How to Make Your Parents Happy

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And he will be afraid to take a bite from that plate for the fear that his mother who was eating with him would like the same bite, and he were weighed, putting his hand on the plate, just to pretend that he's eating until she's done with it.

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And they used to say what is wrong with Why don't you eat? He said I'm afraid.

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Yeah, Johan Latina Amano talkin LA.

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de la cama Morocco, la cama de novo con woman you have water surah four fosun alima

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I'm about a de la Alamo and Hayden khademi kerama la heydon howdy howdy Mohammed and some of the Bhagwan he will seldom wish

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to how we put that in Baytown couldn't be that in Bora Bora that's in

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the title that I was given to speak about his happy parents.

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And I want to start with this story. I know most of you expecting that I will say wakaba buka. Allah Azza

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wa de de Santa Ana similar ayat, which I should. But I just want to start with this story.

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the wealthiest men that I ever met, and I'm talking about a regular person, not a government, connected person.

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I'm not talking about someone who inherit wealth just because he's a son of soul, one soul.

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But I'm talking about a regular person who had nothing.

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Yet he is the most the wealthiest person I've ever met a Muslim.

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And the unique thing about this man

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was he was there before me for selection.

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He was there before me and anyone else for the young lady, especially the last 10 days of Milan.

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He is there for every hedge every year, he will perform four to six times of ombre, and sometimes he will go wrong, right every single month.

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He's a man who devoted himself on the whole 30 days of Ramadan, that he will spend the whole month in the hollow machete.

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And I have seen with my own eyes.

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I have seen this man's business I went to one of his factory.

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And I have seen trucks, not a small, you know, pickup truck. But you know, big trucks from one end of the street to another lining up

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to low flour, rice, oil, food for the needy. And I said how'd you what do you do? What are you doing? Are you selling to different country? He say no. I devoted that our donate this number of trucks every month, every day in the month of Ramadan.

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So I said, Tell me about your stock. How do you solve it?

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He said I had no education.

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No degrees, no PhD. He did not graduated from stomach University. He did not do any of that. He said I had nothing. I used to work as a servant in the houses, washing their dishes, you know cleaning the house for them.

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And he said when I had enough Well, when I got enough money for hedge for three people, I quit my job.

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And I took my father and my mother to hedge. You say Allah knows, I have nothing else. So I said to my mother, and to my father, this is all I have. And I want my beginning to be with you performing hajj. So the both parents

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raised their hand in our phone.

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And they said yeah, Allah bless our son.

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Yeah, Allah gave him the hail of this dunya and he asked,

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he says since that day,

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since that day, wealth was coming to him from every part of the world. People will come with him with melt wealth. I say why don't you invest his money for us? Because whatever you touch

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takes off.

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So I said sure. What do you think?

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is the successor of your that is the secret of your success. He said my parents

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and today I want to tell you about happy parents.

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And the blessings that you can get the ILA if you only managed to make your parents happy. I'm not equipped to give hope or lecture was authorized to distract him from me. But she moved the Mufti Mashallah. And chef, I say the army, they look good with otter, I look distracted with patera. So, stay shala stay with me.

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See Allah subhanho wa Taala. Connected evanka is act of worship

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and being kind to the parents.

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And as Allah said, What about a book Allah your Lord decree? Allah? Buddha Illa Yeah, that you shall not worship anyone other than he, and be kind to your parents.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned in Surah number, in in different chapters of the Quran, that the MDR they used to make dua for the neerim that Allah bless them, and their parents, and they used to make dinner for themselves and their parents and their children.

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So I want to give you five things and inshallah with these five things, you will be successful being with your parents, first of all,

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don't you ever

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put anyone before your parents?

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Don't you ever put anyone before your parents?

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Not your wife, not your children, not your friends.

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Because the Navy is a long ride, he will send them in so he wasn't he mentioned the three men who were captured in the cave.

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And one of them said, Yeah, Allah, Allah, say three of them were all stuck in the little cave. They can't get out. They can't do anything. unless Allah subhanho wa Taala shows them His mercy. So they say why don't we make dua and ask Allah to release us from here through our good deeds. One of them said, Yeah, Allah.

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I had two parents, my father and my mother.

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And my son, my culture was to go milk the camel or milk or the animal that goes with that he had, and then do not give the milk to anyone before them. But one day he said, it took a long for me to return home.

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So I came back and I have the milk with me. But my parents slept.

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And I hated to give the milk to them and be to my children before them. What Annapurna yet avallone saved my children are grabbing my feet out of hunger, and I refuse to give the milk to them before my parents and I were hated to wake them up from their sleep.

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And he said they when they woke up, I gave them that. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala released them from

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the cave.

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Remember, Hadith?

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Ordinary sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when a young man came to the Messenger of Allah,

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and he says, Your rasulillah I worked hard for my wealth. Yara Salalah. I did so much for myself. Like he's saying, I built my business, I maintained my wealth, I kept it I let it grow. And all of a sudden my father was part of it.

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And then the Messenger of Allah, he looked at this young man who's so eager for a solar light to support him. And he said, You and your wealth belongs to your father.

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So the first thing that you do is, don't put anyone before your parents. Always make sure that first

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second thing that you do.

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Second thing that you do, don't you ever disobey them?

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If they ask you for something, if they ask you to do a certain thing that is not involved with sin,

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not informed with Masia then you cannot disobey them

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and never use the law. Ronnie, he was sending them and I'm sorry, he's a Muslim is an

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afterlife and the Allahu anhu came to the Messenger of Allah. I'm sorry, I came to the Messenger of Allah Yasser Allah. I asked my son to divorce his wife, but he was

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Use.

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So the messenger overlock calls Abdullah, he says, Why don't you divorce your wife for your father? He said, jasola law. I love my wife. Why would I divorce her on an ugly aback, listen to your father, and divorce.

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Which one of us I asked you by Allah, which one of you which one of us, all of us would have a wife that he loves her, not the one that he wants to get rid of her No, a wife that he loves her, a wife that he cares about her, a wife that he's actually so beautiful. And then your father comes? And he says, I don't want her divorce it and then you say, Samir, now what? Are we here and we are being when you divorce your wife, we don't do that.

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We don't do that. Especially. It's this says most if the father is righteous,

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because if the father is not righteous, then you don't have to listen to him across the handle because a young man came to me. And he said, yeah, yeah, yeah, Mm hmm. My father wants me to divorce my wife, you What should I do? And he's asked about the condition of his father. And then the Imam said, Don't divorce your wife.

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Then the young man said, What about Abdullah in Oman?

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He said, Well, when your father becomes electromotor, then you divorce your wife.

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If the father is not righteous, they won't would you divorce your wife?

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We had a case in Canada in the city of Toronto,

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in the city of Toronto.

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Do we have Somalis here if I get in trouble?

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We have Somalis here.

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Only a few Somalis? Mashallah,

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I'll tell you this, but don't kill me after I leave the podium.

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There was this father who came to the sun and we had to deal with the situation. And he said above in order for dad, a son, I wanted to divorce your wife.

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I wanted to divorce your wife.

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And he said, Why? He said because of these reasons.

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So they came to us because I don't think the son was convinced.

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And then he said, Let's go to the email. We came, they came to me and then we got involved with this story. And I said, Okay, why do you want to divorce her? She's a good Muslim. Yes. Does she pray? Yes. Is she Mashallah? She observes Egypt? Yes, she is a righteous sister. Yes.

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And as this Why do you want her to divorce?

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She said she is from a different race.

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She's from different race, or Abuja, he's a different race.

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That is not a good reason to listen to your father.

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That is not a good reason for you to divorce your wife, because she is from a different race from different country from different country No, but if he tells you to do something that is good, then you have no choice but to listen to your parents, because the Navy or some of the law, Juana usnm. Told us in my part of him, we listen to somebody when they telling us to do good if they telling you to do bad or to disobey a law or to disrespect the Dean of a law you cannot listen to your parents. If your parents is telling you my daughter today Mashallah. Tabata Kala so on. So is getting married, your cousin is getting married, your sister's getting married? Your brother's getting

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married? Take off the hijab only for one night although Mashallah put makeup just little makeup. You want to keep your Yep, that's fine, but just put makeup is a night of joy. Everybody's gonna be there just one night.

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You say to that person? No.

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in the law, I fear Allah subhanho wa Taala I don't care whether you're my father, whether you're my mother, whether you're my chef, whether you're my teacher, because that is not what a lot of how know what the other wants you to do. Because in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala Anna already said about the parents. If they asked you to do good follow them in the interpretation of the ayah. If they asked you to do bad then do not listen to them on a loss and end up on we're in Johanna Corolla and to Sheree cabbie malice Ella cabbie here in federal Oklahoma was Macedonia ma over what time in Sevilla manana but

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Allah said in the Koran we're in Jaya Haddock. If they strive if they struggle if they do their best to make you disbeliever to make your character to disobey a lot in any different level, then do not obey them yet

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was so hyped up

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dounia might be kind to them in this dunya because in Africa, we gotta go different than separate ways, but in this dunya Be kind to them.

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So in this dunya you cannot disobey them as long the asking you to do righteous things.

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Number three,

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number three,

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give sadaqa

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and perform righteous deeds.

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On behalf of your parents

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give sadaqa go to a machine that is being built. Go to this Masha Allah organization that's collecting funds for Yemen collecting funds for Syrians collecting funds for others, and say this donation is on behalf of my father

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is on behalf of my mother,

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give Southern on their behalf.

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Go to Ramallah.

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If your parents are still here, and they are incapable to go with you for that year, for whatever reason, go for aamra perform a role model on their behalf and say yeah, Allah, this is for my mother and this is for my father.

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That's how you be kind to your parents.

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That's how you do go and find one of these organization as they say, and sponsor a team who's trying to memorize or on your team who's trying to memorize or and I say y'all Allah, this is the sponsorship of that your team never for me, but for my father and for my mother and that child you made sure that child mama is spot on because when he mama is on, they will be rewarded for everything and you also will be rewarded as well.

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Give Southern do righteous deeds do

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Now which one of us today when we woke up? Which one of you today when you woke up? said yeah, Allah, whether they're alive or not have mercy on my parents, whether your parents are light wildlife or not, which one of us said yeah, Allah forgive their sins. Yeah, Allah, you know, be kind to them. Yeah, Allah give them long righteous life. Yeah, Allah makes them from the companions, what a pseudo life in general.

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Because I never use a lot of money, he was seldom said in a matter of them in Katayama, who in their mentality, when son of Adam dies, his deeds will come to an end, except of three, and one of them when you leave a righteous child who will make up for you.

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Who will be making righteous wrath for you a lot for giving him a lot of forgiveness, forgive her and so on. But now there is some Hannah law. See, there's also different between the older generation and the younger generation, younger generation Nowadays, most of them, they don't appreciate their parents, let alone making up for them. See the older generation some hands on law, and I noticed this across the country, whatever country that I go, it is exactly the same thing. You will find an old man saying, I hardly knew my father. I hardly knew my father. And He will say to you, I don't remember how my father looked like. There was no pictures.

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He was somewhere in different parts of the world or he was busy with his tiara, but yet the person who had that minimum connection with his parents, you see him making the app for them.

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You see him making, you know giving sadaqa on their behalf. You see him you know always in the studio the long muffiny while he was always in the suit, but you will find a lot of young people, millenniums a lot of young people Subhanallah their fathers are with them their mothers are with them like a hawk. You know they take them to games football games or basketball games or whatever games they take him to the park and play with them. They wrestle with them. They buy them ice cream they take in you know with this place and that place they do so many things for them yet.

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Each one of them is saying Nuff said Nuff said like is only your

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Nazi Nazi Nazi Me, me, me me.

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And I don't know a strong maybe sometimes I think maybe nowadays we've given too much of us and they had enough with us.

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I am one of the models, not a models but I'm an example.

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I cannot remember my father in whole entire life. I will say more than three incidents.

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Three incidents

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but today if

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Let me give up your life or your father, I would know that he took me to a basketball game. Not that he did this and that for me, not that he bought me a PlayStation no games, no.

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For the fact that he is my father, she is my mum.

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So we need to do as, as young people, especially the young people, millennials, you need to be connected with your foot parents by making them. The other four point that I was saying to you, my dear brothers before I run out of time, and sisters, is

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the fourth point

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concerning

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your parents

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is to an I don't think is a redundant, but it's trying to please your parents, not to listen not to obey not to dis disobey, try to please them as much as you can.

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to please

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make sure every single day you try to achieve that, please, your parents has an old boss, sorry, he will come after him a whole lot and eat on a plate. And he will be afraid to take a bite from that plate for the fear that his mother who was eating with him will like the same bite. And he were weighed, putting his hand on the plate, just to pretend that he's eating until she's done with it.

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And they used to say what is wrong with you? Why don't you eat, he said I'm afraid. I took something that she wanted and that will displace,

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has hassanal basri never used to walk under over a roof that his mother is under. Never. He used to say I can never walk over my mother.

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I can

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see now this kids, you rolled your eyes on your parents, you know, you said you know, whatever, you walk away from your parents.

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But hustle and bustle I would not do to walk on us on a on a ground that I know my mother's underneath that out of respect.

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Out of respect.

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When his mother used to call him, he used to turn red like the rest of the setup. They used to turn red. And they said what is wrong is just your mother. He said Do you know how much Allah would be unhappy if I displeased her?

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on one line?

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Below is the mobile light. I know people who took their parents

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to what we call seniors homes,

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seniors homes.

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And they don't call them they don't visit them. They don't ask of them.

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Rather, they only call them twice or see them twice.

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Either filter and either

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either filter.

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And he didn't

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know how do you think? How do you think

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a lot when we were those people.

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When I was in high school,

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we had this old man

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who got injured in the civil wars back home Somalia.

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And this old man he had a broken arm.

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And he had sons and daughters with him.

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And then years later, 15 years later, I learned that the man had you know, had a heart attack somehow. And he lost sense of a lot of things. And he also lost the ability to speak and the ability to take care of himself. And I said Where is he? They say he's in the city of Seoul and so his children they throw him in one of those seniors homes.

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And I decided to go with a friends of mine and we drove there.

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And I can still I can never forget this. I saw this old man sitting on a wheelchair. And a young and another lady sitting as one of the nurses sitting in front of him, feeding him baby food, children's food feeding him

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but she cannot see us.

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And when he saw us, you know he stopped crying. But he was crying with a loud voice but he was just crying tears were coming and she could not understand why is she crying

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Because he saw us, and she said, Are you okay? Mama? Are you okay?

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Um, but he cannot talk. But he's looking over her shoulder.

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And then she took a tissue. And she started waving the food because his mouth was also would not close. Because when he saw us and the food was dripping from his sides, and the tears were coming from his eyes, or she's tiny sound wiping this.

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And then she said, Oh, my God, are you okay? And then all of a sudden, she realized he's looking at something else. And she said, Oh, I thought something happened to him. He's just happy. Perhaps he's happy to see you. So I said, When was the last time his children came to visit him? She said, since they dropped him here. We haven't seen much of them.

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Do you think Allah will be pleased with those children?

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Do you think Allah will be pleased with you if you do that?

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If you do that,

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to them, What do your parents now ally?

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I will conclude with the last point.

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And I will say to my dear brothers and sisters,

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the last point is this.

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Be kind,

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be kind to the relatives, and the friends of your late parents.

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Be kind to them. Some of you, some of us we think, you know, he used to be my father's friend. He is my father's cousin. He's my father's you know, neighbor, but know that son, the bill.

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righteousness is for you to be kind to the people whom your father used to love him, used to respect them.

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of the law, even more of the law who

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was riding a donkey, and he had his students with him. And they were walking next to him the law even normal. And above the law heavy Normally he saw this Arabi a bedroom from the desert who barely has anything. And when this RV came up the law even though he got out of the donkey, he welcome the man. He was so kind to him. And he said, you know, what can I do for you for color? You know, Mr. manleigh, hurry, I don't need anything. So even though Omar, he said, Take my donkey for your journey, so he took the donkey. And then he said, Take my over, you know, the bishop like the overcoming of my throat, and he gave it to him, and he say, Take this money, and he took the money.

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And then he undid his turban. And he said, Take my turban as well imagine at that time one of the Sahaba one of the as having to be some of the long run he was sitting him walking

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with no turban. That's the last thing.

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So the men left.

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They still don't have the law even though almost era hamaca for a law like a

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mercy on you. He's just Arabi, one little thing would have been sufficient for him. Guess what he said?

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In the other herder. He said, the father of this was a good father of my good friend of my father.

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Not him.

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Not this man. He say his father was a good friend of my father. And I will honor this son because of his father, who had a relationship with my father.

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Now alive.

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Most of you young people, you don't even know the Friends of your fathers. You don't know the Friends of your parents. Boys. You don't know who's the best friend of your Who is your father's best friend, sisters, young ladies you don't know most of you don't. I shouldn't say all of you. Most of you who don't know who are the best friends of your parents who are the closest people to your parents.

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So if you want to make them happy,

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if you want to make them happy, then this is what do you need to do be it relies upon or wattana I'm running out of time on a man Allah subhanho wa Taala we were you all which is a common law as was said on Monday and what I'm about to live about account.