how I praise them in the morning. They would not you know, they wouldn't care that much. Okay, we pray let's get ready. But then I said to my little ones, I said

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If we pray for you, and you do your part of the Quran after that, we're going to start by Tim Hortons.

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Boy Next morning. I'm still asleep. My alarm is still off on someone who's waking up.

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Baba, let's go. Where are we going to most I mean, I missed it. Let's go to the master.

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Now they want to wake me up for 5g because they are getting rewarded for what they did about itself.

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They're getting rewarded for that.

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There was a teacher in our ministries, Michelle Eisner, she sent the whole lot

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and the kids they come and they go, they come and they go, and you see these kids you know, dragging their feet in the in coming to the masjid. They don't want to read the Koran, but they had to do it because their parents pushed them and then they leave running coming to the message dragging their feet they running like the the prey, they are prisoners being released from prison. And they don't look back sometimes you see them carrying their jacket on their shoulders, one shoe Mashallah and is running out of the mercy with no shoes.

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I said, Okay, can we do something better? He said, What can we do? He said, Why don't we do this? Every time that someone mama is one Jews, let us have a party in the

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Halloween party. Let them jam Mashallah. Have fun. So one of them finished Jerusalem, and he does pizza party.

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And Tim Hortons tomorrow the Alon

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and you can see how eager these children's

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you should see how eager they are

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today, finishing the Quran, or Mashallah, when are you going to finish it? or next week? I'm coming I'm coming. Now for the sake of Allah for the pizza, of course. But it's acceptable.

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it's acceptable and it became a challenge. It became competition and the mothers Mashallah they getting excited. Why now the children are excited to come to the Quran, they excited to eat pizza, they excited to have fun at the mercy so first thing that we need to do is make sure children love Islam.

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Love Islam reward the making it a rewarding methods.

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Second thing that you do

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tell them about the stories of the Sahaba sera see 70% of the Quran is about cosas stories how many times sort of the city Moosa and how many times Allah repeated in the Quran once, twice, 50 times 100 times more than that.

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Why? Because through stories, we learn and they learn and they enjoy you should have you should see my kids Mashallah avalere case again, I have six of them last time I count there were six Alon knows what happened since there were six. So let me tell you this.

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The first hobby I teach my I teach my children is Who do you think is?

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Take a guest first habit that I teach

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Mousavi No,

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no, no. Bella because I'm black.

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no discrimination.

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I'm sure all the Indians they teach about salmaan fallacy first, which is Tony admitted.

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I teach him about Boolean. No, because he's black. And I'm serious. I teach him about black. Why? Because in his living environment, the color of skin of his, you know, you know, resembles the color scheme of Milan. They struggle is very similar. You know, by the way he is he's not as dark as me. But by the way that catches sight his story. He wants to be black so bad. Have you ever seen a kid who wants to be black?

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My kid?

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One day, I'm driving and I see him. He's taking his little arm

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outside the window and I'm driving. And I say listen, what are you doing? He say, I want to be like your daddy. And I say what am I you say you're black and I want to be black. Now he's sick two hands outside.

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Why we learn because he can relate.

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And out of the Sahaba physical, the one that was tortured most was VLAN.

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And in VLAN, he learns, you know how to have his personality, his own personality, you know, and I tell him, you know how there was a huge rock, huge rock on his chest. And he's pushing him. He says he had done, you know, praise huben praise my Lord. And I will leave the rock on and from your chest and be daddy saying I had an ad. And he looked at me say daddy was the fake rock or the real rock. I said no, he was a real rock. And he said he didn't

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You know, he didn't give him and What was he saying? I don't know. What does it mean? I say there's only one Lord. There's only one Lord, and SubhanAllah. Then I play wrestling with that boy. So I put him down, and I put my weight on him.

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And he says, I hadn't I had a husband, and he tried to lift me up and throw me

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as a boy, give them, boy give him and he said, Bill has never gave up

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and throws me off. And I jumped off the bed. He says, Yeah,

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they happen.

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And the most happiest, happiest moment, is when his learning but he's also enjoying this is enjoying this. And that's how we teach our child.

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Make brings tours of the Sahaba. Bring Abu Bakar da da da de la. Tell them the stories of all these people who struggle for the sake of Allah struggle for the sake of Allah. My kids, same Karelia scene.

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I said, he said, come to the park and his mother's mad at him. And he said, What did he do? He said he started fighting with kids at the park.

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And I said, Baba, why did you do that? He said because he pushed me. I said, Okay, you move on. He said, No, I'm a Muslim, Muslim. Don't give up. I said, What did I raise a little terrorists?

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So okay, don't do this. You know, just if they push you tell their mothers tell you? And I say no, no.

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I said, No. He said, I'm not gonna tell mommy. And I was like in LA, we're in la hora de

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la, you don't know how much lessons they learn, just by teaching them through that, or the young, the Sahaba de la. The other thing is,

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number three, as a parent,

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the reality you are the ultimate Roman for your child. You know that.

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You are the ultimate role model. Your child.

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He sees you the best father ever.

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He sees you the best mother ever. They don't know anyone who's better than you? Well, like my little boy McCann he was when he was three years old. You know, he's three years old. And I gave him I still remember three. Now. He's 19. Imagine 19 I'm an old man. You know, he's 19 years old. And I remember three years old, I gave him I gave and say sit down before the hopper Sit down. And he was listening to me like this. And after I finished the haka, he came before I get to the mirror, and he said, Daddy, that was the best one ever.

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Well, I don't think he understood anything.

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But because he saw his father on the podium, you know, we're a mama given. And he thought I am the best man ever, ever.

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And that's why even when I tell them stories, I was telling Hamza bin Abdullah McCauley.

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And my little daughter, Timmy, I still remember. And she I said Hamza was the most powerful Sahabi. You know, he will grab someone like this and throw it like that. And she said, he were more stronger than you.

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I said, I don't know. You know?

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No, you know, I really don't know. But I'm assuming but I didn't want to say, you know, and I don't want to look bad. I see. I think maybe, but I don't know. I had to stay cool in my children's, you know?

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what I'm saying? They see you. So if they see you, praying to Yama lane every night, or going to the masjid when it's raining, snowing, shine or sunny. They don't care. They see you doing something good. They want to do it.

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They see you, when they you go into salon when it fits you when they you don't go, when do you resort to the

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cap or the days they don't. So they will also say fine.

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They see you going to work every day whether you're sick, whether it's raining, whether it's you know, it's snowing, you go to work every single day. So they know work is important.

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But you don't go to the message most of the time. So there is okay my father goes on and off. So it must be that in must not must not be that important.

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Every little thing.

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Again, I tell you one of the most I still remember my little boys, forgive me because I don't want to. I know you want to hear this and if you can hear from all the shivaram

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telling you for what worked for me, and how it really changed my own perception of children.

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My little boy and I told this story many times, again earlier since

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he was a thing to three years old. And I walked into the house because I had to travel to another city. I had to go. And when I went inside, I was you know, taking things in and out, and I walked into the washroom to grab something. And my little boy, he was always the moment that I walked into the house, you know, he was shadowing me. If I go to the living room, he is right behind me. If I go to the, you know, dining room, he's right there. If I go to the bedroom is out. If I go inside the bathroom, and I'm using the bathroom, he will do it outside the bathroom until I come out. He will not move.

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And I taught him the drama of entering the washroom.

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I still remember. So I'm traveling, and I grabbed something from the washroom I came out. And I saw him a change child completely changed child.

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I said it was true. He said, How did you do it? I say one, how can you do it? And say, Well, how can you do that? There are I said what? He said you have entering the washroom?

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See, I just walked in for him when he's going to the washroom, he has to say.

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And he's jumping up and down out of the habit. And then he jumps because he struggled saying this, but me so in an art

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and say, how did you do it? How did you say that? Quick.

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And I realize he was just not shadowing me, for the love that He has for his father that he had for me. But he's also screening me is just like x ray. He's observing everything that I do. And he just caught that I walked into the washroom without paying attention and seeing the dryer.

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So the best dairy, the best role model, the best example to follow is you

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is you. So make sure you don't take that light.

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Make sure you don't do that. If a mother if a sister, for example, as soon as the husband comes home, if she's coming and yelling at him, where is the milk? Where is this? How can you answer your phone? How can you guess what she's gonna do where she grew up?

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What she's gonna do is she's gonna treat her husband future husband, exactly the same way that you treated her farm

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exactly the same way.

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Nothing would change. And if you as a husband, if you don't take care of your wife, when you come home, you know, how are you loving? How are you honey, or whatever named? Are you Canadian, whatever name that you use. If they see that, then the board will say, Well, my father, every time he comes home, he used to bring flowers for my mother, every time he comes home, he will do this. Every time he comes home, he will kiss my mother's forehead every time and they will learn like that. And it will be long lasting lessons for them, even in the future. But if you come and see where is the food, where is the berries, where is the banana?

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Exactly the same thing.

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So how to raise happy children. Just make sure you pay attention to them.

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One of the things that you need to do the last things is shall I'm running out of time. But the last thing that you need to do, the last thing you need to do always teach your children to be connected to Allah.

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Always, you know, you take them to the park, you say you know what, without Allah, we wouldn't be able to enjoy this beautiful facility. Without Allah, the weather would have been differently. Without Allah you wouldn't be here because you couldn't be sick without Allah and make sure that they connected to Allah in all levels. When they playing, remind them of a law when they eating remind them of a law when they not sick, remind them of a law when in every situation make sure you remind them of a law

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they will take the name of the law for granted.

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They will take the name of a lot for grant

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and then they will not appreciate what you have what they have. I want to stop here conclude. If you enjoy the talk and you like the talk and if you thought it was beneficial. My name is sorry.

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If it was bad, my name is Mufti mink salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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